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It's nothing to track because it's really a combination of things working together, its the whole picture not a specific trait on it's own.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/26 01:20 PM
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Are they ranting about all sex or just bad sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/26 01:14 PM
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Maybe ask in r/asexual? Most women do like sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/26 12:56 PM
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Personally I never really had a hoe phase. I've only had sex with 5 guys and 3 were relationships. I'm definitely more sexually adventurous when I'm with a guy I trust.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 04:16 PM
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So foe it to be love you need to love them no matter what abhorrent things they do or how they treat you?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 08:30 PM
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Of course it's conditional. There's a lot of horrific things a guy could do to make me stop loving him. If he hurt animals, kids, raped me, etc.. Men's love is conditional too. Men have fallen out of love with me when I no longer met their conditions.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 01:04 PM
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Was gonna say this lol
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 12:56 PM
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Right, men don't really need us either.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 03:11 AM
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I just mean my life would be fine if I was single.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 03:02 AM
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It depends on what they are complaining about and how often they complain. My ex complained CONSTANTLY, about everything, it drove me crazy, and he was always the victim in everything. That was annoying. But a normal amount of complaining is normal and fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 03:34 PM
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My standards are higher for a relationship in general. For looks it's the same for both, I want to be attracted to the guy. I tend to be into "cute" slim guys. For hookups he just has to be attractive and nice. For a relationship it's those plus a bunch of other stuff like shared values, financially stable, similar goals, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 01:28 PM
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It's unavoidable and it's just going to get worse with fewer people dating. "Women seem wicked, when you're unwanted"
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 11:43 PM
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It's not just here. The gender war stuff is everywhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 11:37 PM
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Yup. It's scary tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 11:20 PM
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I think in general men now are better than in the past. They are less needed though. And having access to men's unfiltered thoughts online can make them seem worse I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 10:12 PM
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He knows there's a risk of scaring a woman and making her feel awful...
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 11:21 AM
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In my case it comes from dating men like that and seeing friends and family date men like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 12:46 AM
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I'm glad my fiance doesn't see it that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 01:28 PM
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I think you might be misunderstanding what we mean by mothering. It isn't the nurturing part we mind. It's having a partner who lives like a teenage boy and expects us to clean for him and do his laundry and stuff like his mom always did. He doesn't act like an equal partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 12:42 PM
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Never. That only really happens if I've had a conversation with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 12:29 AM
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It depends on the financial situation I think
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 08:30 PM
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I don't think people forget, the dynamics of those relationships are usually quite obvious
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 07:57 PM
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Most of the liberal men I know are plenty masculine. I actually prefer less masculine men though.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 06:30 PM
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Within reason, yeah. I need a job though. I don't need an unequal romantic relationship. I couldn't pay rent with uber .
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 04:32 PM
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You don't need to be dependent on a romantic partner... I love my fiance but my life would go on if we broke up.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 03:21 PM
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If you're well paid st one job you'd generally be well paid at another one too. Certain fields limit your options for sure, it's a trade off some people make to either make good money or do something they love. I need my employer but my employer needs me too. There's a shortage.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 03:03 PM
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Age on it's own shouldn't prevent anyone from leaving. If one of them is completely financially dependent on the other it might but that's not inherent to age gaps
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 02:53 PM
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It's always important to be able to leave. Any relationship can go bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 02:37 PM
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With a power dynamic one person has a lot more to lose though. Normally both people have the same thing to lose, a romantic partner. A power difference changes it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 01:49 PM
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Power imbalances make it harder to leave. That's the issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 01:34 PM
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It's acceptable for either gender to consider it a deal breaker.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 01:16 PM
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Sure, it'll weed out most though. If they had no luck having sex early on its worth a try to them though. Probably could land them a desperate guy or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 12:59 PM
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My fiance is "better" than my exes in literally every way. The more dating experience I got the more I was able to narrow down exactly what I wanted.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 12:56 PM
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I think it weeds out guys just looking for a quick fuck, that's probably what they're going for. I'm not saying it's a good strategy, but if having sex early on wasn't working I can see why they'd want to try something else.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 12:54 PM
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Trash is his chore. If I'm asking it's because it's been neglected and it's now full. It needs to be taken out now. Normally he just forgot or didn't notice, but he always does it as soon as I mention it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 12:52 PM
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I've tried things sexually in the past that I didn't like, felt I had to do, or was pressured into. Of course I don't want to do them again. As for the 2nd, maybe a woman realized she wasn't getting good results having sex early on, she was getting men who lied to get laid, so she's changing her strategy. That's pretty normal. Six months is extreme but some people are weird, I dunno. It's not something I've ever done, I had sex with my fiance pretty much immediately, I can see the logic though
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 12:48 PM
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Every day it's a new "this proves (x bad thing about women)" and it's a story about 1 woman lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 05:51 PM
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No. I don't want to waste my time and energy on a guy I'm not sexually attracted to. Attraction is part of basic compatibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 11:54 AM
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It's a hypothetical as far as I was aware. My fiances sister married a conspiracy theorist white supremacist though, she's trashy as fuck for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 01:00 PM
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I have no idea which guy you're talking about but yeah if someone willingly married a piece of shit nazi they are absolutely trash.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 11:15 AM
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If they want to date an abusive nazi they are trash. That's practically the definition of trashy.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 01:31 PM
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Trashy women not wanting to date a guy isn't a punishment.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 05:32 PM
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Camping with his brother and friend
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 03:28 PM
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Never struggled with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 12:44 PM
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I only get turned on by smut. I need a story, I need to "know" the characters, I need the build up etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 11:00 AM
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I'm attracted to what I'm attracted to 🤷‍♀️. I'm not going to date and have sex with a man I'm not attracted to, that sounds miserable. I've never had trouble getting the men I want anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 10:55 AM
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I read a lot of "problematic" smut. It's fiction. I don't want it in real life. It's just entertainment. No actual people were hurt in the making of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 10:50 AM
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Nobody thinks we can sense it 100% of the time. Most of us have just talked to many guys who give incel vibes really strongly even if they aren't saying anything "bad", or we know blackpill guys and see them interact with women and see the bitterness they exude.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 02:45 AM
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Bitterness and resentment infects you, some of them even use incel/blackpill/redpill lingo in person or at least let their bitterness shine through. But I don't understand how a oetson could detect a cheater.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 02:27 AM
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There's not just one kind of man who cheats. Lots of very different men with very different lifestyles and personalities cheat..
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 02:09 AM
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I had known my fiance for a bit before we got together bit we had never spent much one on one time, one night we were both doing bar trivia with some other friends and we were the only 2 who didn't work the next day so we went for pizza after and we hit it off. I wasn't really looking to date but we got along so well and he was so sweet, so here we are.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 09:59 PM
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These guys didn't try to be my friend in order to date me. We just had overlapping social circles.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 09:47 PM
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Because presumably you have a conscience.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 07:08 PM
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I'm talking about pre-date parts, find it very hard to get excited about a picture and words on a screen. It's so much easier to create chemistry when it's in person.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 06:17 PM
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It's not the only way to date. It makes things stiff and awkward, it's hard to care about pictures and text on a screen.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 06:07 PM
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I can only orgasm with a vibrator. Some guys have a big problem with that. There's nothing they can do differently to make me orgasm. In the past I've lied and faced it because a guy just wouldn't let it go and it made sex unenjoyable, he tried way too gard and it was affecting his ego. He wasn't willing to use the vibrator on me during sex. Luckily my fiance doesn't mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 05:23 PM
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Sometimes? I don't form platonic relationships with the purpose of dating but sometimes chemistry develops and it goes in that direction.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 05:09 PM
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Acquaintances, friends of friends, just people in my life. I've never dated a stranger.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 05:07 PM
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It's because people are trying to date complete strangers.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 04:24 PM
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It's mothering when I'm the ONLY one doing those things. It's not mothering when we are both taking care of the home, cooking, contributing financially etc. That's the difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 02:17 PM
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That doesn't make sense. Wanting a man who can cook and clean up after himself, treats people well, and financially supports himself makes him my dad?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 02:13 PM
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I don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 02:09 PM
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We just don't want to be a guys mom.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 02:03 PM
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I'd want us to flirt with each other. I would expect him to want to spend a lot of time with me and get to know me better, just like I would with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 12:48 PM
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I would never date a single dad. I don't want to be a step mom. Or a mom. I just don't want kids. Doesn't matter how great the guy is, it'd be a deal breaker. Oh ew I just read he's an every other weekend dad, that is somehow even worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 03:07 PM
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If someone isn't putting any effort into their tets to you it means they're not that into you. Just move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 11:19 PM
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You know some very lucky women, I'm happy for them. Any time I see it asked online or when it comes up in person, 10-12 is usually the age women say they started getting sexual attention from grown men. It was definitely the case for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 10:09 PM
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It counts but I don't think it's the norm for boys 10-12 to experience it. I've never met a woman who didn't get sexual attention from grown men at that age.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 09:49 PM
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The reality for most girls is that grown men started hitting on us around age 10. I'm not sure that's the norm for boys, but more if a rare thing. I hope its not the norm. It's bad enough girls deal with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 09:42 PM
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Can you dumb this down? That's too many words for my female brain.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 09:50 PM
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I guess you'd know my life better than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 09:23 PM
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Men complaining less is news to me 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 09:19 PM
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Yeah women who date rich men get a lot of benefits from it. Most of us aren't with rich men lol. I made more than my fiance for most of our relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 01:17 PM
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It was like 1-2 weeks for me and my fiance 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 05:41 PM
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I've been to 4. None had a stripper.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 03:14 AM
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I liked dating men in their early 20s when I was in my early 20s. They offered fun, companionship, adventure, sex, emotional support, etc. The finances didn't matter because we were young and didn't mind being broke.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 08:53 PM
