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Comprehensiveplayingandrealityxxx/r/seduction26/09/21 02:09 PM
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What worked for me was not thinking of stuff to stay and just telling whoever I'm with "hangon, this person wants me to talk to them" because that's what it fucking means dude I never have anything good to say. I'm not some magician conversationalist that can make her laugh immediately. I just walk over, say Hi and then just spontaneously word vomit stuff and it usually works out.
/r/seduction27/09/21 02:34 AM
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Yep
/r/seduction26/09/21 03:35 PM
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Are you a freshman? If so, don't even fret about this shit. You have so much time. It's the first month of the semester as well. People move on and shit will settle. I remember this one girl freshman year slept with her roommates boyfriend and it blew up into this whole shitty thing but then they bonded and became best friends for the rest of college. You'll be alright
/r/seduction26/09/21 02:33 PM
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Just be an individual. All of your internal and emotional struggles from this interaction is because you're dependent on your social circle and friends. My advice is to branch out more. Join some different clubs, find more social circles you can bounce around to so that you don't have to care as much about what your other friends think. Stop caring that your friends sympathize with her. Stop caring why your friends ask what's happening between you two. Just move on and do things for yourself. Th…
/r/seduction26/09/21 02:29 PM
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You're simping, hard. The most attractive thing you can do right now is cut her out and ignore her.
/r/seduction26/09/21 02:21 PM
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6 weeks in and it's already toxic enough to snoop through her phone ? If you found nothing, she would have the right to break up with YOU if she found out. End this mess immediately.
/r/seduction22/09/21 11:18 AM
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Body language is key Don't "ask" to dance. You'll know if they're interested in you.
/r/seduction20/09/21 06:05 PM
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My advice is to stop being desperate. You care too much about looking like a "stingy" douchebag. I mean, when you go out to bars, it really isnt a societal norm to buy a women a drink to start talking to her. Shits outdated. Once shits rolling and it seems like you're going to at the very least get a date/number, that's when you can buy them a drink. This happened to me. Some women came up to me and were like "want to take a shot with us?" And I said uhhh OK, but then realized they didn't have t…
/r/seduction17/09/21 05:19 PM
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Uhhh I mean, honestly for me, and this isn't for everyone, but I do these things in a way that helps me get over my addictive tendencies that leads to being unsure of myself in my own skin. Cutting back on porn and jerking off. Way more attentive showers. Back scrubber, making sure I soap and clean every inch, and then full body moisturizer with Cetaphil skin lotion. In between the fucking TOES. Idk, taking the time to seriously clean my feet and have zero skin issues... It's just the best. Also…
/r/seduction17/09/21 03:11 PM
9

Would you consider 2+2=4
/r/seduction17/09/21 12:50 AM
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Youre in college. Day game can work very very well, but people kinda sorta know eachother and you're going to see familiar faces around. If it's a huge university, I don't think chatting up random girls and asking to do something is weird. There's sooo much to do, and use your circle as leverage. "Yeah, me and my friends are going to this event" "yeah, Im in this club, I think you'd like it" "oh I think I saw you at the gym!" Honestly, avoid the whole "can I take you out" thing on the first Conv…
/r/seduction14/09/21 08:23 PM
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Being a virgin isn't a sign that something is wrong with you. Placing such a desperate need and emphasis on sex is what is wrong with you though. Trust me. Eliminate the desire and need for sex and it will come. Stop giving a shit. You sound like you watch too much porn as well. Cut it down. As soon as I'm in a really great life mode, improving, making good decisions, working on my body and diet... The women follows suit, naturally. I'm not saying don't seek it out and don't cast a wide net, but…
/r/seduction30/08/21 02:17 PM
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Uhhhh it sounds like he was just pent up and wanted to fuck, and then had severe post nut clarity about his actions and overall attraction to you. If you want something more than sex, the expectation needs to be set earlier than after he cums for the first time. Sounds like a chump though. If I cum quickly, I'm going to go right back to work and focus all of my attention on intimacy and arousal so I can go round 2 in about 5 minutes, no matter who I'm with, whether it's a hookup or a girlfriend.…
/r/seduction30/08/21 01:48 PM
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No problem. I meditate once a day in the morning after a quick 10 minute morning workout. Body weight squats, push ups, abs, into a 10 minute meditstion. I mean, chances are youre probably hitting snooze and sleeping for another 15 minutes? Don't do that, even if you feel like you didn't get enough sleep. That 15 minutes won't help, but you can use it to your advantage. I was a chemical engineering undergrad that also did research. I had time for yoga club, weight lifting, and five meals a day w…
/r/seduction26/08/21 08:06 PM
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A gym is a bad idea for a cold approach. Cold approach meaning she hasn't really given you many signs to be approached. Those are the hardest to pull off. If you're at a gym and she's literally made eye contact with you purposely 3+ times, fucking go for it. This has happened to me. I usually signal for her to take out her headphone and just say hey what're you working on today and go from there. If shes receptive you know it was the right move. If she kinda start moving back to her workout you …
/r/seduction26/08/21 03:50 PM
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This what you tell 15 year old boys going through a puberty rough patch. Women care about looks and is the most important first aspect of them being interested in you in the first place. You going to tell a fat women feeling insecure that attractive men are looking at the women inside anyway? Shit goes both ways. Don't sugar coat man, it doesn't help anyone.
