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| 3 | how to tell my boyfriend I don't want to have sex with him anymore?i do care about sex and I enjoy it, but I don't get horny until I'm in the act itself and not before it's not like it repulses me, I think also the fear might have an impact on my sex drive | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/24 08:18 PM |
| 1 | how to tell my boyfriend I don't want to have sex with him anymore?he's the one to visit, I live in his hometown, so he visits his parents and me at the same time and stays with his parents I know he's not religious so he doesn't think of me badly because of religion also 27 and not married is common here ( north africa) unlike other arab countries bit you're right about the part that if he loves me he'd not want to put me in danger knowingly. I'll have a conversation with him just to make sure he understands how it is for me, and if he doesn't it's a valid rea… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/24 06:38 PM |
| 3 | how to tell my boyfriend I don't want to have sex with him anymore?he thinks it's safe as long as we don't get caught, and I guess he's less anxious about it than me. he's not a bad man, i agreed to this too, but now I regret it now that it became too often, you don't get caught once or twice, but if it becomes a regular thing someone will find out eventually | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/24 06:28 PM |
| 2 | how to tell my boyfriend I don't want to have sex with him anymore?I know that's why I'm nervous, I realize now how risky it is, and I regret getting sexual with him in the first place. i want to know how to make sure he doesn't take it personally. You're right i cant expect him to stay. also, I don't have to explain this to him because he's from the same background, and he knows all of this, he knows from the start that's why we were doing it in secret | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/24 06:21 PM |
| 2 | how to tell my boyfriend I don't want to have sex with him anymore?when do you have this conversation? over facetime or when he visits? and how to start it? I'm too nervous about the entire situation since i agreed at first and now I'm changing my mind and I'm afraid he might blame me for it | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/24 06:17 PM |
| 2 | how to tell my boyfriend I don't want to have sex with him anymore?yeah I know, once married it's all over. when he visits we go out on dates that he plans, he brings me gifts and celebrates important dates, it's not only about the sex. my family knows about him, they don't know we're having sex though, his family doesn't know about me neither of us have met any of each other's family. he was my first everything, except for the first kiss | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/24 06:15 PM |
| 2 | how to tell my boyfriend I don't want to have sex with him anymore?we do mention marriage, but it's always in the far future and vague, we never talked about in in a serious manner as in "our marriage" it's always when I get married, not when we get married. I know we'll head there eventuellemet if we stay together, but it will take too long and I can't risk having sex for many years until he's ready (30s) | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/24 06:06 PM |
| 5 | Why would a man invest in me if he wasn’t interested in anything long term?i find myself in a similar situation. I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year, and he hadn't even told his patents about me and was a little upset when I told my parents about. I also gave myself a year to give it a chance and see where things would go, but I'm not sure anymore. no advice here, but just know you're brave to end it and I'm excited for you to meet someone who's excited to show you off <3 | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/07/24 03:41 PM |
| 6 | How to ask for boyfriend to be more thoughtful while I go through medical school?no advice, just on the same boat here, a 5th year busy medical student trying to balance my career and my relationship. dm me if you feel like venting <3 | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/07/24 08:57 PM |
| 2 | how to break up respectfully after changing your mind about certain things about your relationship which makes you now incompatible?no, we met before more than once and went on dates and spent time together and he's been nothing but a good boyfriend, always picking me up and driving me home, paying and planning dates, being there for me when I'm sad or stressed. it's the secrecy and misaligned timelines that bother me that's why i feel like I owe him a face to face break up. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/07/24 02:26 PM |
| 0 | how to break up respectfully after changing your mind about certain things about your relationship which makes you now incompatible?I want to hold off at least now since he has a big exam coming up and it's not the best time to do it, but yeah waiting until december is too long. I want to have a conversation with him first and explain how I want different things now, if he agrees to make us public and compromise our timelines then great, if not it's a good opportunity to tell him then we clearly are not compatible. so I don't seem like I'm rushing to end things | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/07/24 01:14 PM |
