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Some individual women view men as a monolith just as some individual men view women as a monolith. Whats your point?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 02:50 AM
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Rose McGowan and Ashley Judd were the first to publicly accuse Weinstein. I’m not aware of them also being accused of raping multiple people like he was. That doesn’t make them “organisers of MeToo”. It wasn’t an organisation, it was a movement of various women speaking up about assault and harassment.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 10:05 PM
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I never heard of “organisers” of MeToo. It was a hashtag for sharing stories of assault and harassment. It wasn’t an organised movement.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 08:52 PM
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Only if you misunderstand what MeToo was.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 08:51 PM
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Women saying they prefer to not be approached isn’t toxic though. Neither is women saying they do want to be approached, or giving advice on where and how to approach women in order to be respectful. An example of when a woman should push back on toxic behaviour would be if her friend tells her about lying and being manipulative to men, cheating, or says they’re inferior and deserving of bad treatment.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 08:50 PM
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The problem is you see women as a collective but they are not. Women aren’t pushing back on women who say they like being approached because they didn’t “collectively” oppose men approaching them. Some women have stated that they don’t like being approached at all. Others have stated they only want to be approached in specific contexts, or only if it’s done respectfully. Others want to be approached. There is no high court of female opinion that enforces other women to like the same things. Gene…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 07:01 PM
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There are always outliers, sure. But if you look at most OF who actually get rich they are overwhelmingly young and conventionally attractive. It’s ridiculous to pretend ugly women have a chance to support themselves this way.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 05:03 PM
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Offended? No. It’s generally flattering, as long as they’re being respectful. It only becomes creepy if they can’t take no for an answer or start following me or start verbally abusing me or whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 03:57 AM
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But that’s.. not true? Lots of single women go out to have fun with their friends AND hope to meet guys too. If they don’t, they still had fun with their friends. But if they do meet a guy, it’s a bonus.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 03:46 AM
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This is so silly. Yes, you will learn with experience. You can also study body language in your free time. Platonic socialising with strangers is also good practice. Sometimes you might get it wrong and hit on someone uninterested. Nobody is saying you shouldn’t try. Nobody is saying it’s the end of the world if someone is briefly mildly annoyed.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 03:43 AM
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That’s an extreme reaction. She didn’t say men shouldn’t hit on women.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 03:40 AM
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SOME women respond. Just as SOME men put up with women who manipulate and abuse them just cause she’s hot. Why are you envious of what fucked up people are doing?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 03:32 AM
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Well said
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 03:29 AM
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That’s like saying anybody can just become a content creator on YouTube or TikTok as their backup option. Like sure, a small amount of people get rich that way, eventually. The vast majority don’t. Many work hard trying to go viral for years and fail to ever make money. Same with OF. Add on top of that most women, even if they’re attractive enough to potentially make money (and lots of them aren’t) would rather just do non-SW jobs than be a sex worker for many many reasons. So no, it’s not an op…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 03:24 AM
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Genetics play a role in OF success too. Lots of women are not gonna make money no matter how much effort they put.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 03:16 AM
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The gender of the customer doesn’t really matter. OF models aren’t attracted to their customers either way. It’s work.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 03:13 AM
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Physical attractiveness has nothing to do with my orgasms. Like he has to meet a certain level of attractiveness for me to desire him in the first place, but when we’re doing the deed his technique is far more important. The hottest guy I slept with was really disappointing in the bedroom.. no orgasm. I’ve had some of the best orgasms with guys who looked more average. I don’t think it’s really shaped my future choices, I never expected looks to be a sign of whether the sex would be great. I bas…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 03:32 AM
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No, if that were true a lot less men would get turned down for sex. Women desire their partners, but they are less interested in sex with someone who doesn’t desire them back because then it would feel transactional. If the other person doesn’t desire you, then they have some ulterior motive to have sex. Though both men and women like to feel their desire is reciprocated. Mutual desire is hot. Seeing that your partner is horny can often make you become horny, regardless of gender. You can’t say …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 03:23 AM
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I don’t know how common it is for studious people to regret it later or wish they’d had more sexual fun when younger. I’ve heard both men and women mention thoughts like that, but not amongst most people. But it’s not a gendered thing. I found out a guy I went on a date with was married, when I confronted him his excuse was he’d married young and never got to try a variety of women so he was doing it now. Gross. The idea that one’s youth is the best time to take risks is fairly common, but it’s …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 05:10 AM
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It’s no more rare than women leaving their husband for an upgrade
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 04:58 AM
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I never said both genders are basically the same, but both genders are human, not all of our motives are based on reproduction alone. Having different biology when it comes to reproduction doesn't 'completely' change our total life strategies. Humans have higher order thinking beyond being just animals.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/25 05:54 PM
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This still doesn’t explain why men project different motives for the same behaviour, however your answers have explained it, albeit indirectly. Some men are so obsessed with viewing women as a different species and focusing on group differences that they can’t grasp that despite some areas of average difference there are many times when men and women are not actually so different.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/25 04:15 PM
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Why would that be a better comparison? The whole point is that there are both men and women shifting their priorities as they mature, for the same reasons, but one is always accused of playing nefarious game or settling and the other isn’t. I don’t see how it being easier, on average, for one gender to have casual sex changes things. The motives are the same. And the “easiness” depends on the individual.. there are men who can get hot women easier than some women can get hot men. Women, on avera…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/25 05:25 AM
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I don’t see how that’s relevant. It doesn’t change the reason why both shifted their priorities as they got older.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/25 12:32 AM
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Why is there an assumption than only the hottest people are desirable? There’s a whole spectrum of people that are attractive to people who aren’t 10s.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 09:45 PM
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The same guys in here who blast women for having evolving tastes in men will be supportive of men who do the same thing. I’ve seen men talk about how they thought with their dick at 19, dated women with red flags just because they were hot.. then they got older and wiser and prefer women with low drama and who have their shit together. They’ll get other men agreeing and upvoting but a woman explains the exact same reasoning and they’ll downvote it to hell.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 09:42 PM
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Only in cultures where elite men are allowed to hoard women. You don’t see that in Hunter gatherer societies.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 11:16 PM
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No, there are lots of women who are not into casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 08:50 AM
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Why else would any of the women go on Fresh and Fit? It’s obvious they do it to make money off their audience
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 08:37 AM
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That’s BS.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 08:34 AM
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They didn’t say “all”.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 08:11 PM
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You are comparing apples and oranges. Younger people have more sex than older people, while married people have more sex than single people the same age as them
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 08:00 PM
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You haven’t even met each other yet. You’ve been texting only a week. You’re not dating until you’ve actually had a date, and yet you’re expecting exclusivity already? Who knows if you’ll even have more than one date. People are gonna keep their options open until they’ve spent enough time with someone to know that there’s something really there. In the 50s people would date multiple people openly until they decided to ‘go steady’ with one person. It’s hard to find the right person out there, wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 03:21 AM
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Plenty of women are, plenty aren’t. Same as men.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 06:52 AM
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People of both genders want a relationship with someone they find attractive, both physically and personality-wise. If you have no female friends, it could be a lacking in both areas. If you do have female friends, it’s likely more the physical side. People who are more physically attractive, of either gender, have more options. If you’re less physically attractive either work to improve that or go for less attractive women. Same advice works for women too.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 09:53 PM
