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Right. Surprised to see this post here. I would dump him. In the past, I would also attempt to hide my disappointment, but today, no way. I wouldn’t have even gone along with making last minute plans, which fell on your lap. This is the one romantic holiday in the year, and unless you expressed that you do not like to acknowledge the day, he is showing he simply does not care. And he let YOU plan the outing. Didn’t even bring flowers? Nah..you know what to do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 02:37 PM
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I retrained myself from doing this. I’ll say lady/ladies and women/woman now. It stands out when grown men use girls, esp in writing. A 42 year old boy I know texted me something about some ‘girls’ he met…made me cringe and I didn’t respond lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 01:51 AM
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Aw man that mom is doing an awesome job. He sounds like a sweet young man!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 12:37 AM
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Omg. I’ll never trust a bearded man again lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 01:37 AM
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My last ex did compliment me physically, like on my body that I kept in shape and my bone structure..which felt more thoughtful than ‘you’re hot’..but the compliments he gave me on my character and personality is what stood out most. He would tell me how humble I am and he seemed to appreciate how I see the world and engaged with it. He found me/my brain so interesting and we could just talk about anything. Before and since him, aside from my brother and a former guy friend, no man really ‘saw’ …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 11:52 PM
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If a white man mentions how cute our babies would be 🚩🚩🚩I’ve had men do this on first dates. Once a guy even talked about what features our hypothetical child should have from each of us, like we were at Build a Bear lol. I’m not of American descent so this applies to most men, but if they talk about how ‘exotic’ I look 🚩🚩🚩 If they start acting insecure about men of my race or other non-white men. Like one date called me an Uber and when the driver was of my race, he started to show concern that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 03:52 AM
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I turned down a (now former) male friend bc he was a parade of 🚩🚩🚩. He is handsome and tall but so immature and after hearing from his ex-gf’s friends about his treatment of them, he is toxic as hell. So many of my close friends and even my mother thought I was harsh and should give him a chance. Women kept telling me men change/mature after marriage..🙄. He even told me he would drink less if I agreed to date him. I refused. The delusion of men and women is so deep!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 03:57 PM
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Him and his ex are likely in their late 30s now..they were together from HS and college. She prob looks back at him with regret like most of us do with long ago exes..and he is a stunted man child that romanticizes a past relationship instead of growing up and cherishing the family he has created.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 12:53 AM
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Lucky BBW..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 11:53 PM
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Lol I went one ONE coffee date. It was at least a trendy coffee shop but the whole thing was pathetic bc we sat there for far too long over a cup of coffee. When he later asked if I wanted to go on a second (dinner) date, he started talking about his budget and said it needs to be affordable lol. He was 41, over 5 yrs older than me. I declined the dinner bc he was so tacky to bring up a budget! Esp since he told me he was planning on getting a Tesla soon. He then accused me of not being interest…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 07:26 PM
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Women can have kids at 40.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 04:14 PM
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I hear you but we’re not victims. It’s up to us to work within the framework and carve a path of fulfillment. My parents were refugees. They WALKED out of their homeland when their homes were burned down during a war. They started all over and busted their asses in America. Their kids have done well- educated, six figs, debt free, etc. They could have rolled over and said ‘well, this is depressing.’ But instead they worked hard and instilled that ethic and hope into their children. There is alwa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 02:38 PM
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Thank you. I needed to hear this. I’m in my late 30s and I can admit I put a lot of pressure on myself to feel and look young. From a health perspective, it’s good to take care of myself. But the obsession of looking like someone that is 10 years younger than I actually am is just silly. Who f’ing cares. I’m going to allow myself to just age, no expectations, no standards. I’m not going to critique women on their aging either. I’m not going to tell someone that she looks great for her age. I’m n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 03:51 AM
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This. I’m naturally aloof and men would call it out in the past but not in a positive way. They would start to ask whether I show affection or interest in someone… those are definitely red flags. Unlike your husband, who was intrigued by your aloofness and worked through it rather than trying to find a shortcut.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 06:37 PM
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I was talking to a friend yesterday and she told me that another one of her friends (a pick me) went on a date with a mid 40s man that wasn’t relationship ready but has a lot in common with me (same career and healthy lifestyle). They had the nerve to ask if I am interested in him. Pick mes will really try to waste your time with their trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 02:00 PM
