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If your 3rd person’s name begins with a J, we seriously could have dated the same person. Broke things off 2 weeks ago, main thing I couldn’t get over was him being an antivaxxer and sending me conspiracy articles continuously over whatsapp
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 11:44 AM
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You're right and I'm sorry you had to go through that. I parted ways with an LVM I was with last Sunday and the week before has been on my mind constantly. We were having sex but then he started to try for anal. I kept telling him no but he kept trying to go for it even though I said no. When he tried again and actually got it in, I told him that it hurt yet he kept going. I felt pressured to do this so I went along with it but it's just been lingering on my mind since then. I feel like i should…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 11:32 PM
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My friends asked me what it would take to leave the NVM i was seeing. They saw how manipulative and rude he was, while I was falling deep. They actually got so worried and said it scares us how much you would put up with before it’s too late and in my mind i was thinking if i got hit i would leave. That’s when I realised it was time to see a therapist and look after my mental health. Was incredibly hard leaving but god they were right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 11:05 AM
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It's definitely hard in the beginning but you're doing it for yourself. Once you hit that block button you don't have to deal with any of their shit anymore. I know if i didn't block and they replied I would be in another fighting match with them feeling even more stressed and low about myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/21 02:58 AM
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Number 6 happened to me yesterday. I bought up things i wasn’t comfortable with and he’s now treating me like i’m the crazy one and lying, acting rude and manipulative. He also called all his ex’s crazy when he is obviously the common denominator. Blocked his ass and it hurts because i became attached but damn its like a nice weight off my shoulders.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/21 02:46 AM
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Agree with the military men. Childhood friend came back after being transferred back to our city. He chased hard and I stupidly thought he was a HVM. Sex with him was terrible, he was so rough and I wasn’t close to finishing. Plus he was very opinionated which made me uncomfortable at times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 02:42 PM
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The last LVM i found on OLD had “no kids, never been married”. He also had the audacity to copy my bio. Found out after i had deleted my profile and joined again out of sheer boredom. I laughed so hard at his lack of originality and questioned what i ever saw in him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 07:34 AM
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That’s what happened with me. When i was a pick me i ended up organised our first date. The months after, he put no effort in whatsoever. Now when this happens again I move on straight away. It’s basically an indication of how lazy they are and their intentions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 07:27 AM
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Thank you so much! I’m still dealing with the mess the LVM made in my life and have began therapy. 2020 has been such an incredibly hard year. I’m trying to fix my mental health now to enjoy every single damn day in 2020.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 03:31 AM
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Thank you so much! I was beating myself up for missing him and crying sometimes. It’s been 2 months and it’s getting a lot easier but i’m proud of myself for choosing me and walking away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 04:33 AM
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I wish i had read this 3 months ago. I let it linger for too long and i now am emotionally suffering. It's definitely better without him and all that anxiety though. Saving this for the future. Thanks queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 04:48 AM
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I never believed it. Then after i decided i was done with dating apps and walked away from a LVM, i suddenly had men irl and on instagram try to ask me out on a date. Feels good and that LVM is probably still complaining about being lonely while his hairline recedes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 03:41 AM
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I found him attractive, he looked after his body and had a good one, he was hard working, charming as hell, sweet in the beginning, and i felt he had genuine interest in me (LOL)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 05:55 AM
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So true! Wish i saw this back then. Would have saved me from all the bread crumbing and anxiety.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 05:14 AM
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A post on here triggered me and made me remember the first time the recent LVM i was dealing with didn’t put in any effort into organising our first date, and i let that slide. First he asked “Are we ever going to meet?” like a child and i gave him a day i was free. Then comes that day and I haven’t heard from him in 3 days so i assumed it wasn’t going to happen. He then finally messages and says he thought he was going to see me today and what happened? After i call him out saying he didn’t org…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 02:06 AM
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Clifford lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 05:50 AM
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Yess! When i was a pick me and just wanted to spend some time with the LVM i was seeing, he would ask me to come over all the time! When i finally had the time and actually said ok to him, he would say “if you’re ok with just chilling, you can come if you want”. Made me feel like he didn’t actually want me there and that i was inviting myself over. Goddamn past Pumpkin, you deserved better than that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 05:48 AM
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Scorpio - charmer, fuckboy, manipulative, and emotionally unavailable. Currently dating a Gemini. Judging from this thread, i need to be extra vigilant 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 06:32 AM
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I wish i knew this! I put effort in how i looked and he turned up with jeans, sneakers, a t-shirt, and a jacket that smelled like the gym. He had worked out a couple hours before and didn’t even shower. When we hugged, it felt like i was standing near a squat rack in the weights section with an attempt of masking the smell with cheap cologne 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 01:54 AM
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Haha it’s an unfortunate common trait of low value men. Hope you’re well over that trash, Queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 05:14 AM
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This was all i wanted from the last LVM i fell for. For our first date, he initiated with asking when we were going to finally meet because he was excited to meet me and I was excited too. When i asked what he had planned, he answered with: “I don’t know, what do you want to do beautiful?”. Me being a pick me back then, ended up setting a date, time and venue. Should have walked away when i realised he couldn’t put in the bare minimum. It all went to shit after that. All he could organise was la…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 05:53 AM
