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Depends on the person. I recoil when people invade my personal space like that, it’s such a turn off. Like, did I give you permission to touch me? 😂 But touch is my love language, so I’m very sensitive to who is allowed to do that.
/r/seduction07/07/19 03:55 PM
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Thiiiiiiis!! As a woman who has given some mixed signals before, its not that were trying to string you along (at least not always, Im sure some women do). We just have so much other stuff going on, either mentally or emotionally, that we aren’t prepared to add you into the mix until it really hits us that were missing something. You cant wait around for those moments when a woman realizes she misses you. There are women out there who wont be able to get enough of you - go find them. Dont settle…
/r/seduction01/07/19 05:44 PM
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As a woman, my advice is not to hug the girl next time. She doesny know you, and it could weird her out that youre initiating this physical contact after approaching her. It can give off a creeper vibe.
/r/seduction28/06/19 10:58 PM
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Is it really any surprise that girls get more likes than guys? Most girls arent doing the whole “swipe right on everyone” game guys play.
/r/seduction27/06/19 08:16 PM
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She might have thought you were unusual in some way. Maybe the outfit you were wearing or the way your hair was done? Sometimes I stare at people who are interesting in some way.
/r/seduction23/06/19 04:31 PM
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This is a good analogy. I don’t know if I’d say game isn’t needed at all because unless the girl is strictly just looking for someone to fuck, you gotta have something to offer. But there is only so much game can do for you, that I agree with. You can’t game her into being attracted to you if there is completely zero interest.
/r/seduction13/06/19 05:53 PM
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You do it. Because you have no idea what shes looking for in a guy, and you may have what these other guys dont. “Better” is very vague. More attractive? More money? More jokes? You dont know what she wants, so dont take yourself out of the race without even competing.
/r/seduction12/06/19 09:18 PM
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I’m a really attractive woman whos super into Asian guys. Whether most girls agree or not, we do exist. Not really into hookups, so thats a negative to most guys in our society, but Asian is totally my type.
/r/seduction13/05/19 11:11 PM
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Facts! Mentality changes everything, it oozes off of you and other people pick up on it. Great advice!
/r/seduction12/05/19 05:16 PM
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As a woman who is notoriously attracted to assholes, I have deduced that I am attracted to authenticity. Nice guys sometimes feel fake, I dont trust them. Assholes are just being who they are, regardless of whether or not you like them, and that kind of confidence and genuineness, even in a somewhat negative light, has an allure to it. It’s real.
/r/seduction10/05/19 09:20 PM
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Shes not interested. Thats okay. You dont like everyone and not everyone has to like you. Thank u, next.
/r/seduction10/05/19 09:14 PM
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Why is this confusing? 😆
/r/seduction09/05/19 02:01 AM
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I will 10/10 times get a guys number whos obviously interested in me and never text him to avoid an awkward situation in person. I dont want to be confrontational, thats not in my nature. Its SO much easier to be nice in person, accept his number, and walk away. Its less uncomfortable than being like, "Sorry, bro, this has been fun, but I dont actually really care to talk to you again." Like that just sounds rude and can start an argument when Im just trying to have a good time. I dont want to d…
/r/seduction08/05/19 11:27 PM
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Dont overthink it. If its uncomfortable, she’ll move you. Youre creating a problem where there may not be one. Relax and trust yourself. She is her own independent person capable of deciding what she is comfortable with and vocalizing it.
/r/seduction07/05/19 02:15 PM
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Glad youve had such success! Keep killing it and spread the seduction gospel. 😋
/r/seduction05/05/19 05:40 PM
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Is it not the same as a dating app? You still have to reach out and maintain communication with the person youve matched with.
/r/seduction04/05/19 10:53 PM
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Be friends with her. You liked her as a person, right? Guys get super upset when they get friend zoned, but girls get upset too when they get fuck zoned. Yeah, she totally should have told you from the get go, but she apologized and explained why she didnt. If you enjoyed chatting with her, be her friend.
/r/seduction03/05/19 07:14 PM
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I mean... how out of the way is that really? If youre an anime nerd, you have to go to cons to meet people? As a gamer, you play online? An avid reader, you join a book club? You like to cook, you take cooking classes? You identify something you enjoy and there are ways to meet others with similar interests. Thats not leaving your path, to argue the initial point.
/r/seduction03/05/19 04:05 AM
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Haha, fair. I would fall into the latter. I dont know that it completely disqualifies my opinion though, although I can appreciate the differences in our social worlds. Being conventionally attractive comes with its pros and cons, as does anything.
/r/seduction02/05/19 10:46 PM
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As a serious natural introvert, I disagree. 😂 It probably won’t work for everyone. I doubt there’s anything in life that’s completely universal. But if you focus on you instead of worrying about where you’re going to find someone else, it certainly makes things less stressful.
