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I’m so obsessed with her! Binge-watching her Tik Tok rn thanks to you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 05:19 PM
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Haha I'm 100% with you! Happy you've learned to not just accept, but love your body.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 03:27 AM
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Omg this is spot on. Society's double standard for how shallow each gender is allowed to be sickens me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 02:20 AM
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Gynecomastia is only normal in pubertal and elderly men, so I guess if you’re a man with boobs not in either of those categories, you must secretly be a woman 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 09:18 PM
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That's literally it. Then when he ends up in a relationship with a woman who lies to him, has no ambition in life, is uneducated, engages in criminal activity, etc, he's all confused as to why his life sucks. These men clearly don't even understand the concept of standards, which means that their take on the subject is null and void. This 100%. Honestly I was so naive - I used to not write off seemingly intelligent, self-aware men when they would list "fit/skinny" as their #1 thing they're looki…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 07:39 PM
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Oh my god. I literally dated a guy (tall, white, fit, rich parents, basically 10/10 in outer appearance). Who spouted things like “I love capitalism,” “men are disposable - we send them to the military, most homeless are men,” “women have more options than men - 80% of women go for 20% of men!” Like I was so confused. Why are you complaining like an incel when you are the very “Chad” type real incels hate. Needless to say I was fucking turned off and didn’t go on another date with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 06:33 PM
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Lmao essentially the basis of this subreddit is weeding out trash, which comes with the implication that “trash” is constantly being thrown at us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 02:00 AM
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I learned this lesson the hard way. It's honestly so fucked up how as a society (including we as women) we're conditioned to automatically view women as batshit crazy and not bat an eye when they're portrayed that way in anecdotes. This type of thinking is deeply, deeply internalized in all of us and is further fueled by the way society constantly pits women to compete against each other. When guys call their exes crazy, especially those who CONTINUOUSLY bring it up and shit talk them, chances a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 11:28 PM
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Probably unpopular opinion, but - I think the fact that to him, this is essentially a “teaching moment” for the kids is what makes this not weird and maybe commendable. I think it would be kind of weird if he gave her these gifts from HIM. Because that shows he may have some ulterior motive with her that transgresses the boundaries of divorce (imagine if his ex was dating someone).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 11:36 PM
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I agree I don’t wanna go for an ugly person. I think she was more talking about going for the less grandiose/charismatic person rather than physical attractiveness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 02:00 AM
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Absolutely! Glad you were able to heal. I feel exactly the same way; my mouth literally dropped open a couple of times when she started describing certain behavioral patterns that can be simply attributed to narcissism, that confused me for MONTHS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 11:42 PM
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I actually think what you call “pathological pickme’s” probably share traits with borderline personality disorder. Dr. Ramani mentions in another video that NPD and BPD attract each other like magnets but make for disastrous relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 11:41 PM
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Yes - 100%! I think thinking about my past toxic relationships through the lens of NPD or even just narcissistic traits has answered a lot of questions I had about my own dating tendencies and the men I’ve dated
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 08:27 PM
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Yeah I decided not to. I know he will respond no matter what I say. I don't need to get further triggered by his words. Thanks love!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 01:51 AM
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This triggers me. I have even had female friends defend predators by saying “harassment” or “assault” is not the same thing as rape, and that the word “rape” should not be thrown around because it “ruins lives.” Um, how about the person who was violated? What about their life? Regardless of whether the violation was the textbook definition of rape.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 03:39 AM
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Thank you for the kind words!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 01:58 AM
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Awareness and contemplating change are the first steps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 12:45 AM
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Late but I needed this today, and your post has made all the difference in shifting my mindset!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 03:01 AM
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OMG I'm dead! I know there are some flaws in the logic of what I'm about to say but this is why I have stopped even entertaining the idea of giving sub-7 men a chance. Just because you're way out of their league does NOT mean they're not fucking idiots who will screw you over just like the rest of them. So you might as well go for someone you're actually physically attracted to. Because I have been there - twice, and was fucked over just the same. Only they didn't have the confidence to show the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 04:07 PM
