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I love picnics so as long as there was obviously a lot of effort put in I’m happy. I would like a more expensive date on our next date though.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/23 01:26 AM
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I’d rather him feel these things towards me than for me to feel this way towards him.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/23 01:24 AM
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Outside. Get some sun! ☀️
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 09:16 PM
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Women care more about men being funny. Men care more about women thinking they are funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 11:25 PM
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I want a husband who protects and provides for our family. I enjoy cooking, cleaning, and I love children. I would rather serve my family than a boss. Being a sahm can give me time to focus on the things that are important to me as well as some productive or fun hobbies. I think more traditional gender roles keep men masculine and women feminine. It also puts less stress on the relationship because our roles are mostly already understood. These things just appeal to me. Also being a career woman…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 07:02 PM
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How much does Thad make? Can he change his name?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 08:51 PM
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You didn’t ask me to specify what other positive and attractive qualities are. These qualities vary from person to person of course but for me they are things like being kind, having similar sense of humor, being generous, enjoying physical activities, an interest in certain hobbies that I find attractive, etc. I can’t give you exact numbers because everyone lives in different areas and lives different lifestyles. I live in the south in the US. I am early 20s, but I prefer men who are late 20s. …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 03:21 PM
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I am not agreeing with you. I am saying that if religious “nice guys” are confused about why they are not getting religious women, these are the reasons. Most religious women are not going for Chad. Some religious women are not going for your religious “nice guy” (though many are, let’s not act like nice religious men aren’t getting women due to several factors such as gender ratio). I am saying that most religious women truly want the religious guy who also exudes masculine traits. The “nice gu…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 01:44 PM
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More than religious - you must have other positive and attractive qualities outside of us sharing the same faith. I do care about my faith. Don’t assume and jump to conclusions just because I made a comment that you don’t understand or agree with. Most people who are truly religious put their faith first, but that doesn’t mean we don’t like other positive traits in a partner. Preferring a man who can provide, is definitely not “worldy.” Status and power are overemphasized by TRP imo but anyway, …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 01:37 PM
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I have to disagree. Women who are truly committed to their religion and try to execute its teachings in every aspect of their life, do want religious men. They talk about it, day dream about it, and pray about it too. Their biggest issue generally is usually that the ratio of available, dedicated religious men is smaller than the amount of available, dedicated religious women in the church especially amongst young adults. Also, just because someone wants a religious partner doesn’t mean they wan…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 05:23 AM
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-receiving help, compliments, gifts, etc. -the ability to suprise people because they underestimate me -being able to communicate in detail with my friends while being as emotional as I need to be -getting to express my love for nature, children, picnics, rainbows, my body and the general happiness and beauty of life with no boundaries -being able to dress up and enjoy different colors, fun & frilly fabrics, and accessories
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 09:47 PM
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Women are expected to be an asset to men. Cook, clean, bear children, be nurturing, be the primary caretaker of children, teach children manners and to be generally socially acceptable, be the primary caretaker of elderly family members, get along well with partner’s family as well as being a good hostess/helper, remember all the little details (birthdays, doctor’s appointments, sending thank you cards, etc.), be supportive, be submissive, be agreeable, stick by your man, not be slutty but not b…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 09:05 PM
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I don’t watch the show so idk. I was thinking more of Liz than of her characters. But manipulation and seduction are major parts of the dark feminine. If you’re attracted to that, then you’re attracted to dark feminine energy. If you’re attracted to the more aggressive and violent side of her, then you’re attracted to masculinity.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 10:42 PM
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Yes, but she leans more into dark feminine energy as opposed to pure masculinity. She’s very alluring.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 06:15 PM
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smh, you’d be surprised how often it happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/23 09:37 PM
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Meh, depends on the woman and the relationship. An extremely attractive young woman benefits more from being single. If her bf can buy her nice gifts, take her out, give her money etc., she can probably get all of that from multiple men at once and not commit to any of them. They are all trying to win her so she’s just being spoiled all around without having to put as much effort in. An average women will likely benefit from being in a relationship more, yes. She probably isn’t getting as much f…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/23 07:44 PM
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By sexual preferences I just meant that they want a woman to be overly dominant or degrading sexually, but they could also be gay sure. I think men like this should work on becoming more masculine. True masculinity naturally is attracted to femininity so that would fix the problem. I don’t think most guys who feel like you want to change though, so I see no need to make them. As long as they only date masculine women and don’t try to bombard, nag, villianize, or guilt trip feminine women, they a…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/23 07:32 PM
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Idk you obviously, but when I hear of men who dislike femininity I usually see it attributed to: -them being a feminine man or just lacking in masculinity -broke or laziness -they have sexual preferences that steer away from what we usually call normal -they previously had a higher standard/regard for women and after being let down now see femininity as a negative I personally find something wrong with these men because I do believe in a more traditional masculinity/femininity balance amongst th…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/23 07:17 PM
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There are some masculine men still out there, but you have to gain their attention. Masculine men are attracted to feminine women. Work on your femininity. Learn how and when to speak. Gain feminine hobbies and skills. Get in touch with your body and beautifying yourself and your life. Learn how to dress, walk, and generally carry yourself. Have standards and stick to them. Be reasonable but (kindly) firm. You know pretty soon whether or not a man is masculine enough for you. If he’s not, move o…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 07:16 AM
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If he’s a decent guy I’ll offer, but I won’t insist. Waiter brings the check, I’ll say “do you want to split?” If he says no, I won’t push it because it’s his choice, and for some guys it’s actually a pride thing. But if the guy says yes, we split and it just confirms he wasn’t for me and that I made the right choice lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 07:37 PM
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Pretty accurate. Some might respond if they don’t care about their notifications being blown up lol, but any non paying woman who values peace of mind probably wouldn’t respond. Also, why you tag me? 😂 I told y’all the ONLY time I will split the check is if I never plan on seeing the guy again.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 07:20 PM
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This is an excellent post.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/22 03:07 PM
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jumpscare 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/22 02:52 PM
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C. This is pure foolishness
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/22 10:01 PM
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Like if they actually fail in some way such as saying they will do things and then not following through. Or just realizing incompatibilities such as finding out they are 50/50 when I’m not.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/22 08:40 PM
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and what does this have to do with my point?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 09:47 PM
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Churches almost always have more single women than single men. Religious men usually definitely have their pick. Also, church women are usually much more relationship minded than non religious women because most churches emphasize being a wife whenever the topic of being a woman comes up.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 09:44 PM
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What does any of this have to do with my point? I’m not speaking on older women at all. There are plenty of older, lonely men. Most people work with or in proximity to at least one. If these men took the time to tell younger men the truth about dating as they age, maybe more of them would understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 05:11 PM
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One started treating me badly. Others just disappointed me in some way and I lost respect for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 02:57 PM
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No. Once I lose respect and attraction to a guy it has never come back. I might recognize later that he’s still a decent person inside, but that doesn’t change my attraction at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 01:45 PM
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For the most part, only women will tell men this, and the majority of men don’t care about what women have to say on the topic. It will take older, lonely men to convince them, and even then some people are just stubborn or think “it’ll never happen to me.”
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 01:43 PM
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Everyone is different but it would bother me personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/22 05:46 PM
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How is it not an issue if she’s traditional? I’m traditional. I listed plenty of issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/22 02:31 PM
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Gong Yoo
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/22 08:03 AM
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Absolutely not.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/22 07:47 AM
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Absolutely not.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/22 07:47 AM
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If you feed and water them properly and laugh at their silly male humor, they will adore you and supply you with forehead kisses. If you do an extra good job they will also supply you with cash.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 06:25 AM
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I would prefer that, yes. Maybe he could have one if she was like a lesbian that he knew her since childhood and she was ugly. Though I’d feel more comfortable if they only hung out in groups still.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 12:23 PM
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He doesn’t need to be friends with a woman, especially one he found attractive and previously tried to pursue romantically.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 04:00 AM
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It’s not dishonest because he’s telling me about her, but it would not be acceptable to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 12:36 AM
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It’s better to know the truth than to live in a lie.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 04:49 PM
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Sounds fun. We gotta eat after though.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 09:25 AM
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I want to feel safe. He protects me physically by standing on the outside of the sidewalk, watches entrances, warning me when I’m doing something unsafe, and defends me in an altercation. He protects me emotionally by speaking to me respectfully, giving encouragement when needed, and never giving me reason to doubt his intentions.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 12:07 AM
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I’m not trying to debate vaccination, but you feel that all people do over 35 need to be vaccinated? Also how old were you when you got married?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 08:15 PM
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how old we talking?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 08:12 PM
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As someone who tries to socialize with men and women who aim for male breadwinner status. Most see it as a status symbol, but some see it as necessity. Some also just see it as tradition. The following are summarized quotes of men who support the idea of male breadwinners: -“I’m wealthy, my wife doesn’t have to work. As long as she makes me happy, she’s doing her job.” -“I make good money, I don’t want my wife to work. Just take care of things around the house.” -“The role of a man is a provider…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 11:41 AM
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Like 2-3. Only 4 max. More than that starts being too much
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 02:33 AM
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Nay. Forearm veins are nice tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 02:25 AM
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yes but not necessarily in a good way. I’m a pessimist so i know I’d be thinking something negative about you.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 10:18 PM
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As a woman in her 20s, no thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 09:30 PM
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Realistically, I’d just be wondering why you only ask me out during the week. Does he not have a steady job? Does he have multiple women on rotation? Does he have a kid?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 09:28 PM
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wow. so how did you win her over?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 05:10 PM
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prejudice of what?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 04:34 PM
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I must have missed that scripture lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 03:35 PM
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Very attractive. I believe he’s only 5’9 so 20lbs of fat on him may move into just fat territory. But on a taller guy for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 03:34 PM
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weekend at BF’s parents’ house for the first time: Does his mother like me? (final update) Church went well yesterday. She insisted we sit MWWM which I hope was a good indicator. It was a very good service and several ladies complimented my hair and outfit in front of his mother. I also happened to know one of the Deacons of their church as he used to live in my hometown and work with my dad. His approval of me likely added to my socialization success. After service, we had dinner with only his …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 02:58 PM
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u boys better step it up then lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 01:47 PM
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Depending on your height you can add about 10-20 lbs of fat to this and still be considered dadbod, but I believe this is the ideal dad bod to most women. (at least my age-early 20s) https://www.tiktok.com/@chillary_chilton/video/7166810859493264686 Also, lightly funny :) https://www.tiktok.com/@chillary_chilton/video/7145950493074935082
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 01:25 PM
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If the girl is a 10/10 as described then yes. If the man is under a 7/10 in looks people’s first thought will be that he has money. Also never said I speak for the majority of women. I speak for myself and state my observations of other individuals.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 01:22 PM
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Lol call whoever you want, doesn’t change my answer. Also the question is asking does women giving attention to less attractive men with extremely attractive women stem from insecurity? My response is in reference to that. I never said money was the only way a man could get women’s attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 11:59 AM
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I am not a believer in TRP so I don’t think they can help any man get the woman they desire. But if it did work for that girl, congratulations ig. We would never actually know if their relationship truly stems from mutual attraction, seduction, or material/looks transaction.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 10:55 AM
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Is this a question or an asking statement?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 10:44 AM
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I don’t see it as insecurity at all. Hot girl, ugly man..money. That’s most of our first thoughts. Some of us want a piece of it. Been like that forever. If we find out he doesn’t have any money, he loses his appeal for the majority of us. A few will nosily stick around to learn of his personality. The rest will write it off as charity work.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 10:13 AM
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Just had a dream about being abandoned. Fear is a crazy thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 10:00 AM
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Definitely not
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 08:01 PM
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I think it’s a stretch, but even if it was true it would be irrelevant. Men still do the majority of approaching and women still care less about looks in a partner than men do. Edit: Men prioritizing looks more than women is a known fact we should all agree upon by now. Will not be debating this point. Feel free to do your own research.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 07:40 PM
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I want to be a sahm anyway so, yes. Can’t think of any reason not to do this. Especially if it’s your ideal partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 07:27 PM
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thanks :)
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 07:24 PM
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Might have already done a bit too much yesterday. I made baked beans, chicken kebabs, and cake lol. But I made the cake before we left home and cooked the beans and prepped kebabs at a separate time than his mom as to not be in her way. She made the rest of the sides and the boys grilled the meats.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 07:19 PM
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thank you :)
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 07:13 PM
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Day 2 at BF’s parents’ house: Does his mom like me? positives (since my last update): she ate 3 of my chicken kebabs, said my cake piping was very neatly done, gave me a quick tour of her garden and seemed pleased that I knew a thing or two about gardening, and checked on me before bed Think the ultimate test will be how I dress and socialize at their church today. I’ve been indecisive about outfits all night. Hope I picked the right one.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 03:14 PM
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At BF’s parents’ house for the first time. Having a small bbq and watching the game. Been trying to get a read on how his mom feels about me. She’s been nice, but I can’t tell yet if she actually likes me. So far on positives she’s only: complimented my slippers, asked me about my long hair, and I overhear his dad say “she make some damn good baked beans” and the mother nodded.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 11:59 PM
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no but i do love the breadsticks lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 03:46 PM
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That seems like a bit much. If you ask for a name you have to add more to the conversation than just hello. Is that your purpose of this exercise?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 02:38 PM
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An automatic no.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 02:36 PM
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Hour tops. Anything more than that he’s providing for the travel or should just come to me. Though this could be extended if he lives extremely far and we’re meeting up for an event or something like a concert. I’m not doing a road trip just to go to Applebee’s.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 02:35 PM
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Yes I mostly agree. Though personally I don’t care about your lats. I’m into the lumberjack body type so wider waist is fine by me. No V needed. As far as the scrawny skinny fat thing when most women talk about dad bods we aren’t thinking of them at all so yes, build masculine frame first. Frame and overall upper body strength is very important. Broad shoulders are attractive and if you can’t at the very least carry your girl, you’re either too weak or she’s way too fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 02:32 PM
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Preface: I will encourage my children to have traditional relationships. Boy: Be strong. Be kind. Have your money together. Don’t be stupid. A woman is an investment. You will have to spend money, time, and mental on her. Invest wisely. No leaches! Don’t waste your time on a worthless girl. She must align with your values and bring feminine benefits to your life. Don’t be afraid of rejection. Not everyone is worthy of you. Let them weed themselves out or you cut them out. Be loyal and direct and…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 02:18 PM
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Dad bods simply feel better than lean, athletic ones. When it comes to cuddling, dad bods are superior.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 01:36 PM
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Agree. When I get married I’m already making it clear that I want at least half the money (earned during marriage) plus the house in the pre nup. Also there will be a certain amount given to either person if the other engaged in infidelity (in certain states this is the rule anyway). I don’t really believe in divorce unless it’s for a serious reason so if we’re getting divorced someone did something really wrong and I deserve my compensation. Any man who is stingy in negotiations before marriage…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 01:31 PM
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Well yes, that’s an accident not an offense. How do you discipline (through love and affection) when a child actually does something wrong?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 11:31 PM
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How do you use love and affection to discipline?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 11:21 PM
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This was a general statement, not an exact experience. I’m not overwhelmingly smart. But one time I had been talking to a guy for a couple days. We were hanging with some mutual friends and a girl was complaining about her period but couldn’t take medication. I just started offering her pain relieving tips and herbs I knew that could help. The guy just looked at me and said “wow…you’re really smart. You studying to be a nurse or something?” I said no and that those were just some pretty common r…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 10:49 PM
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One of the worst feeling relationship incompatibilities is intelligence imo. When you say something too smart, and he mentions it and it just lingers…you know he lost attraction or just felt defeated. Or if he says something ignorant or struggles to read or do math, I literally feel the attraction fade from my body. There’s nothing else like it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 10:21 PM
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-conservatives get married more and quicker so timing could be an issue -conservative women are more likely to want to follow traditional gender roles and a liberal man may not approve of this or care to meet that standard -people’s opinions of heavy issues can make you look at them differently or lose attraction to them ex: abortion, social justice, immigration -women tend to adopt more to/change to meet the desires of the man. Essentially, women (consciously and unconsciously) look for a leade…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 09:56 PM
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Yes. Women usually are the ones who conform to their partner. That’s why a truly conservative woman would struggle trying to adapt to a liberal man.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 06:07 AM
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That’s uncommon. The man being liberal usually causes more issues than if the woman was liberal. Also, are you not interested in marriage?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 06:05 AM
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It’s not that I dislike (most of) them, we’re just not friends. We’re polite and sit around and talk about surface level things because we aren’t really of the same vibe. And when we’re with my friends I’m happy but he’s just faking it with the other guys to make me happy. That’s not fair for him.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 12:13 AM
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Lol if they do break up, I should try to push one of my single friends onto Mike so I can have a built in friend like that. I really want to have one of those couple friends that we can always hang out and both actually enjoy the people.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 12:10 AM
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So are we supposed to ask other couples on dates?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 11:58 PM
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Most of his friends are decent but some of their gfs are just so…stupid. I get it. Your man is perfect. You wanna be a trad wife. We all do. But what do YOU like to do??? What is your identity outside of “Micheal’s future wife?” And yes, she called herself that.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 11:54 PM
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What do you mean by sexually oppressed?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 11:29 PM
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How do you make new friends with other couples? My BF’s friend’s GFs are ok, but I’m not really friends with them. My friend’s BFs don’t have much in common with my BF.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 11:28 PM
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I was today years old when I learned that there was a difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 11:17 PM
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I can see that. Liberal woman/conservative man tends to work out way better than conservative woman/liberal man.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 10:51 PM
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I really appreciate these recaps.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 07:52 PM
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The only scenario I can even think of to consider being polygamous is if a man wanted me to be one of many sugar babies and it did not include sex. Just me and a few other girls rotating weekends spent on his boat stroking his ego for a few hours. Other than that, monogamy.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 07:10 PM
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As a conservative woman, why would I be interested in a liberal man? As soon as I find out he’s liberal I’m turned off relationship wise.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 07:04 PM
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thanks :)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 04:03 PM
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No. I just don’t want bad blood as I try to navigate a better social scene. If they were on a roster, I wouldn’t have rejected them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 04:01 PM
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samosas are similar to an empanada, yes?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 03:42 PM
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Trying to stay under like $50 tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 03:39 PM
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Ordering Indian food for the first time. What should I get? Update: we’ll be ordering lamb bhuna, chicken tikka masala, rice, garlic naan, and samosas.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 03:29 PM
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you should try to make some friends
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 11:23 AM
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If you think you will ever want to get into a relationship one day and you don’t plan on moving away from your current location and social scene, then yes you should probably care.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 10:58 AM
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You’re just wrong. I never understand why y’all get so comfortable telling people what their own thoughts are. Believe what you want but I won’t continue debating this with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 08:52 AM
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I don’t think I need them. I just don’t want there to be any bad blood so I emphasize that. Again, it’s not fear. If someone was really upset about me rejecting them, i wouldn’t care. But if I can prevent a burnt bridge, I will.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 08:27 AM
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You’re making way too many assumptions. I’m not fearful at all. If they are of a better social status and I want to get into that social scene, I’m going to treat them well in case we cross paths again. I don’t want to burn bridges as I try to get to that level.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 08:23 AM
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Reread my statement. I am being polite to everyone. The only difference with men above my league is that I will emphasize wanting to keep a good social connection with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 08:01 AM
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How did you get that from what I said? I literally emphasized that I’m discussing financial and social leagues. This has nothing to do with level of attractiveness.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 07:49 AM
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I want a detailed explanation.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 10:48 PM
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Luke Combs! Taste.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 10:39 PM
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You should have linked with the other outcasts and started your own inner circle.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 10:38 PM
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Below my league and in my league receive standard, polite apologies. Above my league (financially and socially) I’ll be polite but with an emphasis on wanting to keep a positive social connection with them. Don’t wanna burn any bridges as I try to navigate to a better social circle essentially.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 10:29 PM
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I will admit that I often call men “weak” (in private) but that doesn’t mean I lack empathy. I truly feel sorry for soft boys and shy guys. But that doesn’t change the facts. Same way a guy might empathize with an ugly woman and how she’s treated, but that can’t change his lack of attraction to her. Sometimes it just is what it is…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 10:25 PM
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damn. u got it easy
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 08:50 AM
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But many of them are telling her the truth? Just not in a rude way.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 08:41 AM
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sad yet hilarious.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 07:52 AM
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It doesn’t bother you that she slept with someone who was married? Or was he not married at the time?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 07:51 AM
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Are you saying she never dated anyone before you? Or are you correlating n count to number of exes because you’re thinking only from a sexual pov?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 07:49 AM
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Is that all you care about?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 12:35 AM
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That’s nice, but you need to get more money outta him for sure lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 12:34 AM
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You don’t feel insecure being less attractive than her? Did you like him while he was dating her?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 12:33 AM
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In any area, but I realize men usually think of sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 12:32 AM
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We definitely need a more detailed of explanation of why she was afraid of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 12:19 AM
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I don’t. Women want to be desired more than men do, crave stability, and are more pressured to be in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 12:16 AM
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Q4A: Do you mentally compete with your partner’s exes? Is there anything your partner could do to make you feel less urges to compare yourself?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 12:14 AM
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People believe that men want relationships more than women? Delusional.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 11:53 PM
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I work up at 2:30 so definitely wasn’t about to exercise lol. But good for you! Morning workouts are great energy boosters.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 11:37 AM
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Fell asleep super early so now I’m up super early. I’m turning into my mother.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 08:46 AM
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It’s a pretty accurate interpretation actually. It’s just not as theatrical irl. Being alone with random man, you engage but in the back of your mind think of how to get out of this if things go bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 08:42 AM
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Yes I know that everyone wants to be wanted to an extent, but that desire is more for women. Though modern men are craving women’s desire more than previous generations mostly due to feminization of men and the fact that women can now provide for themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 08:29 AM
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I only aim for more traditional relationships so the type of men I’m referring to may not be like you. And I don’t care for the AFBB ideal for other reasons, but I don’t think that applies here. BB usually refers to financial giving or long romantic gestures before commitment. If anyone was going to want their ego stroked for completing a physical task that a woman can’t, it would be an “alpha.”
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 01:39 AM
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lol most of us do. don’t beat your up. just do better next time :)
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 01:33 AM
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Why the hardest to lock down?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 11:47 PM
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Confidence, assertiveness, and knowing exactly what you want is attractive to me. And of course I want to be desired. I want to be wanted. Men tend to want to be needed while women want to be wanted. Of course nobody wants a partner who will literally fall over and die without them, but these dynamics are important. Those little moments of the guy being needed make him feel good. Having to carry the heavy item because she can’t and being thanked for it, boost his ego. For women it’s usually the …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 11:41 PM
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That one sided traditionalism is corny and irrational imo. Don’t entertain those women.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 11:22 PM
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Lol so true on the mom thing! If im the one driving I start losing respect for him quick.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 11:15 PM
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Early 20s. I’ve always tried to make things work because I become very attached in relationships. Like most women, i crave stability. But when I realize something isn’t working after I’ve tried my best, im done. Especially if the other person did something wrong or did nothing. I’m out. Current bf puts in a lot of effort and is a great guy. That makes me want to put my best foot forward and prepare myself as well. He’s a bit older though so he’s at a different point in life. He has a career, dat…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 11:12 PM
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Was looking for advice on fashion and walking more elegantly. Started going down the (superficial) femininity rabbit hole. Somehow ended up on seduction tips and then pink pill content. Learned about red and blue pills soon after.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 10:59 PM
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Why not?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 10:50 PM
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I don’t believe in initiating. I want a man who will lead me. I need him to be assertive.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 10:47 PM
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If neither of us did anything wrong we just broke up, I’d give it back. If he did something very wrong like cheating or hit me, I’m keeping it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 10:44 PM
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I’m answering this from a women’s perspective so advice to men is biased already, but I still disagree. Women know what women want. I think we also give more detailed answers for different types of women. Men know what women sometimes like, but the perspective is usually shortsighted. Men seem to give more standard advice that doesn’t work for different types of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 03:06 PM
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Women
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 02:42 PM
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Easily 1. I like shopping too, but having debt and buying frivolous things is just ridiculous. I’ll take the lump sum with the steady job guy. We can buy land, build our dream house, and start a nice life.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 01:06 AM
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I stereotype them as soft, weak, and think they are better than others.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 01:00 AM
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Yup
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 12:59 AM
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When most people outside the UK think British accent they don’t think Scottish. We think pip pip cheerio and all that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 12:59 AM
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Ok?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 04:27 PM
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Thanks for the responses. 💗
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 04:05 PM
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Follow up question. Checked your history and you say you want to be a trad wife. As do I. We’re also the same age. Do you not worry about marrying someone your own age (or slightly younger for you)? Also idk your fiancé or his financial situation, but is he able to completely provide for you and a baby at this point?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 03:54 PM
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I used to do yoga regularly before I switched to pilates, but it was always majority women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 03:43 PM
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Off topic but how old is your fiancé and how long did you date before engagement?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 03:41 PM
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Don’t you have oven mits?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 03:40 PM
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Scottish, Australian, Venezuelan, Dominican, Puerto Rica, and Nigerian are most attractive to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 02:42 PM
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I never understood this. I always found the British accent to be a major turn-off.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 02:17 PM
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Most people want to explore the extreme at times. Men want to enjoy violence. Women want to enjoy emotionality and dramatics from time to time. Not uncommon at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 11:28 AM
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In my experience, men respond better to feminine qualities when it comes to confrontation because masculine qualities get read as a challenge. Many men don’t want to be challenged by a woman, especially not their partner. Is this untrue for you? Also I don’t think trad wives were masculine at all in that way. I think we just have a more balanced relationship with our men. They are the rock that keeps our feminine wiles from spiraling lol. Also many of us were raised or just learned to be appeali…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 11:18 AM
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Are you male or female?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 11:08 AM
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Do you not worry about dealing with a masculine woman in arguments or confrontation ?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 11:05 AM
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Ex: Nurturing. We have kids. I am the primary nurturer. He also gets moments of nurturing with the kids, but he primarily is the one who pushes them to explore new things, wrestles with them and teaches them toughness, or disciplines them when they do wrong. Leave the coddling to me lol. Ex: Gentleness. He should be gentle when holding a baby or when telling me something that’s hard to hear, but I don’t want him to be soft or weak overall. He needs to have a strong protective instinct when it co…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 10:58 AM
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Masculinity is extremely important to me. Protectiveness, provision, discipline, dominance, strength, logical thinking, etc. all mean so much to me when finding a partner. The feminine traits that are acceptable in men are gentleness, nurturing, and patience. These can be used for specific moments with me or with our future children (also with the elderly), but not all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 10:47 AM
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This is the most accurate explanation I’ve seen.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 09:23 PM
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He doesn’t hunt for fun. He hunts for dinner. He doesn’t kill anything that he doesn’t eat. The innocence of animals doesn’t mean much to us. We’re not vegans. He believes in killing as humanely as possible, but animals are food at the end of the day.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 03:28 PM
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Everyone has a different idea of romance, but yes. Some girls are thinking of a prince on a white horse. Some think of the star football player running to her after the big game. Some think of the romantic Italian man cooking her a meal and rose petals being all over the floor. I usually think of my strong hairy lumberjack type man kicking some guy’s butt for being a jerk to me or something lol. Also forehead kisses and flowers xD
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 03:20 PM
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Where’s the fun in that for him? Where’s the attraction I’m that for me?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 03:17 PM
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Thinking about being desired and pursued by a man…also hobbies. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 02:10 PM
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BF shot a buck with his family yesterday and they’re gonna cook it up. He’s bringing me some too!! Yeah, I’m winning! ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 01:44 PM
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Women originally became masculine because men became either feminine or toxically masculine.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 01:27 PM
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Very attractive. It just ties into my need for a man that is very protective. I need a man who would be willing to do anything to protect me and our family.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 01:25 PM
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All the food is ready but I can’t eat bc these people want to work out. 🙄 If they exercised regularly plus an intense workout routine a month before the holidays like I do they wouldn’t be rushing this! How is doing an intense workout just a couple hours before you eat 3000 calorie meals for the next week gonna save you from getting fat?!?!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 03:32 PM
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I’m also in a red state so I understand. But I am in college in a city and I’m mostly around people in their 20s. So there is quite an interesting division. And for you, yes, I can definitely see your problem. Before I was conservative (I was in a more rural-suburban area but still red state) I noticed how a lot of the leftist people around me were very progressive. Not a lot of center left. I think being in an area opposite of your beliefs often makes people want to be more extreme. Liberal are…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 03:26 PM
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Men like women, especially young women. More young women are liberal than conservative so sometimes conservative men find liberal women attractive. Not because they are liberal, because they are women. Conservative men actually love young conservative women (ex: Tomi Lahren) but there are less of them. I believe conservative young women will continue to be some of the most sought after (for relationships) because they are becoming more rare as our politics get more divisive. When guys found out …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 12:14 PM
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Good Morning and Happy Thanksgiving to my fellow Americans!! 🍁🧅🥕🍞🍗🥔🍠🥧🦃🍂
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 12:04 PM
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I don’t see this as much in Hallmark. Usually the original bf is emotionally neglectful while the other guy is more attentive to the woman and what she needs in life and romantically.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 02:49 PM
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Makes them more attractive to me
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 02:13 PM
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I ate them first thing in the morning so I think that helped. If I’d eaten later idk if I could’ve finished them.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 02:09 PM
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Right! He’s a big, strong guy but he caves so easily when I call him that. It’s adorable :)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 01:25 AM
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I call my boyfriend babe/baby, honey, sweetie, bubby, and occasionally daddy just to tease him. He also eats a lot so I like to call him tubby lol. And this isn’t really a nickname but whenever I say “my man” he smiles and blushes a little bit so I use that a lot. He calls me babe/baby/babygirl, darling, princess, or my favorite which is bunny.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 01:11 AM
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Male or female? How long have you been doing this? How often do you workout?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 11:55 PM
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I assumed it had something to with cholesterol? Or maybe 6 eggs is too much for a woman? Idk tbh, never cared for science lol. But the eggs were fresh. How long have you been eating like this? How often do you workout?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 11:54 PM
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I ate 6 eggs for the first time today. Ate them all in the morning. Boiled and with a little seasoning. My head hurt a little throughout the day, but besides that I feel fine. I wonder how people do this everyday though? Seems a bit overkill.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 11:38 PM
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Training as in exercise?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 11:26 PM
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There is no issue with debating, but some people here thrive on personal attacks, hatred, and over sexualization. It’s not worth it to debate with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 08:29 PM
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Both.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 08:11 PM
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Men are usually expected to be the rock in the relationship. You make her feel secure. She wants to lean on you in life and in physical comfort. I like when a guy rests on me. I find it very cute and loving, but it can’t happen all the time. If he’s always leaning on me it starts to feel like I am the rock, which I dislike. If he does it excessively I may start to view him as soft. Lean on her. Just not more than she leans on you.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 05:58 PM
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I genuinely don’t know what that has to do with standing up for men’s only spaces. Stand up for yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 05:49 PM
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That’s sad. Men deserve to have their own spaces especially when there is a women’s options already available. I wish more of you would stand up for yourselves!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 05:43 PM
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Idk what I’d do in the male position. I recognize that men have some issues that I will never have so I don’t pretend to know what’s best for men. I’m just giving you my best advice. Personally, I don’t care about being labeled by people who lack common sense. I am actively against biologically males invading women’s spaces and get labeled negatively for it even though I personally have nothing against them. Sometimes you have to decide between what’s popular and what’s right. That’s just my opi…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 12:10 PM
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Men “poke fun” at women’s spaces all the time. It’s not rare. And as a man, fight back. Fight for your spaces. Your organizations should be primarily funded by men anyways. If you truly have a non toxic, non harmful/hateful space for men, you should advocate for it. Appeal when it’s wrongly slandered. There is an attack on male and female only spaces overall. People complain but don’t actually try to stop it. You actually have to do something.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 11:51 AM
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Then you should fight back. The same way some of us are trying to fight against biological males invading women’s spaces.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 11:40 AM
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I never said average men were combatting female only spaces. If anything they ignore or make fun of it.And a lot of men’s groups are hateful and misogynistic, but for the ones that are not i see no issue with them. I also don’t see “women writing them off” but if they do who cares? Women do not have to encourage male only spaces the same way that men don’t have to encourage female only spaces. It’s cool if they want to, but overall it only matters that people are respectful.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 11:36 AM
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There’s nothing wrong with male only spaces as long as women can have women only spaces.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 11:22 AM
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No. A person who is against sex work is not supposed to try to make sex work easier. Sex work is tough, that’s why we want it to stop, not just be easier.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 11:19 AM
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You’re reaching. It’s not “evil” to not want yo do things to make sex work easier for them. Why would someone who is anti sex work want to make that occupation easier? And just because we’re not making it easier for them does not mean we’re making it harder for them. The customers and harassers make it hard, the rest of us simply ignore them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 11:11 AM
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Immoral. And most of it isn’t chosen.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 07:48 AM
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Then you’re complacent with sex work. Others are anti sex work. So worrying about the legality and safety is not a factor. Similar to anti abortion.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 04:52 AM
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It’s not that we want them to be unprotected. We just don’t want there to be sex work at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 03:16 AM
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Safety is #1, but making yourself too available is not a good idea. Just a tip.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 07:58 PM
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Yes. Media and fairytales told us that if we were nice, pretty, and just be ourselves that a handsome man would fall for us and come up on a white horse to take us away from our troubles. Providing us with security, love, loyalty and adoration for the rest our lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 06:58 PM
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These are some of the types of men I like the most.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 06:54 PM
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You met someone on hinge and went out with them the same day???
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 06:50 PM
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stoicism is quite attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 06:23 PM
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what if I don’t believe in therapy?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 06:22 PM
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I wouldn’t do that. I’m toxic not mean lol. I just lose respect for them internally. I think emotions should only be shared with people who love you. A girl that you know and are attracted to but not in a relationship with, does not love you. Trauma dumping on random women is weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 06:20 PM
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Honestly, I just hate meatballs on loaf bread. Something about it makes me feel gross. Irrational I know lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 06:16 PM
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Depressing yet humorous. I like your style. Thanks!!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 06:15 PM
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thank you!!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 06:13 PM
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i see no issue with trauma dumping on Reddit. Anonymity makes that acceptable. Trauma dumping irl, embarrassing.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 06:12 PM
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thank you!!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 06:09 PM
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-weak to me -yes I am shaming them -yes in front of me -it’s good to discuss important emotions with your partners or loved ones, but I don’t care for pity parties. that’s just me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 06:07 PM
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that’s more like it!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 06:04 PM
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🤢
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 06:03 PM
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not what I said but interpret as you wish
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 05:58 PM
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Any interesting sub suggestions? Non sexual only please.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 05:57 PM
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Do weak men not feel embarrassed when they start having their pity parties in front of women? 🥺 energy makes me sick!!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 05:47 PM
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My nails grow too fast to maintain fake nails, but I understand the appeal of them. I doubt they’ll go anytime soon.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 05:39 PM
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Why would I fear a man with options? I want him to have options, so when he picks me I feel even better about myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 05:36 PM
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About 1500
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 12:09 PM
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Anybody a believer in the 3 Loves Theory? Have you had those 3 loves or are you still searching?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 10:34 AM
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I do receive flirting and compliments a lot, but there definitely isn’t a harem of men. I don’t really believe in opposite sex friendships (unless they’re gay or a complete outlier—I only have one straight male friend) so after I reject a guy I pretty much cut him off. We may chat if we see each other out and about, but I don’t purposely keep men around that I know want me. I’ve lost respect for men who wait around like that. Despite this, I do believe I could have sex whenever I want though. I …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 10:29 AM
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Respectfully, what does this have to do with my point?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 09:15 PM
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It wasn’t implied that he would be ugly, just that I wouldn’t be sexually attracted to him. So as long as he’s just average and not repulsive to look at I’d be fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 09:05 PM
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Tall, broad shoulders, big hands, and dark hair. Hairiness is subjective, but I love it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 08:13 PM
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I disagree. Men aren’t happy with ugly women. They would just rather have a warm body than be alone. Women on the other hand tend to rather be alone than be with a man they don’t like (non physically).
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 05:18 PM
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lol guess I’m not based
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 05:16 PM
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Disagree
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 04:39 PM
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I don’t think there will ever be an actual flip making fat or slutty women the standard in western society, but I do agree that it continues to become more normalized as many men simply can’t afford the type of women they actually desire.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 04:39 PM
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Depends on how desperate the man is. If he truly needs her financially and will die without her then he’ll likely settle. May cheat though. If he makes average or greater money, no he’ll still want be with someone attractive. Women will always be held to a higher looks standard because looks are usually #1 on the list when men seek women.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 04:30 PM
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Yes. -45 & 32. Married 4 years. 2 kids. Seem happy. -35 & 24. Newlyweds. He makes great money. She’s hot. Probably only married because she got pregnant. -42 & 22. Purely sugar relationship. The others are older people.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 04:25 PM
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gay
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 03:50 PM
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B. As long as he’s decent looking I’ll be fine. If he’s not attracted to me, I couldn’t take it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 02:49 PM
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It’s in the relationship contract. Read the fine print.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 01:30 PM
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I think jealousy and protectiveness is very attractive as long as it’s not overdone. I don’t do tests, but if a situation came up where a guy should be jealous and he isn’t I’d be upset.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 09:55 PM
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What’s the age range?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 07:18 PM
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Yes 2. Yes, but I would ask. 3. Absolutely I am in college. Went on a couple dates with a guy my freshman year (his senior). He told me he had experimented with a guy his freshman year and realized it wasn’t for him. I was already losing interest in him a little bit, but that was the nail in the coffin. I realized then that I should ask directly about people’s sexuality/sexual history and to be more blunt about my values so it’s no surprise to them that it’s unacceptable to me. Especially with o…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 07:13 PM
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I have too much pride to outright ask lol but I’m working on it. He always fulfills his duties and makes me happy so I’d just wanna do the same for him. :) And dw, I was just looking for opinions from non biased parties. Wouldn’t ruin a good relationship over breakfast preferences lol
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 04:39 PM
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Mutual kindness. Very cute :)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 04:07 PM
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Not judging you. Just taking note of the fact that you do not actually believe in traditional relationships which likely has an affect of your answer for a traditional scenario.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 04:04 PM
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The “not hold it against me later” is really important. Didn’t even think about that. I appreciate your input.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 03:58 PM
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Not entitlement. I’m the one who wants to wake up to cook in this scenario. He doesn’t like that idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 03:53 PM
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Not really an oats type of a guy. He’s an eggs & meat man. 😤💪🏽
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 03:42 PM
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Aren’t u a 50/50 guy tho?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 03:39 PM
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That’s how I feel. But he thinks differently.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 03:35 PM
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Eat the wings. Don’t eat the rolls. OR Eat everything but only eat one meal that day plus a light snack.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 03:32 PM
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Help settle a debate with my bf… Q4M: If you were married and worked 5-6 days a week leaving at around 5:30-6:30am every morning (and your wife is a homemaker/sahm), would you expect/want her to wake up and make you breakfast every morning before work?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 03:28 PM
2

