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0	They all lie, trust your gut. No unicorns. Maybe we aren’t, but you are when you say that “They all lie”. Thats not a fact, that’s something you are saying to justify and make sense of what happened, and that is likely overcompensating because you’re upset that SHE lied to you. I get it, it’s important to know that there are deceitful people out there, that not everyone is to be trusted or is perfect, whatever. This is a growing moment to go through. But the easy way (blue pill) for your mind to rationalize and feel better and make sense…	/r/TheRedPill	29/07/26 09:27 PM
5	They all lie, trust your gut. No unicorns. Just cause you got played doesn’t mean all women lie. I miss when red pill was more about improving yourself as a man and realizing how to make your life better by realizing the differences between masculine and feminine traits, rather than shitting on all women.	/r/TheRedPill	28/07/26 10:03 PM
8	What about men appeals to women the way a woman’s body appeals to a man? Isn’t that just “energy” and “lack of insecurity”? Also, whatever energy you’re bringing by being entering the conversation with an abrupt rejection is definitely the opposite of what women want.	/r/seduction	02/07/26 09:38 PM
1	I hear a lot of people spreading the idea that a lot of men are MISSING opportunities with women by not approaching. The reality is they aren't It is that easy. You just have to be okay with rejection.	/r/seduction	10/05/26 09:27 PM
8	I hear a lot of people spreading the idea that a lot of men are MISSING opportunities with women by not approaching. The reality is they aren't I’m pretty average and I cold approached all of my girlfriends. It’s actually what set me apart, I did terrible on the apps. But I can chat a bit and I’m not afraid of putting myself out there to fail. Honestly it doesn’t feel terrible, it’s pretty easy to just play it off as idle chit chat and not ask for the number or flirt heavy if it’s not going well. A lot of times they would say something about their boyfriend or husband or whatever and I’d just ignore it and continue chatting about whatev…	/r/seduction	08/05/26 06:49 PM
2	Is it normal for wives to resent their career beta husbands? If she didn’t resent you there wouldn’t be anything to fix. You decide whether it’s worth fixing though.	/r/askMRP	14/04/26 05:27 AM
6	Anti-seduction. Letting her down easy with "unattractive behavior" without destroying the friendship The answer is that you don’t. We’re not here to be your sociopathic help line. Deal with your relationships like a man, not a coward. I’d wager there’s some social benefit you’re unwilling to give up even though you don’t like her, like a network into her social class, or her dad works at a company you wanna work for, or her best friend is hotter and who you really want to go after without guilt. If there is, then you’re a manipulative douche. Stop it. If there isn’t, then you’re just a coward. …	/r/seduction	06/04/26 06:39 PM
0	How the fuck are meant to meet women if you don't like socialising? lol you have friends to play games with, you like socializing, you just hate the emotions and effort around meeting new people. Anyways the answer is that YOU aren’t meant to meet women, and you and others like you removing yourself from the pool helps normalize the dating ratio for those that have the drive to overcome the negative voices in their head anytime something isn’t effortlessly rewarding.	/r/seduction	05/04/26 07:32 PM
1	Do you guys go through your girl’s phone? If then how? If you feel the need just leave bro	/r/seduction	19/03/26 06:12 PM
26	Is there a way to make dating fair for men ethically - without reducing the rights of women, or challenging the autonomy of others? Dating is fair right now. Fair is about the autonomy of all participants to pursue and/or reject a potential relationship. It’s just not equitable. An unfair dating environment would be forced/arranged marriages where the participants do not get a say, or where one of the participants has been groomed from a young age to give up their autonomy and accept an imbalance of power.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/03/26 05:41 PM
11	Is there a way to make dating fair for men ethically - without reducing the rights of women, or challenging the autonomy of others? As an older dude, it may seem like a blessing when you are young and desperate, but being a player is not a blessing. Being incapable of attaining any attraction from the opposite sex is kind of a curse, but needing a rotation of pussy and being willing to treat others badly or focus on it to the detriment of the other categories in life to fill a void of insecurity is not a blessing.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/03/26 05:39 PM
1	Why are yall downvoting women saying they love their husbands? This is purple pill debate, not purple pill be nice to each other. I really think the core hive mind of this sub is chronically online, red/blue pill brained, and can’t really conceive of a truly “happy” relationship, since they often think so little of the opposite sex. I think for them, a “happy” relationship is one of two scenarios: where both partners are never truly happy and each cynically sacrifice part of their own humanity as a man/woman to fulfill societal standards of what a happy rel…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/03/26 06:56 PM
1	CMV: “Join Hobbies” and “Expand Your Social Circle” Are very low-ROI Dating Strategies for Most Average Men Well they should be your hobbies, not your hunting grounds. For yoga, I went with some friends to yoga, I always was professional and kind and not weird, just chit chat when you are leaving/putting on your shoes about the class, like “omg I’m so sore but the savasana feels so good after a stressful work day” and they might just nod or go uh huh, or they might continue the convo, like “yeah I know what you mean, I had a crazy day” where you can follow up with asking what they do for work. The soc…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/02/26 11:32 PM
0	Asking women out is a brutal process Being assertive, outgoing and honest is attractive too. You don’t have to looksmax to meet people and form connections, you just have to perform basic hygiene, dress smartly, start a conversation and see if there is any chemistry. There’s no fake persona needed either, there’s a reason the word skills is part of the phrase social skills. But it’s okay, in the end it’s just about forming a connection, so people like you can be looksmaxxing so that you don’t need to have social skills to create th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/01/26 10:31 PM
