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plainwhiff/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/14 07:22 PM
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I had a similar situation one time. I dated a girl who I thought was really cool, but the physical part was awful. In her case it was because she hadn't been physical with a guy since she was raped about a year prior. This is not the time to be all "rah rah redpill let's fuck this slut," in my opinion. If she gets in touch again, I think you should let her know that she seems to be struggling with some PTSD, and gently suggest that she speak with a therapist. It would be irresponsible to fuck he…
/r/askTRP23/12/14 09:19 AM
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I was in your place a couple years ago. I cheated on my wife. I didn't even go far with it, but I knew that what I was doing would hurt her. It tore me up inside to know that I'd done it. I created all kinds of rationalizations and internal defenses for why I'd done it, to help me live with it, and these came out as trouble in the marriage--basically, I was always angry with her because I had hurt her. It was a constant torment, worried she would find out, angry at myself. It was on my mind ever…
/r/askTRP26/11/14 03:31 AM
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If there was no such thing as the disease of addiction, there would be no cigarette smokers. Cigarettes taste awful and they kill you, yet some people smoke a pack a day until they die. This happens because nicotine is really good at convincing your brain that it wants more nicotine. Your emotions, your rational processes, your everything becomes bent to the purpose of getting more nicotine. Sufficient exposure to nicotine will hardwire the brain to believe that it "wants" nicotine. Every though…
/r/TheRedPill26/11/14 03:21 AM
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You have an addiction. Addiction is a disease. This does not mean you're helpless--it means you have to work harder than everybody else in order to live a fulfilling life. Research it and learn how to conquer it.
/r/TheRedPill26/11/14 03:09 AM
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There have always been ways to hide it, though. It used to be that you could move to a new city and nobody there could look at your Facebook and piece together your whole Goddamn life story!
/r/TheRedPill07/11/14 11:37 PM
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We're in a city, no car, public transportation. She says she wants the laptop to look for work, which she can't do with her iPad (because reasons, something about websites displaying weird on iPads). I say, ok, you can use my laptop when I'm not working, she says no good, she wants to be able to use it whenever she wants, and she wants it to be "hers." I say, ok, then save up "your" allowance for it...
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/14 11:34 PM
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She likes the iPad for other things, her argument is that she needs both. Shit, I offered to buy the iPad from her, even.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/14 11:31 PM
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I have a laptop, which she uses when I'm not using it. She also has an iPad which is just hers. We have $200, but we're also stretching my income to do a lot of stuff right now--paying off some credit card debt, saving up to start a family, and traveling the world at the same time. I've been a wizard at making all of this work, but I really do have to monitor every penny, or penny by penny it all disappears.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/14 11:22 PM
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Thanks, man. I needed to hear I'm not alone. Really valuing your post right now.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/14 08:20 PM
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There's money in the bank, but that's our savings, our emergency fund..... try explaining that, though..... oh and how can I say it's "ours" if she can't spend from it when she wants to.... oh God I need to get back to the gym.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/14 07:44 PM
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She keeps saying I'm a jerk for treating her like a child...
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/14 07:25 PM
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He's got it upside-down and backwards. The dating scene hasn't changed because of Tinder. All Tinder does is prove things we already knew about the dating scene: Women can ride the carousel all day and men have to try harder.
/r/TheRedPill03/11/14 03:37 PM
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It tends to accompany the red pill transition. It means you're winning--in her desperation, you're seeing the worst of her. It has happened to me and other guys who post here. If she's going physical, it means that she senses the loss of power, and she's trying desperately to find a way to keep it. You have grounds for divorce now.. I say kick her out of the house and take your sweet time deciding what to do next.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/14 07:00 PM
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Honest question: How old are you? And how well-read?
/r/TheRedPill24/09/14 07:27 PM
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Man, I agree with you so hard. My wife was miserable when she was still killing herself on the career treadmill. She has really blossomed since she decided to stop doing it. I am totally willing to take the sole breadwinner pressure in exchange for having a "real" marriage. A "real" wife is a pretty amazing thing to have in your life.
/r/TheRedPill14/09/14 08:54 PM
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I guarantee that woman has a drug problem.
/r/TheRedPill13/09/14 04:37 AM
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Stoicism does not mean "no emotions," at all, read Marcus Aurelius and Epictetus.
/r/TheRedPill12/09/14 10:56 PM
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Can you define "childhood" and explain why you think it's a good thing to prolong it? I'm just trying to understand your comment.
