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It’s not that dating these desperate men who think you’re “good enough” is dehumanizing. It’s more that they say they have low standards, but they are actually much higher than they think. They aren’t necessarily liars, but they don’t know themselves enough. Once you date them, they are happy at first, then they get complacent, maybe resentful, and start wondering if they could get someone better. This wouldn’t be such a problem if they didn’t promise lifelong loyalty, but they often do, again, …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 02:52 PM
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That list seems like a «bare minimum» until I looked at it closer. Idk I’m a woman and don’t fit all of those items on the list, but I don’t require all of them or insist I’m a great person either. Not-so-great people need love too actually. That’s the majority. We only have to be great to each other. Anyway, goodness and attractiveness have little to do with one another, apart from the situation where someone you already find suitable and attractive fucks it up by displaying behavior you find m…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 05:09 PM
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It’s a practical solution for people who are ugly and don’t want to be. It’s not morally bad at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 04:13 PM
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The only people who’ll say yes to this are those currently in overall disappointing relationships with people who aren’t compatible enough or who’ve exhibited low key unloving behavior long enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 08:37 AM
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I don’t like fake nice people. Fake nice people are just neutral, polite, maybe they spout some popular political opinion, but they aren’t your friends and you shouldn’t share too much with them. But they sometimes do nice things for you to appear good in front of others, so they can be useful. “Villains” though, are not any better. Never got anything good from those. If they treat others badly, it will probably extend to you eventually. A lot of how people treat others has nothing to do with th…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 10:48 AM
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I think AI companions might seem like a loser thing at first, but then it’ll just become the new porn, therapist app rolled into one. It won’t be uncommon to be in a relationship and have an AI gf / bf on the side. Cuz why not both? We already read romance novels, watch porn and follow instathots despite being in a relationship, AI will just give a more interactive experience. It’ll probably be bad for relationships if it happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 05:44 PM
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1) My perspective is not gendered, but I think people in general have flawed relationship skills. People are raised by flawed parents and soak up mentally ill social norms, and unconsciously adapt their beliefs and behaviors. Examples: people-pleasing, being "stoic", valuing appearances more than real connections, etc. IMO most of what people believe and act like is based on somebody else's wishes and not their real wants. Because of this socialization, many people (not just men) are out of touc…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 07:59 PM
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I think most of them want sex and a relationship and would prefer to have both. Some are ok with having sex with escorts instead of going without either. And some will not have sex with escorts, because they must have both. I dated a few of them and that’s been my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 11:50 AM
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Men being vulnerable is kinda like women with zero makeup and untrimmed facial and leg hair - sounds cute and natural in theory, but when it happens, you might be unable to take it! I’m not convinced it’s a matter of women inherently hating male vulnerability though. It’s just not common, kinda like seeing women with no makeup. Or men with foreskin (in USA). But if it was more common, it wouldn’t be a big deal anymore, nothing to fear or feel unpleasantly surprised about. So I’m for men showing …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 12:12 PM
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Nah I’d leave, but I don’t think cheating is the most morally repulsive thing you can do either. It’s similar to secretly using up your bank account for shopping sprees or lying about your past, pretty shitty but I wouldn’t wanna kill you for it or anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/23 06:02 PM
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I arrived to a similar conclusion, but I wonder if this is just the death of false ideals, instilled in us by parenting mistakes and media. That once you get rid of them, you could finally appreciate people for what they are, and not what they were “supposed” to be? Of course it would take time, and it’s not guaranteed. But I’m curious to find out what real love would look like.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 11:08 AM
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Sounds more like an argument for being childfree than unmarried though? A union with another adult can make things easier in terms of common expenses, such as heating, rent, AC and so on. Adults generally don’t need exhausting taking care of. Children do. You’ll sacrifice your hobbies and time to raise them, only for them to waste their lives on the exact same thing. That sounds regrettable for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 10:57 AM
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Small penis
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 07:09 PM
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I agree with you in spirit, but will try to CYV. It’s not that love does not exist, exchanging the benefits of social / familial / romantic attachment IS love. The whole reason love evolved is because we are social animals who survive and reproduce better when we bond and cooperate. Same can be said about morality, btw. But to many, this type of love seems “fake”, because they feel like there is “real” love out there somewhere, in which someone will love you no matter what for the rest of your l…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 10:20 AM
