pompandpride Archive

Upvotes	Title	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
81	The biggest obstacle to my Inner Game I didn't realize.	pompandpride	/r/seduction	12/10/13 07:30 PM
22	The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity. The fears are paper tigers. You can do anything you decide to do. You can act to change and control your life; and the procedure, the process is its own reward.	pompandpride	/r/seduction	11/10/13 11:05 AM
16	Ask her out in person when possible.	pompandpride	/r/seduction	11/12/17 05:06 PM

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2	How do you guys deal with being rejected over and over? my window to have it shrinks every day. If you're not a woman, this really isn't true. Women hit a cliff, at which point men just stop noticing them. Men just have to take care of themselves decently, adjust their search parameters a couple years old, but there's no point where you're just suddenly unfuckable. But if you want to live a happier life, find some other interests to get into, instead of constantly dragging yourself into a game of chance with shitty enough odds that it becomes demoral…	/r/seduction	22/12/17 10:31 PM
2	How do you guys deal with being rejected over and over? Yeah, this. This was the trigger for my depression for years, that I was a piece of shit who couldn't do manhood properly because everywhere I went I had a middle schooler in my head telling me I wasn't being a man if I didn't do everything I could every moment to get some.	/r/seduction	22/12/17 03:30 PM
4	How do you guys deal with being rejected over and over? When you're going out, don't be a fucking salesman. Selling yourself all the time and discovering no one's buying is fucking depressing. Don't pressure yourself to get laid, since that is contingent on something you can't control, and don't feel obligated to "keep up" with your lying-douche middle-school-aged friends who need to hold something over you. God, it's like bragging that you drove to work and hit all green lights and you want to be PROUD of how charming you were for that? Just go out,…	/r/seduction	22/12/17 03:04 AM
208	How does one practice without danger of being accused of "sexual harrassment" and treated like a predator? Life Pro-Tip: don't read Scott Adams and don't get wrapped up in how feminism and modern trends are bringing your quality of life down. That will just justify your bitterness and give you excuses. "I'm the victim of Cultural Movement X" and approaching women do not mix. Just focus on YOUR interaction with the person in front of YOU. Also, it sounds like you're hitting on women instead of flirting with them - the former is serious and solicitous while the latter is playful, where the outcome does…	/r/seduction	20/12/17 04:20 PM
29	"I dont give my phone number to everyone" She's not even asking for that. This is a textbook decline. Us idiot males eventually learn that women won't just say, "No I'm not interested," because of a combination of not having the nerve to hurt your feelings and concern for the awkwardness/pressure she'll experience when seeing you next. In idiot male speak, you said, "Are you interest in going out with me?" And she responded, "No, I'm not." Just accept that without disappointment or resentment, and find other women to talk to that are in…	/r/seduction	18/12/17 04:33 AM
3	"I dont give my phone number to everyone" You have just experienced a polite decline, my friend. There's absolutely nothing confusing about, "Well, if we randomly run into each other later, I will continue to converse politely with you so that your asking me out doesn't become awkward."	/r/seduction	18/12/17 04:29 AM
1	Approached a girl at the gym Wrong, I picked up a girl I dated for a year at the gym, after talking to women just about every other time I went. Just don't be aggressive and know when you're making her uncomfortable. It must be clear that you won't hold it against her if she's not on board.	/r/seduction	12/12/17 06:09 PM
19	Tips on how get hurt less. Keep expectations low. You aren't in love with her; you're in love with an idea that you've constructed about her. You're in love with your projection of her. You don't know her so you're just filling in the gaps with you, which is why she "seems so much like me!". You do this because you hope that falling in love will alleviate your existential pain and will finally make you feel whole, complete, and at peace. No woman will do that for you. Treat a woman as a traveling partner on that journey w…	/r/seduction	11/12/17 05:04 PM
