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Discussionpleddyd/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 07:41 PM
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When she wanted a job, she overcame her anxiety and got it though
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 07:27 AM
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These people just don't want real relationships. They dream about romantic fantasy, but don't want to spend any energy or time to change their single status. That's why they keep looking for excuses to not do anything and just making theories. This applies to most "forever single" men as well
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 07:14 AM
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Because they want to interact with specific person and enjoy that interaction
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 12:46 PM
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I am not ignoring to answer your questions here. I will ignore the next posts
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/26 01:43 AM
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I didn't get angry by this post. I got annoyed with posts about the same topic every day, so now I comment to advise others to ignore it, as I will do after we will be done with conversation here
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/26 01:38 AM
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Ignoring is the best thing to do. She is just baiting at this point
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/26 01:33 AM
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If we think about it objectively and logically, dating is an irrational activity where people act according to temporary feelings, emotions, hormones, feromones. It is paranoic to assume that all actors are manipulators with complex plans
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 06:35 PM
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The more common scenario is men and women together paying for one room apartment, bills and products. Ask your friendly couples
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 07:49 AM
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Average men is poor. No resources to extract. Most men can't even afford a rent of two room apartment without contributions from partner
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 07:30 AM
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Women only like men who are in the top 20% of every category Go outside. Look at the couples. And count how many men there are top 20% of every category
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 07:25 AM
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Men, who rant about women a lot, get less dates
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 12:52 PM
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How is your bagel?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 02:58 PM
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It's bad when they start blaming others
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 09:53 AM
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It is bad to complain that others don't sacrifice themselves to fulfill your personal wants
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 09:50 AM
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Small percentage of kids which generates millions of dollars for these classes and others. They don't need additional taxpayers money. Classes for socially behind won't generate any money for school
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 06:13 AM
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Football teams generate so much money by themselves that they help funding other expenses of the school
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 06:03 AM
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Education is already underfunded. Dedicating limited resources to small percentage of kids is unreasonable. Parents of these kids should pay for such classes, not everyone
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 05:42 AM
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Most men and women are learning that by themselves and get relationships during school. Only autistic kids with special needs like you might need such lessons
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 04:11 AM
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Super comfortable modern life with many rights and privileges exists because the economy was good for a time and progress was made. No, it's because first world was robbing the rest of the world for centuries. And now first world is selling tech and "first world dream" to rest of the world. It is dependent on cheap labor in factories of third world countries and immigrants. Pyramid is already inverted in a lot of first world countries for decades and they are all still doing significantly better…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/26 12:00 PM
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What to say when she wants to watch a movie with me?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 07:02 PM
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No previous relationships and living with parents at 28. These are top two reasons pointed out by girls on dates. So I can get multiple dates even with same girl, but not a relationship after I mention one of these two
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 04:26 AM
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He monetizes and promotes RP to lure desperate men and rip them off
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 05:42 PM
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Tate is a criminal who is scamming vulnerable men and trafficking vulnerable women
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 05:40 PM
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I didn't see the edit in your previous comment. I am arguing about overall desirability influencing standards. Because fractional desirability is completely different from overall desirability, especially in required effort to increase them. I don't offer compromise as final solution, I say that it can also influence people's decisions, because most are not so strict about their standards. But adjusting and improving yourself is also an option. I know a lot of women who have standard "he should …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 10:13 PM
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I don't agree. Because people don't act based on overall desirability among all members of the gender, they act based on desirability among small fraction of the gender. So person determines his standards firstly, then determines the standards of people who match his standards and then assesses his own desirability among this specific group. Also there is a concept of compromise, when people are ready to accept that their partner is not full match to initial standards
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 09:55 PM
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You shouldn't try to be desirable to everyone in the gender if you are interested only in specific part of the gender. Different people have different tastes and trying to meet everyone's criteria will divert limited time and resources person might have
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 09:45 PM
