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It sounds like you're going through a level of dysfunction as crazy as mine. Here are a few rules I would live by: Under no circumstances should there be any verbal communication. Everything should be written (text message, email, letter). Do not see her physically. You will need to have custodial exchanges if you want to see your daughter. Do this at the police station in front of a police officer or a third party (child care provider). Document everything. Stop helping her. If she needs help f…
/r/MensRights05/07/13 02:05 PM
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While there is surely a back story, the fact remains that she is violating the law. Once again, the courts do nothing. **sigh
/r/MensRights03/07/13 08:36 PM
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This is indeed discerning. The current body of law clearly favors women and they know it. The problem is, legislators don't want to "rock the boat" for fear of losing support from the women's rights groups. I can only tell you that my story is equally tragic, but regardless of what has happened, I do not have any anger towards women as a whole. I will tell you that my situation has made me extremely sensitive to "drama" with regards to dating. If there is even the slightest bit of drama, I immed…
/r/MensRights02/07/13 12:55 PM
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Well, you don't need to be a father to get involved!
/r/MensRights29/06/13 12:07 PM
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Symantec, McAfee.. Go figure.. Birds of a feather. I will definitely be looking those up! Thanks.
/r/MensRights29/06/13 03:21 AM
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To Me, a Dead-Beat Dad is someone who has no interest or desire to be an active contributor to their child's upbringing. Financially and Personally. There are plenty of Fathers who have definitely got the raw deal, but there are also many that really don't care. I actually want to be a part of my child's upbringing, both financially and personally.
/r/MensRights26/06/13 08:10 PM
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Thanks. I appreciate the links. I've actually read the laws cover to cover. Much of it is completely dysfunctional. Many juxtapositions in the law. Yes, she has completely violated every tenet of the contract, getting in front of a judge seems to be the issue at hand. She's doing everything she can to make it impossible.
/r/MensRights26/06/13 03:57 PM
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It would be nice if I could, but she dis-enrolled my daughter from school without my knowledge. Also, the last school wouldn't do anything I requested. It took the threat of a lawsuit to a Senior VP at the national organization to finally get them to move forward. I basically told them that I would file a lawsuit against them to enforce my rights and once a lawsuit has been filed, "it becomes a matter of public record. It would be very unfortunate if the media happened to see this public informa…
/r/MensRights26/06/13 02:16 PM
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The 15,000 is for already incurred legal fees. I just wanted to say the attorney did do a good job. I just don't have the money to continue with this at the current time. The Ex-Wife is purposefully making this as expensive as possible. Clearly, it's her attorney's strategy. I just need to keep things moving forwards one way or another. My attorney charges $600.00 / hour.
/r/MensRights26/06/13 12:20 PM
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I know. I've already filed a contempt motion.
/r/MensRights26/06/13 02:25 AM
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and on that note, I'm not going to talk about politics any more, because if I upset even one politician, he/she can affect my case (what little I have). Something I'm not willing to compromise.. my little shot of actually being able to have any rights.
/r/MensRights26/06/13 01:44 AM
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How did I ignore his advice? I've done everything he told me to do. We've filed motions and communicated with her attorney who has been nothing but passive-aggressive. We've attempted on numerous occasions to settle this in an amicable manner. It hasn't worked. Basically, her way or the highway. You can only negotiate if both parties are willing.
/r/MensRights26/06/13 01:28 AM
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Getting the word out about this would probably be the best thing anyone can do. I wouldn't wish this upon any other parent. If just one politician who didn't have special interests at heart could actually see how the system is set up to punish parents that want to be involved, it would be great. Unfortunately, I have yet to meet a politician that actually did the morally right thing. Florida (especially southeast) can be summed up as a "suburb" of new york from a political gain perspective.
/r/MensRights26/06/13 01:19 AM
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I don't believe any child should have panic attacks. There's nothing I can legally do to enforce this in the short term. That's my problem. Florida doesn't recognize psychological manipulation as child abuse. The only way I can enforce this is to take her to court, get my daughter a court-ordered psychiatric evaluation, then it will be admissible. That will take months and during that time, my daughter is subjected to further emotional abuse and alienation from her father.
/r/MensRights26/06/13 01:14 AM
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and as for me being a "gun crazy" nut, how many "gun crazy" nuts would get rid of all their firearms immediately after the connecticut incident? I did it, because I was being responsible. I may not like it, but I did it for my daughter.
