| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 163 | Starting a new chapter: My journey from alcoholic waitress to first solo apartment and new career | QUEEN SH*T | prettytheft | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 03:11 PM |
| 1 | "Why diDN't sHE saY AnyThinG" - Johnny Depp ruled a "wife beater" in UK | MALE DEPRAVITY | prettytheft | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 08:00 PM |
| 1 | We'll Never Be This Way Again: "Me at 21 after forgiving my ex for cheating on me bc he bought me flowers" | NICE FOR WHAT? | prettytheft | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 09:02 PM |
| 1 | "I am not a hag!" | DISCUSSION | prettytheft | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 04:05 PM |
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 8 | I’ve reached a point in my life where I advise my child free friends not to procreate with men. Exhibit a:Or even like 2 weeks, in his little head. "I gave her some time and I warned her that I would expect her to be on her feet within two weeks. But she doesn't seem to be making any progress, even though she agreed to it. It's been four weeks and she's still lying in bed past the alarm, and I even need to google how much formula to give the baby" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 04:37 AM |
| 17 | I got some takeaways from the Netflix series You (season 1) that prove FDS is the wayBeck knew there was something off about Joe. She did what so many women do now ... ignored her instincts. That's the thing about Joe (and it's beautifully portrayed in Season 3 with Marienne as well). There's something off about him. A healthy, normal woman can sense it ... that's why Beck was lukewarm about him ... and why Marienne put him off (at first). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 04:06 PM |
| 6 | I saw his fiancéeSave a life, send her those screenshots | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 03:51 PM |
| 12 | Journalists are a special kind of vulturesYou don't know that most major news organizations are owned by only a few parent companies and you call yourself a journalist? I have doubts about your "journalism" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 09:31 PM |
| 17 | Please, sign this petition!! https://t.co/vtYfrSVCGT?amp=1Sorry, worse in the US or worse in France? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 04:27 PM |
| 52 | Wholesome conversations I overheard my neighbour having with his (30 something) friendsThanks for this post, this was really nice to read ☺️ Sometimes we can get so caught up trying to cope with our treatment that we lose sight of what we’re aiming for. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/21 11:43 AM |
| 12 | A Valedictorian used her platform for the greater goodMade me angry to see the male students sitting there not clapping | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 06:06 PM |
| 2 | Even men think pickmes are embarrassing.Yup. For the pedigree. It’s a class differential | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 05:11 PM |
| 7 | Sex workers accusing us of slut shaming then in the next breath mocking us for "sucking dick for free" ...wow. And they have the audacity to demand we "support sex workers"Sex work is easy money. It really isn't | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 08:14 PM |
| 74 | Men will never understand how vulnerable it feels to be a womanAn hour long conversation with you crying for him to acknowledge your boundary? That doesn’t sound high value to me dude | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 01:09 PM |
| 166 | On today’s episode of MEN (TM) fetishists ruin EVERYTHING. 🤢🤢What?!?! I know that forum! I used to read it a few years ago when I was trying to grow out my hair. That was run by fetishists?! Jesus Christ nowhere is safe | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/21 12:53 PM |
| 17 | Rejected a low effort dateThe point is the effort, not the beverage. SAY IT LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 11:44 PM |
| 4 | What happens if you give wife benefits to a HVM?Yo thank you so much for explaining this because I was struggling too (I love cooking and having meals with people, for instance). The reciprocity is the crucial part. I got it now! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/21 01:12 AM |
| 6 | The Atlanta Shooting and how it relates to the exploitation of Asian womenI noticed that about the Asian subs on Reddit too, glad you pointed it out | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/21 12:24 AM |
| 6 | SAFETY TIP: IF A MAN ASKS YOU FOR HELPOooh maybe I will finally watch it then | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 08:06 PM |
| 29 | Advice from a divorce lawyer - on Love, Marriage and FeminismWhat an excellent source! Thank you so much for this and for taking the time to translate! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 03:23 PM |
| 4 | Pickmes are the women that men should ACTUALLY be worried about.So my time in the PickMe ghetto didn't make me conclude that women are generally "just as bad as men." Instead I'm pretty convinced that a system that didn't require women to suck up to abusive men for measly token positions and pathetic perks would bring a different kind of woman to the fore-- basically the ones getting trampled and discouraged in the current system. I think it would also bring to prominence a different breed of men because being a di*k-swinging boor wouldn't go over well witho… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/21 04:52 AM |
| 39 | Uhhh... I think the title speaks for itself 🤢🥲Somebody needs to hide the Asian women from this guy | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 02:33 AM |
| 16 | How has FDS affected your live otherwise than dating?Kiki's Delivery Service has at least 2 HVM. The last time I watched it, I cried a lot. Everyone is so nice to each other 🥲 Also, this might be weird but ... Titanic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 03:30 PM |