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My fiance shows anger around me but he doesn't scream, doesn't threaten, doesn't get mean, doesn't bang things or hit things or throw things, etc. His anger might occasionally annoy me but it doesn't frighten me. He's cried in front of me numerous times and talked about his trauma and insecurities and stuff and I love that about him. My ex used to yell, insult and break stuff when he was mad, that scared me.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 09:31 PM
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I choose to date men that don't express anger in ways that scare me and then they can open up all they want. No demands, they can be themselves completely. Not all men make me feel unsafe when they are angry, I avoid the ones who do.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 09:10 PM
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Women are damned if we do damned if we don't. If we don't take safety precautions around men we don't know then we were asking for it if anything bad happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 03:20 PM
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I'm much more willing to be his unpaid therapist if he's crying or sad. A man crying doesn't make me feel afraid. A man expressing anger sometimes makes me feel afraid and unsafe, that's the difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 12:49 PM
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In my experience guys expressing anger like my fiance have been the minority and guys expressing it with yelling, slamming or throwing stuff or saying crazy shit or insults has been the norm. My fiance has never yelled at me or insulted me though at least, and I've never yelled at or insulted him either.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 12:47 PM
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I don't have a problem with men crying at all. My fiance has cried to me numerous times. He's always been able to express his emotions and I've always loved that about him. I just won't put myself in potentially unsafe situations anymore to try and help a man learn to express his feelings or validate his anger. It's gone in scary directions for me and I've seen it go very badly with friends. That's not to say I don't like when a man ever shows anger, I've seen my fiance angry lots of times but h…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 12:32 PM
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I understand that but I still won't stay in a situation that feels unsafe in the hopes they will learn other ways to express themselves. That's above my pay grade. I hope they can seek professional help or something without putting me in that situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 12:21 PM
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I've had guys open up to me about a lot of things other than see. Traumas, insecurities etc. I always appreciate it. The only time I haven't liked when guys have opened up to me is when their anger/resentment made me feel afraid of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 12:07 PM
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I like hiking and camping a lot, and paddle boarding, and trying new restaurants. Unfortunately it all ends up costing money.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 12:25 AM
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Because I want to do fun things with my partner. I don't want him always staying at home while I do stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 12:21 AM
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It matters because he wouldn't be able to afford the same lifestyle.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 12:12 AM
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I wouldn't date a guy who makes significantly less than me because I want a partner who can enjoy the same lifestyle as me. I don't want to be financially supported.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 06:27 PM
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I wish there was a rule against AI posts.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 11:50 AM
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The whole point is that even shy nerdy "good" guys can do shitty things, yeah he's not the stereotypical rapist, but he's such a familiar and scary character to women. We've all known someone like him.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 12:34 AM
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I don't want to have sex with or kiss someone I'm not attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 09:59 PM
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Not very tall. Maybe 5'7?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 12:39 PM
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You'd have to be pretty stupid to think 4 billion men are school shooters and rapists
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 02:38 AM
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Ok so you can name a few shitty women. There's BILLIONS of women on earth, how on earth are you extrapolating it to all of them? What kind of logic is that? This literally makes zero sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 01:36 AM
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What kind of logic is this? What the actual fuck lol Is this what counts as "proof" that all women are the same?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 01:31 AM
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Most women can't even orgasm from penetrarion.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 11:13 AM
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I've always liked guys that aren't stereotypically masculine or "alpha", just your kinda cute/sweet boy next door types that I can laugh with, be myself with, etc. I've always dated within my social circle. My high-school boyfriend was a great guy but we drifted apart, there was no hard feelings. Then I had my first serious live-together relationship. He was a nerdy, quiet type when we got together but he went on a big "self improvement" journey where he started spending a lot of time at the gym…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 01:22 AM
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This isn't specific to black men.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 06:50 PM
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If she had been robbed repeatedly by people who look a certain way it would be hard to blame her for grabbing her purse.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 04:47 PM
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I'm not treating anyone badly. I just don't like being alone with men I don't know.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 04:43 PM
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It really doesn't matter, it's just about my comfort. I'm not hurting men, I'm not hurting myself. I just use caution. I don't like to be alone with men I don't know.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 04:08 PM
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I know what I've experienced.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 03:59 PM
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I have, but it doesn't change my actual experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 03:53 PM
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It's based on my experience and the experiences of my loved ones. I don't dislike men. I don't think men are evil. I'm just afraid of them sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 03:47 PM
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I'm suspicious of men because of the behaviour of men today, not in the past.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 03:27 PM
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It's really difficult for me to orgasm without the rose toy. I'm so used to using it. It takes ages for me to orgasm without it, the effort isn't even worth it lol My fiance likes being the one to hold it and control it sometimes ge has zero insecurities about it which I appreciate! I want sex more often when I know I'm getting an orgasm.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 11:42 AM
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It certainly didn't help but I don't think I would have orgasmed regardless because he didn't like me using a vibrator during sex. With my fiance I orgasm every time because he doesn't mind if I use a little vibrator during sex to make sure I get there.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 11:20 AM
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I'm very tight (not in a weird braggy way I just am, and it sucks sometimes) so I like average or even a bit below. 4-5 is perfect. Anything bigger and it gets uncomfortable and I don't enjoy it as much. I prefer sucking average ones too because my jaw doesn't get sore. Big ones are nice to look at I guess but not to have sex with. I like a guy going at it hard and I absolutely can't handle that if it's big.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 10:41 AM
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It really can. When my ex realized I wasn't ever orgasning during sex with him he started trying way too hard and just making sex stressful and less enjoyable for both of us. I felt so much pressure to orgasm but just couldn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 10:37 AM
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Because maybe I didn't like it??
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 08:35 PM
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I'd be hesitant about dating an inexperienced man. I'd worry I'm missing some red flag that other women noticed. Sometimes I'm not the most perceptive when I like someone. I'd also worry he'd be one of those guys that would end up really jealous and weird about my past, getting mad that I did something with an ex and not him.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 04:51 PM
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I want a guy to want me specifically. I don't want to be interchangeable.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 02:36 PM
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No, being crazy about someone is an expression in English. It doesn't actually mean crazy. It just means you really like them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 01:49 PM
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Okay. Complete lack of excitement would be bad to me. My fiance was crazy about me at first (still is) and he let it show. It just never got to the point I would call it overzealous. It was matched by me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 01:47 PM
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Being too excited seems desperate, it's also just awkward. Socially awkward men are a turn off to many women. Mildly excited isn't what I'd call overzealous.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 01:41 PM
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It comes off as desperate which can feel unpredictable and scary.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 01:38 PM
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Not knowing if they'll take no for an answer or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 12:02 AM
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I'm repulsed because it's never ending and it's scary. I'm not repulsed by my fiances sexuality though.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 05:26 PM
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Yeah in most places parents can legally drop off an infant at a fire department, police department, hospital etc with no consequences. That's already a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 03:28 PM
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Parents can already give up their children. If you are changing that it should be mentioned in your OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 03:21 PM
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I guess the parents could just drop it off at a fire department. I still think it'd be too expensive to be practical.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 03:18 PM
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Birth parents don't pay child support when their child is adopted. The adoptive parents take over financial responsibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 03:14 PM
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Assuming the parents could just give it up for adoption then yeah I think that could work ethically for me but I don't think it's practical. It may lead to a lot of kids without enough people willing to adopt. I imagine it'd be insanely expensive to implement something like this too and taxes would have to be raised or insurance would go way up.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 03:10 PM
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Yes omg sometimes I don't think if someone sexually or romantically until I get to know them and something about their personality clicks with me and all of a sudden they are super hot!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 02:26 PM
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It's just exhausting being constantly seen as "a body I'd be willing to fuck". Especially when it starts when you're like 10. Especially when some guys suck at backing off when you're uncomfortable. I love the sexuality of a man I choose to be with. I don't love strange men's sexuality.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 01:22 PM
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Breaking up because your values are too different is a completely normal reason to break up.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 11:07 AM
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How a guy treats others and behaves is part of who he is...
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 11:04 AM
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Mostly gay porn. I think 2 guys together is hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 05:20 PM
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It's a difficult time to have your shit together. Most people don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 12:58 PM
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Why is it always portrayed as either or? Lots of boring dependable guys end up being pieces of shit. Lots of fun charismaric guys are also stable and without drama. I'm so tired of this idea that there are exactly 2 types of men and if we'd just choose type B instead of type A we'd have perfect relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 10:16 AM
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Any time you see a person giving dating advice you can safely assume it's their opinion and isn't shared by every woman on earth.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 07:22 PM
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Not sure. If I was single I'd rather be alone than use the apps. All I've heard from my friends is how shitty they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 07:17 PM
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I said its not rare for people to be inconsistent in general because humans are flawed. The stuff OP is complaining about can be fixed with communication. If someone lies about what they want then it's a good reason to end a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 06:40 PM
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I figured the "because apps are stacked against you" was implied when they are told they need to put more effort in.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 06:37 PM
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No. Everyone has flaws. Too many guys on here expect a step by step guide that works for every woman though and get upset when a behaviour one woman likes is disliked by another woman. I don't like controlling guys, at all. It doesn't make me feel like they "dont care", it makes me feel trusted and safe. My sister is the opposite, she wants a guy to be possessive and jealous.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 06:36 PM
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No. There are lots of desperate men who will fuck anything. The same can't be said for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 06:18 PM
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Of course it's inconsistent. Women are all different people. It's never going to be universal. All that matters is the line you and your partner agree on.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 06:10 PM
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I'm wondering if all the men admitting they don't care about a woman's personality as long as she's their looksmatch, agreeable and loyal have something to do with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 06:07 PM
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Nope. I love how my fiance is so open with his emotions too.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 04:17 PM
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Even stuff like "don't be fat" is subjective, the majority don't like fat but a lot of men are really into it. When a woman tells a man what's attractive he would have to be incredibly stupid to think all 4 billion women agree with her. It's implied that she's speaking about what she likes, because there's no other option. Obviously she isn't speaking for all women.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 11:58 AM
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Right, when men say what's attractive it's understood they aren't speaking for 4 billion people. They are speaking for themselves. Men don't all have identical tastes that would be absurd.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 11:30 AM
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That's a given. Men aren't so stupid that they think all women like exactly the same things.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 10:58 AM
9