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Good question. I have been single and happy, and I don't think being in a relationship increases that happiness by much. Maybe at the first year, but after that it goes back to how it was. I think never having love could make someone really unhappy though, because nobody validated them as lovable and they have rose-colored fantasies about the experience of love. Once even one person romantically validates you, your romantic/sexual self-esteem will never completely collapse. And we're social anim…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/22 10:36 AM
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I think it's pretty simple - getting a relationship/sex solves the pain of not having a relationship/sex. If you have other problems on top of that one, you'll still have to deal with them. But speaking from experience, relationships had these effects on these 3 I know: Person 1: Got completely happy from getting the relationship, had no mental health issues from then on. That one relationship seems to have killed the sexless streak also, and jump-started success, now he has no problems with wom…
/r/ExRedPill01/05/22 11:34 AM
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Depression is ok, but if they cheat on me in a manic state and blame it on that, I won't forgive them.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/21 12:19 PM
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Guy A if he's compatible with me in ways not listed. "Love" in quotation marks seems suspicious though, what does that mean? If guy A is not compatible with me in ways not listed, then both would probably take away more than they give to my life, so I'd flip a coin and let fate decide, and then try to make the best out of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/21 09:32 AM
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I suppose. I prefer not to vent unless I want out of the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/21 07:47 PM
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I’ve been told it’s because many women misinterpret venting about emotional issues as him wanting his problems solved, which adds pressure on her. Somewhat off topic, but must say. Can it ever not lead to pressure to solve his problems though? I know that if a partner is complaining to me, it's automatically my problem as well. I don't even mind as long as the problem is not overwhelming/unsolvable and they aren't refusing to take steps to fix it, but it's hard to sit back and do nothing while t…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/21 05:11 PM
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Super woke friends nodding along when someone says "men" as a group need to be "corrected" because of how violent they are. Same people being anti-racist and pro-muslim. They'd never accept such a generalization about women, blacks or muslims. You can say things about men that even so-called tolerant, progressive people wouldn't dare to say about other groups.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/20 02:12 PM
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I'd never suggest punching those who just punched you is silly. Punching someone who looks like the people who punch you is, though. I get that you don't want to be toothless. Personally though, I don't shame people who do violence against me (and there are many right now) for stuff completely unrelated to their violence, I shame and guilt them for the violence. I guess the difference is that I believe their preferences are their preferences, but once they try to impose it on other people, it be…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/20 12:19 PM
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Seems a little inconsistent to hate being shamed, but shame people for preferences you don't fancy, telling them to be quiet and hoping their preferences eventually go away. Unless you are just using reverse shaming to make a point? Like, conservatives say promiscuity will destroy the world, so you say caring about n-count will destroy the world instead? But if you mean it, then as I previously said, I think it's ineffective, misguided and a little silly. As if attacking what people feel on a vi…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/20 02:06 AM
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So the reason you want to shame people for preferring non-promiscuity is because you're afraid their opinions will lead to violence and another medieval period? Ok I guess, you do you. But IMO it's kinda like shaming people who prefer partners of the opposite sex because gays were oppressed in the past, or are oppressed now. They were more than happy to force us to keep our stuff to ourselves when they were in power, and they were MUCH meaner about it. We snigger a little at them and don't invit…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/20 09:58 PM
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I don't disagree. But some people are naturally non-promiscuous and it's not possible to shame them into not caring about past promiscuity.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/20 05:27 PM
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The OP wasn't shaming anyone for promiscuity though. And you can't shame someone out of their core values, even if you temporarily repress the behavior. Promiscuity didn't disappear during the medieval period, and chaste people are not gonna disappear during sexually permissive times.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/20 10:43 AM
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I'm sorry that happened! Kind of am in a similar situation right now, so it's not just empty words.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/20 08:13 AM
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Were you stuck in different countries due to corona-related travel restrictions?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/20 07:43 AM
