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REMINDER 👑pumpkin-pied/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 07:07 AM
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MINDSET SHIFTpumpkin-pied/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 11:13 AM
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RANTpumpkin-pied/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 05:07 PM
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RANTpumpkin-pied/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 10:43 AM
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RANTpumpkin-pied/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 05:54 PM
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RED FLAG 🚨pumpkin-pied/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 07:37 PM
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STAY WOKEpumpkin-pied/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 03:22 AM
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RED FLAG 🚨pumpkin-pied/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 09:34 AM
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pumpkin-pied/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 06:14 PM
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STAY WOKEpumpkin-pied/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 06:12 AM
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RANTpumpkin-pied/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 12:46 PM
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THE AUDACITY OF SCROTESpumpkin-pied/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 08:48 AM
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PICKMEISHA HALL OF SHAMEpumpkin-pied/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 05:51 PM
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PICKMEISHA HALL OF SHAMEpumpkin-pied/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 09:38 PM
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NAH, SISpumpkin-pied/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 07:31 PM
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#HeAin'tTheOne2021pumpkin-pied/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 09:38 PM
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FDS RESCUE MISSIONpumpkin-pied/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 09:54 PM
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i love how every measurement of self protection is labeled "toxic" these days... funny how it's always them saying that about js
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 04:03 PM
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This is so important, especially point 4 and 5. Innocent and good-hearted softies like my younger self always fell for a good trauma reveal & believed it was ultimate destiny when a man "opens himself up" 🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 07:59 PM
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I resonate with this post so much that I want to cry. Nobody, not even my "best girl friends", believed me when I say I feel trapped and scared and tired of this relationship. They started defending him whenever I come crying saying I'm going to break up for real with him; and when shit explodes, he spreads on social media that I'm a crazy manipulative narc abuser after I called the cops on him, of course even my best friends sided with him and stopped talking to me. Shit hurts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 04:56 AM
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I kept a counter of all the times I hate this relationship so much I wanted to cry. There were 37 lines.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 06:15 PM
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I love this, on top of my list will definitely be "browse cute lacy lingerie no man deserves to see me in" 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 10:27 AM
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I do, I keep thinking about how things would've gone differently if I could turn back time to behave differently. Maybe we could've had a great, healthy relationship if it wasn't for me. And I find myself hurting a lot knowing that those good memories, the affection, the praises, the love and warmth - I will never be able to experience them ever again. I feel like slowly fading away and nobody can love me the way he did. But I also know that my brain is fogged with oxytocin, and after a few week…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 05:35 PM
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Thank you!! 💖 I really needed to hear this. I'm so scared of breaking my 2-day streak by lurking a certain subreddit he posts shit about me on. That these are intrusive thoughts makes everything so much less punishing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 05:28 PM
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YES!! I WILL !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 05:26 PM
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This quote is golden. I'm saving your comment ✨ And thank you for the tip - I'll count on it when I feel really desperate, but for now I think remembering him will do me more harm than good, because I still feel myself defending his bad behaviour.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 05:19 PM
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That's a great idea. I think I'll consider doing this after successfully making it through 2 weeks of NC or else I'll be tempted to reconnect with him to "resolve all problems" again 😣 Maybe when it's that time, I wouldn't need to make any lists at all 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 05:02 PM
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It sure helped improve my mood and the overall aesthetic of my room. I love all thinks pink and glitter so every time I look at them, I feel like I'm "in my element". 💖✨I taped them onto my wall (I live in a shared flat) so it's private but visible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 04:57 PM
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I will! 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 04:56 PM
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Thank you! 🥺 The hardest part for me was protecting myself from the disrespect I was ready to serve myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 10:23 AM
