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Depending on how the women were socialized and how much self-respect and how well they really know themselves, this is true.
/r/seduction18/11/25 12:26 PM
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I think... if over the course of the day, I made a positive impression on someone(s), lead/ followed/ cooperated as needed, and basically "did my job" - it was a good day and one to build on. 🙏🏽💗👍🏽
/r/ExRedPill25/05/25 02:01 AM
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The people who actually enjoy it are those who take any time of game (or competition) waaay too seriously... I like metrics and tracking progress, but bruh in my personal life?!? WTF... I kinda blame reality TV...
/r/ExRedPill17/05/25 11:50 PM
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Safety for healing, too 💗🙏🏽💗
/r/ExRedPill22/09/24 10:33 AM
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Maybe ask her what she loves about her BF, how they met, or great date spots she loves. It keeps the conversation going an focused on connection of one sort of another.
/r/seduction28/07/24 11:54 AM
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I thought any chemical or physical castration are considered as cruel and unusual punishment...
/r/MensRights29/04/24 12:19 AM
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Seems Shakira grew up with a strong sense of where her place is... "We complement each other, and that complement should not be lost. Just because a woman can do it all doesn't mean she should. Why not share the load with people who deserve to carry it, who have a duty to carry it as well?" 🤷🏾‍♂️ No surprise, I think
/r/MensRights01/04/24 11:11 PM
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Each of you have preferences. Maybe you each make a change to please to other and have real incentices / disincentives around it. Also, it seems to be worthwhile to find out why. Heard of a 3-5 Whys analysis? "The 5 Whys to Self Understanding - Practice digging a bit deeper." https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/fixing-families/201401/the-5-whys-self-understanding
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/24 02:22 AM
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Warmest wishes and blessings for your next chapter of growth 💗🙏🏽💗
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/23 05:43 PM
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Maybe this might've been the way to handle it? "Meaning? ...do you want me to need anything else?" <immediately begin walking away while listening for any response>
/r/seduction14/08/23 08:56 AM
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To me, women who 'uptalk' seem like they have a profound lack of conviction. I don't see myself trusting someone like that for a relationship... Seems like they'll fall for anything... I've never been very interested in a one night stand or even a vacation / summer fling.
/r/seduction14/06/23 11:39 PM
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This makes me wonder if legal agreements to not support raising a child are constitutionally lawful... If they agreed to it and had signed a legal document...and/or made a video recording stating as much...hhmmm... Also, it reminds me Americans as bargaining chips in the geopolitical poker game with Russia...
/r/MensRights25/11/22 01:46 PM
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Generally just being either dogmatic or too flexible - like the multiverse of feminism...
/r/MensRights21/11/22 08:46 PM
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Bad PR efforts 🤷🏾‍♂️ Particularly of what it is and isn't. What it is for vs against. Generally, you're liked more if you build people/communities up rather than tearing them down. It would help to have some origin story and a current lay off the land of various sub-groups and their self-interests and beliefs.
/r/MensRights21/11/22 05:59 PM
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But... why should only men have the money obligation?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 02:20 AM
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Why? For men going more to the right (in the US) I think it's relatively simple: 1) Insufficient examples left-leaning men with attractive lifestyles and 2) a constant critiquing of everyone on the left by everyone on the left (and right) making for something of a unattractive "crabs and a bucket" scene. Bottom line, what Bill Clinton said 20+yrs ago still holds - most people choose to support someone who appears strong but wrong than someone who is weak but right. Perception really hits the rep…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 12:35 PM
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It's more important for extroverts, that's about all I think of it. Also, sexiness comes in all shapes and sizes, thank goodness 😉
/r/ExRedPill15/07/22 09:47 PM
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Really great insights! I'm in my 40s now but when I was in my mid-20s and struggling in my dating life, I noticed the ladies I found a stronger connection with were in their 40s or 50s. It could also be the fact that day in a few demographics, I am a minority of minorities in the US so I kind of grew up fast b/c I had to do a lot on my own. Bottom line - I kind of prefer to date women in their 30s or women who are divorced because of their maturity and understanding that life isn't all a bunch o…
/r/ExRedPill14/07/22 11:35 AM
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Beat me to it. There's also https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/wiki/index/
/r/ExRedPill10/07/22 10:22 PM
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Probably. They probably end those relationships relatively quick, too. Maybe something like "you don't lose your girlfriend, you just lose your turn" 🤔🤷🏾‍♂️
/r/ExRedPill18/06/22 05:03 AM
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Generally the non-dominant ethnicity has difficulty getting into a committed relationship with someone of the dominant ethnicity. HOWEVER, it depends on your dating expectations. The more short-term your expectations, the easier it is to date in an area with a huge amount of ppl. Small towns and short term dating may go together but social awkwardness rides along, too.