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I've lost around 20kgs since January and have taken care of my appearance and really got into health and fitness to have a better quality of life. It's paid off and i want to say i definitely had a glow up. Men have started to notice on social media and in real life a lot more than before and it makes me so incredibly uncomfortable, although ignoring them really does feel good where as before i looked to men for validation. A childhood friend has recently come back into my life. He is in the arm…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 01:35 AM
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Hahaha yes! Our city is back to normal and i asked if we were ever going to go on a proper date instead of him wanting me to come over. His excuse: “Coronavirus Baby!”. But he can still go out with his friends? Blocked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 02:32 AM
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I don't know if this counts as a date, but the second time i met him he just had minor surgery (very very minor, he was awake during it) the day before. He was being all sooky, telling me he's had 3 surgeries and has always gone alone. The whole day he asked me to come over and when i said i could after work, he gaslit me and made me feel that it was my idea, like i was inviting myself over. I went over, he was handsy straight away. He went in for a kiss, put his hands down my pants trying to gr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 02:58 AM
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No baby girl, block him! This on a first date without asking, he’s testing the waters and doesn’t care about boundaries. A LVM i was dating reached into my top and grabbed my breasts the second time i met him. It was out of nowhere while in was talking. I stupidly didn’t block him after that and i just continued to get disrespected by him. Run while you can, i don’t want that to happen to you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 05:31 AM
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Thank you so much! That’s wonderful, date nights with yourself sounds amazing! I have taken the advice from you all an started walking to my local cafe every morning. I really enjoy it and love that i get to just chill out by myself for a while, it’s a nice little treat! So great you buy yourself flowers and wow, treating yourself how you would want a HVM to treat you, thats powerful and just makes sense. I will keep that in mind and book myself a massage and mani pedi this weekend haha, thanks …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 01:44 AM
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I was a naive little 29 year old last year. I thought men in their 30’s would be more mature lol i was soooo wrong. Had to recently block a 34 year old man who wasted my time and manipulated me. Time to get reacquainted with myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 09:31 AM
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YES! Just cut off contact with one because i was starting to blame myself for asking for the bare minimum and thought i was overreacting. They really are scum
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 08:47 AM
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Thanks, this really helps! I actually really love records and we have quite a few second hand record stores. I used to love going on walks, but as ridiculous as this sounds, where i walked reminded me of him and my walks stopped. Going to find another place to walk next weekend and make myself be a tourist in my city. Thanks again ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 08:35 AM
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Feeling really lonely on the weekends. Friends work on the weekends and i hate feeling like a third wheel. Just hard to keep myself busy during iso. When i’m alone, all the hurt from the LVM i dated comes rushing back into my head and yet i start to miss him. Reading this sub really helps deal with those emotions and reminds me why i’m better off. His company wasn’t even great, he was selfish. I need to stop missing him and i need to take him off that pedestal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 03:23 AM
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I absolutely love her. Hope i look that amazing in my 50s 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 07:07 AM
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Does this count with someone i never dated? He played with my emotions for 4 months, gave me mixed signals, could never plan a date unless i went to his house and manipulated me for sex (which i didn't give him). I blocked him and worried i overreacted. Beating myself up over it for some reason and looking into therapy because i know this isn't healthy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 03:06 AM
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Girl! I experienced the same thing! Asked a guy to hang out and he said he had already changed into his comfy pants and didn’t feel like it. What a crock of shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 04:20 AM
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Thanks for this. I was beating myself up for caring about this man when he was down after his minor surgery. All that happened is that i got walked all over. I struggled to block him but looking back, it was the best decision.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 10:46 PM
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Thanks for this! Wish i had this 3 months ago
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 10:42 PM
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Off OND for a while after my recent encounter with a LVM i met on Tinder. He caused me so much pain by giving mixed signals and pickmeisha me began to chase and sacrifice my wants and needs for this man. It’s been a week now and boy was it rough, i wasn’t ready to let go but damn i do feel like my shackles have been released. It was my friend who grabbed my phone and blocked this dude and deleted his number off my phone after the scrote sent me a reply full of excuses. I cried so hard because I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 08:56 AM
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Yeah i’m South East Asian but was born and raised in Australia. I’ve had men be disappointed that I didn’t have an Asian accent and sounded just as Aussie as them. Disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 01:47 AM
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The surplus of emotionally unavailable guys who end up stringing you along to get in your pants. The quality of men on the apps in general. Really have not enjoyed dating apps at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 10:20 AM
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How do i forgive myself? I recently blocked a LVM but then unblocked him to say sorry ( I can't believe i did this, i reblocked him). I keep reevaluating what happened and i keep blaming myself for coming off as immature and being upset with him in my messages. I'm worried about his opinion of me due to my people pleaser attitude. He really did deserve the block and delete (read my other posts) but i just want to know what steps i can take to not be so harsh on myself and not care about whether …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 12:57 AM
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Hi everyone, i’m quite new to FDS and just wanted to say thank you. I finally blocked and deleted him last night. He is a LVM that was such a gentleman in the beginning but started turning every conversation into sex and him wanting me to give him a BJ. We had met before iso and talked everyday for 4 months but only met twice. I went over to his place last Friday to keep him company after he had very minor surgery and after he told me he was feeling low. Please note i have been struggling to get…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 09:46 PM
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It’s so hard! I’m struggling and i don’t know why I can’t let go when he treats me like shit and strings me along. I cried all day Monday, that was my lowest point. He probably doesn’t even care about me yet I always want more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 05:45 AM
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