11	Asking women out is a brutal process It’s actually really easy if you can just turn off your feelings, and accept rejection. If you’ve ever done shit like cold calling or door to door sales, you realize that success is by continuously putting yourself out there, so that the right person might respond or find you, and that it’s okay that most aren’t the right fit. And you’ll be surprised that some women think it’s endearing and brave of you to be approached and it might just push you over the line.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/01/26 02:13 PM
3	20+ Hinge dates , 0 second dates [ SF ] Definitely a white guy asian girl yellow fever thing. It’s a Bay Area trope.	/r/seduction	29/12/25 05:56 AM
1	Men have standards by default and criticize women for doing same thing I would say that in general, both the men and women here who post this crap are likely insufferable victims who are experts at pointing out inequities between gender behavior that affects them, but amateurs at the kind of personal and social interactions that would greatly reduce the impact of those inequities.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/12/25 04:56 PM
1	How to pull women on a cruise Well played if it was truly tongue in cheek and not making a real point. You never can really tell on the internet who is being slightly sarcastic and who is a full blown autist.	/r/seduction	26/11/25 06:36 PM
3	How to pull women on a cruise I hope that someday you realize that sex is really just the icing on the cake of life. It can seem like shit when you’re eating dry cake without frosting, but it’s just as unsatisfying to eat only the icing with nothing substantial underneath. Yes, in this example the price per unit of frosting is expensive, but remember you’re paying to enjoy the whole cake, not just to scrape the icing off and emotionally discard the value of the cake itself. In case it’s unclear the cake is a metaphor for the…	/r/seduction	25/11/25 05:53 AM
2	The single solution for women’s dating problems is being more active and asking men out. “The single solution for women’s dating problems is being more active and asking me* out” I fixed your typo for you	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/11/25 03:29 PM
1	Men are not approaching women as much anymore and that's a good thing. I cold approached to meet my wife, and needed no introduction or mutual friends to meet my exes at parties, just walked up and said hi. I got rejected a lot as well, but when I was young, I just used to think “would I have more regret getting rejected by this girl I’m attracted to who could be a potential wife/girlfriend, or would I have more regret not doing anything about it and letting my future wife walk away without even saying hi because I’m scared.”	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/25 01:14 PM
–	Women in majority care about looks more than men My god you’re exactly like that woman who desperately wanted men as an entire gender to be shamed for looking down on sex workers while still watching porn. Stop trying to make as assumption for an entire gender based on your flawed evidence gathering. You know that the algorithm sends you reels that you are more likely to interact with right? So everytime you watch and cringe, comment that it’s fucked up, etc - you increase the incidence of related content to appear. That’s all I’ll say because…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/11/25 01:12 PM
1	why do so many men look down on sex workers (escorts, prostitutes, onlyfans model, sugarbabies etc ) but at the same time also consume their services/content? Not sure how I can engage with it more, you just don’t agree. It’s not a unique double standard, it’s just amplified by religious undertones and morality. Most people or men don’t publicly shame sex workers either. Just because some do doesn’t make it a monolith - the same ones consuming are not the same ones shaming, and if they are it’s again, an age old question of why do people act hypocritical. And that’s not a sex work question, that’s a why are people the way they are question.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/11/25 09:09 PM
1	why do so many men look down on sex workers (escorts, prostitutes, onlyfans model, sugarbabies etc ) but at the same time also consume their services/content? It is exhausting because it’s not that these arguments aren’t valid, you just don’t agree. It’s like arguing to someone who is convinced the sky is green because they have color blindness. Plenty of people consume stuff while shaming it. Plenty of people also consume things while finding it not shameful. That isn’t a men or sex worker limited view. It’s just that we amplify things when it comes to sex. I don’t think there’s one neat answer when it comes to all of this. What you are truly asking …	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/11/25 05:52 PM
8	why do so many men look down on sex workers (escorts, prostitutes, onlyfans model, sugarbabies etc ) but at the same time also consume their services/content? I think it’s for a similar reason that you don’t want be with a janitor but you still benefit from their services, or you don’t want to be with someone who works in fast food, but also you still eat at McDonald’s here and there. Of course, I think the ones who use them the most dont actually look down on them, it’s well known that for onlyfans, most revenue often comes from a few whales who basically pay for pseudo relationships, quite the opposite of looking down on them, it’s them who are payi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/11/25 11:58 PM
1	Confidence is something you are born with lol y’all are ridiculous go accomplish something and make yourself proud and you can become confident too some of the most attractive people out there are the most insecure. but you guys care so much about being noticed by the opposite sex, and so little about what matters, which is being appreciated by those you care about	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/11/25 11:08 PM
4	Do women like sober casual sex? lol it wasn’t a typo he’s referring to his sperm.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/10/25 07:44 AM
3	If you lack options for ltr as a male you aren't avg That’s called confidence. If you find their personality annoying then it’s called arrogance.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/10/25 12:24 AM
2	Do you think that less attractive women are more opposed to being approached? Oh yeah OP, like most people here who are constantly trying to categorize men and women into little boxes based on limited amounts of traits and info, needs to go live in the real world. It just seems so difficult for some people to understand that while correlation between certain traits and general attractiveness exists, interpersonal attraction and relationships can’t be neatly simplified into a math problem that can be “solved” and gender based attraction is like trying to define what art is…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/10/25 06:34 PM