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Online dating didn't affect at all. Social media affected in a way that it's very addictive and distracts from boredom. Nowadays spending whole evening home just infinitely scrolling is an option for both men and women. So people go less to third spaces and make less effort to make their life different, because they can just get their dopamine at home
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 01:40 PM
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Kids are too much of financial, energetical and time consuming burden for me with any person
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 06:29 PM
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If serious relationship means marriage and kids, then no, I am not fan of these. If childfree coliving, then yes. The more attractive she is, the more likely she have had ons/fwb Nope, it's usually the average looking people who get into most of these situations
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 06:26 PM
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Is there any blue idea that makes you purple instead of completely red?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 10:51 PM
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Can you answer the title question with at least one blue pill idea you don't like?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 10:43 PM
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And what did happen in 2022 Russia? Military aggression and mobilization. Why did those many men leave the city? Did they want to leave the city? It was safer for men in countryside and other countries. They wanted to be safe. If they didn’t leave the city, do you believe you would still be thinking that way? I used to think that I had some objective flaws which couldn't be chanhed. But after that I realized that it's all relative and perception might change and be changed. Also I underestimated…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 09:01 PM
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Most women are not okay with that and would like to try to change their loneliness to relationship. They just have more safety risks, so they have to be more cautious. will have no choice but to die alone I used to think like that until 2022 happened in Russia and many men left my city. Suddenly I started getting more matches and more dates. Overall most women still wanted to have a family and were frustrated by lack of suitable men who are not warmongering fascists
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 07:43 PM
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Traffickers don't act like lunatics, they act absolutely normal and friendly as any other guy asking out for a date
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 01:46 PM
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Risk rejection is much easier than risk safety
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 05:03 PM
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So if a man can get one date per week, would you say it's hard or easy?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 04:30 PM
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When someone does pushup, does that person go through how hard or easy for everyone, or just thinks about personal effort required there?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 04:20 PM
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It's not about relatively harder, it's about hard or easy objectively. Like it's harder for women to do pushups, but how hard is it for average woman to do one pushup?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 04:17 PM
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Women put a lot of effort to not get beaten, abused, kidnapped or assaulted. Men underestimate how dangerous and risky dating can be for women
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 03:46 PM
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50% of people in dates and relationships are average men
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 03:30 PM
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50% of people on dates are man. If you had more friends, maybe you could ask them how hard or easy it is for guys to get dates
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 03:29 PM
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It's easy to get dates for average person, but hard to find a good relationship. Like a lot of couples outside and among friends are just normal
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 02:43 PM
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Most men find most women boring as well. You don't have to be entertaining for most people, you just need to have a matching with just one person. And by being normal (for example, not being agressive) you increase your chances of not scaring away a good person
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 02:30 PM
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I clarified points, which seemed like misunderstanding. About women not filtering good enough, it's normal, nobody is perfect and everyone can make mistakes. Especially if man or woman is under influence of feelings which temporarily lower accuracy of decisions. Good men end up with bad women as well
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 02:45 PM
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It can be applied to dating, but a lot of depressed guys give up long before using every opportunity. Most don't even try. Getting rejected left and right is normal part of dating, even not doomed get that a lot
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 02:32 PM
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The biggest issue is that humans are terrible at identifying if they are actually in the doomed group. You don't know if you’re actually doomed until you’ve exhausted every possible opportunity
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 02:28 AM
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Doomer spends 4 hours a day doomscrolling or complaining on how the system is rigged. This consumes the mental energy needed to actually study. If you are convinced you’ll fail, you might apply to 2 jobs a week. Your chance of success is near zero. If you abandon doomerism, you might apply to 50
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 02:22 AM
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they immediately attack his lack of showers and perceived misogynistic tendencies Asking about hygiene and personal traits isn't attacking. And blue pills are usually more supportive to men and women, than red pills. bases of black pill Black pill is based on biological fatalism. Like they believe that they can't do anything about their situation. Blue pills blame wrong mindset, attitude, mental health problems, which can be fixed without degrading and attacking women
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 02:16 AM
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There always gonna be people who think they are losers, but people might just adjust their mindset. And people in this losers section hop in and out of this section all the time, it's not predetermined and permanent, so it's not fatalism. If being doomeristic isn't going to change their circumstances Cause people underestimate themselves and suffer from imposter syndrome even during work. Abandoning doomerism gives more chances Healing from traumas doesn't exist, it's cope. There are so many peo…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 02:06 AM
