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| 60 | 20-minute video where a guy discusses how a man can know instantly how he feels about a woman. "Just being in her presence has been one of the most wonderful things he's experienced in his life" | WHOLESOME CONTENT | pm_me_your_molars | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 03:01 AM |
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 2 | Can’t believe I thought OLD would be any different this time around.Oh yes, I'm sure some of them are genuine. r/tinder is a cesspool though, I'm reasonably active over there and all the most intense harassment I've gotten on Reddit has been based on comments I've made there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 05:18 AM |
| 9 | Everything was going well…then it turns out he’s into beastiality.iT WaS a FAlSe aCCuSAtiOn | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 05:09 AM |
| 11 | Everything was going well…then it turns out he’s into beastiality.A lot of their posts are griping about cops giving them a hard time if it helps. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 05:09 AM |
| 10 | Can’t believe I thought OLD would be any different this time around.I think some of them get off on the "EW WTF" kind of response. Kinda like how some guys send dick pics for the express purpose of being told their dick is gross. They're also filtering for low self-esteem. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 05:06 AM |
| 20 | Can’t believe I thought OLD would be any different this time around.I'm pretty sure that half of those are faked for karma and the other half are reposts that have been circulating for years. In reality these guys aren't getting positive responses nearly as frequently as r/tinder would have you believe. It just gets 10k upvotes because 10k guys want to believe that the same thing could happen to them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 05:05 AM |
| 13 | Watch out for those yogabros ladies ;pI think those ads are just people trying to get around Craigslist filtering out ads for porn? Like, no one is going to reply to that thinking it's NOT porn. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 04:23 AM |
| 6 | Everything was going well…then it turns out he’s into beastiality.This, the Torah (old testament) includes laws against bestiality. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 12:45 AM |
| 33 | Everything was going well…then it turns out he’s into beastiality.Men who say single women have large dogs in order to have sex with those dogs are just trying to shame single women out of having large dogs...so there are no large dogs between them and those women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 12:40 AM |
| 152 | This is why the six month period before declaring someone a HVM is a MINIMUM. Strap in ladies, this is fun."So we can at least leave not thinking we are both pieces of shit" ...is he honestly implying that you thought of yourself as a piece of shit, and that hearing him out would make you feel better? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 03:32 AM |
| 215 | This is why the six month period before declaring someone a HVM is a MINIMUM. Strap in ladies, this is fun.He tried to HIDE YOUR PHONE?!?!? That is psychotic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 03:24 AM |
| 6 | Married scrote with kids commenting on OnlyFans model, and pickme model defending it....constantly seeing this on social media🤢Again, not speaking about this person in particular, just responding to the point about sex workers as a whole, suffering under capitalism with the rest of us. In a world with guaranteed basic income, where childcare doesn't eat all the profits you could make at a full time job, I think there would be a lot fewer sex workers. I'm also kinda surprised by how sex workers are supposed to use their attractiveness to get them non-sex industry jobs, rather than education, skills, experience, etc? But … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 11:37 PM |
| 51 | my LVM narc ex whos an abusive cheater left me in may ..after i finally went no contact two weeks ago and stopped being a pick me begging for him back he hits me up today... i prefer ‘Devil’Any kind of interaction with you--even a negative interaction--is more than he deserves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 10:31 PM |
| 27 | This poor woman 😭If it was HIM in the hospital though he'd probably want her there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 10:29 PM |
| 52 | This poor woman 😭He isn't much of a communicator, unless it's him doing all the talking. surprisedpikachu.jpg | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 10:29 PM |
| 17 | Married scrote with kids commenting on OnlyFans model, and pickme model defending it....constantly seeing this on social media🤢Some women really don't have that much of an option, though :/ I can't speak for this person in particular but in a world where Jeff Bezos is raking in billions while his workers run 14-hour shifts in godawful conditions, etc etc etc...the existence of sex workers doesn't cause men to act worse than they already wanted to act, in fact it reveals them for what they already are. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 09:50 PM |
| 23 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: September 29 2020I agree with this, you don't want to give someone a handbook on how to win you over. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 08:16 PM |