1	Do you think that less attractive women are more opposed to being approached? I guess, why does it matter? I shot my shot with my wife by striking up a conversation when I was stuck delayed at an airport. I think she’s more attractive than me, but beauty is in the eye of the beholder, I’ve had plenty of women say I was actually attractive because of things I didn’t even think of, like my confidence to approach in public, ability to chat and politeness, or that I looked “big” like a protector. Where others would see a chubby guy who is approaching unsolicited and couldn’t …	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/10/25 05:23 PM
1	Why do you think that women seem to believe that "leagues don't exist" more than men do? It’s not, it’s evidence that people have differing levels of attractiveness to different people. The fact that you group these people together is a way to try to make sense of the world at large, not really a reflection of how people think.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/10/25 09:45 PM
8	Why is it culturally acceptable for women to ask men for money,but taboo for men to expect sex in return. I think my real surprise was that you actually see this happen in real life, I only really see it online, and with girls who are especially entitled, or already in a relationship where it’s okay to ask for money (stay at home/trophy wife).	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/10/25 08:17 PM
9	Why is it culturally acceptable for women to ask men for money,but taboo for men to expect sex in return. Why don’t you just say no? I’ve never had women in my life ask me for stuff, most women I dated were very adamant about paying for themselves or not wanted expensive presents (would get mad at me being “wasteful”). I’ve definitely seen gold diggers asking for shit, or fishing for gifts. I also buy girls drinks and dinner, but $400 just cause? Only time that happened was because my wife literally couldn’t work due to visa issues and once she became my wife she started out earning me, since she’s …	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/10/25 04:15 PM
0	Men are shallow as well Nah bro sometimes we can be deep, but generally the average dude is shallow as shit basically up until their friend group is having kids	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/10/25 01:20 AM
1	Question for women: How can a man who's not able to get casual sex, pursue a serious relationship with a woman who did have casual sex with other men? Yup, I think this is just terminally online behavior, but becoming mainstream since everyone is online now. Everyone wants easy access to what is more glorified in their gender. And they can’t seem to understand that the other side doesn’t really value that in the same way. Girls don’t really care that much about casual sex in terms of defining their value. And guys don’t really care about stable long term relationships in terms of defining their value. Story as old as time, guys want to fuck mu…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/10/25 03:29 PM
1	Question for women: How can a man who's not able to get casual sex, pursue a serious relationship with a woman who did have casual sex with other men? My god, these posts are just so sad. I’m not the most attractive and I’ve had casual sex a few times. And I’ve had a number of relationships where the sex got pretty crazy. Its interesting because the general truths are there, that it’s much easier for women than men to have casual sex, but it’s turned into “I don’t have the looks for… my only option is to pursue long term relationships”. It’s not your only option bro. You just have to try harder. Plus all those long term relationships start som…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/10/25 03:09 PM
–	Why do you judge men who pay for sex way more harshly than women who have casual hookups, one night stands & FWB? I get your take - many would agree it is indeed sacred and intimate, but I (or the regulators/government) are not the ones commodifying the world’s oldest profession. Throughout countless societies, from ancient history to modern, this has happened again, and again and will continue to happen. To me the choice is not whether or not it happens, but what protections are in place for the actual sex workers. I don’t think it’s fair to sacrifice their health and well-being, or trust it to criminals, …	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/10/25 04:54 PM
–	Why do you judge men who pay for sex way more harshly than women who have casual hookups, one night stands & FWB? I guess maybe the wording is not perfect, but as in, it’s a service that society that always shows demand for, no matter what blockers, regulations or other constraints are put in place. It’s going to happen anyways, might as well protect the people who do it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/10/25 04:48 PM
–	Why do you judge men who pay for sex way more harshly than women who have casual hookups, one night stands & FWB? Why? Brothels aren’t the only jobs one can obtain - no one is saying I have to be a janitor, or an office clerk either. Girls can pornstars if they want to right now and no government agency is telling unskilled female workers to exclusively do porn over any other job or we will garnish your benefits. This is a very strawman argument to a change that could really protect women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/10/25 04:46 PM
–	Why do you judge men who pay for sex way more harshly than women who have casual hookups, one night stands & FWB? It could be if we had proper regulation over it. We could have id for Johns, criminal punishments for those who abuse them, proper pay and rights for the workers. But just like the war on drugs, if you make it illegal, the criminal elements will always service the demand, and do it their way.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/10/25 12:01 PM
–	Why do you judge men who pay for sex way more harshly than women who have casual hookups, one night stands & FWB? Honestly, most people hate their job, but can get some level of satisfaction out of doing it well, but some will enjoy it. And I look at sex workers like garbage men or janitors, they do a service that society always will have a demand or need for, but is not desired as a job by a large portion of society. The big problem is non regulation and the darker elements that thrive on that, not the sex work itself	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/10/25 11:58 AM
21	How I Used The 48 Laws Of Power, Making Women Instantly Attracted To Me Great advice in a vacuum, I can definitely take away some lessons here about how attraction works. I’ll be honest though, my main curiosity of this post is on the constant changing and strategizing of your own personality and image to correspond to what the woman in front of you responds to. It leaves me wondering if are looking for love, someone who loves you for you, or if you even want that. If you will tire of being the facade of who you turned yourself into for the purposes of charming miss…	/r/TheRedPill	15/07/25 01:52 PM