| 1 | totally different timelines on marriage and it's only bothering me now, how can I proceed?thank you so much this is the first comment that's given me a clear course of action because I know that the situation isn't ideal but what I don't know is how to deal with it. my problem was the fact that I shown him before that I was okay with it as in never questioned him before and just nodded, part of it is my extreme people pleasing tendencies and also me not thinking we'd get to this point in dating back then. now I fear he'd tell me "I told you from the beginning/ you tricked me into thi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/07/24 06:24 PM |
| -4 | totally different timelines on marriage and it's only bothering me now, how can I proceed?his reason is thay he wants to tell them after he's done with his education so they don't give him a hard time about it. i want to to talk to him but first I want his exam season to be over. I still don't know how to bring it up though without sounding desperate for marriage especially since I gave off "cool girl" vibes first because I didn't care back then | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/07/24 10:50 AM |
| 3 | my boyfriend read my personal journal I vent in and I'm afraid my relationship is ruined for good because I said some bad things about him.he didn't think it was so personal at first but when he read the page that was open his curiosity got the best of him and he started reading more I don't care who's wrong and who's right, i just want things to go back to how they were :( | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/07/24 09:38 AM |
| 17 | my boyfriend read my personal journal I vent in and I'm afraid my relationship is ruined for good because I said some bad things about him.that's the exact reason I write, I don't like to diss my boyfriend to anyone, I love him too much to do that I write when I'm angry and when I am I tend to catastrophize and blow things out of proportion so as I said my writings don't reflect my relationship at all. but how can you explain that to someone who read all of that, i can't imagine how hurt he is right now | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/07/24 09:32 AM |
| 4 | How can I make up for n count?you are a virgin by the definition of most men so I wouldn't even count the 2 flings as bodies. as the top comment said, say you fooled around with your ex before but you're still a virgin if asked, if not don't bring the subject up | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/06/24 12:50 PM |
| 2 | how to comfort my man when he failed an important exam? there's a fine line between giving him space and seeming indifferent, what should I do?he still doesn't know what went wrong, he emailed the professor to see what was done wrong and how he can fix it. I make sure to remind him that I'm on his side but right now he's doubting his abilities because he worked so hard and still failed. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/24 03:00 PM |
| 3 | how to comfort my man when he failed an important exam? there's a fine line between giving him space and seeming indifferent, what should I do?2 hours, so maybe you're right. when he asked about my day I thought maybe he wanted to talk so i sent him the meme | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/24 02:51 PM |
| 4 | I changed my stance on marriage in the middle of our relationship, how should I go about this?your assumptions are very on point, I used to be afraid of commitment because I see couples around me who are miserable, and I used to think all relationships are like that but with him, it's so easy and natural, and a commitment to him is not something that scares me, but sometimes that actually excites me now do you have any advice on how to bring up the topic so I can share this with him? | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/05/24 02:40 AM |
| 12 | he became sick after an amazing first date, and keeps canceling on me after making plansI don't know how sarcastic your bio is, but I definitely feel like I shouldn't take relationship advice from someone who thinks men are disgusting | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/23 02:39 PM |
| 5 | he became sick after an amazing first date, and keeps canceling on me after making plansthat's what I'm afraid of too, I want to be understanding and kind and it's the most natural thing to do for me but I'm afraid he sees it as me having no self respect or boundaries instead of me really liking him. he got injured and the injury was more serious than he thought it would be, he went to the ER and had to go to the hospital again once more so I'm not doubting the credibility of his excuse. I find myself wanting to keep some distance to protect my feelings, but I also don't want to se… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/23 02:35 PM |
| 3 | he became sick after an amazing first date, and keeps canceling on me after making plansI'll wait until he's healthy again and see how he acts, then I'll decide what to do according to that bcause I feel it would be too insensitive of me to go out on dates while he's sick you know. and you're right, I think I'm a little desperate and I should fix that thank you for your advice <3 | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/23 02:04 PM |
| 6 | he became sick after an amazing first date, and keeps canceling on me after making plansI wouldn't really call him unreliable, that sounds a little too harsh because his health issues are out of his control. do you think I should date other people even if he's not doing that? | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/23 01:58 PM |
