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You know how some men like ripped chicks with visible muscles and some guys like women with soft rounded bodies, and some men like blondes, and some like redheads, and some like quiet girls and some like rowdy party girls... Etc? Women are the same. Our tastes vary. There is nothing you can do that will make you attractive to every single woman. It's just not possible. No one is attractive to everyone, but everyone is attractive to someone. If you obsess about wanting every chick to want you you…
/r/ExRedPill13/05/22 01:39 AM
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Why can't you just not date? Why does it have to be some label or group?
/r/ExRedPill02/05/22 08:12 PM
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Wow
/r/ExRedPill28/04/22 02:55 PM
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There are plenty of fitness influencers to follow if you need gym motivation. You don't need those clowns. I'm telling you right now, they aren't helping your case. I can't imagine a bigger turn off than finding out a dude watches that shit.
/r/ExRedPill28/04/22 02:53 PM
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I agree. I think you could easily replace "father" with "positive male role model". To include same sex couples and single moms, but also because there's absolutely no guarantee that just because you have a father means he's a good role model.
/r/ExRedPill27/04/22 06:32 PM
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Hahahaha. I promise you there are girls in to the grasshopper/platypus look. That's what you've got to wrap your head around. Will you ever be attractive to every girl? No. No one is. No one is attractive to everyone. But everyone is attractive to someone. Make yourself open and available so when you find the someone, they aren't scared away by your hated and self pity.
/r/ExRedPill27/04/22 04:45 AM
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Oh please. That's such a load of crap. To believe this you either have terrible body dysmorphia, or are so narcissistic that you believe you are some super special person to which the rules don't apply. My guess is a bit of both. I think this incel shit is a form of self harm. And this is coming from a recovered cutter. I know that feeling of like, relief and calm that come from hurting yourself. But I promise it's not really solving anything. I hope you get in to therapy or something and try an…
/r/ExRedPill27/04/22 01:52 AM
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No worries. I was specifically talking about red pill guys, as part of that whole belief system is about women having nothing to offer except their looks.
/r/ExRedPill26/04/22 04:53 PM
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That's rich coming from a red pilled guy. But you're allowed to generalize when it comes to women?
/r/ExRedPill26/04/22 04:40 PM
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100 percent. They somehow think they are too lame to exist but too good for the women who share their interests. It's bizarre.
/r/ExRedPill26/04/22 04:05 PM
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Hi again. I remember you from your other posts. How much time do you spend with people irl? Look around in the real world. You'll see all types of people pared up. All shapes and colors and personalities. Literally if you were to just sit at a diner and look around you'd see it. You gotta get off the internet my dude. You aren't going to bag Megan Fox dude so don't worry about it. Go find women who like the shit you like. Treat them like actual human beings and not some manipulative monolith. An…
/r/ExRedPill26/04/22 03:32 PM
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I'm a woman, and I can't speak for all women of course but from what I've personally seen with my friends, anywhere around average is perfect. Everyone is saying size doesn't matter and they are right 99 percent of the time, but I actually know 2 dudes who have been regularly turned down by women because their dicks are too big. Vaginas are only like 5 inches deep dude. And at the end is the cervix (opening to the uterus) and that bitch is sensitive! Sleeping with someone too long can be so pain…
/r/ExRedPill10/04/22 04:55 PM
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Idk dude. I get compliments from family and friends, not like, random strangers. Honestly I think you might be fixating on it too much. I really don't think people are walking around day to day complimenting everyone. It happens online a lot. Maybe take a bit of an internet break and observe people out in the world. People aren't talking to the strangers around them for the most part.
/r/ExRedPill31/03/22 03:57 AM
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That complimenting someone means they have to say one back. I was always taught the best way to take a compliment is to just smile and say thank you.
/r/ExRedPill31/03/22 03:02 AM
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What? That's just not true.
/r/ExRedPill31/03/22 02:38 AM
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Huh?