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This. I am around 25 and I see a lot of room for growth for myself. However, guys around my age or a little older, their egos are too big to entertain this idea! They see growth as career growth, financial growth, physical (muscle) growth, maybe even intellectual growth. But character-wise? As people? Most of them are done growing. It's quite unfortunate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 10:14 PM
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I am really considering quitting OLD altogether. I think my only concern is meeting men otherwise, especially as a millennial and OLD has become the main way people meet and get married. I am a busy grad student and the men in my field are honestly mostly LVM due to being emotionally stagnant as a result of studying most of their lives. I want to meet people outside of my field! I guess... what is the solution?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 05:09 PM
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I agree with this. Sexual dysfunction is the most common side effect of SSRIs. If I knew going in they were on them and/or have a flat affect or other side effects I would probably choose to disengage before feelings are involved. Especially because I have had the experience in the past where a guy with depression has literally used me as a crutch. Like I am just at that point in my life where I don’t want any potential issues that could arise and later hurt me. So if it’s an active problem, I w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 02:19 AM
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Oh I 100% get that. It's very hard for me to cum from oral/sex alone (it's only happened once). But I've since made a point to use a vibrator concurrently during intercourse with a new partner who doesn't know my body well enough to make me cum. My partner gets to cum every time without fail, I want that same pleasure. I think my issue is when a lot of girls kind of just become complacent that it's just not going to happen and stop trying. And their guy stops trying. And so then sex just becomes…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 07:53 PM
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This. Also girls who claim sex is just as worth having and mutually enjoyable even if they don't orgasm are simply in denial.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 03:48 PM
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I think the general message he tries to convey is decent. However, it mostly tends to be pretty vague (minus the text ideas he gives which IMO would never work IRL) and not super actionable. That said, sometimes I watch just to listen to his voice and admire his face LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 12:41 AM
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I think over time I just learned to not have any filter over text. I speak my mind and don’t worry about offending. I need a guy who can match my wavelength in our communication styles, and that includes texting. Early on, if there’s too much awkwardness, I know it’s probably not going to work out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 08:53 PM
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That's so interesting you say that because most of my Indian friends are exclusively looking to date/marry Indian guys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 06:34 AM
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Hmmm, so I think you ask a very good question which I often wonder myself. It's true that men of certain cultures are more family-oriented (Asian, Hispanic, etc). However, I don't necessarily think that coming from a family-oriented culture equates to being HV. Family-oriented and conservative Asian men often hold highly patriarchal values (I have often heard this is true of Korean/Japanese men; don't have personal experience to confirm). I have dated men of a range of cultural backgrounds. I ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 06:28 AM
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I have struggled with this for most of my post-teenage life. I've been told all my life I have what you consider "natural beauty," so I didn't wear makeup for most of college. However, next to some of my friends who spent energy on more advanced makeup skills, I started to feel extremely plain. I just didn't "pop", if you will. I've since started to incorporate VERY basic makeup (not even routinely, as I am a grad student, but more for dates/going out). I still don't see it as worth it to spend …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 12:55 AM
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This was your first misstep. You need to learn the art of watching and waiting These are really good points, so thank you! I definitely think I still have some learning and maturing to do in the relationship realm. This was yet another learning experience that I can take into my next one (honestly hopefully my last because I'm tired).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 12:45 AM
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Thanks for the elaboration! I agree with everything you said. Yeah - epic regret on giving him that opportunity to speak 🙈. It definitely led to me needing more time to process what happened and ultimately to make this post. However, I'm starting to forgive myself for doing it - and take comfort in the fact that the relationship still ended on my terms.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 11:37 PM
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Oh hahaha you're right. I somehow missed this as a thing. I think I will definitely follow this in the future, if not wait even longer. I will say - I am not the type of person to get overly attached after sex. I had no issue leaving at the first real evidence of dishonesty. I also don't think waiting would have prevented him from lying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 10:31 PM
