TheRedArchive

~ archived since 2018 ~

pohw Archive

View 4 posts and 85 comments by pohw on TheRedPill subreddit and various other subreddits related to The Red Pill community.
Search in:
In subreddits:
More
Filter by year/month:
Upvotes Comment on Subreddit Date (UTC)
2

Semen retention (or, further, pure brahmacharya) combined with lots of meditation is the holy grail of bliss cultivation. For me, meditation outside isn't as ideal at it sounds. Bugs are distracting and it's more difficult to get really concentrated because the instinctive mind is still on the lookout for danger, but YMMV. Yeah, 1 hour twice a day. I struggle greatly with semen retention streaks lasting more than 5-7 days. I can practice karezza (sex without orgasm) to good effect for about that…
/r/TheRedPill19/02/18 12:59 AM
1

Yeah, at first it's not natural at all and can even feel mean. It's not.
/r/TheRedPill17/02/18 12:42 AM
3

It's not the girl that is special. It is your ability to nurture and cultivate good qualities in people that is. That's what frame does. You come to the table with tremendous value and you demand tremendous value in return, and you ration your value based on your return on investment. If you don't want a woman in your life, there is always mgtow.
/r/TheRedPill16/02/18 11:16 PM
1

When you like yourself more than you like anyone else, you often forget that other people exist, including females. What does a girl truly want, a guy who thinks about her constantly or a guy who forgets she exists?
/r/TheRedPill16/02/18 11:13 PM
3

If you're in that category, IRL game is going to be your send, especially day game. Moving forward, I will only ever use day game in the future to meet girls.
/r/TheRedPill16/02/18 03:26 PM
8

It's similar to the gym. You have to exert a certain degree of effort, consistently enough, to see results. Probably a minimum of 15-20 minutes per day every day. I meditate for 2 hours daily currently because I'm exploring Samadhi, the Jhanas, and Nirāmisa Sukha as probably my primary project in life at the moment. The net results are an expansive bliss and clarity that is life-changing.
/r/TheRedPill16/02/18 03:05 PM
2

"Cold" was a little vague. Think strategic attention withdrawal, not active malevolence or anything.
/r/TheRedPill16/02/18 03:02 PM
2

http://www.buddhanet.net/pdf_file/noble8path6.pdf
/r/TheRedPill16/02/18 11:50 AM
6

Two years, you'll be living trp on hard mode. Very interesting. I'll definitely plant a flag here.
/r/TheRedPill16/02/18 07:12 AM
10

Thanks man. I tend to ditch accounts every once and a while. I also felt more committed to the sub than my interest level could maintain. I wonder what TRP principles are, in actuality. I think that philosophically "TRP" is simply any sociological thinking in which gynocentrism and progressivism are absent. It's not like TRP is some new philosophy, just a lens of seeing the world clearly. That's how I see Buddhism, ultimately: It's a way of seeing the world without the delusions of attachment, g…
/r/TheRedPill16/02/18 04:05 AM
1

It's a battle between you and the next guy, not her, but yeah. Self-improvement is good. It's not a sufficient sexual strategy.
/r/TheRedPill03/01/18 03:16 AM
1

You failed to claim, let alone prove, that the self-improvement you described is a sufficient sexual strategy.
/r/TheRedPill03/01/18 03:09 AM
1

You can get plenty of women with neither power nor money.
/r/TheRedPill03/01/18 02:53 AM
1

I can only speak for my own experience. I used to have anxiety about women and now I don't at all. Being in the top 10 percent but still being riddled with anxiety is sort of an oxymoron--the 10 percent category is sort of reserved for people who don't have anxiety. Semantics, I guess.
/r/TheRedPill03/01/18 01:19 AM
1

I think that you are onto something good. I do think that anxiety which prompts the right sort of growth and development does lead to a state with less anxiety, though. I guess you can be anxiety free one of two ways: through stupidity (criminals) or through practice.
/r/TheRedPill03/01/18 12:41 AM
1

https://commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/File:Graham%27s_Hierarchy_of_Disagreement.svg
/r/TheRedPill02/01/18 10:39 PM
1