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It was 51% of men and 32% of women who are under 30. Only 27% of men in their 30s/40s were single. There are more single women than men in the older ages. This doesn’t prove women are sharing men but rather that some of them are with older men.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 10:06 PM
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Thanks for telling me what I think!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 09:59 PM
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They have to meet the same standards as female friends do. But not the standards a BF has to.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 03:11 PM
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Women have to pass the looks test too
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 03:05 PM
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Show me the evidence
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 03:03 PM
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Maybe that’s just a reflection of the type of women you go for. Many of the ones online might be invisible to you IRL
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 07:12 AM
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This only applies to having sex, not relationships. And only applies to women who “look young” as you say.. which is.. not most women. Like yeah the bar is low for women to get laid because a lot if guys just want sex from whoever, but since most women want a relationshio that involves both people liking each other’s personality they don’t want to date a guy who is with them because he’ll date anyone who isn’t fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 06:53 AM
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No, dude, friends don’t have to be sexually attractive. Straight women have female friends, right?. Friends do have to be interesting to spend time with, obviously. Nobody of any gender is gonna hang out with someone repeatedly if they find them boring. But they don’t have to be fuckable or meet as many standards as a relationship does.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 04:17 AM
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Yes I have. I don’t know if I’d describe it as primal, to me that implies uncontrollable. But when I have had a crush on someone I often fantasize about sex with them. I have lusted over crushes, my BFs and now my husband. It’s strongest when with a great lover. Knowing how they will touch me just right makes the lust grow. Don’t worry about the height. I lusted over a 5’6” lover who was 2” shorter than me. He was no model but I found him attractive. He was great in bed and knew how to slowly bu…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 07:24 AM
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Yep, same.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 06:51 AM
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The vast majority of my female friends rarely or never mention dick size. And I have some friends who are very open about sex in general. On the rare occasion they do, it’s to mention that a hookup was particularly big or small.. but sometimes a larger size is mentioned as a bad thing (like he was uncomfortably large). So I’ve heard very few specifically mention preferring large. Maybe 5%-7%?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 04:49 AM
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Well put.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/25 11:31 PM
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If women were naturally submissive there would be no need to socially enforce it and feminism would never have happened.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/25 11:29 PM
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Society exists because of both sexes. Aside from the fact that women developed many necessities of life throughout history, men wouldn’t have created as much without women caretaking children and elderly people for them, and of course none of it would exist without women birthing every single human. One role is not more important to human survival than the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 03:43 PM
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This applies to both genders. Lots of girls are bullied and have their self esteem destroyed and it carries on into adult life. How your parents raise you can really affect how confident you become, regardless of gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 03:34 PM
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That’s the fantasy world you’re imagining. The truth is there are ugly women who get ignored by most people, or even bullied. There are shy, awkward women who have trouble making friends. There are unattractive men who make friends easily and get invites because they’re funny and confident. I wish I grew up in this dream world you created where opportunities were thrown at me like that but I do not recognise that world at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 03:32 PM
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But the danger IS men. The only reason women seek protection is from men. Very few women are being protected from sharks or wolves, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 03:21 PM
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Not everybody wants constant casual encounters
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 03:14 PM
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Who would want to date the type of fucked up person who would be with an abusive criminal? I think people are assuming most men would rather date someone with a healthy mind, and those people go for good personalities. The fact that some people had a fucked up childhood that makes them pick horrible people doesn’t negate that.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 03:00 PM
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They’re not the same women.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 02:48 PM
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My friendships are equal regardless of gender. I don’t ask my male friends to do anything I don’t also ask my female friends.. and I am always there to do those things for them. The expectation isn’t null for me, that’s not what friendship is about. I support my friends as much as they support me. I may not have the same physical strength as all of my friends but different friends offer different forms of help. I wouldn’t resent that my short friend asks me to grab high things from the shelf bec…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 05:43 AM
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Would you help a male friend move something that needed 2 people? Would you try to cheer up a male friend? A lot of that is normal friend stuff, though if they’re asking for too much and not giving in return then assert your boundaries as you would with any friend who takes advantage. I’ve never asked a male friend to validate my looks.. but female friends do that for each all the time. The fact you use the word friend zone is telling.. you are only friends with women that you want more from and…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 05:17 AM
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Sounds like you’re projecting the kind of man you are onto all men.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 04:32 AM
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Yeah this is not at all how my friendships with men are. I wouldn’t put up with a ‘friend’ treating me unequally and nor should guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 04:16 AM
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Why do you define friendship as “male duties”? Your role in her life is no different from her female friends.. you hang out, have fun, and support each other. You know.. like friends do.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 04:13 AM
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No a friend is someone you enjoy hanging out with, regardless of gender. Do you bemoan that when you spend tine with your guy friends there are no orgasms involved?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 04:11 AM
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I think that’s the point though.. they’re showing how his self image got warped. Eliot Roger wasn’t ugly.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 03:00 PM
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Most women aren’t all fucking the hottest men. This is a male fantasy. Lots of women aren’t into casual sex, and of those who are, not all of them actually get to fuck men way hotter than them because newsflash the hottest men mostly fuck the hottest women because they can. They don’t have to settle for mediocre looking women. Most people date close to their league, then marry someone close to their league but who offers other things too.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 11:42 PM
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no, women have the same eyes before and after forming an emotioanl connection. they can still see whether a man is sexually attractive to them, physically. Just because a lot of women don't want to have sex right away doesn't mean they don't find male bodies attractive.. the reason they want to wait has nothing to do with looks
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 04:34 AM
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55% of women voted against Trump
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 04:26 AM
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the FGM issue is a good example of how important it is to let local women lead.. I was reading about a place in Africa where this is practiced, and how local women have been convincing more and more people to not do it. They succeeded by recognising that the FGM takes place as part of a 'coming of age' ritual that is very important culturally and religously. They felt that parents would be more willing to forgoe the FGM as long as they still went through with the ritual aspects and did a little …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 04:22 AM
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yeah outsiders coming in and demanding change could only create a backlash within the culture. Local feminists will know better what changes their own culture is ready for and what changes local women are most prioritising.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 04:12 AM
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Feminists in the west are allies of feminists in developing countries, but they have less power abroad than they do in their own countries. Also, the things that feminists in other countries might prioritise are not always the same that are prioritised in the west, so it's best for western feminists to let them lead their own fights, with western feminists in a supporting role. You can't just go into another country and tell them they're wrong and they have to do it your way, it won't fly. Local…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 04:09 AM
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You realise your friendship group does not represent everyone, right? Maybe something happened amongst YOUR group of friends that caused that shift, but it didn’t happen to everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 12:49 AM
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So basically you’ve made an assumption (that women are less social with men after MeToo) and when lots of women show you the assumption doesn’t actually apply to most people.. you assume women are just lying or somehow failed to notice they stopped having male friends. WTF dude. Listen to yourself!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 12:46 AM
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OK Cupid research showed men disproportionally messaged the hottest women while women messaged average rated men more than the hottest men.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 12:24 AM