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I said unemployment is caused by their lack of skills or dissatisfaction with offers. I didn't say what they need to do, but I said that they didn't need doomeristic mindset If they are not making a choice, then clearly having skills and offers isn't enough. I said welfare is needed because some might temporarily not have resources to acquire skills. Some people are actively choosing to be unemployed by rejecting offers. You are twisting sections into absolutes. Not sure why you assume I am talk…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 01:49 AM
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Do you think geology is also pseudoscience? It is also observational
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 01:24 AM
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Welfare matters because it prevents a temporary setback from becoming permanent descent. Acquiring skills requires mental resources that someone in survival mode might not have. They aren't "choosing" to be unemployed. Do you really believe people feel unworthy out of nowhere, they just wake up in the morning and choose to feel unworthy? So because the world was cruel to you, you’ve decided the world is right? You’re taking the worst experiences of your past and let them dictate your entire futu…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 01:21 AM
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Make no mistake, psychology is a real science employing scientific principles All they can do is to conduct scientific observational study (i.e control, hypothesis, statistic and stuff) and formulate theory on why it may work base on observations. People right now don't have the prerequisite technology (a fully developed neurobiology) to understand it and to replicate it. So people develop psychology to begin observational study. Even if you don't understand how a computer fully works, you still…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 01:03 AM
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Why though? Cause there are countries that guarantee safety, universal healthcare, free education and opportunities. People are innately worthy and deserving of basics. Blackpill's fatalism comes from internal insecurities, feeling unworthy and undeserving. But it's easier for them to blame biology, the world and do nothing as you are insinuating
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 12:31 AM
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Nobody deserves to be poor, you are twisting words where they aren't. it's just so easy to acquire necessary skills or not to reject presented offers No, it's not easy. It's hard, requires effort, time and experience. But I am glad that you accepted that sections aren't inhabited by same people and that statuses change, while section stays
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 12:21 AM
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Cause they don't have necessary skill or reject presented offers. And yeah, doomeristic mindset won't help at job interview. Unemployment is used here to describe how section can be present, while its inhabitants going in and out. It's not fatalism
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 11:49 PM
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You didn't understand. There will always be section of lonely men, but it doesn't mean these men are always stuck there. Like unemployment. There will always be unemployed, but different people at different time with people constantly changing their status from unemployed to working
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 11:42 PM
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This may be caused by some countries fighting with overpopulation and limiting number of children allowed for families. This lead to selective abortions and increased relative amount of men. India even had to ban disclosure of gender before birth, so doctors can't say the gender now. China is another country suffering from that, they just recently aborted their family restrictions
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 11:40 PM
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Science directly contradicts this. In fact, the human psyche demands black and white thinking and pattern recognition, even where there are none. We call it apophenia. The world itself though is complex, vast and infinitely varied. It can be comforting to some to oversimplify that in which we don’t understand
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 11:35 PM
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If you believe that there will always be men excluded from relationship experience, why is your flair "blue"? Cause catastrophic views are caused by depression, anxiety and wrong mindset. That's what excludes them from relationships, but they can change that. You can believe that there always will be doomers, while simultaneously believing that people can go from dooming section to healthier one
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 11:32 PM
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No. Is your post written by ai?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 08:14 PM
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A lot of Reds have patterns of thinking which could be labeled as black and white and they catastrophise the future and present. A lot of them have anxiety or depression. They believe the world is never going to change, that things are always going to be awful for them. These are types of thinking errors. If we take away the label of Red Pill for a second and just think of them as young men who feel like they have no mating prospects and feel excluded from relationships and have bad feelings tow…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 08:11 PM
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This ai slop doesn't even have a question
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 06:25 PM
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Redpill men don't believe that they have choice or any saying. So whoever they meet first, they will agree. It's the core belief of their ideology that only women can choose
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 04:59 AM
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Reels are made to get maximum views. So people would exaggerate or lie and algorithms would promote extreme situations. Real life can be mundane and boring, but boring realistic reels will catch your attention less often
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 06:03 PM
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Because world is full of spoiled or struggling with money. I also have seen men who love to have a woman paying for them. Maybe it's because most people are poor and love getting stuff for free?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 05:56 PM
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if this video was done by a man I guarantee that you wouldn't be talking about this being rage bait https://np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/s/a6Qnhgdp6B Here I defended men from misconception that occurred because of woman falling for ragebaiting tiktok. women that my girlfriend has met and gotten into fights with because she doesn't agree with this type of behavior Cause women aren't monolithic and have different views just like men arguing about that. This video gained substantial engagement …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 05:52 PM
