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1	Men suck at non-verbal communication, Women suck at Verbal communication You're making broad generalizations about all women based on your experience, we're making broad generations about men based on our experience. I don't see the problem.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/02/24 04:13 PM
1	Men suck at non-verbal communication, Women suck at Verbal communication You're absolutely right. But women are divorcing men for "no reason" all over the place! /s	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/02/24 02:54 PM
1	Men suck at non-verbal communication, Women suck at Verbal communication You bring up good points about women not wanting to repeat themselves because men have repeatedly shown it falls on deaf ears. That's likely a much bigger contributor to the things OP is complaining about than fear. Or women could be bringing things up in ways that men (intentionally or not) don't realize are serious matters to them. I think OPs problem is just as much about men (him) being receptive to the things women (his past gfs) are saying prior to the blow up.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/02/24 02:45 PM
1	Men suck at non-verbal communication, Women suck at Verbal communication While that is true, it doesn't explain the difficulty in trusted relationships. Talk about things is clearly better than letting them fester and turn into arguments but it is still challenging for many women to talk to their partner who have never shown any signs of violent outbursts.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/02/24 02:08 PM
6	Things are only truly terrible when it happens to women. That was a wild ride. The sexist discrimination that happens in these cases needs to be stopped. Things like this need to be highlighted more so we can fix the broken system.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/02/24 04:09 PM
4	Men do not have high beauty standards Loneliness and sex are not synonymous. Incels are lonely all around, lack of sex is only part of it and I would argue not even the main part.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/02/24 01:36 PM
1	What year did women achieve equality? Because men won't allow it to be equal... Women have been trying to rectify the situation, but men won't let it happen. You're complaining about a situation you're also perpetuating. Why fix the problem when it's so much better to use it as a talking point.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/01/24 04:26 AM
2	What year did women achieve equality? 1973 you say, hmm. Before they had to legally enforce that banks allow women to open lines of credit at all. Interesting... Do you have any wise words on women not being allowed to own property?	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/01/24 02:18 AM
3	What year did women achieve equality? In the US, prior to the Equal Credit Opportunity Act in 1974 women were routinely refused credit accounts without a male cosigner.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/01/24 01:38 AM
4	What year did women achieve equality? Ah yes, all those peaky laws preventing women from owning property, opening credit cards and such are just nonsense. Clearly they didn't mean anything and women have had the same rights as men since.... Checks notes...... The fall of Rome.....	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/01/24 01:03 AM
2	What year did women achieve equality? It has been proposed several times for women to sign up for selective service since 1980. Each time it has been shot down mostly by MEN. You all love to use this as a talking point. But Men are the reason women don't have to sign up. This coming from a woman actively serving in the military. .	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/01/24 01:01 AM
5	Why are so many girls wanting to have traditional marriages again? Change husband to wife and try saying that to a man...	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/01/24 04:43 AM
2	Serious question for the ladys: Do you find this kind of man attractiv? I pay 100% of the bills and have a house husband. What's your point?	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/01/24 03:38 PM
6	“Women are hornier than men” Not to mention wen get spam called too... Like we deal with both and definitely know which one is worse.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/23 03:45 PM
4	Men should not commit to women until they close all their options Having a job is a red flag?	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/23 12:59 AM
2	If recording random men and putting them on the internet to be ridiculed is ok, how do you feel about creepshots? If you kill someone who is trying to kill you the result is the same of one dead person. But the person who lived (you) doesn't historically assault people while the person who died was trying to kill someone.... Killing in self defense results in less violence overall.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/12/23 04:16 PM
6	At what age did you first receive sexual attention from adult men? Not being able to articulate the difference=/= not knowing the difference	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/08/23 03:48 AM
8	At what age did you first receive sexual attention from adult men? You think a 5 year old should be able to articulate the difference between sexual attention and a genuine compliment?	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/08/23 03:12 AM