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It’s not about attraction it’s about being treated right
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 12:19 AM
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Yeah “trying it out once” can become an addiction that ruins relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 12:06 AM
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Lots of women aren’t into casual sex. They only have sex with ‘husband material.’ If you think casual sex is bad, don’t date people who are into it. Regardless, women marry men they’re attracted to (unless they’re golddiggers.) If your wife is “denying” you sex it’s because you’ve done something to lose that attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 08:17 AM
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Bingo.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 07:04 AM
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Exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 07:00 AM
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Because it’s not actually a thing
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 06:59 AM
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But that IS what women mean by husband material. When women tell other women a man is husband material they mean pretty much what OP describes.. they mean the whole package.. attractive AND emotionally mature AND reliable.. etc. A hookup just has to be attractive. I’m not sure why some men assume a woman would want to marry someone she’s not attracted to? Where did this idea come from?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 06:56 AM
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Women still date men despite the chance of being raped.. but go on about what a terrible fate it is to “come off creepy”
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 06:04 AM
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Sounds like you didn’t actually read the whole post where it debunks the higher percentages
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 06:01 AM
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Go to the AskFeminists subreddit. They have an FAQ with some recommended literature. The Wikipedia page isn’t a bad place to get an overview.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 05:44 AM
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No. I have always had plenty of male friends. I don’t see how either of those things would affect that. MeToo didn’t change how women viewed men, it just let more women feel comfortable talking publicly about their experiences, or to speak out about harassment at work. The whole idea of “Nice Guys” is that they are not nice guys but they think they are nice. I only hang out with men who are genuinely good people. I’ve never heard of any “don’t trust a nice guy” trend.. but I have known people wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 05:33 AM
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I saw a trend of women sharing their stories of sexual harassment and assault. Hence the hashtag MeToo meaning “yeah, it’s happened to me too” as a way of showing how extremely common these experiences are amongst women. I saw story after story. Then I saw a lot of men, shocked, posting how sad it was to see half their female friends sharing so many awful stories.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 05:21 AM
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Exactly. When I saw all my female friends sharing their stories online, it was only the men who were shocked. Good men underestimated how common it is amongst women to have experienced harassment and assault. MeToo didnt change how women viewed men.. it just allowed them to speak more openly.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 05:18 AM
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Why do you assume approaching a woman means not respecting her boundaries? It’s possible to approach a woman in an appropriate place in a respectful way.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/25 11:07 PM
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Yeah I think a lot of women get used to men pursuing them in a very active way where they’re making it obvious they want her sexually and will escalate quickly. When that doesn’t happen, they feel like you don’t really desire them (either consciously or only subconsciously) even if you do desire them but like to take your time or don’t want to be pushy.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 08:32 PM
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The only difference in a scenario where a woman has sex faster with a hookup guy than a BF guy is not because she desires him less, but because she doesn’t want him to think she’s easy. If guys would stop judging women for having sex right away, guess what? They’d do it more often. If men can’t respect a GF who gave it up too easily than why would she risk that? Anyways this scenario doesn’t even apply to many women.. lots don’t do hookups, and plenty are secure enough in themselves to leave a g…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 12:08 AM
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Whatever amount of effort she puts into you could be more than she gave past guys, for all you know.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 12:01 AM
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They don’t. It’s a fantasy in your head.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 12:00 AM
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The term contains the word masculinity because it comes from a man’s internalised view of what masculinity is, of what being a man means. Just because your view of masculinity is healthier doesn’t mean their view of masculinity isn’t a form of masculinity.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 11:50 PM
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Honestly a toy is fine, it’s porn that I’m not so keen about
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 11:46 PM
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Right?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 06:30 AM
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Sometimes it’s a specific person (current partner, or when single it could be a crush, a film character or inspired by one). Other times it’s scenarios with made up people. Don’t watch porn while doing it. I’m surprised that some people don’t think about anything while doing it.. I struggled to orgasm while masturbating until I discovered fantasy.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 04:06 PM
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Ah so men aren’t responsible for their own behaviour. Got it
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 03:18 PM
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Usually the problem is not tiredness it’s the opposite.. they seem to think “if she likes this, she’ll really like it if I do it faster/harder!!”
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 02:44 PM
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You are missing that all these laws are there to protect the children.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 07:45 PM
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THIS
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 11:01 PM
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Huh? Nobody said anything about strip clubs, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 03:23 AM
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Men who aren’t into dancing assume other people only do it to get laid because it’s the only reason THEY do it. They don’t understand that a lot of people genuinely get a lot of joy from dancing itself.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 06:15 PM
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Smart people are less likely to have unwanted pregnancies, well duh. That doesn’t mean theyre necessarily getting less relationships/sex, just that they’re more cautious.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 04:28 PM
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The path is just going out and practicing. How is that not a path? You start small and build up. Trust me, as a recovering shy person, it’s possible to learn as an adult. And definitely worth it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 03:27 PM
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I think you are misunderstanding the advice. When people say to make friends they mean either that expanding your social circle leads to meeting more people so increases opportunities to find people you want to date, and gives you social proof to those people (women feel more comfortable and positive about friends of friends than total strangers). Or they mean start by talking to them like a friend before escalating to flirting, because this tends to lead to more success than just walking up to …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 04:26 AM
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So try on strangers for practice. The risk is they don’t want to talk to you. Oh well, stop talking to them and move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 04:20 AM
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Saying sister or mother isn’t the best example of friendship because they’re family. Many of the skills you need to turn an acquaintance into a friend are the same to turn an acquaintance into a love interest. Making them laugh, being enjoyable company, etc. It’s basically all that but with added flirting on top.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 04:18 AM
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Why do you assume that when people suggest working on social skills that they think ONLY that is necessary to get dates? If someone has zero social skills then yeah, that’s one of the things to work on. Doesn’t mean it alone is supposed to guarantee dates, obviously. A lot of guys online looking for dating advice don’t even know how to make friends.. and getting dates uses the same skills as making friends PLUS the more romantic/sexual moves. You still need both.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 04:12 AM
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What about all the men who replace their loyal ‘starter wife’ with a younger hotter model, just because they can? Men are hypergamous about looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 03:22 PM
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It’s the norm in patriarchal societies
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 03:11 PM
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You say that as if no men get married anymore, lol. Women ARE dating down, increasingly. More and more women are the breadwinner in the relationship. Most women don’t want to share, they want a serious relationship. The ones who can’t find one stay single and focus on their friendships.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 09:10 PM
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This is the most sensible answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 08:59 PM
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No, that’s an odd interpretation. Married men are ‘safe’ meaning they aren’t looking for sex from you. So you can just act friendly toward them, platonically, without worrying they’ll take it somewhere sexual. Whereas if you’re talking with a single man who doesn’t interest you, you’ll put more effort into avoiding being too friendly because they often interpret any friendliness as sexual interest and then hit on you. The main issue with this is that clearly some married men do interpret it as f…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 06:27 PM
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Women tend to let their guard down more around ‘safe’ men (ie taken men). They stop censoring themselves like they do around single guys. Some men interpret this as flirting.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 04:45 PM
1