That sounds like a normal relationship. I've never even heard of that elevator thing in my life??
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 10:43 AM
7

My friend and I have opposite types too there's basically zero overlap lol
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 10:31 AM
21

I knew it'd be this before I even opened it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 10:31 AM
18

People can only say what they find attractive they can't speak for everyone...
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 10:31 AM
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I think this is true. People like a dash of x trait, but when x trait is a huge part of someone's personality/lifestyle it becomes less attractive unless it's a shared thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 08:39 PM
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I prefer nerdy guys. It's cute when a guy is passionate about nerdy stuff. I love hearing a guy yap about his interests. My fiance is a huge nerd about science fiction. As long as he still enjoys being social/doing things outside of the house occasionally too. I like hiking, camping etc and I like being able to do that stuff with my partner too.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 07:19 PM
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True. It's just a lot more fucked up lol and I think it can normalize a lot of messed up stuff if you're not careful.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 12:57 PM
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I agree, I find it funny how it's usually waaaay freakier and more extreme/unrealistic than porn though lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 12:35 PM
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It takes men more effort and women take on more risk. Overall I'd say it's harder for average men than average women though. Average men want women a lot more intensely than average women want men. The competition can be intense.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 12:29 PM
3

I've seen that video, it's a great teaching tool!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 11:32 AM
4

Never called it sex ed. It's fun to try things out we see in it though.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 10:45 AM
0

Yup agreed. Some of them even hate women liking smut.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 10:41 AM
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Porn comes in all different types. It isn't all distorted. I try out things from porn. It's fun to watch it with my fiance sometimes. I prefer reading porn usually though. Erotica is generally way more distorted though lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 10:40 AM
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I value men platonically. I have a brother I love, male friends I care deeply about. I also like sex with my fiance.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 10:05 PM
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Lol ok
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 09:41 PM
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It's part of it. I'm not interested in a sexless relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 09:30 PM
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I can't answer why other people do that. I guess it's marginally better than the alternative but still lonely. I couldn't do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 11:59 AM
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Settling for a sexless relationship doesn't mean they aren't still lonely.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 11:56 AM
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I don't see where you addressed it. I think someone can absolutely still be lonely even if they're in a "relationship" with someone they don't kiss or have sex with. Having a roommate isn't the same as having a romantic partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 11:43 AM
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The point about it being basically a roommate if there's no sexual attraction?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 11:40 AM
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"That couldn't land some manner of man" ... I'd being unhappy and with someone you don't actually like better than loneliness? I'd say it's just another type of loneliness. If I'm not attracted to a guy, we aren't having sex, not kissing, it's basically roommates.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 11:36 AM
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I don't care what he does either 😭 rich people doin rich people stuff
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 04:10 AM
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I do? I don't care what my fiance watches in porn. It'll never be nearly as freaky as the stuff I read lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 03:04 AM
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Dude I just wanted to see the think pieces. It's really weird you're dodging this so hard. Yes yes you've seen tiktoks. Cool. I'm asking about the think pieces. This is getting silly.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 02:22 AM
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Yes you can find any sort of opinion on social media. I'm asking for the think pieces you mentioned, why don't you want to link them?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 02:13 AM
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Yup. If some ruch girl has a richer bf so what? Most of us are just getting by. I'm not gonna get upset over how the wealthy date.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 02:12 AM
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No. I'm assuming the algorithms push content that gets views. Do you have the actual think pieces you mentioned...?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 02:09 AM
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Exactly. If both people are fine with the arrangement, who cares?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 02:07 AM
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Those aren't think pieces, that's an algorithm pushing content thst gets views. Can you link the actual think pieces?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 02:06 AM
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Liking something in smut doesn't mean we like it in real life. Everything is exaggerated. There's sooo many things I enjoy in erotica that I want nothing to do with in real life. People, kinks, etc. It just doesn't always translate to what I actually want.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 03:23 PM
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I agree completely. I'd also add that this social isolation is fueling gender war crap because people are learning about the opposite sex mainly through algorithms rather than actually spending significant amounts of time with them platonically.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 01:33 PM
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He's from the middle east and at first he acted so modern/progressive and "Canadianized", but once we got into a relationship he became controlling as fuck and revealed his true colours.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 09:12 PM
2

I'm just one person. My best friend is attracted to strangers all the time without knowing anything about them.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 04:45 PM
2

I'm attracted to men I have no connection with though. Celebrities etc. As long as I feel like I know and like their personality a bit through interviews and stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 04:33 PM
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I can only orgasm with a vibrator 😩 lol
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 12:33 PM
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There's something extra fun when you don't need to verbally express it or direct them because they just read you so well.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 08:14 PM
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The guy who cares about it being a mutually fun experience and respects me 🤷‍♀️. Sometimes it's the experienced guy sometimes it isn't. I do find experienced guys are more likely to know how to make it an enjoyable time though.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 07:19 PM
2

Yes to toys. I can only orgasm from a vibrator but I love using it during sex!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 07:02 PM
8

Virgins trust other virgins about "female nature" before they'll trust about actual woman 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 07:00 PM
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Ughhhh I'm so embarrassed that I stayed with my conservative sexist homophobic ex for so long. He's from a different culture and somehow had me convinced it was bigoted to have a problem with his views.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 06:59 PM
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I can make myself cum during sex. It's just not a big deal as long as he's actually trying to make me feel good. Or he can use a vibrator on me. I need a vibrator to orgasm anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 04:43 PM
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I don't care that much about a partner making me orgasm. It's nice, but not a requirement. Sex still feels good without it. I can easily make myself orgasm.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 04:37 PM
1

Something cool and unique like that would be a positive imo !
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 01:29 PM
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I don't like social awkwardness, it's simply not attractive to me, so why shouldn't it be a deal breaker? I've never struggled to find kind men who aren't awkward.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 10:40 AM
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It's very easy to find kind men who aren't awkward. There's also lots of really shitty men who are socially awkward. I've had more bad experiences than good with awkward men.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 10:31 AM
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I can't take it seriously because every time I leave my apartment I see women with men who are less attractive than them. Often they're just 2 poor people too. I don't think rating attractiveness means anything anyway. My friends and I can see the same couple and completely disagree on which one of them is hotter. And at the end of the day if someone wants to date the vest person they can then they should do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 10:28 AM
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So the guy is trying to be someone else to get a woman who isn't even that into him. That's not normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 01:00 AM
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Still putting in effort doesn't mean a person can't step back and breathe. If they are doing THAT much they are pursuing a woman who isn't that into them.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 12:57 AM
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For an hour maybe. My ex would happily leave them for days.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 12:44 AM
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Why would we want someone who stops putting in effort once we are in a relationship? I continue to put in effort and I like the same. We both put in effort because we care about making each other happy. The women dismissing the "sex market" are the ones not intimate casual sex 🤷‍♀️ I tend to give the same advice whether men want sex or dating because it's no different for me beyond being a bit pickier for relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 11:18 PM
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"Don't be weird and bitter" is excellent advice tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 10:36 PM
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Social skills social skills social skills social skills. Be able to easily have a pleasant conversation with a woman platonically. Have a decent group of friends and do things with them. Have hobbies beyond video games. Something active or creative is nice. Talents are attractive. Be a responsible adult who is smart with his finances and cleans up after himself. Get in shape or stay in shape, doesn't mean muscles but don't be fat, and be able to go on a normal hike. Have compassion for people an…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 10:14 PM
7

What would be a fail answer?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 09:06 PM
4

I just find 2 guys together really hot. Not saying I'd ask for a 3some or something but it'd make him more attractive to me that he likes men.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 04:52 PM
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Gross. A sink full of dirty dishes is just gross. Luckily there's plenty of men who don't live that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 03:47 PM
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Yeah I think a lot of young people just don't share the same values with their parents anymore. Why have someone vet when they have a completely different idea about what makes a good relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 03:06 PM
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My parents aren't great people, they can be very superficial and care about "image", I would never trust their "vetting". My mom has a history of terrible decisions. They are religious. Lots of reasons I don't want them having a say.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 02:56 PM
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Oh god absolutely not. That sounds horrible. I don't care if my family likes my partner or not. I don't care if they approve of him or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 02:48 PM
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Start now. Find ways to make it easier. Which chores do you hate the most?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 02:40 PM
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Some guys are perfectly willing to "relax" endlessly when there's stuff that needs to be done, like a sink full of dishes. They'll wait it out long enough that their partner always ends up doing it. That feels unfair. My ex was like that. Thankfully now I'm engaged to a man that does a lot around the house and I love seeing him relax. There's no resentment because he doesn't expect me to do all the housework.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 01:42 PM
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I love bi guys, I'd be thrilled lol
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 01:37 PM
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It's different women. I don't shame men for watching porn but I would probably criticize a guy for telling his girlfriend not to watch porn. You are seeing people like me and assuming, for some reason, that we also criticize men for watching porn. My fiance watches a shit ton of porn. I could not care less.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 11:47 AM
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It really doesn't matter if they have the "right or not". If someone finds out their spouse cheated they will probably divorce because they no longer want to be in the relationship. People can leave a marriage for any reason they want. I guess I'm not sure what you're trying to say. Saying they don't have a right to tell their spouse not to cheat doesn't magically mean they have to stay in the marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 11:34 AM
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You said it so right. Always assuming the worst of each other. I am so tired of it. A man vents about being lonely, it's assumed he's a misogynist. A woman complains about being treated badly, it's assumed she only dates Chad because average guys would never do such a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 08:31 PM
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I don't think demisexual is the default, but I think needing more than just looks to go by might be. I don't consider myself demisexual because I don't need an emotional connection, I can find famous people attractive, but only once I know their "personality" a little bit. A hot guy I know nothing about doesn't do anything for me. I think that's common, and a reason a lot of women prefer smut to regular porn. We need to feel like we know the guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 01:41 PM
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For people that only know jealous controlling partners it can feel like a relationship means losing your freedom to be a normal person with a social life.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 02:11 PM
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My point was with my ex my life did basically stop because he was so jealous, insecure and controlling. It doesn't stop in a healthy relationship. The things I get outside the relationship that I can't find it are friendships and hobbies. I don't expect him to share all my interests and always tag along. I don't want to depend on one person for my entire social life and support system.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 02:04 PM
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He didn't want to go, it was all girls, he found it boring. I still liked going out with my friends. My friends are important to me and I'm not going to ditch them because I'm in a relationship. I'd be incredibly hurt if someone did that to me. None of what I described implied distance. I still spent every day with him. I just wanted my own life too. Now I'm engaged, he's amazing, we fit so well together and have a great social life together while still making sure to have our own stuff outside …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 01:57 PM
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My ex was really jealous and controlling. I felt like I lost a lot of freedom. He acted like I was cheating if I went out to a bar with the girls, talked to male friends, found a male celebrity hot, etc. Healthy relationships shouldn't feel like losing freedom though. I didn't realize at the time how unhealthy our relationship was.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 01:48 PM
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Omg SAME.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 12:30 PM
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I can't read the word omega without thinking of pregnant men 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 09:22 PM
2