/r/seduction26/08/21 03:25 PM
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This is not advice for everyone, but works for me: No porn. I jerk off maybe once every two weeks if I don't get laid during that period and I do not do it with porn. When you are not jerking off, become aware of your energy levels and mood. Just meditate on your thoughts and meditate on your arousal when it does occur, but exercise self control on this. This works for me because if I can control my sexual addiction, I can control my diet, exercise, self care. Proper teeth care. Fucking floss an…
/r/seduction26/08/21 03:18 PM
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Tinder is a mess You need to filter through the bad matches. Stay away from chicks that are clearly just advertising their Instagrams. Hookups come from down to earth bios typically. You need to basically prove you're cool and trustworthy in 3-4 lines. Just be yourself. Pick up lines are whatever. R/tinder isn't most people's tinder reality and doesn't work with a lot of women. I find being down to earth and straightforward is the way to go. My route is, point out something about their bio or tr…
/r/seduction26/08/21 02:24 PM
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Cut down. Try only jerking off once a week for the next few weeks and be more active with the time you spend wanking it. From other comments you said youre complaining about not achieving up to your standards. I'm not saying change your standards, but start acting like a man that fucks 10s on the regular. Does that guy jerk off to fucking porn once a night? Probably not. You're 26 so you're starting to have less and less testosterone than younger men in the 18-24 range, try taking zinc supplemen…
/r/seduction16/08/21 05:17 PM
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First and foremost, a natural smile and confidence. This vibe of positivity and belonging, that you have no other intention than to enjoy the moment and be wherever you are. Physically it can get murky but in general: For men: facial symmetry, defined cheek bones /non puffy face, moisturized and glowy skin, no acne, and unfortunately for me, an extremely well defined jaw line and well defined but not extruding chin is huuuge. Probably the biggest thing that women find attractive is that sexy jaw…
/r/seduction16/08/21 05:07 PM
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How much porn you watching? I find if I'm in the middle of a dry spell, cutting out my lifeline or arousal and comfort with porn pushes me to seek out women at a much higher rate.
/r/seduction16/08/21 04:53 PM
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Look man, I'm a scientist. But I have a sex and porn addiction. My cousin, who developed early, molested me when I was 4-6 when she was 9-11. It was more of a "love" molesting, where she'd let me cuddle with my face between her boobs, I'd get boners, she'd rub them, etc. I was learning about my body at an age way too young. Which then led to me watching porn on the early days of the internet (around 2003-2004) and I started ejaculating to porn, every day, at the age of 8-9. All I'm trying to say…
/r/seduction13/08/21 12:33 AM
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It happens to me slowly with sex and is a bit less noticeable, and it took me an entire relationship to learn. When you have sex and make love, it's typically a confidence and ego builder. But that can also come with complacency not only with the sex, but with your life in general. I need to definitely work on it, but I just wasn't processing it while it was happening. Also, I hate morning sex and my last ex never wanted to have sex at night. It was typically in the morning, once a week. So we d…
/r/seduction13/08/21 12:23 AM
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Ooof Imagine what it's going to feel like when a long term relationship ends? We were talking about marriage and I was close to picking out a ring, and then boom, we realized we weren't really compatible but we were just doing this out of fear of both being alone. 3 years down the shitter, but I've blocked her on social media and I don't text her. You need to go this path of no contact and not giving a single fuck when they start to pull away. If anything, if they start to pull away, start cutti…
/r/seduction09/08/21 02:36 PM
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I've been on a bunch of first dates recently after two back to back long term relationships. I'm an open, honest guy but it's clearly best to show them that over time, slowly, instead of just walloping certain facts about yourself that can be a lot to process for someone just getting to know you. It fucking sucks, but it's best to keep an air of mystery around the deeper parts of yourself until that initial trust is there.