Definitely a man. Nobody gets to stay 10/10 their whole life as they age, but men get to be considered attractive even when they start aging, and when their looks are gone they are not suddenly seen as valueless.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 03:09 AM
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There’s plenty of advice out there. I recommend the early episodes of The Art of Charm podcast as a start. If you’re really shy then start small.. ie making better eye contact with cashiers and baristas, moving on to small talk, slowly expanding from there.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 11:14 PM
0

It’s crazy to people with even moderate social skills and mediocre looks who actually go out and socialise that the world is not actually as dire as many people like you have convinced yourselves. Interesting how it used to be 20% of men, then 10%, now you’re saying 4-9%.. as the paranoia gets worse the made up numbers get smaller. If you want to be alone then keep black pilling yourself into depression if that’s what you want. Plenty of non-Chads out here are getting relationships with cute wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 11:12 PM
-1

All the better reason to work on your in-person game and get a leg-up on all the guys who only depend on OLD
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 02:44 PM
2

So not the OKcupid study that showed that men mostly message the hottest women and women message average men more than the hottest ones? https://techcrunch.com/2009/11/18/okcupid-inbox-attractive/ Which study showed only 20% of men get messaged?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 02:59 AM
0

But how often does that even happen? How do you know every sex act she apparently suddenly lost interest in but liked before? This whole scenario is mostly paranoia.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 02:57 AM
0

Well said
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 02:54 AM
2

The data shows younger women are in relationships more than younger men because some of them are dating men who are older, not because they’re sharing men
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 02:40 AM
5

Exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 02:34 AM
1

My drive has changed over time. It was lower in the teens and early 20s due to a mix of religious upbringing, inexperience, and inexperience of my partner. In my mid 20s my new BF was particularly great in bed and my drive responded and went through the roof. Stayed high into 30s until a new relationship with a man with a lower drive than myself at the time. Eventually adjusted to more average drive. Dipped lower recently due to many health issues causing discomfort and hormonal issues (uterine …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 01:04 AM
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I’ve never heard anyone say women have the same sex drive their whole life. It’s pretty common knowledge that a lot of things can affect it (experience, access to a relationship, birth control, menopause/perimenopause, child birth/breastfeeding, thyroid issues, mental health, etc). It’s also well known that both genders will have decreased drive in their later years.. some more than others though.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 12:58 AM
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Some do regret it but it’s a HUGE societal taboo to admit, especially if you’re a mother. They’ll admit it anonymously online but hide it in person (both to protect their kid’s feelings and their own reputation)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 11:15 PM
1