For every entitled feminist bitch in the world there are a handful of women who have been abused and chronically mistreated and just want a decent guy to treat her like a fucking human being. Making women uncomfortable per se isn't a cogent or productive way to improve society. There is a vast spectrum of behavior coming from both sexes and the idea that the model that represents reality is "women are acting baad and men need to stand up for themselves!" is worse than simplistic: it's not even m…
/r/TheRedPill02/01/18 10:22 PM
1

I live with my girlfriend but would never give her expensive gifts. To each his own!
/r/TheRedPill02/01/18 01:57 PM
194

The best way, IMO, to make the penis not the master but the servant, is to discover forms of pleasure that are greater than sex. Those pleasures, then, become your daily bread and butter, with regular sex as a secondary, supplementary, but important side-dish. These higher pleasures I speak of might include meditation, exercise, hobbies, travel, philosophy, etc.
/r/TheRedPill02/01/18 05:25 AM
3

"Exploitable" has connotations that involve you benefiting at her expense, so I soft disagree with you there.
/r/TheRedPill01/01/18 07:26 AM
-3

numerous amounts of issues and drawbacks These are usually the best girls, IMO. Don't be hard on yourself about it.
/r/TheRedPill01/01/18 07:21 AM
2

It doesn't matter. What matters is who she is fucking. Women have backup options, men have backup options (you should have a handful), and there's nothing wrong with keeping them around. Women love attention--let her get her attention. Also, this is indirect pussy pedestal. Did you think you were going to find a perfect angel for a girlfriend? You want a girl to fit your beta fantasies about loyalty and pure submissiveness. Change your expectations to reflect reality.
/r/TheRedPill20/11/17 12:52 PM
8

I really liked this. You should keep writing. Imagination is underrated. It's advisable and beneficial to take an inventory of the big, scary, seemingly impossible things that one wants and then plan, working backwards, a plausible and realistic way to achieve those things. Such a large majority of people today would not choose the life they live, but they do not take drastic steps to change that fact; it's puzzling.
/r/TheRedPill19/11/17 07:55 PM
1

Your comment inspired my recent post entitled "Stages of red pill metabolism."
/r/TheRedPill19/11/17 02:22 PM
3

There are two possible distinct and mutually exclusive mental states that may occur in the mind of someone immediately prior to their writing a comment here. I think I might have something to add here, something that helped me in the past, that would have been nice if someone had verbalized to me at some point so I didn't have to learn it the hard way 3 times over. I feel really smart since discovering what this community was 3 weeks ago and now it's time to go to battle with the big boys to tes…
/r/TheRedPill15/11/17 08:17 PM
4

I did a 10-day under S.N. Goenka and afterwards spoke to my roommate at the retreat, a navy veteran and father of 6 who said, "This was by far the most difficult thing I've ever done in my life."
/r/TheRedPill14/11/17 06:49 PM
1

Why does any person reading TRP think that anyone on TRP is making women to focus of their life? Why the fuck does this "don't make them the focus of your life" sentiment get thrown around so much? Literally no one is ever saying that women should be the goddamn focus of your life.
/r/TheRedPill13/11/17 06:44 AM
1

The only problem with this advice is that too many people react emotionally and get upset at their children. Also, you can't just abandon / permaignore your child like you can another adult. Instead, try: Treat people well so they'll be prompted to treat you well back When person you've treated well fails to treat you well back, distance yourself from them, incentivizing them to treat you well by illustrating to them that they will lose you if they don't change their behavior If they still don't…
/r/TheRedPill13/11/17 06:27 AM
38

Exactly the opposite kind of advice that western culture needs right now.
/r/TheRedPill12/11/17 04:32 PM
1

I feel like mods stopped enforcing this. A while back they said they'd ban anyone who even responded to these sorts of posts.
/r/TheRedPill12/11/17 04:28 PM
1

This is indirect pussy pedestal by assuming that other, better girls are out there that will be Loyal™ and have Class™ and Dignity™. Heartbreak is a risk of long term emotional and sexual intimacy but, in my experience with many LTRs, it's worth it. An LTR based on scarcity is not present when the male is regularly declining advances from females.
/r/TheRedPill10/11/17 06:44 AM
1