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I have a question about this. I am in my mid to late 30s and I’m definitely an outlier in town re being prude these days. I wonder how and when I should bring up my stance, if at all. I know this usually comes up after date 3-5 when a man might invite you back to his home. And in that situation, I know to decline the invite and say that I am not ready for that. Do you not specifically state that you do not have sex or home visits outside of a committed relationship? Do you just treat it like the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 03:36 AM
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Her mom sounds awesome. Glad she has her. Dude is a complete big baby loser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 06:39 PM
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I love dear prudence!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 11:16 PM
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I think this is a complete lie in my opinion. I haven’t had many partners but all of them would want to passionately kiss me… I think only one loved me. Maybe the absence of any kissing is telling… But passionately kissing is not very meaningful on its own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 02:47 PM
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Yep. My friends in relationships are with bums…yet they all seemed to think being in a relationship was so valuable and an accomplishment. I distanced myself from the last 2 bc of snide/hateful comments. one friend’s fiance (he proposed in a parking lot 2 years ago) borrowed $600 from her. She then talked about shoes he bought her as a gift..like what? one friend ‘just discovered’ her hubby of 5 years who is 15+ years her senior is a long term alcoholic and was fired from his job for being intox…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 02:49 AM
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Why not just send her flowers if he is so incompetent? Or coordinate to schedule her a massage at a nearby spa after her workday? It’s just pathetic and sad that the guy spent money for an absolutely thoughtless gift. I was dating a man a while ago when I went out of town for a month long work trip. He asked for the name/location of the hotel… so obviously I was expecting him to send me something like flowers or a gift. As the weeks went on, I received nothing. And stupid me bought him extremely…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 04:47 AM
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I think you have two choices in the situation otherwise things will just continue to be awkward and it will be a fadeaway friendship. Either ask her directly what’s up OR forget about her. You know you did nothing wrong in the situation so there’s really nothing for you to ruminate about on this. She’s acting entitled and honestly doesn’t sound like a fair friend. I wouldn’t even bother asking what’s wrong, I would just distance myself and not put much more thought into it. I know it sucks but p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 11:28 PM
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I dated a guy pushing 40, he was frugal as hell and he was just very uncool. Physically, intellectually, and spiritually, I was way out of his league. When we broke up one of his last texts to me said ‘good luck.’ Guess who kept texting me and reaching out afterward with excuses and pity stories? And guess who got blocked? They always think they’re going to level up and move on to something better… But they never do. While I have leveled up so much that I don’t even relate to the woman that was …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 09:24 PM
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Hehe same..I only make simple dishes but tell men I don’t cook at all. I’ve had men cook me dishes to accommodate my special diet. It’s never been an issue!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 02:47 AM
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Agreed. The opposite of live isn’t hate, it’s indifference. The best way to respond to LV people is not responding at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 02:36 AM
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I had a date call me ‘negative’ when he suggested going to a park at night in the winter after a nice dinner..so I was dressed nicely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 03:08 PM
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Is the book good..do you recommend it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 08:50 PM
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I have many desi friends..and yeah, it might be that. Idk but I notice the men feel entitled and lack self awareness..they think bc they sound good on paper, that they are good men. I recently declined an invite to a male friends arranged marriage bc it’s a sham imo and I feel so sorry for the woman who is marrying him even tho I never met her..he’s already cheating on her and I’m 100% sure he will continue to do so after the nuptials. He has no respect for women and will sleep with anyone. I’m …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 08:36 PM
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I am loving this trend! Men have been using the internet to target women.. It’s finally backfiring and women are using it to expose lying cheating men 🥳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 01:35 PM
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Oooh all great advice!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 04:43 AM
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His ‘trauma’ brings me satisfaction
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 04:41 AM
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Honestly, sexiest thing I’ve heard a man say in a looong time..even if it was vulgar for my prude ears lol And it applies to 99% of men I encounter on dating apps, regardless of race.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 10:09 PM