1	Millennial males (and older) had it easier. Relatively speaking it was tougher than before, then it got worse.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/05/25 07:59 AM
7	Why do so many women in their 20s prefer older men over younger men (even by 10–20 years), while younger men get overlooked or dismissed? There’s a really big difference between early 20s and late 20s. One is still a kid thinking about their first job. The other could have had a career spanning multiple positions, a number of adult relationships and/or many years supporting themselves and maybe an even a child or two.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/05/25 10:36 PM
–	What is the reason that women have longer sexual experimentation leashes than guys do? Muslim/asians do this I am straight, I had a groomsman do my hair before the big show. Maybe not boxers but I have had friends borrow shirts, pants or shoes to go to an event/club they weren’t prepared for. OK I would hold a young son’s hand. Muslims/south Asians do this. Most dont. And at risk of aging myself out of the convo, guys used to share the physical porn they clearly jerked off to. It’s been a long time since metrosexual was really a thing, but in asia the type of K-pop guys girls swoo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/04/25 12:59 PM
0	Post-Scarcity should come to the Sexual Marketplace. “Everything is about sex, except sex. Sex is about power.” The above quote is why while immersive VR sex bots may supplement, it will likely never replace the real thing for the most successful. And why despite having unfettered and completely immersive sex tools, most will still crave the real thing for satisfaction. One can already jerk off with porn at your fingertips in VR, lubrication and sex toys, but despite that, only the most desperate have given up on desiring physical sex with a partn…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/04/25 03:04 AM
3	"Just approach women, bro" is outdated, sexist and pointless. Why do I have to make them do anything? Everyone needs to figure out how to navigate their own journey.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/04/25 02:16 AM
41	"Just approach women, bro" is outdated, sexist and pointless. I’m glad this attitude exists because I did approach women and that factor alone showed confidence and allowed me to date my wife who I don’t think would have matched me on tinder. I did well for myself dating by approaching in person. I did terribly on tinder and looks-based apps. I’ll take that advantage all day. You can’t change human nature / society overnight and while it can definitely be argued that it is sexist and outdated, I and many other men can show you it’s certainly not pointless.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/04/25 10:51 PM
0	Why do many men shame women for being with men then say men are high value? Your premise isn’t true, men don’t devalue women through simple touch or even sex. It’s an aggregate thing - eating mcds once in a while can be a nice treat. Every day and it can be perceived that the person is unhealthy. But it’s all a perception that people get over as they age - I’m guessing you are young because you seem to care a lot about this argument, once people are older and more mature you realize that everyone has a past and everyone has fucked other people before. Again - excess of …	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/03/25 05:13 PM
6	Why do many men shame women for being with men then say men are high value? You don’t want to understand men’s perspectives you just want to argue and do a “gotcha” on what you perceive to be logical fallacies. But really what you’re doing is taking general views “generally males view partners who have had extremely frequent and numerous sex partners as a potential negative” and conflating them with extreme views “if she fucks any guy she is a whore and devalued”. Really the truth lies in the middle - there is an acceptable range that varies for most people on the most …	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/03/25 05:04 PM
–	Why do women adamantly refuse to admit that the way they talk about penis size affects how men view themselves? You guys…. This is the internet - people ask all the shit they wouldn’t say out loud in real life, it’s full of this shit because you can get a lot of the other answers in normal society. But you can’t just go to your group of friends and be like “someone made fun of my dick is this body shaming?” Without experiencing some residual effects from that	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/03/25 11:19 PM
–	Why do women adamantly refuse to admit that the way they talk about penis size affects how men view themselves? Appreciate the honesty - even if being fat is different, it’s more like race, or something you can’t change, like height. But appreciate the honesty nonetheless, no refusal that it hurts men, it’s just one of those things in life that people have to get over - yes women do this, and men are horrible without even realizing they are propagating stereotypes too - but the main thing is… The loudest voices are the most heard and while the people who really care about dick size generally want it big, …	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/03/25 11:10 PM
1	Are guys that work in porn good at pick up/game? Idk about game, since the “game” probably isn’t to fuck anymore. They probably have it easy to hook up, as many women will want that experience, but hard to form intimate connections, as few women see a pornstar as family material. So as far as having “game” I’d say they probably have great confidence and can pull on any night based on reputation of their job alone, but they may find it hard to find love and relationships that go anywhere.	/r/seduction	03/02/25 08:01 PM
29	I think I have peaked but I feel empty… When you are starving, you will be happy to have your plate full of fast food. It is delicious and filling. But a lifetime of drive thru satisfaction will eventually pale in comparison to a home cooked meal or a nice Michelin starred dining experience. Eating the fast food should serve to inform you that you won’t starve if you decide to go for the better meal. But it can easily become an addiction because it is easy and tasty, despite being long term bad for you. But good luck trying to tell a …	/r/seduction	16/09/24 06:01 PM
