protaganistic Archive

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1	How many of you men have cheated on a significant other? (All honest answers, I won’t be judging) How seriously she felt about the relationship. To 19 year old me, relationships were about partying and fucking. So if someone cheats, whatever, onto the next one. I just assumed that’s how she felt as well. Never really thought too hard about it before that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/02/22 05:07 PM
1	How many of you men have cheated on a significant other? (All honest answers, I won’t be judging) “It’s not cheating when you’re more than 100 miles away”. I used to hear this a lot when I worked as a stagehand, and my sailor friend says they say it too. It’s often said tongue-in-cheek. But some people use it as some sort of justification.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/01/22 07:18 PM
1	How many of you men have cheated on a significant other? (All honest answers, I won’t be judging) Definitely a common thing, what’s why I mentioned it. “100 mile rule”	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/01/22 01:51 PM
4	How many of you men have cheated on a significant other? (All honest answers, I won’t be judging) Cheated twice on my college gf. Didn’t really take relationships seriously back then. She was devastated when she found out. I shouldn’t have been surprised but her reaction really shocked me. Changed my perspective. Would never do it again. So I usually have some pushback against the typical reddit “once a cheater, always a cheater” mantra. Because I know it’s not always the case. Also, of my closest friends, 2/8 have cheated at some point. One of them stopped, one continues to do so (he’s a sa…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/01/22 02:48 PM
1	Every single polyamorous couple I've interracted with was instigated by the female party. I’m sure you can garner more about my life than I know from a few sentences. Please do elaborate on how I’m being used.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/12/21 08:15 PM
2	Every single polyamorous couple I've interracted with was instigated by the female party. I’m in a monogamous relationship because it’s great. That said, I don’t really feel monogamous. We broke up for a while during our college years, when she told me she slept with others it really didn’t have an effect on me. I’m hopelessly in love with her, but love and sex feel like very different things in my head. I’ve shared this with her. We’ve discussed poly/swinging a couple times, but she doesn’t think she can handle it. I’ll always choose her over other women, but I’d be lying if I said …	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/12/21 06:55 PM
1	Commitment and communication are more important in making a relationship work than sex and passion. I think we can file a coma under “special case”. I was talking about when both people are conscious and not communicating well. There’s always exceptions.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/11/21 06:51 PM
1	Commitment and communication are more important in making a relationship work than sex and passion. I agree, but I will say that a relationship can survive a period with no/low sex, but going a few months with no/low communication would be a much bigger issue.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/11/21 05:48 PM
10	People are uncomfortable admitting that anything other than personality affects someone's attractiveness Idk why you see so much pushback on this concept in certain spaces. Just about everyone I know, guys and girls, will admit that looks are a big factor.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/10/21 06:39 PM
1	The 80/20 rule is true, one should accept it and move on (CMV) I’m not following.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/10/21 05:14 PM
3	The 80/20 rule is true, one should accept it and move on (CMV) That anecdotal evidence is unreliable?	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/10/21 05:10 PM
1	The 80/20 rule is true, one should accept it and move on (CMV) Well if we’re offering anecdotes, I have 4 ugly, married friends. One of them’s teeth are rotted and his wife was hot when they got married.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/10/21 05:04 PM
1	Despite some protests to the contrary, the pre-selection bias is quite real....... There definitely is an aspect of that, but I saw it across cliques too. People (even guys) wanted to date up. It was a way to prove you’re cool. So the popular girls who weren’t as attractive (usually long time friends of the hot girls) were considered hotter than hot girls of a “lower” social standing.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/10/21 10:43 PM
1	Despite some protests to the contrary, the pre-selection bias is quite real....... At my school, there was certainly a strong correlation between hotness and popularity, but it wasn’t a given. I thought this euphonium player was one of the hottest girls in my class, but she didn’t get along with the popular crowd. Some guys really never grow out of it. Especially the frat bro/finance bro type.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/10/21 09:39 PM
2	Despite some protests to the contrary, the pre-selection bias is quite real....... It’s definitely a certain kind of guy, and I’d confidently say it’s less prevalent among men than women, but there are definitely plenty of guys who care about that social posturing. I used to care when I was younger, so I can attest to it. Thankfully I grew out of it and was able to focus on what I wanted, and drown out the noise.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/10/21 08:23 PM
2	Despite some protests to the contrary, the pre-selection bias is quite real....... Plenty of guys do care. The popular crew tended to be more widely desired, because of the weird way HS social dynamics work. And the dudes with all the options would choose the average looking popular girls instead of the better looking girls outside of the popular group. Guys like highly desired women too. It’s social capital.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/10/21 08:09 PM