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You've made it through 10 whole months sis, that's amazing!! And omg, I feel you, I feel the embarrassment so bad. It's like we still hope for some part of them to regret letting us go and crawl back on their knees.... But you know we can't count on that. All we can count on is moving forward without these blind scrotes!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 10:17 AM
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aw you made me smile 🥺 I'm planning to post here counting every day I made it to have some kind of commitment, hope y'all won't get annoyed with me 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 10:15 AM
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I've been laughing nonstop at your comment, it's such a sad and shameful truth for myself for hoarding a 5 month old leaking bag of trash in my space, yet you put it so factually and accurate 😂 Thanks for cheering me up. And thank you! I've been looking into handlettering these days, makes everything look so much prettier and it's not even that difficult to practice 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 10:12 AM
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Thank you! 🥺 The glitter keeps me happy! ✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 10:09 AM
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Yesss! 💖 I was inspired by Ms. Amber Scholl (although her content quality has unfortunately declined slowly over time), and I was so happy to stumble upon huge A3 glittery cardboard stocks so I got 2 (a light pink one and a pink one). During my relationship with this ex, I had to stuff them in the back of the closet because I was moving in with him (yikes) and he didn't want "any pink girly stuff" in his apartment. I dug them out again after being kicked out of his flat, and I almost forgot how …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 10:06 AM
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They're desperate for manic pixie dream girls that will "save" them from their boring unemployed life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 08:05 PM
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Not to switch it up with "let a man hurt you over and over again". No, this is about letting yourself feel all of the icky emotions on their full performance; allowing the sadness, the pain, the shame, the anger, the resentment, the guilt, the nostalgia, the regret engulf you wholly. This is about letting yourself cry all the tears you have to offer, listen to all the sad songs you need to, lay on the floor the entire day when you don't have the energy to move, for as long as you want. And then,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 07:52 PM
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oh my god bdsm bro 🤣🤣🤣 simply c*** 😂🤣🤣 this one will be Rancid Armpits
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 07:45 PM
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💖 Thank you, I can't wait till the day I no longer need to keep a visual counter like this or else I'll slip back into old patterns again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 06:23 PM
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(I forgot to mention how I'm LIVING for your username...)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 06:05 PM
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What did he expect? He flaunted his wealth and invited you to come over, of course he was asking for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 05:56 PM
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YES. YOU WANTED TO GO HOME WITH MY BEST FRIEND AND LEAVE ME ALONE IN THE PARK AT 2AM.. BECAUSE YOUR INTENTION WAS "GIVING ME SPACE". SURE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 05:47 PM
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I love this!! Now I just have to wait for my perfect chance to execute this full frontal attack to their teeny peeny ego 🤏🏽🤏🏽🤏🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 05:45 PM
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Yep, she's next on my to watch list 💕 I'm going to stay strong, thanks to your support!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 04:37 PM
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Hey! I just had a nasty breakup a week ago as well and really need to survive the bitter pain. I know exactly how you feel, sometimes during showers I'd make up scenarios where we suddenly meet again years in the future and he changed his mind somehow and we get back together..... Which is completely nonsense considering how horrible the ending was (cops were involved). I can't tell you tips from a stance of someone who has healed, but I can tell you little things that's helped me the last few d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 04:08 PM
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And then he'll turn it around on you, saying you're the manipulator, the narc abuser, the crazy bitch, the evil wench who knows exactly what damage she's doing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 03:54 PM
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I will! I'll try my best! Loving myself seems like such a strange concept now but I'll try my best.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 01:36 PM
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I have to, right? If I keep saying I hope I will then I still leave some room for failure.. I know I will make it 😤 Thank you 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 01:36 PM
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Thank you!!! 🥺 💕 I'm treating myself to new cute underwear today if I make it through day 2!! 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 01:35 PM
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I found it so hard... I had the urge to break NC multiple times and felt like crying when I knew I had to control myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 01:34 PM
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I'm tearing up reading this :') I think without FDS I would end up way worse. I'm so glad you made it through. I'm definitely going to pay it forward to other gals in need when I'm at a place where I can 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 01:32 PM
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Thank you!! I won't disappoint you! 😤💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 09:51 AM
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Thank you so much for your words, I'm crying a little bit 😭 I don't know if I'd been able to have done it without you guys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 09:50 AM
