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It's definitely different than 15-20 years ago. But I've found it actually kind of interesting and there are quality people out there. But they aren't spending their time with everyone, just the people they choose. The easiest example is with dating apps, where I will get completely different matches if I'm 100 pounds overweight and spouting negativity than if I'm fit, working on myself, and have lots to offer people. And it's not like people are jerks who are seeking out overweight, depressed p…
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/24 05:37 PM
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I think this isn't a true generalization, it's just your experience. So it's important for me not to judge everyone based on the sample I've experienced. It's a big world out there, and there are many people. You said that you're struggling and not in good physical shape. So it's quite possible and likely that you may not be encountering some quality people because they are avoiding you. It takes effort (and is really fun) to meet and learn about people. You can't judge people based on superfici…
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/24 04:49 PM
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But you don't have to be or stay that way. One thing you'll find is that you aren't fixed. And you have more control over yourself than you think or fear. So don't dwell on being a loser. Most people are losers. Just do positive things to help you realize what you can modify.
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/24 04:45 PM
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It’s not a cure all. It’s just good advice. Everyone should keep giving it. Your points are kind of valid but don’t matter. It’s one of many positive things that really apply to anyone going through life changes where self esteem and physical health are good ideas. The gym is for everyone. At least to try.
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/23 07:12 PM
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If your wife if rational, and well advised by an attorney, she won’t accept having her name on the car’s title and your name on the note. This is too much risk that you’ll default and she’ll lose the car. Also, your bank probably holds the title until the loan is paid, and you won’t be able to sign it over to her. And you said you’ve been irresponsible with debt, along with her, in the past so having a 3-6 year loan ahead after divorce is asking for unnecessary headaches. Since debts and assets …
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/23 02:57 PM
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Get an unlined wool so it doesn’t have too much shape. Pay about $300-800 or get one from goodwill. It will go with everything and last for 40 years.
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/23 06:17 PM
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I suspect it’s a percentage of divisible assets. There’s so many factors where I’ve read about bitterly contested divorces that cost $10k and ones that cost $100k. I don’t know if it’s ever knowable but I suspect that it’s always about 10-20% of assets (eg, if there’s $500k available to pay lawyers it will cost $50-100k total from both sides; but if there’s only $25k then it only costs $2-5k total both sides).
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/23 01:36 AM
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Do you have any student loans? I would bet that your STBX is asking for recoupment and will negotiate it away for her not having half of her student loans. I don't know about your state, but in mine, my attorney said that pensions and home value and all other valuations depend on the final date of judgement, not separation. It seems like there are lots of weird requests, my attorney said that at trial everything is basically split 50/50. So you can agree to pay expenses or whatever you like, but…
/r/Divorce_Men30/09/23 09:26 PM
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It will cost you out of pocket. Judge will probably just say "don't do that again" and is unlikely to award you attorney fees over such a small amount. If your divorce is final, then this will cost you just to get before the judge. If your divorce is pending, then just save this for the end as one more thing. But ask your attorney and see what they say. And know that you're paying your attorney to as them questions like this.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/23 01:07 AM
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I think each person in the relationship needs to have their own career and financial independence.
/r/Divorce_Men15/09/23 12:12 AM
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I’d keep some of my stuff and my retirement It seems unlikely that any judge would let you keep your retirement. It's a community asset and will be split 50/50. Even if you are the only one who paid into it. Even if you funded other stuff that she keeps instead of retirement. One thing that helped me is to create a "marital balance sheet" that lists all assets and debts. Unless there's some special circumstance (it's a pre marital asset, it's inheritance and your state breaks that out), it's get…
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/23 05:42 PM
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I'm not sure about that. My ex hid every asset they had and it was like pulling teeth to go through discovery to find them. Do you know what the judge did about those false statements and lies and extra costs to discover? Absolutely nothing, the judge just added them to the pile and split them 50/50. It was infuriating.
