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My daughter said she didn't remember what it was like when Mom and Dad were together. The same reply might work for you. When we were together, it wasn't a happy house. Now you have a happy house when you're with me, and another happy house when you're with Mom. Better than one unhappy house, right!
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/23 12:37 AM
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Unless something egregious happens that involves child protective services.
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/20 07:29 PM
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My kids went from being in an unhappy household with two parents that didn't want to be together anymore, to splitting their time between two separate households where each household is happy. While I wasn't the one who wanted a divorce, it turned out to be better for the kids to have a happy Dad.
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/20 01:25 AM
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I can't wait to finally hear a man winning in a Divorce. Though I can see that you had to put in sooooooo much more effort than any woman would have to for the same.
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/20 02:56 AM
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Do you want to give her all that power over you? She's not all right, do you want her to be the one raising your daughter without you in the picture to help save your daughter? Focus on getting your life in order to save your daughter from your stbx.
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/20 08:44 PM
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I am in NY. The child support and alimony does take 65% of my paycheck. That's a fact. I have the kids 6 out of 14 days, but that doesn't reduce child support. I go to food pantries to get food for me and the children, but the courts just don't care because I'm the man. But that's not what this question is about. She's trying to enforce her unfair reading of the judgment to get a money judgment against me to take more. That's why I'm asking specifically about money judgments so I can understand …
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/20 04:20 PM
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You need to decide what kind of a dad you want to be. Then figure out how you can be the best dad these kids deserve. Then figure out how you can do that in a separate home. It's all about the kids. Will the kids have happy parents in 2 separate homes or 2 miserable parents in 1 home? Can you be awesome for them?
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/20 12:54 AM
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Damned if you do, Damned if you don't. She's telling everyone about it because she wants the sympathy and expects that'll be enough to keep the friends as part of the divorce. Alternately, she's hoping for a genius idea that someone will have to fix everything (which will never come). I chose to just let go of all pre-separation friends and made new ones. If my kids were on their own, I would've chosen to move to a different town and completely start over. While I could get the guys in a couple …
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/20 12:48 AM
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My case has cost me much more than that. Even at 7/14, I'd still have to pay her the full 25% of gross income for child support, even though that would put her income higher than mine. That's the stupidity of divorce law, at least in NY State.
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/20 10:28 PM
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The courts are totally unfair. I've already been screwed over and it will continue because I am the dad. I have 6 out of 14 days with my kids, but child support would be the same even if I had 0 days. My question is specifically around money judgment. Does anyone know the details?
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/20 12:51 PM
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File quickly, the more money you make between now and when you file, the more goes to her. Child support is based on your earnings at the time of judgment and can change when there's an income change of 15% or every 3 years, whichever is sooner. Depending on location, some courts will make you pay a %age of earnings (e.g. in NY it's 25% of pre-tax earnings for 2 kids) even if you make a lot because they believe the cost of raising kids is higher. Others will stick to the %age of a max amount (e.…
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/20 02:20 AM
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Hope that she finds someone else. Hopefully she’ll be less of a devil in the divorce if she’s happier in her home life. And if they get married, no more alimony. And if she’s happier, she’ll be nicer to your children. Silver lining.
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/20 03:34 AM
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Your kids are 5 years older now, and presumably understand more. Make sure they know what's not okay and to talk to you. Even a child witnessing violence between your ex and her partner is enough for you to go to child protective services and possibly be awarded primary custody. Protect your kids, all of them.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/20 12:13 AM
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Looking to write a GoFundMe to see if I can get kind strangers to help. But been delaying because she'll argue that I now have money to pay her legal fees for suing me.
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/20 02:41 AM
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Such evil. My ex similarly refused to settle, demanding double my gross income and double our entire net worth as settlement. And for the house - she wanted half the value, not half the equity. And the damn judge - said either sell or give her half the gross value of the house. Damn inept judges. So, of course I had to sell, then she got half the equity. She took my half for other stupid judgments... The lesson learned - holding on to the house will likely lead to you losing everything. Then you…
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/20 02:38 AM
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I'll pray for you. The only positive thing I can think of is that judges frequently break the law and give money to whomever they want. However that is frequently the woman. And the judgment is then open to appeal, given your stbx's profession, she's a master at stealing other people's money using the court system to do it. You may be able to show the value of the homes before you got married, and subtract the amount of the re-finance as your separate property. I don't know anything about the la…
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/20 11:55 PM
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But in the End, it doesn't even matter. #linkinpark It seems Karma gets these evil women after we've been made to suffer, after we've moved on with our lives, and finally overcome the losses. Karma seems to come after the joy and vindication we would feel is muted. Karma comes so late that it doesn't even matter, if it ever comes at all.
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/20 10:20 PM
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What's even scarier is some community property states alegedly have Pal-imony. You may owe alimony to someone you've lived with even if you never got married. Stay away from those states...
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/20 09:55 PM
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I wish I had something to offer you other than agreement. The system is so broken, and become full of crooks. The divorce floor of the courthouse has 10 police officers. The repeat offender floor for ex-criminals has 2 officers. The divorce system in this country creates criminals or at the very least makes many going through the crookedness think about it. My divorce took 4 years and left me $350k in debt because she refused to even agree that April 1st comes before April 30th (talk about argui…
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/20 09:42 PM
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I wish it was that cheap. By refusing logic and reason, she racked up $250k in legal fees, and forced me to spend the same to defend her idiocy. Then the court forced me to pay it all despite sending me $350k into debt. #injustice system.
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/20 01:12 AM
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I couldn't leave my kids to be with the devil 100% of the time.
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/20 01:11 AM
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She refused to negotiate anything, so we were forced to go to trial. Judge didn't start trial for 2 years, then took another 2 years to write a badly written decision. Since then she refuses to agree to a logical reading of the decision and is twisting everything despite the original decision already putting me deep into debt. Then she took me to court to force her illogical reading of the decision, which I lost then had to appeal because it was so egregious. That appeal took 2 years. Now again …
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/20 01:08 AM
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Despite being $350k in debt after the court forced me to spend $500k in legal fees, I am still overall happier not being with the devil. They say you never know why this was the better path until much later, or never. I believe that if I hadn't gone through the pain of divorce, she would have poisoned me to death instead. I have 2 kids who are with a happy dad 45% of the time, and hopefully their mom is happier too for their other 55%. Better than being in a single unhappy house.
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/20 12:57 AM
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10 years, sounds like my divorce. Started in 2011, finally got judgment in 2015, and the ex is fighting for more money, twisting the words in the judgment to get more money out of me despite already putting me in debt both absolutely, and further in debt every month by leaving me without enough for rent, insurance, food, gas. So, at this stage, where I cannot afford an attorney any more, do you have any suggestions on how I can get money from the ex to pay for an attorney, or how to get the cour…
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/20 03:20 AM
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