1	We'll never have true equality as long as some women want to be treated special just because they are women. If we split up I would absolutely be okay with paying him alimony. He's sacrificing his career to support our family and would deserve repayment for that. In all likelihood I would probably get custody of our children but in the event that didn't happen, I would have no issue providing monetarily for their well-being. They're my kids of course I would want t support them however I can.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/06/23 02:50 PM
2	We'll never have true equality as long as some women want to be treated special just because they are women. You're telling on yourself in how you view people. Stay at home parents are just as valuable as their working counterparts. The fact that you can't separate the value of a person from their monetary contribution is a you problem. To break it down for you, stay at home parents provide: childcare, cooking, cleaning, financial management, planning, emotional support, and much more. Look at how much you would have to pay for all those services separately if you want to put a dollar amount on how muc…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/06/23 04:39 AM
0	We'll never have true equality as long as some women want to be treated special just because they are women. There can absolutely be incentive involved with consent, as long as there are other options and everything is transparent to all parties. If it didn't work that way than anything you received money or goods for wouldn't be a mutual transaction. Consent applies to way more than just sex.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/06/23 04:25 AM
3	We'll never have true equality as long as some women want to be treated special just because they are women. Posts like this are so amusing. I am a woman and I am the sole breadwinner in my marriage. My husband does not work at all. I understand our dynamic is the exception to how things go. If I we are able to have an equal partnership and contribute to the relationship/household equally with no resentment or power plays, why the hell is it so hard for men in my position to do the same? We have two children, it's ideal for one adult to stay home and raise them while the other works. Raising children a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/06/23 03:06 PM
1	Her friend wasn’t cockblocking, you just missed a signal or there was an agreement before they even left Guys can and frequently do "bite" especially when they're denied something.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/06/23 01:07 PM
–	Her friend wasn’t cockblocking, you just missed a signal or there was an agreement before they even left Woman: we like to check on each other and support each other's desires. Man: that means I can lie and cheat right??	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/06/23 01:38 AM
2	90% of what gives women ""the ick" is just men failing to live up to masculine gender stereotypes Did you even read the article you linked beyond the headline?	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/04/23 02:41 PM
4	Limiting Social Media It sounds as though you're not compatible with women on social media. Maybe find someone you're compatible with rather than trying to change someone to suit your wants.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/02/23 10:48 PM
11	Study finds that only 36% of liberal women think cheating is always wrong, whereas as 71% of conservative women think cheating is always wrong. It would be even more interesting to see if the question even used the word "cheating." It could have been praised "are sexual encounters outside of a marriage wrong?" or "are relationships outside of a marriage always wrong?" Either of those could result in more people saying no. Words change it all.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/01/23 01:03 AM
2	I was in charge of my penis at 18, and I handled it just fine. I disagree with most blanket statements on principle. When I personally see those relationships being called out there's almost always another component at play other than age. For me, gender/ages of the individuals doesn't matter nearly as much as the power dynamic. Power dynamics are harder to decipher and not as straight forward as having an age gap cut off point so people like to make it simple and just use age.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/01/23 07:09 PM
3	I was in charge of my penis at 18, and I handled it just fine. Typically when relationships between drastically different aged individuals are called out as inappropriate there is some sort of financial/social abuse going on. I haven't seen anyone condemn age gaps for flings. LTRs though have the potential for a vastly different power dynamic where one party has the financial power over the other and uses it inappropriately. Or they manipulate their younger partner into behaving certain ways. It sounds like you avoided those situations, but you can't take y…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/01/23 05:25 PM
3	Women have standards. So? Rape wasn't specifically mentioned. But taking away the free will of women absolutely was. And from your post it would be reasonable to guess that you think it's a wife's responsibility to have sex with her husband even if she doesn't want to. Which amounts to marital rape.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/01/23 12:00 AM
1	Women have standards. So? "TLDR for society to function we must enslave half the population" FIFY say what you mean so everyone can see what a psycho you are.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/12/22 04:12 PM
89	Slutshaming isn't a widespread phenomenon anymore, the main issue nowadays is virginshaming. You say no one is slut shaming, then turn around and call women "vulgar loud hoes" ....	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/12/22 05:28 AM