I’m not totally sure what a ‘safe option’ is. It’s honestly not something I’ve heard anyone say.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 02:51 PM
2

People just copy the phrase 80/20 but each app is different and there are apps where women get messaged about 80/20 too
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 02:44 PM
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No men are just more willing to fuck women they don’t like. Plenty admit to it here.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 02:37 PM
0

And men abandon their kids more often than women do.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 06:49 AM
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Some do. The ones I know do.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 06:05 AM
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Romance doesn't have to be a cliche, in fact a lot of women hate it when men only do cliched romantic things instead of doing things that are meaningful to the specific woman because it shows he hasn't been paying attention to what she actually likes. Some women love getting flowers, some don't. Some women like fancy fine dining, others prefer cheap comfort food, or dining at home. What makes something romantic is that it is a gesture that shows you care about her and know what makes her feel go…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 04:33 PM
13

yeah there was a LOT of feminist critique and criticism of that
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 03:45 PM
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You're really overestimating the amount of attention ugly old women get.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 03:33 PM
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But we're not at that place. They don't have to do X, Y, Z. All they have to do is make it clear they're not looking for more than friendship. That's it. In fact even if they do hit on a woman it can still lead to friendship, as long as they're respectful about it. I have several male friends who showed interest early on, they accepted the rejection with grace, then stuck around to be friends. They had the option to disappear, but they were ok with having friendship only. Now I'm their wingwoman…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 03:05 PM
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Ok female friends listen to each others’ problems, that’s what friends do. If a man agrees to be a friend then he might be expected to hear about her problems. So the last 2 things are normal friend things (at least for women). The first 2 mean she’s a crappy friend.. friends normally take turns treating each other, or pay their own way.. nobody likes a mooch. And friends do depend on each other when necessary but shouldn’t be a drain, or demanding too much.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 04:21 AM
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So you’ve had platonic female friends expect all that? That you lead them to marriage? That sounds.. unlikely. I’m trying to understand what things you think female friends do that are inappropriate unless they’re dating you?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 02:24 AM
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A lot of that is stuff friends do for each other, though. Help them out, do favours for each other. Now if it’s one particular friend making excessive demands of your time and not reciprocating then that’s a bad friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 02:21 AM
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Men can’t get pregnant (duh) and women are at higher risk of catching an STD from intercourse than men are, so no it’s not an equal risk. I mentioned that assault is a risk of agreeing to have sex, making it riskier than buying someone a drink, because you are a lot less likely to get assaulted in a bar than assaulted while alone with someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 01:18 AM
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Wow that’s weird. That’s certainly not how I or any of my female friends have ever treated our male friends. We treat them the same as our female friends. Anybody acting like that is not your friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 01:06 AM
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I really doubt any woman would rather get an STD, unwanted pregnancy, or assault instead of paying a bit of cash.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 12:05 AM
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Don’t expect all women to be like one of your exes. Come on.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 11:56 PM
3

What do you consider “boyfriend duties”?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 11:53 PM
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Yeah I have a few male friends who hit on me early on, but accepted my rejection with grace, never brought it up again, and continued to hang out with me… which showed me they’re weren’t ONLY looking for sex, they also appreciated friendship as well. Now I can be their wingwoman.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 11:51 PM
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That’s a big leap to interpret ‘women being wary of leading on a man who might be looking for sex/romance that they’re not interested in’ as ‘women don’t want any male friends’. Especially silly since the women relax and become friendly once they know he’s gay, which shows they DO want male friends and enjoy a friendly conversation once they’re reassured he’s not only interested in sex. There are plenty of ways straight men can communicate that they want to be platonic friends only. It’s not har…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 11:49 PM
1

But you are ignoring what’s happening to all the many guys out there who are in happy relationships. you have tunnel vision.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 11:44 PM
1

The risks of sex for a woman far outweigh the cost of a few drinks
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 11:43 PM
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oh please
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 04:32 PM
1

Men are statistically more likely to sexually assault a woman than vice versa. Being manipulated into paying for someone’s drinks on false terms isn’t as bad as being manipulated to have sex on false terms.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 03:27 PM
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Any man with such a transactional nature is unlikely to be a good lover or partner so I don’t think women are missing out
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 03:08 PM
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Lots of assumptions going on here. If you would rather pay someone to pretend to enjoy your company than have a genuine connection with a woman cause you’re too scared, I find that just.. sad. But then again.. maybe it’s better for men with such paranoia to stay away from dating, it’s better for everyone that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 07:33 AM
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I wouldn’t be miffed if they told me after but maybe disappointed. If I knew then I would try to make it a really good experience for them. As for age? I dunno, I guess it would depend on the person. Most virgins are a lot younger than me. If he was a lot older than average.. like say over 30.. it wouldn’t be a write off but I will be honest that I’d wonder why he hadn’t before. I’d be wary that either his inexperience could complicate things, or else that I’ve missed a red flag so far. It would…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 06:02 AM
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It would be a dealbreaker. We could be friends but I have a more alternative style and prefer guys to put some similar thought into what they wear. Alternative can work, but there are other looks I enjoy. I like it when a man is at least a little bit self expressive, showing some personality in his clothes and hair. I’m bi and I feel the same way with women.. I’m just bored when I see a basic bitch/basic bro.. and from my experience we often have little in common.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 10:50 PM
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Something can be a red flag for some women men and a green flag for others. I have a number of female friends who have done a lot of therapy, or self-development, who are definitely looking for a man who has “done the work”.. meaning he’s worked through any major issues he had (either through therapy or other techniques). They’ve done the work so they are wary of anyone who is still working through any trauma or other issues, but would very much be happy to know a man has done therapy (as long a…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 10:36 PM
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Some of them will change their mind by the time they get married. In real life what happens usually depends on the financial circumstances people come across. What was the study called?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 01:34 PM
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There’s nothing he can do after I’ve said no, because to continue pursuing is to push my boundaries and that’s a red flag. If he asks after we’ve spent some time talking together, or have gotten to know each other through a shared activity, that greatly increases his chances. I once went on a date after a cold approach like this because I was young and had just moved to the big city and wanted to meet people and he was very attractive. I was flattered, and hadn’t gotten much male attention in my…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 08:07 AM
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Not much left? Except.. intelligence, sense of humour, shared values, shared lifestyle, good conversationalist, shared hobbies, emotional intelligence, being a good listener and giving emotional support, body language, voice…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 07:58 AM
1