Well a lot of that is true. You seem to be stating, effectively, that "you might lose because she might go after someone else more alpha than you," but I don't see any other way to proceed. Lock her in a cage? Men and women will always have the option to upgrade or have affairs. Still, the rules of the game are set and there's plenty of abundance to be had despite the risks that you'll lose sometimes.
/r/TheRedPill10/11/17 05:52 AM
1

Go out and meet real women. Many of them choose careers they're interested in, move to places they want to experience, and choose to date who they're attracted to.
/r/TheRedPill09/11/17 05:49 PM
1

Yes. They're oppressed by themselves, by being carelessly woo'd into the service of governments via taxes and corporations via a 40 hour work week. They need to kill their oppressors--their stupidity, by reigniting their spark of self-determination and rationality. Also, stop spamming this sub.
/r/TheRedPill09/11/17 04:51 PM
1

This post is indirect pussy-pedestal. You're over-estimating her power over him and the value of his alternatives in the sexual marketplace.
/r/TheRedPill09/11/17 03:05 AM
1

If your lifestyle was afforded to you by doing work that you enjoy, I am proud of you. If you labored in a soul-crushing career to obtain the wealth to finance those vehicles, etc., then I don't. I think this is an important part of the story: Spending money that you happen to have because you've done well at the things you enjoy versus slaving away so that you can afford luxury items. I bought a $3 Hello Kitty watch today because I needed a timer for my running routine and I don't own a phone--…
/r/TheRedPill08/11/17 07:00 PM
1

I did it once, after a calculated decision that there was salvageable and difficult(if not tiresome)-to-replace value remaining in the relationship. I'm glad I did--she's cleaning my apartment right now in a pair of I <3 NYC booty shorts as we speak.
/r/TheRedPill08/11/17 04:02 PM
1

Dump is a good move if he's positive he actually wants a solid, committed, exclusive LTR. If under 30 (years or n-count), I'd reconsider that route. Demotion to plate is viable but she shouldn't know, nor should she know he's even bothered by her behavior. Retaining her as LTR is possible if he really likes her (maybe she has amazing boobs or something), but large doses of well-executed dread game will be necessary to achieve this. Again, she can't know he's fazed by her behavior.
/r/TheRedPill08/11/17 03:44 PM
1

Girls wanting guys to look good is mostly a status thing I can see an argument for this. girls wouldn’t be able to feel/get into the sex with hot/fit guys This seems to radically contradict many years personal experience. How else do you explain the phenomenon of sexual eagerness on the account of women? Status? I don't have any status--so it'd be hard for me to accept that I am wanted for that. Are you intentionally using the word "wouldn't?" Why are you postulating using words usually associat…
/r/TheRedPill08/11/17 02:01 PM
1

Are you suggesting that women do not respond to cues like fit, handsome, well-dressed, tall and are equally attracted to fat, short, unkempt slobs-looking men? I don't follow.
/r/TheRedPill08/11/17 01:45 PM
1

I don't follow. A community discussing, to be crude, "how to get women" is going to attract people who actually like the thing they're trying to get.
/r/TheRedPill08/11/17 01:44 PM
1

I disagree that women are asexual or don't have sexuality but agreed that the sexual component of women revolves more around the emotional attachment and resource-stability than the mere physical act of fucking.
/r/TheRedPill08/11/17 01:34 PM
1

I don't know what "physically attached" means. Are you suggesting that women do not become emotionally attached due to sex? Also, are you suggesting that the value of sex only lies in the fact that an attachment to a man arises as a result of it? Sex and emotional attachment are of course two different things--most people would claim the latter is a common but not universal result of the former. What little physical attachment girls may have for guys is completely overshadowed by their emotional…
/r/TheRedPill08/11/17 01:28 PM
1

Using the word narcissist to describe someone who is rationally self-interested and navigates life in a way calculated to maximize his well-being is in my view problematic because it then creates the need for an additional word to describe actual narcissists who have legitimate psychological problems which lead to behavior not actually suited to their overall interest--see Patrick Bateman, etc. I vote to relegate the word to it's proper use, which is to describe a state of being exhibiting undes…
/r/TheRedPill08/11/17 01:21 PM
1

