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Getting Startedproblemchildar/r/Divorce_Men21/02/24 09:12 AM
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Damn dude this hurt to read. Very similar to what my ex did to me and how I found out, except we didn’t have kids. Good luck man.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/25 03:03 PM
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You don’t seem too different from me. Hate to say it but based on some of these replies you’ve got a long road ahead of you. It’s been 1.5 years since separation and one year since divorce was finalized for me, and I still feel like a shell of myself. I just got home from a weeklong, “vacation.” I felt nothingness the entire time. Nothing makes me sad or mad or happy anymore, just numbness. To your point of nobody understanding how you feel, I totally agree. Nobody, including other divorced men …
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/25 08:37 PM
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The podcast or audiobook? Thanks, I’ll look into both.
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/24 07:12 PM
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Yeah I really appreciate what you’re saying about if she was the right one then she would have mad an effort or not put me through this. I’m trying to not let her take up so much space in my head but there’s only limited things that truly help for me. Appreciate it man.
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/24 01:56 PM
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Appreciate this man. Still trying to figure out how to let go. I feel like I’m trying but again nothing is really working. No worries about being harsh, that’s probably what I need right now.
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/24 01:51 PM
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I’m about one year since the bomb dropped, six months since it was finalized. No kids. I’m still struggling, a lot. It was not a divorce I wanted or even saw remotely coming. Though I later learned that she probably cheated. I think everyone thinks that I’m okay - I am good at acting, but I’m in a really, really dark spot. I’ve also experienced nobody wanting to talk about it or ruin their day. Even my parents and best friends, who are great, just don’t seem to want to address it or help me by l…
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/24 04:32 AM
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Damn really similar to my situation. As much as I hate to see anyone going through this, I’m glad I’m not alone. It gets easier everyday, but that’s not saying much…
/r/Divorce_Men29/02/24 03:54 PM
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Yeah she’s starting to be more hostile the further this goes along. She’s already filed but I haven’t been served yet. I’m nervous about the smearing, I have a public facing job and if she makes one simple thing up, I’m fucked.
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/24 12:46 PM
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Gotcha. Yeah everything you’re saying makes sense. I guess it’s kinda cultural, I don’t know very many divorced people. All of my parents/grandparents/aunts/uncles have never been divorced. All of my friends are with their spouses. I guess I just kind of feel like an ass for being so young, it being so soon after five years, and not seeing it coming.
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/24 06:14 AM
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Great advice. It sucks being the one who didn’t want the divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/24 01:20 AM
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It may be better, but you can understand how I feel even more embarrassed by it right? What makes you say yes she cheated? Just because of the pattern I described? There is a lot of coincidences, but no solid evidence.
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/24 01:17 AM
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Damn great response. I don’t even know how to respond to all of this but I will be taking all of this advice into account. Thank you. Helps to know I’m not alone.
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/24 01:14 AM
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I know.. and I appreciate it. But man does it still hurt like a bitch.
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/24 01:38 PM
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Thanks man. It’s helpful to just write this shit down and get responses from dudes who get it. Yeah, I definitely acted immaturely at times too, though mostly in regards to our relationship because I love her so much. I don’t want to keep the house particularly either. I love it, but I don’t care about the money or property in this deal. I just don’t want to let her keep it and me know where she lives, and imagine what she’s doing in there.
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/24 10:54 AM
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Complacency. I’m willing to own it.
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/24 09:09 AM
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