I can’t date a man who accepts women paying for him. And I wouldn’t accept anything material from a random man while having a bf. It’s greenlighting his flirting imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 03:12 PM
1

You can eat chicken wings and still lose weight. Just cut back on other stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 03:07 PM
3

I’d be very turned off.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 09:41 PM
3

I keep myself up already so maybe just make some minor improvements. Still gotta be the hot one yk lol. But if all guys started wearing suits everywhere I’d be upset. Will there be any normal men left?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 02:19 PM
2

no
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 12:58 PM
1

Projecting?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 06:58 AM
3

Not at all. I don’t really care what his career is as long as it’s not immoral or going to negatively affect our family. He’s making a lot of money and can provide so I have no complaints. I’ll still give him comfort and support of course because I’m sure he’ll being down mentally. But personally, no, it doesn’t change anything for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 01:01 PM
5

Make it clear from the get go. Don’t waste time with people who are confused or unsure. Plenty of women want families, especially the ones your age.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 12:55 PM
1

Very. If he doesn’t want to be a provider, we’re incompatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 12:50 PM
1

It’s not bad. Just doesn’t do anything for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 11:41 AM
10

lol sorry to the blonde men. I just never found it attractive. It’s almost a turn off
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 05:20 PM
15

Abs, blonde hair, overly friendly extroverted personality, and men in suits.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 05:15 PM
1

I try to get it out before the date, but if it’s kind of a quick decision I don’t mind discussing it on the date in a direct or indirect way. If we’re incompatible, that’s fine. We wasted a little bit of time but definitely not as much as we would if we’d waited until we started catching actual feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 01:16 AM
4

The good guy does what’s right. The bad boy does what’s best for us (me). Also the bad boy usually just has more confidence and easily displayed masculine traits.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 07:19 PM
0

Do I think most men are ugly, no. But do I think most men are good looking, definitely not. Most men are on some spectrum of average (average plain, slightly above average, slightly below average.) A smaller amount are good looking. A much smaller amount are just completely ugly. I think most women are decent looking. Most people are still on the average spectrum, but the difference is that women usually put much more effort into their appearance and the fact that men are just inherently more at…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 07:17 PM
22

I don’t believe in wasting people’s time so I’m pretty quick to cut people off. Get the hard questions out in the open early. If you want 50/50 and I want traditional, bye. If you don’t want kids and I want 4, bye. No I don’t wanna stick around to get to know you. If we’re incompatible, I’m out. There’s no reason to stick around and catch feelings just to inevitably break up over something we knew would never work.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 02:10 PM
2

C’s get degrees
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 04:58 AM
1

I enjoy painting, embroidery, cake decorating, and animating
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 01:09 PM
0

If you were with the right person, would you want more kids or are you done?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 01:28 AM
0

Anyone here a single father?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 01:18 AM
2

I mostly feel the same way tbh. If you have actual trauma then of course therapy is fine. But regular people who have more everyday stresses are wasting their money.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 01:01 AM
0

I think my most prominent masculine trait is that I actively refuse therapy, and that I workout instead of talking about my deeper feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 08:02 PM
2

To sleep, yes. In public, no.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 07:53 PM
16

Misogyny. Most of us have some type of gender bias ingrained from a young age so you have to be reasonable with your expectations of people, especially towards men. Dating the type of men I date (usually more traditional, religious, and some level of country) I expect certain levels of misogyny. Stating literal facts such as women are weaker than men, don’t bother me at all. Mild teasing doesn’t affect me either. (Ex: my ex would say things such as “go fix my plate woman.”) I see nothing wrong w…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 01:55 PM
1

-be polite to everyone especially staff -open doors for me and pull out my chair -don’t bring up inappropriate topics at dinner -pay the bill and tip well -do not touch me inappropriately
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 12:03 PM
7

I actually agree that it’s not a purely sexual transaction. When most people think of a sexual transaction, it’s x amount of money and a hotel room. They have sex and then leave. Most sugar relationships are not like this. It’s just a transaction that often (not always) includes sex. They actually set out guidelines. The man may offer money, gifts, and trips while the woman offers being beautiful, quality time for a certain number of days per week, being his arm candy at special events, and sex …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 03:46 PM
13

I wouldn’t really consider these people friends, but I’m in college so I know a few girls who do it. I’ve had people offer before and had girls suggest that I try it. It kind of goes against my morals now, but at like 19 I used to consider it if it was non sexual. I think lots of women would be open to it if they didn’t have to have sex with the guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 02:36 PM
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For me, approach is usually the number 1. I don’t mind cold approaches at all as long as I’m not busy, but you still have to do it with some manners. I don’t like pet names from men I don’t know. Saying “hey baby” (or something similar) automatically makes me less interested. You don’t even know me yet. Or If I’m sitting at a table alone, don’t just come sit with me. Ask me if you can sit down.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 02:31 PM
1

love that xD
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 02:08 PM
1

Lol I just assumed. I used to work retail and I’d be walking miles through the store. And a sign installer? How did come to find that job? Of course someone has to put up signs, but that honestly never in my life even crossed my mind as an occupation.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 11:47 PM
1

Do you work retail?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 11:37 PM
1

Til I Collapse
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 01:59 AM
3

I consider myself an above average pickle lover. I usually eat a couple a day, but i never drink the pickle juice. I always assumed we were all pickle obsessors to some degree. I’ve never met another woman who disliked pickles.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 06:25 PM
1

I’ll be sure to use more adjectives in the future xD
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 02:41 PM
3

You brought up abortion not me, so what’s your point? Of course I know women in the US face issues. I wasn’t implying that they don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 01:48 PM
1

Interesting that I’m being asked to prove myself when it’s feminists job to help women, not mine lol. But since you asked: -I frequently volunteer with my mom at a boarding school that hosts girls from underprivileged countries -specifically making donations of feminine products for disaster relief post major hurricanes -i volunteer as an assistant teacher for a self defense class at my university. We teach to college girls and for girls at local high schools -I networked with a representative f…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 07:05 AM
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Or I don’t believe in murdering children simply for your own convenience
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 06:48 AM
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Correct! All the energy modern feminism puts into making women manly and men effeminate should go into other areas. Women around the world are facing real problems, yet modern feminists are more concerned with stupid stuff like being able to take your top off in public.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 02:37 AM
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Agreed. We as a society are doing everything we can to go against the natural order. Men and women are not the same. We are complimentary. We need to stop trying to be “equal”.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 02:24 AM
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thank you!!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 02:12 AM
1

Old limbs…ya know, tree limbs. Did you think I was talking about horror movies or something lol? And that’s great! There are less and less people under 30 (I’m assuming you are) who want that lifestyle. We’re in the minority lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 09:14 PM
1

Thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 08:48 PM
1

Love them.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 06:25 PM
1

I disagree, but social media has definitely made people have unreasonable standards and less motivated to find meaningful relationship for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 06:18 PM
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Not at all. These are more me: https://www.pinterest.com/pin/743938432216320701/ https://www.pinterest.com/pin/211174975105072/ https://www.pinterest.com/pin/13299761392631628/ https://www.pinterest.com/pin/736197870352824321/ https://www.pinterest.com/pin/215187688436558205/
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 06:11 PM
1

Gotcha. I usually say that or allude to it . No point in wasting anyone’s time if we aren’t compatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 05:00 PM
1

Definitely not. Only the second pic if I’m golfing and happen to not have a tennis skirt available.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 04:57 PM
1

Care to elaborate?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 04:53 PM
1

Risk is a part of dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 04:53 PM
1

You said you hadn’t dated for a long time so I didn’t know if you were like 30 or like 60 lol. Dating standards were different in different decades. But the 90s and feminism had a huge impact on dating standards and “equality”. And early 2000s had a big media push for the “cool girl”. Essentially the less hyper feminine women who is more chill to be around for men (but still happens to be conventional attractive while dating average men haha). Standards for the everyday male were lowered basical…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 04:50 PM
1

Interesting perspective. Is your goal to have a 50/50 relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 04:43 PM
1

I also look for traditional relationships, but I’ve never dated a traditional guy who wouldn’t pay for everything in the dating stage because dating sets the standards for relationships. As well as just trying to impress lol. I find it interesting that you feel that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 04:41 PM
1

Honestly, most of what women offer traditionally comes after marriage. Men sacrifice more beforehand and women sacrifice more in the relationship. But I do try to exhibit some of the feminine relationship qualities in dating. Simple examples such as agreeableness and supportiveness. Then in situational instances you can drop in some of those qualities such as straightening up/mildly decorating a guy’s apartment, babysitting his niece, cooking meals for him and his guests. You just get a few mild…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 04:39 PM
1

There are primary parts that the vast majority of each sex is attracted to and there are niche parts. Most things are niche. And what makes you think the woman you’ve dated genuinely like your butt?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 04:34 PM
1

You don’t think dates set the standard for relationships though? I only do traditional relationships and part of the way I determine if someone is relationship worthy is how he moves while dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 04:31 PM
1

That definitely makes sense
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 04:30 PM
1

Entitlement doesn’t stop you from perusing her though?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 04:29 PM
1

Nice, thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 04:28 PM
1

Yes I do. I actually would never get married unless I could be a sahm. Being single is better than 50/50 besides lack of protection and no one to help me raise kids tbh. I want the man to work and pay for everything. He should be the protector and primary disciplinarian of the children. He should also be responsible for outside chores such as getting rid of old limbs or car maintenance. I want to be a sahm, raise kids, cook, clean, garden, run errands, etc. My primary responsibility would be to …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 04:27 PM
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I understand. The masculinization of women and the feminization of men has made most things more difficult. The sad part for men is that though more of you want to be desired, women still aren’t as physically attracted to men as men are to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 04:22 PM
1

👑 thank you is definitely a requirement!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 04:19 PM
2

If you’re talking about men we actually want, I think it has more to do with societal standards tbh. We don’t want to look desperate and get used. Even women who enjoy casual sex tend to want to feel like he earned it to an extent.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 04:18 PM
1

As one of those women, this made me laugh
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 04:17 PM
1

Interesting. If you don’t mind answering, what decade were you primarily dating in?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 04:11 PM
1

I’m not attracted to women. And I commented this to someone else but I’m not including facially, that’s pretty even. Hands are attractive on a man, but that’s more niche which is why I didn’t mention that or other niches such as female feet lol. The the majority of women aren’t actually very attracted to men’s butts and legs imo. Those type of things are more of a play/mocking of men’s comments about us. Though of course there are people who genuinely like them. Abs and arms are the things that …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 04:08 PM
1

Interesting. What if it’s after the 1st date. Any opinions?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 04:03 PM
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I’m not emasculating men. I’m just stating that wanting your partner to desire you is a traditionally feminine trait. This is due to more inherent gender differences and traditionally women depending on men.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 03:59 PM
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I expect men to pay because I believe in more traditional relationships where the man should be a provider. I do have my own money. I work lol. It’s not about fairness to me. It’s about compatibility. More traditional masculine and feminine roles balance things out.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 03:57 PM
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Oof. If you offer to split, I’d probably do it though. If I ever pay it means I don’t plan on seeing you again so I won’t waste your money lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 03:54 PM
1

Lol wouldn’t bother me because I want to be more traditional anyways. But I’m assuming your preference is 50/50?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 03:52 PM
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Q4M who like women to offer to pay… What goes through your mind when I don’t offer to pay for dates? Edit: I should have made this a post. I’m getting way more comments than I thought I would lol
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 03:49 PM
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It’s not really about being scared. Men tend to take any compliment from a decent to attractive looking woman as flirtation. We don’t wanna start something we can’t finish tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 03:45 PM
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I find it interesting too. Men now seem so concerned with how physically attracted a woman is to them. That’s normally a more feminine concern. As long as a woman thinks you look decent, likes your personality, and respects you that really should be enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 03:42 PM
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Why? I think it just shows they want to appeal to women by having something cute and dependent in their life.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 02:27 PM
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Women crave stability, comfort, and protection which relationships bring. At a certain age societal pressure also plays a role. You don’t get many benefits from casual sex. Most guys aren’t giving money, comfort, or protection to hookups. There is no stability at all. Casual sex is worse for women because they are risking pregnancy with a man who does not want them. Also casual sex is usually more enjoyable for men because women are less likely to orgasm.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 02:19 PM
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Twisting my beard is a hilarious phrase and imagery!! I love it. And I’ve mostly dated people middle class or upper middle. Though the lack of neatness for men was similar for the below middle class men I know as well. Actually, regular middle class men are most neat in my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 09:05 AM
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I’m on a high horse, how? Also where is evidence of my alleged misandry?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 07:17 AM
1

What kid wants pencils for Halloween??? That’s hilarious!!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 05:39 AM
1

Please. I’m the only girl, yet I was the least expensive child. I have the right to complain lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 05:38 AM
1

Obviously it’s not a necessity. Necessities are food, water, and shelter. Anything outside of that is just an enhancement. Men don’t need these items, but bringing certain items in can boost the quality of life. The point is that men don’t even realize the importance of this items and how much they improve things. If you don’t like it though, that’s fine for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 05:36 AM
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No because they don’t think of it. That’s my point. Women think to implement things that many men don’t even think about until it’s there.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 05:25 AM
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When you move out of your parents’ house that’s when they want to start being all generous. I asked my parents did they pass out candy for the trick or treaters and they said they gave out full sized candy bars, caprisuns, and cupcakes!! Where was this energy when I was a kid?! xD
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 05:24 AM
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Why is this hard? As a woman, I literally just touch anytime I want so I genuinely don’t understand. I get not wanting to be creepy, but activating simple tough seems easy imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 05:17 AM
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Does the older guy just look younger than 40 or younger than me?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 05:15 AM
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Idk what to tell you. Search harder? They’re definitely there. Research babe.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 05:12 AM
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Frightened is a reach. It’s not about being scared. It’s more of just a turn off. And as a woman, you should assume every man is a misogynist until proven otherwise tbh. Every man has a certain degree of misogyny within himself. You just gotta decide how much you’re willing to put up with.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 05:10 AM
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Not really. Majority of women still prefer to be outside the home so they can be independent. Also a lot of women are masculinized now and truly hate doing feminine and domestic work. This coming from someone who does want to be a sahm and gets a lot of pushback for it lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 04:51 AM
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If you date women who are into that type of decor that’s on you lol. But men often comment about how women bring new items in to improve the household that they don’t even think of.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 04:48 AM
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feel free to look it up
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 04:46 AM
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If your comment was directed at the group, she likely found it awkward as well. If you’re directing it at her just with others listening, there’s a better chance she found it cute. But social pressure overrides cuteness for a lot of people sadly.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 12:30 AM
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Kittens, puppies, and dogs is cute. (No licking though.) Other pets not so much.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 12:16 AM
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I think it has a lot to do with the setting. In a 1 on 1 setting Woman A finds a man’s nervousness awkward while Woman B finds it endearing. But in a group setting, Woman B might perceive him as more awkward due to social pressure.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 12:12 AM
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Disagree, but even if you aren’t attracted to it on a specific women men are still attracted to these parts in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 10:40 PM
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You have a very cynical view of men
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 10:39 PM
1

I commented this to someone else but I’m not including facially, that’s pretty even. And hands are attractive on a man, but that’s more niche which is why I didn’t mention that or other niches such as female feet lol. And the majority of women aren’t actually very attracted to men’s butts and legs imo. Those type of things are more of a play/mocking of men’s comments about us. Though of course there are people who genuinely like them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 10:38 PM
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sure, but the female form is still seen as more attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 10:35 PM
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What do men typically offer visually: arms, abs What do women offer visually: boobs, butt, hips, and abs if you’re into that
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 09:42 PM
5

When did I say anything about who has the most sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 09:40 PM
1

Of course. I mean the birder of chores being done for another adult.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 09:40 PM
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I don’t mean facially and with makeup. I mean below the neck.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 09:39 PM
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Not saying men ask for these things, but it’s often appreciated. Headboards, throw pillows, etc. It makes a difference when you’re used to just having a recliner and a PS5 lol
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 09:38 PM
2

Hopefully you’ll achieve those next year :)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 09:36 PM
1

With a man they usually do.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 09:34 PM
1

That’s your experience, not the collective.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 09:34 PM
1

Sure. Doesn’t change the fact that women appreciate a built in bodyguard lol
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 03:52 PM
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That’s not the point. With no man in the house, women don’t have to clean up after another adult. Less domestic labor essentially.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 03:47 PM
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She is safer with a man in house if an intruder breaks in. He’s her main line of defense.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 03:46 PM
1

Two things can be true
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 03:45 PM
1

What was it?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 03:45 PM
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Desperate ones yes, but women’s bodies simply have more to offer visually and sexually than men’s.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 03:44 PM
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Men are more attracted to women’s bodies than women are to men’s bodies. It’s really that simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 03:37 PM
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You can look up studies on women doing more housework. You can use common sense. You can talk to 50/50 divorcees. It’s just factual. Women are simply held to higher standards domestically. Frankly, you’re just wrong but I won’t keep trying to change your mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 02:13 PM
1

Nice. You still have time. Good luck!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 02:03 PM
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It definitely is lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 02:02 PM
2

2 months until 2023. Have you completed any of your 2022 resolutions?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 01:56 PM
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In traditional households women do all of the domestic work. In modern 50/50 households women are primarily responsible for domestic work and the emotional labor of it. Husbands are not working as hard domestically as wives. That’s one of the biggest issues with 50/50 relationships for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 01:41 PM
2

um, what?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 01:39 PM
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Lucky you, but most women do bear the majority of the domestic responsibility as well as the emotional labor of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 01:38 PM
1

Correct on both points.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 01:36 PM
0

What did you say? I wanted to see it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 01:34 PM
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let me see the comments before y’all delete them 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 01:32 PM
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I don’t think it’s very solvable for the average man. One of the biggest benefits men get in marriage is someone else being responsible for the domestic chores. As well as making the house into a home scenario. Average guys can’t afford a maid or interior decorator. And I think women will be happier not cleaning up after someone else, but less happy in other areas such as lack of protection and provision.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 05:34 AM
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If you don’t want kids simply disregard that information. But I believe children are best in households with both parents present. Intruders vs domestic violence is not a good comparison at all so I won’t even argue that lol. But the point with intruders is that without the man in the house, the woman doesn’t have the built in protector that she would if he was in the home.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 05:30 AM
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Do I think I have? No. Do people tell me I do? Yes. Reasons: -I expect men to lead and initiate. -I don’t encourage men to cry or share their feelings -I don’t date bisexual men or men who dress femininely at all. -I believe it’s a man’s responsibility to provide (pay for everything) and protect
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 05:10 AM
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It’s better for women then men because it means the woman isn’t required to do domestic work. The women gets less protection than she would with a live in spouse though. Also cheating will be much easier for both parties especially the men. And this arrangement is not good if you have children.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 04:56 AM
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It will be more attainable for women who are naturally skinny, yes. They will need to wear waist trainers or build a little muscle to boost the appearance of their shoulders and hips in order to elude to a smaller waist. Women who are average will struggle. We may see a slight rise in anorexia and bulimia, hopefully not ofc. For average women, it’s likely easier to build lower muscles than shrink your stomach past a certain point due to natural female anatomy, fat distribution, and lower body mu…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 12:34 AM
0