I'm confused why you mentioned the way that girls in porn feel. The experience of having sex as part of a porn set is likely to be different from the experience of having sex with your significant other. Can you clarify what you mean when you state that women don't have sexuality? How do you explain female sexual arousal and the willingness of many women to have no-string-attached sex with males they perceive as having attractive physical features and behavior? I think your point about female po…
/r/TheRedPill08/11/17 01:11 PM
1

Maybe.. This is an example of what I'm talking about. Watch his behavior. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MBGI5SAhvHA
/r/TheRedPill08/11/17 10:59 AM
2

Try the celibacy subreddit.
/r/TheRedPill08/11/17 06:59 AM
2

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vasectomy
/r/TheRedPill08/11/17 06:56 AM
1

I'm going to try to help you out. There's a world of difference between 1. How women treat beta males in the context of a marriage and 2. How women treat alpha males outside of the context of a marriage and family life. You seem to be confusing the two.
/r/TheRedPill08/11/17 06:53 AM
8

My grandfather purchased two now-highly-desirable plots of land when he was young and built cabins on them, two estates that I now share with my extended family. I'm not religious but when we pray over meals at these cabins on holiday or whatnot an enormous degree of gratitude is expressed for the foresight that he had and the seemingly infinite memories and experiences we've enjoyed as a result of him leaving us with these fantastic places to get away and enjoy one another's company. Maybe the …
/r/TheRedPill08/11/17 06:28 AM
1

I'm in the women are wonderful camp--best of luck to you though.
/r/TheRedPill08/11/17 06:17 AM
1

Your attempt to control other people will have an effect opposite of the one you intend to achieve.
/r/TheRedPill08/11/17 06:10 AM
183

A thought experiment I've utilized in the past was to visualize that I have died of a terminal illness, that my family has mourned and more or less gotten over it and moved on with their lives, and then suddenly I've come back to life and can continue going on living albeit with zero contact whatever with my family or past friends. They don't know I've returned. The question then becomes, now what? What am I going to do with this 2nd chance at life with none of my prior situational connotations?
/r/TheRedPill07/11/17 05:49 PM
1

Insult-tantrum conclusively demonstrates intellectual bankruptcy; I'm not a superhero with a mission to save the world, guilty.
/r/TheRedPill07/11/17 05:18 PM
1

Same. Something really weird and bad happened to him a while though--not sure what--but his energy was thrown off for a good while. Not sure what he's up to now.
/r/TheRedPill07/11/17 03:54 PM
1

Please moderate this embarrassing illusion that you have a mission in life. No one has a mission in life. This is you projecting the James Bond style concept of life purpose onto a reality that doesn't cater to it at all. Have some hobbies and projects, maybe a "passion." But I'm going to roll your eyes at your mission unless you're actually in the running to be the first man on Mars or something.
/r/TheRedPill07/11/17 02:24 PM
1

Thesis unclear, sloppy analysis. "Society" isn't a thing. Nearly all cultures have traditional cultural infrastructure resulting from the fact that women are physically weaker and have higher reproductive value physiologically. Many of this infrastructure still exists and, while slowly becoming obsolete, continues to provide order in an otherwise chaotic cultural climate. If you father a children you may be required to pay for it. This seems valid to me. If you don't want kids, simply adopt some…
/r/TheRedPill07/11/17 01:36 PM
1

I would advise a girl to leave a relationship in which she's not allowed to go on vacations with her friends. If you don't like her behavior, fine--end the relationship. But telling her she's not allowed to go on a trip, or you'll break up with her, is sad.
/r/TheRedPill07/11/17 10:30 AM
1

One of my favorite pieces of fitness advice was from Elliott Hulse when he recommended that overweight people "go for a 5 minute walk." He described how huge ambitious goals aren't needed or helpful. Just start small, tangible, and gradually get the ball of self-improvement rolling. Small victories to create a new addiction to accomplishment.
/r/TheRedPill07/11/17 10:25 AM
1