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I'm proud of you! Seeing others surviving this gives me a lot of drive to keep going.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 09:48 AM
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It was necessary I think. I want and need to apologise because I, no matter "who started it first", also hurt him. The worst thing is I wasn't even aware of my own behaviour. And I loved him - so I wanted him to know that not even he deserves this kind of treatment and that I'd gladly do anything to make it up to him... But that's history now 🌳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 09:47 AM
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Omg, what?? 🤣🤣😭 Is he for real? Can someone really be that stupid? 🤣 It's hilarious how you handled it sis. Poor the pickme plates though - hope they'll get their eye opener soon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 09:45 AM
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Sounds like what I need right now. Thanks for the rec!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 09:43 AM
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Thank you! 😭 I thought I'd never be able to make it this far.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 05:15 PM
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Ugh, I hate that I'm in the position of your pathetic hoovering ex - I've been relapsing the last few days doing really, and I mean really disappointing and embarrassing shit (eg. begging him to listen to me apologise after he slams the door in my face multiple times with his friends laughing in the background..) I guess I have to douse myself in FDS holy water and own my mistake. NEVER AGAIN!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 05:13 PM
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The intentions thing..... so true. Every single time he does something that hurt me, he will apologise and say that it's NOT ON PURPOSE AND HE DID IT WITH A GOOD INTENTION.And I have to forgive him because his intention was pure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 08:50 AM
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Simple language for scrotes: Just because someone slams their head against the wall when they're mad doesn't mean you can slam that person's head against the wall too. You'll go to jail for that 💁🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 05:30 AM
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oof reading this triggered me of my narc ex whom i'd just broken up with. he was latino, bathed in cologne, reuse the same pair of ripped boxers that's been worn for 6 days, and takes pride in wearing unironed shirts. 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 04:54 AM
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I got a harrassment dm from this lowlife too. Block.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 01:56 PM
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We aren't Bob the Builders.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 05:03 AM
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omg, you are so right. wtf am i even doing. i've stooped to his level-
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 12:15 AM
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I feel like crying reading this. Nobody, nobody, would ever believe a woman when she drags herself to the police looking for help. Nobody will believe a woman getting help for herself, because in their eyes, "if she can still walk and talk then she's fine". "She's just overreacting". "She's lying to get attention". "She's crazy and manipulative and is trying to frame her boyfriend". "She needs to calm down". They will, only then, believe her when she's left a lifeless body on the ground. May you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 09:58 PM
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The amount of consequent exclamation points scare me. Hobo u want a personal driver a bangmaid and a mommy? Pls go extinct already
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 09:50 PM
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Yikes, it's like all of those popular dating subs are run by either kinkmeishas or negative value scrotes that advice women to watch porn with their partner to bond 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 09:44 PM
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There was someone talking about the book "The Body keeps The Score". In one of the chapters (I've only seen a summary on the webs), they talked about how those who were traumatized feel like those who weren't are outsiders. I'm not sure if I got this entirely right, but I can imagine it's the same for us neurodiverse people; always feeling cast out from the rest of the neurotypical world that we seek and find safety in others who also exhibit an aura of "different". Unfortunately, for men, those…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 09:26 PM
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That makes a lot of sense. When you find yourself reliving the same patterns over and over again, let it be eg. bullying or toxic abusive boyfriends, it's usually a sign that you have some trauma you really need to heal from in order to break free from the chain. Or else the universe will just keep sending you these identical pains until you finally realise that hey, maybe I need to look at this. You've successfully convinced me to get it! I was deciding between "Self Therapy" by Jay Earley and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 08:00 PM
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omg, the thought 🤮🤮🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 07:46 PM
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You guys. These are all predators preying on vulnerable women. They can even use your pictures to blackmail you. I almost fell for this shit when I was younger. Male photographer friend offered to give me a "Boudoir" photoshoot on my birthday, I agreed (🤡) and changed my mind last minute. Didn't feel comfortable taking my clothes off (got a weird gut feeling tbh) so we took a normal candid shoot. Guess what, said guy got angry when he found out I had a new boyfriend and confessed to having a cru…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 07:38 PM
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I feel personally called out by this comment 🥲
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 07:08 PM
