philotfunsworth Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
609	Don't know if this is the right place... but as a woman, this worked incredibly well		philotfunsworth	/r/seduction	13/05/12 06:06 AM

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1	As a girl, how do I meet guys? As a woman, I tend to go out with one or two other girls and if we see any cute guys or guys who look interesting, we approach them. As long as you take the approach that you're simply going out for a fun night with your friends and aren't focused on "must meet man!" you'll end up having a great night, and come off as more relaxed and easy to talk to anyway. My best friend actually met her current boyfriend this way - we were out at our favorite bar and saw a couple of really well dressed, nice …	/r/seduction	15/02/13 03:52 AM
4	[FR] free dance lesson Physically respectful in the context of swing dancing means that you don't grab her ass, or grope her breasts, or try to grind your hard-on against her. That's great that you're able to do those things with women and you get a positive response, so clearly that works for you, but starting off as a general rule of thumb those are not really acceptable in the social dance scene (west coast swing- blues dancing is a whole other story).	/r/seduction	11/06/12 07:58 PM
7	[FR] free dance lesson Don't be creepy pretty much translates exactly to "be physically respectful." Which also translates to "don't be gropey."	/r/seduction	11/06/12 07:31 PM
10	[FR] free dance lesson I agree but would just add a tiny note of caution here- don't be creepy. Partner dancing is very physical (obviously) so the girl is automatically entrusting you to touch her without crossing any lines on the dance floor. I've been in a couple situations where my partner has made me really uncomfortable and been inappropriate because they were using the dance to get their grope on. But mostly, it's fun and yes, everyone is there to have a good time.	/r/seduction	11/06/12 03:40 PM
0	WHO has more interest? Interest Cycles... Ahhh okay. So I think there are different types of love, for (an obvious) example, you love your parents, and you love your SO, but in very different ways. I think what happens in relationships sometimes is that you can love someone, but perhaps that love is more platonic than romantic, thus the common phrase "I love you, but I'm not in love with you." I think a lot of times that "being in love" feeling is simply just the excitement of a new relationship, but that's just my personal opinion :)	/r/seduction	06/06/12 03:39 AM
0	WHO has more interest? Interest Cycles... I think you can be in love with someone who's not in love with you, certainly. Is that what you were asking?	/r/seduction	06/06/12 02:41 AM
3	WHO has more interest? Interest Cycles... Personally, there's definitely a sense of security in that thought process, but ultimately I'd rather be in an equal relationship. I've had some experience in relationships that are more one-sided in terms of love and affection, and it just never seems to work out.	/r/seduction	05/06/12 05:17 PM
8	WHO has more interest? Interest Cycles... As kind of a curious sidenote- as a girl/woman throughout my whole life, other women have always told me to look for and end up with a man who loves you more than you love him. Just thought I'd toss in a different perspective!	/r/seduction	05/06/12 03:20 PM
1	Don't know if this is the right place... but as a woman, this worked incredibly well Anyone telling you they're wearing $500 shoes is a tool. If you're wearing $500 shoes b/c you like them and they work for you, then that's great. Same applies to $30 shoes. If you look good and you're comfortable with your presentation, that's all that matters.	/r/seduction	15/05/12 03:38 PM
1	Don't know if this is the right place... but as a woman, this worked incredibly well He leaned in like he was sharing a secret with me	/r/seduction	15/05/12 12:50 AM
1	Don't know if this is the right place... but as a woman, this worked incredibly well I can only answer for myself (and some of my girlfriends with whom I've discussed this) and yes, yes we do. It's shallow, but if you're rocking a solid outfit and then finish it off with some nasty running sneakers or something... it's kind of a turn off.	/r/seduction	15/05/12 12:50 AM
1	Don't know if this is the right place... but as a woman, this worked incredibly well He didn't- which was a bit surprising, but doesn't change my view that it was a really enjoyable interaction. I'm generally happy to take interactions as they are- be it a really great conversation, or something that turns into more. So, no regrets on my part.	/r/seduction	14/05/12 12:29 AM
