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you do realize this was simple manipulation right? Likely, yes. Whatever it was however, I wasn’t ready to call it quits so didn’t feel I had a choice. and what does fixed look like? No more dancing monkey. Getting there I think by being realistic with myself about my nature, achievements and personality flaws. The trick will be continuing to identify them, accept them and embrace them or take steps to fixing them (when possible/sensible, not everything is bad per se, but not acknowledging them …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/24 10:45 AM
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what if you only gave yourself the ability to care about 3 things a day and after you spent those 3, you were no longer able to care about anything Thanks this resonates quite a lot. I’ll try it. what does being done with therapy look like and how do we get there? Therapy was a condition my wife drew in the sand in January or we were to separate immediately. It’s been more useful than I expected TBH. I have more baggage I was denying than I knew. therapy is confession for the secular world It is…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/24 10:29 PM
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One of the problems of treating this like a TODO list is that writing down what you "will" do, tricks you into thinking you've done something. It's a good point and I appreciate it. I’ll revisit the list, I know most of them are more things like “kept frame” and “didn’t lose emotional control” rather than “do this”, “do that”. The goal for me is to always remember that I am keeping myself accountable one day at a time. I'm confused why you wouldn't be gaming your wife. Right now I’m lucky to get…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/24 10:26 PM
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OYS#14 Owning your shit is not enough if you cannot rein in said shit. I’m attractive (enough) but have crossed some other line and become an “abuser”. Fixing that seems harder. Fixing myself comes first. At this point my problems result from emotional control issues and lack of discipline. Discipline I can fix. I have prep’d a spreadsheet and will not sleep until I have—to my satisfaction—ticked off the boxes. I will evaluate how well this is going after 14 days. Emotional control is a problem …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/24 06:12 PM
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OYS#13 I fixed my job with a drastic move others have called gutsy and they are impressed which is not what I think of it at all. To me it was a desperate move by someone failing in their position. My new role is much more aligned with my talents and I’m procrastinating on it. Using executive and founder privilege to barely work at all. I sit at my desk like a loser and browse twitter or reddit. I am designing big pieces of the company’s future and I know from experience that you have to let ide…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/24 09:01 PM
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OYS#12 43, 5’7, 159lbs, 17.2% BF (navy method), 36F married 15mths, LTR 4 yr, kid 2 y/o, OYS#11 BP 145×5×5, SQ 170×5x5, DL 180×5×5, OHP 75×8×3 Depression. Can’t stop thinking about 4 years ago when I was swimming in pussy and happy as I’ve ever been with a big group of friends where I was captain, popular in the community and my girl (then: plate, now: wife) was completely enamored with me. Figuring out how to get back there is not getting me anywhere. I understand intrinsically that it is a min…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/24 05:56 PM
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OYS#11 43, 5’7, 159lbs, 17.2% BF (navy method), 36F married 13mths, LTR 4 yr, kid 2 y/o, OYS#10 BP 140×5×5, SQ 185×5x5, DL 185x5x5 In a pit of self doubt. I care too much about my wife’s emotional state. As soon as I sense her feelings being unstable I find myself nervous. One notable time I managed to find the captain mindset and it was a wonderful reversion to that which I need to be. I can control this and need to pull on it every time. I can handle this shit. I have in the past, I can in the…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/24 12:37 PM
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The only problem is that she knows I have a girlfriend and has seen me come into the coffee shop with my girlfriend. (The barista looks sad when I come in with my gf) I need to come up with a way to get her number in a way that doesn't blow up in my face. Fear is what is holding me back. Abundance turns them on. You know that. Showing off your GF has increased her attraction for you. Get that number.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/24 02:19 PM
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OYS#10 43, 5’7, 160lbs, 17.2% BF (navy method), 36F married 13mths, LTR 4 yr, kid 2 y/o, OYS#9 BP 140×5×5, SQ 185×5x5, DL 185x5x5 This week was seemingly full of anxiety, neediness and scrutinizing her every move and statement. To some extent I think I am just catching more such occasions than usual and (actually) it’s my base. I also caught many occasions where I was OI and felt myself settle into the nook of man of a house of children. The nook is at the top of a hill and it’s so easy for it t…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/24 01:29 PM
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It's a good one https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/pymw1k/hornsofapathys_mrp_cheat_codes_to_blow_up_your/
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/24 05:59 PM