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Reels are unreliable proofs and do not represent real world, so people shouldn't base their views on them
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 05:30 PM
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When people of any gender post bait, people get baited and engage, no way
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 05:26 PM
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My point is that social media analyzed OP's preferences and pushed something that would catch his attention. And now because of one outstanding situation he thinks "that's how women actually view world"
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 05:23 PM
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This type of content is baiting for women and men. It's like Sydney Sweeney baiting as thirst trap for men and as sold out for women. Manosphere is dangerous, because one of their main propagandists is literal criminal who trafficked people into slavery
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 05:18 PM
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These women also got baited and have their own echo chamber. Their expectations from men are shaped by social media and algorithms as well
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 05:15 PM
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Men love ragebaiting as well. Most reels are engagement baits anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 05:11 PM
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This reel is a bait to gain views and engagement. And because you watched it fully and clicked share button, Instagram will show you more videos like this. This is how your echo chamber and world views are shaped by algorithms
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 04:59 PM
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"Lonely guys just dont like people but hate the feeling isolation brings" https://np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/s/1UIG2HkYeI This is the same topic
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 04:07 PM
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but not with the women they really want generally You could say the same about women's options. Also, it’s not a loud minority the numbers support it being a pretty big issue Minority is anything below 50%. It appears as big issue online, but if you talk with coworkers and friends, most aren't lonely and have dating options. I mean after all there is a loneliness epidemic There is also HIV epidemics, but most people don't have it and those, who have it, are minority
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 01:07 AM
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You wanna count just options forced straight up to you. Like owners of houses going to every single potential renter offering their house
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 01:47 AM
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OkCupid data, women seen 80% of men as bellow average So you imply that women don't have options if they end up dating someone who they see as below average? Getting a partner also don't means you have options, one woman accepting a relationship don't means you had options besides this woman. The majority of men have more than one partner in a lifetime
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 01:44 AM
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And yet most men live in apartments, houses and have dates, relationships. And most men stop pursuing and relationships if they don't like their option
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 01:33 AM
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That's why renters shouldn't pursue options who make it harder for you to live. You see that requirements aren't for you and you go into the next one. Also improving your job and income, becoming more hygienic and showing up in good clothes increase your options and chances of approval
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 01:28 AM
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Cause now we have anonymous forums where men admit that without fear of shame
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 01:23 AM
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The same question can be asked from women and average woman's ideal partner could also be a social media influencer, but she is more likely to end up with someone who is not active in media at all, because most men aren't influencers. People in real dating and relationships are often more down to earth and realistic, and can compromise on some of their wishes if their other needs are met and they feel good in a relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 01:11 AM
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Men are the ones who are reaching out to rent. They have multiple possible options to pursue all the time
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 01:05 AM
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Since this thread is about real estate, let's go into real estate analogy. You have an apartment, you have multiple people wanting to rent it and these people are also comparing multiple apartments. Both sides have options, even if one side is more passive than the other. So in dating men can choose which women they want to ask out and ask out again for second date
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 01:00 AM
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Your argument is based on detection bias. It's like when scientists started using thermal imagers instead of binoculars and the population of nocturnal animals suddenly increased. Even though it was probably the same
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 12:47 AM
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It is just became less shameful to admit that you are struggling with dating. 20 years ago people would rather lie than admit that. Also now the measurement is broader than ever and surveys of the past can't be compared with current online measurements
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 12:38 AM
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Most men have options, most men get dates and partners, it is just loud minority of forever aloners who claim that men can't choose
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 12:34 AM
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The amount of dates should be lower because of amount of arranged marriages
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 05:59 PM
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And if you exclude births in arranged marriages?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 05:45 PM
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When a knife welding pscho gets in expecting someone else to step in the way is entitlement You probably would expect police to disarm him. Again expecting others to make it easier for you to get those oppertunities is entitlment It's about you using your opportunity to make life easier for you Expecting anything firm incels nd lvm is even beyond that They just look for excuses to do nothing and stay in their comfort zone
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 04:59 PM
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Delusion, criminals have higher fertility rates than law abding citiziens Most marriages are between lawful citizens. No one deserves nothing, sounds familiar? Sounds pessimistic and like an excuse for unhappy life. How do you know it? Legal protection for women was minimal
