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I’d recommend looking into the law of attraction! It might be useful for you
/r/RedPillWives20/08/25 02:14 PM
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I guess I’m wondering what progress you feel you e made with the massive investment in therapy? I respect the fact that you took the time to write all this out, but I don’t think anyone is commenting because if a decade of therapy hasn’t gotten you to a point where you can laugh with your husband then what can we add? Your husband is probably exhausted too. You’re going to have to shift you’re entire mind away from the place it’s at now (my marriage is broken, I’m broken) to your new desired rea…
/r/RedPillWives19/08/25 06:11 PM
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I see that you said you’ve asked what you can do for him and he hasn’t given any suggestions. My guess is that he hates his job. Could you suggest that he take a sabbatical? And just see how he reacts. My husband is taking one starting in December and he needs it so bad for his mental health.
/r/RedPillWives12/08/25 05:36 AM
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I took 5 days before our second was born! But I’m breastfeeding again 🥲
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/25 06:02 PM
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I was actually the fence sitter in my relationship, but my husband really wanted kids. I made peace with it and produced two kids in the first three years of our marriage. I think it’s a really good sign that you’re taking this decision seriously. It is extremely serious. The way my life has changed since having kids is pretty jarring. It does feel like my personality has kind of turned inside out. I have had to transform from being a selfish (normal) single person into a selfless servant to my …
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/25 04:04 AM
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When I was your age I tried my absolute best to convince myself that monogamy was a social construct that didn’t mean anything, really. I had partner who had cheated on me multiple times who I thought was my soul mate, and I refused to leave him no matter what so I chose to change who I am at my core instead. Our relationship fell apart and we did break up, of course. I proceeded to have several unhealthy relationships for years following this experience as I still very unsure of myself. Finally…
/r/RedPillWives28/03/24 11:29 PM
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I sincerely wish you the best. My 20s were hard and i had to do a lot of reprogramming. The only thing I wish I could do different if I could go back is to waste less time on guys who aren’t showing up for our future together. That’s not to say that it won’t work out for you. I hope it does.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/24 08:05 AM
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I gave an ultimatum to my boyfriend of 4 years. His behavior after that was enough of a response that I left him. He didn’t actually accept that I was “really done” since I had given in to him so many times before but he finally quit contacting me after about a year. I was beyond done with him and never once looked back. With my husband I also issued an ultimatum. We live in another country that isn’t either of our homes so I said I want to go home or get married and he picked marriage. He still…
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/24 03:22 AM
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When I was in my 20s, I dated a guy for four years. He was never “ready.” I am now 33 and I saw his family’s photo on Facebook posted at Christmas, and he was STILL by himself. I’d rather he be married and happy, but I am so glad I’m not still sitting there waiting for it from him. I met my husband when I was 28, engaged at 30, married at 31. First baby at 32. I’m pregnant again now. Find a guy that wants what you want. If he does, he won’t be afraid of the conversation.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/24 02:28 AM
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We are the same person
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/24 06:15 PM
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One thing I read that has stuck with me is that if a person hasn’t established an adult-adult relationship with their parents then their partner will struggle with them as in laws. I feel this is my issue. My partner allows his mom to baby him because it quite understandably suits him (and when it doesn’t, he has no problem ignoring her or being otherwise rude). But for me, I demand adult boundaries and always have so I don’t fit into her mold of interactions with people my age. It is very diffi…
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/23 06:20 PM
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I think one month is pretty early. I’d give him at least another month or two and by then you may have a better idea of his personality and life plans. Just guard your heart as best you can so that you’re still strong enough to leave after sussing him out. All of this was so hard for me too. I dated so many wrong guys til I met my husband when I was 28. Every other guy ultimately rejected me except for him 🥲
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/23 06:17 PM
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Absolutely! He was on board or else the relationship would have ended. I may be in the minority here but I gave an ultimatum and it worked. He tells me often that it’s the best thing that ever happened to him because he wouldn’t have taken the plunge otherwise. I did. I think this is very personal and depends on the relationship. We have shared finances since before marriage. I earn a lot of money mostly passively through an online store I started so I worked until we got married and then I quit…
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/23 05:45 PM
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Seconded. I live in the Middle East
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/23 12:01 AM
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I spent a decade building an e-commerce store that’s just PDF downloads so now all I do is maintain it
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/23 01:24 AM
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I’m really enjoying this post. I worked super hard to be a stay at home wife myself but I have passive income that I earned through 10 years of effort. I also wanted kids so we’re knee deep in that but the hormones make me what everyone to find their perfect partner too 🥹🥹🥹
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/23 04:53 PM
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This isn’t very red pill of me but if he had to use his savings when he stayed with you, why wouldn’t you use yours when you stay with him?