/r/ExRedPill04/02/22 02:23 AM
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Good point on Nashville! It's basically become a tamer version of Vegas and the 2nd/3rd top destination for bachelorette parties. Be mindful that a LOT of people from the coasts have been moving there to retire and many women have moved there to get career experience in a smaller city with goals firmly fixed on moving to NYC or LA afterwards.
/r/seduction12/01/22 01:28 PM
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Yes... She's ready, you're ready. Give her a time and place. El fin.
/r/seduction25/11/21 02:51 PM
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Scams usually occur when talent cannot connect with either resources or opportunities. I see so much in common with developing nations and the direction the US is going...have been for a while... Nowhere near enough resources and opportunities are being made available to people with talent - thus scams are created to feed the belly and bank account. People all over the world are trading liberty and morality for prosperity...
/r/ExRedPill25/09/20 05:10 PM
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"Love is [just] a word, it's the connection that matters." If you want a fulfilling, trustworthy connection and can see past next week, dating/sex for fun may not be for you. 🤷🏾‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/20 12:49 AM
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Thanks for this post! Saved me a lot of time.
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/19 06:14 PM
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Wow, thanks for sharing. I hope it was healthy to get this off your chest. The more I think about it, Redpill seems to be about identifying potential conflict and being proactive to be the winner rather than realizing there is also a risk of mutually assured destruction if there is no mutual disarmament...
/r/ExRedPill11/10/19 11:39 AM
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Anyone taking over/under bets when it will be banned? I've not been a part of that sub for probably over a year. Like a lot of us on this sub, it seems TRP was clearly headed that direction. <shrug>
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/19 11:15 AM
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Disagree on responsibility if he signed it, HOWEVER he definitely was a victim of fraud. I mean, I wanted to support my single Mom friends out of the goodness of my heart, then why not, right? But yeah - fraud.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/19 06:10 PM
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Exactly. I'd like meaningful relationships, career, etc - I don't got time to waste.
/r/ExRedPill07/08/19 01:57 AM
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I date women who are okay in talking about it honestly and owning it. Then I ask them. ..that's about it
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/19 04:50 AM
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Anyone got some good "yo... You're way over-peacocked, man" stories? I tried to wear just enough to be a little flashy - a nice watch and a bit of my necklace peeking out. I've been thinking about a metal bracelet or fashion ring (maybe a school ring, but they seems bulky to me). Anyway - looking forward to some laughs and also what to avoid... Thanks and have a great weekend!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/19 02:52 AM
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Agreed!
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/19 03:41 AM
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This...is soo hilariously awesome! 😂🤣 I look forward to hearing more about Dylan and his take on things of consequence in the future.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/19 11:49 PM
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I think it would better at the end, actually. But would be helpful to understand the point.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/19 11:47 PM
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Fair. Thx. Edit: I am/was implying advice, but not seeking it.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/19 11:44 AM
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Really good discussion on a genuine issue many have. I totally resist "primal instincts" on physical urges... I'm sure it's a mix of nature and nurture. I guess, though, if I'm able to be more comfortable (skilled, even) with being physical, then the hesitation and concern will just melt away because I will know how to handle myself in the number of situations... Hhmmm...
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/19 06:38 AM
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of those who find themselves more naturally into the red pill life, I really do wonder if they have more Neanderthal DNA than the average population... 🤔🤔🤔
/r/ExRedPill06/07/19 03:15 PM
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Male here, never married. I've not noticed / sensed this while I had a steady relationship. I'd consider myself as having several high value aspects, but wouldn't consider myself an Alpha in all areas / situations.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/19 06:01 PM
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Agree with this. Small things you can do is to occasionally entertain the child in yourself in front of your bf - singing (including making up silly songs), when there's no music, hopping in puddles in the rain, flopping into the bed/couch... Having a little child-like fun may be great for both of you. :-)
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/19 11:28 AM
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Do you have / know any strong feminine leaders worth emulating in those situations? From past experience, the female leaders I've met and worked for in Texas (and other pioneer States) and the South are probably most worth considering taking cues from.