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/23 09:19 PM
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Financial aspects of divorce are really hard. One thing that helped me is to focus on what matters and carve away all the “bs thoughts” about what should be or what was planned. You were never going to inherit anything. She was going to inherit. Even in community property states, typically inheritance is not divided. You may have been paying father in law’s mortgage through your rent, but all renters pay someone’s mortgage. I think even if you had a written agreement of “pay this rent and you ge…
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/23 11:35 AM
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WellsFargo was funny. I asked if I could take ex name off, WF said no. Then I asked about assumption and they said yes.
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/23 08:56 PM
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I got quotes a really high closing but most of it was prepaids for insurance and taxes that I already had since I own the home. Initial estimate was $14k, actual was $3k. It seems like they treat it like a new mortgage that requires all these costs. Ask them for a breakdown of closing costs.
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/23 08:55 PM
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She didn't ask to marry, right? You don't have to be exclusive forever, just while you are dating them. If you don't like someone enough to be exclusive, then don't be, and move on. I think many people will want to take exclusively, if only for a few weeks or whatever. If you limit yourself to only people who tolerate casual sex, that's your prerogative but you will only be able to date a others who feel similarly.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 08:31 PM
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Fortunately for you there are many attorneys who do not charge for the initial consultation. So you may want to adjust your preference if you want to avoid your wife seeing the charge for “Divorceo Family Law.” As you know, this is a great question to ask your divorce attorney. And you probably want to consult many attorneys anyway to find the right one and ask them each this question and see how they respond.
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/23 11:42 AM
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I didn't start learning about divorce law and the specifics about how it worked in the West until after I got married. I don’t think it’s good karma to make others suffer for your mistake. Again, you made a life altering decision for you and another human without doing proper analysis. There’s no new information now. You just messed up and didn’t do what you’re supposed to do. Would you buy a house without researching? Or buy a car? Getting married is a huge decision and you kind of were stupid …
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/23 12:24 AM
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She definitely loves me, and I do think that I love and care about her. Maybe focus on whether you love her. Don't put the blame on her. Don't make a sacrifice for her. That's great that she loves you, but work on whether you love her and if you want to be married to her. "Homesick" is not real and is certainly not permanent. It's like overcoming not wanting to work. Or overcoming how to stay awake and take care of your baby. It's something adults figure out. You're not at summer camp, just make…
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/23 09:58 PM
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Sounds like you may want to set up some couples counseling to work out what your common goals are. This seems like something you should have known and figured out before committing to marriage and definitely something you should communicate about and there was a misunderstanding before marriage. That being said, it seems like an individual decision and there's going to be pros and cons to whatever you decide. People don't just "get homesick" to the extent that they divorce or force their spouse …
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/23 05:35 PM
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I’ve been there. And I suspect many others here as well. 100% certain it isn’t an affair. It’s some other not understood weird shift of someone we’ve known for years. Spoiler, it’s an affair. Maybe your situation is truly unique. But most likely it’s the same as everyone else. It’s natural to think to it ex isn’t a horrible person who would betray everything you’ve built together. But, yeah, she’s definitely banging someone and you’re still in the delusional phase.
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/23 01:58 PM
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You can always consult with the two in town lawyers and then hire the big city guy. This gets you the big city guy and then disallows you STBX from using either of the in town lawyers because they have an existing relationship with you.
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/23 03:08 PM
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Be careful. Orca are saltwater and minnows are freshwater. You need a lawyer that works with the water of your judge and family court. Having a huge orca (that doesn’t eat minnows btw) will not help you if the court is freshwater.