| 22 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: September 29 2020Makes sense to me. Women are going to do most of the childcare anyway--I think there's much more peace of mind in doing everything yourself, than doing most of it yourself and nagging your partner into doing the rest of it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 08:14 PM |
| 251 | Married scrote with kids commenting on OnlyFans model, and pickme model defending it....constantly seeing this on social media🤢Thinking a person other than your wife is cute =/= following nude insta models and leaving comments on their pictures. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 08:11 PM |
| 96 | From my time online dating. . .Everyone else has done a pretty good job of calling this dude gross, so can I just be like...does anything else think the whole "favorite sex position" question is just really stupid on top of being gross? I've had people ask me before/during/after sex what my favorite position is and it's like...IDK it's different with different people because people have different bodies? Like, what do they hope to achieve with that question? Is it dirty talk? If so it's really lame. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 07:54 PM |
| 20 | Lady posts HER side of the story, reveals that BF made a reddit post where he lied about her cheating, leaving out the parts where HE cheated first... She reveals what we already know: Women who cheat on their S/O typically do so because the S/O cheated first. Why be faithful to a cheater?I got into an argument in some Reddit comments once where men were discussing how society conditions them to not talk about their feelings, but when they open up about their feelings, women don't like it. (I pointed out that feelings are not-value neutral which they didn't like). One comment in particular, the guy said, "I opened up about my feelings, my ex called me a baby, and then she broke up with me." A gay guy commented to say, "Uh, gonna need some more details on that one to tell you whet… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 07:48 PM |
| 14 | Lady posts HER side of the story, reveals that BF made a reddit post where he lied about her cheating, leaving out the parts where HE cheated first... She reveals what we already know: Women who cheat on their S/O typically do so because the S/O cheated first. Why be faithful to a cheater?These posts are often one-sided and omit any infidelity on his behalf to make it seem like the wife/GF cheated on her own accord, randomly because she was evil This reminds me of the "Somebody that you used to know" song where the dude paints the girlfriend as being this ice queen who can't even be bothered to pick up her things from his place, and then she comes around like, "You were super passive aggressive and gaslighted me and I was walking on eggshells all the time." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 07:41 PM |
| 7 | I reviewed my dating history and I tend to go for men who are very charming, and end up somehow abusive? Why?We attract what we feel comfortable with and already know, even if it's not good for us. Came her to post this. I think it's why so many people end up in relationships like their parents'. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 07:37 PM |
| 204 | This is how you should treat a guy who cancels just two hours before and treats you as a second option for a first date 👋🏼😊"Family emergency" is what you say to your boss so you don't have to provide personal details to your workplace. Saying it on a date is just lacking the creativity to even lie properly. Like come on you couldn't even come up with, "My mom is having car trouble and I have to help her out" or whatever? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 07:34 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: September 29 2020You can PM them to me! I'll be active a little while longer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 04:02 AM |
| 35 | Indian scrote asks advice to stalk and harrasss an accomplished surgeon, for a 'coffee date'. Doesn't believe in rejection or consent.That's the ray of hope. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 02:05 AM |
| 3 | In an ask men post, I came across hundreds of comments in a thread talking shit about FDS, saying no one here has a boyfriend or has ever been near a man, and that women here have only baby daddies and have no jobs. What the heck?Yes! Maybe restrict it to people with "apprentice" or higher level flair? People who have already been semi-vetted. I would be really interested to see a breakdown of the individual parts of the handbook and see what percentage of users agree with what rules--we're not a hive mind who all think the same way. For example, how many people think living together before marriage is a good move, how many don't? Official FDS policy is to not do it, but in the post about it there is some pretty lively d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 10:33 PM |
| 5 | In an ask men post, I came across hundreds of comments in a thread talking shit about FDS, saying no one here has a boyfriend or has ever been near a man, and that women here have only baby daddies and have no jobs. What the heck?I would love some kind of subreddit survey so we could see our demographics (I love that kind of data!) but I'm not sure how we could go about running one without it getting brigaded and spammed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 10:01 PM |