Those denied hard power will grasp for any soft power they can sneak away from those with hard power.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 07:42 AM
1

By your logic it’s ok to treat adults like children
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 07:39 AM
1

That type of husband is being chosen more and more every year. The number of married partners where the woman is the breadwinner is growing as women have become more paid.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 07:25 AM
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There are a number of reasons, depending on the woman. -She IS trying to get attention from a specific man, or a small minority of men she is interested in, but the downside is she attracting many other men. So it’s true that she’s not trying to get attention from men in general, but she shouldn’t pretend she isn’t doing it at all on the chance of getting the specific attention she does want. -Sometimes things women do during their day to day happen to turn men on but are not done with that inte…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 07:07 AM
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Yes I would judge a friend who did that. It hasn’t happened that I know of, but I would. I have had an argument with a friend who started seeing a guy she thought was in an open relationship, but once it became clear he was actually cheating on his GF with her she still stuck around. She justified it as ‘I don’t know her and I’m not the one cheating’ but it’s still rewarding and condoning unethical behaviour.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 06:48 AM
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You don’t need to get drunk at bars. Also there are other better places to meet women, especially if you want more than a hookup. Being involved in a shared hobby for example. Or volunteering.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 02:58 AM
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I don’t know any woman who uses a dildo, only vibrators
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 11:24 PM
1

Yeah the interaction shouldn’t start with asking them out. It should start with a conversation to get to know each other first.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 10:59 PM
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This is definitely not what I have witnessed.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 10:46 PM
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A lot of former men would be disappointed at how much harder it is to orgasm, and it might take them a while to figure out what works. They might hurt themselves at first trying to cum by jackhammering themselves with a dildo. Also men would have to face that every act of intercourse is a potential pregnancy for them, and might understand more viscerally why women are generally less interested in casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 10:42 PM
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That would imply male horniness is entirely social, not influenced by testosterone levels, etc
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 10:40 PM
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The portion of women being flown around by millionaires is such a tiny tiny amount. I don’t know a single woman who has had that lifestyle. The most beautiful women I know are more likely to get taken on expensive dates but they’re not getting offered a free shopping spree, or given money, lol. The few women in that lifestyle are younger and hotter and better connected than most people.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 10:34 PM
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These are jobs that most women can’t do, only young hot women can do. And they come with a lot of risks, and frankly most women would not do prostitution unless desperate because it’s just a road to PTSD. So they’re even less of a privilege than many jobs that require a lot of physical strength.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 10:22 PM
2

You think women only have sex either for money or through manipulation? Yikes.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 06:28 AM
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and every single mediocre shit lover that ever paid for her services will convince themselves THEY were the one she actually enjoyed, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 12:32 AM
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You can't know that she enjoyed it. She'll lie to make the money. The fact that she isn't doing it for free shows that she isn't enjoying it. Or she'd do it for free. The entire reason you have to pay is because otherwise she doesn't want it from you.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 12:29 AM
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Women know very quickly if they find a guy physically attractive. But physical attraction ruin is only the first step. they usually need some time to figure out if they’re mentally attracted to him. They are also trying to gauge if he is threatening and if he seems like someone who will treat her well.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 09:26 PM
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The person is being paid to provide a service. That can include pretending to enjoy it or faking an orgasm if that’s what gets the money. The idea that a man would actually mistake the experience for something sexually mutual just because he attempted to give her pleasure only shows he has no real empathy.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 09:14 PM
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Yeah exactly. It’s not the fact he had sex that is a problem it’s the attitude that allows him to purchase consent without bother.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 09:08 PM
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1 comes with the best sex. Sorry you haven’t found it yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 04:11 AM
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Masturbation doesn’t involve purchasing the consent of another person. Plenty of men are capable of relying solely on masturbation when they aren’t getting laid while also not faking caring about a woman to get laid. Thinking those are your only options in between relationships makes you not relationship material anyways.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 12:18 AM
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No they don’t. They may be wary of sleeping with someone who is inexperienced (because he could be bad in bed, or his inexperience could lead to him getting clingy too fast, etc) but that is not disgust.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 12:06 AM
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Yeah the type of man who would be ok with paying for someone else’s consent is not the type of person I would want to date. There are men who want all sexual encounters to be mutually enjoyable, and those men have no interest in sleeping with someone they know isn’t actually into them. The type who would be ok with that is ok with using someone’s body like a toy and I have no interest in people who are transactional like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 11:56 PM
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“Men you know” doesn’t mean “men you know really well and trust”.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 11:40 PM
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They were recruited from a forum dedicated to raping women without their knowledge. He shared past tapes in which she is unconscious the entire time, and gave careful instructions to make sure she would not wake or find out after. They definitely knew they were raping her.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 10:52 PM
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They normally chase their babies up a tree, then defend the tree. They rarely attack, unlike grizzleys who are far more offensive attackers.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/05/24 01:24 AM
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CONDOMS. Bring and use your own, dispose of it yourself. It's for your protection too.
/r/MensRights15/03/24 05:59 PM
1