6	Despite some protests to the contrary, the pre-selection bias is quite real....... I disagree. The average looking girls in high school who hung out with the popular crew tended to punch above their weight, in my experience.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/10/21 07:58 PM
1	Young men are not as stable and attractive as older men I don’t disagree, I’m just talking averages. There are lots of people who do grow up between 20 and 25, but not as many who grow up between 25 and 30. That’s why I assert that there’s a correlation between age and maturity before age 25ish.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/10/21 07:57 PM
4	Young men are not as stable and attractive as older men 20 is still really young. There are mature 20 year olds but it’s not the norm. Many people are still being treated like children at that age. I think age and maturity stop having much correlation around 25.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/10/21 02:58 PM
-1	Many people vastly underestimate social pressures, and a desire to conform, as an explanation for people's opinions and behavior. This is especially true of men's behavior when it comes to women. I’m with you. I always WANT to have sex, but it’s not my first priority. Now that I’m wifed up I’m having sex 6ish times a week so I’m pretty sure it’s not low T. I imagine it would be different if I wasn’t getting laid semi-regularly since I was 16. Abundance mindset, and all that. But a truly equal companionship is just something special. It’s rare enough that it may seem like it doesn’t exist, but it does.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/09/21 06:30 PM
1	This is the reason why shouldn't date multiple people at the same time and use the other one as an option. I don’t care. She’s interested enough to go on a date with me. Then, through dating, she can see who I am and make a judgement call. And I’ll do the same thing to her. What matters is her feelings towards me after a few dates, and going forward. That’s the real part. Outside of friends you already know, pre-dating impressions are typically pretty shallow. For example, the girl in the linked post doesn’t know either dude very well. So she takes a gander based on practicality, and it didn’t work o…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/09/21 12:49 AM
5	This is the reason why shouldn't date multiple people at the same time and use the other one as an option. I just don’t see the big deal. Circumstances change. They kept it friendly when they broke it off. Things changed, and she reached out. Face it, you’re rarely anybody’s first choice. Relationships grow and change over time. I didn’t feel the same about my wife after 1 week than I did after 3 years. I might have been her 2nd option when we met, but I’m sure as fuck her first priority now. So you’re presented with options, you take your best guess, when it doesn’t work out you try again.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/09/21 02:27 PM
1	Men of this Subreddit, what would/will you do after a Girl/woman has rejected you after you've asked them out on a date/confessed your feelings? Depends on what my relationship with her is like and how the rejection went. If we were cool beforehand, I shoot my shot, she politely rejects me, things won’t really change. I may reach out to her less, or not at all, but no hard feelings.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/09/21 03:11 PM
2	Is body count a part of modern dating culture? Makes sense, I’m more in the “go with the flow” kind of camp, so I wouldn’t ask until I decide that I definitely want to pursue a serious relationship.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/09/21 06:03 PM
2	Is body count a part of modern dating culture? It may start as casual dating and later turn into something serious.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/09/21 05:52 PM
2	If we really think consent is all that matters, why is most gambling illegal? Probably MGM or William Hill. I use DraftKings myself though.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/09/21 02:57 PM
2	If we really think consent is all that matters, why is most gambling illegal? Mainly sports betting. It was made federally legal 3 years ago. I think around 20 states have legalized it now. Now they make up like half of all the ads in sports. Also, last year, Nevada and Louisiana legalized casino gambling state-wide. They were the first states to do so.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/09/21 02:46 PM
1	If we really think consent is all that matters, why is most gambling illegal? At least in the US, gambling is becoming much more widely accepted, and our laws are starting to reflect that. Just watch any sports event.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/09/21 02:40 PM
1	“I can’t be open because they will use it against me” is a common thing I hear men say, but not women as much — why? Compelling argument there.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/09/21 08:48 PM
2	CMV: The advice “you need to love yourself first before someone else can love you” doesn’t work for men the same way it does for women. I think you just hammered home exactly why men need to love themselves. You’re not going to get much validation from others, so it has to come from within. It IS possible to love yourself after repeated rejections. And it’s very important. Your self-worth is not tied to your social success.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/09/21 02:35 PM
5	Masculinity is not toxic, the lack of masculinity is. Why does the name mean imply that it’s inherent to males? Toxic masculinity =/= masculinity. It’s just a certain subsection of it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/08/21 08:54 PM
10	Masculinity is not toxic, the lack of masculinity is. I’m seeing a lot of this sentiment in this thread. Can someone explain to me why they thing toxic masculinity inherently blames all men? To me, It’s just a term for the negative effects of the societal expectations on men. The term in itself does not assign blame.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/08/21 07:31 PM