| 4 | In an ask men post, I came across hundreds of comments in a thread talking shit about FDS, saying no one here has a boyfriend or has ever been near a man, and that women here have only baby daddies and have no jobs. What the heck?MEN: Only men can be incels! Women's hypergamous nature means that they will always be able to find someone willing to have sex with them--even relatively unattractive women can still have sex with very attractive men without much effort, since attractive men will bang anything that moves. ALSO MEN: FEMCELS FEMCELS FEMCELS! Honestly, though, I think the disconnect happens because for toxic men, the worst thing you can call someone, the worst thing you can be, is a virgin, a woman, or gay. You ca… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 08:17 PM |
| 5 | Thoughts on dating younger men? Current thoughts: they always want someone younger and it puts you at risk of waiting for him to grow up/supporting him/always unsure if he is secretly pining for a younger woman...Change my mind.When you have to put in a lot of work from a young age to support others, it does make you grow up quickly. I'm not surprised that he wouldn't feel like he had a lot in common with most people his age who hadn't had that experience. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 07:50 PM |
| 3 | Thoughts on dating younger men? Current thoughts: they always want someone younger and it puts you at risk of waiting for him to grow up/supporting him/always unsure if he is secretly pining for a younger woman...Change my mind.Same. I'm fortunate that I've always been attracted to people my own age (the one person I dated who was 5 years older actually looked pretty young). I'm also not sure if it's an age thing...younger men still have their metabolism and spiking hormones working for them, hair, etc. Ageing weeds out the ones who don't work to maintain their physique or curate an attractive style. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 07:48 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: September 18 2020Don't feel like an idiot. Re-calibrating is hard work and you're putting that work in. You didn't slide on seeing him in person and you didn't let this go on longer than a few weeks. That seems to be an improvement from your past, and you should be proud that you're taking these steps. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 07:39 PM |
| 63 | Weird guys keep trying to “copy” me as a form of negging??Yeah, copying body language is a pretty common thing that people do subconsciously, and sometimes people do it consciously to put people at ease...but the mocking angle is a whole new thing to me. Like, "I COULD be making you feel comfortable, but instead I'm co-opting the language of comfort and attraction and trust to undermine you." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 04:10 AM |
| 164 | Weird guys keep trying to “copy” me as a form of negging??They're trying to filter for women with low self-esteem so they don't end up with someone who will ask more of them. If you had gone on the second date, that would have been indicative of you having low-self esteem. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 03:56 AM |
| 4 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: September 18 2020Well, you are the only person who knows for sure what is and isn't worth it, and you're the person taking that risk, and you've spent a lot more time weighing the risks than I have--I don't know much about HPV or its transmission, so I can't give you the exact likelihood of how likely you are to catch it from him if he's telling the truth, and I'm not going to pretend I do based on a few minutes of Google research. However, I think you should consider thinking about it this way: there are many g… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 03:29 AM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: September 18 2020I think it would be really difficult for you to know (if this is early on) if it's true that his outbreaks are small, that he gets them treated, etc. A guy for whom that wasn't true would say the same thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 02:51 AM |
| 22 | Instant swipe-left triggers for OLDIf your "ideal first date" is taking place in COVID restrictions, you need a better imagination. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 02:47 AM |
| 22 | Instant swipe-left triggers for OLDE.G. "I'm mean and will cut you down, and if you complain, I'll whine that that's just my sense of humor and you are way too sensitive." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 02:42 AM |
| 20 | Instant swipe-left triggers for OLDI really dislike seeing BLM/ACAB because these movements + phrases are about protesting black people getting killed by police...and these guys are using it to try and hook up? There are other "woke" phrases that make me have your same response that it's just a ploy, but seeing BLM/ACAB genuinely repulses me. George Floyd would be pumped, I'm sure, that these guys are co-opting the movement this way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 02:41 AM |
| 47 | Instant swipe-left triggers for OLDInsert buzzword label from the pseudo woke bandwagon. And from recent social movements too. There's a lot of people saying "BLM" now, which, sure, I support BLM too, but it's gross to co-opt a political movement which is about seeking justice for oppressed minorities for the purpose of attracting a partner. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 02:33 AM |