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Yeah thanks. Didn‘t occur to me that I crossed the red line there.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/24 04:50 PM
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Agree. Was letting approach anxiety control that interaction.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/24 04:49 PM
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Next morning did ocean swim before breakfast and spotted the HB7.5 (sister) at the pool. I nodded and said morning, went to eat then after was like: approach her. So sat down next to her and chatted her up for 5 minutes. Told her I go to the ocean every morning, that it’s better than coffee and she should join me tomorrow. Left. On way back to room was a HB7 sitting at her computer. As I passed I shouted morning! and she was like do I know you? I said “you could!” and kept walking. On the way ba…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/24 02:04 PM
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FR Was away this week for business. Decided I would make it a point to talk to everyone and anyone. With the purpose of reminding myself I am that kind of man, that I can and that I can attract random women (people). At airport bar made off hand comments directed at the couple next to me. She was with her man and who knows if that made her reserved or not. But was fun with her briefly here and there and the waitress who I (mildly) negged. Woman on other side of me at one point asked me to pass h…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/24 02:04 PM
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I need openers Make observations. At a pool party couple weeks back I opened loadsa people pointing at the fire extinguisher and asking them how often they thought it got used. Then just be loud, laugh easily and keep the conversation going with broad questions asked specifically (eg. rather than What are you doing for the 4th? ask “you look like the kind of guy who parties hard on the 4th”)
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/24 02:00 PM
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OYS#9 43, 5’7, 161lbs, 17.2% BF (navy method), 36F married 12mths, LTR 4 yr, kid 2 y/o, OYS#8 BP 135×5×5, SQ 155×5x6, DL 155x8x5 vision: regain frame, regain prior levels of social confidence, be the most attractive man everyone knows Gave her the gift of missing me by being away for business. Sex directly before and directly after I returned. Both times high emotion from her. My performance was unsatisfactory. I need to do more work there. There’s been times in my life I was completely in contr…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/24 10:52 AM
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They all have anxiety disorders. Your wife is no different from the rest.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/24 11:36 AM
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Mental: had an interesting question come to mind and that is how did we all get here? Like where did it start with so many of us becoming AFCs? First thing that comes to mind is all our social conditioning but even then What actions led me here? to me I believe it all starts with my failing shit tests. That's when I'm most likely in someone else's frame, that's when I DEER, thats when I fall short of pursuing my own goals. I was much more even keeled this week and doing a better job remaining in…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/24 06:02 PM
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I find mindset and keeping my breathing slow and heartrate low the best way to avoid PE. If I can get myself in that mindset and slowly build stimulation I then tend to last as long as both want. I struggle too though. For you sounds like anxiety at performance is the main thing. Often the same for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/24 03:10 PM
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OYS#8 43, 5’7, 161lbs, 17.2% BF (navy method), 36F married 12mths, LTR 4 yr, kid 2 y/o, OYS#7 BP 135×5×5, SQ 155×5x6, DL 155x8x5 My face looks leaner. I think despite the plateuing of weight for the last 6 weeks I am still losing flab. Veins are sticking out on arms and legs. But still unhappy with belly. It’s lean but I want all that gone. Waist and buttocks are still where there is some excess. Getting IOIs more frequently. Glances, second glances. Smiles. Chatted up girl at pool party on Satu…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/24 03:00 PM
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OYS#7 43, 5’7, 161lbs, 17.2% BF (navy method), 36F married 11mths, LTR 4 yr, kid 2 y/o, OYS#6 Reading Bronze Age Mindset, finished The Natural. Read NMMNG, MMSLP. Up’d lifts. Did a social with one of my more masculine almost-friends. Had a good staycation on our anniversary where we both had a great time. Dealt with crises in the home by being the oak. Handled the shitshow that is my company with assertiveness and direction. Led at home and work. Sex 4×. All good. 2× spectacular. All from IOI to…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/24 05:13 PM
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Ah. Yes, you're right. I'll reflect on that and take this into account for next week. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/24 02:51 PM
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Before trips is her protecting her man. She gives you great sex so you don’t stray when away. Return sex (IMO) suggests she missed you. Awww. You should 90% of the time initiate. She wants you to dominate and control her. But you should only initiate when she's sent the signals. So in effect she has initiated but can maintain plausible deniability about it because it was not overt.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/24 08:48 PM