I have no idea what the difference between those two things are. People seek validation to feel loved or acknowledged. I don't know what it looks like to "seek validation just for a girl."
/r/TheRedPill06/11/17 10:35 PM
1

I'm talking about relying on external validation for happiness. It's not clear what you're referring to. If you're talking about some dude desperately watching to see how many females will like his new profile picture on Facebook, you're right and everyone here agrees with you--it's a superficial truism. Are you talking about someone who makes himself look good, goes out and learns game, and is successful in finding companionship? If so, it's unclear to me how that is "pathetic."
/r/TheRedPill06/11/17 01:11 PM
1

If you want your girl to not go clubbing, you choose to date a girl who doesn't want to go clubbing. You don't try to prevent her from going clubbing, because then you just have a girl who wants to go clubbing and will express whatever innate desire is fueling that in some other outlet except now she resents you because you're a controlling beta with insecurities about where she spends her time.
/r/TheRedPill06/11/17 11:59 AM
1

Want vs need, rely vs enjoy is a distinction without a difference. You're saying you shouldn't "need women" or "rely on validation" and basically we don't fundamentally disagree except that you're leaning in a certain direction and I'm straddling between the extremes. I both seek, receive, and enjoy female validation. I like to look good and interact playfully with the opposite sex. The validation is enjoyable. To suggest this is an instance of needing or relying is to create a straw man. You mu…
/r/TheRedPill06/11/17 11:37 AM
1

Interaction with the opposite sex should comprise 15 to 30 percent of your happiness, somewhere in between "I don't need women at all" to "I must have a woman." The same goes for validation. Relying too much on validation is bad. Pretending that it doesn't matter at all too radically contradicts the reproductive biological imperative and would only be something someone with a very low SMV would do anyway.
/r/TheRedPill06/11/17 10:14 AM
1

Female nature isn't simple; only a minority of men will profit nicely in the sexual marketplace without learning some abstract and initially difficult-to-understand concepts.
/r/TheRedPill06/11/17 07:24 AM
5

I strongly recommend not delving into a woman's past to assess her fitness as a sexual and romantic partner but to instead observe her behavior in the present. Too many women fall too far outside of the behavior patterns you'd expect given their pasts for their pasts to be a reliable predictor of behavior, in my experience. Just spend time with someone you like and gradually increase the trust and depth of your relationship with her, while watching--as you would in any relationship--to ensure th…
/r/TheRedPill06/11/17 07:13 AM
1

It brings to light that not everything is rainbows and sunshine. Everything is rainbows and sunshine to the degree that you come to understand the world and learn the skill sets necessary to maximize the beneficial nature of your relationships.
/r/TheRedPill06/11/17 07:08 AM
1

weight lifter, hill runner Any guidance on which activity promotes a more desirable blend of neurophysiological phenomena? Trail-running and body-weight-fitness exercises currently compete for my time and energy and I've struggled to identify which activity promotes better effects.
/r/TheRedPill05/11/17 06:28 PM
1

There are subtle but important distinctions between a monetary investment and a relationship investment. If a monetary one goes bad, it was never at any point "worth it," whereas if a relationship is good for 2 years and then she gets cunty and you drop her, you could still claim that it was worth seeing her during the 2 years that it was good. That said, I agree that "we both still don't know" is a wise way to describe the situation. Many MGTOW seem to believe that all relationships are bad. Ma…
/r/MGTOW29/10/17 08:01 AM
0

Valid concern with respect to birth control. We practice two forms and she'd get an abortion if she got pregnant. Risks? Yes. So risky I should never have sex? Not so sure.
/r/MGTOW29/10/17 07:47 AM
1

My post only addresses the segment within MGTOW which seems to believe categorically that relationships with women are unprofitable to men.
/r/MGTOW29/10/17 07:44 AM
1

That relationships with women are categorically bad seems to me a pretty popular belief of MGTOW, though not universally held. It seems we agree that it requires extra skill or effort to make relationships worth the investment. The philosophy that men cannot have beneficial romantic relationships with women would seem to limit a man by, well, preventing him from having those relationships. If you claim that relationships can be had that are of net value to men, then it's almost a logical necessi…
/r/MGTOW29/10/17 07:43 AM
2