2	The dating game- Worth it for average men or not? I like dating, so I find it worth it. I’m not really looking for a long-term commitment, so I don’t stress over it much. I mostly date for fun (and sex). I like getting to know people and I like flirting. I can see why dating would be stressful if you’re intent on finding your life-partner, but I’m not. So it’s fun.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/08/21 03:19 PM
1	Non redpill individuals what advice would you give to an average dude having trouble with women I don’t consider myself RP (guy), but obviously doing what you can to increase attractiveness is a no-brainer. But what’s more important than that is that you socialize with strangers. Not even just girls. Try to expand your social circle. This comes pretty easy to me, but I understand it doesn’t for everyone. But if you’re not meeting new people, you’re not giving yourself a chance. Now let’s talk about the abundance mindset. What this mindset lets you do is take risks. You need to take some ri…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/07/21 02:44 PM
1	Women want to join a saved game People give that advice to guys because it’s practical. Why would you give the same advice to a woman? Her situation is not the same.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/21 02:26 PM
3	Having strong negative opinions of the opposite sex is a huge turn-off and red flag. Favorite reply here. Keep your guard up, but give them the benefit of the doubt.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/07/21 07:55 PM
1	Dating is pointless if you don't want or need anything from another person, since that is mostly what dating and relationships are for. I think you’re making it out to be more rational than it is. You say that humans have this biological drive to seek out companionship because it increases survivability. This is totally true, but the reason behind it doesn’t matter. All our monkey brain tells us is that we want the companionship. There doesn’t have to be an explicit reason behind that, or a need that’s not being met. It’s just programmed into us.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/07/21 07:00 PM
4	When it comes to who pays for dates, many women say that the gender wage gap justifies the expectation that men pay for dates. However, amongst the demographic that is dating (i.e., single people), single women outearn single men. Therefore, by their own logic, women should pay for dates. Most of this sub seems to really hate dating, and they view it as a means to an end. I really enjoy dating though. I think that’s what makes the difference.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/07/21 07:40 PM
7	When it comes to who pays for dates, many women say that the gender wage gap justifies the expectation that men pay for dates. However, amongst the demographic that is dating (i.e., single people), single women outearn single men. Therefore, by their own logic, women should pay for dates. Have you ever dated someone who you knew before getting involved romantically?	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/07/21 07:31 PM
12	When it comes to who pays for dates, many women say that the gender wage gap justifies the expectation that men pay for dates. However, amongst the demographic that is dating (i.e., single people), single women outearn single men. Therefore, by their own logic, women should pay for dates. She’s a stranger until you fuck her? Do you have any platonic friends? I like getting to know someone on a date. If I want a second date, I’m happy to pay.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/07/21 07:28 PM
1	Why is talking about sexual strategy much more inflammatory than practicing it in real life? It’s hard for me to imagine you having this conversation with your partners for 10 years and none of them ever said they want some dick on the side, too	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/07/21 12:47 PM
24	Why is talking about sexual strategy much more inflammatory than practicing it in real life? Personally, I don’t like one-sided relationship standards. It doesn’t jive with me. I feel that I can only hold someone to a standard that I’m willing to live by myself. Of course, you and your partners are free to as you please. I’ve got no issues since you’re upfront about it. It just doesn’t make much sense to me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/07/21 11:38 PM
2	Women's standards ("the bar") are indeed low, but not for the reasons you think In-laws. Friends of friends. The kind of people you see at big social events but never speak to for more than a few minutes.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/07/21 08:12 PM
2	What do You consider interesting hobby? It definitely is individual, I’m just talking about the average reaction to it. So it could totally vary depending on your circle. But in my experience, something that involves physically making something, something musical, or some athletic pursuit is more relatable to people on average, and leads to more engaged conversation.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/06/21 01:45 PM
2	What do You consider interesting hobby? I think there are plenty of hobbies that are interesting to people outside of it. Like, my friends are into woodworking and cars, which I’m not into but I’ll discuss it with them. But I don’t want to hear them talk about fantasy baseball, I find that really tedious. In my experience, when someone asks me what I did this weekend and I say mountain biking, it’s much more likely to get an engaged response than if I were to say videogames.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/06/21 01:29 PM
0	What do You consider interesting hobby? I think it’s only interesting to other gamers, which is true of basically any hobby.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/06/21 12:45 PM