3	I approached a girl on the train station. I'm really mixed on this. Crass approaches aside, some women are so annoyed by constantly being hit on that they decline innocent openers like, "Been waiting for the train long?" because they see the opener for what it is. You've really got to pay attention to the cues on whether or not the attention is welcome.	/r/seduction	18/11/17 01:28 PM
3	Laughing Yoga Yeah, I was thinking of people looking in on OP as Joker-type creepy. And then I laughed at the thought of someone running around laughing oddly at everything and people's reactions.	/r/seduction	10/11/17 08:50 PM
1	Simple number close for girls who are at work Maybe this works for you and feels more congruent with your persona. I'd only say don't do it if you're afraid of asking for her info directly, because you fear rejection. My expectation is it would come off sheepish.	/r/seduction	08/11/13 11:59 AM
1	Simple number close for girls who are at work I see what you see he did there, though probably it was just a double post.	/r/seduction	08/11/13 11:58 AM
4	Simple number close for girls who are at work This is Neil Strauss's advocated technique in Rules of the Game. Seemed brilliant at the time but now it just seems weirdly roundabout to me. It's like printing out an email and then physically mailing it to someone. You're both just going to punch things into a phone.	/r/seduction	07/11/13 06:18 PM
0	Prague is introducing "singles only" dating cars in the middle compartment of every subway train. How would you approach a girl here? First off, ya'll don't know what American accents sound like, I swear. Every Brit, Spaniard, and Frenchman seems to think we're all from Texas. Second off, why?	/r/seduction	31/10/13 09:36 PM
4	Prague is introducing "singles only" dating cars in the middle compartment of every subway train. How would you approach a girl here? I'm gonna need error bars on your estimates before I can let this pass.	/r/seduction	31/10/13 06:22 PM
-5	Prague is introducing "singles only" dating cars in the middle compartment of every subway train. How would you approach a girl here? Fair enuf.	/r/seduction	31/10/13 05:13 PM
-12	Prague is introducing "singles only" dating cars in the middle compartment of every subway train. How would you approach a girl here? Alright. If you want to work this hard to have reasons to not approach women, I won't get in your way anymore.	/r/seduction	31/10/13 04:23 PM
-14	Prague is introducing "singles only" dating cars in the middle compartment of every subway train. How would you approach a girl here? It's (1) substantiated and (2) irrelevant. If you've ever seen a short dude own a dance floor, you can see the completely unreal nature of limiting beliefs. Besides, I could as easily make the claim (true from my experience) that having an American accent in Europe gives you an edge because it makes you different and gives you the borrowed glory of being attached to the lifestyle they've all seen endlessly depicted in Hollywood movies.	/r/seduction	31/10/13 03:59 PM
-2	Prague is introducing "singles only" dating cars in the middle compartment of every subway train. How would you approach a girl here? Why place any more assumptions of undesirability on yourself than you already have? Why give yourself rejection before a girl has the chance to? Underlying feelings of inadequacy, of somehow not being enough, tend to become a coatrack for all sorts of irrational reasons for that inadequacy. It doesn't make any of those reasons real. It just means you're working hard to knock yourself down before others can do it for you. Remove this coping mechanism and you remove a serious obstacle to every sin…	/r/seduction	31/10/13 03:44 PM
1	Prague is introducing "singles only" dating cars in the middle compartment of every subway train. How would you approach a girl here? Hey, when they were your age..... alcohol was illegal. heh heh. Age jokes.	/r/seduction	31/10/13 03:23 PM
-14	Prague is introducing "singles only" dating cars in the middle compartment of every subway train. How would you approach a girl here? initially put off by my west coast us accent Error: limiting belief with no basis in fact detected.	/r/seduction	31/10/13 03:03 PM
5	Prague is introducing "singles only" dating cars in the middle compartment of every subway train. How would you approach a girl here? "Young people's cars are for those who desire younger company. In these cars, restrictions on alcohol are lifted and patrons can expect noise levels to be higher. All are free to use these cars." In practice, I figure old people will want to avoid that.	/r/seduction	31/10/13 02:58 PM