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/23 01:46 AM
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She used to babysit dogs, she cant do that in an appt. She's giving up a dog bc she can't take it with her. She loved fostering puppies and is handing off the ones we have asap so she can move Yeah, she's different now. She used to be your wife of 13 years. One thing that really helped me is to stop trying to figure things out and stop trying to fix and help her do what I think is best. There was no peace in that path. She'll do lots of different things. If you keep being surprised or trying to …
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/23 08:59 PM
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It's a tough spot and I understand. I just chalk it up to people doing dumb stuff and looking for help anywhere. We're all human and do really dumb things. What I try to do any time I'm freaking out and looking for help is to at least summarize my view of the situation so at least people know I know I screwed up. Sometimes it just helps to talk and to know that people end up getting through all their dumb mistakes. I would be so furious if my spouse spent all that money on filing divorce and mee…
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/23 05:11 PM
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Because the mortgage is in his name. He has to pay it whether he lives there or not. Spousal support is money that goes directly from one spouse to another. Paying things that benefit the other spouse (eg, mortgage, power, water, insurance, etc) is not spousal support. It's also not child support. That's why it is so important to get living arrangements set up properly in the temporary order or you end up being hosed with having to pay all the current bills and then figure out how to live on top…
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/23 02:25 PM
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Here's the 4 conditions for alimony in Texas [0], and I'm guessing #2 or #3 is going to come into effect based on OP's comment that he's the breadwinner and they have kids: 1) The spouse (who would be paying, also known as the obligor) has been convicted of or received deferred adjudication for a family violence offense against the other spouse or the other spouse’s child within two years before filing the divorce or while the divorce is pending. The length of the marriage is irrelevant. 2) The …
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/23 08:05 PM
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Don’t leave. Get a lawyer. Do you want to divorce? If so, file. It doesn’t matter much who files and if you file you can get it started. Aim for 50/50 custody. If you’re the bread winner, you’ll likely pay alimony and child support.
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/23 11:48 AM
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Not knowing your specifics, how would you think courts would decide how to split up assets? Half of college tuition seems pretty reasonable, right? Would you expect to pay less? And for child support, it's just a formula. Do you think you shouldn't pay child support if she has full custody? In my state it's just a function of percent custody and income, so if you made 170 and she made 200 and you had 50/50, she would pay you. I would kill for only half the assets and childcare expenses.
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/23 05:48 PM
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All banks allow deposit by mail. Fill out a deposit slip, sign it for both parties and mail it in. You don’t need to ask anyone. Then once the check clears mail her half. Sadly, I don’t think you have a case because the check was made to both of you. So she didn’t steal anything. She probably consulted a lawyer or just googled it and learned this.
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/23 02:54 AM
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It won't show neglect because she has the kids in the care of her mom. It was hard for me to learn that the standard for neglect is what the family or criminal courts consider neglect, not what I consider neglect as a parent. So if she's leaving your 2 year old alone for 24 hours, that's neglect. Call the cops. But if she's leaving your kids with her mom for a week so she can bone 100 dudes, the court won't consider that neglect. What you can do is ask for the right of first refusal so that when…
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/23 12:56 PM
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What do the temporary orders say about location of exchange? If it says nothing then you’ll want to file for a change because it’s easy for her to refuse to meet at police station and if you don’t pick up your kids, you don’t pick them up, so she wins. Neither of you is under an obligation to accommodate the other outside of what the order says.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/23 04:07 AM
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I understand your point and your frustration. But a court won’t care. It’s very frustrating because my paramount goal was to minimize harm to my kids but they are definitely worse off because of ex’s behavior. However, you can’t control her actions. You can’t control what she reads and leaves around the house. She’s going to bring men over to meet the kids, you can’t do anything. She could leave out writings saying “your father is an abuser” and you won’t be able to control it. The way you can s…
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/23 04:05 AM
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Imagine if she asked you not to leave your books out, how would you respond? You're going to encounter a million things like this and it's a good idea to work on some way that it doesn't affect you. You can't control her behavior. My limited experience with the court is they won't care unless the kids are in immediate danger, and even then only if there are police and/or child services reports. But let's imagine the court did care. And the judge issued an injunction to stop her from leaving book…
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/23 07:43 PM
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Yeah, it’s not a foolproof plan but better than my last attempt of “career doesn’t matter, only love, we’ll make it work.”