Yeah it's common in lesbian spaces but in this case it's a user who continually posts almost daily that straight women don't exist and we are all lesbians in denial lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 04:38 PM
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The "all women are lesbians" guy
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 11:47 PM
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Well I've only dated a few guys, I don't have that many examples to pull from. I've had crushes on non white men who weren't tall..
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 08:28 PM
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Neither of us those are important to me. My bf isn't tall, my ex wasn't white.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 08:15 PM
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I like skinny slightly fem "cute" guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 08:11 PM
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I agree. A guy trying too hard is a turn off.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 12:33 PM
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I prefer men's bodies in general. Not interested in trans women.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 01:29 PM
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I like dicks.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 01:12 PM
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Getting into a western country is a way bigger incentive than having a tall boyfriend...
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 02:06 PM
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Both are stupid and immature.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 02:02 PM
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I don't care if a man does that. I think it's likely he will find women just using him for immigration though.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 02:00 PM
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It's fine, I'd still prefer a man who doesn't do those things though. Bald is fine, short is fine, just be confident in yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 10:59 AM
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Oh yeah I'm definitely addicted to smut I'd say. It's confusing though because 90% of the time I don't get off to it, it's just entertainment. I only masturbate 10% of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 10:32 AM
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Whatever works I guess. If everything else in the relationship was good and I was sexually satisfied it wouldn't be a huge deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 01:01 AM
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I'd hope he's not, but it wouldn't be the end of the world. I have no doubt he's attracted to me, we have a great sex life, we treat each other well.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 11:00 PM
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I have like 50 ao3 tabs open at any given time lol
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 04:15 PM
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I still don't think it has to be gendered. Men's spaces constantly complain that women on apps don't apsk questions and continue the conversation, but women's spaces constantly complain about men doing the exact same thing. Its just people being people. There's no need to assume it has anything to do with their gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 04:03 PM
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you can criticize individuals all you want. It's stupid to blame women as a whole because some are shitty though, and most shitty things women do are also done by men, so why not just criticize shitty people and don't make it about their gender?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 03:55 PM
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I don't feel like I'm betraying my fiance when I read porn and I don't feel like he's betraying me by watching it. To each their own though.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 03:50 PM
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I don't mind attention. I ignore it. I don't even care if someone stares. I just don't want to be harassed or touched, and I think that's reasonable.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 03:32 PM
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I've always watched it although I prefer reading it now.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 10:54 AM
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Women watch a lot of porn too,maybe not as much but it's hardly uncommon.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 10:31 AM
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For sure. It's the same when people complain about others not asking them questions or making conversation... it's a sign of disinterest.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 11:01 AM
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I don't like being "chased". If a guy is chasing me then I don't like him that much. If I like a guy I let him know. No stupid games.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 10:42 AM
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Yeah absolutely.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 10:28 PM
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I thirst over men I like. I just don't thirst over men I don't know. My relationships have been plenty passionate and romantic. Queer stuff feels more intense because of the "taboo/risky" aspect imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 01:44 AM
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You can find me hot while still being respectful.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 11:54 PM
9

Well yeah, who wants to fantasize about ugly people...?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 10:51 PM
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I don't 🤷‍♀️. I like reading about the guys being gay with each other. I'm in the metaphorical cuck chair.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 10:43 PM
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Very popular. I read stuff on ao3 and I think I've read it's about 75% gay stories.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 10:27 PM
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Some of the most popular romance/smut features sweet caring gay men.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 10:25 PM
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Non-confident, agreeable, "low status" men have tried to push past my boundaries way more than typical "hot" guys ever have.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 04:04 PM
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It's still a turn off. It means he couldn't have sex for free and I'd be thinking "what red flags am I missing?".
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 10:21 AM
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Attractive men can be scary too.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 05:48 PM
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Sexual attention from men can be scary.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 04:18 PM
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Desperation is a turn off.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 01:51 PM
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I want to be invisible to men other than my fiance.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 10:20 AM
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Both I guess? I'm not on apps though, I'm engaged. I'm a nurse and I'd love it if a patient never hit on me again 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 09:15 PM
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Oh how I wish men were more non chalant and cold. Still a crap ton of desperate men out there. I don't want male attention and I get lots. I'm average looking too.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 08:20 PM
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The only thing here that would make me think a girl might be bi or lesbian is the oral sex. That could be just experimenting than realizing she wasn't into it though, it depends. If a guy sucked a dick once a decade ago and determined he wasn't into it, I wouldn't consider him bi.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 10:24 AM
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I just don't choose toxic men 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 09:52 PM
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I mean, yeah? Personality and ethics don't always go hand in hand. Most people care about both though.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 11:06 AM
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That's so real. Every time I see all these posts assuming all women are going to clubs, making OFs, demanding men fly them around the world I'm like ... what ... Some boring average girl in a small town who likes reading, eating at Olive Garden and rewatching the office isn't doing those things lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 10:42 PM
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Algorithms push controversial content though. It's not a meaningful representation. It's always about what gets engagement.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 10:38 PM
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I'm a pretty open book. I don't always go out of my way to tell him every single that turns me on but I don't lie either. I just don't think he wants to know every detail about the gay smut I read lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 03:15 PM
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I mean if she's not enthusiastically into the sex it shouldn't be happening.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 12:43 PM
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What the actual fuck
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 12:42 PM
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Probably, by some women. Some of us hate the thought of sucking big ones though because our jaw starts hurting and it's not fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 12:32 PM
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Luckily I am engaged to a man who loves me enough that he doesn't want to fuck me in the ass knowing I don't like it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 12:27 PM
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I like sucking dick so I'll do that with any guy I have a relationship with
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 12:26 PM
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If someone doesn't like the feeling of a dick in their ass that isn't going to change guy to guy, especially if they are similar sized.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 12:18 PM
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Or she tried them and realized she doesn't really like them.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 12:15 PM
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Of course there's more reasons to want someone. But how someone treats others is a pretty huge one, and treating people badly is the easiest way to lose someone's attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 11:48 PM
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If it's not obvious that you should treat someone well if you want them to want to have sex with you then maybe it's good that so many men are single.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 11:37 PM
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Yeah obviously he has to be a good partner or else I wouldn't like him or want to have sex with him. Luckily for me he actually likes me and wants to make me happy, and it's mutual.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 11:34 PM
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Pitsude of this subreddit, I've never met a guy who cared. My fiance isn't upset that I don't get turned on by pictures of random naked men. All that matters is that I'm turned on by his naked body.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 11:27 PM
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Too many guys see that women don't like seeing random pictures of naked men and think it means we aren't sexually attracted to men. Lots of us are, but only if we already like the man. I don't want to see strangers naked.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 11:12 PM
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Accountable for what? Some men already call women shallow while not attempting to be attractive. How is that even controversial to say?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 06:16 PM
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You don't think they would? Some men already do that. So do some women though, they just call men shallow and continue to not try.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 06:12 PM
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Some men might. A lot would just complain that women are shallow and continue playing video games.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 04:11 PM
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Guys like that are definitely my type. There's always guys with huge egos but most are just normal with normal standards? I do remember this one guy back in high-school though, kinda alt, cute, nerdy, skinny, read Russian literature, had this brooding depressed kinda personality he portrayed but once you got to know him he acted like a frat bro and bragged about how the sadboy stuff made so many hot girls want him.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 08:27 PM
5

I had the birth control implant.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 07:13 PM
7

I had an abortion when I was 19. I don't really care if people think I'm "good" or not, I'm just thankful I was able to take a couple pills and continue with university.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 07:06 PM
6

I'd ask him...
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 06:59 PM
4

I'll judge a guy based on his friends but not men he doesn't even know.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 05:28 PM
8

A bunch of desperate men wanting to fuck me doesn't feel like privilege. It sometimes feels a bit scary.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 04:17 PM
1

I was talking about in general. Right now I only have sex with my fiance.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 01:36 PM
3

Is that somehow incompatible with blue pill? Whenever I see women canceling, ghosting, being unsure about dates or bad at conversation it's because she's not really that into him. When we like a guy it comes easy and naturally.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 01:23 PM
1

Yes I've had sex with more than one person in my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 01:22 PM
7

When we like a guy we want to see him as often as possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 12:42 PM
16

Nah. I'm going to continue only dating and having sex with the men I want to date and have sex with. I'm not going to pity-date someone to save society.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 12:29 PM
9

I've literally never blamed all men for what some shitty men do. You see other women do it, and again, hold us all responsible.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 11:58 AM
11

Okay? I don't care that people with the same genitals as me think differently. It's not my job to change them. That's the whole point if what I've been saying. There's billions of women on the planet, lots of them believe stupid and shitty things. That's not my fault.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 11:36 AM
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Men aren't responsible for what other men do. Some random dude isn't responsible for a ceo paying women less. Some random dude isn't responsible for the fact that the most powerful people are also men.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 11:32 AM
7

Why wouldn't it apply? What are you on about? Of course imminent men aren't responsible for other men being abusive. What the actual fuck?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 11:28 AM
1

Waiting until marriage is a whole other risk. I just have sex with people I know and trust.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 11:26 AM
20

Trashy men tend to get trashy women. There's always going to be shitty people and they often find each other. Sometimes good people of either gender get caught up in the mix. I don't really know what you're saying with this. Individuals have a responsibility to choose better. Sharing the same type of genitals with someone doesn't make a person responsible for what they choose.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 11:10 AM
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I have zero control over what other women do. I already don't select "bad men", neither do the women close to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 11:02 AM
6

I can't speak for other women but I'm also crazy attracted to my fiance. My attraction to famous people has nothing to do with them wanting me either. I don't actually want to be with them I just like how they look. I think you'll always have an excuse for why it's not "real" attraction though..
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 04:58 PM
5

Then why do women thirst after male celebritys bodies??
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 04:50 PM
5

I love my fiance thighs and back so much
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 04:34 PM
9

