porvis Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	From rock bottom in October to feeling like myself again (and more) — for anyone at the start of separation I was in your shoes back in September / October. Hardly ate, sleep was terrible, just tons of stress. Give yourself some grace. A lot of ups and downs to come but it does get better	/r/Divorce_Men	20/04/26 09:35 PM
2	Post Divorce Guidance Totally understand. Everyone gets to that point on different timelines. Keep at it man, the grieving (and growth) process take time	/r/Divorce_Men	23/02/26 05:55 PM
2	Post Divorce Guidance Yeah. There are a lot of factors that would determine when someone is ready. Also, going on casual dates, meeting people and having fun is a good way to get out there (imo) before trying to find your next life partner / LTR.	/r/Divorce_Men	23/02/26 05:29 PM
3	Post Divorce Guidance All advice on this topic is very one size fits all. There’s so much nuance as every situation is completely different. Some people should probably wait more than a year (!!) while others will be ready much more quickly.	/r/Divorce_Men	23/02/26 04:49 PM
2	I don't know if it's too soon, considering a vasectomy I personally wouldn’t do it right now. I also have two kids and am going through the process but am 11 years older. I thought about it seriously enough to schedule an appointment but then realized I have no idea what the future holds and who I’ll meet. You’re really young and have a full life ahead of you. You very well may meet an amazing woman who you want to have kids with (hard to imagine now while you’re in the thick of it). I’d wait until your life settles a bit and emotions cool down to m…	/r/Divorce_Men	21/02/26 02:39 AM
7	Am I Back In This? This may be tough to hear, but there is a good chance your wife has already checked out. And if that’s the case, it is VERY hard to get her back. It is much more common for women to grieve the relationship and be disengaged by the time they come to the husband. That doesn’t mean you aren’t back in it. Focus on what you can control right now - showing up for your kids, being consistent, making changes that you know have been pain points (do the stuff your wife wants to see but do not draw attenti…	/r/Divorce_Men	19/02/26 03:27 AM
1	Get a therapist. One of the important parts of therapy for me has been to understand myself better. My marriage was good for the most part but things started to crack over the past couple years. Learning about how things like my upbringing impacted the way I handled emotions and conflict has helped me to both understand my role in our marriage ending and the why behind my actions. I’ve found this to be very very helpful to break cycles and change how I interact with friends and family (including my two little ki…	/r/Divorce_Men	19/01/26 02:35 PM
5	Stbxw has been secretly making double my income for many years while I struggled. Yeah, I saw his collection there. I got them for a good price. Can’t believe he would misplace them like that.	/r/Divorce_Men	04/01/26 01:07 PM