Pretty much. Friends should have no other intentions except friendship imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 12:13 AM
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Yes. It’s mainly due to the 20 year fashion cycle. We’re reverting to early 2000s fashion which means more people will want bodies that will allow them to wear low rise jeans and y2k fashion and such. We’ll be seeing more imitation Kendalls as opposed to Kylies and Kim’s.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 10:29 PM
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I don’t like when guys have many female friends in the first place. But if he’s slept with them then they are not friends. I don’t believe in being friends with people you are attracted to or if they are attracted to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 10:23 PM
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absolutely
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 10:20 PM
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That would be great, but it’s not a requirement. We should be friends though.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 10:09 PM
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It’s not.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 05:19 AM
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Going to someone’s house for a date is unacceptable.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 05:19 AM
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It’s really not. Children do it. Coworkers do it. When you’re making a new friend you do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 05:18 AM
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That’s really not that much work at all, especially as a guy. It’s just more effort than going for ice cream.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 05:16 AM
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The key to being cheap is to put in more effort. ex: picnics
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 02:00 AM
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Pretty much. Also, we just need to do more.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 01:53 AM
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I love ice cream, but I wouldn’t go on an ice cream only date tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 01:46 AM
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I’d like to still be attractive tho
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 01:08 AM
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You can get height lengthening surgery. Can you get height shortening surgery?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 12:08 AM
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goals fr
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 09:35 PM
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For sure, a lot of people get into psychology at first to figure out what’s wrong with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 09:34 PM
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I do care about her a lot. I love her. I’m not trying to make her the bad guy, but It just hurts ig. I love our friendship, but knowing she has feelings for me makes me feel like a tease and that I’d just be hurting her. Knowing that every time I’ve changed in front of her she was probably thinking inappropriate thoughts makes me uncomfortable. I honestly have no idea what to do about this.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 09:32 PM
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Maybe, but what did she expect me to do with this information?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 03:20 PM
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But she knows that’s a dealbreaker for me so she knows telling me that would end the close friendship. I see it as one of those forced heartbreak things. Heads, I like her back and we explore a relationship. Tails, I break her heart and it forces her to move on. It may be extreme, but it’s an efficient strategy imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 02:54 PM
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I find it unethical to be close friends with someone who has feelings or a sexual desire for you. But she knows this, so by telling me she has feelings for me she’s pretty much giving me two options: reciprocate her feelings or end the friendship If she wanted to still be friends she would’ve just told me she was gay. There would be adjustments, but it wouldn’t be a dealbreaker at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 01:08 PM
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I think she’s had plenty of time to stop crushing tbh. We’ve been friends for over 3 years. She said she always found me attractive, but she actually developed feelings for me about 6 months into the friendship when we went on a trip together.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 12:57 PM
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I don’t believe in being close friends with people who are attracted to you. She knows this. So by telling me she likes me she pretty much is making me choose to like her back or end the friendship. If she wanted to stay friends, she would’ve just told me she was gay.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 12:49 PM
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Yeah I can’t help but be a little mad at her, but I know this must have been really hard for her to keep hidden from me for so long.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 12:43 PM
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Primarily me. I find it unethical to be close friends with someone who has feelings or a sexual desire for you. But she knows this, so by telling me she has feelings for me she’s pretty much giving me two options: reciprocate her feelings or end the friendship If she wanted to still be friends she would’ve just told me she was gay. There would be adjustments, but it wouldn’t be a dealbreaker at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 12:36 PM
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My friend has confessed to me that she’s gay and that she has had a crush on me for sometime. I’m about to lose a good friend and it sucks!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 12:00 PM
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If “the look” means being a diet version of a celebrity then I’d say no. It’s a lot better to just try to look like your best self. Also, is the Weeknd considered very attractive now? He looks like a regular guy besides having nice new teeth. Maybe slightly above average facially. And I’ve definitely never heard any other women say anything positive about his looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 11:36 PM
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thanks, i never would have guessed that tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 10:10 PM
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Interesting. Does he actually have to beat you for you to have negative feelings about him is the the potential/likelihood that he’s better than you enough?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 09:58 PM
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Is there a male equivalent of women disliking other women purely because they are more attractive than them?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 09:35 PM
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Feelings and behaviors biologically and socially attributed to women. Examples: nurturing, beauty/beautifying, submissiveness, emotional, supportive, creative, receiving, alluring, expressive, magnetic, empathetic, and often driven by feelings
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 01:02 PM
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I like honesty. I just don’t like rudeness. Tone is important.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 07:04 PM
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Energy can be swapped with traits in this context. Masculine/feminine is based on biology and traditional societal expectations. Women leading men is a relatively new concept in western society. Historically women were not permitted/fitted to lead men.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 07:00 PM
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If you can’t be loyal and honest to the person you love and are committed to, why would I think you would be loyal and honest towards me? Hard pass.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 06:50 PM
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imo yes because it goes against our nature.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 06:47 PM
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You do understand that everyone has masculine/feminine energy within them correct? It’s just that men are primarily masculine and women are primarily feminine. Everyone has to tap in to the other energy at some point. And women being leaders of their children or other women was obviously common practice, but women leading men is a relatively new concept.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 06:47 PM
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Yes, the hormonal changes we’re seeing due to food is so scary to me. Also us societally backing these changes in masculine/feminine nature makes it worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 12:00 PM
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Aggressive is kin to assertive if that makes it more clear, though physical aggressiveness has it’s place sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 11:58 AM
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Career life focuses on leadership and assertiveness which are masculine traits. Not wanting to raise children goes against our nurturing feminine nature.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 11:55 AM
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thank you!!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 11:51 AM
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If you don’t like my beliefs that’s fine, but you can keep it to yourself thanks. I don’t go out of my way to be negative towards you about your beliefs even though I disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 11:49 AM
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Men are feminizing heavily. Women are masculinizing. It’s just not getting the same pushback as men because women in power is seen as “progressive.” More women don’t want or care to raise children, we’re being less submissive, many of us struggle to receive, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 10:34 AM
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Gotta disagree, from my own experience and others.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 10:28 AM
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Masculinity isn’t ugly, but it is more aggressive and dominant yes. Also other traits such as logical, protective, leadership, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 10:25 AM
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Women who want men to be feminine usually just want him to express his feelings more. Men who want more masculine women usually have certain sexual desires or they need help providing financially.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 10:23 AM
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No thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 10:14 AM
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glad I’m not alone
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 10:13 AM
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It depends on his values and how attracted he is to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 10:10 AM
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My definition of femininity. I’m sure you can conclude my definition of masculinity based on this. https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/y8pmhp/what_is_femininity_to_you/it1un2l/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf&context=3
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 10:07 AM
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The decline of masculinity in men and femininity in women really makes me feel sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 09:47 AM
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Unless he was bffs with his grandma and the ring really held value to him, I’d think he was just being cheap tbh. Also that he was being lazy and not wanting to put effort into picking out something for me. I want my own ring and in a style that I’d be more likely to actually like. And people usually discuss marriage before the proposal. It’s just a surprise because she doesn’t know when he’s proposing (if you actually do a good job). In your marriage, goals, future type discussions just mention…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 09:16 AM
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Physical: lacks body hair, small hands, balding, shorter than me, poor hygiene, ripped/bodybuilder, skinny, or dresses: feminine, flashy, preppy, lazy, or wears skinny pants/jeans with ankles showing Non physical: disrespectful, lazy, lacks discipline, disloyal, immature, weak, lacks leadership skills, indecisive, unaffectionate, loud, liberal, feminist, baby talk, passive aggressive, isn’t smarter than me, competitive with me, addicted to porn, video games, alcohol, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 11:08 PM
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How are you making money without working? Also, sounds like you spent to much time gaming. You probably weren’t doing soft life activities lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 12:12 PM
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No problem. I watch this stuff a lot so I know more than I should lol. But yes, women have always worked. It’s just been primarily domestic. I assume these women know that and are just making a joke of it all. And remote work is definitely a part of the soft life community, though non working soft life content is preferred. Many of us would live that lifestyle if we could tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 12:02 PM
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neither. this girl mostly makes satire content mocking influencers and other subjectively comedic content. this is just a sketch.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 11:57 AM
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Trad wife tok is yk traditional lol. They are usually sahms or aim to be sahms. They often cook from scratch and talk about the importance of making healthy, delicious meals for the family. They talk about feminine but practical hobbies such as sewing. Their jokes are usually centered around people falsely assuming they are oppressed because they are homemakers. They usually are non feminists. If you watch their content, you will easily get caught up in similar TikTok genres such as Christianity…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 09:32 AM
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If you do ever watch those TikToks, you’ll see there is a massive difference between trad wife tok and feminine/soft life tok. I enjoy watching both though.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 09:07 AM
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What is that?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 08:51 PM
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Yes, I disagree with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 08:50 PM
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not calling you a feminist. I’m saying that calling this misogyny is part of the problem with feminism.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 01:39 PM
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I highly disagree. And just because someone doesn’t like bisexuality for within their relationship, doesn’t make them homophobic.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 12:22 PM
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i don’t think it’s toxic if I’m not harming others. And it may be unattractive to you, but it’s not to the type of men I like so it’s good to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 12:09 PM
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why?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 12:04 PM
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The way y’all throw around the word misogyny, especially for a cause as serious and harmful as prostitution is part of the reason modern feminism is seen as a complete joke.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 11:51 AM
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I think it does. Sadly I have much experience with pick me’s due to my circles, beliefs, school etc. I’d say 65% of pick me’s I’ve met were less attractive. About 35% were over 28 and about 40% were under 18 (only including this bc you’re a minor and middle/high school girls are notoriously insecure/boy crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 11:26 AM
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The clearest indicator of Pick Me’s is that they are often less attractive. Women in the RP, PP, BP, and conservative circles are usually more attractive and keep up their overall attractiveness than more liberal feminist women imo. Pick Me’s are often less attractive (or older) than the other women in this circle so they go out of their way to appeal to men with their beliefs. Another indicator is low standards. RPW tend to have consistent standards for men, PP tend to have very high standards …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 10:37 AM
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how somber
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 09:36 AM
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lol I definitely have done that
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 09:31 AM
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I need to understand the punching a hole in the wall thing. I’ve seen it myself and after the initial fear, my next thought was “but why the wall???”
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 08:34 AM
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wow. never knew about the driving recklessly thing
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 08:31 AM
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Is there a male equivalent of the women crying and eating a tub of ice cream post breakup trope?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 08:23 AM
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I would not. The fact that he’s attracted to men at all would be a turn off for me personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 09:44 PM
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I’d definitely read
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 07:26 AM
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Both, but don’t drag it out
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 07:18 AM
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lol yes that’s fine. Though actual basic carpentry skills is most attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 12:48 AM
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a willingness to follow the lead and direction of your dominant partner
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 02:27 PM
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But not with him forever, which is how marriage is supposed to be. Women look for stability and security. By leaving her he ruined that (and also possibly her self esteem, body, etc.) So now she re-enters the dating scene older and as a divorcee. Now it will be harder to find someone who would want to be with her forever.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 01:55 PM
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He wasted her prime years
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 01:47 PM
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Feelings and behaviors biologically and socially attributed to women. Examples: nurturing, beauty/beautifying, submissiveness, emotional, supportive, creative, receiving, alluring, expressive, magnetic, empathetic, and often driven by feelings
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 10:03 AM
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-lacks discipline (no sexual discipline, enjoys and supports porn, doesn’t workout consistently, barely reads, etc.) -dresses really flashy, really lazy, or feminine (ex: wears nail polish or makeup) also too many tattoos -lacks confidence and leadership skills -considers himself a feminist or believes in 50/50 and breaking gender roles -always makes a point to diss feminism, secretly hates women and doesn’t value feminine traits/skills -enjoys drugs (currently), excessive partying, or excessive…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 04:05 AM
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why is that?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 08:47 PM
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Pretty much yes to everything except gentlemanly actions.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 07:55 PM
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The man. He is the provider and protector.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 07:29 PM
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-kindness towards me, his mother, children, service workers,and especially how he treats those who are of no service to him and the less fortunate -being on time to the best of his ability and if he is going to be late he let’s it be known ahead of time -can take accountability and admit when his is wrong intently followed by a proper apology -saying thank you and especially excuse me -gentleman: opens doors, pulls the car around, walks on the outside of the sidewalk, generous etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 07:27 PM
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Yes, because I already know the information. It’s a pretty common topic. I assumed most people already knew it. I’m just letting you know you should research it if you haven’t. If you don’t want to, cool. I’m not here to change your mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 08:08 PM
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This was a great comparison.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 08:05 PM
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That’s not what I said or implied. I’m simply explaining how women don’t usually get sexually attracted to random men or male bodies the way men can get sexually attracted to random women or women’s bodies.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 08:03 PM
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feel free to research
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 08:01 PM
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thanks for the info
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 08:01 PM
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Maybe, but this is about MY feelings. I don’t feel desired if you’re searching for gratification elsewhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 01:02 PM
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I don’t hate porn, but I do think it’s bad. It’s an unsafe industry and too many people are not consenting to what’s happening. It is not good for men or women physical or mentally either, but within a relationship context porn just makes you feel bad. Men are more attracted to women’s bodies than women are to men’s bodies. Men usually are hornier and can get stimulated much more easily by random women on the street. It’s already hard enough dealing with that knowledge. So adding on a man active…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 12:44 PM
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No. I’m still attracted to men. Some men are handsome, hot, whatever. I just don’t necessarily get sexually stimulated to the male form in the way men get stimulated by the female form. Again, actions and words are more stimulating. I am not at all attracted to women or their bodies so I could not be with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 12:13 PM
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Stop trying to coerce women after she has already said no. It’s damaging and it often really takes a toll on us mentally and emotionally.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 11:58 AM
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He probably lacks confidence, assertiveness, and leadership skills. He could also be uninteresting or there is just no chemistry.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 11:48 AM
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Is it costly to get into archery? I always wanted to try.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 11:45 AM
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I’m not very visually stimulated by the male form. Just looking at a male body (even if it’s a “Chad”) does nothing for me. I do recognize when someone is attractive or unattractive though. I personally find broad shoulders very appealing, but it just isn’t really sexually stimulating. My sexual desires usually stem from his actions or something a man said (usually a combination of both). Also, once I get attracted to someone emotionally, I start to see little things that make them more attracti…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 11:41 AM
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Because I am not attracted to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 11:27 AM
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Thanks for the input
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 11:26 AM
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No thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 02:30 AM
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That is not why. They are just more attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 02:25 AM
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Freshman year I got close to a guy and one evening we were sitting outside and started talking about our families. He was raised by his grandparents most of his life so he was very close to them. He broke down a bit talking about how hard it was being in college especially without his parents support, but he knew he had to do this for himself and to make his grandfather proud. His grandfather was living vicariously through him in that way and he wanted to make sure he graduated so that his grand…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 01:40 AM
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Never heard of those, but maybe I’ll check them out. And I don’t think it really matters. If there is black face, I wouldn’t watch it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 01:32 AM
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It’s not the minimum, but it’s also not going above and beyond.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 01:22 AM
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I like jokes. I laugh all the time, just not during comedies. Normal people and situational humor are just funnier I guess. And why would I think black face is funny?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 01:20 AM
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No idea what tropic thunder is, but I did laugh at maybe 2-3 scenes in stepbrothers.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 01:15 AM
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oof YouTube shorts we’re sadly not meant to be 💔
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 01:08 AM
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Couldn’t tell ya
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 01:06 AM
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In my experience they are mostly about the same but with the woman a bit more attractive. A few times the woman is extremely more attractive. And it’s rare that the man is more attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 01:04 AM
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I’ve only ever been to one stand up show and it was decently entertaining. Don’t have any comedians that I actually like and follow though. And don’t worry. The ridiculous comments in this sub always give me a reason to laugh (or cry) lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 12:44 AM
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Complete dealbreaker. Position doesn’t matter, but in theory bottom would be worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 12:30 AM
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Is it a red flag that I don’t enjoy comedies?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 12:29 AM
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Care to elaborate?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 12:17 AM
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This is the simple truth. When we look at new couples, the woman is almost always more attractive than the man to a certain degree. Men are more visual. Men prioritize a woman’s looks (often before anything else).
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 10:12 PM
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I’d have way more respect for him if he was honest. I think people should be direct about what they want. I’m not willing to share a man, but I’d appreciate his honesty and even make suggestions of women I know that might be interested in his offer.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 05:56 PM
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Please reread my statement and notice I said “often”. And just like you know people who saw losing their virginity as no big deal, I’ve seen many who felt it was a huge deal and regretted their decision or it just changed them in some way. Every time you have sex, you are taking a risk.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 01:28 AM
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Idk about this. I see way more men hyping up cubs than women encouraging cougars.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 07:20 PM
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If I was a man, but still had my same values (belief in gender norms, more traditional relationships, etc.) It would be super easy to find a wife. If I was just a modern man, dating and having casual sex it would be harder to get sex but easier to get into a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 07:17 PM
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Yeah, I like them best kind of wide and strong I guess, not just fat though. But asking out short girls or really tall girls might be helpful for you. And that is interesting. I don’t think abs look good on women. I’m also not attracted to women so my opinion doesn’t really matter lol. But when I was at my fittest in high school I started to get some lines on my stomach. I freaked lol. I never want to be fat, but also I never want to have abs or really defined muscles on the arms. What about abs…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 07:08 PM
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I said nothing about equality. I simply stated that I believe in masculinity and femininity. Being the aggressor is a masculine trait. I don’t think women should be taking shots because that is the masculine role imo. A woman doesn’t have to wait if she does not want to that’s her choice, but I don’t have to agree with her choices.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 02:07 PM
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I do think women making the move is more masculine and doing her a disservice. But yes, it’s not the end if the world and she’s free to make her own choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 01:12 PM
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Agree to disagree 🤝
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 01:07 PM
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I do believe in “gendered” traits and certain things being more inherently masculine and feminine. So I’m definitely the woman you are talking about lol. But I don’t shame other women. I just think they are wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 01:05 PM
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Disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 01:03 PM
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Kind of. I think it leaves something inside, whether it’s physical, emotional, mental or an attachment. Often more than one. And often even a distain for the other person depending on the situation. I think they can be reversed though (not the permanent physical ones of course) but it takes time and healing imo. This is just my personal view. Others feel differently and truly believe in literal soul ties and life lasting effects.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 12:41 PM
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You are projecting. You don’t know me or know what appeals to me and makes me want a guy to talk to me or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 12:24 PM
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I just used the word in general. I personally don’t believe in actual soul ties, though many people do and I understand why they see it that way. Especially the part about taking on traits of the other person, that part seems pretty legit to me. But for me it’s mainly about the emotional, physical, and mental effect and attachment that is now on you. It can affect both sexes, but because women in particular are receivers it has an even stronger affect on us imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 12:22 PM
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STDs, pregnancy, child raising/co parenting (possible legal issues), abortion, soul ties, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 12:08 PM
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I’m going to stop engaging after this because I don’t care for circular men’s woes vs women’s safety conversations. But I’m not encouraging women treat men badly. I’m very kind and feminine whenever a man approaches me, but I’m also prepared and not letting my guard down just to make men feel better. I never said men weren’t vulnerable. I’m saying women are much more vulnerable than men when it comes to a physical altercation with a man. And I plainly think your argument about men’s aggression i…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 12:07 PM
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Simply striking up a conversation is not a bad thing. I actually like when guys approach in public instead of when it’s just the two of us. I feel safer with others nearby and I’m probably in a better mood. If I’m sitting in a public space not doing much, feel free to come over and speak. Just don’t sit down without asking. It’s not creepy unless you make it creepy. Don’t just come up and compliment my body and think I’m going to give you the time of day. Don’t approach when I’m walking to my ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 12:00 PM
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Yes it generalizes men. That’s the point. We should always look out for red flags, but most men approach all the same. You can’t tell the good from the bad. It’s not that I think the majority of men are bad. But because I can’t tell who is good or bad, I expect everyone to be bad. I’m not afraid or encouraging fear. I’m encouraging preparation. Expect the worse, hope for the best is my motto for most of life. And the difference between you and women is that you have a chance. If I’m up against a…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 11:45 AM
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It may not help men, but I think it helps women to expect bad behavior from men. It’s not to make men out as evil creatures, but to make women more aware and be prepared no matter what. Nothing else to the story. They ask. I reject. They get mad. And I don’t live in a bad neighborhood if that’s what you’re implying.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 11:22 AM
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You’re more concerned with the narrative of men in general than the fact that so many are angry and violent over basic rejection. I don’t think it’s the way “most normal men” behave, but I’ll say that when rejecting men in my personal experience it’s 40/60 odds of whether or not he’ll get mad.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 11:10 AM
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You don’t have to see it, but it happens all the time. For women, it’s not a phenomenon at all. And it comes from regular guys, not just the crazy looking ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 11:01 AM
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No. If you enter a monogamous relationship with anyone you don’t expect them to cheat. If you only see men with money and nothing else as HVM then maybe you can expect them to cheat or just trade you out at some point. But an actual HVM is not a cheater because he has discipline and values his investment (wife).
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 10:58 AM
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I find it sad. We have trivialized sex even though it’s a serious and often life changing activity.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 10:54 AM
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Essentially just giving the other person your full attention, trying to understand them, processing what they say, and then responding based on that. So not just letting them finish and then you jump in with your opinion. Actually trying to see their POV.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 10:49 AM
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For women: Having clean, healthy hair that suits your face Active listening. Not listening to respond Dressing more femininely in a way that suits your shape Finding your balance of bubbly and alluring. Attitude essentially. Keep up hygiene, self care, nails and toes staying done etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 12:36 AM
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Yes. I’m saying that’s all you really need to have an ideal body to me. I don’t care for abs. Be big and work out enough (or have a labor job) so that you are strong and it’s good to me. I’m not saying it’s easy. If you’re naturally skinny, this isn’t really an option. But this is just my preference.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 09:35 PM
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Wow. The “recommendation” is especially interesting. Was he actually trying to date you or just wanted sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 09:19 PM
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lol gotta put that so I don’t get flooded with horny men…well more than usual xD
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 09:16 PM
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lol please give us the details of the speech.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 04:51 PM
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If you’re fat, getting in shape will help. If you’re very underweight, gaining in a decent shape can help. But if you’re in decently fit shape, going to extreme fitness isn’t likely going to help that much. Guys who spend too much time in the gym and look like body builders are often a red flag or just plain intimidating to a lot of women. Though as you get older, being in shape will likely be a huge plus. When you’re 30+ and those other guys are fat, being fit will probably make you stand out. …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 04:45 PM
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Please elaborate on how women are solely and biologically obsessed with having kids? I’m a early 20s woman who does truly want kids and a family, but I can tell you that is no longer the popular end goal of most women now. And biologically, women do have more innate selectivity due to needing a good mate, but men have always had a higher sex drive and the desire to pass on their seed. And the drug addict analogy is idiotic, but if you don’t think men have an idea of what they want in a family yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 04:35 PM
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You’re blatantly changing things I said to make me look bad. That’s just annoying. And the b word has always been a curse word. Idk what to tell you there. Obviously we’re not having a debate anymore. This is just a pathetic back and forth atp. It’s kinda sad lol but no point in it anymore ig. Good luck with dating!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 10:37 AM
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You’re obviously misinterpreting my tone then. That happens easily online, but you seem to be taking it way too close to heart. I can state my opinions without it being an attack on anyone. Sure it’s attractive for some women to wear jeans. I have a more sexualized body shape so I definitely know this. But I’m just saying that wearing dresses is objectively seen as attractive because it’s more traditionally feminine. And I never ever said people must dress attractively. But I did state that cert…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 10:30 AM
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I’m going to generalize so if you don’t like that idk what to tell you. And I didn’t say people had to always be dressed up in public, but I do think wearing sweatpants is low effort. It shouldn’t be something you wear everyday IMO. But you can wear whatever you want. I’m just letting it be known that it’s not attractive. You are being purposely obtuse. I clearly said I dress better, not i am better. It’s still attractive to wear dresses. So me in a sundress at the grocery store is perfectly fin…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 09:59 AM
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Again, we do like suits but I was giving suggestions for things you can wear everyday. Suits aren’t everyday attire. And rugged looks good on some men of course. I like it to an extent. But that graphic tshirt with designer jeans look, no. Unless she’s like a party girl maybe. I didn’t think sandals with a sundress was lazy. Most people my age aren’t wearing that on a daily. I never said I’m better than men. I said I dress better than men who wear sweatpants and slides everyday. And yes, I actua…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/22 12:38 PM
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I do think average men need to make an effort to look better. I agreed with most of your post besides the makeup part. And honestly, I think if you asked most women if they prefer their guy had some pimples or wear makeup, they’d take the pimples. Makeup is just too feminine for most of us. Also, I’m talking about normal women. Not the super progressive, feminist, egalitarian, no bra type women lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/22 12:28 PM
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Because celebrities have different standards than average people. We expect them to look better. The same way a guy can like a hot celebrity on tv in skimpy clothes, he may not want to see his girl out in public in skimpy clothes. I’d prefer to see the imperfections than to see a man I like in makeup. It’s often noticeable and if it’s not, when it comes off I’ll be completely turned off. It’s a dealbreaker for a lot of women. But do what you want. It’s all your decision.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/22 12:22 PM
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I’ll pass
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/22 12:13 PM
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Yes we know that most actors are wearing makeup. But you’re also not an actor I assume. An average guy is going to get more negative reactions from makeup than positive. You can do what you want, but I’m just giving the honest answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/22 12:09 PM
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It’s strange to say that I don’t find sweatpants attractive? And I have no idea what you mean on the last part of your sentence.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/22 12:07 PM
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I have no idea who that is, but something tells me he shouldn’t be your inspiration for masculinity if that’s your goal lol
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/22 12:05 PM
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Well everyone should exercise ofc, but also dressing decently and having a good haircut for your face are important as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/22 12:04 PM
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I was actually nominated as the official spokesperson of female attraction at this year’s ovary owners convention xD But seriously, if you don’t believe me just ask other women their opinions. Most girls aren’t repulsed by sweatpants (though some are) but do we necessarily find them attractive, usually not. And actually I like wearing heels, but I’m a student and I work so I can’t wear them everyday for efficiency. I do usually wear them at least 2-3 times a week though. And lol I definitely do …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/22 12:01 PM
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Lazy because it’s pretty much lounge wear. If you’re wearing that everyday or even most days, it’s just not attractive. Wear what you want, but the topic is attraction. No guys don’t have to wear suits all the time. IMO the most attractive outfit for a man is straight leg dark blue jeans (no holes) and a ironed black tshirt with cowboy boots lol. Most girls are satisfied with something similar to that, but maybe different shoes depending on taste. Another popular one is those kind of v neck, loo…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/22 11:08 AM
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Unless your foundation is an exact perfect match to your face color and neck/chest color, it will likely be at least partially noticeable to a woman. And I could be wrong about the men idk. I’m just thinking about what would happen if any straight guy wore makeup around my brothers lol. But as for women, it’s gonna be a negative majority of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/22 10:46 AM
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Women usually have more experience with makeup than men so it’s a better chance we’ll notice. Also, when you do finally take the makeup off it’ll be an immediate turn off once it’s noticed.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/22 10:30 AM
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A lot of truth here. I’ll only add that when it comes to clothing, dressing lazy all the time is a turn off. Wearing sweatpants, graphic tshirts, and slides often honestly is one of the quickest ways for me to lose interest in a man. That’s my opinion so just take it as you wish. But I will disagree with OP say wearing makeup as a man is a good idea. Unless there are special circumstances, it comes off feminine and most women won’t like it. And if you care about the opinions of your peers, I ass…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/22 09:56 AM
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Can you elaborate on what people say when they tell you to be social? Like is it to have friends or go out more or what?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 11:57 PM
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I don’t see guys like that often tbh. That’s why it’s so shocking when I do see one lol. My ideal guy physically is like a big, strong guy. Think like a lumberjack or lineman body type. So not fat but definitely not with those super defined gym abs. Just kinda wide and strong like he does manual labor. And facially I really like short but full beards, thick eyebrows, and big noses. Big hands and hairyness are also extremely attractive. But a deep voice will probably make me weak in the knees the…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 01:27 AM
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Well it usually starts with feeling kind of stunned. There’s not a lot of extremely hot (purely based on looks) guys imo so when I see one I either struggle to look away or instantly look away lol. If he has broad shoulders and a wide frame, I feel like I want him to just grab me, hold me, or toss me over his shoulder. If he has big hands, it’s hard not to stare at them and imagine them grabbing me. Sometimes I just get this nervousness, a natural reaction to fix my hair, and maybe I’ll blush. A…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 12:39 AM
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Again, some men are being turned down only by their ideal, others by everyone. And I’m saying they a weak because they are now active perusing women they barely like, not because they are being rejected to be clear. And you can in fact have a type if you’re not actively dating. And your last statement is untrue. You said women want “good men” go towards something else, which I labeled “bad guys”. The majority of women are not going for men who are known negatively in their circles, most are just…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 10:44 PM
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Lol yeah sorry you’re wrong. Some men are rejected by their ideal, others by everyone. You jumped to conclusions when assuming I meant anything about trying to date outside of your league. Though that can be an issue, it wasn’t my point at all. And the majority of women are not purposely going for bad guys. We just don’t know how bad they are most of the time. We all act differently around the opposite sex. A lot of those guys are putting on a mask for women and being their true trash self aroun…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 09:28 PM
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Can we please get a special virginity flair so people can opt out of seeing this tired topic? It’s actually getting exhausting atp.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 03:54 AM
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Mansplaining usually occurs randomly by the man. His advice or teaching was not asked for. So women going to a man’s dating seminar is not mansplaining because they actually want his advice. Also, a lot of men and women don’t know how to talk to each other. Men usually can’t effectively communicate harsh truths to the opposite sex in an unoffensive and not insensitive way. So it’s often harder to take criticism from the opposite sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 03:27 AM
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Definitely not. You’re not taking me on cheap and home dates for 3 months. April is more than a friend. And you’re ultimately wasting my time.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 03:14 AM
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I don’t think there are many relationships with no physical attraction from the man’s part. Most relationships are based on the man’s level of attraction to the woman. Women’s attraction to men is a factor, but not as important as the other way around IMO. And yes, ambition is generally nice. Though ambition without money will get pls quickly.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 03:06 AM
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Then who are these men getting struct down by? I’m not understanding. And I’m not disagreeing that men can be attracted to a diverse group of women. I’m saying that most people still have a type that they tend to go after. Whether it be as specific as the man in my example or as broad as just a certain race. But I definitely have to disagree with your last point. The “women don’t know what they want” narrative is untrue. Most of us do have an idea of what we want. It’s just that are wants are of…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 03:00 AM
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I think it’s just about being realistic. A man who was consistently struck down by his ideal woman to the point that he now actively settles for women he’s not very attracted to, is IMO (generally) weak. He will cave quickly if his fantasy woman ever reciprocates. And no, my last statement is based purely on things I’ve seen and heard. I won’t pretend I have substantial evidence for this. But men do like to try new things while still having their regular favorites. Women, including myself, long …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 08:57 PM
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Fantasy or not, given the chance a guy like that is probably going to cheat. And I don’t see having a type as only being attracted to one common category, but it is what you usually want and go for. I just would never advise a woman to be with a man who’s not usually into women like herself. He might want to revert at some point.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 08:30 PM
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I couldn’t handle that lol, but if it works for y’all that’s great. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 08:18 PM
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Thank you! :)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 08:17 PM
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I don’t believe in 50/50. Not good for families or relationship dynamics. Ruins the masculinity/femininity balance. Not good for children. Causes more stress and resentment in relationships etc. It only works if the man actually holds up his end domestically as well, which we know they don’t usually do. Plus a lot of women are making more money than their husbands now which means the guy isn’t holding up his financial end as well. It’s a red flag to me if a man is 50/50 because it shows he’s not…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 07:38 PM
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lol that’s so cute
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 07:32 PM
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My dad likes to build stuff, but what is this usually used for?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 07:26 PM
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ofc. thanks for the answer though.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 07:24 PM
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haha she’s so real
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 07:24 PM
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Did she?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 07:01 PM
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Dad and BF both like to build things. But honestly I know absolutely nothing about tools :/
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 07:00 PM
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That sounds ok. Unless it’s like a milestone year, maybe try to do a bit more. As long as he likes it is all that matters though :)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 06:42 PM
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All more socially traditional guys. Too much pride to accept money from a woman haha. Except my younger brother, but I know he wants a gift xD
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 06:40 PM
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lol no man in my life would like that
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 06:36 PM
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I’m preparing for Christmas and you’re a week away from the birthday. Lol I need you to step it up xD
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 06:36 PM
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Are there any popular fiction books or authors for men right now? I already know what to get if I get non fiction.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 06:34 PM
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aww thanks so much!! 💗
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 06:28 PM
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Haha well I’m in the south so any man I’m dating or that’s in my family will most definitely use it. Thanks for the answer! 💗
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 06:22 PM
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Oh that sounds great! White long sleeves with a fitted jersey dress on top, black leggings, white boots, and yellow earmuffs. (Steelers fan) I’d look so cute xD And thanks for the tip. I’ll definitely get lots lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 06:06 PM
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I’ll probably do that then. And if he insists I go, it’ll at least give me an excuse to get one of those giant jerseys and wear it as a cute dress haha. Thanks for the help! 💗
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 05:49 PM
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Nice. Would it be important to you that I go with though? I don’t like football…but I’ll suck it up if I have to lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 05:37 PM
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Great idea! Thanks 💗
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 05:34 PM
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This isn’t about whether or not gay people exist. It’s about whether or not we in western society have traditionally acknowledged, embraced, and educated on the topic of lgbt sex specifically in classrooms. Traditionally we have not, so it is a more liberal concept to do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 05:32 PM
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Men, what do you want for Christmas? I need ideas. Non sexual answers only please :)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 05:22 PM
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🏆
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 05:19 PM
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Well lgbt information is technically liberal because it goes against more socially traditional values, so that’s understandable.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 05:18 PM
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Women settle the most physically, but men settle more in other areas such as finances. Women tend to value the other factors more, and men value looks more so it’s not so bad. The issue to me is when people settle in multiple areas. Like if a woman settles for an unattractive AND non provider/non protective man cough cough 50/50 relationships cough lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 05:16 PM
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Not sure what you mean. I see more pushes in education from liberals for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 05:07 PM
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It doesn’t, but feel free to think what you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 01:37 PM
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I definitely would. It sounds interesting. But it doesn’t necessarily mean I’ll actually use the advice irl. A lot of schools are super liberal so if they start talking something foolish I’ll just finish the class and be done with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 06:00 AM
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No ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 07:53 PM
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Call it what you want. Doesn’t make my statement untrue. Also, I never said men don’t want to be desired at all. I just stated the things that are naturally of high importance to each sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 07:53 PM
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Please point to where I said that calling someone’s penis small was not a negative characteristic? I only explained what BDE and SDE actually mean. Clarifying that they had nothing to do with your actual size.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 07:51 PM
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Personally I don’t want to be with someone who shows off their money. I actually find it pretty unattractive. And honestly I would be fine if a guy was a janitor (but was actually able to support a family) and had good savings. It’s an honest job, likely has benefits, and it means he knows the importance of cleanliness. I will do the majority of the housework, but I’d be happy having a man that made sure not to just leave things gross and messy for me so that I’m not overwhelmed.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 07:43 PM
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Men long more to be respected while women long to be desired. Just the way it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 09:04 AM
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ok?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 08:46 AM
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What is your reasoning for this? Both of these options have positives and negatives, but I’d personally choose the janitor.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 08:15 AM
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Maybe we’ve just know different types of people, but I’ve definitely seen girls who initiated and then put in most of the effort from there. And personally I do think women who approach look desperate, but they’re free to do as they wish. But like I said, if a girl is specifically into a shy man then it’s fine for her to approach.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 08:05 AM
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Oh yes, that’s definitely true. Attraction often varies a lot between the people we’re with and the people we actually want. And thanks for explaining :)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 11:35 PM
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Can you elaborate?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 11:26 PM
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These were not my definitions. I said what I meant. And no I don’t hate those unattractive men. I clearly meant that they hate themselves and have too low self esteem.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 11:20 PM
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Because no woman wants to be with a man who doesn’t deeply desire her. The longing to be desired by the man we’re with is our female nature. Also because the guy would be more tempted to cheat because he’s always longed for a specific type of woman. So if that type of woman ever does give him the time of day, it’ll be harder for him to say no. If you care to read: An example I’ve seen in real time was a guy who was a friend/family member of a guy I was dating. This guy was like 28 and struggled …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 11:15 PM
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It would depend on if the women he dated recently, including me, are his type or not. If he never dated someone within his usual type that would be concerning and possibly an issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 10:32 PM
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That’s not what I mean. An example of a guy not ready to date is a man who currently is only doing hookups because he’s not ready to settle down. Or like a guy who just got out of a toxic relationship so he’s not ready to jump in a new one. Shy men can be mentally ready to date, but they will obviously have a harder time. That’s why I’m saying women shouldn’t approach men accept if she specifically likes shy men.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 10:26 PM
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To clarify, I am only discussing for relationships because I don’t believe in hookups and casual sex. I also believe in more traditional relationships. Main Reasons: -They are making themselves the initiatior by default. By setting the precedent of asking him out you also set the expectation that you’ll do the majority of texting, calling, planning, etc. You’re not letting the man pursue and he may get too comfortable with letting you do everything. Or the opposite he’ll get upset. Also, most wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 09:35 PM
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Women in general approach less than men so I never really see it as important to think about. Especially since IMO women that approach are putting themselves at a disadvantage unless they specifically are into shy guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 09:07 PM
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I can’t give perspective on dating 20 years ago because I wasn’t dating then, but less attractive men definitely still approach. I’d say slightly above average men approach the most. The most attractive men are likely more selective so they approach less or they can just wait for desperate or thirsty women to approach them. And I think below average men just approach based on their self esteem levels. Ones who hate themselves don’t approach anybody. The ones who have average self esteem likely o…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 08:55 PM
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I’m more traditional in dating so I do see it as a man’s job to initiate and lead. But I actually prefer a guy bro talk about himself more than we talk about me. Should he ask me a few things about myself, yes of course, but I’m really more interested in hearing about who he is and what his beliefs and expectations are.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 08:47 PM
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You assume they lied based on what?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 10:43 PM
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Not true.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 10:42 PM
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Yeah sounds tough lol. But once you figure it out i assume it’s pretty easy from there on. Find her trigger: protection, affection, aggressiveness whatever. Then just do do version of that every time I assume.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 09:28 PM
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By head start I didn’t mean who loses their virginity first. I was saying boys usually get the option to start dating before girls do. And they don’t have as much pressure from parents not to have sex. Whether they take advantage of this though is a personal decision, but the window is open. And for me it was the opposite. The majority of guys around me were losing their virginity before the majority of girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 09:24 PM
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Yes I think that’s closer to the truth. The guy usually had to do something (knowingly or unknowingly) to turn us on. Visuals don’t do as much. I always say, men are more attracted to women’s bodies than women are to men’s bodies.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 09:14 PM
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True. I’m not a feminist and most guys I meet respond very positively to that when they find out.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 09:11 PM
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I think you’re reaching on the insecurities tbh. If a guy loves and usually dates blondes, but his gf is brunette that may be an insecurity for her. She’s not providing him with something she knows he wants. Same can be said for women dating bi men. And of course their can be prejudice and generalizations towards bi men, but I don’t think it really matters. People can have preferences. If someone doesn’t want to date certain races, fat people, short people whatever, the reasoning doesn’t really …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 09:09 PM
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You don’t have to, but I know plenty of guys who do. And even if you choose not to, men usually have more of an opportunity to do so if they choose because men are usually the ones who approach.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 09:03 PM
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Can you rephrase the question?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 09:02 PM
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You don’t think boys are usually allowed to date before girls and aren’t as restricted by parents as girls? And maybe you don’t observe, but I’ve heard that it’s true from plenty of guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 09:00 PM
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Don’t really watch men. Every now and then a. extremely attractive man will make me do a double take, but that’s about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 01:59 PM
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VS models are not a reflection of the female body trends though. Our last trend was BBLs. VS didn’t start hiring BBL girls. VS has their own brand of idealized beauty.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 10:39 AM
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We’ll just have to agree to disagree on butts tbh. And yes I know most men don’t want VS girls. That wasn’t my implication. Smaller perky butts are not the same as flat ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 10:23 AM
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I think the majority of men will always prefer medium to large (not xl) perky breasts, but butt definitely varies. But men’s definition of a nice butt has always been based on trend. Sometimes small and perky. Sometimes big. Big butts were seen as fat by mainstream standards for a long time. And overall body frame definitely changes regularly as I explained, though the small waist always remains the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 10:07 AM
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Not really. The trendy look in men is mainly a thing among teenagers. There has been some changes in the ideal man in the last 100 years, but the majority were still some version of a masculine male. Men’s types are the ones that are more influenced based on women’s body trends. 20s was the petite , boyish flapper body type. 50s was the Marilyn Monroe hourglass. 60s was Twiggy. 70s was more tall and lean. 80s was the sporty look. 90s was huge boobs. And of course we’re finally ending the BBL era…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 09:40 AM
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Observing and stalking are not the same, but feel free to believe what you wish.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 09:17 AM
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A stalker could do this yes, but a lot of average guys take this approach as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 08:29 AM
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Men often have a head start on dating in teen years. They can step into dating more freely and gain experience before most girls because parents usually care less about their sons virginity than their daughters. Men get more time. A 35 year old man is seen way different than a 35 year old woman. Men usually get to “observe their prey.” Because guys usually approach, men can see the woman they want and watch how she moves for a few days before they actually ask her out. It’s an advantage because …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 06:55 AM
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They really aren’t, but even if they were people can have whatever preferences they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 06:42 AM
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I have an active father who like everyone has positives and negatives (mostly positive though). Watching and listening to my him has affected me positively overall I’d say because it showed me the things that I’m willing to accept and the ones I won’t accept in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 07:54 PM
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This is just untrue. If anything more women rate themselves lower out of 10 because standards of beauty are high. Women are usually more aware of their perceived attractiveness because we’re simply told if we’re ugly or pretty more than men.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 08:13 AM
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For sure. Supply and demand.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 02:05 AM
1