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I don't think that's a curse! Very similar childhood, and I too have been empathic all my life, to the point where I absorb other people's emotions. I have been told by other people and at one point was convinced myself that I am an overthinker - however, throughout my short yet eventful dating history, my instincts have NEVER led me astray. Honestly, that's what I was telling myself this whole time during that relationship - "I am projecting my feelings toward my ex onto him, I am overthinking.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 10:04 PM
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I’m sorry about what happened to you but I disagree. My friends have vastly different relationship experiences than me (they’re way more optimistic about people and men) so it’s natural they’d have a different perspective. His actions/red flags are indeed more in the grey area (not outright abuse), and often times there is no clear-cut right answer. But you’re right that when it comes to relationship advice, I should take their response with a grain of salt. But that’s why I came to FDS! And hon…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 08:10 PM
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I think those are fair points. Edit: to clarify, I didn’t elaborate on my history. The topic came up when I asked him what HIS relationships dealbreakers were, and he simply returned the question. I vaguely mentioned a past experience with dishonesty (didn’t mention the cheating). But you definitely still make a good point about not sharing too much too early. I do think sharing things like these is important, but it is important to strike the right balance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 08:05 PM
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I totally agree - lying is never necessary, which is what makes this world full of liars so frustrating. If I were put in that position, I would 100% have told the other person I was out at a restaurant or even "hanging out with a friend."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 06:18 PM
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Yes - he would ask to meet in like 2 days before the end of every date. I mean, I went along with it because they were fun dates, and I had the time. But it did cross my mind that it was a little intense. But if you refer to u/Winter_Inevitable's comment about his need for attention, I think that may have played a role (in addition to maybe just the initial excitement of dating someone new).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 06:13 PM
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but advice like this hurts women and helps keep us in crappy situations Ugh so true 😢 It's so sad because the intent was to help each other
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 05:57 PM
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Yikes - that actually sounds so true. I had been going through over and over again in my head why things suddenly shifted when we started seeing each other less. And this actually makes so much sense!!! And you're so right - I think the reason I feel like I've let myself down is because my intuition DID scream at me early on, and I deliberately chose to move forward with the relationship regardless (esp. after talking to my friends who advised me to give him the benefit of the doubt 😂). But - th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 05:50 PM
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I think that's definitely what I've learned from this. Needed to keep my guard up even higher and for longer. And LMAO yeah I was vulnerable to the effects of isolation and the fact that they were my only support system. But yes - I need to be even stronger the next time around!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 05:32 PM
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Oh my god yes. The amount of times I heard them say "yes, that's a little weird, but I also just want to give him the benefit of the doubt." Like... no. Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 05:17 PM
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Haha I do regret doing this for sure. I gave him back some of the power. And it did make me feel worse. But I guess him not responding further confirmed what a piece of shit he is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 04:52 PM
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This is literally every guy I've ever dated 😂 Except my first boyfriend, who I broke up with at the time because he seemed too passive/beta. It's so hard to find the proper balance!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 07:55 PM
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I never said it equates to happiness. It does equate to financial independence, which women wouldn’t have if they just stayed at home. You can’t deny earning an income gives one financial independence.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/20 07:31 AM
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So????? That wasn’t part of the argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/20 01:59 AM
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I never said work is wonderful? Why are you assuming I’ve never worked before... Still not rly sure what your overall point is LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/20 01:48 AM
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I never disagreed with this. So again, don’t see your point related to the argument that being a parent is somehow better for women than working.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/20 12:38 AM
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Again, not sure what your point is.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/20 02:19 AM
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Please google "domestic." What is your point by saying that working is hard? I never questioned that. Working is hard for everyone, both men and women. If you're trying to make a blanket claim that women are better off serving the family while the husband works, then I completely disagree. The difference with working is that you work hard and endure difficulties to benefit only YOURSELF. You may be slaving away, but you alone are reaping the benefits (obviously you can CHOOSE to do with these be…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/20 11:55 PM
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Yes. And yes? What is your point? Those are the realities of working in the corporate world. That is also not the only career trajectory available to women, or anyone? Also it's literally not domestication if you're working...