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/23 11:02 AM
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I think alimony was set up because many spouses give up their work for family and alimony helps distribute income over the life of the individuals. That being said, the lesson here is to never have one spouse working and the other not. If both partners make similar income then alimony won’t exist. Raising kids is difficult in this situation as it’s such hard work and difficult to do while furthering a career. But people do. If I could do it over again, I would prioritize the career of my mate as…
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/23 10:56 AM
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I disagree. I think there are lots of types of breakups. But I wouldn’t want to be romantically involved with someone who is loaning money to exes, especially so they can buy crack. People borrow money from friends because all banks and loan sharks have turned them down. There’s no reason to still be friends with a toxic ex after 13 years. It’s not a sign of maturity. It’s a sign of immaturity.
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/23 01:39 PM
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Your gf should leave you just to teach you a lesson. This seems likely. If my partner was loaning money to their ex from 13 years ago so they could buy crack, then that would be a huge negative and red flag for me. Who has time for someone with that kind of bad relationship. It's weird enough that OP talked to their ex-wife.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/23 06:04 PM
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If there are multiple owners, then how can the bank repossess due to non-payment if only one owner takes out a mortgage? Is there some release that the other owner signs to allow it? Otherwise, that seems like an opportunity for abuse if there are multiple owners then one could takeout mortgage for full amount and just not pay and then have the home repossessed.
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/23 04:55 PM
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I've wondered this too. I'm not sure how someone refinances unless they are the only person on the deed, thus needing a quitclaim before refi. When I refinanced my home, they required everyone on the deed to be on the mortgage. But maybe there are different banks with different practices.
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/23 02:25 PM
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Narcissism is everywhere. Most people who call others narcisissits are also narcisissists. Narcissism doesn't ruin marriages as like 75% of the planet is "narcissist." If someone is married to a narcissist for 10 years, they can be for 20 or 50. I like your advice about working on the problem. Saying "my partner is da devil" makes total sense because I, and I assume everyone, feels this way. But it's just venting and not the reason things fail. It's actually kind of funny because saying "my part…
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/23 01:10 PM
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I don’t think that’s good advice as hiding assets or trying to cut corners is both bad financially as well as even harder, emotionally. One thing that’s helped me during my process is to work on doing “the right thing.” It sucks financialy to split everything 50/50 but it also sucks to split everything 40/60. And it really sucks when the judge finds you hiding $2M and gives it all to your spouse after the extra $100k in discovery fees and whatnot. I don’t think it’s possible to accurately predic…
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/23 12:50 PM
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And I forgot to add that you should never raise your voice or approach her. If she comes close to you, walk away. My advice was to not even speak with her at all. No matter what she does or say, just don’t engage. If you end up cohabitating, consider only communicating in writing. A weekly coordination email or something.
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/23 01:24 PM
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If you are both on the deed and it’s both of your legal residence then you can both live there. If she’s crazy, be ready for crazy. If she calls the cops, have recording and evidence. Be normal. If the cops ask you to leave say it’s your house and you don’t want to abandon your home. They may ask her to say. I consulted a lot with my attorney and they were helpful. The certainty is that if you aren’t living in the house when you go before the judge then you’re way more likely to not get the hous…
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/23 12:51 PM
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Your attorney can require these documents during discovery and if she doesn’t produce you can put in a motion for contempt. If the w2 shows the income that should be sufficient and what she literally does, doesn’t really matter. Just assume that all income is being dumped to cash and impossible to track.
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/23 09:38 PM
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It’s a tough spot. What helped me is to just mentally be past it all. I don’t care what f-boy they’re seeing. I don’t talk about anything other than what’s required. You don’t seem to describe a reconciliation. It seems to be stressing you out and putting your feelings contingent on your ex’s actions. That’s a hard place to stay and seems like it will result in pain.
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/23 01:52 PM
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And that’s one of the reasons why you’re divorcing her.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/23 04:08 PM
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Property division is not income, so your stbx would not pay taxes on any asset distribution. There may be taxes from sales to divide the income (selling a house) but I think there’s a capital gains deduction for $250k per person (consult a tax person) so $120k wouldn’t matter. If you pay her as w2, they both you and they will have to pay payroll taxes (~15%) and you’ll have to pay unemployment taxes. This is likely greater than any differential in tax brackets between $120k in one year vs $40k p…
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/23 11:44 AM
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I think the first day that the irs accepted returns was Jan 23. In a high conflict divorce, it helps to file as early as possible.