It doesn't even describe the average woman. Women are attracted to men's bodies when they like the man.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 04:32 PM
7

You didn't describe me or any of my friends. I don't know if I know a single woman like what you described. This is so bizarre.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 04:29 PM
7

I just find them hottest. I don't limit myself to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 02:44 PM
11

It's not something I have any particular desire to experience any more than I have🤷‍♀️ guys like that have asked me out plenty. Gimme a skinny bi soft boy any day lol
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 02:32 PM
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I did with my ex. He started going to the gym shortly after we became official, he was skinny at first, and by the time we broke up he was in incredible shape. He ended up growing a beard near the end too although he had facial hair on and off throughout the relationship. I think he got tired of looking younger than he was.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 02:09 PM
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I have. My ex put on a lot of muscle and grew a beard while we were together. It wasn't a deal breaker, I broke up with him for unrelated reasons. I've had lots of opportunities to date more traditionally masculine men but I always find myself more drawn to my type.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 01:59 PM
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I've had the same "type" since I was a teenager. Mildly feminine, smart, "soft", guys. Cute more than handsome. Never really been into rugged bearded or muscular guys. It's not set in stone though. I'm capable of finding other guys attractive. A type usually isn't a requirement, it's just a trend.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 01:26 PM
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By talking about it. I get aroused when I see a man I'm attracted to naked, but attraction is more than just looks for me, so a hot body of a random stranger does nothing for me, but if I like the guy too it turns me on.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 12:53 PM
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Based on whether or not she feels sexually attracted to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 12:49 PM
1

Of course you can find your "clone" unattractive... just because some people think you and a random guy are similar attractiveness doesn't mean you will find him attractive...
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 12:19 AM
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I'd choose being single over being with someone I'm not attracted to, that sounds terrible. I don't know why it's controversial to say that.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 10:38 PM
1

I'd say it's perfectly reasonable for her to stay single rather than date someone she's not attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 10:24 PM
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Just because he thinks they are "looksmatched" doesn't mean everyone else agrees. It doesn't even matter, it's still reasonable to not date someone you're not attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 10:20 PM
4

Attraction is important 🤷‍♀️. It's just unfortunate but it's not wrong to not want to date someone you aren't attracted to. Bald has never affected my personal attraction though. Gotta own it though, fully bald looks nicer than balding. I care more about a cute face.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 06:39 PM
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It's not a hard line, and it depends on a lot of factors. Maybe that 1 first dare led to a 5 month relationship or something. It's hard to judge just based on number of first dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 04:41 PM
5

I'd guess 3-6. I would say 0 in a year of trying would be a little weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 04:38 PM
5

We wouldn't like seeing 2 guys together if we didn't like guys
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 10:27 AM
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Men engage a ton with that kind of content too, they hate watch it. I'm not saying it's bots, but the algorithm pushes it because it riles people up.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 01:21 AM
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Other than randoms online it's not common for women in my life to just talk about short men. The most they say is "he's too short". I've seen a few women online hate them, my guess is they want engagement. Most just don't care though.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 01:08 AM
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I've never met a single one who does. Just women who aren't attracted to them and otherwise don't care about them. I'm sure they exist though. My boyfriend is short 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 12:49 AM
2

Well I'm definitely not ace lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/26 11:28 PM
4

Lots of women like exclusively gay porn/smut 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/26 10:43 PM
5

We don't all watch lesbian porn and make out with women. I watch gay porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/26 09:48 PM
4

I guess it's more comforting to think straight women don't exist than to think they aren't desirable. Kinda sad but also fucked up and delusional.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/26 06:07 PM
9

Women are beautiful but that doesn't mean I want to have sex with them. I guess they can't understand that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/26 06:04 PM
6

I have a totally different type than my best friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/26 06:03 PM
13

I've been seeing this "straight women don't exist" stuff a lot lately. So freaking strange.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/26 05:31 PM
1

I do. I don't care if it seems weird to others, I don't think it's normally seen as weird anyway though.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/26 05:23 PM
24

Friendships with other men sounds great. Straight women absolutely exist though.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/26 05:21 PM
2

Okay. Still comes off as weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/26 12:24 PM
5

Even without that, the description sounds like insecure awkward men.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 10:05 PM
2

A man who has talked to every single woman he knows about how to approach women is already a bit weird. I just don't believe this imaginary scenario is realistic at all. And even if it is, the guy is still going to seem weird to everyone else, regardless of if it's his "fault " or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 10:04 PM
5

Women are different people. Some like being approached in public, some don't. Some like being friends first, some don't. People meet their partners all sorts of ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 10:00 PM
4

Okay. He can do what he wants. He's still going to be seen as weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 09:59 PM
4

Okay. I still find men who struggle with social stuff like talking to women and sitting in chairs in front of women to be awkward and off-putting.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 09:57 PM
5

I don't tell men what to do or not do. I've met all my boyfriends through friends. Some women like that, some don't. I can't speak for anyone but me.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 09:56 PM
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It would be weird for him to think they speak for every woman. And regardless, he's going to seem awkward and weird to most people. Not exactly super desirable.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 09:55 PM
5

A guy being scared to sit in a chair the wrong way sounds insecure. Or scared to be alone with a woman. Either way it describes a very awkward man.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 09:50 PM
3

You're describing very insecure guys, a lot of us aren't that attracted to insecure guys to begin with...
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 09:36 PM
13

They do when they act like average men can't date.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 09:30 PM
2

Of course people can ask about it. I was just giving my take.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 08:33 PM
8

For me tiktok is hockey content, cooking content and travel content. And a smattering of cute animals here and there.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 07:10 PM
6

And that's a very stupid opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 05:31 PM
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Probably, but op asked about women's issues so that's why I replied with a common complaint women have...
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 05:17 PM
10

Hating billions of people is always going to be stupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 05:10 PM
10

Yes? Is that supposed to be some gotcha moment?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 05:06 PM
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I'm engaged now but when dating, and based on my friends experience, it's trying to find men who are fully fledged well rounded independent adults. They keep their space clean, their lives are organized, they don't still rely a bunch on their parents, they have hobbies beyond video games, and they actually enjoy being social. There's a lot of guys who want a girlfriend and mom in one.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 05:03 PM
36

Hating all women because of some shitty women the algorithm shows you online is fucking stupid and childish. There are billions of women in the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 04:55 PM
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I love people in a big way. I just want someone who reciprocates that. I want to be his priority because he's mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 10:11 PM
0

Cool. I do not care what other men do.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 03:28 PM
2

Then don't. That's fine too 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 03:17 PM
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Not fat but I like average height "cute" bi guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 01:12 PM
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I've always had a very different type from my friends tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 12:41 PM
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I want one guy, who I'm compatible with, who I find cute, and who is a decent person. I found him and I'm engaged to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 12:32 PM
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I don't want Chads
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 11:54 AM
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It's easier for a guy to change how he interacts with women than to change his looks, that's why it's more common advice. Ugly men date all the time, so do men with offputting personalities. Just gotta work on what you can.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 12:24 AM
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My sister is in her 30s and gets a ton of attention from guys. Why would a 30 year old settle?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 12:13 AM
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There's pretty much zero overlap in guys I find attractive and guys my best friend finds attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 10:10 PM
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I've never dated a man I wasn't extremely attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 08:58 PM
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But why would a guy even want her to do something she doesn't really wanna do but just feels she has to in order to make him happy? Like that's still fucked. I'd never want my fiance to do something he doesn't really wanna do. It wouldn't make me happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 08:48 PM
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They should probably stop dating women who aren't actually into them.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 08:35 PM
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I think cases where women like X but don't want to do it with their partner are practically non-existent. Almost always it's a case of her realizing she doesn't like it anymore or was only doing it because she felt she had to.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 08:16 PM
5

❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 06:06 PM
15

Thinking some shitty person online represents half the planet is what perpetuates it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 05:57 PM
12

I can't tell what's satire or not anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 05:47 PM
35

Good. No one should be held responsible for someone else saying something shitty just because they share the same type of genitals.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 05:24 PM
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I don't take responsibility for things other women say.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 05:21 PM
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I'm straight and I prefer gay male porn. I think it's a difference in how women view porn though, they aren't watching it for the people but for the acts. Maybe they like that lesbian porn is less "rough" and more sensual while being focused on female pleasure? I don't watch lesbian porn though. I rarely watch porn at all. I read gay smut almost exclusively.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 10:23 AM
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A lot of men are awkward and terrible at social cues. It sounds minor but a man not realizing how uncomfortable you are is such a big red flag to most women and makes them feel unsafe. Those men need a lot more practice with platonic socialization before they try hitting on women. Too many guys want to skip that prerequisite.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 10:21 AM
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It often is. Especially if a guy is spending time here. And you can't do much to change your looks but you can change how you interact with people, so if someone is struggling it makes sense to work on the thing they have control over.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 09:49 PM
3

Everyone has their own reasons for why they struggle with relationships. Sometimes it's just bad luck, sometimes it's a shitty personality, sometimes it's neurodivergance, etc. Lots of ugly men have sex, lots of shitty men have sex, but sometimes it just doesn't happen and it's no one's fault.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 09:29 PM
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For the unfair stuff, I'm talking about that because multiple men on this post said they just want women to acknowledge it's unfair. I'm not sure where they got the impression women think life is fair to begin with. Lots of horrible shit happens to good people.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 06:33 PM
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I vent to friends all the time. I don't beg internet strangers to acknowledge that life is unfair. I know they already know life is unfair. I guess I'm confused by all the "just admit it's unfair!" comments, because who the fuck thinks life is fair?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 05:49 PM
7

So you want to have sex with women who don't want to have sex with you?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 05:10 PM
10

Making it "fair" to men would mean us having sex with men we don't want to have sex with... which is pretty unfair to us.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 04:39 PM
10

Why are we bad for not wanting to date men we aren't attracted to?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 04:30 PM
3