6	What do You consider interesting hobby? It’s a hobby, but definitely not an interesting one.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/06/21 12:32 PM
2	Would men having higher standards actually work? Shotgun approach for sex, unicorn hunting for LTR. Idk if your scenario would help, but I know for sure that it would never happen.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/06/21 02:37 PM
1	If hypergamy is a thing, are liberal women less hypergamous? I mean, I’m sure a kpop fanatic would be into any kpop dude, but given the choice, they’d go with the top dog	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/06/21 01:05 AM
1	If hypergamy is a thing, are liberal women less hypergamous? Liking progressive stuff doesn’t make you any more or less hypergamous. The girls who like kpop boys still want the “alpha” kpop boy. He may not be a traditional alpha, but there’s always someone atop the social structure. So I don’t think political leaning has anything to do with it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/06/21 11:58 PM
4	CMV: It's not fair, but a man that "just gets it" is going to be a far better lover than a guy that has to be told what to do Hmmm. Lasting longer was a big part of it. I realized I was busting quickly because I was very tense when I was having sex. So loosening up was a big part of it (don’t clench your buttcheeks). Also jerking off. I still jerk off and watch porn, but I don’t rush to the finish like I used to. I take my time with it. Practice like you play. But so much of it is a mental game. Just getting out of your own head, being in the moment. This got a lot easier for me as I got more confident. Self-doubt is a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/21 08:30 PM
2	CMV: It's not fair, but a man that "just gets it" is going to be a far better lover than a guy that has to be told what to do Not true for me. I had mediocre sex for years before I finally got good at it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/21 04:50 PM
1	Sex is higher pressure for men There are some sacrifices I’m not willing to make	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/21 12:48 AM
7	Sex is higher pressure for men Do you know what the pill does to a woman’s body? It’s not like their birth control is free of consequences. Sure, sex with a condom isn’t “fully pleasurable”. But sacrifices have to be made if you want to have sex and don’t want to have a baby. You’re basically saying it’s 100% the woman’s responsibility to prevent a pregnancy, which I don’t agree with.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/06/21 06:40 PM
8	Sex is higher pressure for men Option A. Take responsibility for yourself. Don’t rely on someone else to prevent the pregnancy. Do it yourself. It only takes 15 seconds to rubber up. It’s not gonna kill the mood.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/06/21 06:05 PM
21	Sex is higher pressure for men But if someone chooses not to wear a condom, they have no standing to complain that the woman controls pregnancy outcomes. You’ve made the decision not to control it yourself.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/06/21 05:41 PM
20	Sex is higher pressure for men I wrapped my willy for years. It’s really not that big a deal. Totally worth it to reduce the stress involved.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/06/21 05:27 PM
7	Sex is higher pressure for men Don’t let that stop you	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/06/21 04:57 PM
1	Financial Abortion and deadbeat dads I agree with this on a philosophical level, but I think the overall effect on the lives of the children will be negative. Rightly or wrongly, divorce law prioritizes the wellbeing of the child over the financial wellbeing of the parents. Do you think there’s any way to mitigate the effect on the child’s life?	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/06/21 01:59 PM
3	Can someone please give me some good reasons why any financially successful man (or woman) should ever get married in today’s day and age? Yes, the benefits of marriage can be wiped out in divorce. Insightful point.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/06/21 01:28 PM
4	How many women actually have more than 5 sexual partners? Feel free to post some links	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/06/21 04:58 PM
13	People who have been married and are no longer.... What was the reason for your divorce? Do you take any responsibility in it or was the cause on them? Were you long distance during the engagement? Did people in your life warn you against this? Honestly just curious. I was in an LDR for a time and felt like people often voiced their concern to me over it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/06/21 06:49 PM
2	YOU HAVE TO "PUT WOMEN ON A PEDESTAL" Uhh I’m engaged, but ok. There’s a difference between putting in effort and simping. Approaching isn’t simping. I would’ve never gotten laid when I was single if I waited to be approached. Like, you can still chase tail while self-improving. There’s no end-point anyway.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/06/21 03:59 PM
3	YOU HAVE TO "PUT WOMEN ON A PEDESTAL" Sure, but most of us don’t have that experience. The rest of us have to put in some effort to get laid.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/06/21 03:52 PM
3	YOU HAVE TO "PUT WOMEN ON A PEDESTAL" Approaching isn’t putting them on a pedastal. Treating them like they’re above you is putting them on a pedastal. You’ve gotta put yourself out there to have any chance.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/06/21 03:15 PM
4	What does 'taking responsibility' mean? The problem isn’t the venting. The problem is when you vent about it but never change your behaviors. Deciding not to put yourself in those situations in the future is “taking responsibility”	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/05/21 03:28 AM
1	Women don't care about fame and status. It's money and talent. Status is way more than that. It’s how you’re treated by those around you. People are willing to give their attention to people with high status.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/05/21 01:59 PM