| 26 | Ain’t this the truth 🤔Happy birthday! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/21 08:33 PM |
| 8 | If he walks faster than you in public, DUMP HIMIt is astonishing how many of us have had the same issue with this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 03:04 PM |
| 17 | The audacity. You have absolutely nothing to offer any woman. You are not genuine. Your partner would be better off without you and probably your daughter as well.I wish I could eat this comment for breakfast, it is so nourishing | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 06:15 PM |
| 2 | Jezebel/Cosmo/Salon Columnist Tracy Clark Flory wrote a book where she outlines how she was an architect of everything wrong with "Sex PoZZy" Feminism. It was all a lie, a ruse, and she KNEW it was, but instead of honesty we got "Cool girl" libfem bullshit. I don't feel compassion, I feel rage.And of course I think there was maybe some hope that men would change a little more as well, and as a third wave feminist who is now an older single mom, I myself was shocked at how tenacious the traditional demands and expectations of being a mom and wife were in the relationship that I eventually left. I felt like I took an express train to Patriarchyville and I'm sure I'm not the only person with that experience. Preeeaaaach. I was with a "good man" for 7 years and I still think about how rid… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 05:56 PM |
| 11 | The audacity. You have absolutely nothing to offer any woman. You are not genuine. Your partner would be better off without you and probably your daughter as well.Oh God. I believe you. (I am in this demographic, ish) I don't know anyone specifically, but I can see a number of my acquaintances being into this (some of them are poly, yuck) and it makes my lip curl | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 04:55 PM |
| 6 | Why are they so lazy??For sure, it's the same logic as "Why don't you feel confident enough to sleep with me? Don't you feel sexy? I think you're sexy!" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 09:17 PM |
| 181 | Literally every guy I meet that I’m nice too thinks this. It’s why they hate women who are snarky. Unkind women are the worst thing on the planet according to them.I'm reading this as an attempt on her husband's part to drive a wedge between you and her! Isolation is definitely a tactic men use! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/21 08:34 PM |
| 19 | Online Dating Field Report: TLDR; no, don’t botherI also think that people just interact this way; this is how we were supposed to do things. How many times have we met a guy and tried to make it work because he looked good on paper? You can't (and shouldn't) ignore your gut about someone. You can't fake attraction. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/21 02:03 AM |
| 85 | Online Dating Field Report: TLDR; no, don’t botherI couldn't agree more with all of this! I've been against online dating more or less from the beginning. Also in my 30s (no kid though). It's my firm belief that a man worth his salt will approach me in public. I don't want him otherwise. It's hard to say how this will all shake out once the pandemic is over, but I also think that a lot of people have had to do a lot of soul-searching during this time, and we might be seeing some optimistic results from it. I live in perpetual hope for humanity … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 04:37 PM |
| 38 | new male just droppedTruly a gift that keeps on giving https://i.imgur.com/iT23qHT.jpg | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 08:27 PM |
| 52 | new male just droppedI guess this is the hierarchy pyramid. "The sigma and alpha are equal" https://i.imgur.com/XPnxKSV.jpg | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 08:03 PM |
| 81 | It’s NEVER your job to save him from himselfScreenshot that and send it to her. Fuck that guy, don't let him ruin her life | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/21 07:01 PM |
| 12 | Glad to know there are more women who are not afraid to speak up against kinky culture and its roots 👏👏👏👏👏👏Oh thanks got it. Gross. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 04:18 PM |
| 7 | Glad to know there are more women who are not afraid to speak up against kinky culture and its roots 👏👏👏👏👏👏So, I am old but what does "don't move" mean in this context? (The red text at the beginning) Can someone explain this sentence to me? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 03:59 PM |
| 81 | "I like Asian women because they're submissive" said the predatorWell she's dead so no it's not safe | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 02:00 PM |
| 12 | In my life, maybe two men have taken nice photos of me. The rest seem to be on some passive aggressive mission to make us feel awful about themselves.I was always SO insulted when my ex took photos of me -- always bad angles and mid-expression (which he insisted I "looked great"). It was really weird. I do think it was intentional. It's quite insidious because it's one of those "grey-area" easily-deniable pinpricks. Just a little reminder that you ain't all that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 02:31 PM |
| 2 | Should we make a backup in case we get banned?This is such a great post. I hope all dating apps die in a fire. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 04:02 PM |
| 13 | I turned down someone I really liked thanks to FDS.I don't know, I've had men say as much to me, in plain English. We both ended things with mutual respect. The fact that this has happened keeps me hopeful for the future | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 11:53 PM |