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 04:36 PM
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Compare dating in Europe and India and see where people get more dates
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 04:30 PM
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But expecting others to lift a finger to make it so is entitlement When you walk around in shopping maul or sport event, you expect feeling safe provided by security of the place. It is not entitlement if your basic rights are guaranteed by constitution, government and society. We don't have the moral responsibility at all We have an opportunity to get better life and safer society. And people who use good opportunities get happier life. That's totally deserved. social economic and physical You …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 04:28 PM
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Women deserve to go on dates without fear of getting assaulted, kidnapped, stalked, ending up in abusive relationship or unwanted pregnancy. It would make the world better place and give more dates and chances for men too. World changes, society changes. Domestic violence and abuse one hundred year ago was way worse. And sure during that time there were people claiming that women deserve that. But it's in our hands to make a world safer and happier place for everyone
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 03:56 PM
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What I don't understand is purposefully planning for it There always will be people who will exploit kindness while spending as little effort as possible. They use some women's naivety usually. I have seen a lot of foreign immigrants marrying or knocking up kind and desperate native girls just to get a citizenship
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 08:57 PM
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I personally noticed about myself with some women, that once I felt that they are into me I started to be more relaxed. I didn’t want to try to impress them or be the best version of myself with them. I just wanted to show affection and care and receive the same level of care and honesty. This lead to some crucial mistakes like being late on some dates or saying stupid things, because I didn’t filter my speech as before
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 08:50 PM
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OP is really posting a separate thread to every single argument she sees at her previous posts... Twice a day
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 09:43 PM
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It is not gaslighting if person genuinely believes in their own statement. Those women complaining on Tiktok obviously love attention and prefer to be approached, to feel desired and they like confident men. Not all women are like that, some don't like stranger's approaching at all
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 06:23 PM
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Morning wood is to prevent peeing yourself. Most erections are caused by blood pressure change and only handful of them are caused by arousal
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 05:59 PM
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But you left the house without thinking it is gonna be boring?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 10:33 AM
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Men and women with any standards can fail in dating unintentionally. Most of the dates and matches are supposed to fail. I get that some men and women will dry out the conversation and try to leave the date as quickly as possible. I am just trying to show that most of the boring conversations are occurring accidentally without malice
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 07:53 AM
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Women are capable of starting conversations And out of most matches on apps, who starts conversations more often: men or women? All of your arguments are about capability, not the actual effort in most situations
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 05:07 AM
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So you never had boring conversations on dates?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 07:32 PM
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It's more like trying a new dish. Even if you read the recipe and tried all the ingredients before, the ending result might not be for you
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 07:30 PM
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all you need to do is match with her and she matches with you No. You need to start a conversation. Keep it interesting. Offer to meet. Find a place and idea for date. All of this is usually done by men most of time rope, many men do not use it to climb themselves out. So the rope is giving a match and agreeing to the date which was orchestrated by a man?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 07:27 PM
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After university there's not many opportunities to meet new people and dating a coworker is usually not welcome in companies?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 07:21 PM
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I read all the profiles and never like those with empty descriptions. And most people don't list all of their interests there, so you will end up finding out if they have anything else too. Also it's mutual like on profile and agreement to meetup, why do you blame only one part for vetting out poorly? I just hope that it will be fun date and try to give chances to everyone who seems interested in me
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 07:19 PM
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Maybe they checked for one topic or maybe they prefer real life chatting
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 07:05 PM
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How? I was talking exactly about online dating. Most of the opening messages are from men, most of meetup suggestions are from men, most of the date ideas and locations are from men
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 07:01 PM
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Great! I never met that initiative in conversations before
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 06:43 PM
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So men not bothering to put in effort despite guys here bitching that men put more effort in than women. Most dates are result of: men initiating conversation, men bravely asking out for a date, men coming up with date idea, time and location. And then you go on a date and realize that person is not for you, is not fun for conversation. And after all of that men should also be the entertainer, spicing up dying conversation, squeezing chemistry from nothing. Or you could get a date where it's fun…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 06:41 PM
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Yes, but if they get you dates, it is not a problem? What are other possible alternatives?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 06:31 PM