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/23 06:56 PM
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Most probably. Unless you purchased it for a higher price than you sold it, you will pay short term (I think your marginal income tax rate) or long term (a reduced rate) capital gains. So it’s quite likely that if the stock was a grant and your effective cost is $0 then you’ll pay 20-35% tax on the $50k. And if you time it wrong you could get divorced this year and so split the difference with your spouse and then owe 100% of the tax next year when you file separately. It may be more useful to k…
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/23 11:44 AM
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Of course, a lawyer will answer best. My understanding is that marital debts and assets are split equitably (not exactly 50/50, but close). So if you sell stock to only pay off debt it’s a wash. Things to consider: is the sale above board (ie, not to a special party, for a fair value, not in exchange for some future career consideration, etc); taxes (ie if you sell stock for $50k and pay off debt for $50k, what about the taxes due on that $50k of earnings); would your spouse prefer the stock ove…
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/23 10:40 AM
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Don’t be on social media. I’m another comment you mention you’re in media and have to be on social media. I’m that case, don’t create a personal account, create a NearlyEbb5994Inc account and have your people run it for you. If you don’t have people, then you don’t truly need to be on social media. I expect that your ex is doing this because she knows you read the messages and that it gets to you. Once she figures out you don’t read them and it doesn’t get to you, she’ll stop. Or you won’t care …
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/23 12:03 PM
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True. But I figured it was high net worth since they had $30k sitting in their checking account.
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/23 09:51 AM
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Seems pretty easy to spend $30k on an attorney. There's lawyers that friends of mine have used who require a $25k retainer. You'll find it out during discovery. My money is on up front attorney fee, because why not.
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/23 10:09 PM
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I like how you articulate this. If divorce has taught me one thing, it’s to focus on what I can control. And being able to take the high road throughout an arduous process is something I can work on and control.
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/22 11:32 AM
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My spouses lawyer was such a jerk. They would say the meanest things during every court appearance and it didn’t even matter. It was weird how the judge doesn’t really care what the attorneys say, but they would repeat the same lie or mean phrase 20 times. In just random interactions. I never allowed my attorney to be so mean and rude. I would never wish harm on someone and certainly want to always follow the law, but I understand how people really hate lawyers.
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/22 01:01 AM
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Sorry, it’s hard. Just remember that you don’t have to answer. It took a lot of work for me to realize that I don’t have to respond to calls and texts from ex. If it’s an emergency related to the kids, I answer. So far, it’s never been an emergency.
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/22 05:48 PM
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The more relevant question is why would you talk to your soon to be ex about this? Focus on yourself and what you can change. What I work on and spend my energy on is stopping myself from opening the door to crazy and inviting them in. One thing I found that helps is not to talk on the phone. There’s nothing short of an emergency that requires a phone call. Put everything in writing and wait a week before responding.
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/22 12:50 PM
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Mediation is not cheap, but it’s cheaper than getting lawyers and going in front of the judge. If you have a better idea for resolving conflict in the parenting plan, please share. I think it’s better to be super explicit in the parenting plan to set up rules that make it unnecessary for mediation or court.
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/22 04:13 PM
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Yep, it doesn’t stop the arguments it just pushes everything downstream. Being able to agree to a mediator / arbiter (prolly not ex’s mother) ahead of time will save money 5 years from now when there’s a disagreement like who pays for the fancy braces or horse camp in Switzerland, etc etc
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/22 01:11 PM
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Not all divorce decrees include a parenting plan, but I think it’s a good idea. The parenting plan doesn’t have to be a set of inflexible rules and could be as simple as “custody should be split 50/50 per parents judgement and all disagreements are mediated by X.” Perhaps you have some zen relationship with your ex but without a parenting plan you have to go back to court and that’s expensive.
