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Don’t ever tell her. Barry this inside you till the day you die. Just work on yourself. Insecurities, surface up when you’re not happy with yourself. Your insecurities are understandable and reasonable but regardless, you can overcome them with extreme focus on your mission and be optimistic about the future than focusing on the past. Regardless, I understand it’s not always easy to do, but keep working hard! Good luck brother!
/r/RPChristians19/05/24 05:05 PM
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Awareness is the first step to change. Next time you have a conversation with her, stop for a second, and focus on WHAT DO YOU WANT TO TALK ABOUT then bring that topic up with her and see how the conversation go. You’re too focused on what she does and what you don’t do. Focus instead on what YOU want to do.
/r/RPChristians25/04/24 04:43 AM
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Great response. Thank you! I used to choose the negative one and now I am comfortable at shutting up and smile. I need to make more of the flirty responses you mentioned as the automatic ones.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/24 04:13 PM
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I guess it all depends where you start. I had became spineless and classic beta so reading WISNIFG brought me the best results. It literally saved my marriage. I think it’s the very first book anyone should read because setting boundaries as a husband is crucial.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/23 07:44 AM
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Brother if you stay she’s gonna lose respect for you even more than she already has by blowing some other dude. Don’t put her a pedestal and sacrifice your own self respect and dignity. Once you leave you’ll struggle but give it time and you won’t regret it. There are plenty of women out there who are loyal.
/r/RPChristians20/12/23 04:34 AM
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I feel you. I myself tread cautiously breaching this topic with my sister. She has gained weight after she lost a ton of weight. The only way that I felt was a big helpful was inviting her to working out and even that, do it after you’ve established a strong friendship with her. Women tend to use food to cope with emotions. I’d start by trying to talk to her more and be closer to her THEN, after while, start telling her about your plan to lift or to run a 5k. Then slowly start inviting her. Anyw…
/r/RPChristians27/12/22 06:25 AM
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You sound like a good person, but maybe just mentally delayed. One example, California’s age of consent is 18yo. If you wanna know what I am talking about, Click here. Or actually don’t click, it’s none of my concern.
/r/RPChristians11/05/22 10:48 PM
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Go to google and search “going out definition.” You will know what I mean If you read it there.
/r/RPChristians11/05/22 02:45 AM
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Some states have it illegal you go out with someone under 18yo, while others have the consent age at 17yo. So make sure what the laws say because you don’t want to be charged with ”rape.”
/r/RPChristians10/05/22 05:36 PM
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Yeah I did Awhile ago. If i remember correctly, I was ~50% secure, ~30% anxious And the rest was avoidant. did you take it too?
/r/RPChristians06/05/22 01:42 AM
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Yeah. She used to do it a lot because I used to be needy emotionally and that triggers her.
/r/RPChristians05/05/22 10:16 PM
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You sound like you have had your own experience dealing with avoidant partners. Do you mind sharing how that went for you?
/r/RPChristians04/05/22 05:40 AM
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Honestly, when I read this post that I mentioned, I felt like I just had a revelation. If that's how it is hitting you, then save it, and read it multiple times. That's what I did. It has changed my marriage for the better! But regardless, there are still days she's a pain in the ass to deal with lol. Good luck!
/r/RPChristians04/05/22 05:39 AM
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Avoidant partners are actually turned off by affection. Like affection actually makes them feel pressure rather than love. But anyway, keep in mind that each one of us is partly repulsed by people who are “clingy” and needy so your wife may not necessary be avoidant. Read the referenced post and see if it applies to her.
/r/RPChristians03/05/22 05:02 PM
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Yup this is the exact post I’m talking about. And I agree, you have to make sure she is an avoidant first.
/r/RPChristians03/05/22 04:55 PM
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Also I am not familiar with the abbreviations SGM and TSM. What do they mean?
/r/RPChristians03/05/22 05:12 AM
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One time I read an article about an avoidant wife on the married redpill subreddit. He talks about how too much affection pushes her away, and sometimes distance is actually what's needed. However, avoidant partners are typically more extreme to what you're describing. My wife is an avoidant person and I had to scale back my attention and affection to restore some of my mistakes that caused my frame to break.
/r/RPChristians03/05/22 05:11 AM
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So true…
/r/RPChristians06/08/21 08:38 PM
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Thank you! This is spot on. I’m E- or E-+ depending on the people. Occasionally I’d be E+ but it’s hard to maintain. Sometimes it feels like it’s too much for my brain to always spending this energy and it drains me and like it’s hard to enjoy it.
/r/RPChristians15/06/21 02:10 AM
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this might be a bit late. But one thing i found helps with this is calling your buddies or your best friend and talk to him about it. This really helps. My friend usually laughs at me for being butthurt and childish, and reminds me that I need to stop giving it more power over me, and sometimes reminds me that I am doing a good thing in my life and focus on my goals. It works for me. Try it, maybe it works for you too.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/21 01:12 AM
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Please read the book "When I Say No, I Feel Guilty." It will clearly show you how your wife manipulates you with denying you sex, threaten you with me or ---, or any other ways she comes up with. Once you read the book, you will be armed with new ways to fight this new manipulation in ways where she can no longer control you. She will start learning she can't control your beard or anything about you and she will learn to submit with time, hopefully. Just know you will have to rock the boats with…
/r/RPChristians25/10/20 02:16 AM
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OP, I know it's really hard to be in this marriage and then come here, and hear us criticize you. One thing I can assure you is that working on the rules here in this subreddit will help you. But because you've been married for a while, any change will cause your wife to freak out. So go slowly and steadily. We do not want you to lose your marriage, but in order to move into a place of respect in your wife, you will have to rock the boat. Tough days are coming ahead for you, but persevere. My on…
/r/RPChristians23/10/20 01:15 AM
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I know these are hard to hear things in this comment, but I advise OP to really read this OVER AND OVER. OP, put your ego in the trash and face your faults and mistakes that have lead you to this issue. Work hard to being your own person, until then, your wife will not respect you.
/r/RPChristians23/10/20 12:58 AM
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I want to say that my wife has used the divorce threat so many times on my journey to being more red pill in the Christian sense. I have learned that words for women are coming from a place of fear in a lot of ways. She’s afraid to be unhappy. She is afraid you’re going to stop loving her. In a way, what she says has to do with her state of mind than what you are doing. You becoming more red pill is new and a change is always scary sometimes for people. So she’s expressing her fear in words. So …
/r/RPChristians20/10/20 03:30 AM
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