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/22 02:35 AM
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I join a lot of groups. I do Zumba a lot at my gym and then someone told me there’s a group chat and added me. There’s a mom group in my neighborhood that meets at Starbucks every week or so. I join a lot of Facebook groups in my area. I also ask my friends to introduce me to new people that they meet and like.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/22 07:54 PM
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I hope that you can learn to believe in your own worth 💜
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/22 02:05 AM
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I was 28 and he was 25. I’m 3 years older than him 🙈 we’ve been together 4 years in November and will have our first child the month before that
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/22 02:01 AM
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I promise when you meet the right guy, not everything will feel like an uphill battle. Before I met my husband, I only ever dated guys who were keeping me at arms length, low level rejecting me, avoiding discussions of the future, etc. Just last night my husband was in the kitchen helping with dishes while I ate at the bar. His favorite soccer team on in the background and our cat on the sofa. He said, “I just want to point out that this is all I ever wanted.” Find THAT guy.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/22 01:52 AM
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You lost me at open relationship. Honestly, he sounds kind of selfish to me.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/22 01:25 AM
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I think one day you’ll realize your parents did the best they could with what they had. Life is hard and sometimes it’s ok to just disengage with it all and watch tv. You’re at a stage though where you’re figuring out what you want, so you’re analyzing things more deeply. Try to refrain from judgement as much as you can. Make decisions that open doors not close them. Education and career experience won’t LIMIT you in finding a husband or being a SAHM, but committing to the idea of that as your o…
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/22 07:51 PM
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Throughout my 20s, every decision I made opened up more doors for me. Now I’m in my 30s and I’m choosing paths for my life. When you choose a path, you close doors. That can feel scary. Growing up means accepting you can’t have everything. You need to make a choice and learn to live with it. You will never have a wide open future again, and that’s ok.
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/22 06:55 PM
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About a year into our relationship I asked my now husband how badly he wants kids, on a scale of 1-10. He responded 8.5 so I laid out a timeline that I would be comfortable with in order to do that with him. It was definitely a form of an ultimatum. He followed it and now thanks me for the push because he claims that he wouldn’t have taken those steps on his own, but he’s so glad he did. I wouldn’t say I had to push for attention during the dating phase. He always wanted to be with me more than …
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/22 07:52 AM
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I recently made this same transition (also a teacher) and I just explained to people in a way that made a little more sense to them. Instead of saying “housewife” say you’re “taking a year off.” No one needs to know that I will never return to teaching. Over my dead body
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/22 09:12 PM
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I’ve been there! I thought I’d get married straight out of college, but he cheated after we’d been together 4 years. Then I did what you’re considering, and I left the country. Dated someone new several years later. He cheated after a year. Then at 28 I met the first man who didn’t reject me and now we’re marred! I’m 31 and pregnant with our first child. Along the way, I built an e-commerce business that has allowed me to resign from my job and be a SAHM. It’s not impossible to start over and to…
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/22 11:47 PM
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You too :) I hope it’s a good world for our babies 😊
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/22 12:21 PM
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We are having the same pregnancy! ❤️
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/22 12:14 PM
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Are you the kind of person who would stop loving your husband because you saw someone objectively more attractive on the television?? 😂😂 more realistically, if you had an objectively more attractive coworker? If that’s where you are at, I understand your concerns. Most of us (based on what I see in this thread) aren’t that shallow.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/22 07:03 PM
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Would he be willing to go to therapy? If yes, I think that’s a strong sign towards willingness to work it out. If no, then what does that say towards his willingness to work towards many inevitable conflict resolutions in the future?
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/21 06:38 PM
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