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unless it's cuffing the predators murderers and abusers 💕🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 07:07 PM
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Fellow WOC here. Learned my hard lesson last week at 25. The cops left me feeling more abandoned and helpless than before.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 03:38 PM
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Are you me? They really come out of the cookie cutter huh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 03:17 PM
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Girl!!! You graduating law school👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 I'm so happy for you!! Do you know where you want to be specialised in? And your LVM trash for sure took itself out. "You Got It" (I think that was the name) by Veto is the perfect song for you. Therapy only helps if you open your mind to getting rid of old familiar habitual patterns, at least in my case it took me so long to finally admit that there's something wrong about how I viewed the world. You're here, spreading your positivity and wisdom to othe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 11:24 AM
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Yes, if he wanted to, he would. No amount of therapy can change him now. If he wanted to change, he would've, a long, long time ago. I'm sorry your dad couldn't be the man he should've been to you and your family. Let the toxic bond go girl and care for your own mental hygiene first and foremost. We got you 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 11:10 AM
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I'm sorry you were denied help by the people whom you went to seeking it. It's a feeling like no other. Being helpless, hopeless, clueless, powerless; and the only lifeline you can grab on to is swinging you back out to the raging fire.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 11:07 AM
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That's just plain out psychopathic. Sick, sick people. Abusing their power to choose whom to help and whom to bury into the ground. It's always the female SA reporters, the domestic violence victims, that are "lying for attention". My ex's exact words about me was I'm lying on Reddit for attention. He threatened to sue me and get me deported if I didn't drop the charges, and my gut feeling says this whole thing is gonna fall on my head Goosebumps. To know we live in a world where the people supp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 11:05 AM
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Check-in! Hope y'all have had a good no-drama monday. Updates on my situation: yesterday I relapsed into the pickmeisha cycle of shame again and broke NC with my narc abusive ex, I came begging him for a chance to talk then even wrote him apology letters 🤢, after he dumped me out like trash even threatening to "make sure I'll get deported" if I refuse to drop the charges. After hours of crying and hours of crying, today I finally got a "legal advice assistance certificate" - that basically allow…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 10:56 AM
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Imagine blaming someone's death on their appearance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 10:12 AM
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Holy shit. I'm getting chills reading this. She doesn't deserve this, any of this. You really can only count on yourself. I made the wrong choice of trusting the law reinforcement as well. The officer who took both our statements then came back to aggressively tell me (and I had a witness to her attitude this time) how she was at my nex's place and he's the "nicest guy ever, it's completely understandable for someone who was broken up with to feel angry and sad". Imagine saying that to a victim …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 12:21 AM
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I agree. Most of the men who think they're "the giver" are actually doing nothing else but create balance in the equity. He's gotta do way much more to be considered a giver.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 12:16 AM
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Somehow at the back of my mind I KNOW this, but I always ended up feeling bad and sad to see him cry. Defending him as a "sensitive and emotional" guy. 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 07:46 AM
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I just thought, if someone (especially) my partner, would do the same to me, I'd be really grateful to be made aware of my own problematic behaviour and work on fixing it. So I did the same to him because that's what I would like him to do to me. You know, the "treat others how you wanna be treated".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 07:44 AM
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That's serial killer speech right there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 07:42 AM
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I hate the whole forgiveness propaganda. Which is probably pretty unhealthy, I'm a bitter and resentful person and I'm trying to work on that. I just can't even imagine thinking about forgiving someone who has wronged me or any other person, knowing they never got the justice they deserved. If I see that they had their karma served, then yes, I'll forgive but never forget.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 06:52 AM
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The fact that they still took his word over yours despite knowing you for almost 2 decades says a lot about them. It's like living with termites just waiting for an outbreak. Good for you for going all pest control over them, start new and cleansed 🐜💆🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 06:50 AM
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That's so true. I feel misunderstood, I want to explain myself. Today morning I keep switching back between resenting him vs feeling sad for never calling my toxic behaviour / abusive reactions out DURING the relationship (he wrote in a post that he's been suspecting this is a toxic relationship since month 2, we were together for 5 months) and I'm just so left in the dark, because if he had talked to me about it, I would've reflected on myself sooner and fix my behaviour so I wouldn't hurt him.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 06:45 AM