| 48 | “LOVE HAS NO AGE” IS AN IDEA PERPETUATED BY PATRIARCHYAlmost always, the only people who benefit from the idea that "love has no age" being mainstream, are people who are looking to exploit those younger than them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 02:30 AM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: September 18 2020He is already being rude. He ALREADY has you worried about his reactions and being tip-toe-y and you haven't even seen him yet. If you are concerned about getting an inappropriate response when you try and cut it off--if he has presented himself as the kind of person who would guilt trip and browbeat you--just block him straight up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 02:27 AM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: September 18 2020My concern would be that even if she does move in, she might go back really quickly, and then you'll be in the same situation again. Or she'll start having him over/try to move him in too, because "things are going better". Sorry for the cynicism...I do hope she gets out too, but that is the other side of the coin with people caught in toxic cycles: maybe they will break it, but most likely they won't. Every other time they've had a chance to break it, they haven't. Statistics aren't on your sid… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 02:22 AM |
| 4 | Dating Profile Translations and jokes, a field guide and PSA.Empathetic and empathy are baselines for anyone! But seeing them in profiles still raises a red flag for me, because if someone describes themselves as "an empath", then they're probably a manipulative psycho, but if they describe themselves as "very empathetic" or "high in empathy", then it's like...what do you want, a cookie? Congratulations, you're a person (and also you're probably manipulative too). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 01:08 AM |
| 4 | How to let go of the feeding into the beauty obsession?Oh, sorry to have misunderstood! I thought that you were associating working out with "feeding into the beauty obsession". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 12:19 AM |
| 5 | How to let go of the feeding into the beauty obsession?I think a dog might be a good choice if you are in a good place to take care of one! If you are used to running as part of your fitness routine, maybe get a high-energy breed that you can take on runs with you. That would help you mentally re-frame your fitness motivation from "I work out to be hot for guys" to "I work out to have fun with my dog". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 11:09 PM |
| 31 | Cats Don't Chase Dogs is an absolute must read! Ladies, Never chase a manShe suggests rubbing a lollipop or pineapple over your cooch before sex to make it taste better. I'm torn between commenting, "Do you want yeast infections? Because THAT'S HOW YOU GET YEAST INFECTIONS" and saying that if someone doesn't think your vagina tastes amazing all on its own, that isn't someone who has any business having any kind of sexual contact with you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 10:55 PM |
| 0 | Dating Profile Translations and jokes, a field guide and PSA.I don't think it's possible for someone to feel the exact physical pain you have felt, simply because pain doesn't translate perfectly through language. When I think of the worst pain I've felt it isn't something that words can fully capture. Plus the sheer act of linguistic description being necessary in the first place means it isn't an actual "empath" thing because science fiction/fantasy/supernatural clairvoyants don't need language, they just literally sense what's happening in real time to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 10:28 PM |
| 2 | This guy was on a dating advice sub asking why he only matches with overweight women, and that he’s not particularly attracted to ‘large’ women. THE AUDACITY!! 😂😂I suspect that he also didn't meet her online, though? Someone with your cousin's level of self-awareness would probably know that meeting people in person is their best bet because it gives them a chance to show their best qualities very quickly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 10:12 PM |
| 3 | This guy was on a dating advice sub asking why he only matches with overweight women, and that he’s not particularly attracted to ‘large’ women. THE AUDACITY!! 😂😂Tinder actually limits how often you can swipe right on someone, so if men want to endlessly swipe they have to pay for more swipes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 10:11 PM |
| 36 | Why couples counseling doesn't work with an abuserThis this this. If someone lacks empathy, then all counseling will help them with is their ability to be even MORE manipulative. It's the psychopath dilemma. If someone believes other people are beneath them, if they enjoy the suffering of others...do you WANT that person to learn how to appear normal? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 10:09 PM |
| 11 | Dating Profile Translations and jokes, a field guide and PSA.Also I always think "Clairvoyant" when I see the word "Empath". It's like, dude, are you trying to convince me you're Counselor Troi from Star Trek or something? During the whole Shane Dawson drama, when Tati Westbrook was talking about how she got manipulated by him, she said something like, "He said he was an empath so I shared a lot of very personal things with him." And to me that sounds just as silly as if she said, "He said he was a medium so I asked him to contact my dead great-grandmothe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 10:04 PM |