/r/MensRights26/06/13 01:02 AM
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A motion to dismiss, accusations that she's in fear for her life. That she's in fear for her child's life, but yet, I can see my daughter 4 hours a week. See how screwed up this is? She tried to have me Baker Acted once. She said I put a gun into her hand and told her to shoot me. I told the officer to check the pistol for her prints. She called up the place they hauled me off to the next morning, said she lied and I wasn't a danger to anybody. She did this to punish me for telling her that she …
/r/MensRights26/06/13 01:01 AM
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I'd actually have to get in front of the judge first. Her attorney is working the legal system to keep this tied up and from going before the judge. That's the problem, it's not the judge. It's her attorney.
/r/MensRights26/06/13 12:57 AM
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Unfortunately, not understanding the law is not considered a valid legal defense.
/r/MensRights26/06/13 12:50 AM
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I've tried. They all tell me it's a civil matter. Until a judge rules it's criminal, they won't do anything. Even then, very few Law Enforcement Officers would do anything. I don't want her mother in jail. I just simply want to see my daughter and to have a relationship with my daughter without interference.
/r/MensRights26/06/13 12:47 AM
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As much as I would like to, it would be viewed as me trying to capitalize on this. The only way this would happen without me being made "the capitalistic criminal" is for someone to do this and pay the attorney directly with the funds earned. I couldn't be a part of it. That being said, I'm not one to ask for a hand-out. Believe it or not, I actually have some pretty heavy-duty IT skills. The only problem is I'm over-qualified for most positions and most hiring managers find me a threat. Believe…
/r/MensRights26/06/13 12:45 AM
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The judge hasn't heard the case, because her attorney is doing everything they can to keep it tied up in court, thus, pushing the date out even further. GoGo Family Law System in Florida!
/r/MensRights26/06/13 12:39 AM
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oh.. he can. I just don't have the money.
/r/MensRights26/06/13 12:38 AM
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from your lips to god's ears.
/r/MensRights26/06/13 12:37 AM
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She can deny me custody, because she chooses to ignore the agreement. That's my point. If I try to do anything outside of the confines of the "system", I get arrested. So I have no options, but to try to wade through the very twisted and broken process they call the family law system. Take a read sometime and you'll see that it's not as cut and dry as most people would think. The governor just vetoed (if that's even the proper terminology) a bill that would have enforced equality between both pa…
/r/MensRights26/06/13 12:36 AM
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Any jurisdiction needs to be treated like a small town. Don't piss off the authorities and be respectful. They're just doing their jobs. It's the politicians that broke the system. edited a typo: of = off
/r/MensRights26/06/13 12:33 AM
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Easier said than done. I have a paper trail. She and her attorney have even gone so far as to request / require exchanges take place at the police department. After the first exchange, she t ried to claim the middle ground was the police department 1 mile away from her house. When my attorney brought it to the other party's attention, they went silent. This is the BS I'm dealing with; consistent lies, fabrications, etc. The only way I'm going to see any relief is to let the judge decide. Her att…
/r/MensRights26/06/13 12:32 AM
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Welcome to being hit with the "lawyer stick". I don't know how it is anywhere else, but in Palm Beach County, it all has to do with the judge's schedule. Her attorney is playing games, filing frivolous motions to dismiss, etc. In other words, I can't get to court. The other side is doing everything they can to keep from appearing in front of the judge.
/r/MensRights26/06/13 12:23 AM
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I wouldn't even entertain a thought like that. Her mother is angry at me, whether it's justified doesn't matter. It's about what she believes in her head. She's so far removed at this point, if you asked her why she was angry, she wouldn't even know.
/r/MensRights26/06/13 12:21 AM
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I have done that. Complying with the court orders and asking for modification. They cited the need to prove that there was a substantial change, so I pulled some case-law that defined the "substantial change test" and have proven that I indeed fall within the definition of "substantial change". It's now about getting in front of the judge. Something I will need the advice / help of an attorney to accomplish.
/r/MensRights26/06/13 12:20 AM
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If I can, I will. If I can't, the box will get to her. It will be hand-delivered.
/r/MensRights26/06/13 12:17 AM
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There are actually laws against that and it would actually be considered abduction.