0	If a man feels loved by his wife cooking, cleaning, and having sex with him, he is not a sexist, not a misogynist, and not a rapist. Furthermore, he is entitled to his views and doesn't have to apologize to anyone. (Part 2, a continuation of last week’s post) It was a hypothetical. Nobody said it should happen to you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/05/21 07:42 PM
2	If a man feels loved by his wife cooking, cleaning, and having sex with him, he is not a sexist, not a misogynist, and not a rapist. Furthermore, he is entitled to his views and doesn't have to apologize to anyone. (Part 2, a continuation of last week’s post) You’re allowed to want whatever you want. Just don’t be surprised that women aren’t into being valued for their domestic services. And damn dude, not all of those comments are as accusatory as you make them sound. Lighten up. Nobody told you you “need to have unclean sex acts performed” on you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/05/21 07:39 PM
2	Does a woman being funny change her value in relationships at all? Have you ever gotten into a complete laughing fit, like on the verge of crying, with someone who you’re attracted to? When the laughing finally dies down, the sexual energy is enormous. So yea, it’s a plus. Not a total gamechanger, but it’s definitely appreciated.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/05/21 06:07 PM
3	Straight men will not spend a significant amount of time/are not close friends with a straight woman in whom they are not sexually or romantically interested. Why not? I want to have sex with my office manager too. Is that not a platonic relationship? The nature of the relationship is not sexual, therefore it’s platonic.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/05/21 05:49 PM
4	Straight men will not spend a significant amount of time/are not close friends with a straight woman in whom they are not sexually or romantically interested. Can gay guys be friends? I have 2 close female friends. 1 of them I find quite attractive, and would have sex with her if not for social consequences. But I choose not to make a move because she’s my friend. I am the master of my destiny, not my dick.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/05/21 04:47 PM
10	Average men never truly experience a women's love at its full extent I can’t even begin to tell you how much better sex is when you’re totally comfortable with your partner.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/05/21 10:22 PM
17	Average men never truly experience a women's love at its full extent I don’t really see those as conflicting viewpoints. I want my partner to love me for who I am right now. Continuous self-improvement is a part of my identity. In my experience, the more comfortable you are with each other, the easier it is to call your partner on their bullshit, and hold each other to high standards.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/05/21 09:42 PM
4	Average men never truly experience a women's love at its full extent Practice. It’s been 7 years.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/05/21 08:17 PM
3	Average men never truly experience a women's love at its full extent She said “only to please him”. Not “I can never be convinced to change”	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/05/21 06:21 PM
140	Average men never truly experience a women's love at its full extent For me, in the “truest form of love”, both parties are totally comfortable being 100% themselves, and the power dynamics involved with dating fall away. So just because a girl is going out of her way to impress you does not make it “true love”	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/05/21 04:34 PM
1	Q4W Do you believe that the Red Pill should be censored? Why/Why not You literally asked me a question...	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/05/21 06:52 PM
1	Q4W Do you believe that the Red Pill should be censored? Why/Why not From a legal perspective, I really don’t know. From a PR perspective it’d be a disaster but that’s beside the point. Personally, I feel it would be wrong to ban you for preaching any aspect of Islam, but perfectly justified if you were quoting scripture that promotes violence or promoting beliefs that incite violence. Same goes for RP or incel shit or whatever. I think it’s wrong to ban people for preaching their beliefs, until those beliefs start encroaching on the liberties of others.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/05/21 06:45 PM
1	Q4W Do you believe that the Red Pill should be censored? Why/Why not Ok, what’s your point? The comment talks about banning people for violating ToS. If Google’s ToS said no muslims, that would violate freedom of religion. I hate to defend censorship because it sucks, but there’s a clear difference between saying “if you break these rules we’ll ban you” and saying “we’ll ban people based on their skin color or religion”	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/05/21 06:15 PM
1	Q4W Do you believe that the Red Pill should be censored? Why/Why not I mean, yea, that’d violate the first amendment.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/05/21 06:07 PM
2	Are men too sexually aggressive, or not aggressive enough?: Contradictory narratives on male sexuality I thought we’d gotten pretty off-topic from the original point.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/05/21 06:00 PM
2	Q4W Do you believe that the Red Pill should be censored? Why/Why not There’s a difference between banning someone for their inherent qualities vs banning someone for the content they’re posting on the platform.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/05/21 05:58 PM
2	Are men too sexually aggressive, or not aggressive enough?: Contradictory narratives on male sexuality It’s helped me, an average-looking, 5’7” dude, find sex.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/05/21 05:49 PM
