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you absolutely can have fun, respectful, enjoyable casual sex encounters but I would guess that the more frequently you do that, or even get involved in short term relationships, the more likely you would be to have had some very negative experiences. ofc you could get really unlucky and have a horrible experience with your first ever relationship that could stain the way you view relationships. but it’s just a numbers game in that if you are having more experiences, you are going to see more of…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 08:23 PM
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What is CC?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 11:51 PM
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the thing that separates friendship and romantic relationships is attraction. if you like the personality, but don’t have any attraction, that’s a friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 04:18 PM
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then do irl approaching. dating apps just suck in general. I’m not on them and when I was I hated it. I know men complain about not getting lots of options on dating apps, but for me, it was viewing too many options through a screen that made it feel overwhelming and inauthentic. All these people just turned into commodities to sift through instead of a person you’ve stumbled upon and find this unexpected, wonderful spark with that drives you together.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 03:35 AM
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there’s a black mirror episode for that
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 12:49 AM
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but because there are so so many confounding variables, you can't empirically place people in a market and decide where they stand. like OP mentioned in their post, things like attractiveness can give a little insight into somone's romantic value/potential, but it's practically impossible to effectively place everyone onto supply and demand curves because, when it comes to romantic attraction, there's no concrete or universal standards for the type of rational decision making used in traditional…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 06:59 PM
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My ex is a great guy, we ended on good terms, and I’ll always have some form of love for him even if it’s not romantic. However, you can’t say that too much without people thinking that you still want them even if great person doesn’t equal the right person.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 08:59 PM
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can’t speak for all the other girlies but I do not want a body builder that’s scawy
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 05:53 PM
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This is exactly how I look at it. My personal standards don't exactly fit this norm, but I've gotten shit for being picky when I'm perfectly fine being with myself. Like I truly would rather just be alone than with someone that I'm not all about but everyone else has such a problem with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 10:56 PM
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eh I will say I just don’t want people looking through my notes app and reading my inner thoughts even when I’m single.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 12:34 PM
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so extremely common. I’ve heard so many stories from girlfriends about their boyfriends cheating, some toxic situations where they both cheat and keep staying together, just met another guy who was cheating on his wife for two years before they decided to open the relationship. I also worked as a waitress and the number of married men that would openly flirt and try to cheat with staff. hoo boy. honestly at this point, it’s made me feel like open relationships really are the way to go for some p…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 12:32 PM
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I obviously don’t have statistics but in his defense I actually do get dms from guys and couples on insta and a fair amount of unwanted attention in person. He’s right that the reason I ignore/try to politely disengage from most of that is for my own safety. I ignore most of these advances even when single. I have friends who experience the same so there definitely are women receiving a fair amount of attention off and online that are ignoring it for safety, not out of loyalty. That being said, …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/24 08:36 PM
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this is interesting to read. i recently entered a grad program that’s of 70% women. believe me when i tell you, i was exhilarated about then when i first started. but i quickly noticed some women entering into extremely toxic displays of competition for male attention - and the guys here ain’t shit in the look department. women would socially abandon other women for really petty things while turning a blind eye to anything a man did. they’d label themselves a feminist but their actions showed a …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 08:55 AM
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yeah based on my parents life choices I’m not taking any advice from them
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 08:06 AM
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there’s nothing like ultra shitty parents motivating their children to be the exact opposite 🤌🏼
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 12:49 PM
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in my experience, whenever a male friend has had unreciprocated feelings for me, it doesn't stop at the point of rejection. I've tried every which way to deal with male friends that catch feelings - from trying to let them down gently and still maintaining the same level of friendship to being intentionally cunty so they would both get the message and maybe not like me anymore - and for too many, none of this works. there have been too many where if i keep them in my life at all, they will conti…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/23 08:22 AM
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this is so true actually and men need to stop it. when you can see that someone isn't into it, ave enough respect for them and yourself to *move on*. see the woman in front of you as a whole person, not some sex/romance fantasy. stop deluding yourself when you get information that doesn't fit into that fantasy, come back down to reality, and move on to someone that actually likes you as a person and who you also actually like *as a person*