2	Men who were undesirable in their youth but managed to become succesful and confident and desirable later on in their life are absolutely entitled to go through a "hoe phase" You must be younger - I don’t think I was anything but average the whole way through, but I did have some game so I never felt the need to settle down until I was ready - now at 35 I wish I had my daughter earlier, and that requires finding someone worth settling down with earlier. I can’t imagine being 55 and having a first child and being 73 when she goes off to college, or being 65 and trying to play sports with a 10 year old son… So yes they are perfectly entitled to have this time, but for …	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/07/24 12:41 PM
5	Women who are provided for by their husbands, how did you / he ensure you'd be okay no matter what? Well depends who has assets. I feel that more often women like this who are looking for financial security are bullied into shitty prenups by shrewd wealthy families. Unless there is serious fortunes on one side or the other, a prenup can be used as a tool to harm women who provide value in non financial ways- like raising kids and taking care of the home. Not that those don’t have financial value, but it’s more the opportunity cost of wasting those years.	/r/RedPillWomen	20/05/24 04:32 AM
4	Women who are provided for by their husbands, how did you / he ensure you'd be okay no matter what? Honestly, don’t accept a prenup and don’t accept being treated like shit. Too many women here are given advice on how to deal with their husbands that are overly submissive and give undeserving husbands too much grace. But just remember that deserving does not mean having financial security… that’s the bare minimum. You should treat your man like a king but only to those who treat you like a queen. Just remember that if you have a daughter, they will grow up wanting to be like you. So use that w…	/r/RedPillWomen	20/05/24 03:09 AM
–	Women settle down with and seriously date lesser men, but still hold toxic men from their past in a higher regard. But completely different since that same guy experienced all of you, so he has no doubt it’s you maturing and not you settling. Or even if he feels he has “lost it”, at least he knows he had it at one point. And he also got to experience those things too. A lot of the hurt feelings are often from feeling like they are a “safe” and “boring” option - if they didn’t have their own wild/toxic sex already, which is the case for many men, for whom casual sex is much less accessible, they often can fal…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/04/24 08:51 PM
0	'Liberal Woman' Goes Viral On TikTok For Saying It's Hard To Find 'Masculine' Man Who's Not Conservative I consider myself liberal and masculine, and all girls I’ve dated and friends consider me masculine but I dated a liberal who told me I might be more conservative than I think. And maybe as I continue to age and work towards the family structure I grew up with, this might make me conservative based on how I construct my own life, despite my support of how everyone else’s choices in their own ideology/identity/roles in their life.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/06/23 02:35 PM
0	'Liberal Woman' Goes Viral On TikTok For Saying It's Hard To Find 'Masculine' Man Who's Not Conservative I consider myself a masculine liberal in that I support all rights for people to live their lives however they want, however they identify, however I personally was raised in a household where my father did the traditional stoic bread winning role and I seek to emulate this role as a stable provider for my own family. This includes sometimes being a “man” and doing “man” things like outdoor chores and heavy lifting, opening doors etc.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/06/23 02:30 PM
-5	What’s worse: being an overweight woman or a broke man? I find the opposite to be true. Maybe not rich rich but if you are STEM or in business, it’s easier to pour yourself into a job that pays and has clear financial upside than paying for a gym membership that’s expensive while young, and then it’s just an unhealthy work/life balance cycle from there.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/05/23 07:37 PM
4	You are offered 1 million dollars, untaxed. In exchange, you can never have sex/sexual intimacy ever again. Do you accept the offer? I think you’d have to assume existing assets here, but tbh, the premise is not “your new net worth is $1M” it’s “you’re offered $1M untaxed”. So very different propositions. But you’re right that $1M/500k by itself is not enough to have a comfortable retirement in the US alone for a young person. Maybe a foreign country like the other reply said.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/02/23 01:23 PM
6	Leonardo DiCaprio and his girlfriend breaking surprised absolutely no one, however is the whole “no over 25 rule” intentional? Sounds like a pretty standard LA date	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/08/22 06:23 PM
25	Leonardo DiCaprio and his girlfriend breaking surprised absolutely no one, however is the whole “no over 25 rule” intentional? Heard a story about a girl who hooked up w Leo - said he was a complete dick - put on noise canceling headphones, laid back on his couch and said, ok go ahead, and she did. And she said he barely paid attention to her, just was listening to whatever he had on while she rode him lol	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/08/22 01:54 PM
1	What do men feel emasculated on / double standard? Lol fair points but PIV is the original biological default, no one created that… I’d say that it created us in fact.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/07/22 09:55 PM
1	How to spot good women? I didn’t say ignore social skills, dummy lol. But negging is stupid, and dread and shit like that should come naturally from you just being a badass confident person who has options, not always faking like you might leave. That’s what I mean by ignore the game and awalt stuff. Read models by mark manson.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/22 02:00 PM
5	How to spot good women? Ignore game, ignore the AWALT stuff, but do the own your shit stuff and finding your masculinity and abundance mentality - a lot of rp seems to be geared towards finding a submissive partner who shuts up and stays hot - but really it’s about knowing what you want is out there, being your best self to attract and keep attraction, and not being afraid to move on/keep your options open when you feel it’s not doing it for you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/06/22 02:47 PM
1	Would you trade getting catcalled and occasional harassment if it meant you would never get any attention, compliments or special treatment from men I think you are underestimating some of your own positive traits bro :) Where some are maybe your same match as far as objective looks, attraction isn’t all about objective looks and I’m sure you are killing it in some other depts like confidence, awareness, communication, maybe you have a talent or it’s just an ability to recognize good people and keep them around you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/06/22 12:22 AM