| 6 | he became sick after an amazing first date, and keeps canceling on me after making plansI feel it might be wrong because even though we never discussed exclusivity, I'm quite certain that he's not seeing other | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/23 01:02 PM |
| 13 | he became sick after an amazing first date, and keeps canceling on me after making plansthat's what I want to do, because if it works out, it will show him how much I liked him and cared for him even in the early stages. and if it doesn't, well then I'm still young and I'll get over it and I can at least say that I did what I thought to be the right thing. I'll expect nothing but hope for the best and see how things go thank you for your comment <3 | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/23 01:00 PM |
| -4 | he wants to take a break from social media, that's our main mean of communicationit's because he lives in another county for now, so I can't call him on his phone number but we use other social media platforms to keep in contact | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/10/23 04:40 PM |
| 7 | whenever I tell someone about a guy I'm seeing everything goes wrong all of sudden, helpthe list is incredibly spot on, I have tons of journals and spreadsheets filled with schedules because they make me feel more in control, I find myself not doing things because I won't do them perfectly so why bother at all, I get irritated when I tell something to help me with something and it isn't exactly the way I would've done it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/10/23 06:02 PM |
| 1 | whenever I tell someone about a guy I'm seeing everything goes wrong all of sudden, helpit's crazy because I don't think or believe it's an evil eye because my friends and family only want the best for me, I can't find a logical explanation for this | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/10/23 05:39 PM |
| 5 | whenever I tell someone about a guy I'm seeing everything goes wrong all of sudden, helpnot really, I get really upset when something doesn't go out as planned/ my way, and I hate when my things are touched, but I think everyone is like to some extent and not really ocd symptoms | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/10/23 03:18 PM |
| 110 | Fearing reaction from my mom after telling her that my boyfriend is ArabI'm arab as well and I just want to draw your attention to somethings you should consider when getting to know him, most arab men living in the US or european countries are not very religious but when it comes to marriage they won't marry someone who's not muslim, so be careful and don't let him lead you on. I don't know the guy personally and he might be an amazing person but I just wanted to warn you take care <3 | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/09/23 08:31 PM |
| 6 | how to not get attached in the early stages of dating?I don't want to come off as clingy and scare him off, I'm pretty chill when around him, I show him that I like him of course but I never say to which extent. also it's kind of annoying at this point, to myself, I have so much feelings and they overwhelm me and I can't even share them with him | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/09/23 09:06 AM |
| 12 | best friend set me up with a guy and now is angry that I'm dating other people along the side even though I informed her beforehandI'm waiting till marriage so I'm not sleeping with anyone | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/23 03:06 PM |
| 1 | best friend set me up with a guy and now is angry that I'm dating other people along the side even though I informed her beforehandyou're right, it's a tricky situation, and I'm already going to talk with guy A and excuse myself because it gets more serious/ complicated | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/23 10:39 AM |
| 0 | best friend set me up with a guy and now is angry that I'm dating other people along the side even though I informed her beforehandI usually don't do that, but I met both of them at the same period of time when I wasn't actively looking for a relationship, and it just happened, and I feel like it's too early ( 1 week) to owe them exclusivity but I am looking for a serious relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/23 10:27 AM |
| 6 | best friend set me up with a guy and now is angry that I'm dating other people along the side even though I informed her beforehandshe likes guy A so much because he's good friends with her boyfriend and really thinks he's a good match to me and I agreed to start seeing him because I trusted her judgment and I told her beforehand that I'm seeing other people so she doesn't get the wrong idea. I want to see how things go with him, but I feel it's too early to be exclusive to him just yet. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/23 10:26 AM |
| -8 | best friend set me up with a guy and now is angry that I'm dating other people along the side even though I informed her beforehandthe thing is, it's been the first date with both of them, I met both of them at the same period of time which was not so long ago (literally a week) so it's not that deep (and I might be wrong of course). I wasn't planning on continuing this past the second date. and to be honest, if a guy I met a week ago had other options, I wouldn't take it personally or react badly. but I see how it can lead to a bad situation if I don't put an end to this soon and you're right, so thank you for your insight… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/23 10:20 AM |