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 05:24 PM
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So many others have explained very good points about women’s social support systems, social pressure and more but one thing I’ve noticed (super anecdotally btw) is men repeatedly going for women who are in some way unavailable to them and then complaining about not being able to find someone. If you don’t have an awareness of a person beyond your desire for them, then you’re probably going to encounter a lot of disappointment.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 05:57 PM
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they’re not. the (majority of) women that claim they are hornier than men either have zero clue what men’s libidos are like or they’re just posturing to seem #notliketheothergirls
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 07:35 PM
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another good point I’ve seen is that women have to wear makeup in professional spaces to look put together, whether they want to or not. this is use of makeup is imposed on women to be able to succeed economically and not the same as feeling the need to put on a full face to go to the grocery store or out to dinner.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 11:56 PM
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many many women wear makeup to cover insecurities and I’m not gonna pretend that I’ve never done that (esp when I had lots of acne) but it can and is often used as a form of self expression as well. the same way we make stylistic choices in clothing as an expression of who we are, makeup can be used in the same way. and there’s recently been quite a noticeable shift in makeup use away from cover insecurities and towards enhancement of features you are proud of or stylistic expression. when I put…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 11:54 PM
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Yeah and by mentioning the amount of people that came for her, I was highlighting the unpopularity of that behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 10:59 PM
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thank god
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 04:32 AM
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everyone CAME for that Cheesecake Factory woman, including myself. she was out of line and I don’t think the average person (man/woman) would defend her. like every comment I saw about that was bashing her and saying the guy dodged a bullet
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 01:55 AM
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while money is nice and all, I want to be financially stable for MYSELF. I’ve had a proposal from a billionaire and I turned it down despite him actually being quite a good friend and not unattractive. The thing is, I have a vision for myself and my own life’s purpose that makes it hard to marry any guy (because most don’t want to follow a woman’s dreams) but make it especially difficult when the guy in question has so much more financial power than you that it would seem crazy to ask them to yi…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 05:32 AM
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I’m very leftist and I want to elope and have a sizable lab grown diamond
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 04:53 AM
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don’t care at all. they’re life choices are not to be modeled after.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 02:24 AM
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yo honestly I think it depends on the woman… some are probably concerned and some are probably just jealous
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 06:54 PM
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I don’t remember voting for Ester Vilar as the representative of women
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 05:39 PM
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it’s a way to indicate that you are with someone without having to give too much information/explain the ✨nuances✨ in light conversations. it’s been very useful for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 04:20 PM
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Like this is group that uses it the most period or uses it to be manipulative?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/23 08:41 PM
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this isn’t always happening at a bar/party. usually it’s on the street or people I know from work/school/life. and I sometimes I do care about their ego because sometimes they’re friends or students in my cohort. Not being interested doesn’t mean I hate their guts and want them to feel bad. Just means I’m not interested. Even if I don’t care about their feelings at all, I do worry about safety and/or just not wanting to be rude to someone that I might have to see around. And I’m sure there have …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 08:22 PM
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So of course it always depends on the situation. But there have been a lot of times where I have turned down and guy and explained why when asked, and the guy turns it into a negotiation. Like either he can change the things I don’t like or I should compromise my preferences. And some dudes just won’t take a no and things can escalate into an argument or worse. And I’ve tried multiple ways of dealing with this from being nice to being rude to giving a reason that doesn’t hurt his ego to straight…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 07:34 PM
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Isn’t this nicer too like?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 07:25 PM
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Therapy speak has become overused by both men and women. You’ll have women who are uncomfortable for valid reasons and Karens who will use whatever tools at their disposal, and therapy speak has become a new and improved tool for manipulating situations (even though it’s use can be benign and just help people better explain what they are feeling). But men also use therapy speak and even other politically progressive talking points to be manipulative too. I’ve seen it and experienced it from men …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 07:24 PM