/r/ExRedPill27/01/22 03:30 AM
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Have you ever met someone, maybe they are average looking, nothing particularly special, but then you start interacting with them and next thing you know they are way more attractive than you thought at first? Maybe they make you laugh, or make you think, or the banter is just great? That's what I mean. There are so many people I find incredibly attractive, even if they aren't traditionally "good looking". That's what people are trying to say when they say "it's not your looks that are the probl…
/r/ExRedPill27/01/22 03:16 AM
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Not if you're looking for a long term partner. Over a lifetime together, both people are going to change physically. People gain/lose weight, get wrinkles, grey hair, posture changes. Also accidents or sickness can effect someone's physical appearance. If you choose a partner on mostly looks, it's only a matter of time until that fades. It's inevitable. I'm not saying someone doesn't have to be attracted to the other person, but that's the thing I think red pill guys can't grasp. Attraction is m…
/r/ExRedPill27/01/22 01:11 AM
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Yeah. It doesn't seem like he's asking in good faith
/r/ExRedPill25/01/22 05:32 PM
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I haven't seen that personally but I beleive you. For the record I've never met a redpill guy in person that I know of. I just feel bad for these guys who've been brainwashed but are trying to do better. I honestly just want to help. I think the comment about the femaledatingstrategy sub is right. Those women are angry and nutso. Like the female cousin of redpill. Maybe the mods could step up their game a bit to try and weed some of them off the sub because if that's the case than you're dead ri…
/r/ExRedPill25/01/22 05:29 PM
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I'm here out of curiosity But like, if this whole place was just men who'd been redpilled, then it's just another echo chamber. You'd think, if you really are trying to change your mindset about women, that you'd be happy to have some advice and input from the perspective of actual women? I don't find your question offensive like you said in your post, but I do find you suspicious. The fact that you claim to be ex redpill but still make sweeping assumptions about women. I think you still have wo…
/r/ExRedPill25/01/22 05:17 PM
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https://youtu.be/J9Y4mAWMSLs Enjoy
/r/ExRedPill16/06/21 06:00 AM
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Self improvement is not something red pill invented. That's my point. Calling it "maxing" is giving red pill way too much credit. It's just hygiene and taking care of yourself.
/r/ExRedPill11/06/21 06:53 PM
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"take what is useful, disregard the unnecessary". I was raised in scientology and this is a big thing for them. I think this is a line all these scam beliefs use because they steal actual good ideas and methods and twist them up to make their cause look more legit.
/r/ExRedPill11/06/21 06:32 AM
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Do pick up artists count? There is some great cringe out there of those losers
/r/ExRedPill25/05/21 04:16 AM
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Maybe just some woman centered subs? Two x chromosomes or ask women advice. I'm no where near red pilled but I do find that following wholesome male dominated subs helps me remember the good people out there. Daddit is one of my favorite subs ever.
/r/ExRedPill23/05/21 03:12 AM
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Great suggestion. I love that channel
/r/ExRedPill23/05/21 03:10 AM
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I don't think you understand how attraction works. People don't magically match up because they both think the other is hot. There's so much more to it. Shared experience, common interests, good banter, personally... So many things make up what makes someone attractive.
/r/ExRedPill17/04/21 08:19 PM
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What kind of women are you interacting with? I ask because I'm older (30s) and I've had lots of female friends. Out of all of those friends I've had 2 that would act the way you are describing and both of those women turned out to just be awful people. Awful people come in all shapes, colors, and genders. Perhaps you're somehow attracted to or attracting shitty people. Beleive me I've been there. It's not an excuse to discard half the population. That's just silly.
/r/ExRedPill15/04/21 03:31 AM
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First off, forget the links you posted. They were either shitty people (yes both men and women can be shitty) or trolling. If there's one thing we should all know by this point it's that the internet is an echo chamber. We all search out things that confirm our bias. You could've seen 20 posts of kind empathetic women but since you want to beleive women are like this, you only notice the 2 shitty posts. Second, I don't want minimize your struggle. You are dead right that society at large expects…
/r/ExRedPill23/02/21 04:03 AM
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Just so you know, my husband is 5'8", same as me. He's dark skinned with a dad body. He can't grow a beard or pick me up. But I'm telling you he's the most attractive man I've ever met. Just please try and be kind to yourself. I guarantee you're someone's perfect cup of tea.