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/19 05:24 PM
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I'd examine why... Like, write down the reasons. There may be ways of getting those things where you live now. Or, frankly everything is up for negotiation. Maybe you live in the city and a small weekend getaway cottage out in the country. Or, you live in the city but only if certain factors of the dwelling, neighborhood, social communities are satisfied. I have lived for several years each in a variety of regions of the US and am richer for it in many ways.
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/19 04:27 PM
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Or "Seeking Masculine personality" up front. Frankly, your responses may go down but the quality of the responses you get will probably go up...
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/19 11:08 AM
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Hmmm... Yeah ok. So, he's basically pulling a bait'n'switch, or something like that. Maybe you can set an expectation upfront w/a bit of flirt - "You know...if you can hold your own if we talk about <insert topic you really care about here> then you might be seeing more of me... a couple hours later..." If he doesn't play ball, then just tell him he's just not very stimulating for you.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/19 04:50 AM
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I would simply consider it a mismatch of goals and expectations. If the guy is in it only to have you as another notch in their belt, that seems like quite a focused, but 1-dimentional attitude. If you're looking for more than 1-dimension, then he's not for you and you're not for him. Thoughts?
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/19 04:23 AM
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I've found many women who are well educated may be confident enough in their socioeconomic status that they are okay with some dumb hot guy they believe they can influence and somewhat control for their protection, pleasures, and social status among other women... Not really scientifically proven, but just an observation...
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/19 12:18 PM
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Sorry... Kinda new here - AF/BB??
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/19 12:15 PM
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Thinking a few ahead, I've resisted going all carnal w/several women for mainly 2 reasons 1) she wants me as a POC novelty notch in her belt and/or 2) if she's that easy...I don't care to risk getting VD. Bonus reason, may be the underlying reason, I don't want a woman just for their physical company and, frankly, I don't have enough "give a damn" to change/influence her to be more if she doesn't want that on her own.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/19 12:13 PM
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Aside from protecting himself, it also makes it at least a little bit more difficult for paparazzi and tabloid magazines to make a claim he is actively embracing some other female...
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/19 02:51 AM
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Other lucrative and less criminal opportunities? Also...low demand?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/19 11:30 PM
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Very, very interesting...
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/19 04:13 PM
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Deeply appreciate this post. Honest. Wish the stigma was not so fierce (mostly, in miny own mind). Dunno how to go about privately finding someone like yourself. Dark web?? Reputable strip club and have an earnest convo with a performer to find someone? I know there are sexologists out there, but what about..."intimacy coaches"?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/19 04:07 PM
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I think you'll need to "turn this car around and go home"!
/r/ExRedPill29/04/19 02:15 AM
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Initial response - They don't have to... Empathy would be a wise investment, though...
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/19 09:48 PM
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It mostly depends on the culture they live in and the risk-reward behaviors that seem to work in that culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/18 12:25 PM
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Don't be soo insecure, desperate, or gullible. Dating is a dance but it is also a negotiation...
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/18 01:07 PM
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This reminds me of a article on The Onion from several years ago about how a girls text response to a guy was going through a peer-review process prior to sending the response 😆🤣😂
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/18 03:10 AM
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Unlikely. Could be genetic - in that case, there's only tactics to pick up as new habits. Would probably be worth discussing with a psychologist. An entire social strategy shift, i.e. mind (and heart/emotional) shift, is highly unlikely... But habits can be changed and that may be enough... Note - tactics are not strategy and vice-versa...
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/18 12:01 PM
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Agreed... That is discussed in the episode, too... A lot of the infrastructure setup to ensure long-term success of a couple is now considered optional or has "degraded performance"...a lot of the needs now are resource - time, energy, wealth... 2 out of 3 ain't too bad, though, for most... Still, so much of it depends on your expectations...
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/18 03:16 AM
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I suggest listening to the theory posited of "Mt. Mazlow" about halfway in this insightful discussion / study...you don't build a house on shaky foundation, nor do you attempt to climb a mountain without enough preparation and/or support/resources... When Did Marriage Become So Hard? https://n.pr/2GZlAiS
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/18 02:58 AM
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The title indicates the idea of a "fulfilling relationship" but not necessarily a "fulfilling life" allow me a little room to ponder this from the perspective that I place a much higher value on the latter. Being assertive and self respecting is one thing, but being cocky and otherwise leading a life based on "fake it 'till you make it" lies to yourself and practically preying on insecure women is just too far bridge for me. Am I asking too much for a woman to be pretty secure with herself, firs…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/18 08:30 PM
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