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yeah I think a big issue with OPs post is they forgot about friends. those needs are real and can be met outside of romantic relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 07:39 PM
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I for one am fine with this category of man not taking an interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 12:40 AM
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but I know a couple women with a lot of experience that are loud and proud about having the experience and being extra kinky in bed. and they do talk badly about men because their situationships don’t turn into the relationship they want. but I also think the way they act, like boasting a robust sex life with many men, makes it seem like they don’t want a serious relationship. so the man doesn’t ever think of going into relationship territory because they act like they love having a life of kink…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 12:29 AM
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I honestly do not understand what you meant with the dinosaur take. feel free to elaborate on that if you’d like. But monogamy and heteronormativity would be some recent examples and most relevant to this discussion. Another big one would be our modern diets in the us, which arose from larger societal and technological innovations but are now actively harmful to our health and are basically antithetical to what is good for our biology. Thinking about this actually, our dental biology has rapidly…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 07:08 PM
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I don’t really think it will go extinct (at least not in our lifetimes) because of how embedded it it is in society. even if we are evolutionary inclined to do something, we also have societal circumstances that might contradict an evolutionary instinct, which I think applies to so much more than this, and we adapt. as society grows more tolerant of diverse sexualities and way to live, I can see more people engaging in polyamory, but I’m sure there will still be many people engaged in monogamy. …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 05:21 PM
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what do you mean defend monogamy? I perfectly fine with the idea of polyamory/other people doing that, and do think that it’s likely that we would be more evolutionarily inclined for that, but I just don’t think I would be super duper into it myself. Like maybe maybe every now and then I could do a rando, but I just prefer knowing my sexual partners. I’m more mentally comfortable if I know the person well and sex is just better with someone you are in sync with. And a roster would be a lotta wor…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 04:33 PM
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but why do that? esp when it’s very hit or miss with randos, why not just go with someone who’s you know is a hit (even if it’s romantic or just fwb)? and idk if you’re talking about an open relationship, a lot of people are opening up to that idea. but if all needs are met with one partner, I would prefer to stick with them than constantly have to meet new people and not even know if it’s gonna be good. that just sounds exhausting.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 03:50 PM
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I agree that more 3rd spaces is a good thing but a lot of people complain about it like they aren’t apart of the society they’re demanding more 3rd spaces from. People create new spaces like this to fulfill unmet needs, not some invisible society overlords. We are people. You are people. You are a person who can start creating these third spaces.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 02:24 PM
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frequent sex with someone you know and are comfortable and reliably compatible with is better and safer than a bunch of randos
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 02:14 PM
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I mean I’m all for castrating anyone who commits sexual assault (rage on there) but that’s legitimately not all men and not just men
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 06:08 AM
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sir you just perfectly explained what my ex was doing to me and I never had the words to explain it to him. im stunned. like how can i send this to him without sending it to him?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/23 04:26 AM
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but did the train wreck or the body count come first? I don’t know if I buy that casual sex is causing these issues or if having these issues could increase your own likelihood of increased sexual activity. I know women who are fairly sexually active, but it’s not a big focus of their life, and I think they’re doing fine regardless of body count. But I know other women who are very preoccupied with being sexually active and use it as a form of external validation and proof of their higher desira…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/23 01:00 AM
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I do think people (honestly men and women) in the south have a tendency to be more reserved with sex, or at the very least in how they discuss it. And I don’t mean like jokes, but talking about/promoting their sexual exploits. And it seems more acceptable to have standards, again among men and women, in the south than in the north because there’s a lot more godliness everyone is expected to live up to. I’ve never had a single person question my standards/selectivity in the south, where in the no…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/23 12:30 AM
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but like the amount of women I’ve met who do not care since moving to the northern states seems pretty significant. I’ve literally been shamed for either being prude or not being body positive with some crowds for being more picky and reserved.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/23 12:07 AM
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not all women are selective. I’ve met plenty who aren’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/23 11:28 PM
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I mean you can decide to not be friends with someone without stopping mid convo bc you realized you’re not gonna get what you want out of them. Like naturally finish the convo and then just don’t engage as much???
