pianist2020 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
399	Boring/completely ordinary men thinking they know more than you when you're an expert.	THE AUDACITY OF SCROTES	pianist2020	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/03/21 07:11 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
12	Having a baby via sperm donor Yup I totally agree. I hope that when I have a little more life experience I can foster teens. I don't love babies and feel a connection to teens.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/01/22 08:33 PM
50	Having a baby via sperm donor There is not a surplus of babies needing adoption anymore for a lot of reasons. Thankfully most newborns have parents and family who want to parent them. Foster care for older kids (and their trauma and possible special needs) is more needed but not right for everyone and not the same as parenting your own child from day one.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/01/22 04:01 PM
35	new to Reddit, and there needs to be more feminist subs, so what happens? I do remember that. I was on the fringes of radfem Tumblr in about 2016. I'll never forget the shit liberal fems said about us for having legit concern about how fluffy and weak liberal doctrine is and how it at best doesn't help women that much and at worst actually makes yes less safe.... Misogyny and male dominance is so strong that they have tricked even women who say they are feminists. They have relabeled the old patriarchy as "choice feminism" and changed what words mean until they mean n…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/01/22 06:40 AM
32	Acclaimed author and activist bell hooks dies at 69 I read excerpts of Ain't I A Woman in my women's studies minor. We read a lot of her stuff, I think most of it was from that. Very powerful. May she rest in peace.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/12/21 08:33 PM
4	Why do men gain weight after getting engaged? My husband and I both gained a little weight from the security of having a partner at home and making large meals together/eating more of a regular schedule. He lost weight on purpose for our wedding. I've been honest with him that I'm concerned about both of our health because we never work out and before we decide to have kids we should get healthier and he agrees on that. He has a big certification test at work in March so I won't be bothering him about it before then because he is going to b…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/12/21 04:53 PM
4	Just broke up with a sweet, funny, kind and attentive guy, because he works a minimum wage job This man needs to stay home with the baby if he can't provide financially so she can work and he better be working on the weekends and some evenings and getting it together. Wow.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/12/21 03:30 PM
6	Sex work is not a "pure" service job like being a barista or a maid, it is undergirded by the commodification of the female body. Women are viewed and treated like goods. I truly can't believe that men have conned liberal women into celebrating prostitution. It's abusive, it's coercive, it's rape. Even calling it "sex work" is a lie. I am pretty sure more than 95% of women in that situation want to exit prostitution immediately, the survey is old but you can find the info if you look for it. It will never be okay to sell anyone's body. You can't consent when you are only doing it to get paid. That's coercion. It sickens me that this still happens and young women …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/11/21 06:45 PM
56	"Oh yeah, you want a man who brushes his teeth? I dated a guy who brushed his teeth and he kicked puppies for breakfast!" I can't even count the number of relationship advice and marriage advice posts where the comments just say "oh maybe your husband has depression, he sounds depressed." Yeah right. Or maybe our culture allows and even encourages lazy and entitled behavior in men. I don't think every single American husband has undiagnosed depression. Maybe they just don't care.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/11/21 08:42 PM
32	Some men say, men going for much younger women or even teenagers is just "biology". I just realised adult men who try to be with teenagers/much younger women usually end up alone. It's a bunch of bullshit that has really shaped our culture, and there are so many misconceptions about this "biology" that people claim which are NOT true. Teen girls are not done growing and not ready to "start having babies". Which is what they are implying when they claim it's biological. There are increased health risks for girls having babies and throughout most of history it was NOT normal to have your first child when you were 16. The age was usually somewhere between 18-21 depending on …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	09/09/21 03:45 PM
6	She’s only asking this because she know deep down her fiancé sucks and she’s settling. Why not wait until you’re no longer students? We know, he did this in college, but thanks!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/08/21 01:35 AM