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Thankfully, yes. Unfortunately he lives in the same building and I'm counting down the seconds till the bomb explodes and I run into him and his flying monkeys on one of their "house gatherings". I can already see it happening, he knows he has social leverage and will use it to threaten me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 06:40 AM
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Yes! Dubbed as narcissistic ex too! 👏🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 06:37 AM
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Omg, months?!?! It's not even been a week yet and I already have urges to unblock and talk to him... You know, what if he sees how both of us were hurting each other and we can work it out?! 🥲🙃 I tried to defend myself as well, and it made it so so much worse. I thought it was only me but seems like the pandemic of rabid flying monkeys is even more widespread than expected. Did you manage to unblock him after all ?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 06:33 AM
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I broke up with him recently due to his constant narc abuse and now he's spreading on every social media platform of his that he's been "so tired of the abuse he's breaking free". It's the harassment from his friends and the anger I feel because he's crying damaged victim and nobody believes me that I'm stuck with 😣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 08:01 PM
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The ones you lost were never yours to hold on anyways. You deserve so much better than abuser defenders. I'm so glad you had that evidence. If his ex fiancé ever plans to file a charge against him, you have aid. Poor the new supply tho - I guess everyone has to learn their lesson. Stay breezy 🦋
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 09:00 AM
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the brief hand brush we never got ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 08:23 AM
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It's so freeing being validated and seen 💔 Thanks for your support, really. I remember there was a book called "The Body Keeps The Score", about how trauma responses manifest into psychosomatic symptoms. Gotta find a PDF to read it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 08:22 AM
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Girl, glad they got their karma served cold. And ugh, what? Your exed turned your mom on you? That's just twisted 🤢 And he even managed to succeed, the things these creatures are capable of doing. The worst thing about it is that they have all the chatlogs, the physical proof on paper, about all the times you lash out on their bullshit over text. Mine is using that as his leverage now. Truly disgusting. You thought you knew them, loved them, held them close, and never realised how they've been s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 06:42 AM
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Yep, she's next on my deep dive list! 🤓 I'm still guilty of typing his Reddit usernames in anonymous browsing to see if he's posted anything new. The initial post on his main account slandering me for being discriminating and cruel (with fabricated, cut and pasted dialogues out of context) - he deleted. What does this mean? We don't know, and we don't care 🧼✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 06:20 AM
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I approve of FDS and my favourite YA book is 💕 Six of Crows 💕, but I only like it for the heist, because tbh the romance plot lines there are lowkey unhealthy with undeserving scrotes (one was emotionally unavailable and one literally was a racist and tried to murder the female character) so no, I guess. I'm currently about to read the Sabriel line (a fantasy trilogy about a young witch) and To Sleep In A Sea Of Stars (space odyssey kinda thing with a female protagonist). My mother's top 3 recom…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 06:15 AM
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What the fuck. These men are monsters. It's always them using the "consensual violence" as a free ticket out of any battery, assault, MURDER sentence. A person, a mother, a daughter and a sister, DIED because of you. These animals should be locked up forever. Edit: Did I read it right that this disgusting vile piece of shit strangled his "lover" in the apartment he shares with his WIFE?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 06:07 AM
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You cannot believe the revelation this has brought to me. All of the time I'd been questioning, this isn't right, HE blocked me first then ended up showing himself first just to cause me panic and fear, why?? Why see me if he doesn't even want to talk to me before going radio silent and smearing me online? It. Was. A. HOOVER. 👏🏽🤠 I will, I just chewed over 7 hours of Dr Ramani last night. So much information (yet I'm still partly convinced I too was a narc abuser to him at least)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 05:57 AM
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I know all of this, but it's the trauma bonding (yeah I did my Dr Ramani deep dive lessons yesterday 🤓) that keeps me fantasising about him maybe one day (in the near future) will come crawling back to apologise to me for all that he's done. I legit did that the moment I found out how hurt and abused he (allegedly) felt by me, I wanted to let him know I'm so truly sorry and I never wanted to hurt him like that, NOT because I want to get back with him. When I'm hurt and mentioning breaking up he'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 05:52 AM
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Figuratively yes, physically.. no. Just no. Not EVER again. 🤢🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 05:46 AM
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I'm SO disgusted by men honestly, they claim they're "a good guy", and how you're "not like the other girls" then lovebomb the shit out of you to hook you in then do the damage once you're stuck in the trap. The one man that responds to my texts 1 millisecond after I send them is my dad and he's 4 oceans away. And that's just the bare minimum. I was feeling so sorry for him too, I felt so bad for all of his abusive relationship stories (oh yeah he also has a "Narc mom" that has been abusing him …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 05:45 AM