| 3 | Is it okay for a guy you're dating to tell you not to go out?We are not engaged, been together for almost 2 months, he proposed but I said it was too early and that I want to get to know him better though | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/07/23 08:53 AM |
| 8 | Is it okay for a guy you're dating to tell you not to go out?It was about grabbing a cup of coffee with my friends, i don't drink or club or have one night stands or anything that would make him not want me or trust me to go out | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/07/23 07:10 AM |
| 24 | What's Something You Respect About Your Man?He once told me "I don't find it tiresome when I take care of people I love" when he was driving 6 hours daily to visit his sister in a hospital that's in a different city while working full time and meeting me weekly. Since then I feel a deep sense of respect and safety when it comes to him <3 | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/08/22 09:32 AM |
| 1 | how to make sure I don't get consumed by medical school as a woman that has dreams of getting married and settling down ?I checked your post and I noticed that med school timeline in your country is very similar in mine. Are you from france by any chance? | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/22 08:43 PM |
| 1 | how to make sure I don't get consumed by medical school as a woman that has dreams of getting married and settling down ?I actually enjoy my medical career and don't feel like changing it, nurses get paid way less where I live. Also ego isn't that big ofva problem since I've never had pride in pursuing a medical career, it's just a field that's I'm truly passionate about. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/04/22 11:05 PM |
| 1 | how to make sure I don't get consumed by medical school as a woman that has dreams of getting married and settling down ?Thank you so much for your insight, the way you talk fondly about your wife is very heartwarming. I do actually enjoy doing chores and cooking, and I do want things a certain way and I in no way see that housework makes me inferior, I got over that idea years ago since I was an angry teen hahaha | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/04/22 11:02 PM |
| 1 | Is being in the medical field an obstacle to a healthy love life ?Thank you do much! I'm 20 and I certainly will need the blunt advice | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/02/22 09:12 PM |
| 8 | Is being in the medical field an obstacle to a healthy love life ?College is free in my country so no debt, at least I don't have that to worry about | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/02/22 05:18 PM |
| 1 | What are some good first steps for someone who just discovered TRP and wants to apply the principles to their daily life and dating?Thank you for the recommendation! I will certainly read it | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/02/22 04:59 PM |
| 2 | Is being in the medical field an obstacle to a healthy love life ?Thank you so much for taking the time to write this! This certainly made me feel way better about my situation. I was fed the idea that successful women end up alone or settling for less by my family since I was a kid so it made me a little insecure. But what you stated proves that it'd not always the case | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/02/22 04:58 PM |
| 2 | Is being in the medical field an obstacle to a healthy love life ?Thank you for taking the time to reply! I totally get where you're coming from I am do not care about the speciality as long as it's not preventive medicine because I really cant stand it lol but I'm thinking about anesthesiology, it's less demanding | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/02/22 02:59 PM |
| 1 | Is being in the medical field an obstacle to a healthy love life ?It really depends on the specialty, I'm not interested in surgery so I can dress up and just wear a lab coat on top. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/02/22 02:57 PM |
| 1 | Is being in the medical field an obstacle to a healthy love life ?I do realize that and I'm trying to work on myself and be multidimensional and have other things to bring to the table other than money, I'm working on my emotional intelligence, I'm learning and practicing baking and cooking and I'm also trying to get more into my feminine energy and saving for renewing my wardrobe with more feminine items like dresses ans skirts and I only hope that this is good enough | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/02/22 02:53 PM |
| 4 | Is being in the medical field an obstacle to a healthy love life ?I have a thing for military guys and I noticed that most of them are more ready to settle down than other people their age, I went on my fair share of dates with them and even though we didn't work out I had mad respect for them | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/02/22 02:39 PM |
| 10 | Is being in the medical field an obstacle to a healthy love life ?I am thinking of joining the military while studying then working in a military hospital because they take in consideration you being a female and give longer maternity leaves, more suitable work hours when you decide to get married and when it comes to residency they make sure you work in the nearest hospital to your home if you're married and it also means starting getting paid at 22 not at 24 when you're an intern. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/02/22 02:26 PM |
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