My autistic friend has had success with just being really communicative about how he communicates. Like he lets women know that he’s bad at picking up subtlety and gives them permission to be really blunt about what they like/dislike/want/expect. And asks them if they’re ok with the same from him. Stuff like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 09:28 PM
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ah yes, it's only height that counts, lol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 01:26 AM
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No. Responsive doesn’t mean passive. It means women are less likely to just be spontaneously horny, or to want sex simply because it’s available. A woman needs to be in the mood to desire sex, whereas men are more likely to just be ready whenever. Male desire is like a light switch that can be flicked on by many things.. seeing a woman bend over, or hearing “wanna do it?” And then he’s horny. Women are more like a dimmer switch that needs to be slowly turned up, and if any distractions come up a…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 08:12 AM
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I think most women are disgusted by the fact that some men can get pleasure from something they know is not pleasurable for the other person, that some men don’t care if the desire is reciprocated. It’s basically masturbating into another person. If a man is willing to use other women as a masturbation tool then he’ll do it to you too. Which is gross to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 08:16 AM
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Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 07:47 AM
1

I think you need to leave the house more
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 11:50 PM
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I think this is what non-social guys need to accept., your options are either to learn to love being solo, or learn to be more social and try to enjoy it. Otherwise you are saying you won’t change but expect others to change for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 07:04 PM
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2/3 of messages in OKcupid from men to women go to the top 1/3 most attractive women. Yet women message “average” men more often than the most attractive ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 07:00 PM
2

Think of it this way.. if she’s choosing you instead of her past options it means you’re the best out of all of them, if she had little experience before you, she wouldn’t realise how special you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 06:40 AM
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Yes many men have been hurt by women. Many women have been hurt by men. The ones who end up in good relationships learned to get past that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 01:43 AM
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It’s not women creating this cynicism.. it’s the Internet. What you describe doesn’t reflect what I see in most relationships I know.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 07:29 PM
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You can’t make a blanket statement like that. They don’t all cheat. Husbands as a group cheat more than wives as a group.. so I guess using the stats I should marry a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 07:23 PM
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Lots of men have high standards for a relationship too. Some people can afford to be more picky than others because more people are interested in them. if they are actually being too picky they’ll be alone. Let them. Meanwhile if you, male or female, have reasonable standards that you yourself meet, then you’ll probably be fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 05:13 PM
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There is no parallel between being picky about who you get in a relationship with.. and suddenly leaving your spouse for no reason. yeesh
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 05:07 PM
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You could also view it as just prioritising different things. If you’re terrified of being cheated on you may base your priorities in those stats, and only consider dating someone with trad values, low sex experience, etc. Someone else may also not want to be cheated on but prioritises a partner who is sexually compatible and a good friend with many shared experiences interests. By prioritising the former you may sacrifice the latter. By prioriting the latter you may statistically raise the chan…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 04:46 PM
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Dude let me tell you that lots of women get rude comments about their looks from guys they’re interested in, they can be treated like dirt by guys when having casual sex. this is definitely not something that is worse for men, it can happen to anyone. If someone is being unnecessarily rude then they’re not worth your time.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 04:01 PM
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It can go either way though.. you could read things wrong either way. Different women want different things.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 03:58 PM
4

This just sounds like “I’m average but want to date hot women. Hot women are picky and only date hot men. So now I must lower my standards and settle for an average woman. Boo hoo.” Both genders decide what they want and what compromises they will accept or not. Both face being alone if they don’t find someone that fits that. Both can then choose to accept a solo life or make changes to try again.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 07:36 AM
3

There’s like 5 times as many men on there so of course men get less swipes.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 07:18 AM
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Having a man use your orifice as a masturbation tool may not be impossible even fir an ugly woman but most women don’t find that pleasurable. Finding someone who will give you pleasure and treat you with respect while doing it is just as hard for an ugly woman as an ugly man.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 07:15 AM
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I love how so many guys are upset that women have similarly different preferences between hookups and LTRs as men do.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 10:29 PM
1

Wouldn’t “boyfriend material” be someone who wants more than sex? Therefore not getting sex immediately but seeing progress towards a relationship would still be ‘getting what he wants’ even if he’d prefer sex sooner
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 10:09 PM
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Firstly.. these aren’t necessarily the same women. Secondly.. if there are women who don’t want date a bi man but like gay romantic/erotic fiction, I’d say it’s because each is a different situation. I think some women are wary that bi men are actually really gay and will leave them for a man after their attempt at a straight life becomes unsatisfying. Or they believe that it’s easier for him to cheat with men. The reasons for liking gay fic are that this fantasy allows for romance or wild sex w…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 09:58 PM
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On dating apps women are more likely to message men they consider lower than average in attractiveness than the opposite. The majority of men all message the top 10% of women but women mostly message average guys. https://techcrunch.com/2009/11/18/okcupid-inbox-attractive/
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 06:26 PM
1

It seems very much like a straight female version of the original redpill sub. A combo of self improvement, learning to say no to what you don’t want, and manipulation tactics to get what you want from the opposite sex. The main difference is men are more focused on getting sex from HVW and women are more focused on long term relationships with HVM.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 04:56 PM
1

That’s not true, they have a high success rate if you use them correctly
/r/MensRights30/10/22 03:56 PM
0

It’s not correct to say that an accusation is automatically false without proof it is false. An accused person can be deemed “not guilty” legally speaking but that doesn’t mean the accusation is false, it often means there is not enough proof either way.
/r/AntiFeminists07/07/22 09:13 PM
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I think you underestimate the amount of effort the average woman puts into her appearance. Men often think women did nothing if they did it in a way that is not super obvious.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 03:24 PM
1

Majority of people worked hard. Had larger families. Higher chance of losing a child or spouse young. Less waste and consumerism. More family focused. Men normally got sole custody of children if there was a divorce, though divorce was rare and harder to get.
/r/MensRights26/11/20 11:45 PM
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There are already laws. The problem is in most cases there is not enough proof.. just as most rape cases don’t have enough proof either.
/r/MensRights26/11/20 11:33 PM
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Yes let’s be proactive, not reactive. Women saw a need for shelters, so they made them. The first ones had no gov’t support. They used fundraising and their own money. They filled up. Through showing how many people needed their services they later got funding. They are generally kept gender segregated due to female survivors feeling unsafe with men there after being traumatized by one (hence the debates amongst women of whether or not trans women should have separate shelters or be allowed with…
/r/MensRights24/11/20 12:31 PM
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Lots of men who don’t like taking responsibility for taking control of their own life over here. Come on fellas, you do have certain things under your control. If you don’t want to be the father of someone’s child, don’t impregnate them. You DO have control in this situation. You can avoid it in the first place regardless of what happens after impregnation. You can choose to: -not have sex with them -have forms of sex with them that won’t lead to pregnancy -use a condom -get snipped (if you’re s…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/20 10:58 AM
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Only women are held responsible for their actions.. for fucking stupid men, not vice versa. Or so it would seem from the comments. smh. How about it goes both ways? Despite losing control AFTER impregnation, you can choose to not get them pregnant in the first place! Duh.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/20 10:54 AM
1