3	Are men too sexually aggressive, or not aggressive enough?: Contradictory narratives on male sexuality But what you’re saying really doesn’t match up with my experiences. I’ve never been aggressive about sex, but have been able to find girls here and there who are down, just by talking to them. And I still have the appetite to fuck 5-7 times a week despite jerking my dick like crazy when I was younger	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/05/21 05:45 PM
3	Are men too sexually aggressive, or not aggressive enough?: Contradictory narratives on male sexuality Ok, my bad for saying literally, but you laughed when I suggested talking to women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/05/21 05:39 PM
3	Are men too sexually aggressive, or not aggressive enough?: Contradictory narratives on male sexuality This is a sub for debating opposing viewpoints. It’s incredibly niche, and not representative of the general population. You literally just admitted you don’t talk to women, but I’m supposed to take your word on how they behave?	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/05/21 05:36 PM
2	Are men too sexually aggressive, or not aggressive enough?: Contradictory narratives on male sexuality You can have a strong sex drive without being aggressive about it. It helps if you talk to them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/05/21 05:11 PM
1	If men get better with age, why would they lie about it? Well I can’t argue with that since I’m 2 years older than my fiancée. But I didn’t take age into consideration when I was dating as much as you seem to. I know some people in their 40’s who still act like high schoolers.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/05/21 03:41 PM
2	Are men too sexually aggressive, or not aggressive enough?: Contradictory narratives on male sexuality You don’t think there are any men who have a strong sex drive without being a predator?	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/05/21 03:34 PM
1	If men get better with age, why would they lie about it? I find that after your mid-20’s, maturity and age don’t have that strong of a correlation.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/05/21 03:31 PM
4	Career Motivatiion Differences Between Men and Women Dude here. I’ve really never thought of my career as a way to achieve sex. The motivation behind my career is a comfortable life and a comfortable retirement. I don’t really enjoy my work, but I’m good at it and I don’t hate it. Also, I have a general desire to be seen as a competent person. That’s probably just my ego talking, but it’s true.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/05/21 01:23 PM
10	What Are Your Most Preferred Occupations For Your Partner- And Why ? I don’t want a stay at home wife, I’m interested in a partnership. I really don’t care about the nature of the work (obviously there are some exceptions) as long as it’s a stable career and she’s not working more than 50ish hours in a normal week.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/05/21 07:07 PM
2	Why is locker room talk a bad thing? It is if you trust your boys.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/05/21 06:25 PM
1	Why is locker room talk a bad thing? Out of curiousity, do you guys have an issue with your partner talking about your sex life (in detail) to their closest friends? I always thought this was pretty normal.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/05/21 06:17 PM
2	You shouldn't spend any money on a girl before you've slept with her (with minimal exception) I’ve planned plenty of dates, and don’t find it to be a chore. I had a few go-to’s like the rock climbing gym by my house ($25/hr). Or just go out for drinks at one of my favorite spots. I just ask myself what I want to do and them ask her to come with. It’s the same as going out with my friends.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/05/21 05:26 PM
1	You shouldn't spend any money on a girl before you've slept with her (with minimal exception) She ain’t a stranger by the end of the date. And yea, I’m paying for it because I enjoyed our date. If, by the end of the date, I don’t want to go on a second date, then I’m not gonna pay for it. Is planning a date a great deal of labor? Just pick something you like doing, and take her along.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/05/21 03:53 PM
1	You shouldn't spend any money on a girl before you've slept with her (with minimal exception) Ahh I misunderstood your original message as “I never enjoyed a date I paid for”	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/05/21 12:07 AM
14	If a woman is allowed to define a man loving her as him buying her flowers, taking her out to restaurants, spending quality time with her, then a man is allowed to define a woman loving him as cooking, cleaning, and fucking. I’m a straight dude btw lol. Definitely didn’t make that clear. But yea, I’m perfectly capable of cooking and cleaning, so I wouldn’t expect my partner to do it for me. So we split it. It may not be perfectly 50/50 due to one of our time restraints. But we’re not worried about it being perfectly fair, we just need to get it done. Have you ever lived on your own? Did you feed yourself?	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/05/21 11:57 PM
8	If a woman is allowed to define a man loving her as him buying her flowers, taking her out to restaurants, spending quality time with her, then a man is allowed to define a woman loving him as cooking, cleaning, and fucking. Yea, I could never accept an arrangement where I feel like I’m doing this task daily out of obligation to my partner. If it’s infrequent, it feels more like a romantic gesture to me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/05/21 11:49 PM
0	You shouldn't spend any money on a girl before you've slept with her (with minimal exception) You didn’t answer my question. Did you not enjoy the date just because you had to pay? If I’m paying for a second date, it’s because I enjoyed the first one.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/05/21 11:32 PM