| 22 | Dating Profile Translations and jokes, a field guide and PSA."Looking for a girl who will nod along while I rant about Anita Sarkeesian being the literal devil". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 09:58 PM |
| 34 | Dating Profile Translations and jokes, a field guide and PSA.I 100% agree with you on the use of the word "Empath". Just check out all the Shane Dawson shit to see what that REALLY says about someone. "Just got out of a long term relationship" = "I will constantly be comparing you to my ex and I've completely forgotten how to put in effort for someone" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 09:56 PM |
| 30 | Dating Profile Translations and jokes, a field guide and PSA.I hate it when people are passive-aggressive about the height thing. "6'2" cause apparently it matters" "6'1" if you happen to care about that." Like dude, either put your height or don't put your height. There's no need to be a pissbaby about it. If you're going to share a physical characteristic about yourself, why the hell would you express contempt for people who would be attracted to that physical characteristic? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 09:53 PM |
| 13 | How to let go of the feeding into the beauty obsession?I agree with this take on it. Skin care, healthy eating, and fitness are all habits that will pay off in the long-term for anyone. Doing these things NOW will help you have a much higher quality of life when you're older, and I don't think dropping them is the solution. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 09:44 PM |
| 31 | I used to be one of these PickMes. And then I did the best thing I could’ve ever done for myself and subscribed to this subreddit 💕"HE WENT TO DUNKIN!" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 09:38 PM |
| 8 | Aussie scrote loses his job after sending vile & abusive messages to Tinder matchesProbably. They can't send you abusive messages if they've been blocked haha. Even if you were ghosting out of immaturity, it probably saved you some really upsetting experiences. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 08:20 PM |
| 3 | What would I cook?I like cooking for my friends--it's one of my principle methods of showing affection. But I had experience last year with someone staying home to get stoned rather than coming over to eat my meticulously planned home-cooked dinner...suffice to say, ouch. Not cooking for someone again unless he makes a comparable romantic gesture first. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 05:25 AM |
| 18 | Don't drop your standards. Effort and being high-maintenance is the most effective filter you have against substandard relationships. And being on your own is far preferable to dulling your shine for weak, shitty dudes.Ugh, thankfully I haven't been in THAT situation. And even if the sex is good the first time, you're not going to be able to enjoy yourself the second time if you have the expectation of that kind of meltdown hanging over your head. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 04:42 AM |
| 41 | How much time do you guys give to see if he can make you orgasm?AMEN. Even someone relatively inexperienced can make you orgasm if they are enthusiastic about receiving direction. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 04:27 AM |
| 32 | Don't drop your standards. Effort and being high-maintenance is the most effective filter you have against substandard relationships. And being on your own is far preferable to dulling your shine for weak, shitty dudes.I definitely haven't always had the highest standards, but consistent validation seeking has always been a deal breaker for me. It's just EXHAUSTING. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 04:20 AM |
| 58 | Aussie scrote loses his job after sending vile & abusive messages to Tinder matchesThis is why I stick to my guns on the idea that there is nothing amoral about ghosting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 04:15 AM |
| 32 | Lie #1: We can’t have a man with BOTH money AND a good personality. Lie #2: A man being broke means he has a good personality.There's a stereotype in academia that long-term tenured male professors have 3 marriages: The first wife: the one he marries in his 20s, who puts him through school, the mother of his children. The second wife: the much younger one he marries after first getting tenure. The third wife: the other academic who's actually his age. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 07:38 PM |
| 20 | Lie #1: We can’t have a man with BOTH money AND a good personality. Lie #2: A man being broke means he has a good personality.Men are more likely to cheat if their partner makes more money than them (regardless of whether they themselves are broke). The resentment is real. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 07:35 PM |
| 3 | Do NOT let a LVM leech ruin your lifeMental illness isn't your fault but it is your responsibility. I think a lot of people struggle with this concept. Like, just because I pointed out there is something in your life that needs some work doesn't mean that you're morally reprehensible for having that problem in the first place. It's odd to me how many people feel like not being bad people is the pinnacle of human accomplishment and aren't interested in being the best (or even happiest) they can be. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 07:33 PM |
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