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/22 01:04 PM
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Comically money market accounts have been 0.01% for the past few years. Still $100k per billion but not as much as usual.
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/22 10:10 PM
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Sadly you will never have this answer or have closure. The closest I’ve found is “because this is why we are getting divorced.” It’s a tough realization when I accepted that the universe doesn’t answer “why?” and I just don’t know. If you’re religious, God might tell you when you’re dead. If you’re not religious, you’ll never know. Even if she told you why, you wouldn’t be able to believe it. Don’t focus on trying to answer, just work on what you will do.
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/22 11:36 AM
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I don’t think there are high conflict exes but there are high conflict couples. We have a lot of ability to reduce and avoid conflict. If my ex is able to constantly cause conflict, then there’s probably something I can do to not have conflict. Or perhaps I also create conflict.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/22 12:00 PM
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This was surprising to me too. I had been working with counselors and trying to “figure out” how to improve my marriage. I was surprised how many couple friends told me how my wife had been saying how much our marriage sucked and had been planning to leave for years. The part that surprised me was that she didn’t say anything to me and instead of talking about ideas to improve marriage was talking about how to set up financially for a divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/22 04:31 PM
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The hardest part is just struggling with how it’s so much context that is really impossible to communicate. Second hardest is people who say “we love you both and don’t want to take sides.” Third is it’s surprising how many people don’t think cheating is very bad or hearing their justification.
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/22 04:26 PM
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Married people have joint finances, so either party can use funds to pay for lawyers and attorneys. It burns up savings but I think that may be part of the point. Funds are spent up so neither party has them. I don’t think it’s an ethical thing to do, but I think many people end up burning through all savings.
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/22 04:34 PM
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Note that your diary is discoverable if you go to trial. Everything written down anywhere will get read by opposing.
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/22 05:41 PM
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You posted to this forum, that's asking for advice. I think GP was just trying to help, so being polite is the right move here. If you don't want any advice and don't want comments, then state that in your post and let the world know that you're just venting and don't want anything back. Or better yet, just don't post at all.
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/22 05:40 PM
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Yes, of course. Get a crisp $1 bill and make a big show of hanging it over. That way opposing counsel gets jealous that their non-insane client didn’t tip them.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/22 04:39 PM
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If you’re paying the psychologist and there’s no measure but your validation, then, following the rules of consultants, they will validate your feelings.
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/22 05:52 PM
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I suppose it helps that there are others worse off. It's good to put things in perspective. If I had to guess, I think it's probably closely correlated to a percentage of assets and it's just a coincidence that attorneys bill lots for people who have money and not as much for people who don't.
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/22 03:50 PM
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Sorry, it’s a nightmare and I don’t know when it ends. I’ve spent, directly about $20k and my spouse has spent more and we have no end in sight. It’s surreal how stupid this all is and that it costs so much. I’m not rich either, just lawyers have been having us max out all our credit cards and liquidate all assets to put them.
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/22 03:14 PM
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One thing that's helped me, and I learned in the state mandated parenting seminar, is no passing messages. If my kids friends parents want to invite them to something on my weekend, they should message me. If they ask me and it's my spouses's weekend, I ask them to message my spouse. If my spouse makes plans on my week-end, I ask them not to, and then don't follow them as I didn't make the plans. My kids have been very helpful and when they ask me, I just ask their parents to contact me. It take…
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/22 11:58 PM
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If you give her time, you’ll lose your house, end up with 50/50 custody paying about40-60% of your income in alimony and child support. Get a lawyer now and get started while she says she just wants to split.
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/22 12:05 AM
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Sorry to break it to you, but you’re going to have no money whenever you divorce. Your finances will be fuxored for a few years so don’t spend time worrying about that. Imaging eye divorce shitshow you’re going to have in court if you file after spending thousands of dollars renewing vows. It’s likely that if your wife knows (since you’re posting stuff on the internet), you’ll be forced to pay for all bow expenses yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/22 07:14 PM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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