Life isn't fair for anyone, why are some people so desperate to have that "acknowledged"? I've never met anyone who didn't know life was unfair. Kids die of cancer ffs.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 04:28 PM
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I definitely get exhausted by men who want a step by step playback for everything. I'm seeing it more and more too. They need their hand held through everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 04:26 PM
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He was concerned about them because he was a very insecure man. I know him well enough to know he was insecure. Dating a guy like that is miserable. I'm so thankful my fiance trusts me. He's the only guy I want.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/26 07:58 PM
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I accused a specific man of insecurity, because he was extremely insecure. My fiance doesn't try to control who I can text and he finds my celebrity crushes silly and cute.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/26 07:26 PM
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Yeah, stuff like that, and he even had issues with me texting other guys. He didn't even like me finding famous men attractive. It was reasonable for him and the culture he's from, it wasn't reasonable to me or the culture I'm from. So we broke up. I wanted a partner, not a dad. Now I'm engaged to a guy who doesn't get jealous or insecure easily at all. He is amazing and I love him to death.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/26 07:11 PM
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It depends on what happened with the other guy I dated or talked to. My ex was insecure and jealous and it made him controlling and constantly suspect me of cheating, so I made sure not to date a guy like that next time.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/26 06:59 PM
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What's to debate? If I date a shitty man I do choose better next time. I continue getting pickier.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/26 06:32 PM
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Cheating is hard to prove. No fault is just simpler and quicker. Lots of states ONLY have no fault divorce as an option too.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/26 12:20 AM
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Filing as no fault doesn't mean there was no cheating...
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/26 12:17 AM
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Apathy is a pretty good word for how I feel about most men too. Some stand out as likable but not most. I'm engaged to a great one though so I don't really care.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/26 12:03 AM
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I wonder if a lot of men think wanting to fuck women means they have a favourable view of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 11:44 PM
49

Women being weaker and more vulnerable and having to deal with pregnancy and therefore being selective is talked about nonstop in feminist circles.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 01:56 PM
9

I don't watch porn much and I don't normally seek out lesbian porn but I think women tend to view porn differently than men. Men focus on the people in porn and what they'd want to do with them it seems. In ny experience women tend to focus more on the acts and pleasure rather than the people themselves. I can enjoying seeing a woman get pleasure even if it was by another woman, because the other woman isnt really my focus. Especially if it's kinda kinky stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 11:24 AM
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I'd press it. It would be nice to be ignored by men.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 07:47 PM
1

I think it's a grey area and I don't always mind having a nice conversation with a stranger either, if they have an actual reason to be talking to me other than thinking I'm fuckable.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 06:27 PM
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Nothing will make me like cold approaches. I don't want to be asked out by a random stranger.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 11:42 AM
4

Yeah just going by studies, it's hard to get accurate numbers. You seem to hear both genders complain about being cheated on pretty equally though.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 10:40 AM
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Men and women cheat at pretty similar rates.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 10:20 AM
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Obviously there are shallow women and shallow men out there. Too many people throw that word at anyone who cares about looks at all though. I see it all the time on here. Sexual attraction is so important in a relationship though. And yeah people can have weird-ass overly specific standards if they want 🤷‍♀️ they are really only harming themselves because they probably won't find it. Especially if it's physically impossible lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 05:21 PM
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Of course?? I do think shallow gets thrown around way too much though. It's not shallow to want to date someone you're attracted to, or to not want to have to financially support someone. It's shallow if all you care about is looks/money and not character.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 05:10 PM
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A lot of men absolutely don't meet those standards, lots of men are not enjoyable to spend time with at all... and I only mentioned those things because some loser said he must be rich, 6ft tall with an 8 inch dick or something. Of course my boyfriend is hot, but he's not those things.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 05:05 PM
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Yeah I'm glad my boyfriend likes my natural state. My friends boyfriend expects her to always be "done up" though
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 07:05 PM
13

I'm just myself. If a guy likes me, great. If not, that's okay. I'm not going to play a role or put on an act. I think I'm "expected" to be pretty all the time, always have my hair and makeup done, etc but that's just not me.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 11:45 PM
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I'm someone he loves spending time with and can be himself around. He knows I support him always.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 08:29 PM
1

Nah I'm good I've done my experimenting I know it's not for me! Girls are pretty but don't turn me on.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 06:42 PM
1

That's fine! You do what works for you! I'm not trying to date you lol I'm happily engaged and I know my sexuality.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 05:04 PM
1

Is that weird?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 03:26 PM
1

Yup. I'm straight but I've made out with other girls. Girls are pretty. I just don't want to have sex with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 02:52 PM
10

I have lots of empathy for lonely men. I just lose most of it when they turn out to be misogynistic assholes.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 06:25 PM
3

I know it's not easy. I've done it. I like a guy willing to do hard things just like I was.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 02:55 PM
3

In my culture it's a normal step of being an adult. I can only speak for that. I wouldn't be interested in men from cultures where they are expected to stay with their parents, or men who are too disabled to be independent, so I'm not really counting them. I just mean for regular people in my country. I just personally want a guy who is achieving those typical life milestones. I'm not going to shame men who aren't. They just aren't for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 02:40 PM
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I don't demonize it but I wouldn't be interested in a guy who lives with his parents. I wouldn't mind if he shared an apartment with roommates though. To me it's just an important part of being an adult, I made it happen even when I was broke.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 02:32 PM
3

Yayyyy that is amazing for you ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 12:47 PM
10

Their mind is blown when I say my "type" is mildly feminine bisexual guys and I'm not into super tall muscular chads at all lol
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 12:47 PM
10

Nah he's literally exactly what I wanted. He's insanely attractive and I'd crawl inside his skin if I could.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 12:44 PM
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My fiance is none of those lol He makes me laugh my ass off, he's smart and teaches me stuff, he's emotionally supportive and always knows how to comfort me, he let's me ramble for ages about my interests, and I feel like I can completely be myself with him. So he makes my life better.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 12:40 PM
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They hate that it allows us to have higher standards. I can financially support myself, I want a guy who makes my life better in other ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 12:11 PM
1

Only in the context of them being made fun of but never in a serious way. I was just curious because it seems almost universally ridiculed.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 04:34 PM
1

I've only ever seen polyamory content that is making fun of how ugly poly people are. Is it something people are being encouraged to do? It seems niche and looked down upon.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 04:32 PM
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I'm not really attracted to socially awkward guys. I don't want to date a guy I'm not into just because he doesn't know how to lie lol
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 07:44 PM
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I won't put up with shitty behaviour from a hot guy. I'd rather be single and sexless. Luckily it's not hard to find guys who are both hot and nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 04:08 PM
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I'm saying if she only wants to based on a lie
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 02:10 PM
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If she wouldn't have consented without the lie I'd call that used. Not saying it's rape or anything just a person being shitty.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 02:07 PM
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If the person wouldn't have agreed without the lie I'd call that used
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 02:06 PM
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I think people say that when the guy lies in order to have sex. Not in normal instances of casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 01:38 PM
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Where I'm from it's pretty normal to take turns paying or split. I took my bf to the mcdonalds drive through on our 2nd "date" for creme egg mcflurries and I paid.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 12:24 PM
2

I'm saying if it's not attainable it's not realistic, that's all. Guess we are talking past each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 12:22 PM
2

Yeah I'm using realistic to mean attainable. A lot of men absolute cannot actually get with women who meet their standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 12:15 PM
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There's no "blame" to be had. People can have whatever standards they want, it's not wrong to have high standards, it might make dating difficult though. I have pretty normal standards, I think they're realistic because I don't struggle to get with men who fit them.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 12:08 PM
4

He was adjacent to my friend group. I knew I wanted him from the day we met.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 12:06 PM
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I didn't settle for my fiance. He's exactly who I want.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 12:01 PM
2

It's not realistic if they don't have the ability to get them lol that's the opposite of realistic
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 11:59 AM
6

If we get what we want it's not unrealistic. Lots of us do find men who meet our high standards fairly easily.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 11:53 AM
6

If their expectations were reasonable they wouldn't be chronically single and sexless.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 11:51 AM
3

I've never actually known any of these women that apparently get mad about paying for coffee. Most men offer and want to pay and that's that, in my experience. It's not some big "thing".
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 11:15 AM
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The number of guys who like fat old hairy women is probably similar to the number of women who like short men. I prefer short to average guys. We definitely exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 11:08 AM
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It's delusional. I've had unattractive men be sooo creepy towards me and completely ignore boundaries.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 09:13 PM
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Unfortunately there's a small subset of men on incel forums and the like who advocate for disgusting inhumane solutions to men not getting laid, even though they're an extreme minority they've left such a bad taste in people's mouths that the entire topic became a bit tainted.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 09:46 AM
2

I specified having empathy for men experiencing "true loneliness" but that doesn't mean I have none for men who are lacking sex and relationships. It's been my experience that those men are often bitter, and sometimes hateful, so I don't always enjoy conversing with them, but I understand it must be incredibly painful. And for the ones who don't blame women, I'm happy to be there for them. I have one good friend who is such an awesome guy, he's smart, sweet, funny, kind... but comes off a little…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 05:26 PM
2

Toxic friend groups definitely exist. They aren't too hard to avoid. I've luckily never been in one. My girl friends are wonderful.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 05:05 PM
8

I mean I do to an extent. Its a very different situation to true loneliness but they often tend to hijack any conversation about male loneliness. I'm so used to them following up their complaints with criticizing/blaming women too so I'm usually not exactly excited to hear them out.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 04:29 PM
8

I have a lot of empathy for lonely men (I mean lonely as in socially isolated, not guys with friends who want sex/dating). Women tend to habe big support systems of other women and it doesn't seem as common for men to have that with other men. I've heard a lot of men complain that their male friendships are shallow with no emotional support. I'd imagine it's tough being in that situation, as a man society expects you to be okay all the times d not struggle. I don't think it's women's responsibil…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 04:08 PM
6

Quebec too??
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 11:46 AM
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Where I'm from it's not expected that a woman takes a man's last name. That's a cultural thing, not inherent to marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 10:22 AM
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Omg same I'm not dating a 15 year old so give me the 4'9 guy I guess lol
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 10:53 PM
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Those types of guys get an attitude about it as soon as they find out how much I make, even though it's like $80k a year lol. Like they'll instantly go into some spiel about how there's so much more to life than money and it just comes off as so defensive and kind of insulting, as if I can't fully appreciate life like them. Or they just make jabs or go on about how much they don't care or how they could totally be rich if they wanted to be... They are a minority though.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 06:32 PM
5

I don't do that stuff. I can't help what other women do.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 02:42 PM
4