/r/ExRedPill16/02/21 03:40 AM
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There's absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to be an attractive person. I think trp puts too much emphasis on physical attraction and convinces men that they either must be tall and hot or make 6 figures. I guess the point I wish you would internalize is that women are out there fighting this same fight. We are told men have no interest if we're too heavy, or too assertive, or too drivin. If we have male friends or sleep with too many people, or not enough people. We're all out here trying to …
/r/ExRedPill18/12/20 12:24 AM
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My first thoughts are Diary of Anne Frank and Speak. Although both of those are heavy, still great though. What do you like to read? Is be better at recommending something if I knew what you like to read. By seeing women as a commodity I meant that TRP tends to see women as something to be won and owned. Not as fully flushed out humans with their own wants and desires and insecurities.
/r/ExRedPill17/12/20 11:39 PM
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I don't want this to come out wrong because I see that you are trying to change but does it occur to you that women are not a commodity? They are people. Every woman in the world has feelings of insecurity and doubts just like you. I'm a woman and when I was growing I also felt liked by many and loved by none. I also pined for guys who I liked but saw me as a friend. I had boyfriends who left me for girls I didn't like. I think your first step is to stop thinking about things in such black and w…
/r/ExRedPill17/12/20 06:30 PM
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Stop thinking about it in these black and white terms. The world isn't divided in to neat little groups. What you're really after is improving your social skills. You don't need to be completely extraverted to be someone people enjoy being around. When you socialize do you actively listen when people are talking? Do you ask follow up questions and show interest in other people's lives? Do you read people's social cues and act accordingly? These are the things to practice if you want to build bet…
/r/ExRedPill11/12/20 06:03 PM
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Regarding your anxiety and metal health, your primary care doctor can help you too. Anxiety is a bitch but meds can seriously help. Might be worth a quick convo with your doctor.
/r/ExRedPill21/11/20 06:29 PM
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If you haven't watched contrapoints video on inceldom it's really good
/r/ExRedPill07/05/20 01:01 AM
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By attractive I don't necessarily mean physical appearance. I mean be the kind of person that people want to be around. Do you have any female friends? Any women you respect? I wonder if you've ever had an irl conversation with a woman and asked her about these things. Digital self harm is real. When you open up YouTube and click on videos you know deep down are hateful and toxic you're hurting yourself. I get it. I used to cut as a teenager and I remember how additive pain can be. But you have …
/r/ExRedPill04/05/20 05:55 PM
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You cut my quote. I said go down internet rabbit holes and feel sorry for themselves. Not all rabbit holes are created equal.
/r/ExRedPill04/05/20 03:12 PM
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Has it seriously not crossed your mind that there are plenty of women that feel similar to the way you do? Are you really so self absorbed that you think you are part of some special group that gets to feel loneliness and self doubt and longing? Give me a fucking break dude. I'm so sick of you barely-out-of-puberty dudes railing on everyone else because you can't get laid. You want to attract people? BE ATTRACTIVE. Who TF would want to spend time with someone that does nothing but go down intern…
/r/ExRedPill04/05/20 06:45 AM
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I'm not debating your experience. I believe you've had some shitty women in your life. I guess I'm not understanding what you're looking for in this thread. You drew a conclusion and that conclusion is wrong. You keep saying you know it's wrong. So what is it that you want?
/r/ExRedPill22/02/20 10:20 PM
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I just don't understand how you got to the point of believing that every woman is unfaithful. Like, I've only met two people from Australia and they were total dick heads. Still I can't fathom deciding that all Australians are jerks. Like what made you even take that leap?
/r/ExRedPill22/02/20 10:07 PM
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I'm sorry but this is so silly. How can you seriously convince yourself that the handful of women you know are exactly like every other woman alive? It's just absurd.