/r/seduction09/08/21 03:31 AM
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"how's your night going ?" Is pretty much my only opener lol
/r/seduction06/08/21 07:55 PM
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They're fucking paying you for a service. Do not engage unless they make it very fucking clear. Care more about your reputation.
/r/seduction05/08/21 04:29 PM
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As soon as you stop needing a girlfriend, that is when you'll get one. That doesn't mean stop trying to date or whatever, but let go of the need. If it wasn't a need to you, this wouldn't be a struggle. A struggle implies some type of desperation. If I've learned anything from hundreds to thousands of approaches, it's that women can smell desperation from across the room. They can just tell if you're needy. It's fucking bizarre. But whenever I've hit my stride and feel extremely content with who…
/r/seduction05/08/21 12:55 PM
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My ex's have always gotten back together with me by giving me a call, coming over right away, and sitting down and talking. And then they'd typically straddle me and make a move to immediate sex... We wouldn't last very long after that, but when in doubt....
/r/seduction05/08/21 12:38 PM
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Apps like hinge will work well too. As a guy that isn't a partier, hinge is kind of easy mode for me.
/r/seduction05/08/21 12:07 PM
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Exactly lol the gym is not a place to be thinking about approaching
/r/seduction05/08/21 12:02 PM
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Just don't approach at the gym with that type of forwardness man ... I'm glad you broke out of your shell, but you need to do this at a goddamn bar or club, not a gym or other public place. I have had success with woman at the gym, but it's been over long-ish periods of time. Like seeing them for 4+ consecutive weeks multiple times a week. Your best bet is to never stare at them, focus on yourself, and low key hope they recognize you and have internalized you aren't a fucking creep because you h…
/r/seduction03/08/21 03:29 PM
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This, exactly. I'm not quite as good as you yet, but I've been averaging one date a week with woman that are all 7-8 for the last 6 weeks, and I'm having consistent sex with one of them. And I just got out of a 2 year long term relationship 7 weeks ago and was very very worried it would be a shitshow but it's been great for me. And you can't take advice from r/tinder or have any type of lines or openers from other people Not only do you need to be witty, you need to be uniquely witty and interje…
/r/seduction02/08/21 10:35 PM
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There's your fucking problem mate: "loneliness is killing me" Woman have a sixth sense for desperation and any sort of need to be with her. It sounds like that woman fucking sucked and youre better off by yourself. Let go of that need to be with someone. You are OK alone. In fact, you have the most potential to live your best life when you're single. You're a 33 year old male, with no kids. You have your shit together. You're going on dates. Slow the fuck down, you're going to get where you're g…
/r/seduction01/08/21 06:15 PM
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Because you're creating expectation and a relationship esque give and take way too early. Saying something gushy out the gate is really hard to respond to, it's showing that youre potentially putting them on a pedestal, that you're needy, etc. Never get too heart felt with online dating. The most I'll do is after the banter and small talk, I'll say that we should really act on this and get a drink. My best relationships have always always always formed when I don't put any pressure what so ever.…
/r/seduction01/08/21 05:55 PM
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Agreed. The bars I go to you cannot do this and you should not be overtly sexual right off the gate unless you're at a club/rave environment and you're already grinding and getting sexual. Then you can say whatever the fuck you want. But meeting someone cold approach, unless you're already in the bed with her during foreplay, dont do any of this fucking shit. It's about subtleness, and showing you're passionate about whatever you're talking about. Being interested in what she has to say. Interje…
/r/seduction01/08/21 05:31 PM
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Girls like guys taller than them, it's science
/r/seduction30/05/21 12:52 PM
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I mean, I have long hair and im really into yoga, meditation, hiking, I have a cat, I'm in a band, record my own music, really into certain drugs and I also write. I don't wear ralph lauren or calvin. I do have nicer clothes for nights at the bar though. This goes for all clothes, but iron and make your shit nice and smooth like Don't wear something that doesn't make you feel like yourself. You don't want to feel like you aren't in your own skin. I'm kind of the opposite spectrum of the guys her…
/r/seduction23/04/21 06:24 PM
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If you know the girl prior and haven't reached out in a while insta is the best way to reconnect.