1	Are most modern women's standards for men too high? Why or why not? If you are happy, that is what matters most bro	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/06/22 12:18 AM
1	Women, do you know any sexually less than successful men in real life? What are these men like? I wouldn’t give a shit and that’s the point… the smart/fulfilled ones find passion projects that create their own struggles to overcome (like if a rich kid decides to become a film director, no matter how rich they are, they will need to actually study and acquire talent to gain respect) but many born with a silver spoon in their mouth don’t understand what it means to grind because they never had to sacrifice or want for anything.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/06/22 12:17 AM
1	Are most modern women's standards for men too high? Why or why not? Thank you… your turn now to find success with women? Not sure what is stopping you besides fear of rejection? Idk, if I saw a girl I wanted I’d wanna say hi and get rejected then regret not having the balls to try.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/06/22 09:28 PM
2	Are most modern women's standards for men too high? Why or why not? Okay, I see you on the ancestor thing… I’ll agree it’s a bad analogy to motivate someone. Yeah, on tinder it sucks. I never got matched off of tinder in my life. But I’ve pulled girls irl before that are out of my league (chubby Asian in the US under 6ft) because - There is no pre selection filters irl, the range is much wider when you go to them instead of letting them have a catalog. It all starts w a conversation and how you make them feel, they will overlook a lot of shit if you make them fe…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/06/22 09:24 PM
1	Would you trade getting catcalled and occasional harassment if it meant you would never get any attention, compliments or special treatment from men I’m not sure what the point of you sending me this was… idk you seem like a decent normal looking dude and I’m glad you don’t have trouble with women? But if this is the case why’d you say another average male should imagine never be able to make sexual moves until your mid-thirties? I feel like you’re proving my point tbh since you are successful!	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/06/22 08:59 PM
2	Women, do you know any sexually less than successful men in real life? What are these men like? That is such a great perspective - also note that people don’t wanna hear it when they are struggling, but the struggle is what makes life good lol. It’s the delta between where you were and where you are that makes achievements feel good. 6’ tall handsome trust fund babies have a blessed life but many will never experience that feeling of satisfaction of “I earned this”. And also, grinding to get to where you want in your career, socially, sexually, will make you a better person for your partne…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/06/22 08:52 PM
2	Are most modern women's standards for men too high? Why or why not? Online, yes… but not irl. I’ve never gotten a legit match in tinder but I’ve picked up a bunch of girls before irl - having balls and confidence covers up a lot of material flaws that are hyper exposed in online dating.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/06/22 06:46 PM
6	Are most modern women's standards for men too high? Why or why not? You are playing on hard mode but you can still win the game if you are resilient enough / target the right demographic. Career success and power is attractive, not in a beta bux way, but seeing an executive or director work a room and have clear authority and power is sexy too. If you’re sick of playing the game, honestly escorts will give you a better return on investment for casual sex.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/06/22 06:44 PM
1	Are most modern women's standards for men too high? Why or why not? Natural selection dictates that hundred of ancestors with similar height and skills managed to live, it means that you must have other skills or genetic advantage that you can leverage instead of height. Of my shorter friends 5’4 or under, almost all of them get laid (albeit to girls their height or smaller) and the defining factor is that they make up for it with career / social / talent because they are driven. It’s a disadvantage but the fact that plenty of unattractive men get laid and date …	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/06/22 06:37 PM
3	Would you trade getting catcalled and occasional harassment if it meant you would never get any attention, compliments or special treatment from men Bro I am a chubby Asian over 220 lbs and not 6ft and I also had a shit haircut until recently, and didn’t earn a lot of money until 30s. I got laid and had consistent gfs until now where I am married. My gfs were all conventionally attractive and skinny. (Not all my ons were lol). In this current society, just embrace that most men have to do the hunter role to succeed with meeting women and opening sexual relationships, and women are the prey. This means that at any moment, women are constantly…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/22 12:53 PM
3	Would you trade getting catcalled and occasional harassment if it meant you would never get any attention, compliments or special treatment from men And I’m a guy too who had been invisible for a while… maybe the grass is greener for you too, op? Invisible is not bad if you aren’t lonely, and being objectified is not bad if you are seeking attention and validation. But both can feel awful when the opposite is forced on you (you do your hair just right, feeling good about your fit and no one even glances your way - ugh :(, or even though you just want to do your errands in peace, peoples noticing your body and following you makes you feel uns…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/22 12:38 PM
1	NY Post - Millennial men want 1950s housewives after they have kids Financially and economically, I’d love to follow in boomers footsteps. Culturally, not as much so.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/05/22 02:24 PM
1	If there is a very high chance that a woman will divorce you in marriage is there any reason for men to get married anymore? I think the key here is also you both grew up super poor so there was no power dynamic or mismatch from when you got together - I also think that strong couples overcome these differences through communication, but statistically, 50% do divorce, and issues about how to allocate finances lead to the type of irreconcilable differences that cause divorce.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/05/22 03:54 PM
