Yeah man I had a long spell with no kisses. The first one was so awkward and the chick reminded me to pace myself. It was hard to hear for a split second then i was a pro again.
Hmm I like that idea. Now I know why girls freak out in the movies when a guy picks a eyelash off their face. That’s the key, I want to keep it natural. Thanks for the tip
Oh boy, I feel like I’ve missed so many opportunities as I read that. It seems like I’m “in” a lot, but do I say something or just go for the kiss? I guess I just need to grab them by the waist and plant one? I just want to act like I know what I’m doing when I go for the kill
I feel like this is a reference I missed.. but, this same chick mentioned later that she has a huge non-con fantasy. So. Yeah sometimes you never know.
Thanks for the reply. I’m funny acting but I don’t have any jokes that I can fire off or could make her laugh at will.. Do you have any go to jokes to spare?
For example, one chick at a party this weekend actually got up from her seat and group of friends across the room, walked over sat by me. That’s a nightmare for me because while I made her laugh a few times, it was a conversation that went nowhere and a wasted opportunity to see what could happen. I can get my foot in the door no problem, just need to start making home runs.
Sure, I totally got what you’re saying. I feel like I’m at a 25/50 split right now. When I ask someone out I kind of know something about them and what we have in common. My problem is what to talk about when we run out of things in common. I don’t know if that makes sense but i have the problem of exhausting a subject because I’m not sure where to take the conversation next.
I have been moving around all over the world for the past few years, so I never really cared if things lasted or not. Even when I did date it was never for longer than a few months.
I swear to god I am realizing this happened to me so hard a few times. I was being led around big time and yet I was the one feeling dirty. Like a low-grade rape... lol
Hell yeah! You articulated everything I was thinking but wasn't getting straight. I've noticed I need to put a little more energy into my extracurriculars and clubs. Thanks for the reply, I really think it will help my confidence.
True, I just don’t know how conventional it is to not being able to talk about work, and people don’t really relate to my specific degree. I’m definitely shooting for the money and the As though. Thanks.
Yeah I’m taking 19 hours. I guess what I meant instead of 9-5 was I don’t even have a part time job. I’m just being hard on myself I guess, but it’s definitely next on my list.
I have been trying to break into my field and have had a little success. I guess I just feel like I need to fit in and not having a 9-5 lately seems to not be normal. Idk, I just feel like people do what I do, and more.
Breath haha. Don’t forget to take deep breaths and relax. Have confidence even if you have to fake it. Plus girls like when a guy is visibly trying, it’s disarming usually. Smiling is a great tip, but not a crazy smile. Shit eating grin type is a last resort. Be comfortable and speak up. Keep eye contact. Basically remember that you’ll survive no matter what Edit. I actually didn’t read your post but I think most of that stuff applies to social gathering as well. Everybody is just trying to be c…
Be interested Inyourself. If you are honestly in love about yourself without being a narcissist you’ll get further than just hoping your moping catches a girls eye. Plus they like to see that your content and really don’t give a Fuck about anyone, more or less.
Lol thank you for addressing those concerns! You kind of confirmed what I was thinking. I just need to follow your advice when we are not in front of the group.
Haha hah you're a pro man. Super solid reasoning and I like the cancel plan. You're right, I didn't really plan on going but now I know how to play that off. Thanks a lot bud. Saved me a lottt of energy and confusion.
Everytime I get invited out it is by girls I literally have just met. I really don't mind because I was never trying to hit on these girls in the first place, they come on to me and invite me. I play hard to get because I don't put up with their chickenheaded bullshit. So I know the invitation is shallow, but I want to use it to turn the tables and show them a different side. They really have no idea who I am until we get out there. And it usually ends up well. It's just been a while since I've …
I know what youre saying. I guess I am learning that want approval from anyone and as soon as I get it I basically just want more. I try to hard for people who don't care.
That last sentence was the response I was looking for. It's really about not being shook when it happens. I'm glad you got laid lol. I haven't been laid sober or drunk in almost 2 years. S
That is a very good answer. I think you're right, I need to deliver. Thank you for the specifics, I need to work on taking things further but I don't know what all that means..
Ok this is what I'm looking for. Deliberate. That's a word I need to focus on. I know what you mean, I am starting to notice how I can pick and choose what to talk about since obviously I don't talk much. Like I don't have time for small talk
Nice username. And you're right, but those specifics really help, like I just feel since I don't talk to many people that whatever I have to say is pretty lame.
Hmm solid advice. I feel like plowing through awkward silence is no problem. I just need to get more excited about the color of the grass. Or at least enough to get her excited about it as well? I hear the frat guys talk to the sorority girls and youre right, they talk about nothing. Just kind numbing BS. I need to learn from them. I just want to be exciting when I talk and not drone on about what movies I've seen lately. Idk, I obviously am beyond help. But thank you for the reply. I know I can…
Haha thank you bud. I don't know if I'd relocate just to sit next to them. But I might have to honestly. Hoping I bump into them in the hall isn't going to work.
Right on. I just notoced them a coiple weeks ago in class but i guess we have been in thr same room for about 8 weeks. I stick to myself. Ill try smiling next time and maintaining eye contact. Once I do that it's all downhill one way or another Thanks for the advice.
Thanks youre right, I got to tone down the weed for many reasons. After the day is done is when I should blaze, not all day. And you're right again about the wife thing, a friend told me not to expect to sleep with every girl I meet, which I need to work on. I don't want to be dating a lot of girls though, I just want to find one I really like and hopefully she likes me. Not trying to be aqua man in the sea.
Attracting them is cool, but how long is the facade going to last? I want them to be convinced I'm worth the investment of possibly more than just seduction. Attitude is improved when I work out, don't smoke, and apply for jobs, so you're right. I'm working half ass on those things instead of full ass. I want to be a better person for some girl and I want her patience.
Thank you! You got the nail on the head. Sometimes I forget words: integrity was one of them. I didn't know about blue pill and red pill until now so this is good. But I feel I'm more red than blue. So I need to follow through on my word. Thank you.
I think so, if I understand what you're saying.. I don't want to beat around the bush much. I'd rather get what I want or not deal with trying to keep up a conversation at school or in public. I guess..
My question was in the TLDR. Your last sentence was kind of what I was hoping someone would say. When girls tell you everything about hem selves and you're just trying to go about your day, there should be a way to dismiss them and be sexy about it haha
Thanks so much. You gave a perfect, no-excuse answer for my question. I feel like I can do anything now if I just quit making myself a worse version, and start changing the things I can. I made the post in an upward trend but with doubts, yours, and this sub's replies have totally reinvigorated me. Thanks again so much!!!!
I'm an experienced world traveler but since I came home I have been scared shitless of girls. Nobody cares I spent a year in Australia or a few months in Alaska or Peru. I would love to seem cool but usually seem to alienate them cuz they've never been outside the city ...