Kind of odd, but in theory that sounds nice. A great way to find likeminded people.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 12:50 AM
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It can be many things really. You can see them as less masculine, you can feel insecure because you know you can’t meet all of their desires, you may just want a person who aligns more with you, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 12:38 AM
1

Is it not kind of awkward dating multiple people within your church?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 12:35 AM
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I’m early 20s and I’d personally consider myself moderate, but way more conservative. It sucks when I’d meet a cool guy and realize he’s super liberal. I do live in the south so of course there are more conservatives than in other places, but then I also have to weed out the extremists and Trump loyalists. I’m also Black so if I go out with someone within my own race there’s another layer. I won’t date a Black person who only votes Democrat because they believe Republicans are racist. Same way I…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 12:29 AM
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You asked a question. I gave you the honest answer based on our societal expectations. I used to do yoga regularly until I started pilates. Classes were usually 90% women. Also, anyone can be into fashion (same with yoga) but the stigma around both is centered around women and femininity. And those that you listed are men, but they are not who most people picture when we think about masculine men. Just because certain things are traditionally masculine/feminine doesn’t mean the other sex can’t e…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 08:14 PM
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Masculine: fixing cars, building things, intense exercise such as lifting, grilling, hard labor, leading, fighting, being assertive, interest in sports, video games, protecting, anger response as opposed to a sad response Feminine: cooking, cleaning, child rearing, sewing, embroidery, gossiping, gardening, supporting, beautifying, fashion, yoga, nurturing, sadness response as opposed to angry response
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 06:24 PM
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Someone confident and charming yet humble and who makes him look good through beauty, class, service, and articulation. A woman who’s a natural beauty. He isn’t a fan of a surgery look. She has little (or no) tattoos, uncommon facial piercings, or unnatural hair colors. She knows how to dress for different occasions (knows when to be classily sexy and when to just be modest). A more feminine woman who brings him comfort, support, beauty, agreeableness, children etc. Someone loyal and a good list…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 11:00 PM
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this would benefit society as a whole tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 11:42 AM
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No. I care that he has a decent job, strong work ethic, wants to provide, and knows how to manage his money decently.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 02:06 AM
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Hannibal Burress 2 Johnny Depp 7 Riff Raff 0 Druski 5 Date with Johnny. Slower voice (but not too slow) that it keeps me interested and wanting to listen. He sounds serious, but has a smile that shows he’s interested in the conversation. His energy is low key and calm which I like in a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 01:59 AM
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why was it sad?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 06:13 PM
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Looks are what pull people in, but personality is what keeps them for the long term. Also, can you elaborate on what kind of art you do? I’m ngl I’m not very attracted to artists, but I know lots of women are depending on the art form.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 01:00 AM
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this is a pretty great list.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 12:54 AM
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forehead kisses are key!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 12:52 AM
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Basics: -Shows loyalty, discipline, honesty, work ethic, assertiveness, and leadership skills -Has a decent job or is in school -Funny and Affectionate (hugs, tickles, just kinda clingy physically) -Works out regularly or just has an active lifestyle (also can defend himself and me) -We must agree on most (not all) major topics ex: wants marriage, wants kids, religious beliefs, morals, controversial topics, more traditional gender roles, etc. -loves me and puts forth effort in our relationship a…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 12:50 AM
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You’re projecting from your own experience. I’ve heard men say incredibly cruel things behind women’s backs and to their faces. And I’ve honestly never heard a woman say anything so bad about a man that it even came close to the things those guys said. People in general can be cruel.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 10:31 PM
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I disagree. I am a woman who wants a man to provide financially while I take care of more domestic things so I know we exist. But I also know that some women do only want men for money and men only want women for looks. If they both are honest about it and consenting adults, I have no problem with that even if I don’t agree with it for my personal life. Also, it is not easier to be a “HVW” than a “HVM.” A man can change his social status, make more money, etc. Of course it takes hard work but it…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 11:46 PM
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Why is it bad for women to look for a man who provides over an attractive man? In the long run looks fade, but money and personality give some security. Women and men have different priorities in dating, what’s wrong with that?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 11:18 PM
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This is untrue when we are speaking on virgins. And again, a guy can have experience as a positive trait for some women but being promiscuous with an extreme high n count is not attractive. Also, leadership is not comparable here. If anything, I have more faith in a man to lead if he’s not promiscuous because it shows he has discipline and standards. Discipline is one of the most attractive qualities in a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 05:25 PM
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No. Most women who stay virgins are religious so they don’t want a promiscuous man. Even non virgin women who are good with a man having experience, don’t necessarily want him to be promiscuous. It’s not attractive to think of his extreme number of sex partners, the possibility of STDs, and for virgin women especially it can create insecurity that she does not measure up to his previous sexual relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 05:02 PM
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I think the difference between the promiscuity example and the 6ft example was is hypocrisy vs transaction. Most women want a man who is taller. Most men want a woman who is shorter. This is a transaction because both parties can benefit. If a promiscuous man wants a virgin women, he benefits but she does not. Most virgin women do not want a man with a super high n count. There is no even transaction here.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 04:20 PM
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If you believe in gender roles, then you do believe in masculinity and femininity. Women are expected to be the primary child rearers because of our more natural urge to be nurturing. Nurturing is a key part of femininity. Same goes for providing and masculinity. It sounds like you do believe in these natural concepts, just not the society pushed aspects. Ex: women wear pink and men wear blue
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 11:29 AM
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I am not strong or independent, but no one should be completely dependent on another person. Also, your worst case scenario is incredibly naive. An average woman could easily be left broke, no job experience, and 20+ years older and with children. She would struggle to find a job and to find a man who will provide for her and her children, especially now that she is older.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 10:25 PM
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I think this joke has more to do with the fact that women were seen as unstable, pretty little fairies who are only lead by emotion lol. But if you want to take things literally, now that women have more sexual freedom in society, there is less of a need for a woman to be crazy horny. In theory, she can have sex whenever she wants now. Whereas in the past, her sexuality was extremely repressed so she probably had stronger urges.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 03:32 PM
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Moral conservatism and Christianity have the majority of their gender beliefs based in traditional masculinity and femininity. So I’m kind of confused on how you view gender and gender dynamics without believing in our natural masculine and feminine nature. Especially considering that you claim to be pro red pill.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 03:28 PM
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Do you mean you are politically conservative only? Because not believing in masculinity and femininity isn’t a very conservative moral view.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 03:24 PM
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When my younger brother used to play competitive baseball, I remember there was a girl on one of the opposing teams. And I had the exact same question as you. Men should be allowed to have male only spaces the same way women have female only spaces. As long as their is a similar option for women. There is no reason that girls should have been allowed in Boy Scouts because there is already a similar organization, Girl Scouts. I’m not sure what the solution to this problem is, but I hope more men …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 05:09 PM
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Correct.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 05:00 PM
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Do not treat me like a man. Men and women are different and that’s a good thing. I want to feel protected, provided for, loved, desired, and comforted. I need to see manners and at least an attempt at being a gentleman. Show me effort and romantic interest. If you’re not willing to do that, it’s just not gonna work.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 02:35 AM
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Easily A. Makes me feel like a princess. Forever loyalty. No STDs. Where do I sign up?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 02:18 AM
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No. I mean literal teenagers 13-17. I’m a 18-25 girl, and we often make fun of thirst trapping men when we’re talking to other women. We see them as desperate and cringey. Most of us are in college or go to places with a lot of college aged guys. If I want to see a young, athletic guys, I can literally just go to my campus gym, track, caf, dorms, local bars or wherever. No need to watch men on the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 01:47 PM
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Women have no incentive to stop male body shaming the same way men have no incentive to stop women’s body shaming. Would it be nice if we all stopped bullying each other, absolutely, but it’s not likely to happen. If you really care about male body shaming you should start with getting men to stop. Men make fun of other men’s height and sizes. Male directors and comedians make comedy based on male body shaming. It makes more sense to start with your own before starting with asking women to help.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 01:17 PM
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Yes, of course. Why wouldn’t we lol? We’re literally told that big dicks are better all our lives. Conversations in middle and high school, TV/movies, porn, and even male comedians in particular all make a point to say that small is bad and big is good. It’s ingrained in us from what we see and hear. It’s all about perception.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 12:42 PM
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Male thirst traps are mostly watched by gay men, teen girls, and women 50+. It’s honestly a complete turn off when an attractive man is making thirst traps on TikTok. Seeking validation from others is so unattractive in a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 12:35 PM
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Me and my bf literally had this conversation a week or so ago. This is honestly hilarious. Y’all take things way too literally. BDE is calm confidence. Not being loud, yet can claim attention just by their presence. He is secure in himself and doesn’t care too much about what others think. Before a fight, he’s the guy not saying anything because he knows if it gets physical he’ll easily break the other guy’s neck. In a male group setting, he’s a sigma. And most importantly, he takes care of busi…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 12:31 PM
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Communicate. If there is a problem, state it as soon as possible (in private). Don’t put him on a pedestal. It’s great that he is better than your ex, but still look out for red flags. Have realistic standards and expectations. Don’t get caught up in internet dating culture. An 18 year old guy cannot be paying your bills and taking you on expensive trips. Your bf should be doing things for you like planning dates, opening doors, giving you comfort and attention etc. Expect things from him, but d…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 06:48 PM
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For sure. I think everyone needs to be cautious at night, and women significantly more. But I think the most obvious difference is how much more cautious women have to be during the day.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 02:39 PM
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I never did like golf lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 10:51 AM
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I’m sure men do experience more violent crime, partially because they commit more violent crimes. But I am mainly referring to theft, kidnapping, and sexual assault. Women are easier targets and especially so if they have children. Being the soft target means you need to be more aware than your counterparts.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 10:50 AM
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It seems pretty normal IMO. You spend your first insert age you get married here years of life with your closest relationships often being friends. It’s not weird that people can’t see a world without having any friends. Though I do personally still prefer a husband over a friend
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 02:31 AM
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I never said men don’t have to worry about any of these things (besides menstruation and biological clock ofc). I’m not trying to make this into a pity party, but women do have to worry about theses things significantly more and for very different reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 01:46 AM
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Having to be more aware of my overall safety. Having to be more conscious of how I dress, speak, and my overall reputation. Menstruation and overall hormonal changes throughout the month. Worrying about needing to get my life together quicker than a man due to biological clock and how men view women’s age. Faking the pleasantries with nosey women, men I’m not interested in, and elderly people when I’m in a rush.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 01:20 AM
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simple creatures y’all are lol
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 12:54 AM
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Definitely. Very good career wise and also very attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 12:25 AM
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Women talk more than men. So I think the fact that most guys don’t feel the need to ramble on with details the way many of us women do, is hard for some of us to understand. It often comes off as disinterested even if that’s not what he means at all. I know personally I often am awed by how simple men in general are. Their actions are their highest communicators. Actions really tell you more than their words will. One of the things I admire most about a lot of men is their ability to communicate…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 10:37 PM
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I’d say a good relationship is better for women. Men can often be more independent from their wife and children. Think of how we originally said “man and wife” instead of “husband and wife.” Of course not every man chooses this kind of selfish lifestyle, but as a man it’s more socially accepted than it is for a woman. Women are expected to be more connected to the family in general. That includes friends as well. Even if I had lots of friends, their husbands and families would always come before…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 10:23 PM
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Babysitting jobs: was approached by a couple once Covid: when it first started and I would still get approached frequently while wearing a mask. Disney world: I got sick temporarily and was sitting in the shade trying to cool off. Looking tired and like I was going to puke. A guy came to ask if I was ok, brought me water, and then asked for my number.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 05:40 PM
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I think the most common things that guys value about me are my looks, cooking skills, good with children, and overall just pretty agreeable. These things are most beneficial to men so I understand why they would care about these things more. Personally I’d like guys to value my personality the most. I’m pretty quiet, polite, and relatively modest in public, but when I feel comfortable with someone I’ll let them learn more about me. I love adventure, nature, music etc. I also am a very opinionate…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 05:29 PM
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Gotcha. Thanks for the insight tbh. Giving me things to think about. 💗
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 05:42 AM
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I wouldn’t advocate for a 21 year old to marry a 28 year old. That would mean they most likely dated before she was 21. I personally don’t think people under 21 should date people more than a few years older. But obviously it worked for you and your hubby which is great! And lol I’m actually seeing someone 10 years older right now, and we don’t have too many issues currently. But what are the family issues you’re implying?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 01:14 AM
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I’m a college girl dating an early 30s man and I would say no, most girls don’t want this. Most college girls want to date guys their own age. Out of the ones who do date 30+ men, most of them are sugar babies or “spoiled girlfriends” as someone once told me lol. There are some looking for a genuine relationship such as myself, but they are often more traditional. So I’m not just looking for a nice guy, I’m also looking for a provider which is easier found in a 30+ man. I’d say due to the femini…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 09:16 PM
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Even if it’s just having female friends, the guy will be more likely to be called upon to do traditionally masculine tasks. Unless you have female friends who are known specifically for being able to do those tasks, it’s social conditioning for us to ask a man to help. Some guys may find that annoying. And I’m not telling anyone to cut off the other gender. I don’t have many straight male friends, but that’s my personal choice. Other people are free to do as they please.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 02:35 AM
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Nothing as long as it doesn’t get annoying. If you’re the one guy friend in a group of mostly girls, you’ll likely be called on the most to help move things, fix things, carry things etc. Some guys may not like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 11:40 PM
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I’m a bit different, but I definitely enjoy your insight. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 11:38 PM
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Definitely. Opposite sex friends often give us the comfort and fulfilled roles that we look for in a partner, just without the sex. Very slippery slope.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 09:43 PM
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Best comment I’ve seen by far. Men often don’t notice the trickery of female friends until it’s too late. Same with women who have men friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 08:03 PM
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You have a good point about asking for things. A lot of single women will have their men friends doing favors for them that a partner would traditionally do. I used to do this and wouldn’t even realize it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 08:00 PM
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I think it just depends if on the type of girl you want. I’m more traditional, and I cut off most of my male “friends” already. I only have to one straight, male friend and he’s not a threat. So to me a guy with no female friends is a positive. If he does have one or two, I would be very mindful of that but it’s not a dealbreaker. If he has mostly female friends it’s a complete red flag to me. But if you’re looking for a different type of girl she may like it. It might make you seem safe and lik…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 07:57 PM
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Sounds perfectly fine to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 12:15 AM
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I prefer to have a good masculine/feminine balance in my relationship. Leadership is the masculine role. I require that in a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 12:13 AM
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If your partner makes a little or a lot of money it can raise or lower your social status, but it doesn’t make you “lesser” than anyone. Your value as a person isn’t dependent on how much money you have.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 11:22 AM
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Every relationship is different, but I can only speak on my experience. From what I’ve seen, women with low self esteem seem to beat down on themselves and sometimes other women. Men who have low self esteem seem to beat down on themselves and sometimes their woman. Also for me personally, I want a guy to lead. You have to have a certain level of confidence in order to lead properly. Doesn’t mean that you can’t have some insecurities, but an overall negative self esteem makes me feel less comfor…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 08:07 PM
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So if wife is not giving him sex for months, why ask the wife (women in this sub) how she feels about that? Obviously she’s fine with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 01:56 PM
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Thanks. I do know the definition. I’m just confused with OP’s understanding. How is he an incel if he’s married essentially?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 01:48 PM
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How is he an incel if we’ve been married for years? What is your definition of incel because it seems different? I wouldn’t care much if a guy was very inexperienced. How did he get me if he gets awkward around women? If he’s mine why do I care about his awkwardness around other women? He doesn’t need to talk to them much. Good for me. I’m not interested in testing my supposed husband, but let’s pretend I’m this type of woman who mistreats her husband. If he lacked self respect wouldn’t that be …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 01:28 PM
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Aah, well I don’t know much about trading or card games lol. But if this was uno, my ex would be a skip and I think my current would be a +2. I’m holding out in hopes he’ll unveil himself to be my long awaited +4 though haha.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 07:59 AM
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Yes, the current is a lot better than the former. But they aren’t in some competition. They don’t even know each other, and I don’t plan on introducing them lol. I’m not sure how or why I would try to prove he’s “more special than the last.” He’s already special to me, but it’s not based on comparison to my ex.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 07:43 AM
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I’m not really sure what you mean by special. Are you asking about certain things I particularly like about him that the other lacked? Or is this about specific talents or feelings he gives me maybe?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 03:10 AM
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Haha no, never really made two men fight for my affection. Just one relationship ends and then later another begins.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 02:52 AM
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As a woman college student who has actually shifted slightly right, I definitely find it interesting. I think most college campuses encourage liberal ideas, more sexual freedom, and feminism which appeal to women. I think some men feel comfortable with more conservative/ right leaning ideals because men have more power there. Also some modern feminists are quite anti men/masculinity which is of course a turn off for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 02:27 AM
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Why is he in a competition with my ex?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 11:30 PM
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Some of you have weird taste.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 12:03 PM
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Pop rock, RnB, country, or hippy type music would probably be best. But every genre has fans so just do what you want and find a girl who’s into that genre.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/22 10:04 AM
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I live in the US in the south so it’s more common to say hello to strangers. I speak to most women easily if I’m in the mood, but only to men if they speak to me first. I always speak back though, whether I find them attractive or not because if you don’t it’s considered rude and suspicious here. But if he’s under like 25, I’m more likely to assume he’s speaking purely because he’s attracted. Older guys do this too, but older guys also just like to hear themselves talk more lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 06:35 PM
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Yes women who grew up without a father are the ones who have it the worst in dating. But women with fathers can have issues as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 11:10 AM
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I don’t think so. Men just know how bad other men can be so they don’t ww their daughters being taken advantage of.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 11:08 AM
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Lol that’s very much a reach. Modern feminism is definitely not centered around property and voting rights. And despite what the current narrative is pushing us to believe, we can’t just go changing definitions to suit our own personalities. Feminism vs. Femininity is actually such an important topic to me. It genuinely hurts me every time I hear a woman compare femininity to weakness. But it’s too late for me to get into this type of debate honestly. I can’t stress myself before bed. Good luck …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 04:40 AM
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Your negative perception of femininity is a huge issue, but I see you’re a feminist so we’ll probably just have to agree to disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 04:29 AM
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There is nothing wrong with a woman being feminine or soft.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 04:12 AM
1