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Or try to meet anyone who seems like fun time together. I guess it depends on amount of matches you have. If a person is the only option for this weekend, then I would go
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 06:27 PM
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the "get to know her, bro" crowd will get angry too These folk should be avoided
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 06:23 PM
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I prefer outing as quickly as possible, so we won't waste too much time and days on texting. 15 minute coffee talk is more insightful than week of texting. Also sometimes what was fun in text turns into absolutely boredom in real life, and it's hard to recognize that before meeting
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 06:21 PM
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y’all dating complete strangers? Yes, most of time first dates are with people you haven't talked in real life before. And occasional texting is very different from giving each other full attention and talking in person
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 06:16 PM
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Why try to force the fun if it doesn't occur naturally? Just wrap it up and each of you can go back to searching to someone more suitable and fun for you personally. what plights do men have with dating? Most often problem in finding common topics is that a lot of women don't have hobbies besides scrolling social media and watching reels
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 06:13 PM
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I was on dates where women pointed out to me that I don't talk enough about myself or don't ask questions about them enough. I was on dates where women said that I asked too many questions. I was on dates where women said that they enjoyed the conversation and wanted to see me again. of men out there really just don’t know how to talk to women I definitely don't know how to talk to some women
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 05:51 PM
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The scenario is so common because most people on those dates aren't compatible even for friendship with each other. Chances of getting matching vibe, humour, principles, interests are pretty low. But sometimes you can hit a jackpot and have great conversation and time together
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 05:38 PM
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Not all women are boring, sometimes just the conversation is boring. Sometimes even conversation with your best friend is boring. It's all about finding matching vibe and common topics
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 05:28 PM
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intentionally not hold a conversation while on a date because they’re not interested It occurs unintentionally because the conversation is boring
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 05:22 PM
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Black pilled men successfully destroy their own mental health and enjoy the misery without any external help
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 01:49 PM
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Then it turns into simple no and it's perfectly fine
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 01:07 PM
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project their own insecurities Look what you just did. Assumed something worse when you didn't get actual reasoning
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 01:06 PM
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everyone's going to ask him why, why did you say no Who? Friends? Family? Rejected? People are usually curious. If woman rejects a guy, her friends also will ask her why. Guys also ask why they were rejected a lot
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 01:04 PM
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If you don't call anyone disgusting, then it's alright. Women and men are usually curious why they were rejected. And most of the time they assume something worse than actual explanation
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 01:02 PM
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Cause without explanation people might assume something worse
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 01:00 PM
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Simple "no" is perfectly fine. But "no, because your past is disgusting" requires more explanation or it will sound just rude
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 12:56 PM
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If you don't even try to explain yourself and just call someone's past disgusting, then it is irrational bitterness
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 12:53 PM
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People might think that you don't have any rational reasons and just speak in a bitter way
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 12:45 PM
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If you don't give an explanation, people will assume something worse
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 12:40 PM
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How my son starts talking when he finds out that I sacrificed his height for 4'11 goth mommy
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/26 03:33 AM
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Reformism is still pro-status quo This is a contradiction. Reform is a change. Status quo is lack of change. political system is the society in which you live in Politics is how the society being controlled and organized. Active members of society can be pushed away from government by authorities and passive members can be discouraged from discussion and participation in decision-making. Especially if the government is ready to apply violence against citizens. they are one and the same They are …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 07:03 PM
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Reactionary is reactionism. Liberals want more changes and improvements and less tariffs and government control. You can't participate in a system and "stay out" of the system. They are out of political system, they don't agitate or vote. The reason most such people view themselves as "apolitical No, most of them don't want to do anything about politics and focus their lives and learning on personal matters. Doing nothing and rejecting stances are the easiest and most energy saving things to do
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 04:16 PM
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Rooting for status quo is conservative. Most people prefer staying out of politics even if they wish improvements or reverting back to good old days
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 03:59 PM
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Most people are apolitical
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 08:15 PM
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Good friend would initiate a friendly hangout. If she gets rejected there because she rejected earlier, then she won't be self centered to assume that friendship is over
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/25 10:34 PM