Yeah he’s referring to the fertility window rather than looks
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/20 10:21 AM
1

JP definitely prefers order to change.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/20 10:01 AM
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But wait, I thought it was only women who had standards? According to many men on here.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/20 09:36 AM
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I think it’s fair that if one person invites the other on a date, that they should pay, regardless of gender. It’s also nice if the invitee offer to pay their half anyways (if they can afford to). But it’s also up to the one inviting to choose something in their own budget. Which could be grabbing an ice cream cone and wandering in a park, or having a picnic on the beach, or whatever. If they like you they shouldn’t mind how much money was spent but rather how enjoyable the time spent was and wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 05:28 PM
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Both male and female Japanese are rejecting relationships because they no longer want tradition re: one side works themselves to death as a slave to their boss while the other spends all day alone with children and has to give up everything else they love. Until they can see a culture that supports more flexibility why would either sign up for that?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/19 10:02 AM
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I think the biggest difference, aside from the obvious factor of increased risks compared to men, is that “bad sex” for women is way worse than “bad sex” for men. Both women and men who have regular access to a lover that really gets them off are likely to have a high sex drive, but women are more likely to have experiences that don’t get them off at all. So women have learned that just because sex is available doesn’t mean it’s worth having, whereas men think most any sex is worthwhile. Hence i…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/19 09:43 AM
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Yeah I would think this would be obvious. Men are also picky, you don’t see top celebrity men marrying ugly women, because they don’t have to.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/19 09:28 AM
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Women learn from a young age to figure out all their most and least attractive body parts and features, then most study how to hide, or draw attention to, or exaggerate those things. They pay attention to how their clothing fits on their body - does it cling to the parts that are shaped nice? Does it drape over and hide the less attractive parts? Women will try on many things and reject most of it for any flaws. Most men do not put much if any effort into choosing clothing that fits in the most …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/19 01:10 AM
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At a small house party at a coworkers place. Early 20s. I didn’t like a lot of the people there.. the hostess was a bit of a superficial party girl and had invited a lot of guys I found annoying who were just trying to get us drunk on shots and acting like stereotypical frat boys. I started to realise it wasn’t my scene but ended up in a corner with a guy who was actually quite chill, mature, intelligent. He was kinda chubby, average looking, not my type and shorter than me (I’m tall) but I enjo…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/19 01:28 PM
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Firstly, I’d say these forums mentioned are not an accurate gauge of the population as a whole. Next, I’d say that there are different reactions to different types of people going on. There are both men and women who lash out in bitterness over negative experiences with the opposite sex. Ignore them. I think when women bitch about porn-sickness it comes from experiences with men where the sex is not enjoyable because the man has trained himself to either prefer porn or want sex to mimic what he …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/19 12:09 PM
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Again it comes down the fact that women prefer sex within a relationship. So personality matters, enjoying socialising matters. Is it really that much work to try to have fun with someone? The fact that many men only want sex is not really felt like a privilege to women. What you see as “doing little work and getting worshipped” feels in reality like being treated like an interchangeable object. When you can tell that a lot of men don’t give a shit about your personality it doesn’t feel that gre…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/19 12:07 PM
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I know a married couple with a vegan and a meat lover. They agreed that they cook vegan in the house but the ML eats meat with lunch at work and can cook it outside on the BBQ or order it when they go out.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 10:23 AM
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Newsflash: men turn down sex with their SOs sometimes too
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 09:26 AM
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Both men and women have preferences. If given the option, they will prefer to have sex with their ideal. But most will settle for less than their ideal if they recognise that they do not meet that ideal and therefore aren’t likely to get it, plus when it comes to relationships there are many other factors taken into account and looks are only one slice of the pie chart. Plenty of men and women marry someone of similar attractiveness to themself and have happy lives together. The fact that men ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 09:24 AM
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The thing is, even if most women won’t get raped this year, most women HAVE experienced threatening behaviour from men, such as being followed, or men who don’t accept no for an answer and won’t leave you alone all night, being groped randomly, being stalked by an ex, etc. And they all know other women who have had that or worse. So she’s sizing up your behaviour to see if there are signs you could be more trouble than it’s worth. It’s safer to reject someone who might have turned out ok than to…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/19 06:34 PM
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If you approach women of a similar level of attractiveness to yourself, the chances are higher than if you aim way above.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/19 06:24 PM
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What research?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 11:43 PM
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How do you define the difference between giving and taking, when 2 people get together for the sake of mutual pleasure?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 02:31 PM
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Newsflash: women enjoy sexual pleasure too. Women also take sex. Or really.. the best sex is a give and take of both people having fun together.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 11:31 AM
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Just because you have been a doormat, don’t project your experience to all relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 11:29 AM
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What’s interesting to me is that women based it in their past experience but men didn’t. Are they saying men base their expectations more in hopes than reality?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 11:21 AM
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Ok 242 college students is not that many. I wonder WHERE they got them from? Was it all from a college in the Bible Belt? Cuz I don’t know many people of either sex who plan to wait that long, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 11:19 AM
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I think women learn after several relationships that were motivated by looks that they’d rather be with a cute guy who treats them well, vs a hot guy that doesn’t. Through trial and error they learn to spot signs that someone isn’t worth it long term, decreasing the available pool overall. They still want someone they’re attracted to, but have also learned to weigh other traits more and not get into anything serious with a man just because he’s particularly attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/19 02:45 PM
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