/r/seduction02/05/19 10:39 PM
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Cant tell if you’re being sassy or not. 😂
/r/seduction02/05/19 10:31 PM
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I’m of the opinion that the right people fall into your life when youre focused on walking your own path. They come into your life because theyre on the same path as you. Those are the easiest people to integrate, so dont try to force other people to fit.
/r/seduction02/05/19 06:05 PM
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Take it slow. Give her outs if she is uncomfortable that she wont feel bad for taking. Shy girls shut down and close off under pressure. Make your intentions clear so she doesn’t doubt what you want and feels comfortable accepting an offer if she’s interested, but don’t make her feel cornered with no way to easily escape if shes not. Im talking to a guy right now who I normally wouldnt have given the time of day to, but he walks that line so perfectly that the “no pressure” aspect of it keeps me…
/r/seduction01/05/19 07:35 PM
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Let. Her. Go. Do not put your life on hold for anyone. Do not let someone else string you along. If they dont realize your worth, they dont deserve your time. She broke up with you, she ghosted you, she doesnt value you. Theres some IG poet I like who said something (gender changed) to the effect of, “Never forget the way she left and never let her return.” If this girl let you go once and has not treated you like youre worth more since, youre her backup plan. Go find someone who will make you t…
/r/seduction01/05/19 07:26 PM
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Yes. Girls dont fuck around when it comes to getting attention.
/r/seduction01/05/19 07:21 PM
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If one party can do it, its possible that both could. Its definitely not easy though, once you have crossed that line, backtracking is no small task. In her case, she may normally want to be just friends, but if her breakup is fresh, shes probably seeking out affection wherever she thinks she can get it. Its a hard transition being single again. Reestablish your friendship boundary. If you guys have a solid foundation, she should be cool with it.
/r/seduction01/05/19 07:19 PM
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I definitely thought this was talking about physical exercises when I read the title and was like, “Wtf? Like do more squats?” 😂
/r/seduction01/05/19 07:12 PM
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Some girls definitely do, they think they’re just being friendly and it’s perceived differently from most everyone else. That’s real. That is not, however, what you’re describing.
/r/seduction28/04/19 05:08 PM
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It comes from when guys can’t read a woman’s reaction to him. Or if he approaches with a weird line or vibe to him that makes him seem uncomfortable to be around or sketchy.
/r/seduction26/04/19 05:10 PM
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Facts! Love this.
/r/seduction24/04/19 03:27 PM
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You’re welcome!
/r/seduction24/04/19 03:25 PM
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Escalate how so? Like physically? For me, I know you have to seduce my mind before you can touch me. Ask her about herself, engage with what shes saying. If she feels a genuine interest in who she is, youre off to a solid start.
/r/seduction23/04/19 02:45 AM
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I know personally I like banter. Guys who can tease me and keep up with my wit are instant turn ons. Any guy can come up and tell me Im pretty, so what sets you apart from every other guy at the con? Find your edge and use it.
/r/seduction23/04/19 02:42 AM
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I would ask her how the PT recommendation went. Dont open with asking her out, show a genuine interest in her and her life. If the recommendation went over well, say youre glad to hear it and then mention that youre back in town. Ask her for a recommendation in return. Ask to pick her brain over coffee perhaps, its a really low pressure way to meet up and see if you actually vibe. If you the recommendation wasnt successful, then you can suggest meeting up to brainstorm someone better. Either way…
/r/seduction23/04/19 02:38 AM
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Do the things you love. Its not uncommon to lose yourself in a relationship, particularly if it was long, but that doesnt define you. To redefine yourself, go do things for yourself. Challenge yourself. Try new things, go new places, talk to different people. Meeting other girls is great, but depending on how fresh out of your last relationship you are, you may not want to focus on that. You dont want to get lost in someone else again. Do you. People are naturally attracted to those who are conf…
/r/seduction23/04/19 02:34 AM
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Srsly just getting up the courage to do that is cause for applause. Proud of you! Try again, hopefully the next one is single!
/r/seduction23/04/19 02:30 AM
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Text her now. You don't have a lot of time.
/r/seduction22/04/19 12:46 AM
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I like to make up excuses to talk to people. Ask them a question about class or lunch or social stuff, whatever.
/r/seduction22/04/19 12:25 AM
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This is entire thread is outrageous and Im dying. xD
/r/seduction22/04/19 12:13 AM
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Because he wants to hook up. Stay the hell away. Any guy whos gonna do this behind another girls back will do it to you in the future.
/r/seduction22/04/19 12:03 AM
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You overthinking this. Shes definitely interested. Focus on the talking for a first date, thats gonna be the majority of your time spent with her. If she likes your personality and your mind, other factors become significantly less important. But like AljndrRddt said, worry about if shes actually a good fit for you. That will give you something besides your nerves to focus on.
/r/seduction21/04/19 11:46 PM
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Her feeling comfortable isnt a bad thing, just saying. Text when you have something to say. If the conversation ends as it naturally will eventually, wait a couple days and message her again with something new. Shell help you with the conversation if shes engaged.