haha thank you! Also, you’re the only active pink pill person I see here. I always appreciate reading your responses :)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 03:12 AM
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She explained her dad was abusive, so yes he was probably just wanting her to become a doormat. But a loving father could genuinely want his daughter to learn some traditionally womanly skills and have feminine traits.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 03:08 AM
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Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 09:37 PM
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Lol alright. You’re obviously just a very different type of woman than me and most women I know. But if it works for you, great. Good luck :)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 09:33 PM
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Interesting analysis. I obviously disagree, but everyone is entitled to their opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 09:29 PM
3

You never need any help from your partner? No advice? No help carrying things? Nothing ever?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 09:28 PM
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You seem to have a pretty negative perception of men. I know a lot of our opinions stem from our locations, ages, looks, and experiences. Honestly, I hope you get a chance to see the many examples of the men who do in fact enjoy helping their woman. And if you don’t already have one, I hope he finds you. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 09:25 PM
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That’s a bit of a generalization, but I see your point. Him doing little tasks for you makes him feel good, even if you don’t necessarily need them. Why not make your partner feel good? If you look kinda plain in your frumpy pjs, it’s still nice it your partner tells you you’re beautiful even if you’re not the most attractive at that moment. It’s ok to do things to make your partner feel good. And men complaining is a whole different topic lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 09:17 PM
2

Notice I said hyper-independence, not just being independent at all. Hyper independence is bad for any gender. Not accepting help when needed is extreme pride fullness and ego.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 09:11 PM
1

Exactly!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 09:09 PM
3

Thank you! 💗
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 09:04 PM
2

Where did I shame anyone?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 08:55 PM
0

Again, my comment did give those small, helpful examples for women like you who still want to control your own finances. I have no issue with what you do, it’s just not what I would do. And that’s ok :)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 08:49 PM
0

I did specify that you can still do the whole girl boss, independent thing and still show a man he’s needed. Even if you don’t want his help financially it’s nice to let him help in other ways which I listed some small examples. And you may not want to be romanced or treated like a princess, but many women do. So maybe my suggestions are better suited for them instead of you. That’s fine. You’re free to live as you choose.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 08:26 PM
4

That’s nice if you want that. I never said there was anything wrong with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 08:00 PM
2

Well I’m into more traditional relationships, also I’m not a feminist so a lot of women here don’t agree with some things I say. Though I never said self sufficiency is less important than male attention. But if we’re talking about dating and attraction, women need to understand why it’s important to let a man feel needed. This may explain a bit better… https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/x94vf7/the_traits_men_want_in_a_daughter_vs_wife/inmoyo8/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 07:52 PM
3

Why? Do all women have to think the same?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 07:44 PM
-6

Yes, many women are too independent. It’s more about mindset than anything. Everyone should be able to provide for themselves if needed as a life skill, but as a woman you have to let a man feel like the hero sometimes. Most men want to be needed to a certain degree. Protection and provision are innate in most of them. They want to help you. So many women want Prince Charming, but aren’t willing to ever be the damsel in distress. I never understand why some women want to be so hyper independent.…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 07:38 PM
2

It was just a question. Wasn’t trying to trigger/offend you or anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 07:22 PM
-9

Of course I don’t know your family life, but do you see this as a partial benefit at all? Your dad shouldn’t try to force you to be something you aren’t, but at least you’re learning the skills that attract men. As an adult you can choose if you want to actually use them or not. It’s the girls that grow up too independent and with a dad who gives them the needed male validation to think they’re perfect, who get shocked when they enter the dating scene and wonder why they can’t attract most men.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 06:59 PM
23

Not sure why people are surprised. Most men don’t want to think of their daughter as a sexual and romantic being who caters to men, the way they would want their wife to be. The same way some women want their son to be such a nice, sweet boy, but they prefer a more rugged partner. A daughter is often the first woman that some men will ever truly care about as a person, rather than as an asset to himself.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 06:47 PM
2

My post literally suggested nothing about men. And I’m definitely not projecting. Though I do agree with the implication that men do less work in 50/50 relationships, that was not the purpose of the presented topic. I can agree with an idea and not be discussing that idea at the same time. Sure the sub has a lot to do with contrasting gender roles and dating dynamics, but the purpose of this post is to focus on women which I did.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 07:48 AM
2

sigh It gets tiring patting men’s heads in comfort in order to make them not be so triggered when I’m talking about WOMEN. Too much projection is coming my way. I’m discussing women’s duties. Focusing mainly on the fact that women can’t have it all. I’m focusing on the fact that these 50/50 women are trying to do it all especially when it comes to work, and in turn they neglected their responsibility as a wife, mother, and homemaker. Do mostwomen in 50/50 relationships do more work overall then …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 06:59 AM
2

If you’re talking about cleanliness in 50/50 relationships, yes they need to communicate. But when things are supposed to be “equal” dad’s cleaning needs to be just as good as mom’s. Dad’s cooking needs to be just as good, hopefully healthy, and have as much effort put into it as mom’s. This doesn’t usually happen though and is unfair to the woman. As someone who used to have roommates in the early years of college, the one girl who didn’t meet our standard of clean was resented. That’s how many…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 06:40 AM
1

If your family is struggling to eat, both people need to work. If you just want a few extra comforts, dad should take a couple extra shifts. If daycare is expensive and taking up most of a woman’s paycheck, she needs to be a sahm. If a man making decent money just wants to improve the comfort lifestyle of his family, passive income is the move. Many sahms also do some type of passive income or side hustle since there are so many ways to make money online. There is almost always a way. I understa…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 06:34 AM
2

It’s rough out here, but we can’t give up. Good luck! 💗
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 06:26 AM
4

My original point had nothing to do with fatherhood. It was about women’s duties. You somehow changed the course and related it to men’s contributions and the topic of emotional labor. I then elaborated on why there is truth to the statement that women are primarily dealing with emotional labor. I never said men don’t have to do any emotional labor. Of course men need to worry about being a protector and provider. But a man doesn’t have to think about his role as breadwinner 24/7 (unless they ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 09:55 PM
3

I understand your hesitation, but you can’t let fear stop you from what you really want. Relationships are definitely risk and reward scenarios IMO. Though I still believe a sahm is less likely to leave. Cheating I have no idea, but leaving seems off. For one, more religious women tend to be sahms so many of them aren’t going to leave on the basis that divorce is sin. For other sahms, fear of being alone is real. Not working for years and being thrust back into the workforce is tough. They do ge…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 09:12 PM
3

Children do need to learn a certain amount of independence, but two working parents often forces the child to become too independent too quickly in order to make up for where the parents slack. Especially for the older ones. They pretty much become third parents which is completely unfair to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 09:05 PM
2

Everything doesn’t have to do with you or other men babe 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 09:00 PM
4

That’s very smart of them as long as they can handle the workload. Self sufficiency is important.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 08:00 PM
3

Sounds like you’re projecting. Maybe my original comment struck a cord with you. I actually wasn’t thinking about men at all when I commented. My topic was women’s duties. Where was I trying to place any blame on men? If anything I was trying to target women who are slacking off in their responsibilities to their husband and children.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 07:58 PM
3

I’ve actually gained some interest in homesteading. It’s a wonderful and productive set up. Though of course it’s a lot of work. Nothing wrong with that. Everyone has to work in some way whether financially, domestically, or just feeding the chickens lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 07:55 PM
3

Correct. If you’re flat broke of course everyone needs to work. But if a man is doing well financially, his wife should be able to stop working and focus on more domestic work, children, and femininity in order to keep a more balanced home. The chaos of two working parents, kids with strangers at daycare, and mom and dad arguing over who’s turn it is too clean the dishes or pick up Jimmy from soccer practice is pure stress. And that doesn’t even cover how negatively it affects the parents actual…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 07:53 PM
3

Pretty much. Notice how my topic was women’s duties and somehow the conversation gets derailed to focus on men.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 07:48 PM
3

Yes, all relationships require some sort of teamwork. But a lot of marriage teams have one player who’s riding on the coat tails of the other sadly.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 07:47 PM
3

So true! I always appreciate finding relatable, likeminded women. 💗
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 07:17 PM
1

If you want to do that, no one is stopping you.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 07:13 PM
3

Usually not. 50/50 relationships are not equal for the woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 07:12 PM
6

What does any of that have to do with my comment?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 07:11 PM
1

Um, ok.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 07:10 PM
4

My point was aimed at married women, but yes single motherhood is very bad for women, children, and men.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 05:59 PM
4

I’ve always heard the opposite about divorce rates honestly. And I think the problem with a lot of modern men is a lack of overall masculinity. But failing relationships are based on a lot of factors and cannot be blamed on one gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 05:57 PM
3

Exactly! 50/50 creates a lot of stress and resentment imo. Having more defined roles is so much more balanced.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 05:53 PM
3

You are correct. Communication before and during commitment is vital.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 05:51 PM
2

I’m not dismissing father’s contributions. A strong, active father is extremely important in the family structure. But I will say women do usually do more emotional labor. When something is wrong, kids run to mommy. Mommy usually thinks about when the next doctor/dentist appointments are and plans them. Mom usually decides on how to make or buys the snacks for kid’s activities at school etc. I’d say most kids have a closer emotional connection to mom due to the fact that she birthed them and she…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 05:49 PM
3

Sticking to gender roles does not mean a man does not learn to pick up after himself. Any adult human should know how to do basic cooking and cleaning. It’s just that in a more traditional relationship, it’s not his job to do these things as much as it is mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 05:43 PM
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Exactly. That’s all part of my point. We can’t have it all. Working full time makes us suffer in other areas.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 02:33 PM
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As he should lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 02:31 PM
11

Yes, true. But as we’ve seen, men aren’t doing this is mass. Women know or will soon learn that when they sign up for “50/50” they won’t actually get that. That’s one of the reasons I believe in more traditional gender roles.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 02:30 PM
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I believe men’s load should be different than ours. More traditional gender roles. But yes, some sort of balance is key.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 02:29 PM
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Yes, but men never claimed they could. Men are actually more vocal about needing women and the benefits women bring in their everyday life imo. Think about how widowers more easily express wanting to get remarried because they want or need a woman to fill in for all the things his wife previously did. Feminism brought along the “women can have it all narrative.” Which imo most cannot.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 02:27 PM
-1

I believe in more traditional gender roles so I personally disagree. And even if men and women were doing things 50/50, society will still judge the woman harder if the domestic things aren’t taken care of.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 02:00 PM
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Most women cannot properly care for her husband, home, and children while working a full time job.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 01:45 PM
4

Thanks. It was nice discussing with you :)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 06:27 AM
2

Women are naturally more nurturing which is why it’s usually best for them to be the one who is primarily with the children. Also men’s bodies are made more for working, providing, and protecting which is why they have always had the provision role. People can make their own choices to an extent. My beliefs don’t prohibit anyone’s choice. Sadly I’m not the ruler of the world lol. But our natural instincts and societal expectations will always be at play, so people shouldn’t get upset at the more…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 12:23 AM
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That’s fine for you. I don’t agree obviously, but you can still do whatever you choose. I do think that women who are married with children should conform to the more feminine nature and traditional gender roles as much as they can though. It makes relationships and child raising more balanced imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 08:08 PM
11

Everyone should have basic human rights and be treated with a certain level of respect, but men and women are not the same and should not always be treated the same or act the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 06:34 PM
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I can’t completely speak for him, but his main reason is probably based on it going against gender roles and nature. Also it might go against some of his religious beliefs but I’m not completely sure. I am not a feminist because the modern feminist movement pushes women to be empowered by casual sex and inappropriate clothing in daily life. Also a lot of current feminism demonizes masculinity in men which is wrong. We need more healthy masculinity not less masculinity overall. I believe men and …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 04:27 PM
6

Why are we not feminist or why I wouldn’t date a feminist?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 04:07 PM
7

I’m not a feminist. The man I’m seeing is not a feminist. I would not date a man who called himself a feminist.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 04:05 PM
1

I highly disagree. Do some men mature slower? Yes to an extent, but women their age aren’t preying on them. The rate of maturity is not so low that it’s predatory. Also, men often have more sexual and dating freedom while under 18. Parents are way more cautious of their daughters dating. An 18 year old man and woman are not usually at the same experience level due to that alone. That’s part of the reason I said women 18-21 are mainly just figuring themselves out. It’s most girl’s first time away…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 07:13 PM
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As someone in this age range who is currently seeing someone older (definitely not late 40s), mostly no in the early years. Turning 18 doesn’t suddenly transform you into a competent adult. Most of those first years, at least 18-21, are just about figuring yourself out. Most girls that age still act like they are in high school mentally imo. When women see a young woman who is mentally still immature, it is usually a sense of disgust seeing her with a significantly older man. He has an extreme a…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 06:47 AM
1

Life isn’t fair but thank you lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/22 11:36 AM
1

I honestly don’t know what to tell you. Some people just see it as fairness, love, and solidarity. You will never understand what she is experiencing. This gives you a taste.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/22 03:07 AM
1

Women potentially being added to the draft has been a popular conversation in recent years though. Also, women are giving birth more often than men are going to war.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 03:33 PM
1

thanks :)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 11:15 PM
1

If you’re comfortable, would you share your age or age range? I’m noticing a slight trend in men wanting paternity tests.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 11:09 PM
1

We all have the uncertainty that our partner could leave us, but we have very different reasonings. Also, if you are/were married would you ask for a paternity test no matter what?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 10:12 PM
3

At our core, women tend to want to be desired and loved. Where as men tend to want to be respected and loved. I don’t feel desired if you’re saying I can just be with whoever and you don’t care. It makes it seem like I’m not that important to you. Also, men love sex and crave new partners more than women. So a GF saying he can sleep with someone else is a new sexual opportunity for the BF.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 09:47 PM
-2

They may not be compatible to you, but their opinion doesn’t make them a bad person. It’s a pretty reasonable expectation imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 09:38 PM
1

I disagree. I think a better comparison would be women’s uncertainty that a man will stay. Especially after she’s had kids, is old, or is a dependent sahm.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 09:36 PM
3

I would feel unwanted and uncared for. I need him to have healthy jealousy. I need him to care. Yes, I’d want him to be willing to “fight” for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 09:34 PM
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I date guys that a bit more traditional so there are lots of flaws to look out for. Super ego, misogynistic, weaponizing gender roles, lazy when it comes to domestic work, violence, “That’s how I was raised” attitude. Essentially, if I’m looking for a more masculine man, I’m likely to notice at least a few toxic masculinity traits. I can put up with a certain degree of some of these things, but nothing extreme.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 09:30 PM
-2

It’s a slight reward for her. You get a small taste of what she is experiencing. It shows solidarity and love. Also you may treat her better after getting more hands on experience of what she is going through.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 09:21 PM
-1

That’s nice, but not everyone is like you. Some people find importance and love in solidarity. Some people even expect it. And asking your partner to put themselves in painful situations is not always abuse, though I understand your point.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 09:17 PM
1

That is a genuine concern. But men also have power of threat over women as well. Those issues would be better comparisons than birth.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 09:13 PM
1

I don’t think that’s an equivalent.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 09:11 PM
1

The pain in your heart for your wife is not the same as the physical pain she will endure before, during, and after birth. She might see it as a form of solidarity and love that you would decide to experience a taste of her pain.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 07:50 PM
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Yeah, no. I’m not interested in going into an abortion debate so I won’t. But we’re talking about wives and GFs. We’re talking about couples who have decided they both want a child. When it comes to giving birth, there is nothing a man has to do that holds the same weight as what the woman will do.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 07:47 PM
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I don’t think you have to do all the same things, but you should both do things to balance things out. You work. I take care of the home. Balance. The issue is that there is nothing you can do to balance out what she is about to experience. So I can understand a woman saying she wants you to get a taste of what she has to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 05:33 PM
1

I get your point, but it’s just a very unbalanced situation. There is no way a guy can balance out the pain that the woman is going through. So the closest way he could is to go through that simulation. And even that isn’t truly equal, but it’s a start.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 05:31 PM
0

I’m not saying it should be a competition. I personally think it’s better for everyone to have specific roles. But relationships do have an aspect of “tit for tat” in a way. You go to work. I take care of the house. You cut the grass. I tend to the garden. With giving birth, there isn’t an equivalent that a man can do. So though I wouldn’t do it personally, I could understand why a girl would say “if I’m going to feel this, you should feel it too.”
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 05:28 PM
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Why would you have an issue with her demanding you do it? I’m assuming she’d just be saying if she has to do something hard, you do too. Also I want 4-6 kids. We’re out here lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 04:42 PM
0

That’s simply untrue. Women do empathize with men. But that doesn’t mean certain things aren’t a turn off. Like I said, if there’s a legitimate reason to cry then I’m completely understanding and don’t see him any less. But when it’s a dumb reason I can’t help but lose attraction. In my personal situation I still held, comforted, and listened to a man break down for about 15-20 minutes over something unnecessary. Even though I was losing interest on the inside, I was still empathetic and never t…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/22 12:59 AM
-1

Yes. For women, I usually keep it in my head unless it’s a friend or someone I know I can be blunt with. I’d almost never say anything to a stranger unless they were going to be around children, elderly, or at a cultural/highly religious event. I’ve only had to do this once or twice and I did it nicely, but it was necessary. For men, definitely. I’m quick to call a guy a man whore. But I’m usually saying this to an attractive, player type man thats approaching me and that I want to reject. They …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 11:09 PM
0

That was not what I was trying to get across. I think men have a choice, but in fiction of course he chooses the choice that women would like. The same way women in fiction choose the choice that men like when the audience is majority men.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/22 11:53 PM
1

No
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/22 09:54 PM
4

Not really. He’s still well off, strong, and desired by other women. But the good part is that he’s now mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/22 09:50 PM
0

Irl it is a choice. A man can decide if he wants to settle down or continue to play the field. He’s an adult. No one is forcing him. It would only be control if maybe she’s hypnotizing, blackmailing, or doing some type of spell on him. Of course in a fantasy, yes, he’s always going to choose to settle down. But that’s how fantasies work. They are supposed to appeal to the audience. And even then he’s still choosing in the story.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/22 09:48 PM
3