/r/MensRights26/06/13 12:17 AM
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My letters to my daughter (I'm probably over 100 of them) are much more personal and I've definitely poured my heart out. There's actually a password protected web-archive of videos, emails, scans of documents that she will have access to when she turns 18. She will get the opportunity to formulate her own opinion on what has happened during her childhood. I even have videos of things she's said to me randomly that just completely shattered me. I can't even begin to discuss them. It hurts too mu…
/r/MensRights26/06/13 12:16 AM
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I'm not allowed to take her to a psychiatrist when I'm with her. As dysfunctional as it sounds, the court would see this as contempt on my part, because I went against the mother's wishes. Dysfunctional.. I know.
/r/MensRights26/06/13 12:14 AM
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I'm not trying to be the "almighty man". I just want to be the daddy that is there for his daughter. To show her how much I love her.. To take her to Disney, to be there when that "yucky boy" is mean to her. To guide her with what little wisdom I've accumulated during my life.
/r/MensRights26/06/13 12:12 AM
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The case is in Palm Beach County. I'm not going to mention the town to protect my daughter and to protect the identity of my ex-wife. I've tried mentioning my concerns and the only advice I've gotten is "get a court order." There's nothing else I can do.
/r/MensRights26/06/13 12:10 AM
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Thank you for the kind words. I know it's tough, but I have to remove myself from the emotion of it to think with sanity. I do what I can. One of the things I do to help relieve the stress and burden emotionally for me is to go work on my daughter's boat. She asked me for a boat one day and I went out and found a little bowrider that I am restoring for her. She told me she wants a "Flower Boat". So over the past 6 months, I have been slowly restoring this boat when time and money allow. I know i…
/r/MensRights26/06/13 12:09 AM
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I would not only end up in jail, but I would never see my daughter again if I did that.
/r/MensRights25/06/13 08:52 PM
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It's tough to get up and work in the morning. It's tough to stay clear-minded at work. It's tough to go to sleep at night, but I find the strength each day and night. My daughter put her little stuffed kitty cat in my bed and she gives "kittycat" a kiss for me every time she's here. I feel like she's always with me. That's what keeps me going. My love for her.
/r/MensRights25/06/13 08:32 PM
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I know that. Unfortunately, I would need to have my daughter see a psychiatrist. Something her mother is completely fighting.
/r/MensRights25/06/13 08:28 PM
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She has avoided going before the judge. It's all the legal games. I believe once the judge hears what's going on, it will be a different story. She's methodically delaying everything and running up legal bills with the help of her attorney.
/r/MensRights25/06/13 08:28 PM
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Stopping child support will only harm my daughter. I can't and won't stop paying what I can afford. The state will throw me in jail and take my license (drivers). I can't afford to, nor want to ever be labeled a dead-beat dad. It's my daughter. I won't let her suffer. I would rather take that pain so that she doesn't have to.
/r/MensRights25/06/13 08:26 PM
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All I want is to be there for my daughter's firsts. I've already missed her first birthday party, her first day of school, her first parent-teacher conference, her first christmas, thanksgiving, etc. I just want to be there.
/r/MensRights25/06/13 08:16 PM
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I can promise you it's true. I just wish there was something I could actually do about it. The family law system is completely dysfunctional. I just want to see my daughter regularly and to be able to say good night to her. It's not about the money with me. It's really not a lot to ask.
/r/MensRights25/06/13 08:13 PM
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The thing is if I take my daughter's testimony, it will be viewed by the court as inappropriate parenting. So all I do is just report it to my attorney at this point. Although, he won't be my attorney much longer the way it's looking. I just don't have it. I'm hoping a redditor Family Law attorney in Florida is willing to lend his/her skills to my cause.
/r/MensRights25/06/13 08:11 PM
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I don't plan on ever giving up. It's just very painful. I try to stay positive through the whole thing.
/r/MensRights25/06/13 07:53 PM
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Over the phone. My attorney also told me the same.
/r/MensRights25/06/13 07:51 PM
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I've already seen a psychiatrist when she questioned my sanity. The psychiatrist gave me a completely clean bill of health. She's already refused to have my daughter evaluated. As for losing my job, I still have my job. If she cites me for contempt, while I'm waiting to see a magistrate, she would have my license suspended and attach to my assets effectively making me homeless. Like I said, it's not about what's right for my daughter now.. it's about punishing me.