5	Prague is introducing "singles only" dating cars in the middle compartment of every subway train. How would you approach a girl here? Well done. This is now a reddit thread of caliber.	/r/seduction	31/10/13 01:51 PM
45	Prague is introducing "singles only" dating cars in the middle compartment of every subway train. How would you approach a girl here? A friend of mine takes issue with the fact that this makes it a "singles" thing, explicitly. Thus, now it has stigma, pressure, and loses its subjective romance. If any of you have had any success at all with women, you know it's about subtext, that the fun (and safety) of it for women is that it's always a bit open. (E.g. "Well, we're meeting up tonight, but it's not about sex. I don't have to worry." or "He likes me, he has to, but do I really know?") Also, faptard3d voices my concern: "supply…	/r/seduction	31/10/13 12:49 PM
1	The biggest obstacle to my Inner Game I didn't realize. Could you give an example of this? Because the only one that's coming to mind for me is if you are conspicuously going out of your way to not do something for a girl, just because you're afraid of ceding power. But most favors you can do for a girl you don't know are not a good idea because they're mostly just groveling and hoping through implication that she will feel guilty and do something nice for you.	/r/seduction	14/10/13 01:19 AM
2	10 pieces of pickup advice for shorter men I guess my (not very good) looks are an obstacle in opening girls Unless you're conspicuously ugly, it's really not your looks. That said, I generally just don't try the dance floor because I feel like the loud dark alcohol-laden environment really does reduce you to the outline of your body, which for short guys is a short outline. I suppose it really doesn't matter if you're willing to put out a lot of awesome energy and go for it. I just usually don't have the energy for it most nights. Perso…	/r/seduction	13/10/13 11:27 PM
2	Opener dialogue. Doing this in my second language, so I need ideas. Just try it. Foreign speakers get away with a lot more than native speakers. Foreign speakers are allowed to say just about anything because it's not their first language.	/r/seduction	13/10/13 07:38 PM
1	Too tall? Really well put. Anxiousness is contagious. People see you anxious, they get it themselves.	/r/seduction	13/10/13 07:35 PM
11	10 pieces of pickup advice for shorter men 11. Don't give a shit and don't worry about it. I'm 5'3" and in general, everyone forgets that I am this short. I do not wear tall shoes. I don't the manipulate objects juxtaposed to me. I'm just a big personality. If you really connect with people, your height will be the last thing anyone notices.	/r/seduction	13/10/13 07:33 PM
2	The biggest obstacle to my Inner Game I didn't realize. First, if you don't actually think you have a lot to offer, go out and change that. Get to know your city, the cool spots, live music offerings, good restaurants and coffee shops. Learn to dance, get an awesome hobby. Be an interesting person. It's really hard to talk yourself into "there's a lot I can show this person" if you don't actually believe it. Next, your intention is to get laid or to get to know this girl better in a romantic context. Redefine success to be "I gave her a chance to han…	/r/seduction	13/10/13 07:28 PM
2	The biggest obstacle to my Inner Game I didn't realize. Yeah, even in an LTR, that independence is what keeps a healthy relationship healthy. Neediness can slowly erode stability as each side gets more and more paranoid about being left, which turns vicious cycle into turning the other person off.	/r/seduction	13/10/13 07:14 PM
-2	The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity. The fears are paper tigers. You can do anything you decide to do. You can act to change and control your life; and the procedure, the process is its own reward. Okay there, buddy.	/r/seduction	12/10/13 01:01 AM
-2	The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity. The fears are paper tigers. You can do anything you decide to do. You can act to change and control your life; and the procedure, the process is its own reward. Trust me. This is more useful for purposes of r/seduction.	/r/seduction	11/10/13 09:41 PM
-2	The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity. The fears are paper tigers. You can do anything you decide to do. You can act to change and control your life; and the procedure, the process is its own reward. Came across this quote and thought it'd be useful here, regardless of the prejudices imposed by having the source. If anyone wants the source, they can google it: first result.	/r/seduction	11/10/13 03:48 PM