I don’t think we’ll be able to come to an agreement on control vs. choice. Most women want men to choose to settle down, not have to force him to. It’s like the “I want flowers, but I don’t want to tell you I want flowers” thing. If I have to tell me you to get them, it doesn’t feel good. If you actively think about me and choose to get me flowers, it feels amazing. But the restraint/discipline trope is not the same as “taming the beast.” They are usually two very separate tropes and would be in…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/22 09:10 PM
3

That makes sense. Men get told to suck it up most of their life, so when women ask them to be vulnerable it’s pretty hard to do. I personally don’t ask for vulnerability unless it’s a situation that affects us both. I just let a guy know I’m here if he needs to talk about something serious. But would it be better for me to never allow vulnerability, allow vulnerability under certain conditions, or allow complete vulnerability and just keep the moments of loss of attraction to myself? In my previ…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/22 08:33 PM
3

lol I stand by my statement
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/22 07:11 PM
3

I understand why you see it as control, but for the woman that is not what it’s about. We’re discussing the female gaze so try to focus on a women’s perspective. I’m not trying to force the “beast” to settle down. I want to be so beautiful and amazing to him that he chooses to settle down for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/22 05:09 PM
6

I understand. I do think the word misogyny is used too loosely. Though I believe the vanilla/freaky issue is more about a lack of empathy from the bf, but that’s another topic. But is this lack of attraction after showing vulnerability more of an internal fear? I see more women collectively asking for men to be vulnerable than not. I won’t lie and pretend I’ve never lost attraction to a man after he’s been vulnerable, but he was also crying over something stupid. At times when there was a legiti…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/22 05:05 PM
5

Not sure what you mean. In what ways do men want to feel special? And how does it correlate to misogyny?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/22 01:00 PM
5

That is not about control. It’s about being special. No one could make him settle down but her.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/22 12:57 PM
17

No. We’re talking about the female gaze. What women are attracted to. Most women are not attracted to “controlling” you. But we do like a man with self control. A man is not a dog or a horse. He can control himself if he chooses to. And that is very attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/22 09:12 PM
15

I’d say effort, restraint, and understanding. Effort is easy to understand. Do something. Picking flowers, building something with your hands, protecting her from danger. It shows you have skills and that you think about her when she’s not around. Restraint. Knowing that a man wants you but he has the discipline to wait. Discipline is truly one of the most attractive things in a man. It shows he has some standards. Women want to be seen as special. So you dating any and everyone, doesn’t make he…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/22 09:04 PM
3

E. I’m not setting anybody up. If a guy wants one of my friends he better go up and talk to her. Of course I don’t mind if he asks me for some tips, but even then he’s only getting a limited amount. I don’t want to be too influential in what they do, especially if things end up going south.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 07:54 PM
3

If you’re into anime, watch Maid Sama. Seriously. It’s a great example. I personally don’t like the personality of the main female character, but the male protagonist, Usui, is many girl’s dream. They’re in high school but he’s essentially “high value” within the high school social scene. Attractive, strong, talented, mysterious, and can have any girl he wants. But he pretty much ignores any girl who isn’t the main character. Despite her pride, he always wants to help her, be around her, and pro…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 11:52 PM
2

Marriage Looks: 6 Money/Career/Status: 7 Personality: 9 Social Circle: 1 Intangibles: 7
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 02:47 AM
3

They are usually more effective than no. As a woman saying I have a bf always works best.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 06:01 AM
1

what if he was your dream guy in every other way?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 05:04 AM
2

Obviously I’d be offended. Who says this? When you reject someone literally just say you aren’t interested, you have a bf/gf, you’re seeing someone, you enjoy being single, or you aren’t looking for anyone right now. You don’t need to actually tell someone why you don’t like them unless they specifically ask you to.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 05:01 AM
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Correct
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 11:05 PM
2

Yes I know. I meant in regards to the original post. He said that social media skews our view of men. I’m saying a lot of the men we are presented aren’t even ideal. They are just more attractive than the rest of the group. Few people are actually ideal.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 10:37 PM
2

A woman can pick whoever she wants. I’m just saying a lot of times the men that are labeled the “hot” one, aren’t actually super attractive. They just happen to be the most attractive in the friend group, band, cast or whatever area.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 10:28 PM
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We can only take it as OP described. Which was that she did run down the list. And personally I think answering what you’re looking for is not a good idea outside of saying casual/LTR. You shouldn’t tell the other person what personality traits you like because they will just fake those traits.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 05:14 PM
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Not true. I don’t care for extremely low body fat or visible abs. Some girls like muscles, some like lean, some like skinny, some like feminine, and some like dad bods.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 07:02 AM
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These seem reasonable enough, but like I said nothing wrong with a list. It’s just never a good idea to say it out loud especially on a date.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 04:22 AM
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No i did not. But I have no issues with having standards or a list. I just don’t think it’s appropriate to list them off on a date. I actually think it’s counterproductive because you will only be encouraging the guy to pretend to meet the standards you desire. You’re prohibiting yourself from learning who he actually is.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 04:10 AM
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I understand that some men prefer bigger/smaller boobs and breasts. But almost all men prefer a smaller waist which is my point. That is the ideal shape for a woman no matter what her size is. And no men are saying they want a bald fat women with an apple shaped body or one of those shoulder fat girls. There are certain things that just aren’t normally attractive to each gender so I don’t see the point here. And yes everyone has access to dating apps, that’s why I said they make people more pick…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 06:39 PM
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I think men are less picky about who they have sex with. A lot of guys will take whatever they can get. But their actual type, the women they actually want, usually have similar characteristics. Mainly that hourglass body in whatever size they prefer. Athletic, thick, slim thick, fat, or average all tend to have a certain hip to waist ratio. It’s part of the reason that the majority of women, no matter their actual shape, dress to mimic that ideal figure. Also, online dating is bad overall. Peop…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 06:01 PM
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I kind of disagree. Women are not flooded with attractive men more than men are flooded with attractive women. And the “attractive” men that we’re exposed to come in way more variety than attractive women. The “same girl in different font” is definitely for men. Whether she’s blonde, brunette, etc. it’s almost always an ideal hourglass shape just on a bigger or smaller body depending on what you like. Also wider/doe eyes, perkier nose, and pouty lips. All these things just in different colors IM…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 02:30 PM
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you’ve cracked the code lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 02:15 PM
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Idk about toxic. From what I see it’s just more unrealistic expectations. The type of guy that most of them aim for is like the dream guy. There aren’t a lot of them out there so they need to be more realistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 11:28 AM
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This woman sounds like she took advice straight from the internet and tried to use it irl. Very beginner mistake. But yeah you are right to be turned off by this with this. And if a man told me how much he makes on a first date I’d probably laugh internally. Definitely a red flag unless he’s a sugar daddy. And even then it’s still a bit worrisome.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 03:04 AM
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I would be highly upset and disappointed. I would wonder where I went wrong as a parent, especially as a mother. I always hoped I’d teach my daughter things that I wasn’t taught. If she’s trying to marry a man that much older, I obviously failed. I would have a serious talk with my daughter. Assuming I’m married, I would expect my husband to confront the older man. I would probably cry myself to sleep for at least a week.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 09:37 PM
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I don’t think people should adjust their boundaries. You made that boundary for a reason. Stick to it. Is it an issue for you to tell me when something is not ok? Why? Just because of love sickness?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 05:03 PM
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Yes. They are quite strategic and understand men’s desires. I’ll always give them credit for that aspect.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 08:14 AM
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This! When we’re blunt, they say we don’t empathize and that we hate men. If we say something empathetic, it’s “virtue signaling.”
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 12:16 AM
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You are correct about women. Our bodies go in and out of style. The Kardashian era has been huge. Guys have all been wanting slim thick women, but in the early 2000s big butts were considered fat. Even now, the Kardashians are removing butt injections because that look is going out of style. We’re coming into a new era. But what you said about men isn’t perfectly true. Men’s body standards can have trends but they aren’t standards essentially. Masculine, strong bodies in the 50s. Around the 70s …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 07:04 PM
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I’m my opinion a good portion of them are not actually looking for love. Maybe like 40-50%
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 02:39 PM
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She’s entertaining and I appreciate the passion, but she never had a plan. Joe always had to clean up her mess and I was always worried for his safety because her. Team Joe lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 02:17 PM
2

Yes I do think some of them mainly focus on gold digging or becoming trophy wives. They emphasize not having sex because you lose leverage I believe.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 02:13 PM
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Yes, very. I love when a guy is firm with me, but I don’t want to stress him out in order to get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 02:01 PM
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I agree with most of what you said about PP, but I do not think FDS is largely pink pilled at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 01:55 PM
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My biggest issue with them is complaining. Yes a lot of men are bad, but did you come together to complain or to try to come up with ways to actually attract the decent men? You gotta actually do something.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 01:45 PM
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When did I say anything about being ditzy? They do understand the nature of men which is why they mostly focus on looks and femininity.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 01:41 PM
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?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 01:28 PM
2

I think quality sounds better than “high value” but I guess it’s a preference.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 09:40 AM
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I do not believe that personality is overshadowed by looks. At least not for men. For women, yes, if we don’t look good we’ll never get the guy. But men have a chance always.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 08:35 AM
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Interesting. But I never tried to comment on BP. I was just trying to respond to you. From what you say I don’t agree with your ideology anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 08:28 AM
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Oh I didn’t realize. I thought black pill was essentially, “If you don’t have money or good looks you’ll never get a woman. We’re all ugly and broke so what’s the point?”
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 08:15 AM
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People come to Reddit to double down on their beliefs. Not to think critically lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 08:00 AM
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The majority of pink pill are decent to very attractive women. So no need to be black pilled. But the ugly women, yes, they see pink pill content and give up.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 07:57 AM
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lol you should’ve known they would ban you for saying that xD
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 07:24 AM
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I think the RPW are mostly attracted to the masculine traits of RP men. Not the Fboy ideologies. I think most of them got into RP dynamics after they found the guy. So they weren’t worried about being used. RP just validates some of their beliefs. And the girls who do listen to 100% of RP rhetoric to attract men, are usually the non trad RPW. Trad women have enough sense to take RP advice with caution. Take what you need and filter the rest. I think RPW is mostly conservatives 80/20 but only 50/…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 06:14 AM
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We’ll have to agree to disagree about Asia. I’m not actually not interested in doctors, but this may actually be helpful advice. I’ll pass it to my friends. Thank you. And work can definitely be depressing. I hope you find a job you actually like ❤️ But idk about the 9-10 thing. I see them actually get more respect because people assume they are important or high status because of course, most important and high status women are gorgeous. Also, I don’t assume every man who speaks to me is flirti…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 05:50 AM
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I thought so too, but sometimes people will give me extreme pushback on this. So I wasn’t sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 05:17 AM
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A slim thick girl will be called fat in Asia. And of course Megan Fox can walk the catwalk anywhere. She’s Megan Fox lol. Also where is “here” for you? I misunderstood your career comment, sorry. I’m gonna take myself and all my 6+ friends to the nearest hospital to test this theory lol. But thinking of alcoholic doctors is terrifying. And I think having the potential for world domination is a lot better than dating some random doctor or lawyer lol. Also, women don’t approach so I actually think…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 05:15 AM
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You’re welcome :) And in regards to your profile pic, unpopular opinion: Joe is great. Love sucks lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 04:56 AM
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Lol well some men actually like big women, but I get your point. Though you are wrong about the US. Yes people are bigger. Despite this smaller is still the standard of beauty, but not as much as Europe and Asia. A bit curvy is more the standard. Slim thick to be exact. But since you know doctors, question. You say they will get a barista, but then you say a woman should have career success. What level of career success is best to attract you or doctor/engineer types? Also, I want to be a stay a…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 04:47 AM
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The local barista is still attractive. Men, especially ones with money, don’t value money as much. A woman can work at Burger King and he’ll date her if she’s attractive. Men value attraction, that doesn’t mean they have low standards. And I think more high earning nerdy/awkward men are cool with a decent, slightly above average nice girl. But confident, extroverted high earning men still want hot women.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 04:29 AM
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No. Below average men have low standards. Quality men have high standards. PP only look to attract quality men.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 04:17 AM
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I believe so. They are more feminists so most of them act more modern, but believe they deserve more because they are women ironically. They also seem to want a man that still has masculine traits such as being a gentleman, being protective, and can provide, but want him to also have a more feminist mindset. Women are equals, she can focus on her career, and men and women should split domestic work 50/50 etc. They are a bit illogical to me. The type of men they want exist, but they are very few.…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 04:15 AM
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I’m so sorry this happened. ❤️ Everyone is different, but I think a lot of women cheaters just aren’t satisfied in a relationship. They either feel they are missing something in their relationship (so they cheat with one person they connect with) or they are missing the fun, flirting, and mostly attention of singleness (they are more likely to cheat with multiple people, so probably your ex’s reasoning).
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 03:11 AM
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If you want to know how to get a man, ask a woman or a man who is honest and similar to the type of man you want. If you want to know how to keep a man, ask a man who is similar to the man you want, trusted male family member, or an older, married woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 03:06 AM
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I’m not very familiar with FDS, but from what I understand they try to use tactics similar to PP, but they are less feminine. They essentially want to attract quality, high paid men that have feminist mindsets. (Which is a very small group of men.) While PP understands that you can’t change men, so you might as well play into what men want (looks and femininity) in order to get a quality man. And you’re welcome :)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 02:39 AM
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I tried to explain. https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/wojujv/what_do_men_think_of_the_pink_pill/ikbxfkl/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf&context=3
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 02:22 AM
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I tried to give my best explanation if you’d like to read. https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/wojujv/what_do_men_think_of_the_pink_pill/ikbxfkl/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf&context=3
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 02:18 AM
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I guess you could say that. They are similar to the majority of RP. RP: “Women are selfish, but get your life together and here’s how you get what you want from them.” PP: “Men are selfish, but get your looks and femininity together and here’s how you get what you want from them.” Of course RP and PP both have many people who are focused on creating actual loving and positive long term relationships. But the majority of both are based in the self interest of their own sex IMO.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 02:14 AM
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I believe they essentially focus on looks and attraction. Looks are most important to men, and if you don’t look good you will never attract quality men. From what I understand, they give a lot of tips on looking better, dressing to attract high value men, and creating a more feminine and alluring demeanor that is more attractive to men. The downside is that because it mainly focuses on looks, ugly women tend to have become “femcels” because they will never be able to attract quality men based o…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 02:03 AM
2

You definitely aren’t alone. Hands are hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 01:41 AM
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These dating streets are dirty. I left online dating and I’m never looking back lol
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 11:30 PM
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Lol just talk. His profile says 6’0 but he’s really 5’9-5’10. I knew a guy in particular whose profile said “5’8 or some s***” but I knew him irl and he was at least 2 inches shorter than me. I’m 5’7. But idk about pictures. It’s possible. Girls are editing their waists in pics, guys might be editing their height lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 11:20 PM
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Well that definitely wasn’t my reasoning for liking big noses lol. But I’m glad I’m not alone I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 11:10 PM
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I don’t find any of these things weird, but people usually tell me they are. Physically: Glasses, Thicker eyebrows, Big nose Behavioral: Weird laughs Picking me up and moving me. Ordering for me at a restaurant without me having to ask him to. (He asks me what I want beforehand. He does not choose my food.) When a guy calmly but firmly puts me in my place.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 10:05 PM
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Gotcha. Thank you for breaking it down for me!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 06:13 PM
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I believe we had a similar conversation before. You are from UK I think? Aren’t there many parties? (In comparison to the US having only 2 major parties) Also, I could be completely wrong. I’m not big on politics, sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 02:20 PM
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Yes, I assume most issues are fixable until told otherwise. But that’s why I asked beforehand what the guy’s issue was. He blamed it on “80% of men…”
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 01:59 PM
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You really hit the nail on the head with this one. Only thing I’ll add is that people also tend to “exaggerate the truth” more online to appeal to the masses. Guys add a few inches to their height. Girls posting pictures where they look thinner. People claiming to be moderate when they are actually more conservative. You make it to the date and the person is so different than how they are online. Irl dating will always be superior.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 01:39 PM
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Maybe. I didn’t wanna jump to conclusions which is why I asked.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 01:00 PM
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Update. He’s not married.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 12:36 PM
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Respectfully, that’s an excuse. 80% of men have been on more than one date in 40 years. I think you just need to work out whatever issue you have personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 08:07 AM
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Maybe. I was thinking date as in number of outings not number of women. I might have misunderstood.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 03:58 AM
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Why have you only had one date in 40 years?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 03:57 AM
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Are you shy or awkward?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 03:17 AM
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There really needs to be a change on both sides, but I honestly don’t know if we’ll get it. But like you said, a lot of men lack empathy and are very emotionally immature. And violence is obviously an absolute no. I think men can step up in these areas (and others) but the big issue is that their is no direct incentive. We have to remember that guys are more logical. Most of them need an actual goal. If a man has a woman he really wants, he will make adjustments to get her. She is the goal. But …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 11:44 PM
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I think it depends on the woman honestly. I know of women who like “cute” guys. More boyish, soft, and sweet. And of course I know plenty women who like more “hot” guys. That depends on what their personal view of hot is, but usually equates to more masculine, protectiveness, etc. But overall it’s about balance for most people. I personally prefer more “hot” I guess. Not the chiseled look you described (I’m not into model like men at all), but still masculine and strong. But that balances with a…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 11:24 PM
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That’s interesting actually. When I assess a guy’s height, I scan the top of his head but I actually focus on the eyes. How high I have to look up to meet his gaze plays a big part in my perception of him.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 04:07 PM
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I do believe it has a lot to do with natural urge. Specifically men being wired to be protective. Women’s protectiveness is more innate when it comes to their children. And the possessiveness women have with men comes more from not wanting to lose him. Women needed men for the majority of history. No one wants their provider/protected stolen. I think neediness is a different topic. It’s more of an individual thing and it happens with men and women. In my experience, guys tend to be more needy wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 04:02 PM
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I think you’re taking internet talk too close to heart. Most women probably couldn’t point out 6’3 on a doorframe. Recognizing someone’s exact height is harder irl especially when you’re smaller.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 03:52 PM
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I understand the question. But my answer was the best possible formatting. Which happened to take elements of what OP presented us in A and B.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 10:58 AM
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A (using the word date) + B (mentioning the activity)
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 01:07 AM
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hilarious
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 10:12 PM
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I agree. I think you should be as clear as possible. I’m sure it would be embarrassing if you asked a girl on a date and she thought it was just two friends hanging out. But ngl I have no idea what going Greek means. So I wouldn’t get the joke anyway lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 09:42 PM
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A + B = perfection Example 1: “I know you like mysteries. We could go to that escape room downtown. It’ll be a fun date and we can grab food after.” Example 2: “I’d love to take you on a date. There’s a new Greek restaurant on 1st street. Would you like to go?” If you don’t use the word date, you’ll probably be fine with most people. Me personally, I’m gonna say, “Are you asking me on a date?” If you say anything outside of yes, my answer is no.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 09:08 PM
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I do my best
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 08:12 PM
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Some are insecure. Some have other reasons. I’ve made the decision to not have many straight male “friends” anymore. I prefer to date guys with zero to a small amount of straight female friends. Another girl in this sub mentioned that she didn’t have male friends at all outside of family, and she found it weird when guys had female friends. People are different.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 07:57 PM
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You could try to catch her if she wanders of by herself for some reason. But yeah, I never try to get a guy’s attention when I’m with my friends. If I really want him that much, I’ll probably just come nearby him when others aren’t around.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 04:51 PM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 04:31 PM
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Your point?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 04:25 PM
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This is true. It’s always better to meet people alone and spend time one on one. When you meet someone with a group of friends, you will first be judged on the gender of the friends. Then you will be judged on who is the most attractive in the group. For men in particular, you may be judged on if you are the leader in the group. Also, if you meet someone in a group their friends will most likely comment on if they think you’re worth it. If you’re dealing with a more easily influenced person, thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 11:18 AM
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Yes. Though personally I prefer he had a small to mid size group with majority men.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 11:12 AM
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You’re welcome 💗
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 11:10 AM
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If I don’t know that they are in relationships or asexual, I’d still have the same assumption. If I do know that’s different. Though I doubt all of the girls were in a relationship before they met. I’d still assume he attempted to date a few of these girls and got rejected. Nothing wrong with getting rejected, but if it’s a lot of women and you still hang out with them…kinda weird. I really think it just depends on how many girls there are. And I definitely want to know why I never see him with …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 11:08 AM
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I understand, but you don’t have to be weird. Just be original. Or at least just don’t say the same exact thing as every other guy. It’s like when guys on dating apps talk about how much they love The Office. Decent show. Most people like it. But literally everyone knows about it. Unless the girl you’re talking to is the world’s biggest The Office fan, you’re not gonna stand out at all. Also for me personally I see a lot of guys with “social media humor.” Nothing is wrong with referencing things…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 11:57 PM
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Looks probably aren’t the only issue if he has many female friends that don’t want him.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 10:16 PM
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Not necessarily. Depends on who you are, your age, and location. People are very different in different areas. But on the internet, yes, you will more likely be attacked.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 08:31 PM
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Yes. It can definitely be a hinderance. Same for girls who are always surrounded by guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 08:16 PM
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So true! He has a bunch of female friends and not one wants to date him? Is something wrong with him?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 07:40 PM
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I do my best lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 07:37 PM
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I was on the phone with a guy. He was riding in the car with a couple other people. I needed to tell him something, but I didn’t want to give exact details if other people could hear. I asked him if I was on speaker and if they could hear me talking. He said no. Then someone in the car said, “Nah go ahead we can’t hear ya.” I wouldn’t be upset at all if they could hear me. I just would make the conversation less detailed. But the fact that the guy lied to me, especially about something so unimpo…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 07:34 PM
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Idk about this. People view this differently. Being around women will likely help you meet more women. That is a plus. On the other hand, it makes you look like a player/flirt, desperate, or gay IMO. Concluding that I only see you with groups of women and never any men to balance it out. Also just be careful. If you do end up with a girl you like, you being surrounded by women may be an issue for her. Y’all will have to decide if that is acceptable or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 07:14 PM
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For men: Assuming. “I know you women do this/think this etc.” Self pity. Calling themselves ugly. 🥺 Energy Lying. Especially about small things that there was no need to lie about. Being lazy and especially thinking your laziness is cool or funny. Thinking they are the exception to the rule. Women shouldn’t have a long sexual history, but she should sleep with you early because “I’m not like other guys.” A lot of men are unoriginal. Same humor. Same pick up lines. Same online dating bios. You ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 07:04 PM
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Definitely
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 12:17 PM
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Yes. One of the main ways that I judge a guy is on how he treats “weaker” creatures, such as women, children, and pets. Men who have unwarranted aggression towards women indicate insecurity of some kind. I wish we saw a greater push for positive masculinity. The current trend of ending toxic masculinity has moved towards trying to eliminate masculinity as a whole. This should be the opposite of what we want.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 04:28 PM
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I’m not sure the current push for gentler men will make them chivalrous. I think it’s just making them more feminine. Chivalry has the balance of masculine traits, such as bravery, while also expressing gentleness with women. I don’t see this balance pushed now. It’s mostly just telling men to be vulnerable and stop toxic masculinity. There is no push for positive masculinity which is key in chivalry.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 02:11 PM
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Don’t give up on what you want. We can’t let others discourage us from our goals. And discipline is one of the most attractive things in a man. The right girl will appreciate it. Good luck to you as well 💗
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 02:02 AM
1