6	If a woman is allowed to define a man loving her as him buying her flowers, taking her out to restaurants, spending quality time with her, then a man is allowed to define a woman loving him as cooking, cleaning, and fucking. For me, it’s an expectation/frequency thing. Does she like that I buy her flowers every couple of months, or does she expect flowers every week? Same goes for acts of service. If there was an expectation on me to do something every day that my partner was perfectly able to do, it would breed a lot of resentment in me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/05/21 11:27 PM
1	You shouldn't spend any money on a girl before you've slept with her (with minimal exception) I guess it can. In my experience, though, the “treat me like a princess” types tend to realize pretty quickly that they won’t get that kind of treatment from me. I don’t think a free meal every 3 weeks or so is enough to change that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/05/21 10:18 PM
4	What cities have the best dating market in your opinion? That’s so true. I visited my friend in DC a couple years ago and we went out with his friends and I couldn’t believe how much they talked about their jobs and politics. Not for me	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/05/21 08:50 PM
4	You shouldn't spend any money on a girl before you've slept with her (with minimal exception) All that pressure is self-imposed, man. What are the real world consequences of “not performing”? Some stupid chick makes an angry IG post? It’s all a bunch of nothing. Just do you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/05/21 07:21 PM
1	You shouldn't spend any money on a girl before you've slept with her (with minimal exception) Did you specifically not enjoy the date because you had to pay the bill? I split finances with my fiancée too, but I still like treating her to a nice night out here and there. I enjoyed the same when we were dating.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/05/21 06:31 PM
8	You shouldn't spend any money on a girl before you've slept with her (with minimal exception) Well firstly, it’s not like I was spending $70 for every date. Sometimes they split the bill, sometimes we went on really cheap dates. Plus, it’s not like $1400 is a life-changing amount of money. I dropped out of college at 19 and had a solid warehouse job with OT, so I wasn’t really worried about money. Especially living rent-free with my mom. And no, I did not really experience that kind of snooty “You’re not worth my time” attitude, but there’s a level of pre-selection involved with that too…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/05/21 04:59 PM
6	You shouldn't spend any money on a girl before you've slept with her (with minimal exception) I’m 31. So it was different, but not THAT different.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/05/21 04:43 PM
7	You shouldn't spend any money on a girl before you've slept with her (with minimal exception) I’m engaged now. Dated through my early 20’s. Had plenty of fun with it. If I had to guess, I’d say I went on about 20 first dates.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/05/21 04:32 PM
12	You shouldn't spend any money on a girl before you've slept with her (with minimal exception) Is this what you think about when you’re on a date? That’s fucking weird. I’m not interested in how she’s treated guys in the past. I’m interested in seeing how she treats me. And yes, I enjoy it. Dates are supposed to be fun. I’m not gonna continue to date someone if I’m not enjoying our dates.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/05/21 04:20 PM
43	You shouldn't spend any money on a girl before you've slept with her (with minimal exception) Sometimes I feel like I’m the only guy here who genuinely enjoys dating. I don’t mind spending $70 on a night out with a girl I’m getting to know. In fact, I like it. If it goes south, it goes south. But I don’t feel like I’m spending that $70 (or $35 on her) just to have sex with her. I obviously want that to happen, but it is what it is. You’re way overthinking it. Spending a reasonable amount of money on a first date is not going to define the entire relationship.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/05/21 04:10 PM
3	There is NO correct way of approaching women without potentially coming off as creepy or intrusive Gotta shoot your shot. Who cares if some women think you’re a creep? It most likely has no effect on your life. There’s always a risk when you put yourself out there. You’ve literally built a scenario in which you’re constantly getting rejected in your head. You’d be surprised how much this lack of self-belief can derail your chances. Even if it goes this way 95% of the time, you can still get dates.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/05/21 06:54 PM
59	CMV: Women who pair up only with taller, richer, prettier men than them, shouldn't be surprised they're expected to compensate by taking care of house chores, or overcompensate by being great partners. “Hey babe, I’m gonna need you to pick up the slack around here. Did you forget that I’m a 6’6” millionaire with a monster dong?”	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/05/21 02:06 PM
6	RP and FDS both claim marriage is useless and negative for a man or woman respectively. This shows it is neutral. That’s not his point. People want to get married because when it works, it works. I think something like 90% of businesses fail. People still want to start businesses though.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/05/21 01:34 PM
5	Are different understandings of what is meant by “good” confusing the landscape? Good has more than one definition. It’s not inherently tied to morality	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/05/21 03:55 PM
2	Are relationships business transactions? At some level, everyone has to look at the cost/benefit of any relationship. Otherwise you’ll likely be taken advantage of. However, when I think of a “transactional” relationship, I think of a quid pro quo type situation, where every little cost is tallied up and used as ammo against their partner. This, to me, is an unhealthy relationship.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/05/21 02:13 AM