2	Does my respect for my partner's ownership of their body imply that it is OK for them to cheat on me? Fucking other people is the the same as wearing revealing clothing...	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/11/22 04:17 PM
11	the problem isn't sex the problem is that men are still expected to be traditional while women aren't I'm a woman in the military, I get doing the dangerous job .... My husband is a man who doesn't dehumanize himself or others, they exist. I'm not required to risk getting "bit" by the man who can't control himself because of past situations. Fact is, men have more agency then dogs. They have resources and dogs don't. I can't stand when men are compared to dogs. Men aren't animals and are more accountable than any dog ever will be. If men are traumatized by society they need to talk about it with…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/10/22 04:49 AM
14	the problem isn't sex the problem is that men are still expected to be traditional while women aren't I can see this, but feminism started with women. There isn't an equivalent for men. Personally I think we should all be helping each other be better humans and have better lives, but that can be difficult or even dangerous to execute. I hear often often that men aren't complimented as much as women and often just need a smile to feel accepted. Yet when I smile or compliment a man he typically approaches me as if I'm hitting on him and he expects things from me at that point. I don't feel safe en…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/10/22 04:07 AM
15	the problem isn't sex the problem is that men are still expected to be traditional while women aren't Women have been dehumanized to being an incubator and vacuum for many years. Women helped other women get out of it. That's why it seems we're obsessed with freedom and agency. I realize men as a whole need assistance with emotional skills, but they aren't advocating for that as much as they are complaining. I haven't met many men who want assistance in that area. I have met men who take a smile and nice word to mean I want to fuck them. Which is why most women aren't comfortable assisting men w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/10/22 04:02 AM
31	the problem isn't sex the problem is that men are still expected to be traditional while women aren't I second this. Women fought hard to be ALLOWED to be non traditional. Men haven't put any effort into being accepted as non traditional. From reading this thread, it seems like that's mostly due to the want for sex. Women's priorities are agency and freedom, men's priorities seem to only be sex.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/10/22 02:13 AM
1	Women have a hypocritical bias against homosexual male behavior Unanimously, women across the country avoid men with a sexual history with other men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/10/22 12:05 PM
1	Women have a hypocritical bias against homosexual male behavior Women doesn't. The qualifier unanimously does...	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/10/22 03:09 AM
5	Women have a hypocritical bias against homosexual male behavior Then maybe avoid saying unilaterally women think anything......	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/10/22 01:28 AM
0	Women have a hypocritical bias against homosexual male behavior Did your "field research" include every single woman across the US?	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/10/22 12:26 AM
1	what do women provide in a relationship? Asking for links when you provide none?	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/10/22 05:09 PM
8	what do women provide in a relationship? Have you ever actually spoken to a woman, or are you just using assumptions you've gleaned from the Internet and your own personal experience?	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/10/22 03:30 PM
1	what do women provide in a relationship? Nearly all the women I know also work. Working isn't in any way exclusive to men and unless you just time traveled from the 1920's I don't know why you think it is.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/10/22 03:21 PM
17	Why is it harder for average man to move on from a relationship ? This is illustrated by my ex husband. He told me he wanted a divorce. A week later I gave him the divorce documents to review. He was so shocked and upset he had to take time off work when I did. Legally I initiated the divorce, that's because he wanted a divorce, but didn't want to do the work, or maybe didn't understand that to me saying those words is a right now thing.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/10/22 07:07 PM
20	Why is it that women's clothing has gotten more and more revealing and sexualized as society got more and more progressive? Women aren't gifts....	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/22 02:58 PM
1	Not to take away from what women do, but I do think men do a lot of emotional labor than what’s said Awesome that you can just dismiss this issue cause it doesn't affect you and it's a "first world problem" thank you for your contribution to this conversation.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/07/22 10:00 PM
2	Not to take away from what women do, but I do think men do a lot of emotional labor than what’s said If it's there term you dislike, take it up with OP. Mental workload is often used when referring to relationships and is a better descriptor of the issue imo. Regarding the concept of relationships not having balance, a lot of relationships are unbalanced as a whole. There's nothing wrong with a person who puts in a lot of effort being frustrated with their significant other doesn't appear to. Relationships should be 100/100. Most are somewhere around 50/75 with the 75 person being frustrated wi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/07/22 09:34 PM