76	She’s only asking this because she know deep down her fiancé sucks and she’s settling. Why not wait until you’re no longer students? My husband is currently doing that promotion where you get paid extra for plasma donations. A certain number of donations in 4-6 weeks is $1000. Every restaurant and everywhere retail is hiring. If he wanted to, he could easily have gotten her something. I do think it's fine to propose without it if you go shopping together soon after but...	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	29/08/21 02:14 PM
28	“Why did he marry her and not me?” My father in law's former quartet mate is like this. He left their musical group and hasn't been a good friend so my father in law has moved on from him and doesn't have time for that nonsense anymore. This man is in his 50s. He had so many years-long relationships with lovely women who he wouldn't commit to. One of them is a good friend of our families yet and still in the quartet and we feel badly for her to have to watch him move on. Now he got engaged to the next woman who we also know and w…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/07/21 08:15 PM
13	Finally pinpointed why it really irrigates me to hear a woman describing herself as a wife and mother 10 seconds into any professional meeting... You are so totally right. I always start off with that I'm a professional pianist and then list off my different jobs. People find it really interesting. Can't even imagine telling people I'm a wife to start off lmao such a useless piece of information!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	01/07/21 03:23 PM
9	FDSers who observed Mother's Day today, how was it? What did you notice through the FDS lense? It's crazy to me that men don't know how to shop. The grocery store is my husband's favorite place. I could never set foot in one again if I didn't want to. He always knows what we are about to run out of and he will go straight to the store and pick up all of it. Even things he doesn't even use like my coffee creamer.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/05/21 12:40 AM
21	Strong women you admire in your family stories.... and go! It's incredible what education and being able to make your own choices can do for women. My maternal great grandmother was a wife on a farm and after having her fifth baby (my grandma) she had mental health problems they didn't know how to treat at the time so she was institutionalized. She got married probably way too young and had no other options but to have all those kids. My grandma finished high school and stopped after having 3 kids and worked in a factory and as a waitress. She didn't gr…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/04/21 11:15 PM
2	What is your stance on your husband drinking during your pregnancy? I really don't care if he does. Giving up alcohol is no burden for me. It means nothing to me. I could just never drink again and not miss it! If I missed it then I could see being annoyed but I really won't. He likes making mixed drinks and I'm not going to tell him not to.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/03/21 06:36 PM
10	Boring/completely ordinary men thinking they know more than you when you're an expert. Oh my, that is a lot. It is really not fair for you to have to deal with all of that on top of the work you already do. Of course the dads act like it is so easy - because their wives did all the heavy lifting and they were only there to toss the football around.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/03/21 04:29 AM
1	wOmEn HiT a WaLL aT aGe 30 aNd mEn aGe LiKe FiNe WiNe. No trail, no nothing.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/02/21 02:32 AM
55	Lots of LVM in the comments, ofc. What "nice ring" is $250 and will last decades? How is that possible? The price of gold is worth more than that even for people with small fingers. My secondhand plain gold wedding band was over $300. Her ring is going to fall apart and get damaged and scratched because it's probably too soft. She has a right to be annoyed at that. I get that there are affordable rings out there in different types of metals and some people like silicone...but there's a reason fine jewelry that is meant to last 5…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/02/21 05:53 PM
190	I gave this man my number 2 days ago. I ended up blocking him bc he was doing too much. He told me I’m “not engaging” with him. But who has time to text back and forth all day? I have a life lol. So this is his message after he realized I blocked him on WhatsApp. He’s 45. This was the funniest part of this message for me!!! He tries to hard to sound suave and important and it's just making things worse for him. He can't pull it off. What a loser.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	29/01/21 08:15 PM
132	Why are women expected to change for men? My whole life growing up I said "I won't marry a man who hunts" "I won't marry a man who watches sports" and my family would say "oh you wait and see". Like I would change my mind because I thought I liked someone. Like I didn't know how to pick out the kind of guy I actually wanted. Now I'm getting married to a vegetarian who doesn't like sports. 🤷🏼‍♀️ It's like no .... I wasn't lying when I said what kind of man I wanted. It's so insulting that women want the bare minimum standards for a guy a…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/11/20 11:37 PM
12	Ladies in relationship with HVM, where did you guys meet? He's my close friend's brother!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/11/20 12:05 AM