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I’n nonAmerican Black and my cousin has TWO babies with her Black American bf. He is a doctor..she was working 2 jobs smh. Live together, she cooks for him. But he won’t marry her. Our conservative family is confused, like you have kids with her but won’t marry her?! In our culture you marry someone in this situation, if still in a relationship and all. She is embarrassed and jokingly calls herself a baby mama. Then they wonder why people of our culture look down on Black men in the states..this…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 09:39 PM
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FYI license height is self reported in most states!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 06:34 PM
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Yeah, even if there are systemic traps set up out there, we should still be able to avoid them. I get it, racism is real..but we don’t have to be victims. First generation Black people from Africa are the highest earners in America (along with Asians) and also have highest education levels. It’s about mindset too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 06:21 PM
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Yeah I’m Black (not American tho) and not the least bit offended! Black American shame me and women from my culture for having a reputation for not dating Black American men. But how can they blame us? My people will date Black men from our country or other American men…but when I see how Black American men treat their own women, no thanks. And miss me with the fetishizing of women from my country for their long hair and other features they put on a pedestal. I dated a Black American in the past…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 06:18 PM
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Trust me, I understand. I desire to settle down with a husband and kids too, and I know time is not necessarily on my side. It is hard to meet people due to the pandemic and even with my hobbies, I’m not having much luck. I do find myself getting on apps again from time to time but every time I do so, I am quickly reminded of why they are a waste of time. I just find the time that I have to invest in apps is not worth it for the minuscule chance that I’ll find a quality guy. The crap I am expose…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 04:27 PM
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I just stopped caring and once I realized I am a Queen and these men are lucky to sit across from me, I stopped getting nervous. I don’t think I have ever showed up on a first date from OLD where the man would be someone who even has the opportunity to ask me out had we met IRL (meaning the guys would never be in my space or they would never even approach me). Most men on apps are usually desperate imo. Once you come to terms with this truth, you simply can’t get nervous. I do dread the potentia…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 04:08 PM
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She is amazing 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 02:43 AM
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I think it’s best not to talk about FDS with men..even your brother. It’s not really for them to understand. At first look, FDS appears extreme. But women who process it and internalize it will absolutely see the value in it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 05:20 PM
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Lmao! Yeah we need the ruthlessness here. Thanks for your service 🙏🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 08:03 PM
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Yay! I finally joined the patreon..I’ve been meaning to but this is what led me to doing it right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 04:50 PM
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I was watching a show and the friend of a single woman encouraged her to get on a dating app and she quipped “I’m not going to peddle myself like a used car on a website.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 02:38 AM
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Yeah, I remove the cell phone element from it and take it back to simpler times where we didn’t have technology that allowed just about damn near anyone to have access to us. It’s like if I were walking down the street and someone who I deemed as crazy or unacceptable kept talking to me or trying to gain my attention, I would not stop and engage in a convo with that person. I would keep it moving. That’s how I look at blocking. And I’ve had former male friends say that they don’t block people be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 09:26 PM
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Look, anyone who shares pipe dreams to impress you should raise read flags. He worded it as “I have something to get off my chest” and shared his plan to spoil her with money he does not have yet. If your alarm bells aren’t going off, then idk what to say. We’re not saying OP should dump him, but I wouldn’t swoon over it and would keep my eyes open. Now if he actually booked her a luxurious vaca with his profits, and that’s what he needed to get “off his chest”..different story!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 02:48 PM
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Yeah I think if I heard that, my red flags would go up. Idk why but OP’s BF’s offer to share his successes with her seems more..manipulative? Wording it as “getting it off his chest” makes me uneasy. I feel like he should just ACT and not give these little speeches lol. Sure if she asked him for his motivation, he can explain his intentions. Or maybe I am just cynical. My ex BF was independently wealthy from investing and would hypothetically talk about the house he would buy us, trips he would …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 02:43 PM
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Yep. I have a ‘foreign’ name and it’s actually gender neutral in my home country. Every single email that I receive at work (I’m a lawyer) from someone who has not met me addresses me as “Mr.”. Presumed to be male, unless proven otherwise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 05:01 PM
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I dated a B list actor and I agree. He has so many women fans but if they only knew how he really views women..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 02:35 PM