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Overt sexual comments don’t go very well. She mentioned she doesn’t like them and that I am lately making forward or aggressive comments. I know she just isn't attracted. If you give her more ick than tingles this is what they’ll say. Recallibrate. Be OI and build attraction. You will know when it is time to start sexual comments again based on her IOI for you. Personally I would hold off on being sexual with her at all until you've have a good fuck and the day after she provides IOI. Let her sh…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/24 02:52 PM
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Oneitus is easy to kill with abundance. Read a game book (eg The Natural), do 30 approaches. When you start seeing desire in random girls eyes your mindset will shift and you will know you are worthy of way more than past pussy. Get on with it. The longer you delay the more you will look back and see how you were avoiding fixing your problems for various excuses. The thing about getting female attention and thus abundance mindset is actually it's easy: it's a science and women are everywhere for…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/24 02:39 PM
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OYS#6 43, 5’7, 160lbs, 18.3% BF (navy method), 36F married 11mths, LTR 4 yr, kid 2 y/o, OYS#5 Sunday I got agitated thinking about work. My work is my mission RN. I understand that it should not (entirely) be, but completing my mission will unlock a good part of my vision (to be financially independent and spin up companies to achieve longer term goals). I have reduced my stress and obsession with my work substantially since last year. Most of the time I am able to maintain an aura of OI regardi…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/24 02:45 PM
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The excuses for not having sex are suddenly gone if she is attracted to you. Case in point a few months back my wife told me she didn’t like kissing me after I’ve gone down on her. I told her fine and haven’t since until yesterday when she jumped me and I went down then kissed her a bunch during penetration. She had no disgust whatsoever. She doesn’t actually care about it when she experiences genuine desire maybe even the opposite. Back when she said it she just didn’t want to fuck and was voic…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/24 11:59 AM
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OYS#5 43, 5’7, 160lbs, 18.3% BF (navy method), 36F married 10mths, LTR 4 yr, kid 2 y/o, OYS#4 I am feeling more like the prize. Been engaging with women, not gaming them particularly yet, but I apply USS principles and don’t worry about what I’m saying just making sure I have a strong masculine mindset. As a result feeling more abundant. Shit tests are ramping up and she is having a lot of fun with them. The more playful, relaxed and comfortable home life is great for the whole family. I am pass…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/24 01:16 PM
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OYS#4 42, 5’7, 160lbs, 18.3% BF (navy method), 36F married 10mths, LTR 4 yr, kid 2 y/o, OYS#3 vision: gain fuck you money, using it to spin up companies that change the world. mission: master myself and rein in the shitshow that is my current company so it can pay out. The wife can either come along for the ride or not. The stay plan is the go plan: become the most attractive man I can be. Conflict avoidance continues to dominate me leading to overt lies. Not just careful wording. I am man: I ne…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/24 01:07 PM
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OYS#3 42, 5’7, 160lbs, 18.3% BF (navy method), 36F married 10mths, LTR 4 yr, kid 2 y/o, OYS#2 “You’re looking great, both in body and spirit“, I quote my wife. This statement was impactful for me. Thus I’m clearly either in her frame or chasing her validation. Overall I exhibited more OI last week than reactivity. There were a few instances where I lost control and reacted and some instances where I was not reacting but she could read my face easily and my frustration at having to fog and stfu w…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/24 09:08 PM
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OYS#2 42, 5’7, 161lbs, 36F married 10mths, LTR 4 yr, kid 2 y/o, OYS#1 In general: progress. Internalizing the material has been more like revision than breaking programming since this is round 2 for me. However I even more truly now understand just how much I have forgotten. I remember how last time (5 years ago) the red pill mindset was first and forefront in my mind for all interactions—but I then got arrogant with my ability and it slipped slowly and without me really noticing. I have read th…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/24 01:27 PM
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May I be a lesson for never resting on your laurels.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/24 02:22 AM
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OYS#1 42, 5'7, 166lbs, 18.3% BF (strongur.io), 36F married 9 months, together 4 years, kid 2 y/o Health I’ve cut down beer to one a day except Fridays… but I’m smoking again. Gym 3× per week. Lifts BP 145 10×2, dunno on rest because personal trainer hates the rest. Will insist we do a round next week to get the numbers. Need to quit the tobacco, it’s a recent thing due to depression and will be easy to stop. Won’t be quitting beer yet. Need it. Obviously working on not needing it. Lost 25lbs sin…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/24 08:29 PM
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