Definitely true.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 01:58 AM
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It’s quite controversial to be traditional now. I get attacked for it on Reddit daily. But irl it’s not as big of a deal. If someone doesn’t like it, they just tell me and we don’t talk anymore. No issues. Yes a traditional man will have to make a certain amount of money. But it’s not as big of an issue as people think IMO. And lol no I’m definitely not married. I’ve got time. Also I can be on Reddit between my chores. Same way you’re here while you should be working or whatever lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 08:25 PM
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I didn’t say they easily could. I said that average men do get casual sex. The person that I was originally talking to actually linked my comment in one of the Daily Megathreads and asked the men in this very sub to respond. He then deleted the comment when the majority of men began to agree with me lol. So I’m obviously right. I wish I took a screenshot lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 05:40 PM
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I have no idea who this rollo person is lol so I won’t endorse him. And yeah people tell me I am red pilled, but I’m not sure. I doubt I’ll agree with everything they say, but maybe some the core things will be good. Also I don’t see the correlation between a woman having a job and being able to raise kids. Maybe you can restate that. And you don’t have to be a virgin or have a low number of sexual encounters to find a more traditional man. Though it will increase your chances dramatically. I do…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 05:37 PM
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And I said that I thought making a fake profile is unethical. I’m not gonna budge on my own morals. And I don’t care about the experiment. Why would I dedicate my time to this? If I want to know about male experiences I literally just ask men. Or just look through this very sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 05:29 PM
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I used to think 50/50 was ok because that is what is normalized. I realized how stressful 50/50 is for families and how it negatively effects the children. I became traditional from seeing the 50/50 stress and how it ruins the family unit IMO. Both parents are stressed from full time work. The wife works 8 hours but is still expected to do the majority of the housework while also bearing and raising the children. She is stressed and ultimately loses respect for her husband. She also is less femi…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 05:09 PM
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Traditionally women have to do majority of cooking, cleaning, and emotional labor. Birthing and primarily raising children. Having to be supportive, feminine, agreeable, and keeping up looks. Also I understand I will have to give the man the most authority and he gets the last say on serious decisions. I am ok with all of this.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 04:57 PM
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You concluded that from what exactly? I’m literally in a forum for debate. I’m well aware that most people disagree with my ideals on dating. Just because I’m firm in my own beliefs doesn’t mean I can’t see other perspectives. I’m just not changing my mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 04:55 PM
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I understand what you’re saying, but I have no interest in that. I still think it unethical to essentially get people’s hopes up with a fake profile. Also I have no interest in dedicating a month or year of my life to this. It isn’t a topic of interest for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 04:53 PM
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I think it’s unethical to make fake accounts on dating apps. It’s unfair to those actually looking to date. And you are replying negatively to so many of my comments. You obviously don’t like me. Why are you purposely engaging with me?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 03:52 PM
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That’s not me. And even if it was no one deserves to be attacked.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 03:49 PM
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I literally held both genders accountable in my original post. The girl replied talking about men so I responded to her talking about men.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 03:38 PM
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This will be my last reply to you become of your disrespect and cursing. But I’ve had the traditional vs 50/50 debate with people plenty on this app. This is not my first time. I can defend my argument easily as I often have, but you never asked me to directly. You started attacking me. If you want to have a debate with someone change your approach and be open to different perspectives. Bye 💗
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 02:19 PM
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No thank you. I know how dating apps work though I don’t recommend them. And getting matches with random guys isn’t special. Many guys admit that they swipe on everyone and then decide based on who they match. So the results are flawed. Also most men are looking for sex. Most women are looking for relationships. So if 100 guys match with a girl for sex, that still isn’t beneficial for her because that’s not what she is looking for.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 02:16 PM
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Lol no thank you. I also think it’s unethical to essentially catfish the women who are looking for a guy. But thanks for the info.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 02:13 PM
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I wouldn’t do that. I think it’s unethical to use random people’s pictures on dating apps. But you actually had a decent idea until you wanted to be extra and add the nerd stuff and living with mom.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 12:43 PM
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I’m only flattered if they do it in a smooth or funny way. I love a good dad joke or just something original and funny I’ve never heard. That’ll definitely catch my attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 12:41 PM
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Usually 3+ But I also live in the US in the south. People are more open to making small talk with strangers. Mostly girls or women complementing my outfit. I like to dress nicely. Men compliment my outfits too sometimes. Mainly because I often where dresses which isn’t everyday wear to most people. Of course a few men will say something flirty or try to hit on me, but I’m not sure if that counts as a compliment in this scenario.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 12:39 PM
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Traditional relationships do work when people want them. Traditional men and women get into relationships all the time. It may not be for you, but it’s great for those of us who like them. I can’t make myself approachable enough where you don’t feel like a creep. If you’re insecure or lack confidence there is nothing I can do about that. You have to put in the self work and stop waiting for women to wave you over. Just being realistic. But I personally am very approachable irl I’m told. I just k…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 12:32 PM
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Well hopefully they are asking for sex using a complete sentence. And yes they will actually have to flirt and try to entice a woman. Women don’t just fall out of the sky and into their bed. But lots of women are looking for casual sex. So if they make that known, they are more likely to meet those types of women and waste less time and resources on girls who want more.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 12:28 PM
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Attractive women have it easy. Average and ugly women have it harder. Just because you can’t empathize with women because of your own dating issues, does not mean women do not having issues in dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 12:26 PM
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Stop projecting. I am a woman. I said it needs work on both sides. No need to be intentionally negative. Everyone should have standards. Now if your standards are ridiculous you can’t be upset if you’re alone. But some healthy reasonable standards should be for everyone. Men and women need to do better. I said harder. That means hard but not as hard as it could be. And the question is about women not men so I was talking about women’s POV. I’m sure finding a date is harder for men with standards…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 12:24 PM
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I was nothing but respectful to you the entire conversation despite disagreement. If you can’t show me the same respect, I will not engage with you. Good luck in dating 💗
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 12:19 PM
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I believe in more traditional relationships. So he has to approach me. But if a girl is into shy guys, sure she should approach him. If not, they’ll probably never get together.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 12:06 PM
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And your reasoning for this is what?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 12:05 PM
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I’ll take a strawberry frosty.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 12:04 PM
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Not true. You’re projecting based on your experience as a man. You have no idea how hard it is for average and ugly women.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 12:03 PM
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Because that was not the point. We were having a conversation about men. So I talked about men. Y’all just want me to say something negative about women because I said something negative about men. Stop being so easily triggered.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 12:02 PM
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That’s definitely not why I became traditional. Also do not use curse words when replying to me. It’s disrespectful.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 12:01 PM
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Again, the point of this discussion wasn’t traditional vs. 50/50 relationships. So it really doesn’t matter what your reason was. You got triggered and decided to rant. I didn’t ask for your input on that topic, you gave it. And don’t curse when replying to me. I find it disrespectful.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 03:25 AM
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I am a more traditional feminine woman so I know this. Most women aren’t traditional though so they won’t need to do these things. Also it’s interesting to see you bring up traditional relationships. Most times that I bring it up I get attacked lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 03:14 AM
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The original point of this discussion was not to argue traditional vs 50/50 relationships though. Me stating my date preferences to someone else just triggered you for some reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 03:11 AM
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I disagree. You should try your best to state your opinions without offending others, but ultimately you have to be honest. There is a way to do both most of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 02:21 AM
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I asked one as well. And don’t call me lady lol I’m not that old. XD
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 01:47 AM
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Lol no thanks. Not my thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 01:46 AM
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They just don’t approve of it. I don’t either, but I don’t feel the need to put a disclaimer unless someone is actually asking me how I feel about it. If not, I just give my advice and go lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 01:45 AM
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Maybe focus on your own relationships, not others’. Good luck in dating 💗
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 01:34 AM
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I’m assuming you’re asking about looks? White, dark hair, 5’10, early 30s, slight dad bod.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 12:19 AM
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We obviously have different opinions. Maybe that’s a personal issue for you. But I don’t engage with guys who can’t call women, women. So, good luck 💗
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 12:01 AM
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Actually yes. I don’t think the average guy can get a new girl every night, but he can get it enough. Also he can just get one and do a fwb situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 12:00 AM
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If you can’t handle traditional dating, that’s your problem. Most women don’t even want a traditional relationship so no need to be bitter. What I do doesn’t affect you. I’m a traditional girl. I date traditional men. I wouldn’t date you. You wouldn’t date me. Simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 11:59 PM
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I’m not saying you had a face in your head, but the random woman in your head just so happened to be attractive. Interesting lol. Relationships aren’t just about securing sex. Especially for women. Sex isn’t anywhere near the top things that I’m looking for in a relationship. So many other priorities. And an old man will likely dump her after a few years for a younger model if he’s rich. And most young girls don’t actually want a relationship with an old man as well. The only fans strategy is a …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 11:57 PM
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You don’t think average men are having casual sex??? Alright we’re just not gonna agree. We can’t even get on the same page of something so simple lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 11:41 PM
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Idk. Ask them. That has nothing to do with my point lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 11:30 PM
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You don’t have a specific girl in mind, but the girl you’re thinking of was attractive yes? It’s interesting how men’s baseline thought of a woman is an attractive woman. While a woman’s basic thought of a man is an average man. Asset vs Necessity. Lol I’ve always wanted to do a post on this. Maybe one day I will. And yes he’ll expect sex because that’s what he wants. Most men want sex. And most women want relationships. So the woman is losing out on what she really wants here. Hot people will a…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 11:29 PM
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Women will say no to most men because on an average day the majority of sexual suggestiveness comes from men at gas stations and when she’s walking down the street. But when you go on Tinder or to the bar, it’s casual sex everywhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 11:24 PM
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The answer is mostly no. Your point?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 11:18 PM
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So again your girl is above average attractiveness? You said you’d make a Tinder for a random girl. Your average person is average. So don’t try to trick it and choose an above average girl lol. And now she has to set her location to LA? So she can only date guys in that terrible location lol. Also if she’s getting flown out, he’ll definitely be expecting sex. Average girls aren’t looking to have sex with strange old men they just met. Women do not take looks over money. That’s male nature not f…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 11:15 PM
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Ask the women in the sub how often men will suggest sex before he asks her on an official date? Dating apps. Catcallers. Regular guys you run into every day. Men have lots of audacity.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 11:11 PM
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Hilarious. You obviously don’t know me at all. I’m definitely not a feminist lol. But I wish you well 💗
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 11:08 PM
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Is this girl attractive? Dating is a lot different for average and ugly girls. How many millionaires do you think she’d actually meet realistically? How many people will want an actual relationship with her? This is Tinder. Guys think it’s 100% easy for us. It’s not. If it was we’d all be married to millionaires.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 11:08 PM
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Sounds like you have some personal issues and bitterness you need to work on. Good luck 💗
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 11:04 PM
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You obviously don’t understand dating for most women.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 11:01 PM
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Why are you being hostile? Why do my dating preferences bother you?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 11:00 PM
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I was always terrible at science, but I love cooking. We may need to get you a personal chef lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 10:02 PM
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I was always terrible at science, but I love cooking. We may need to get you a personal chef lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 10:02 PM
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I’m definitely curious what your problem is then. Most people can at least make something decent if they have the recipe.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 09:40 PM
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The girl in the story was not thinking the grass is greener. That would imply she was looking for someone new which we can’t conclude unless stated. And the girls you know has every right to leave if she wants. I personally would tell him he has a hygiene issue and try to help him, but that may not work. If it doesn’t that might be a dealbreaker. Nothing wrong with that. *women not females You say the women here aren’t giving our opinions, but also “rip apart the story”. Which is is? What do you…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 09:39 PM
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Did I say it wasn’t?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 09:34 PM
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I’m gonna host a beginner class for people like you lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 09:33 PM
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taste ✨💗
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 07:00 PM
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A relationship shouldn’t be a burden, but you have to make adjustments for your partner’s needs. If you can’t handle it then maybe that relationship isn’t for you. My last relationship was with a guy who was really outgoing. I am more introverted and prefer to be alone with people I like. He loved to hang out with his friends. I sacrificed sometimes by hanging out with the big group. He sacrificed by spending some evenings just with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 06:50 PM
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I look for more traditional relationships. So I expect him to do more traditionally masculine things and I do more traditionally feminine things.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 06:46 PM
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I can definitely agree with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 06:29 PM
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A lot of guys will give women dating advice that only serves men. You have to use your own judgment when taking advice from others for sure. I’ll never understand how people can waste other’s time and resources. People are so selfish. In dating you have to have boundaries and know what you want. But you also have to understand that other people have wants too. They deserve a true shot at love same as you.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 06:28 PM
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I have no idea. He was probably just trying to insert his opinion on my life. Not that I care lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 06:22 PM
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Relationships have ups and downs. Ultimately it should be positive, but you still have to make sacrifices sometimes when you love someone. That’s ok.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 06:20 PM
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It probably wasn’t even 1-2 a week. If she was that upset to break up with him. I think he could take her back if he liked her more than he dislikes her impatience. When you care about someone, you’ll have to put up with a few things you may not love. But ultimately you decide what’s a dealbreaker or not. I wouldn’t blame him if he didn’t want her back.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 06:18 PM
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If I have little knowledge, don’t listen to me. I know what I know. You know what you know. And you don’t see the problem with talking to someone for weeks without asking them on a date? Also, I don’t believe in asking men out so personally I can’t do that. Other girls can if they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 06:16 PM
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Nah. We’re in the age of casual sex and talking stages. A lot of people will have sex with any girl anytime. Some people don’t see the point in dating when they can just have sex. Of course decent guys still ask women out, but plenty of trash guys will feel fine talking to you for weeks before taking you on a date. Lots of guys date while broke or cheap so they aren’t going to just go on dates with just anyone. Their dream girl will likely get a date, but most women aren’t his dream girl so he i…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 05:35 PM
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Because getting sex from men is easy. Most of the time you just have to look decent and talk to a guy and he’ll be willing to have sex with you. For a date, you traditionally have to wait for him to ask you.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 05:29 PM
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We don’t know how often they saw each other. I highly doubt it was 3-4 times a week which you just made up. I think you just enjoy calling a woman an idiot. Yes relationships mean compromise, but people choose what they compromise on. If she needs to see him more often and he can’t provide that, they weren’t gonna work.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 05:26 PM
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That’s sad, but if it’s casual sex with another person who wants casual sex I understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 05:23 PM
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The guy said that hair that long is me making a statement. I’m not sure what kind of statement that would make. I just like long hair, and I think I would look so pretty. If a guy sees that as a red flag, he’s free to go lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 05:19 PM
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You’re reaching a bit. I know what shallow means, but that isn’t important in reference to this story. Jessica isn’t an idiot. She’s just impatient. If she’s not spending enough time with her bf, she isn’t happy. That’s not uncommon. Yes, maybe she should have took more time to think about her decision, but ultimately she left because of lack of compatibility in quality time needed. Not because she thought Zack was a bad guy. And just because a problem is trivial to you, doesn’t make it trivial …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 05:14 PM
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Dating now is mediocre IMO. It needs work from both sides. People need to be more intentional and upfront about what they want. You need to be considerate of other’s time and resources. If you want to casually date, state that and don’t entertain people looking for something serious. If you’re looking for something serious, stop being afraid of scaring people off. Have standards. Everyone should have standards. And a lot of people don’t. Or they do and they don’t stand firm on them. I think most…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 05:08 PM
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You should definitely put some work in and try for your health. It’s your choice though. But at least do it if you choose to have children. You don’t want to create an unhealthy relationship with food for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 05:00 PM
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Interesting. I would also find it rude if someone went on social media while on a date with me. But I don’t mind if you need to check your phone. If mine goes of, I’m definitely gonna check in case it’s family. After that, just flip it back over.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 04:56 PM
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I can’t check my phone at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 04:48 PM
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You can’t cook at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 04:46 PM
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I’m more traditional in relationships. I have some controversial views. I’d ideally like 4-6 children. I’m introverted. I will hangout with your friend group because I care about you, but I’m definitely not the life of the party type. I plan on growing my hair to waist length in a few years. (Someone here told me that’s a red flag. Thoughts on this?)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 04:45 PM
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She doesn’t even sound shallow though. She’s just impatient. That may mean you’re not compatible. Why are you dreaming up revenge stories for someone who didn’t even do anything harmful to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 04:31 PM
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This sounds like the type of “revenge” people dream about when they get dumped 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 03:08 PM
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I expect men to make quick decisions, have more confidence, and do more labor if it needs to be done. I also expect normal chivalrous acts such as opening doors and carrying things. I expect women around me to be nicer overall than men. Or at least to pretend to be nice. I expect better conversation from women. I definitely expect more neatness in women (except for with their cars which are notoriously messy, men almost always have clean cars). These are just basic standards to me, but both gend…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 11:10 AM
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I don’t. I almost did around age 14-15 because of my rough cycle, but my mother declined. Then I was pushed again by doctors around 17-18. I wasn’t interested. I was surprised how much they tried to pressure me into it. Such a red flag. I never plan on taking it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 11:04 AM
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Because everyone is the hero in their own story. If you ask a man, he’ll say that women aren’t understanding and think less of him when he cries. He’s good. She’s bad. If you ask a woman, she’ll say she wants the guy to be vulnerable, but he has too much toxic masculinity to do so. She’s good. He’s bad. Both are generalizations. Both are probably lying to an extent. Everyone wants to be seen as the good guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 12:29 PM
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I get that. I’ve definitely met girls like this. But the majority of alpha women that I run into personally are more into being muscular. It won’t be easy for you, but there is definitely a whole genre of girls exactly your type. I’d suggest going for alpha women instead of muscle girls first. I know you want both, but the personality is more important in your situation I think. Plus a girl can more easily transition into wanting to build muscle than transitioning into wanting to be an alpha.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 09:24 PM
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I don’t really see your issue. You say you are attracted to more tall, muscular women. With your submissive personality you’ll need a more dominant or “alpha” woman. The same way that most women don’t want you, most guys don’t want your ideal woman. There are less of you, but you’re both in similar situations looking for each other. It’ll be harder to find, but when you do it’ll be a perfect match.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 08:27 PM
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you’re welcome :)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 02:55 PM
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I think 50/50 relationships are usually unequal for the woman, lessen masculinity in men, and promote stress. In theory everything is split down the middle, but irl the woman is stuck with the majority of the housework and has to birth the children on top of having a job. She’s contributing way more and gaining nothing IMO. That amount of stress also makes her less feminine and agreeable for her man, and she is likely to lose respect for him eventually. Traditional relationships give more separa…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 02:29 PM
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thanks for the info lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 02:19 PM
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Why cringe? and I might make honesty pilled my new flair lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 12:41 PM
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you’re welcome :)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 12:32 PM
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Plenty of girls only have sex in relationships. It’s a great thing. But why are you waiting 6 months to decide if she’s your girl? Sounds like you just want to waste time so you can do whatever you want without commitment.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 11:29 PM
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Second?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 10:03 PM
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Projecting. What are you even talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 06:46 PM
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I think you misunderstood me a lot. But no issues. Thanks :)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 04:27 PM
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I’m my experience the guy pays for everything. It makes me more attracted to him. And I’m always grateful and appreciative In my last relationship I only bought small things like snacks. Even then I’d do it before he came around because he wouldn’t let me if he saw. I do buy gifts and things for like a birthday of course. If a guy wanted to split the bill that would make me think he isn’t that interested, he’s cheap, or he’s into 50/50 relationships which I’m not. If I offer to split the bill on…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 04:21 PM
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Your second paragraph is correct. That’s essentially what I mean. But I meant “Don’t date potential” I’d more clear because a lot of women literally rave about a guy’s potential only to end up disappointed. So if I want to address those women, I am going to clearly use the word potential. And again, I do believe that getting a guy at his peak is the best strategy. Don’t build with him. Let him come to you when he’s already built. If someone mistook my advice to mean that I honestly wouldn’t mind…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 04:09 PM
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I don’t care if you criticize me or not. I wasn’t asking for critics though, so don’t be upset that I don’t care about your opinion. I purposely said my statement in a blunt or “harsh” way in order to target women. I don’t see a need to adjust it. Simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 04:03 PM
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Why are you trying to make me change my words? I said what I said for a reason. I even explained what I meant and why. If you don’t like it, I don’t care. It’s for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 03:32 PM
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I’m not a feminist. I just think these answers are gross. But I wish you never even posed this question. You know how these people are.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 03:23 PM
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No, thank you. Again, my advice is for women. I am saying what women need to hear. We always talk highly of a man’s potential. That’s why I purposely chose that word. To relate to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 03:20 PM
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Y’all hate feminists, but then comment the disgusting things that you do on here. Lack of common sense. Lack of empathy.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 03:14 PM
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Yeah I’m not sure exactly what’s the issue since idk either of you. I will say the laid back attitude most guys have can seem more like lazy or nonchalant to us so that may be the issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 01:11 PM
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Sorry to hear. Yeah she kinda set herself up for that. She should have never continued dating you if she expected more from you and you weren’t changing. But at the same token, as a guy you should expect that women want to see you do more. We want you to be ambitious. And we really want to look up to you. Most of y’all let us down. That’s why I say don’t get your hopes up in the first place and date what’s right in front of you. But people don’t listen to me lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 12:51 PM
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You can date an early 20s guy if he’s already on try to be the person he wants to be. He wants to be a business owner. Great. Does he have a side hustle? Can he sell a candy bar? Is he even good with money? If not, you’re betting on potential which is stupid. And lots of people do believe in only dating guys at their peak. I actually think it’s the best dating strategy as well, but it’s harder to find. Most people will never reach their biggest goals anyway. That’s why my version of the advice w…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 12:46 PM
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That’s actually hilarious
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 12:36 PM
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Men being feminine will make you more concerned about women’s issues such as being accepting of abortion and less toxic masculinity. Some girls do like those soft, nail painting guys, but the majority of people telling you to be feminine just want you to empathize. They have a point, but they go about it wrong IMO. Women should complain about aggressiveness in men when it’s towards us. That’s unacceptable. When it’s towards other men, idk. But ultimately most women still want you to be a protect…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 12:10 PM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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