| 39 | FACT: Women dont want sex with incompetent manchildren. Which is why a womans sexual interest in her male partner drops off the fucking cliff!I remember this happening! I was in a relationship as a forever girlfriend with a man for 7 years. We hadn't slept together in 5 or 6 months and the thought of sleeping with him again was not appealing ... even though I, in theory, was still attracted to some parts of him. Life was stable, but it was constricting, and I couldn't see my way out of it, because he was a "good man". (Narrator: He wasn't) Then one day, Glee (the TV show) had a guest star that, for whatever reason ... hit all my butto… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 09:55 PM |
| 13 | Checked up on an old coworker on SM. Y'all... she got back together with an ex, had his baby, and then posted this.I love this comment because I'm imagining someone innocently buying an alpaca as a pet and then being informed that they must have a herd. "You think ONE alpaca is good, have you tried THREE?" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 03:11 PM |
| 28 | The type of women that redpill guys avoidSo far be it from me to defend upper middle class white ladies even though my mom is one (half of you suckers voted for Trump), but they can be abused, too. Always remember that the issue is shitty male behavior and that you're not entertaining it. I don't know how useful it is to bring up that RP men "hate" upper middle class white women when the truth is that they hate all women. I'm also not comfortable with holding up these women as an example of how we "should" act. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 02:48 PM |
| 159 | Say it louder for the male lurkers who claim we're misandrists huh 😂It's also a way of redirecting the conversation and putting you on the defense. It is a silencing tactic. See also: a partner who accuses you of being "mad", when you're actually one of the following: Disappointed Frustrated Calmly pointing out something that you don't like Don't fall for it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 08:17 PM |
| 134 | “its pretty cool cuz she doesnt care if i fuck up my life”This was definitely written by Christina lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 06:29 PM |
| 70 | YuppThat just sounds so infantilising. “Tell them how you made it!” as if she were bragging he could stand up on his own two legs without help! You know she is just trying to encourage more of this “helping in the kitchen” behavior but she sounds like his mommy not his wife, poor woman | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/20 07:11 PM |
| 19 | 😭😭😭😭WHY DID YOU TELL US THIS | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 03:24 AM |
| 25 | Boyfriends/Husbands who destroy their partners things: a FDS investigation.I'm so, so sorry. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 06:34 PM |
| 48 | Are literally all the men sitting there laughing at us as they ask us on "walking dates" and try to get us to come over to their apartments?Love this rundown, very accurate to me (mid 30s) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 02:36 PM |
| 2 | Ladies, yet another manipulation tactic we should be aware of! This one is more subtle and absolutely terrifying.Thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/20 10:06 PM |
| 38 | It’s the colorism, misogyny, ageism,and blatant disrespect for me. Black men are taking a full on L for this one.I dunno, I looked at his Instagram and I think he actually sucks. Also, if you see his latest post, he is amused by what black women are saying to him and makes no effort to explain himself. He's trash. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 11:29 PM |
| 7 | She says that Successful women have a harder time getting successful men. She says that those men are rare first of all and they don’t want to date you because of your achievements. They want you to be HOT as fuck and pure joy to be around . Thoughts ?I honestly think any man worth his salt will want an interesting, complex, and good-looking woman. A man who is looking for an unequal situation is not a worthy prospect. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 10:02 PM |
| 47 | I'm not sure if this belongs here. This is so disgusting!As an Asian woman, gross. I had an Asian friend who would only date guys with Asian fetishes because that's how she knew they "liked her" ... seemed surprised when I told her it was a rule of mine to never go out with a guy who was only into Asian women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 09:11 PM |
| 8 | Ladies married with a HVM, could you please let us know how this positively impacted your life?He sounds incredible! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 12:24 AM |
| 33 | The most empowering takeaway from FDS is "you don't have to put up with this"He didn’t do you a favor! You succeeded in spite of him. He was a test, not a favor. (In my humble opinion) I’ll be damned if I give any of my abusers credit for the progress I have made! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 02:39 PM |
| 50 | The most empowering takeaway from FDS is "you don't have to put up with this"People with regular parents don’t understand what it takes for a child to cut off their parent! It’s not like the child WANTS to be parentless. The child will have done everything they could. This is why it’s a huge red flag when a parent complains that their kid cut them off. What did you do to deserve it, Dad? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 02:35 PM |
| 18 | I wish all of you ladies that feeling. 💪😎Mostly I feel contempt | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 02:32 PM |
| 13 | Men only bringing the audacity, yet again, to the table!Of course not, but if he is chugging beer and hot dogs every day, there’s a far greater chance of a heart attack, diabetes, etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 08:54 PM |