/r/seduction16/03/21 01:14 PM
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You should try psychedelics, it'll force your brain to be in a raw emotional thinking state. Trying to think logically will just fuck you up. It's not for everyone but im an engineer that microdoses and also does full on macrodoses bi annually and its insane how much it's opened me up and helped my game.
/r/seduction09/03/21 09:28 PM
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Not saying porn fucks everyone up, but if you just came to double anal porn 1.5 hours before going out, you're not going to be in hunt mode like a fucking lion before it kills an antelope. All I'm saying is energy levels and things as small as eye contact and the vibe you give off is very noticeable. Weak ass pussy shit makes people ignore you
/r/seduction02/03/21 03:06 PM
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You're in high school. Girls in highschool care more about having their own egos re-inforced and feeling validated. Also, if you're dream is to be good enough to work with Travis Scott, you need to get off reddit and stop thinking about what girls or ANYONE thinks. Don't call it a dream becuase dreams fade. Set realistic goals and make those goals happen. Set new ones and continuously get better. Keep working and get absorbed. Don't get dragged down by bitches
/r/seduction02/03/21 03:02 PM
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Smiling, presence, and mindfulness. When you're genuine and mindful about your posture, your facial expressions, your tone if voice, how your eye contact reacts when you're listening to someone... your energy comes off as very magnetic and attractive to women. When you're not "in it,' when you aren't truly present with yourself, maybe looking at the phone too much, maybe you just watched double anal porn, maybe not holding eye contact and showing signs that you're truly listening to someone, etc…
/r/seduction02/03/21 05:07 AM
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I think you have to gauge a situation like this a little better to up your chances of success. Cold approaches in a bar only truly work if you get a tiny invitation from the girl in question whether you caught her looking at you, she smirked, etc. There is a way to cold approach two ladies sitting by themselves at a bar, but it needs to be one or two questions, a good smile, and a friend that's probably hotter than you on standby. Don't worry, the "uglier" friends always have sneaky good bodies …
/r/seduction02/03/21 04:32 AM
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I mean, the key is to be on the lookout for the perfect women. My GF makes insane money, loves the same TV and music as me and loves to party and get crazy, and is absolutely head over heels for me. The trick is, like you said, to make yourself happy. To cultivate it within. The reason my gf is so head over heels for me is because she knows without a doubt that she could leave and I would be in the same positive and happy mood after she left. That's not to say we don't elevate our own happiness …
/r/seduction26/02/21 09:29 PM
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You need to have your ego destroyed, young man. All of this new attention is reinforcing, in my opinion, motives and habits that are aligned for one reason: increase the amount of attention therefore increasing the amount of dopamine hits from potential partners. I was stuck in this cycle in college and it's not healthy. It led to me thinking my shit didn't stink and my ego and belief in my self was so large that i was blinded by what truly matters in life and ending up hurting the people around…
/r/seduction26/02/21 08:45 PM
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Or instead of relying on friends you can go to therapy. I go twice a month and it helps me stay focused on goal setting and healthy habits. Obviously maintain relationships but people are drawn to you when they think you can be the one to emotionally support them, not the other way around. Obviously a good friend sees this as a two way street, but it's important to make sure you can handle your emotional stuff and also be grounded enough to listen and support someone else's. Good luck
/r/seduction20/02/21 10:32 AM
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Gifs, videos of stuff I think theyll like, pictures of my cat being weird, clips of songs im working on etc to keep convos going. Being myself works well Face times are good too to shake it up too just ask lots of questions about themselves. If they aren't opening up and it's awkward just talk about stuff you're excited about or looking forward to. Good luck
/r/seduction11/02/21 04:33 PM
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I mean it's not a problem, it just is what it is There are a metric boatload of people I would never date simply based off their looks. It's not a problem, it's a fact of reality and lots of people feel the same
/r/seduction14/01/21 03:16 PM
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I've found that girls don't really care about how many people are interested in me or how well connected I am. I have friends I do shit with, and I also spend a lot of my time alone with my cat. I also go to festivals alone and concerts/bars alone sometimes. The fact that I have the confidence to do these things alone, and find enjoyment in my own company, attracts women to me.
/r/seduction22/12/20 05:21 PM
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