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You really hit it on the nail and I never even knew about this. Of course it makes sense, one of the reasons why narcs are so confident applying violence on some people is that they have a whole army of leeches waiting to suck his fake ass charming trustworthy helpful man-friend dick 🤢🤢🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 05:21 AM
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He already hoovered with the excuse of bringing me back my stuff, as someone concluded. Hell even the fucking police turned on me and said "Oh I talked to your ex partner, he is SUCH a nice guy and even brought all of this to you so you don't even have to move a finger. Also, if you break up with someone, of course they're going to feel upset and hurt and angry at you." after I told them every shit he did in detail, in TEARS W t f It was a pickme for sure 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 05:19 AM
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Yes, he's now a fresh laundry kitty again ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 05:17 AM
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That's what didn't make sense to me neither, for me it's always the moment he does something that I feel uncomfortable/upset/hurt about, I IMMEDIATELY confront him about it. Whereas for him, he would stay passive aggressive in silence and only bring up a huge pile of emotional frustration as a counter argument for when we have really ugly fights. Like, if I hurt you, why don't you say so when we were still together? Why did you wait until I broke it off once and for all and THEN start to defend …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 09:12 PM
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I'm having the same concern as you for the last few days! I talked about it briefly to my therapist and she said I should reconsider the reasons why I want a diagnosis for NPD/BPD and what will it achieve.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 06:38 PM
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👏🏽 Yes. And children won't guarantee you respect anyways, as single moms are still demonized and slutshamed while simultaneously being the #1 sexualised group (MILFs 🤢), whereas single dads are idolised for being such "brave heroes". I'd rather be child-free and happy than be a "real woman" that is only seen as a walking sex object 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 06:43 PM
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Yes! I've had so many friends excitedly BRAGGING to me that their new boyfiefie "folds his laundry omg" or "vacuums every day". Girl that's the bare minimum 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 03:36 AM
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omg the "Pollution" point reminded me of this guy my 19 year old pickme self had a huge crush on, he had a manbun, a nose ring, smokes weed on campus and most importantly, once threw an opened whole bag of chips across the street and looked at me expecting an applause for his sEnSe oF qUiRKy hUmOr
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 06:32 AM
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🤦🏻‍♀️ scrotes literally have their plates saved as their sexualise-worthy features instead of names eg. "blonde big tits single mom" "short hair fat ass asian chick" "tiktok hoe" etc etc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 07:42 PM
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the oxytocin bonding is SO dangerous 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 07:17 PM
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they're a view. enjoy your may week with these beauties 💐!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 07:04 AM
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it's gorgeous! you deserved it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 11:30 AM
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ever since i started living the fds principle, i have lost so so so many "friendships"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 11:07 AM
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not me instantly playing fake love by bts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 10:58 AM
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the "it doesn't matter. is he good to you? this question says more about you than him.." is boiling my blood 🩸
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 10:55 AM
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GO. TO. THE. POLICE. THIS. IS. RAPE. AND. FUCKING. PHYSICAL. ABUSE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 10:51 AM
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my heart was pounding the whole time reading this. i feel the anxiety and anger rising in me and i wouldn't have ever been able to imagine myself reacting like you did in this situation. props on you queen 🐈‍⬛✨✨✨✨🙏🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 09:47 AM
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god i needed to hear this so bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 08:35 AM
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i can second this! i binged all 3 seasons and love love love Miss Fischer so much
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 04:54 PM
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yesss im so stoked! 👏🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 08:14 AM
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god i so needed to hear this again. no reason to keep staying in company that makes you feel like shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 07:50 PM
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Hey fellow aspie! I struggle with the same things as you and I'd love to hear advices from other people here. Saving this thread for later usage 🎀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 08:12 PM
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it's the "bases" for me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 09:32 PM
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he sleeps in the sleeping bag because he doesn't wanna make his bed... but wait that's not the worst. he has a BROWN pillow because he likes BROWN women?......... 🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢 here i thought it couldn't get fucking worse. goodbye trumpet
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 09:30 PM