2	Don't know if this is the right place... but as a woman, this worked incredibly well Sure- I was sitting on a stool at the bar and he was standing up so he would make a comment or lean in to get a little conspiratorial and lightly touch my knee briefly. It wasn't accidental, nor was it creepy. He didn't linger with it there, but also made sure he touched me throughout the conversation.	/r/seduction	13/05/12 11:27 PM
2	Don't know if this is the right place... but as a woman, this worked incredibly well Totally understand this point of view. Mostly though, it wasn't what was said in the conversation (honestly I don't remember much of the specifics) but the way he held/presented himself. There was some light-hearted teasing on both our parts about attire (he was wearing a borrowed sweater, I was wearing weather-inappropriate clothes) and talk of our favorite parts of the city, what we did for a living, etc. The content of the conversation mattered a lot less than how he conducted himself within …	/r/seduction	13/05/12 07:03 PM
2	Don't know if this is the right place... but as a woman, this worked incredibly well Oh yeah, totally. Personal style is very subjective and I'm not going to pass judgement on that, I just mean gross dirty shoes with holes in them, soles missing, etc. I'm not a fan of the whole "I wear clothes until they're not fit for donation at Goodwill" look.	/r/seduction	13/05/12 05:50 PM
13	Don't know if this is the right place... but as a woman, this worked incredibly well Okay- super important here. Super attractive men may get the woman to come to them, but you need to have something to make them stay. Another interaction I had on cinco de mayo was with this crazy hot guy. Just gorgeous. But he was a complete idiot. So yes, I chatted and danced with him, but when it came down to it, I was way more excited and interested in the other guy I'd met (the one in the report) than this super hot guy who was so wildly uninteresting. Being super hot is awesome for eye-can…	/r/seduction	13/05/12 03:13 PM
10	Don't know if this is the right place... but as a woman, this worked incredibly well So yes- attraction is super important. But it's not necessarily based solely on physical appearance. Most guys can be relatively attractive if they present themselves well. I, for one, am generally attracted to guys in well-fitting clothes such as a nice pair of jeans, a decent shirt (can be button down, can be a simple white t-shirt, but not something old and nasty) and a good pair of shoes (read: NOT your busted up old running shoes). Attraction to a guy in a setting like a bar comes much more…	/r/seduction	13/05/12 03:05 PM
4	Don't know if this is the right place... but as a woman, this worked incredibly well Tbh, it would totally depend on how he approached me/my friends. First of all, if I'm with my friends, please don't approach just one of us. It's funny for those of us watching, but it makes the girl being approached feel pretty uncomfortable/awkward. Plus, you never know which personalities will click with you. I'm sure there are non-creepy ways of approaching girls at a bar on your own, and I'll definitely talk to someone until they do or say something that stops me from continuing that conver…	/r/seduction	13/05/12 02:41 PM
86	Don't know if this is the right place... but as a woman, this worked incredibly well I've had some fairly entertaining (good and bad) pick-ups... would that be something useful to post? Or no?	/r/seduction	13/05/12 02:02 PM
6	Don't know if this is the right place... but as a woman, this worked incredibly well Just a note- he wasn't actually a friend of my friend, he was friends with this girl we had been chatting with. So while he had someone to introduce him into the conversation, he was basically a stranger. But also to Tofu's point- he was there with a large group of people and clearly wasn't some random dude wandering into a bar to pick up girls.	/r/seduction	13/05/12 01:57 PM
9	Don't know if this is the right place... but as a woman, this worked incredibly well So it's funny to hear you guys say that it sounded so awkward, which it totally does when I just read what I wrote above. He did actually say that he was committed to hanging out with his friends that evening, and that he definitely wanted to hang out with me again. It didn't seem awkward or oddly worded at the time, however. The point is, though, that he was direct about his intentions, and kept it classy. Behindthehype is right- if we have a positive and genuine interaction with someone, we do…	/r/seduction	13/05/12 01:53 PM