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If a friend stops being your friend, you shouldn't keep chasing and asking him why he left. He is not a reliable friend anyway. Romantic interest can be just a temporary feeling or obsessed crush. The second one is very unhealthy and it's best for everyone to stop chatting. You’re not a shitty friend if you don’t like that You are dumb friend who threw away good person because of temporary weakness
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/25 10:28 PM
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It really depends on the rejection. It can be "let's go on a date" suggestion or full on "I love you" confession. If the first one is rejected, it's normal to brush it off and go on as before and your mental health will be fine
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/25 10:23 PM
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No, it's stupid. Finding good reliable friend isn't easy and getting rid of one just because of your own failed temptation is dumb. It's either wasn't the real friendship from the beginning or you're making irrational decision with someone who is still a good friend
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/25 10:15 PM
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No, I don't have such hope or desire. I do have touch starvation, that's the only problem potential partner could solve for me
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 06:17 PM
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I haven't experienced love. Never had a heartbreak too
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 08:00 PM
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I don't believe in love, so yeah
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 11:09 AM
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This is contradicting the common situation of funny but not conventionally attractive guys getting into relationships with cute girls just because of their jokes
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 05:39 PM
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Genuine laugh is instant and hard to control. It's not like she hears a joke, thinks it's funny, thinks about you not hitting and then finally releasing the laugh. I dunno if you ever heard a person starting to laugh, then after a second trying to suppress it just because she is afraid that joker might hit on her. And even if that happened, you should take it as definitive signal of not hitting on her
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 05:33 PM
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It's easy to spot fake and genuine laugh if you spend more time together
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 05:22 PM
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It's about being able to compare how people act with other acquaintances and how they act with you
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 04:08 PM
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If she didn't laugh at any of your jokes, then you shouldn't approach. It's better to analyze the signals, than just approach randomly or not approach at all out of fear of embarrassment
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 04:04 PM
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Most of these aren't about being "conventionally attractive", it's about being able to read and send signals and hints. Most of lonely guys struggle with that
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 03:53 PM
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What is the interest of OP with this post? (desperate for attention, obviously)
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 04:07 PM
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theres that special someone out there for you". It's terrible idea for everyone, ruining the relationships as well. I would convince myself that i really hadn't thrown 100% of myself at it. Most people don’t know what giving 100 even looks like. They either half-try and burn out or self-sabotage and then say well, I didn’t really try. Also idea that giving up is some kind of moral failure is dumb. For some people it just means the cost isn’t worth it
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 03:34 AM
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Social pressures are real, no doubt. But you have to ask yourself: did you actually want a relationship or were you just chasing the idea of one because everyone else did? If you truly wanted a relationship, then you’d close that goal or throw everything you have, your soul, time, energy into it and your attractiveness, and only after that exhale and admit honestly that it was impossible
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 03:12 AM
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Yes, a lot of generalized theories in sub without real observations. If people had more friends or acquaintances, saw their relationships and dating history, then they would knew how complicated and irrational dating is
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 02:47 AM
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I feel ashamed because a lot of my acquaintances called that year their worst and overall they were stressed and hopeless. But for me that time felt so good, I didn't really care about future or others and just enjoyed the moment
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 07:11 AM
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I live in one of big cities in Russia and until 2022 I had zero success in dating. But in 2022 a lot of men left the country or relocated to other parts of it, and suddenly I started to get more matches and even real dates. I personally didn't change at all before or during that year, just competition around me lowered significantly. However, in 2023 a lot of guys came back and my match and date rate dropped. At 2024 I couldn't get a single date. At 2025 I hardly can get matches. I don't have an…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 06:23 AM
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Why do you ask here instead of going out and seeing couples on the streets and in the malls? They are more relatable to your culture and area
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 06:28 PM
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If you cheat and it's discovered, divorce will be even worse
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 04:52 AM
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Thanks, you are so kind and wise!
/r/seduction21/05/22 10:52 AM
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Thanks for advice! I know that she will probably never come back and I already accepted that, and I am spending time with other people. I just was on the other side of this situation. When it seemed like I lost the interest in a girl and stopped the relationship (it's not the same girl as in the comment higher). But later, after weeks by analyzing and comparing with other girls, I understood how good she actually was and that probably I did a mistake with cutting down all the ties. When I tried …
/r/seduction21/05/22 10:45 AM
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I have a question though. What if I let go a person who at first seemed like she liked me, but then lost interest in me. If she ever comes back, should I give her a second chance or it's better to cut all the connections?
/r/seduction21/05/22 10:31 AM
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Nice post, great style! Thanks, I needed these words.
/r/seduction21/05/22 10:29 AM
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