/r/TheRedPill12/09/14 10:50 PM
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It really feels like men lost their way somewhere in the baby boomer generation. Feminism and the whole emotion-positive new age movement are not necessarily terrible things, but in their excitement at discovering these new ideas, it seems that a lot of men did away with a lot of vital common-sense time-tested wisdom about life and relationships. I had nobody to teach me to be a man growing up. I had to figure it all out and rebuild myself from scratch, one painful error at a time. Now, at 31, I…
/r/TheRedPill12/09/14 06:40 PM
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I remember when I thought I would want to handle relationships that way. I hope it works out better for you than it did for me.
/r/TheRedPill12/09/14 06:33 PM
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a childish woman will stop trying to solve anything for herself if you're always there to think for her and bail her ass out. You are right on point with that. Any person can get that way, really. It's called "learned helplessness." Even a strong man has to be careful about that pattern, because he might take pleasure in solving problems and helping others, and it might be very tempting to get that pleasure out of his wife or girlfriend's problems. But it sets up unhealthy patterns for sure. I h…
/r/TheRedPill12/09/14 06:29 PM
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I hadn't considered it from that angle, but you're right. It makes sense to fire someone who messes up your company's brand. There's a lot he can do to rescue his brand, though. Michael Vick is an example. He has a shot at a redemption story, which the public loves.
/r/TheRedPill12/09/14 06:25 PM
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Just to clarify, he doesn't seem alpha to me at all. Alpha would have calmly walked upstairs and packed her a bag the moment she slapped him. He strikes me as a weak man in charge of a powerful body.
/r/TheRedPill12/09/14 06:21 PM
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The legal system already dealt with the guy, it seems wrong that he should lose his career over it. And Heaven forbid you make the suggestion that some couples have to learn how to be married, some couples stumble along the way and ugly shit happens, and maybe just maybe this couple can make it if they really want to.
/r/TheRedPill12/09/14 03:24 AM
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Good post. Frame is so important in a marriage. David Deida says the man acts as an emotional anchor for the woman. It can be very confusing if you don't know that you're supposed to be the anchor: Sometimes it can seem like she needs you to compromise, when really she is begging you to hold your frame and be a rock for her. You help her understand and navigate her own emotional thunderstorm by giving her a fixed, unmoving frame of reference.
/r/TheRedPill12/09/14 03:17 AM
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If you have the slightest suspicion that your condoms have been fucked with, just replace them. What if you have 10, you test 9, and the 10th one is the only one with holes in it?
/r/askTRP12/09/14 12:48 AM
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No means NO--it means you put your pants back on and go watch TV or something, it means she's going home, you're not gonna keep cuddling, making out, hoping she'll change her mind. Usually when you show her where this line is with you, she won't pull the same shit again, and she'll make an effort to be clear about what she really wants in the future. Sometimes it just means you're taking the L and you have to be okay with that. It's not worth it to pursue it beyond that "no," you could end up in…
/r/askTRP11/09/14 09:02 PM
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I started out my career at a massive consulting firm that was known for burning out its employees. People told me over and over that if I wasn't prepared to slave away, put in endless overtime, work 7 days a week, etc., that I'd never get ahead. The general perception at this firm was that if you don't work long hours every day, you'll never get promoted. Instead, I set a strict limit for myself--8 hours a day, 40 hours a week, and I only work overtime if I'm the one who screwed up... never to c…
/r/TheRedPill10/09/14 08:59 PM
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If i stop being alpha she won't respect me and will probably leave me. Not necessarily, she might just start fucking a bunch of other guys behind your back. It's hard to say based on a couple paragraphs what you should do. If you feel like you have the potential to make the alpha switch full-time, then maybe you should do it in this relationship. You can learn a lot about frame in an LTR: You see yourself in a variety of circumstances with her, and sometimes she gets the tingles, and sometimes s…
/r/askTRP09/09/14 10:04 PM
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What an interesting situation. Just for the hell of it I think if you talk to her again you should work the word "bitch" into every sentence.
/r/askTRP09/09/14 06:54 PM
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You already know what you need to do. Is there any way we can help you do it, or will you have to do it yourself?
/r/TheRedPill09/09/14 11:43 AM
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Diogenes was knee deep in a stream washing vegetables. Coming up to him, Plato said, "My good Diogenes, if you knew how to pay court to kings, you wouldn't have to wash vegetables." "And," replied Diogenes, "If you knew how to wash vegetables, you wouldn't have to pay court to kings." Diogenes: MGTOW.