I could not care less.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 01:41 PM
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My ex was socially awkward and barely left the house and treated me like shit and spent hundreds of dollars on camgirls then couldn't pay his bills. Definitely no guarantee a socially awkward guy is better.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 01:05 PM
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I just found a guy who is loyal and emotionally intelligent while not being socially awkward. I'm glad he's experienced and social, he's fun to go out with. It's not an either/or.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 12:56 PM
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Okay then do that. It's your choice. Lots of couples still meet at bars and stuff though.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 09:19 PM
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Yeah, that's why you don't hit on them without any signal they want to talk to you...
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 09:03 PM
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You don't just instantly hit on a random woman. You see if she's even open to talking first. Is she making eye contact and smiling? Does she seem excited to have a friendly conversation?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 07:39 PM
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I hang out with their girlfriends or see them stop by at work.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 07:33 PM
5

Men can fuck a guy in the ass or get a blowjob from a man, they just wouldn't like it. Just like I wouldn't like being fucked by a man I'm not attracted to. A man fucking a man or getting a bj could also still feel good if he closed his eyes...
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 07:33 PM
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And other women enjoy being approached.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 07:22 PM
4

By that logic men are still an option for men too even if they wouldn't enjoy it... In both cases it's sex with someone you have zero attraction to.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 07:22 PM
1

Incels don't have easy access to casual sex with women lol
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 07:17 PM
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The men opting out usually weren't that desirable to begin with. Most attractive decent guys I know are in relationships. I'm gen Z and while I know sexlessness is an issue, my friends and colleagues don't seem to struggle as much as Reddit makes it seem like. I think avoiding apps helps avoid most of the toxicity. I met my boyfriend through a friend, I hate dating apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 07:12 PM
3

If I'm not attracted to them they're no more an option for sex than if they were women. Food I don't like is still an option.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 06:59 PM
2

When I say average I just mean a 4-6 on my scale. But yeah I'm definitely not attracted to most men. Not many guys are an 8+ to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 04:54 PM
6

90% of the time when a guy is complaining about dating and I ask about his social life he barely has any friends or doesn't like being social, they almost always complain about not having friends and a social life.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 04:16 PM
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Right, but he knows people are saying average based on their scale so it just seems like a silly complaint. It just means normal mediocre looking dudes.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 04:06 PM
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Seems like just being obtuse though, he knows what they mean. On their scale of 1-2 rather than an evenly distributed scale of the population.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 03:56 PM
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I'm pretty honest about the fact that I'm not attracted to most men. But when people say average they just mean mediocre looking. Not far or grotesque but not hot either. I don't think they mean average so literally. Fat broke guys are seen as below average even if technically they are average.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 03:39 PM
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If you're not attracted to someone you're not attracted to them, I don't see why gender matters at that point. I'm straight but men I'm not attracted to wanting to have sex with me is no different to me than lesbians wanting to have sex with me. They're all in the category of people I don't want to have sex with.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 01:37 PM
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I am, but if 20 random guys want to have casual sex with me and I'm not attracted to any of them, it's the same as a guy going on grindr. I'm not attracted to most men. Definitely not the ones who hit up random women for casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 01:27 PM
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I don't think the point is thst it's preferable. It's just saying men can experience what women experience if they want to, people they aren't attracted to that want to fuck them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 12:05 PM
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Because men don't have easy access to casual sex with unattractive women but they do with other men.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 11:49 AM
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I figured it was implied they meant with people they're not attracted to since thats what the post is about.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 11:46 AM
4

In the OP they didn't say men should do it, just that they can if they want the experience of a bunch of men they're not attracted to wanting to fuck them. Haven't read their comments yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 11:41 AM
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OP didn't say men can choose to be gay, they said they can experience a bunch of men they aren't attracted to wanting to fuck them
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 11:40 AM
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It's not advice I don't think. Just a way for men to understand that having a lot of men we aren't attracted to wanting to fuck us is pretty useless.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 11:30 AM
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It's not saying it's a choice, it's just a way of showing men how meaningless it is that we have a lot of men we aren't attracted to wanting to fuck us.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 11:29 AM
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I kind of agree. I've never thought of it that way but it's true. I have zero attraction to most men who want to have casual sex with me, just like straight men have zero attraction to the men wanting casual sex with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 11:12 AM
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I don't think anyone would call that an age gap relationship lol that's a very normal age difference when dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 11:05 AM
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For me it means sex on a regular basis.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 01:29 AM
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When I hook up the main thing I'm looking for is someone I feel comfortable and safe with
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 01:28 AM
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I mean, a guy better be hot if I'm going to date him too 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/26 09:26 PM
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Obviously.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/26 09:26 PM
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I'm very aware that I'm only willing to have sex with men that have a minimum threshold of attractiveness. It's just a bit higher when it's someone I'm going to be kissing and having sex with all the time. I'm not going to sleep with someone I'm not attracted to though, that's crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/26 08:38 PM
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The guys who can't get laid usually aren't comfortable in the social situations where casual sex happens, in my experience, or aren't really sure how to act in those scenarios. Obviously ugly guys will struggle regardless though
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/26 08:11 PM
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I don't settle on looks just because I also care about other traits in a relationship. It's just even more important that he's attractive. For hookups I don't really care if the guy is hot tbh, it's not like I'm going to be kissing him all the time. If he's a lil ugly that's okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/26 07:56 PM
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Makes no sense to me. I care way more about how attractive a guy is if I'm going to be having sex with him and only him for the foreseeable future.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/26 07:33 PM
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I need to be a lot more attracted to a guy to date him vs casual sex. Casual sex it doesn't matter, it's a one time thing. I don't really need to find him that hot. Dating means sex on a regular basis so attraction is way more important. My standards are a lot higher for relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/26 06:56 PM
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There's more people who are lonely and not dating in general. I think it's partly because people socialize a lot less and rely entirely on shitty apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/26 12:01 PM
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I'm seriously wondering though. Why do you think women are dating men they don't like? This is one of the most bizarre takes I've seen in here so I'm curious what the logic even is.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 11:39 AM
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If I wasn't that into a guy why would I even keep seeing him? This doesn't make any sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 11:24 AM
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If I didn't like someone I wouldn't want to keep seeing him...
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 11:21 AM
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I learned in school that masturbation was normal and healthy, and pretty much everyone does it. I'm in Canada. Didn't realize it wasn't taught that way in the US.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 10:32 AM
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When I met my bf he wasn't my usual type, and we didn't follow the usual order of things (we had sex before we had even been on a date, usually I prefer to wait. He was just really good at making me feel comfortable and safe and respected. He was open with his feelings and I never had to second guess his intentions. There's something so refreshingly genuine about him. He never put me on some huge pedestal or tried too hard to flatter me or agree with everything I said, he was still super sweet j…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/26 07:26 PM
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He said they think interacting with a penis at all in any capacity is gross and unnatural.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 02:37 PM
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He said these women won't even touch it with their hands and see any interaction with it as misogynist.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 02:14 PM
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They are probably deep in denial about their sexuality. I've never encountered a woman with an attitude like that who wasn't openly lesbian. Straight women generally like penises.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 02:14 PM
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It sounds like they might not be straight... It's not normal to never want to interact with a penis if you're in a relationship with a man. I enjoy giving and receiving oral, it's just a normal part of our sex life. Blowjobs aren't any more degrading than eating pussy. It's only degrading if you make it degrading. People who think it's inherently degrading have issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 02:07 PM
10

People are more likely to help me. Although maybe that's because they assume I'm less competent...
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 09:29 PM
6

Agreed. I'm bi-ish and I prefer bi guys tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 08:54 PM
8

I've noticed that too.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 08:12 PM
11

Same here.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 08:11 PM
2

I mean yeah, I know my reality more than a stranger.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 06:52 PM
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It's worth it if you find a good guy. I'm so thankful for my amazing bf.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 04:34 PM
2

I'm 25 and I love a man opening up and being vulnerable with me. I don't need a protector.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 02:10 PM
1

I've heard some trans men say gay porn/gay media is what made them realize they want to be a gay man rather than a woman. Like they didn't realize why they liked it so much and then it hit them, it's because maybe they are a gay man. I don't think it's the case for most women into gay stuff, but maybe some?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 04:04 PM
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I agree actually. Especially when it comes to bi men, women can be absolutely horrible. I prefer bi men tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 10:59 AM
4

I have that in my relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 02:15 AM
1

I think there's some who get so obsessed with gay men that they end up joining them. It'll never be me lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 12:02 AM
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Yep a lot of guys think we are self inserting in the erotica but for me at least, not at all. I'm in the cuck chair like God intended.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 08:52 PM
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For my own relationship yes, I love a vulnerable tender man who doesn't care about gender roles. I'm dating one. I just find it hotter to read gay stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 08:38 PM
1

I'm still jealous! You should watch the show too it's so good!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 08:28 PM
3

They were heavily shipped back in the day apparently. And Rachel Reid (Heated Rivalry author) is a hockey fan from Halifax (same city as Sidney Crosby), and big into fanfic... I'd bet money she was reading them lol
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 08:27 PM
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I think the rivalry part is based on them, but I think a lot of the relationship/story/characterization came from Sidney Crosby/Evgeni Malkin fanfics. I've read a bunch and it's almost uncanny how similar they feel to Shane and Ilya. Even some plot points are similar. There's like 12k fanfics of Sidney and Evgeni. It's wild lol. Very few of Sid and Ovi.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 08:19 PM
3

Yup. It's one of the more violent sports and known for being not exactly gay friendly.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 08:10 PM
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Part of it is just that I'm Canadian so I grew up with hockey players being the pinnacle of hotness... but also it's just a good setting, it's a masculine homophobic environment that creates conflict. It's also slightly homoerotic though.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 08:09 PM
3

WHAT? Which scene???
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 08:07 PM
9