Valid concern; birth control is important.
/r/MGTOW29/10/17 07:31 AM
0

You'll come crying back to us when she inevitably destroys your life in one way or another. It would give ammo to your narrative, yes. But the suggestion that most relationships or instances of cohabitation result in the man's life being "destroyed" can't possibly be defended. My life will be destroyed because I lived with a girl? This is conspiracy-theory-slinging type thinking that is immune to reason because it's so heavily ideologically motivated.
/r/MGTOW29/10/17 07:29 AM
1

There isn't any possibility that I will get married. She doesn't want to, either.
/r/MGTOW29/10/17 07:27 AM
1

Excellent advice.
/r/MGTOW29/10/17 07:23 AM
1

and your relationship doesn’t deny the validity of MGTOW I think that my relationship denies the strain of thought that relationships with women are categorically undesirable and unprofitable to men. I see MGTOW as a handy escape hatch that every man should become acquainted with so that he's well-situated legally and psychologically to, when necessary, say to himself, "Yeah I'm done with this bullshit." In this way MGTOW is of great benefit to men. To the degree that it holds a sort of ideologi…
/r/MGTOW29/10/17 07:21 AM
2

First, is it possible you're confusing real hatred, with mocking and shit posting? Good point. Wherever there is sensitivity and eager outrage, I too am amused by and interested in mocking and shitposting. Tear down all the sacred, cows, etc. Maybe I don't view women as a sacred cow to mock anymore because I went through a MGTOW phase. Also, I don't know that feminism is a sacred cow. Most women aren't feminists and seem to recoil at the term. Maybe the MGTOW phase is necessary to reduce women f…
/r/MGTOW29/10/17 07:16 AM
1

You don't need us to validate it lol Touche! This is my first time living with a woman so I'm in exploration mode, really. That's probably why I'm curious to hear what guys here have to say.
/r/MGTOW29/10/17 07:12 AM
0

Good reply. You claim that my cost/benefit perspective is flawed based on that I wouldn't necessarily hire a hooker constantly or have someone clean for me. True. I wouldn't do either of those things ever, actually; I enjoy cooking and cleaning and I can get casual sex reliably. The real cost here is food, which my current running average is about $5 per day per person. $150 being a tiny fraction of my monthly expenses, my immediate summation of the situation is that it's clearly worth it, espec…
/r/MGTOW29/10/17 07:10 AM
1

If true, what you've described represents an actual risk: living with a girl, the law changing, and suddenly you're married and have legal and financial obligations as a result. To gauge the seriousness of this risk I'd want to know how often that has happened in proportion to how many men have lived with females, unmarried, and not faced such consequences. I would imagine that the chances are astronomically low as changes to a state's status from no common law to common law is probably not freq…
/r/MGTOW29/10/17 07:02 AM
3

After years of exposure to MGTOW content I think you're the first I've seen to deny that many men rape women. There is a large body of information arising from police reports and subsequent forensic investigation that many women are forcibly raped. It's also certain that a large number of rapes go unreported. I'm not sure how else to address this question. The greatest benefit you get from a woman is being nagged to death. Can't tell what you're actually claiming. For every one time I am nagged …
/r/MGTOW29/10/17 06:57 AM
3

False rape accusations should be harshly prosecuted, yes.
/r/MGTOW29/10/17 06:51 AM
1

I won't ever marry her and I won't ever live with a female in a state or country in which common law marriage exists.
/r/MGTOW29/10/17 06:44 AM
-1

I see this as a highly grey issue. Many women accuse men falsely of rape. Many men rape women. It sucks. Ultimately, I'd probably have to be convinced that the risk of my girlfriend falsely accusing me of rape is large enough that my best course of action would be to remain celibate. This feels like suggesting that one shouldn't drive because of the risk of getting in an accident. I'm simply going to keep driving, because the rewards seem greater than the risk. But perhaps the analogy is statist…
/r/MGTOW29/10/17 06:40 AM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

© TheRedArchive 2026. All rights reserved.
created by /u/dream-hunter