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 04:04 PM
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fuck no
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 05:47 AM
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apparently ur there too if you’re noticing
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 12:19 AM
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we’re just less strong. and women have purpose beyond childbearing but kinda fees like you don’t view women as people
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 08:08 PM
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bruh thinks we’re less when we literally provide the most economically vital capital for nothing: humans
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 07:14 PM
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I liked the red flag emoji…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 06:11 PM
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While there are some more universal red flags, I think most of them are just personal to what you are looking for. While I might not agree with the red flags if the red pill community, I think it’s entirely up to each individual to set their own standards. You should date who you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 06:10 PM
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how do I do this? meerrrr promise im a woman 🥺
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 05:10 PM
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and yeah men and women are different, in many biological ways, which is why we want equity over equality.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 04:58 PM
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Media outlets and social media are talking about it as an injustice because of the prevalence of gendered expectations in being upheld in society.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 06:35 PM
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s/o to all the hookup accidents 🤙🏼
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 11:07 PM
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yeah sometimes I feel like we need to clarify ages before speaking to each other bc I get so confused and then I realize they’re like 54 and it all makes sense - yours truly, a 20 something
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 01:25 AM
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I think depends on the woman and her sex drive. Having wildly incompatible sex drives is going to make things difficult, if not impossible. I personally would likely not do well in a relationship with this guy unless he was like super down to eat me out all time even if he didn’t want PiV, but then I would also get insecure about him not enjoying himself and just doing it for me and yeah it wouldn’t work
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 05:41 PM
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I will say if ur having a baby in a hospital, they have actually switch babies in a not insignificant number of cases so both parents should check and keep an eye on that baby.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 02:41 AM
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I’ve already turned chad down thank you
/r/AllPillDebate13/10/23 06:16 AM
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You can be picky about character though too
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 05:05 AM
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there’s a difference between respectfully cold approaches and harassment. and with cold approaches you gotta be able to handle a no
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 10:00 PM
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and where am I gonna find a man smaller than me unless he’s a literal child
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 09:25 PM
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men are typically stronger regardless. it’s actually quite scary to realize how much more strength men have than you even when they’re on the smaller side (which I’ve unfortunately experienced).
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 09:25 PM
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I think a lot of younger women have like one experience with an older man but it doesn’t usually work out long term bc, as OP says, 20 something women aren’t always ready to settle down when the older guy wants to. this even happened to me, I was with him cause I loved him, but I also wasn’t about to settle down as early as he wanted to and give up on my own personal development goals before having a family.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 01:42 AM
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Okay, I’m fine with men not compromising as much and I agree that if you aren’t attracted, it won’t work work. But the original post is complaining that the women they want to get with want tall men, but if that’s who they’re attracted to???
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 09:12 PM
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Literally I know so many gorgeous women with rat looking men
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 04:41 AM
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plenty of women are quite repulsed by overweight men I don’t think you can talk for us on that one, and certainly you shouldn’t be making a generalization like that about women’s deal breakers.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 04:37 AM
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but by this logic if no one should compromise on the weight then no one should compromise on the height either.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 04:34 AM
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If it’s because they are a bunch of thugs then yes, but specifically the part about them being a bunch of thugs. Not dating a specific race isn’t racist though. So so so many people never date outside their own race and never would.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 04:05 PM
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Most people in general aren’t going to an ivy on scholarship so that has nothing to do with women specifically. and I actually have landed what you would call a chad and I wouldn’t give up my own career prospects for him no matter how much money he has or how nice he is. I’ve decided on my purpose in life and it’s not being a trophy wife or SAHM.
/r/AllPillDebate07/10/23 04:03 PM
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im not the only woman at my college by a long shot. many women my age would prefer to be able to support themselves than be financially dependent on men for their whole lives.
/r/AllPillDebate07/10/23 03:54 PM
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they're like just go be a sex slave, maid, womb, and caretaker it's so easy... as if all women want to be housewives (for any random man at that) or that they could happily manage a household like SAHM's do.
/r/AllPillDebate07/10/23 09:46 AM
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I personally went to college on scholarship at an ivy to get myself out so that's one woman for you
/r/AllPillDebate07/10/23 09:42 AM
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reading these comments about how you have a female perspective and just had the thought "oh it's because women automatically view the men they are having casual sex with as full people and the men who claim to only need the sexual attraction are not interesting in seeing women they want to have sex with as full people" even if it is casual, I cannot even imagine having a good sexual experience with someone I don't vibe with. it is truly so so much better when the vibes are good and I know it's b…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 08:52 AM
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exactly, we are brought up being told that men are dangerous and it's our job to police ourselves to not get hurt. then we go out into the real world and even with all the self-policing in the world, most unfortunately women find out those warnings are right sometimes. most people aren't victims of members of these other groups you mention, but most women experience sexism daily, most have been harassed by men, a fourth have been raped by men (not counting unreported rapes which is a lot), the m…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 08:30 AM
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the equivalent of what op said would be choosing not to have intimate relationships with black people, not simply not engaging with them. and we should all be free to have autonomy over who we enter intimate relationships with.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 08:06 AM
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