1	Do nice guys actually exist? Sort of, but hot and not is not just about looks, it’s also a lot about confidence and status, so if your hunchback also was a US senator or a millionaire lawyer with his own firm, I think they might be “hot” but in a way different way because of the implied status and power.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/05/22 02:01 PM
1	Do nice guys actually exist? As you get older this is less true but they will still entertain the idea of it for way longer with someone attractive to them, but once you’ve been burned a few times you learn to be careful around fire. But overall, we can’t help who we are attracted to.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/05/22 01:57 PM
2	Do nice guys actually exist? Usually “he treats me like a real princess, and doesn’t hurt that he’s 6’2 and works out everyday ;)” kind of thing	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/05/22 01:55 PM
1	Contrasting 'Invisible woman syndrome' with the basic lived experience of many Lol at least you are pretty realistic about the fact that once you are old unless you are being targeted to die and leave inheritance, banging 20-40 y/o in person is unrealistic. But certainly visiting and paying into their OFs is a realistic proposition.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/05/22 01:50 PM
1	If there is a very high chance that a woman will divorce you in marriage is there any reason for men to get married anymore? Okay I see where infidelity is more of a leading cause than finances, but it’s still a giant cause of divorce https://www.marketwatch.com/story/this-common-behavior-is-the-no-1-predictor-of-whether-youll-get-divorced-2018-01-10 Maybe I worded it badly, but arguments over finances and a mismatch of opinions when there’s not enough to go around for all of the various needs can often cause resentment that leads to divorce	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/05/22 01:41 PM
1	The censorship of TRP uses the guise of it being some dangerous extremist ideology to forbid us from discussing what most men experience, and Big Tech has a monopoly on public discourse so men are essentially left with nowhere to vent. There’s always 4chan - but there’s your reason why unadulterated free speech is not attractive to the masses.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/05/22 05:24 PM
1	The censorship of TRP uses the guise of it being some dangerous extremist ideology to forbid us from discussing what most men experience, and Big Tech has a monopoly on public discourse so men are essentially left with nowhere to vent. This just in - neither men or women are monoliths but there are some general trends… however even if 70% of a population feels one way - a vast majority, nearly 1/3 of that population will carry a different perspective This goes for both of you guys ( and probably most of ppd)	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/05/22 05:17 PM
1	If there is a very high chance that a woman will divorce you in marriage is there any reason for men to get married anymore? It’s not an indicator of the others persons character, but like it or not finances are #1 reason for divorce and if they need to lend money or take care of an aging parent with no income and no assets, these conversations about whether we invest the family money responsibly and “abandon” the poor parent, or we take care of the poor parent and put the family unit in a less safe situation financially can lead to divorce… when money and family mix people almost always both get hurt feelings and los…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/05/22 01:38 PM
1	The average man is better off paying a hooker for sex once a month than trying to date in the modern world I think same sex couples are just more kind to each other given they can relate more to each other and more aligned on relationship goals (ie: gay men have more sex, lesbians tend to move in together very quickly). Straight couples are always trying to figure out what the other wants and how to give to them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/05/22 08:19 PM
9	Contrasting 'Invisible woman syndrome' with the basic lived experience of many Yeah now but when you’re 95 the 90 y.o that still walks on her two feet is looking pretty good lol	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/04/22 11:53 AM
4	Truth I think the point is more that there isn’t a single archetype that women desire, so no matter who you are, you can improve YOURSELF as you are to be attractive, not necessarily have to be someone else. There’s no type of person that is defined by lack of social skills, lack of physical fitness or lack of drive, money, ambition, honesty, etc. You may have definite things to improve upon your attractiveness, but you don’t have to emulate chad and become some gym douche red piller or be some super …	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/01/21 08:22 PM
7	Q4Men: what do you believe the idiomatic phrase "settle down" means> I think it’s clear that to settle and to settle down have different connotations that some people like to blur because think they are associated. But they actually are not- to settle for someone and to settle down with someone have nothing to do with each other.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/20 03:38 PM
1	Isn't girls "learning from their mistakes" inherently better or more desirable than women who habitually choose "bad" men? By getting “chad” what is exactly ruined? Maybe you need to improve yourself a bit more to compete - our benefit as men is to start low value and to continually rise in value with status, confidence, ability, money. Women’s plight is to start high value and continually have to work to keep her value from depreciating rapidly over time	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/07/20 07:29 PM
1	Isn't girls "learning from their mistakes" inherently better or more desirable than women who habitually choose "bad" men? The quinoa example I think is a bit flawed - I’m pretty sure because women’s turn ons and sexuality is so mental and fluid, this is why only the hottest of guys can turn them on via just a photo, but over time, me taking care of her and being a man, both in being masculine and also being a solid husband who gets shit done in the house and office, this desire is growing in her. (And similarly, when I’m being beta or shitty to her, I see that desire wane and realize that I need to step it up). But…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/07/20 07:17 PM
1	Isn't girls "learning from their mistakes" inherently better or more desirable than women who habitually choose "bad" men? I think though this maturation wouldn’t be setting for anyone, but rather being better at identifying and ditching bad partners before she can be pumped and dumped, setting boundaries for future relationships. As a guy, I can recognize the inherent sexiness of a pornstar, but I wouldn’t want a pornstar as a wife - I have a wife who is not a pornstar but is also sexy. Can’t women be like men too and want both chad, and the man she marries, but have morals? As a human male, I naturally am attracte…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/07/20 05:41 AM
