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| 1 | Subtle signs a man is going to be a terrible fatherThat last point! Literally both of my exes towards the end said to me “let’s make a baby” — what the F?? Is that supposed to be cute? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/22 03:51 PM |
| 59 | Subtle signs a man is going to be a terrible fatherif you have a current pet or plan on getting one, and it’s their rules on training or the highway. They can’t take any constructive criticism, or freak out at the words “we’re actually supposed to do it this way” and get super defensive they go golfing every Saturday or Sunday with the bOys he puts his family or mom first before you and your preferences -> signaling he can’t put his chosen family as the first priority he’s not an active participant and genuinely excited about kids. He gives vagu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/22 01:12 AM |
| 27 | Recently married. Thanks FDS.I’m so happy for you! May I ask what age you are? I hope for this too, just fear guys my age would never act so quick | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 08:41 PM |
| 27 | Am I the only one who's starting to believe I'll never be loved?I totally relate to both of you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 04:48 PM |
| 37 | Am I the only one who's starting to believe I'll never be loved?I believe I will be. I’m in therapy for feelings of unworthiness and feeling unlovable, but in my heart I know I’ll be loved, because that’s what I want and deserve. I love this group of women, but sometimes it can be too negative. If you believe all men are shitty and won’t love you right, then that’s what you’ll find. If you believe you’re worthy of healthy love, that’s what you’ll find - even if it takes time. I understand your feelings and frustrations, but I imagine you’re a smart, beautifu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 01:30 PM |
| 96 | Abusers wait to reveal his true colours until you’re baby trapped. Vet ruthlessly by enforcing your boundaries during courtship.Yep. Something to look out for for sure. These women are the WORST of the worst. It’s usually the mothers with only sons who are like this (in my experience) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 03:05 AM |
| 5 | Waiting for Sex: Not a Zero Sum GameWhat’s the strategy when telling them we expect marriage early? I can’t find it in the handbook and am dying to put this in my toolkit | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 03:01 PM |
| 44 | 8???I would love to know this as well. I’m approaching my thirties and next guy I date, I’m hoping and wanting it to be after a year or two to be engaged | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 10:38 PM |
| 27 | A message to the kinkmeishas: No, porn is not "normal".I used to be this person and think it was OK. I am so grateful for this post and FDS. It really makes sense and is disgusting. Like, would these men think it’s normal to sit in a room and watch people having sex in front of him? I’d go as far as to say you should be arrested or in a mental facility for that. But the pickmes are making this even WORSE by allowing it and making excuses!!!! It’s so embarrassing. My coworker went to turn on her Alexa or Bluetooth machine so her baby could sleep, lit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 03:48 AM |
| 20 | Someone’s lack of reciprocation is not an invitation for you to convince them of your worth.🙌🏼. I still have a hard time emotionally understanding this, but no one can make you feel unworthy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 04:42 AM |
| 16 | Let's leave dating apps behind this month : who's with me!I’d really love to start a list of places we can meet HVM. I know people who have met HVM on OLD and are now married and happy it seems (but always gotta vet!). I am of the belief it’s not always black and white. My friend just met at a guy out at a sports bar and turns out he’s dating someone else. I’ve had that experience too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 04:47 PM |
| 4 | Let’s talk hobbies! What are your current hobbies? What’s a hobby you’re interested in starting?I just got into salsa 💃! Also getting back into playing volleyball, I completely forget about the world when I play. I want to get into yoga as well and back in the gym | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 03:18 AM |
| 36 | dumped a lvm and got asked out by someone much betterLove that! The universe will replace with something better 😉❤️ however I am sad and alarmed that he made you cry, especially for only dating a short period of time?! I would imagine if he made you cry at all especially in the beginning stages that would be a block and delete. I say this from my experience of crying over too many LVM! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 03:12 AM |
| 14 | HV Traits I've Observed in men I know - basically a few real life illustrations of why you shouldn't settle.Agreed! I would love to hear more stories of HVM. We deserve to know they are out there and that we are worthy and deserving. I’ll share mine. My dad is a HVM. He cooks, cleans up, makes my mom tea every morning, takes care of my dog, warms up our cars if it’s too cold, every Saturday growing up he would get us Dunkin’ Donuts so we’d have a nice treat before waking up, he’ll drive my sister and mom and I to dinner so we can have drinks. I recently went through a horrific breakup and he was the o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 01:28 PM |
| 7 | Discerning high value among the retiredIf I knew how to give out an award, I would. 🥇 thank you, Queen. Thank you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 01:01 AM |
| 36 | Feeling grateful that I’m not embarrassing myself this Valentine’s DayI was HACKLING when I went out to dinner over vday weekend and saw all of the women walk up to the hostess saying they’re there for their reservation. The guy was drug along. If I have to make the reservations for a special occasion, I don’t wanna go. At the very least, the man can go up and tell them we’re here. I was cringing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 07:58 PM |
| 1 | Heartbreaking. Wife wants to spend time with lv hubby v-day weekend, gets ignored. He admits he’s trash but doesn’t want her with another manSame. How do we vet this?? I can’t imagine this poor woman didn’t have signs before marrying him, but you just never know. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 07:49 PM |
| 53 | Spring Breakup Season Is Coming!Why does this make me happy? Let’s set these women free!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 07:43 PM |
| 20 | A lot of men don’t marry for love. They marry for timing. Don’t be the woman he settles with out of convenienceI’m a newbie & the handbook on marriage is deleted (among a few others!) could we get that back up or get a new post on it perhaps? Thanks all in advance!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 01:44 PM |
| 10 | Signs that your female "friend" might intend to traffic youListen to your gut ladies. If they seem too nice too soon, red flag. They can literally disguise themselves as new potential friends of yours. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 02:23 AM |
| 50 | Trafficking disguised as dating or job offersI’d like to add a shopping example as well. I just moved to the area and was desperate for making new friends. I was a clothes rack and a woman my age or a little older started chatting me up and complimenting me, then started asking personal questions. She then asked for my number and asked me if I wanted to go next door to get coffee to chat about a “business opportunity” with her and her husband. I saw no ring. I immediately felt unsafe after I gave my number thinking this could be a friend. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 02:32 PM |
| 10 | Nick Cannon shares he's expecting his 8th child, with model Bre Tiesi — weeks after the death of his 5-month-old son. Nick Cannon is a sick pos and all the women are serious pickmes!I hope these kids go into therapy ASAP not only for themselves, but for humanity as a whole. It should be illegal what he is doing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 01:41 PM |
| 1 | What are warning signs that the man may become physically abusive?Ooh you added a good one - quiet anger. When their face gets red, start breathing heavily, and if they are sitting down their legs shake and get all fidgety as if they’re going to explode with anger any minute. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 02:00 PM |
| 62 | Harbouring resentment in future relationshipsI can relate and I am the same age. I harbor resentment for being with several different men who wasted my time and always gave up. However, I REFUSE to let any man make me feel like I won’t ever find a HVM who loves and adores me and treats me right. I am big on the law of attraction and I lean into knowing that I will find my HVM, and my precious experiences were not for naught. Sounds like this helps you in the vetting category, but know that you are worthy and don’t let a man ever make you f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 11:01 PM |
| 36 | Harbouring resentment in future relationshipsThank you for this. I feel the same as OP, same age, and this got me so excited and hopeful. I truly believe you are right. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 10:56 PM |
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