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coming from a pickmeisha rehab, this was so hard to achieve 🥲 but i'm glad we are all here together in this sacred queen space 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 05:17 PM
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thank you! it was really delicious, i had a great day. who would've thought the best dates would be with myself 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 05:16 PM
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of course! it all came from me wishing somebody would take me out to nice places and buy me flowers... i guess i became that somebody ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 05:16 PM
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💕😻 enjoy! take pics for us!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 05:12 PM
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thank you, i love it too! it's a present from my mom and i only take it out on special occasions and going on a date with myself counts as one 💫
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 05:12 PM
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they were super yummy blueberry cheesecake pancakes 🥞 🫐🍦 it's a present from my mom, i love her so much! the bag is from MK
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 05:11 PM
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yes we love to see self love! 🙌🏼💯 such a good clapback, do i have your persmission to use it from now on?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 05:10 PM
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it was absolutely delicious. i got a soy hazelnut latte macchiato, you should try it some day ☕️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 05:09 PM
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i know right? it's so pretty, i got it as a birthday present from my mom, it's from michael kors and i really only use it on very special days ❤️💫
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 05:08 PM
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i felt like walking through a lego minefield in heels on public transportation, i live in a sneaker exclusive city 😭 😹 and thank you! it's a birthday present from my mom so i only whip it out on special occasions 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 05:07 PM
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for sure 😻🙌🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 05:05 PM
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me too! can't wait for everything to open so i can visit cute cafes in cute outfits again 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 05:05 PM
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💯 thank you! needed to hear this again so bad as i'm slipping from sanity due to pandemic loneliness. absolutely. if i can take myself out on a nice fancy dinner uptown then why would i have to settle with "a walk in the park".. never settling for less again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 06:38 AM
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I loved this! My mother always propaganda-d Jane Austen literature to me but I never really took her recommendation seriously until I got into my mid 20s. I wish I'd known about FDS values and mindsets from a younger age to spare myself from my beautiful youth wasted on scrotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 11:45 AM
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i love that you used a dota2 meme!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 11:23 AM
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the first one is what i'm struggling with so so so bad!! i keep daydreaming about the person and make up romantic intimate scenarios in the middle of the day and it's driving me crazy. i agree that it's those happy chemicals in the brain that makes us addicted to being infatuated. also that point about seeing everything from an employer's standpoint! that makes so much sense and i will definitely start implementing this mindset into future interactions. thanks so much for your great response!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 07:35 AM
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i'm currently on the verge of getting ~ f e e l i n g s ~ for a person i've only been talking to for two days. their tactic is to "open up" and talk about seemingly deep philosophical things in order to invoke a trauma bond. STAY AWAY. ask yourself why you like them so much, ask yourself what makes you interested in them in first place. then ask yourself if those are qualities you can curate for yourself, and become that one person you would date and have feelings for. stay strong queen! ✨💓
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 07:32 AM
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i forever regret not texting this to him 😭 😹
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 09:08 PM
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the first point got me 🤢🤢🤢🤢🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 02:08 PM
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"sex positive, kink positive, gender stereotypes bore me" 🤢 and that's your permission to violate what women thought was their safe space? bet he's a porn addicted scrote who is using this tactic to prey on naive trusting women for free violent sex. just no
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 08:51 AM
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i love this song!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 08:02 AM
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replace "man" with "child" and you still have a valid tweet
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 08:01 AM
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I remember reading about the case of a male gynaecologist who uses his occupation to perform horrid, abusive acts on his female patients. Don't wanna go into detail as it might trigger some people here but it includes a spraying bottle and various liquids such as hydrogen peroxide, vinegar... This is why I refuse to trust male practitioners and exclusively go to female doctors. Edit: Men are monsters
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 12:37 PM
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The worst thing is they think that shitty apartment is the best thing they can offer to their gf and the gf should be LUCKY to be with them 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 11:58 AM
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