| 22 | Men only bringing the audacity, yet again, to the table!I dunno, I’m 36 and in excellent shape and want a man in great shape too. Don’t want to end up nursing anybody either | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 08:43 PM |
| 2 | Starting a new chapter: My journey from alcoholic waitress to first solo apartment and new careerIt's not. It's Dr Ramani, the YouTube channel that I linked at the bottom :) I guess Reddit just automatically pulls the image from that | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 12:50 PM |
| 4 | Starting a new chapter: My journey from alcoholic waitress to first solo apartment and new careerI was also an alcoholic waitress who realized the kind of man I want isn't going to want the kind of woman I was. I realize that this approach is a little backwards or sideways compared to what is usually preached in this sub, but it's the truth. I still have faith that HVM exist, and one of my goals is finding a great partner that I can build a great life with. I can't do that if I am not also great, myself. Finding this sub was like having the last piece fall into place on my journey to self-r… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 11:25 PM |
| 2 | Starting a new chapter: My journey from alcoholic waitress to first solo apartment and new careerHey, look at you! You made it through a rough week. Proud of you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 11:16 PM |
| 66 | Classic “let’s go on a walk”"if you want to" -- I HATE that. You mean, YOU want to, bro. Can't even commit to one fricken' date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 05:55 PM |
| 10 | Starting a new chapter: My journey from alcoholic waitress to first solo apartment and new careerThis is the hardest bit for me. I veered off-track myself and I’m still having a hard time sometimes not resenting myself for past mistakes and letting go of what-could-have-beens. I struggle with this too, even though I’m able to recognize those thoughts for what they are and “put them away”. It isn’t easy to understand fully what’s been done, either to you or by you, which is why (in my opinion) some people opt to stay in the dark (like there is that thread I saw today about not being able to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 05:22 PM |
| 12 | Starting a new chapter: My journey from alcoholic waitress to first solo apartment and new career100%!! No shade on people who want to make a career out of hospitality, but for the majority of people (especially FOH) it’s just a way of making money while you do what you really want “on the side”. It’s a tough trap to get out of that’s only now (kind of) getting recognized. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 05:09 PM |
| 4 | Starting a new chapter: My journey from alcoholic waitress to first solo apartment and new careerYou can do it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 05:06 PM |
| 18 | Starting a new chapter: My journey from alcoholic waitress to first solo apartment and new careerRestaurants can have such a toxic work environment! Not great for substance abusers either FOH or BOH! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 03:52 PM |
| 9 | It's not about if you love each other, it's about how he makes you feel. There is no love that is worth crying yourself to sleep every night. Choose you, sis.It's a learning curve but so so worth it. I have learned to stop loving people who don't treat me well. Next move is loving someone who treats me right ... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 06:58 PM |
| 13 | The “not all men” guys are the worstOh honey. That is so wrong. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 09:17 PM |
| 10 | There you have it. Why movie dates are for LVM - they don't care enough to think of something to do AND they have awful social skills.This comment was a ride lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 03:54 PM |
| 3 | There's a difference.Realizing that sub was bad was what eventually led me here. I, like so many women here, have seen the disconnect between what's preached and what actually shows up at your door. So glad to cut out the bullshit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 11:30 PM |
| 3 | There's a difference.That sub is so terrible. Still regret asking them for advice last year before I knew better | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 10:21 PM |
| 10 | Why Good Women Are Losing On Dating AppsNo. No way. I want sex so much that even Burt from Sesame Street is starting to look good. But I know what casual sex means (it means I get tossed aside, more often than not) so I've chosen to not partake. It does NOT mean I am demisexual. I also think that "demisexual" is a potentially harmful way of labeling dissatisfaction ... I take responsibility for my own sexuality, and that includes being strict about who I let in. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 02:46 PM |
| 45 | A girl had my back todayPlease let us know if you need to talk But also when you dump this guy | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/20 02:15 PM |
| 6 | Book recommendation: Why Does He Do That? By Lundy BancroftI have bought this book multiple times -- at least 5 -- and given it away every time. There is always a woman who needs to read it. I've just given away my last copy ... time to buy another one. This book gave me my life back after I left my last abusive relationship. It also reset my thinking in SO many ways. It is an incredibly important book. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/20 06:43 AM |
| 10 | Has anyone here pulled an “Elle Woods” and gotten a “revenge degree”?Good for you! It's so sad how often the first instinct when someone messes with us is to feel shame :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/20 05:59 AM |
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