/r/ExRedPill22/02/20 04:36 PM
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No, the act of texting doesn't inherently ruin attraction. I mean, isn't the point of dating to find out if you're compatible? Right now your dating this girl and she's under the impression that you aren't a texter. Even though you say you miss her and want to text her and stop yourself. So you'll have 2 options down the road, keep basically lying to her about who you actually are and anxiously contemplate every text you make for the next however long you're together or one day, possibly years d…
/r/ExRedPill07/01/20 03:09 AM
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Well this is exactly what I'm talking about. An issue if she doesn't Want to fuck you? You'll then wander down this bullshit path about why you aren't fuckable. Were you not assertive enough? Is she seeking out some other dude with more money or a better jawline? My point is: probably not. Maybe she put on some weight and she doesn't feel sexy. Maybe she's stressed about some family drama. Maybe she hasn't been sleeping well and she can't seem to get in the mood. Women aren't monsters sniffing o…
/r/ExRedPill21/12/19 05:40 AM
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For the record, i don't mean sit around and talk non stop about your insecurities. I mean just communicate. Also remember, as you're a whole complicated human being, so is your girl friend. I know red pill wants you to think of women as very different from you but women also have just as full internal lives as men. We also feel insecure sometimes, afraid that we might be ruining a relationship were in or nervous we'll fuck everything up. We get horny, we get insecure, and we definitely second gu…
/r/ExRedPill19/12/19 11:20 PM
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Just keep talking to each other. Try and remember that the red pill wants you to think I'm all or nothing terms. You're a whole human being. You'll have times when you act passively and times when your more assertive or aggressive and no one experience or reaction defines you. As for the sex, it could be you just have mismatched sex drives, but it's also not unusual in long term relationships to have dry periods. It could have absolutely nothing to do with you. I find that when I'm feeling down …
/r/ExRedPill19/12/19 04:36 PM
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I'm not sure I'm understanding what your question is. What is it that you want to change and how?;
/r/ExRedPill19/12/19 04:12 PM
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There's not really anything to DO about it. The whole point of dating is to spend time with someone and see if you two are compatible. All women are different. There's no amount of manliness that is some magic amout you are supposed to exude. One of the most toxic things about redpill is this crazy all or nothing thinking. Humans are much more complicated than that ideology wants you to think. Its ok to date someone for a while and realize that you aren't a great fit anymore. It doesn't say anyt…
/r/ExRedPill19/12/19 03:42 PM
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Good. I hope you're feeling better ♥️
/r/ExRedPill07/10/19 01:37 AM
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I am a married woman with 2 kids in my 30's (I was neither at 24 btw). First thing, 30's are fucking awesome. Not something to dread at all. I don't think you could pay me to go back to being a 20 something. Too much existential dead and figuring out who I was. Ugh it was awful. Ageing isn't something that just gets worse and worse. It just, changes. If I were you and had some perspective, I would do all the things that the married with kids version of yourself won't be able to do so easily. Sle…
/r/ExRedPill05/10/19 02:53 PM
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I mean kind of? But at the same time you, and your future wife, will be entitled to some degree of privacy. Your sex life before each other shouldn't matter that much if you're planning on monogamy. I mean you'll want to know what works sexually for each other but it's not like you'll be required to tell her every detail of every sexual experience you've ever had.
/r/ExRedPill20/08/19 09:27 PM
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I'm not understanding your worry about having to tell your wife someday. I'm sure my husband has plenty of shit from his part I don't know about and it's not weird at all. Why would I want to know his entire sexual history?
/r/ExRedPill20/08/19 08:43 PM
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I just don't understand what you gain by attributing not wanting to get married with MGTOW. I know plenty of men and women who don't think legal marriage is for them. You can decide, for now, that marriage doesn't appeal to you without going down a rage spiral about all women. You can also change your mind someday if you meet sometime you're willing to risk it for. You just sound scared of a million maybes and angry for another man's divorce (which he isn't even bitter about btw).
/r/ExRedPill15/08/19 02:42 PM
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I saw your other posts. Super interesting. I'd love to know your story, how you found redpill and how you managed to come through it. Good for you btw. Takes a strong person to question your own beliefs.
/r/ExRedPill19/06/19 03:05 AM
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It's funny you mention Scientology because reading your posts made me think about the similarities. One of them being this vocabulary. It cuts people off because only other people within your community can even understand what you are saying. Very interesting.
/r/ExRedPill18/06/19 02:41 AM
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