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/20 09:13 PM
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And I think you're right that most women will choose to not be a full time wage slaves and return to being mothers. I don't see this happening. It's all about freedom. Even if my job were shit, it provides me with the money I need to not have to rely on shit men for anything. I agree that women should have the choice to be stay-at-home wives if they wanted to (and I think this is a valid choice, just like working full time is). But I don't think that we will trend back towards the domestication …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/20 07:27 PM
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👏🏻 so true lmao. And that type of girl is the only kind these men might ever hope to land anyway, so it's really quite fitting.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/20 07:05 PM
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I am not physically attracted to like 87% of men. So no - not really.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 12:52 AM
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This is gross on many levels LMAO. What kind of matches is he getting?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 08:57 AM
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What the fuck is there to clarify? All I'm saying is that men should stop questioning women's choices. Their choices make biological sense. To act "shocked" by them only shines light on their own ignorance. ^ There: the dumbed down version of my entire argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/20 07:42 AM
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I didn't clarify my argument under the assumption that you would have the brains to understand it to begin with. But since you clearly don't, there is no point in entertaining your pointless questions that I have more than answered, with scientific evidence and all (which by the way, you have not provided any of). Yes - be the victor. It's always the clueless ones who "safely" think they're the victor.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/20 07:39 AM
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I do not see any valid counterarguments in your post so I'm not bothering to entertain this conversation further.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/20 07:28 AM
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There are many things factually inaccurate about this post... I will begin with the most obvious one. This goes double for if you are on dating apps (you were really expecting a relationship from an app made primarily for hookups?) Please refer to this graph depicting how couples meet over time published in the Economist. Moreover, your definition of what constitutes "high value" is questionable. It seems to assume that only people who are in societally deemed "high power" fields are high value.…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/20 07:24 AM
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Literally took me 2 seconds to find - This isn't a primary source, but it's from nature.com. "In most species, females are choosier when picking a mate than males. A significant reason for this is the higher investment females make in each gamete than males. Females may prefer certain males for a variety of reasons, including "good genes"... Females that carefully select their mates are at a lower risk of losing their reproductive investment... Females are predicted to be choosier about selectin…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/20 07:02 AM
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Why is it so shocking? Again, evolution explains it all. Men want to spread their seed; hence, merely having a hole will do. Women naturally need to be pickier because there are a lot more physical/social risks involved with having a sexual partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/20 06:33 AM
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I agree with you to an extent. But also - girl, no way will my pride be hurt by a man taking charge and not letting me pay! I think in the moment I was pretty set on paying, but I think it would have been nicer to see more resistance from him (like I have from previous relationships), instead of just “are you sure?” 🤷‍♀️ But yeah - I’m going to see what he does on future dates and then put him in a LVM/HVM category.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 10:21 PM
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Mostly Hinge and Bumble! I honestly like Bumble the best, but it’s all dependent on the caliber of men in your city.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 04:45 PM
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This really hits home for me because the last guy I really felt something towards was a straight up Adonis but also a pathological narcissist. And those people tend to have a special charisma that draws a certain type of person to them like moths to a flame. I was naive, starry-eyed, and believed the best in people. And I magnified his good qualities and made excuses for his bad qualities. Just remember that while he may be dating other people, he is likely treating them the same way that he tre…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 04:42 PM
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I have stopped using Tinder because the men on there are honestly trash 99% of the time, and the effort isn’t worth it to find the remaining 1%.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 05:30 AM
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I think this comment is very ignorant of the side effects of having a better time "getting nice and fun relationship experiences" - due to these same reasons women are more likely to be victims of rape, domestic violence, and sex trafficking. Meanwhile, the only side effect of being on the better side of the gender wage gap is more financial independence and ultimately more autonomy/power in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 02:35 AM
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HAHAHA yeah usually I’m the one who says “are you sure,” so I knew exactly what he meant. I think only time will tell if he’s worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 08:15 PM
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This is so true. I've definitely had guys in the past fight me for it, and it was honestly such a turn-on how much they DIDN'T want me to pay. And if I have to question it, it already means he probably isn't the one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 07:41 PM
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Yeah, I realized the reason why I questioned my choice was because it sets a fucking precedent for future dates 🙈 Like I don't want to be expected to pay for things now. Is there a way to ever re-establish expectations, or is this a lost cause?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 07:33 PM
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Low effort (expect me to do the mental work in planning dates or other logistical things) Not attractive to me (receding hairline, clearly don't work out, shorter than me) Inadequate ambition in life Inadequate respect for women
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 06:07 PM
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Honestly, the sex is just hotter. They're more attractive, so I'm more physically attracted, so the sex is just more enjoyable on both sides. And they tend to be better at sex (my sample size is small, but that is just the correlation I have personally noticed). Sure, there is some validation, but personally I never needed that validation to begin with. I never feel like I'm with someone out of my league. In fact, they should feel equally validated from being with me. Disclaimer: I never fuck so…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 05:58 PM
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It completely makes sense from a biological/evolutionary/Darwinian perspective - I’m almost confused by the question. Most women naturally want someone physically larger than them, someone they feel can protect them, and someone who makes them feel more feminine (traditionally, this equates to being smaller). Again, not all women feel this way. But for a woman to feel this way completely makes sense and shouldn’t come as a shock to anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/20 06:44 PM
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