/r/TheRedPill09/09/14 11:40 AM
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Following your story and rooting for you. Keep posting man, keep fighting.
/r/TheRedPill09/09/14 10:44 AM
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Go to a professional psychologist and get therapy. Don't use the Internet to diagnose yourself. If you're not eating healthy, exercising hard 3 - 5 times a week, laying off intoxicants and getting plenty of sleep, do all those things for a few months and see if you still feel bad.
/r/askTRP09/09/14 09:52 AM
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I'm a software developer. I work remotely 100%, making good money, and if I stay on top of my shit I rarely have to work more than 4 hours a day. It's a solid lifestyle.
/r/TheRedPill07/09/14 07:46 PM
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Don't doubt yourself just because you're the only one doing or thinking something.
/r/TheRedPill06/09/14 07:23 PM
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the truth is he can divorce and replace her with a better woman and act confident and "alpha" from the beginning resulting in a better marriage. I bet that's what he told himself when his first marriage fell apart.
/r/TheRedPill05/09/14 07:06 PM
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It's not his wife that needs fixing--she is a woman, and she is functioning properly, the way most women function when they have been stuck in a leaderless marriage for a number of years. You're right, he has a hard road ahead of him. Drastic action is required. But it's a good thing that he's making this effort--the real beta move here is to run away and get the divorce without trying to set things right first. A child makes a mess and walks away; a man cleans it up. What he's doing right now i…
/r/TheRedPill05/09/14 06:55 PM
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This man is taking responsibility for failures in his marriage. Divorce at this point would be like moving out of a house because you never bothered cleaning it and now it's too filthy to live in. If he doesn't fix his weakness now, he will carry it with him, and it will continue to poison his life. It will poison him as a father and it will poison any new relationship he starts after her. He needs to fix himself before he does anything else. Marriage is a commitment. You make a vow. He made a s…
/r/TheRedPill05/09/14 06:44 PM
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Married men: Listen to this guy. He's right. Divorce isn't the answer here, if you don't fix this problem in yourself you'll just end up in another shitty beta marriage nightmare. Being a man is the answer.
/r/TheRedPill05/09/14 06:22 PM
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I truly believe my wife is capable of being the best 1st mate. I just have to drag her there kicking and screaming and undo a lot of damage. It's nice to see this attitude in TRP. This community is so cartoonishly down on marriage. Marriage is hard, but it's the next level of growth for a man who has already had his fill of plates. Don't give up. Hold your frame. I had to send my wife to stay with her parents and cut all contact for two weeks at one point, after a series of tantrums, but I held …
/r/TheRedPill05/09/14 05:56 PM
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Lifting, building up your career, saving money, having adventures, whatever else you want.
/r/TheRedPill05/09/14 04:29 PM
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Kesey was definitely on some type of pill. Check out "The Electric Kool-Aid Acid Test" by Tom Wolfe, which has a lot about Kesey and the scene that sprang up around him.
/r/TheRedPill05/09/14 07:12 AM
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I'm with you right up to the lie. Why lie? Lies make you look weak, like you know you did something wrong and you're trying to come up with an acceptable excuse.
/r/TheRedPill04/09/14 08:40 PM
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That or "Hey There Delilah" by the Plain White T's.
/r/TheRedPill04/09/14 07:18 PM
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I'm a software developer. It is a dream I've been steadily bringing into reality for 9 years... very rewarding to see long-term plans come together.
/r/TheRedPill03/09/14 09:49 PM
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Traveling the world. I'm in Boulder this month, Anchorage next month, then over the next few months.. Berlin, Amsterdam, Paris are booked, who knows after that. Also, looking to change jobs right now, which I do at least once every two years... easiest way to keep making salary jumps. Also lowering my bodyfat percentage, been on 5/3/1 for a couple months now, keep getting stronger and leaner. I'm married, but I've found that continually increasing my SMV is vital to keeping the marriage happy. M…
/r/TheRedPill03/09/14 09:10 PM
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Can you give some tips on finding a good muay thai gym? I'm interested, but totally uninformed.
/r/TheRedPill29/08/14 09:44 PM
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Well, I don't watch TV. Also, I make sure my employer knows that if they ask me to work more than 40 hours in a week on a regular basis, I will fire them.
/r/TheRedPill29/08/14 09:43 PM
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