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Eeek. That and the rape comments 😖. Also, a grown man drinking 40s with high school girls… WTF. Thanks so much for giving me perspective on this LVM that I used to think was a ‘perfect’ guy. I used to think that they had such an awesome marriage because he adored her so much. Now it’s making me cringe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 02:34 PM
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Lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 03:40 AM
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Yeah you should have left him on read..his initial text was already problematic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 01:18 AM
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Agreed, men are horrible liars. Anytime I fell for a man’s lie, it was because I lied to myself first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 07:24 PM
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🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 05:21 PM
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Wow so excited to listen!!! I read his book last year.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 03:46 PM
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Lol that sounds like a therapeutic dream. I can’t lie but when my ex was pathetically contacting me, I was tempted to lure him in and destroy him. But I’m better than that, and it would only harm me to even interact with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 03:43 PM
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LOL, I feel you! I had a dream last night that I was over at my parents house and my ex LVM friend that recently professed feelings for me (then berated me for not reciprocating) was in their basement. I kept asking for him to leave and said that he can’t meet my parents. But he kept insisting and saying he didn’t have a place to go and would only be there for one day. I felt defeated and had no choice but to let him stay. Then when I went upstairs to talk to my parents, their house was infested…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 03:41 PM
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I dated a guy that said he used to watch porn when he was younger and he really worked on getting rid of his porn use. He explained to me that it was problematic for various reasons, I did not inquire but I’m guessing he had ED as a result. This is pre FDS and I didn’t really know about the negative affects of porn use, and I thought it was normal to consume it at the time. Anyway, I later found out that he would masturbate to random pictures of women from dating apps. That was extremely troubli…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 12:27 AM
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That is true. But sometimes there’s something deep in us that feels something is off but we don’t have proof, so we ignore it or give them the benefit of the doubt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 10:59 PM
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My ex had a recent birthday and he had been trying to contact me although I have blocked and deleted him since FDS. I know I should not look him up but just out of curiosity I looked at one of his travel app profiles when I thought of him on his bday. He wrote about how lonely he is and has just been traveling the world aimlessly at this point. Since we broke up this guy has not spent any time in our home country, even during Covid. He sounds pretty miserable. But he absolutely blew it with me a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 06:19 PM
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Yeah, same. I’m not that active on apps anymore, I find they’re a waste of time. But I casually use them and I feel like it’s good vetting practice, and given that I don’t meet many people in real life, it makes me feel like I’m making at least some passive effort to meet new people. My vetting skills are so on point at this time, that I rarely ever go on dates anymore from anyone from OLD. It would take an exceptional encounter and interaction with someone for me to even consider doing so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 06:05 PM
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LOL I recently had a screening date with a guy from Bumble and we realized we both used to live in LA..when I asked what part, he said in his car (by choice, he did not want to work) and other 🚩🚩 . I was so glad I did the call because everything was so smooth in the days we were messaging on the app. In a matter of minutes, he eliminated himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 05:04 PM
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He sounds like a great guy but I must say that when dealing with entrepreneurs, it is a risk. I’m not sure what sector of entrepreneurialism he is in, but in the tech industry and even in some financial sectors, they call successful ventures ‘unicorns’ for a reason… it’s because they are rarely successful/scaleable/profitable. An overwhelming percentage of entrepreneurs essentially fail or don’t manage to even break even, let alone make a profit. I’m not trying to be negative but this is a reali…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 02:30 PM
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Yeah this is ridiculous. I’m a fitness fanatic and I have an hourglass shape, and a pretty tight stomach but it NEVER looks as disturbingly small as it does in some of those photos. And my stomach fluctuates from moment to moment lol. If I wake up super dehydrated, it looks one way..if I drink lots of water or sit down, it looks completely different and bulges out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 01:29 AM
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Absolutely. My ex was very attractive tall, and successful…but there was something that immediately felt slimey about him, like a used car salesman. Even him being nice felt fake and like an act. I even told him he reminds me of a used car salesman once lol. I ignored my gut tho because he had many great traits, looked good on paper, and I could not pinpoint anything wrong about him..he was kind and respectful. But over time he slowly revealed his true colors. He is a fraud and I wish I just tru…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 11:12 PM