/r/seduction21/04/19 11:08 PM
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While I agree with your mentality here, I disagree with complimenting her appearance and then asking her out. Maybe its just my bias because Im a pretty girl, but I get people telling me Im beautiful all the time. Give me something more. Get to know a little bit about me and compliment something that any joe shmo isnt going to know about me at first glance. A little conversation and genuine interest goes a long way.
/r/seduction21/04/19 10:55 PM
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Lol, first dont be sexist against the gender youre trying to date? Women are not irrational, people are. Men are irrational too. Dont mistake the opposite gender being an alternate species. That said, flirt. Theyre there to find someone they sync with, have good chemistry with. First dates are all about the vibe. Dont be a douche just trying to get in someones pants, but light flirting and playfulness goes over really well on first dates.
/r/seduction21/04/19 10:44 PM
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Definitely dont pretend youre in a relationship. I instantly friend zone guys who are in relationships because theyre off limits. I would never want another girl to do that to me, so I dont do it to them. If there is no other girl, you may accidentally push away someone you could have actually connected with. Plus lies are never a good beginning foundation. :)
/r/seduction21/04/19 10:31 PM
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I agree to only use the kisses if youre teasing when youre just getting to know someone. Its hard to translate tone in text, so use emoticons to clarify your tone. Use them sparingly, Id say. Better to leave her guessing a bit than overdo it and come off desperate.
/r/seduction21/04/19 10:21 PM
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As a girl, I agree with "dont." Any guy who tries to slide into my DMs becomes a cliche. Even if youre witty and we have a nice little convo, I might remember you, but I wont take you seriously as a potential love interest. Meet in person or on a site/app specifically for dating, not on IG.
/r/seduction21/04/19 10:03 PM
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Be honest with her. Dont fuck around with someones heart. Shes worried about getting too attached and getting hurt, and if youre not being real with her, she will.
/r/seduction21/04/19 09:53 PM
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Faaaaacts. You learn way more from failure than success. It sucks, but better to get it all out in one night of crashing and burning on repeat. Then have a drink to shake it off. Online forums are a great help, but theyre no replacement for experience.
/r/seduction21/04/19 09:38 PM
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At this point, leave the ball in her court. Dont worry about not kissing her before, that doesnt matter. If she is actually really interested in seeing you again, shell get back to you. Let her go and be pleasantly surprised if she texts you about Friday. Regardless, dont put any more effort into it. She said shed get back to you. If she lets you slide through the cracks, she wasnt really interested in the first place and you just saved yourself a ton of time on a lost cause.
/r/seduction21/04/19 09:28 PM
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Honestly if she never responds, let it go. Know your own value. You dont have time to waste on someone who isnt interested in even BEGINNING a conversation with you. And if she doesnt respond, theres a good chance its because her attention is already occupied elsewhere. Youre fighting an uphill battle there. Move along to the next one.
/r/seduction21/04/19 09:18 PM
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Be direct. Tell them youre not interested in dating, then stick to that. When you acquiesce to their requests of "trying it" or "one step at a time," you are giving them hope that youre not as against it as you say. Stick to your word so you dont even get into positions where youre in a relationship that you dont want to be in.
/r/seduction21/04/19 09:08 PM
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Social media is such a basic thing. I add people I meet once depending on which social media it is (people use each one differently). After your next conversation, add her. Dont worry what her friend thinks. If she doesnt add you back, whats the worst that just happened? You have more information. You now know she isnt at all interested in you and you can move on. If she does add you, thats a good way to find more talking points and ways to engage with her. Dont overthink it.
/r/seduction21/04/19 08:58 PM
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I think Michael Hussey did a great video on this if you care to go looking for it. Make it flirty and fun. I respond really well to banter and competition for example. You could always invite her out to do something too. Colleges always have events going on, ask if she wants to check one out.
/r/seduction21/04/19 08:47 PM
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That was not a rejection. It could be an excuse to get you off her back and shell never reply, sure, but getting her number is a victory. Not everyone even gets that far. Leaving her friends to go out with you right then is, from my standpoint, an absurd request. If Im out partying with my friends, Im there to hang out with them. Meeting a cute guy might be a bonus to the night, but Im not there for him. He can wait his turn for my time. Dont take that as a rejection because Id do the same even …
/r/seduction21/04/19 08:37 PM
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Well the good news is you control your outlook! If you dont want to be an incel, dont be. My initial advice is to place less emphasis on finding a girl. Focus on you and enjoy your own company. You find people who are on the same path as you by walking your own path and bumping into them. :) Otherwise ignore your fears. Srsly whats the worst that can happen? They reject you and youre alone? Arent you alone anyway? Take a risk. The worst that can happen is nothing changes.
/r/seduction21/04/19 08:27 PM
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