3	Not to take away from what women do, but I do think men do a lot of emotional labor than what’s said Then by your definition, many men "don't care anymore and are checked out" This is where communication comes into play, both men and women need to be able to communicate about what their needs are and what support they need. But time and time again when women complain about emotional labor or mental load they've already spoken to their spouse and were brushed off. The initial post was that men have their emotional labor as well and there is no doubt about that. This specific thread was asking fo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/07/22 08:36 PM
1	Not to take away from what women do, but I do think men do a lot of emotional labor than what’s said Another poster shared this comic that illustrates it well. The mental load of a lot of things can be shared, but often times one party has the full burden. Most often that party is the woman. https://english.emmaclit.com/2017/05/20/you-shouldve-asked/	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/07/22 08:26 PM
9	Not to take away from what women do, but I do think men do a lot of emotional labor than what’s said I feel like this stems from a very young age. Society tells you g boys to "man up" all the time, but young girls are told to talk about their feelings. Consequently, women lean on friends and receive validation while men don't give or receive validation as often. Women give and receive small amounts of validation from all over, men expect to receive large amounts from one person. we're speaking different languages of validation.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/07/22 08:11 PM
10	Not to take away from what women do, but I do think men do a lot of emotional labor than what’s said This absolutely. This isn't a gendered thing, it's an asshole thing. And possibly a communication thing. If you are feeling underappreciated by your partner you should be able to talk with them about why. If they scoff or say suck it, they're not a good partner.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/07/22 08:07 PM
2	Not to take away from what women do, but I do think men do a lot of emotional labor than what’s said If you are going to socialize or cooperate with other human beings that mental load should be shared. If only one person in a relationship is responsible for that mental load it leads to resentment.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/07/22 08:03 PM
2	Not to take away from what women do, but I do think men do a lot of emotional labor than what’s said Meals, groceries, doctors appointments, vet appointments, pet training. Those are all mandatory things. It is being an adult, but when the other adult that should be responsible for it doesn't help it's doing more labor than necessary. My son loves unwrapping things. He's not old enough to know the difference, but I know he loves tearing the paper off of things almost as much as the gift itself. My ex didn't care enough to know that. If you're going to use someones stuff, you need to replace it.…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/07/22 07:41 PM
4	Not to take away from what women do, but I do think men do a lot of emotional labor than what’s said It's not usually things like sending annual cards. But it is things like cleaning, wrapping/buying gifts for kids, planning meals, buying groceries, scheduling doctors appointments, vet appointments, extra curriculars, pet training. The list goes on. For example, I used to do all the gift wrapping and buying for my son's birthday and Christmas. The first year we were separated, my ex husband gave my son his gifts in a grocery bag. We make the same amount so it's not a finance thing. I also took …	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/07/22 07:01 PM
4	Not to take away from what women do, but I do think men do a lot of emotional labor than what’s said The majority of things women refer to as "emotional labor" are things most men don't even see. It would be interesting to see how many of those items you consider to be work.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/07/22 04:39 PM
17	What does a red pilled woman get out of the ideology? I think being a stay at home parent is a personal choice. For some individuals it works for others not so much. My husband is a stay at home dad. He loves it I love it. It works so well for our family.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/06/22 08:01 PM
1	There’s nothing wrong with a coffee/walking date as the first date Yes, I would and I have.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/12/21 02:01 PM
1	There’s nothing wrong with a coffee/walking date as the first date Hence it depends on the park. In my city there are parks that I would be comfortable meeting a stranger at.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/12/21 04:21 AM
8	There’s nothing wrong with a coffee/walking date as the first date I think it depends on the park. But overall I agree.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/12/21 01:30 AM
19	"Just look at all the average couples in walmart" - What, the couples who are not attracted to eachother? Quite frankly neither do you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/11/21 03:07 PM
2	American culture is simultaneously hyper-sexualized and sanctimoniously puritan I've never seen it out so elegantly. Thanks	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/07/21 08:04 PM