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Don’t explain yourself to men. Glad you still managed to have fun. I prob would not have gone to that second location, but if you enjoyed yourself, all is good. So did you actually pay for the food? I would be majorly turned off and left after settling the bill.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 11:07 PM
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I do not date men who do not have at least permanent residency (really I require citizenship). I am first generation American and have waaaayyy too relatives who have essentially used women to obtain citizenship here. It would have to be an exceptional guy for me to consider dating someone here just on a temporary visa…and I mean he would need to have a tremendously better lifestyle and resources that demonstrate that he does not need me for security/visa purposes. It’s far too risky imo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 02:46 AM
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Ew block/delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 02:43 AM
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My dad is disabled and no longer works. My mom is in good health and still works. My dad still insists on shoveling her car out and the stairs. This man is so damn pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 10:56 PM
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I used to wonder the same thing, whether people who have used FDS have found success in dating. But then I realized that that’s not what it’s really about, having a happy ending with a man. Because vetting is an ongoing thing, I’m not sure what really constitutes a ‘success story’. I think we hear a lot of success stories here actually, every day…about women leaving low value men, about women leveling up, and women just doing amazing things in their lives. If we define FDS success as finding a h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 05:58 AM
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Lol that has to be satire? Like I’m not even mad at his description of FDS, seems like logical stuff..but the comparison? Man this is just SCARY.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 02:34 AM
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100% percent she should leave him and I like your approach (I’m a lawyer). I totally hear what the other commenters are saying about her leaving and having the kids stay with the husband or a relative/sitter, but since it seems like divorce is her best, I don’t think that will play out in her favor when she files for divorce. It doesn’t seem like he’ll go for primary (or any?) custody anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 08:37 PM
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Lol I need you to psychoanalyze me next
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 10:40 PM
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Same I started dating guys that are about five years younger than me because I want kids and I don’t want gross old 40+ sperm. I never feel weird or look older than them. It’s simply that I’m just usually way more mature than them, but that’s the case for my peers too. I found many younger than me are less jaded and problematic too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 10:55 PM
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Facts! I was one of those women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 12:49 AM
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I have had a lot more activity on dating apps in the last few weeks since I downloaded them again. I had a guy ask me on a coffee date yesterday, we are both in our mid to late 30s with established careers. Blocked/deleted. I also had a screening phone date two days ago and the guy talked about his past homelessness and addiction issues, and he laughed every time he said something. Blocked/deleted. It’s been pretty much nothing but good vetting practice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 02:49 AM
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Great video! It also made me reflect on myself. I realize that despite leveling up in so many ways, I still have a ways to go and I need to work on some things within myself. Thanks for sharing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 11:42 PM
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I am curious about your response. I know FDS says if a man asks to split a check, walk away rather than try to train him to cover dates. Also, with vacations, I was under the impression that men should treat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 03:57 PM
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I like once a week or so, but around the holidays then a week might be missed every so often due to family/travel commitments.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 01:47 AM
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Yes. OP is blaming herself. But he just revealed himself sooner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 12:25 AM
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The bottom line, to me, is that more encounters with men = increased danger. I don’t need to open an app to deal with those levels of harassment, I just literally have to walk down the street in my major city. So, of course, if I allow many men access to me via OLD, I will certainly be facing a lot more harassment and harm. So whatever you do and wherever you are going to encounter men, use safety precautions and other measures to protect yourself. Whether IRL or on an app. The app just allows g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 11:20 PM
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This is the story of my life. See cute guy, eye contact, and smile..then his partner appears. I am so hesitant to make eye contact with men now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 09:01 PM
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This man at my new fitness studio checks me out often. He’s cute, so it did not bother me too much ..until I met his girlfriend. From then on I basically give ‘F OFF’ energy towards him. I can still feel him looking at times. Anyway, his GF is out of town for the holidays and I hear him complain to a friend how it’s been the worst week of his life since she has been gone 🤮🤮🤮. He prob misses his bang maid that he does not respect. It pisses me off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 01:01 AM
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