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I feel like this type of response sidesteps the issue though. The issue being that treating the ex better than you is a red flag. It could be a sign they've grown too cynical from their experiences and are holding you at arm's length now, or they just aren't that into you. If your standards require commitment, why wouldn't you pay attention to potential red flags?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/20 12:41 AM
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I don't care for the expensive gifts or poems either way, but I do care about the level of commitment. If someone has been burned so badly that they are holding back with me, it tells me they aren't quite ready to trust again. Plus the unfairness of it would sting, like I'm being punished for another woman's deeds. That is hardly true commitment. That would be really sad and disappointing to find out. It would probably end. A relationship might feel "fine", yet be doomed for failure anyway becau…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/20 12:10 AM
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The brain makes comparisons automatically without you having to do any sort of conscious analysis. It's human nature to categorize, notice differences and draw conclusions from relationship experiences. It's not always conscious. Like, if a prospective partner was a clear downgrade according to your personal standards and values, you'd notice. You just would not go for it. This problem of thinking your ex's dick/chest was bigger would only occur if you, for whatever reason, couldn't get partners…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/20 09:13 PM
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Apparently it has! Not sure anyone killed themselves over it, though. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Body_integrity_dysphoria
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/20 09:54 AM
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I think there are real trans people and those who are just uncomfortable in their gender role. Real trans people are I suspect are caused by biology. The "fake" trans people are caused by upbringing, inborn traits that are unusual for their sex, and other things that make them fit into their role badly, plus the popular belief that if you want to do things associated with the opposite sex, you're probably trans. The former group (real trans people) are the ones who get the most out of transition…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/20 09:47 AM
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I'd feel like I'm degrading my own relationship if I did more for an ex than the life of my life. I'd also feel like they are making me pay for what their ex did to them, if they refused to try things with me that they did with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/20 09:25 AM
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I learned that I was capable of love. Also learned that this isn't very useful to anyone, unless kept under control and tempered with rational decisions.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/20 08:11 PM
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If you use up your resources, time and youth on a woman and she leaves, would you consider yourself too used up to try again? Assuming careers and energy level often decline with age. Not a gotcha, just curious what your plan of action would be with these high standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/20 09:38 AM
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That's fair. But since testosterone affects motivation, I also think it's fair to say men do indeed choose to stop playing the field, cuz they no longer want to as much.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/20 02:06 PM
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It's not SMV, it's the energy levels and the libido. Aging isn't just a looks issue. Guys who are social and popular with women don't usually stop being so in their 30s, but they lose the all-consuming horniness and get tired of playing the field.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/20 08:54 AM
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Probably, but it's certainly not on reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/20 08:46 AM
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It's been done, it's called incels.co, lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/20 08:46 AM
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What PPD topics aren't recurrent dead-ends, though? Is sexlessness topic really that different from anything else here? Ok, lets have another N-count week instead. Or rape week. Or wall week.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/20 09:07 AM
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That's like asking people to discuss anything else apart from a huge elephant in the room. You don't need to be incel to see it and want to discuss it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/20 06:43 AM
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I don't think it matters much. Not all misogynists have abundance mentality, willingness to defy social rules or other traits associated with being an alluring "bad boy".
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/20 04:26 PM
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I haven't been in that exact situation, but I was bullied by adults when I was a kid and I can confidently say that it feels 10x worse to be be subjected to bullying you "consented to" (due to disbelief, confusion, hope that they would realize their mistakes, misguided moral principles, etc.) than bullying you resisted. If this rings a bell, I can tell more.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/19 12:48 PM
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True. But feminists are trying to close that loophole now, with the expanded definition of rape. It took them (and many women) time to realize that for women, sexual freedom is less about freedom to have casual sex, and more about freedom FROM sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/19 11:39 AM
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