38	Why should a woman have sex with you? What do you have to offer her? Because I love eating pussy	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/05/21 11:26 PM
1	Question for Women: What do you want a guy to bring to the table for a long term relationship and possibly a life commitment? What is negotiable and what isn't? And, a bit of a weird question here: What do you wish him to ask you to bring? Ok, let’s say I make $60k and have $30k saved. Am I “wealthy”? No. Am I living paycheck to paycheck? Not in the slightest.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/05/21 12:15 PM
4	Question for Women: What do you want a guy to bring to the table for a long term relationship and possibly a life commitment? What is negotiable and what isn't? And, a bit of a weird question here: What do you wish him to ask you to bring? I understand you want an emotionally strong partner, but in a long-term relationship, eventually something will happen that makes someone feel vulnerable (like the death of a loved one). Having your partner’s unwavering support through something like that makes a world of difference. You obviously don’t want someone who’s always leaning on you, but it’s a real benefit of a good relationship that, sometimes, you can lean on your partner for a period of time. It has to go both ways though.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/05/21 12:10 PM
15	CMV: In regards to the bottom 90% of people, women are the gatekeepers of both casual sex and relationships This doesn’t fit my personal experience. Based on my success rate, I can confidently say I’m not in the top 10% of dudes. That being said, I have, on a couple occasions, found myself denying a girl I’ve been hooking up with from starting a relationship. I think it’s the vibe I give off (secure, relationship-type). On both occasions, they did not continue to hook up with me after (shocker, I know) I have never been denied a relationship with a girl I was hooking up with. I think it’s really perso…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/05/21 07:57 PM
2	There is a power dynamic in heterosexual intercourse. Sex for women requires more physical AND EMOTIONAL vulnerability. It’s not about how you or I define sexual violence. It’s about how the surveyors define sexual violence. Which I don’t see in the abstract.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/05/21 01:41 PM
1	Reasonable skepticism of the opposite gender that neither seems to understand I’m a pretty trusting person in general, but I’ll always google someone’s name before a date. I’ll google someone’s name who I come across at work too, maybe it’s just curioisity.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/05/21 01:36 PM
3	There is a power dynamic in heterosexual intercourse. Sex for women requires more physical AND EMOTIONAL vulnerability. That says non-partner sexual violence. So that leaves out rape by their partners. Plus I don’t think that includes things like catcalling. I only quickly skimmed that though, do they define non-partner sexual violence differently in the study?	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/05/21 01:22 PM
1	[Q4ALL] Whats your thoughts on the idea/phrase of “We all pay for sex/It’s cheaper to pay straight up”? Do you find your dating time cuts into your working time? Because it usually comes out of my personal time, so it wouldn’t be fair to use my wage as opportunity cost.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/05/21 10:27 PM
1	[Q4ALL] Whats your thoughts on the idea/phrase of “We all pay for sex/It’s cheaper to pay straight up”? Sure, but I wouldn’t earn the same amount hourly in my off time as I earn doing my main job.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/05/21 10:21 PM
2	[Q4ALL] Whats your thoughts on the idea/phrase of “We all pay for sex/It’s cheaper to pay straight up”? But you don’t make $50/hr on your personal time. Not all of your time is worth $50/hr.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/05/21 08:54 PM
2	Do guys prefer girls who play hard to get, or girls who simp for them? Somewhere in between. She’s dropping hints, but she wants me to chase a little bit. That’s my favorite.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/04/21 05:58 PM
1	During your college/school years, which was more important to you, your education or sex/dating life? Yea I started in my industry as a teenager in a warehouse. Lots of companies say they want someone with a 4 year degree, but I find relevant work experience almost always trumps the degree.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/04/21 03:28 PM
1	During your college/school years, which was more important to you, your education or sex/dating life? Looks like I’m in the minority here. I was more focused on sex. I had gotten out of a long-term hs relationship. I was only moderately successful, but I had a few fwb’s. I just wasn’t very focused on school. I don’t think it had much to do with my sex life, it’s not like I was partying every night. If school was a priority to me at the time, I certainly would have made time for it. I dropped out after 3 semesters and have been able to find success elsewhere. Wasn’t a total waste though. I made s…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/04/21 03:15 PM
1	Independent Men/ Independent Wonen I’m engaged, and I’d say we’re quite independent. We’re working towards the same macro life-goals, but we don’t necessarily need to get into the weeds about micro stuff. If one of us wants to go away with friends for a weekend, we’ll run it by the other to make sure it works from a scheduling perspective, but it’s not like we’re asking for permission. It’s all about trust and expectations. She doesn’t need to ask my permission for anything because she knows my values what is acceptable to me, an…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/04/21 03:14 PM