As a Canadian hockey fan, Heated Rivalry did something to me that I can't explain lol
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 08:04 PM
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They can be, but there's often this tough facade that gets put on too. Plus there's just something special about seeing men be tender and vulnerable with other men, the way women are with each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 08:03 PM
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For real. It feels good to be just an observer and not have to imagine myself as one of them or something
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 08:01 PM
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Yeah it's always been a thing with erotica/smutty fanfic. Just not sure about actual porn since I don't like porn much to begin with. One of my best friends mom used to wrote gay Harry Potter smut as a teenager lol Apparently Fandoms like Supernatural and Sherlock were gay as fuck too.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 08:00 PM
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Ao3 is probably the top site for smut and it's been majority m/m since it's inception almost 20 years ago. It's always been a thing it's just more mainstream now I think. I'm not sure about actual porn though.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 07:55 PM
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I love men being all vulnerable and tender and stuff. I like the lack of gender roles. Just seeing 2 guys be so caring and affectionate towards each other... maybe something about it being more forbidden adds an extra layer too. The fact that they love each other despite feeling like the world is against them. And it's just really hot. I dunno why but seeing 2 guys together has always turned me on. I read A LOT of gay smut. Mostly fanfic. It's actually embarrassing lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 07:43 PM
22

My cat costs like... $50/month...
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 05:40 PM
4

My bf likes knowing other guys want me but only he gets to have me.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 05:12 PM
5

Awww I'm glad you experienced that! Compliments from other girls tend to be so wholesome!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 05:10 PM
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Sometimes it's fun to look nice. I love the compliments from other girls tbh lol I live getting ready with my friends and helping each other all look our best. Also my boyfriend is usually with me and likes when I look extra cute.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 05:04 PM
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The one being cheated on doesn't know they're being potentially exposed to STDs. If they vet one they might not even seek treatment right away since they don't realize it's a possibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 12:47 PM
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Most men are just neutral to me. It's rare I see a man and think "wow he's hot". A guy can become hot if I like him though.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 06:50 PM
8

It's nice if he speaks up if there's actually bigotry happening. I'm satisfied if he just doesn't participate though. I don't consider a couple guys to be complaining about their gfs being bad drivers to be sexism though, not unless they're calling all women bad drivers. I used to complain about my ex bfs driving a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 05:04 PM
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Whatever works. I don't pay towards the mortgage at all, but I split other bills 50/50. It works for us because I make less than him.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 11:11 AM
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I would not date a trans man. I'd date a trans woman though (assuming she wanted to keep her penis). I would have no issues dating a man who's been with a trans woman, my boyfriend had a brief thing with a formerly trans girl when he was younger.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 03:30 PM
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I have no idea what you're even trying to say here
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 01:23 PM
3

They are equal. If a guy has a shitty personality it doesn't matter how hot he is. If a guy is physically unattractive to me than it doesn't matter how good his personality is. I didn't mention looks because I figured it was a given that I'm not going to date or have sex with someone I'm not attracted to??
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 12:55 PM
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If I'm not attracted then nothing matters. If I'm attracted then he also needs a likable personality or not it's not happening. Both are important to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 12:50 PM
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Obviously? I need to be attracted to a guy to want to have sex with him lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 12:47 PM
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Not me. I don't do quick sex with tinder guys and a guy being able to make me laugh is a big factor in my attraction to him. Most crushes I get are because the guy is funny and cute, cute alone isn't enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 12:45 PM
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I don't know if I'd ever get over it. I don't even want to think about it. He's my everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 12:34 PM
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They can work on not being a dick or controlling due to the insecurity. That's the issue. I don't mind insecure if he isn't an asshoke because of it. I'm happy to reassure my bf if he's insecure because I know he's not going to ever weaponize it against me, he's proven that.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 12:30 PM
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They need to break the cycle of "insecure because women don't like me and now even more women don't like me because I'm insecure". It's definitely not easy. Unfortunately some guys don't even seem to realize they're doing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 12:23 PM
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I've ruined things with guys by being insecure before. Definitely something I worked hard on. It sucks when you know you're self sabotaging but can't help it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 12:16 PM
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Being funny and easy to talk to kinda gets ignored when it's important to a lot of women. Being "good" is nice sure, but I also want to enjoy my time spent with a guy. If a guy is a good guy but sucks at conversation and is always serious I probably won't be into him.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 12:08 PM
9

It becomes such a self fulfilling prophecy. Insecure guy acts insecure and dick-ish because he assumes the woman won't like him and lo and behold now she doesn't like him.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 11:59 AM
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When I was in middle school I got made fun of by other girls for my freckles and flat chest, my mom always said "they're just jealous", and even then I knew it was bullshit lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 11:02 AM
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That's a good 90% of posts here. "Debate this situation I just made up"
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 09:07 PM
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Yeah that makes sense. In reality a guy seems more masculine when he's not insecure about it though.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 07:48 PM
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A man child isn't someone who makes less than me. It's a guy that doesn't know how to cook, do laundry, etc. As for money I just want someone who can afford to live the same lifestyle as me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 06:09 PM
1

That wasn't me. My comment was that if a man doesn't want to spend money he shouldn't choose expensive dates like dinners. I find dinner too intense for a first date anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 05:06 PM
2

He doesn't have to
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 05:00 PM
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I'm 25. Most of my friends do coffee or a drink or an icecrean or something as a first date. My best friend even got McDonald's on her first date with her bf lol Dinner seems kind of intense.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 03:45 PM
2

If a guy wants to take me to a $100 meal without even knowing me I'd think he's weird and desperate tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 03:29 PM
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I mostly agree. I pretty much roll my eyes any time a person assumes they're disliked because of intimidation or jealousy. There is a minority of men that is really weird about a woman being successful though. I'm so far from being wealthy but I've had guys get really passive aggressive about me making more than them, it's kinda like they assume I'll look down on them so they make up for it by being an asshole first. Or they just start crazy overcompensatong about other traits. Or they try to in…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 03:15 PM
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True I was talking about cheap dinners but I hear some guys complain about paying $100+ for a first date and I'm like why?!? That's insanity! Just get coffee, or an icecream or something!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 03:10 PM
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I don't blame him but I also don't blame women for being frustrated by it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 02:20 PM
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I guess it's relative. To me $70-80 is way too much when you don't even know each other yet. There's just no need for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 01:36 PM
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I don't think expensive first dates are a good idea anyway. It's too much pressure. Why can't people grab a coffee and go for a walk? Then there's no issue about paying.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 01:32 PM
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I guess they don't want the awkwardness if things don't work out. Some women only date total strangers, some only date friends, some want to date within communities, some don't. It doesn't really matter what a few specific women think of it because there's always going to be women who love the idea of dating within their community.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 01:13 PM
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I don't think it's bad to join a community for socialization but some guys make it super obvious they're just using it as a way to get women and it kind of ruins things.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 01:06 PM
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I sincerely hope no one is going to try to argue against this.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 01:21 PM
3

That's why I just don't date jealous or insecure guys at all anymore. The constant suspicion messed up my mental health bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 12:38 PM
3

Yep. I was young and naive but I learned. No more insecure/jealous/controlling guys for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 08:38 PM
3

I never mentioned clubs or dancing with men. I've seen guys say it's "acting single" to go to a wine and paint night with friends, or bowling, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 08:08 PM
3

Nah, I've realized it's healthy to maintain friendships and that you don't have to do everything with your partner. My boyfriend and I hang out with friends in a group all the time but it's also nice to just spend time with the girls ans for him to spend time with the boys. My ex insisted on being with me any time I went with my friends and it was sooo suffocating, I had never given him any reason not to trust me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 06:34 PM
3

A lot of my friends tracked each others locations too, I'd always read stiff online about how it's a red flag if someone won't let you track them, or how going out with friends while in a relationship is "acting single".
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 06:28 PM
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No. As long as he's respectful I don't care. It never occurred to me to be offended. Some guys will just hit on anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 12:27 AM
2

He started consuming a lot of stuff like Jordan Peterson and Ben Shapiro. He fell down the rabbit hole, sooo much gender war nonsense. Started calling everything woke and thinks trans people are one of the biggest issues in our country.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 11:07 PM
5

My ex was pretty awful, and it took me a while to realize it. Looking back it seems more obvious. He was controlling, tracked my location, got angry if I talked to other guys, etc. A lot of that stuff is pretty normalizes though so I didn't realize it was fucked up. I also slowly saw him turn into a bigot when he wasn't at first. There was definitely a correlation between his opinions getting shittier and him becoming more controlling in the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 10:52 PM
2

I have to be in a particular mood or else no guy is "good enough" for a hookup. If I want to hookup my standards are honestly lower than they are for dating lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 02:42 PM
4

Mine are probably lower for hookups if anything lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 01:49 PM
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The whole "hookup material" thing doesn't even make sense to me. I don't have a separate set of standards for hookups. There's no check list. Hookups to me are entirely about my state of mind and how I'm feeling and how I vibe with the guy. Hookups are rare for me though.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 01:47 PM
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Yeah I've never understood expensive dinners as a first date, it's s so much pressure! A cheap coffee or a shared dessert maybe, then it doesn't matter who pays because it isn't breaking the bank. One of our early dates was to a farmers market and he bought me a Portuguese custard tart and I bought him a cup of gelato.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 03:32 PM
11

People should just be doing free or cheap first dates I think. My boyfriend and I went to this free art installation at a park where these amazing sculptures are made out of plants. We had such a great time!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 02:53 PM
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I really don't care how it's perceived, I won't have sex with someone until I feel comfortable having sex with them. If they don't want to wait they are free to move on. I'm not going to do something I don't feel ready to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 01:42 AM
6

I don't make enough to take on the greater burden financially so it isn't an option for me but if I did I wouldn't care as long as he did enough at home.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 05:59 PM
7

Most people are making mediocre incomes and dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 05:21 PM
6

Then he'd probably need to move in with his parents or family who is able to support him, or maybe some kind of home for disabled people? If he was disabled it wouldn't magically make me able to financially support him unfortunately.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 04:53 PM
3

Yeah exactly.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 04:47 PM
8

There's an option in between buying a house and living with your parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 04:42 PM
11

Okay, different things work for different people. I can't afford to support my boyfriend financially so it's not even an option for us. I still appreciate that he does half of the cooking and cleaning.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 04:35 PM
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Lots of us live countries that require 2 breadwinners. I live that my boyfriend is good at cooking and cleaning, but he still has to work (as do I) or else we can't pay rent.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 04:11 PM
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Because she wasn't with him back when she was experimenting?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 02:47 PM
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If she learned she doesn't like that stuff why would she do it again?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 02:44 PM
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