1	Men generally prefer younger women (in their early-mid 20's). But what age of men do women prefer? Men MOST prefer looking at / want to bang women at this age. But I think it’s wrong to think about things in a vacuum. It’s like saying, if you had to eat one thing right now that they could conjure up in mid air in a reasonable size cup many would pick ice cream. But if you had to pick only one thing to eat for the rest of your life, most wouldn’t pick ice cream. Who men find attractive AND are willing to date along the “personality vs looks” equilibrium is completely different and probably cor…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/06/20 02:28 PM
0	Are that many men really surprised that women like and respond more positively to attractive men? Idk if you are experienced enough to realize, but yes, being sexually active is important, but it does not stop there, once you’ve obtained this, a loving relationship is the next thing that many will need. It’s a hierarchy of needs, when you are starving, you do not think about sex, even though that is also a need.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/06/20 03:15 PM
1	Men that are quick to call a woman aggressive or crazy are insecure? What do those acronyms mean?	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/20 07:32 PM
1	Are red pill ideas about the lives of above average looking women totally disconnected from reality or am I doing something wrong? At this point I'm just trying to explain how statistics and variance work so maybe some people here can start to grasp how polarizing their assertions are, both men and women, where they assume correlation means it's like a law that is rarely broken. This place kind of sucks for those even keeled opinions, the fringes are loud here. But the questions asked are important sociologically.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/19 05:44 PM
1	Are red pill ideas about the lives of above average looking women totally disconnected from reality or am I doing something wrong? Check my other comment - I don't think it's a guy girl thing, attractiveness has statistically proven benefits for both guys and girls. Perhaps for girls it also opens them up to other unwanted attentions, but on AVERAGE ACCORDING TO STATISTICS, there is a correlation between attractiveness and whether people are nice to you (girls) / consider you intelligent (guys). Do you think it's possible to entertain more than one possible outcome, while still acknowledging the general rules of statistics …	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/19 05:41 PM
1	Are red pill ideas about the lives of above average looking women totally disconnected from reality or am I doing something wrong? Huh? I don't understand how you'd reach that conclusion? I don't think that showing a logical correlation excludes the idea that people can also have "bad things" too. Statistical correlation means that it's likely to happen, but doesn't necessarily have to be the same for all to be true. For example, if i ask people to flip a coin 10 times each, I think you are assuming that my viewpoint is that it'll land heads 50% of the time and tails 50% of the time. However this is not true, statistics wou…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/19 05:37 PM
3	Are red pill ideas about the lives of above average looking women totally disconnected from reality or am I doing something wrong? By the way, I agree with your assertion that men's ego can contribute to meanness of men by way of Madonna/whore complex, insecurity to approach those he's most attracted to, but I would say that from most valid studies, it's proven that your insight applies only to a minority of males who do not fall into the proven hypothesis of Attractiveness = nicer treatment. Do take note that there are sooooo many people in the world that this minority can be a group of hundreds of millions of people, if n…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/12/19 01:34 AM
2	Are red pill ideas about the lives of above average looking women totally disconnected from reality or am I doing something wrong? Lol I never said that, we don't live in a world of absolutes but it doesn't mean there is statistical evidence that can be attributed to the majority of a population group. Of course there will always be people that act in a contrarian way, but even if say, 50% of men act nice, 25% are indifferent, and 25% are mean, there would still be a high standard of statistical proof to base the claim that there is a definite statistical correlation between attractiveness and the likelihood of men being ni…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/12/19 01:29 AM
6	Are red pill ideas about the lives of above average looking women totally disconnected from reality or am I doing something wrong? Being nice and being pursued romantically are two different things. The attractiveness benefits are both for women and men, people are just naturally nice to pretty women, while maybe they aren't necessarily as nice to men, they perceive attractive men as more competent /intelligent. Another issue with OPs claim is that a lot of the dramatic claims and studies done use online dating as a reference, where I'm sure OP would be swimming in male attention. Real life isn't as selective or active in t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/12/19 12:25 AM
1	Are heterosexual men being cut off from places to meet women in the West? LOL - "being excluded makes me feel bad so therefore it doesn't exist"	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/08/19 12:35 PM
2	Clingy Wife Wow I should read his stuff. Thanks, this really resonated with me. I think I read somewhere that birth control makes women want beta because they are looking for security but when not they want alpha because they are looking for good seed. Obviously you want to be alpha, but you need to incorporate beta if you want your partner to be truly happy and secure, not just attracted to you and scared you will leave her. I think too many rp's rip on girls for only dating "assholes" and then when they u…	/r/MarriedRedPill	10/03/15 06:24 PM
4	Clingy Wife This is exactly what I look for when I look at red pill stuff... I have a lot of girl "friends" in addition to having a gf, and I don't think I could ever think of women the way the RP sub does generally. But I do think that they have found some good insight, but instead of wanting to use this knowledge to have healthy relationships they want to use it to manipulate many plates to get some sort of revenge for their perceived slight of society not allowing them to get easily laid all the time. I …	/r/MarriedRedPill	10/03/15 04:52 PM