/r/MensRights25/06/13 07:10 PM
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I am taking solace in knowing that hopefully one day, we will have a great relationship.
/r/MensRights25/06/13 06:03 PM
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Thank You. God Bless you.
/r/MensRights25/06/13 06:03 PM
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I have tried to get the police involved. They cite it's a "civil matter." They advised me to take it to a judge and once a final judgement is entered, they can enforce it.
/r/MensRights25/06/13 05:58 PM
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It's not the agreement that is denying me visitation. It's the ex-wife not following the agreement. As for filing for a reduction, it's already done, but it will be months before I'm before a magistrate.
/r/MensRights25/06/13 05:47 PM
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Why do you think I'm completely devastated right now? I continue to explore options, but I now have a one week deadline to come up with something feasible. Not exactly easy.
/r/MensRights25/06/13 05:43 PM
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Florida only recognizes "shared parenting" not even the concept of "custody", and yes, I'm a co-parent, but it doesn't change the fact that she refuses to allow me to see my daughter, skype with her, speak to her on the phone, have her overnight. If I just "take her" overnight, I will be arrested even though it is well within my right. Just because she refuses to abide by the law doesn't mean I should as well. Two wrongs don't make a right. Any child deserves to have both parents in their life. …
/r/MensRights25/06/13 05:41 PM
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Taking my daughter and running is not only being irresponsible as a parent, but definitely not in the cards. I would never do such a thing as it would effectively make me a criminal and then I would never see my daughter. Alienating a child from her mother is not something I would ever consider doing. A child needs both parents. I just want to be one of those [parents].
/r/MensRights25/06/13 05:17 PM
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I don't have custody of her. The original mediator was obviously in collusion with her and convinced me it was "normal" to give up my rights. So now, after finding out about all of this, there's nothing I can do, but fight for my rights. It was all good until my attorney dropped the bomb on me this morning.
/r/MensRights25/06/13 05:15 PM
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I write letters to her and put it in a box. They will be delivered to her on her 18th birthday. Been doing it for years.
/r/MensRights25/06/13 04:52 PM
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I did. Now both my daughter and I will be alienated from each other. In time, she will forget me, but I will never forget her.
/r/MensRights25/06/13 04:48 PM
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I've been told that unless there are physical signs of abuse, there's nothing they will do.
/r/MensRights25/06/13 04:38 PM
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I've tried looking for an attorney that will help me with this. They all want a few thousand dollars up front. Money I don't have now. As for paying what I can, that's all I can do. I make sure my daughter's health insurance is up to date first, then she gets money for food / whatever. Then my ex-wife's "extra" money comes in, but it hasn't helped. I'm being held to the "order" which is the mediation agreement I so foolishly agreed to. Now that I can't afford or get any representation, I'm going…
/r/MensRights25/06/13 04:35 PM
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Yeah. In Florida (Especially Southeast, they don't do anything, but cite the "civil law" excuse.
/r/MensRights25/06/13 04:32 PM
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I've called the police. They won't do anything. It's a "Civil Matter" as they put it.
/r/MensRights25/06/13 04:30 PM
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CPS won't do anything without a court order. I've called them and the police.
/r/MensRights25/06/13 04:29 PM
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I've been told by many people including my attorney I was idiotic for doing this. I just wanted to do the right thing. To NOT be a dead-beat dad. To be a caring and loving father and good ex-husband. It's come back to haunt me in the worst way now. I can't turn back time. I can only move forward.
/r/MensRights25/06/13 04:16 PM
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It takes a few months to even get before a magistrate to get this lowered. In the meantime, I'll be in contempt and will end up losing my job, because I won't be able to get to work. She's going for the jugular. It's way beyond what's right for the child. It's about hurting me now. I've consistently asked her to settle this out of court. She refuses.
/r/MensRights25/06/13 04:14 PM
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We have. It's just met with silence. The only thing I can do is file a motion to compel. That will still amount to nothing.
/r/MensRights25/06/13 04:11 PM
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I've abided by the terms of the agreement to the best of my ability. Contacting the police if she denies me overnights accomplishes nothing, unfortunately, as it is a civil matter and the police will not get involved. The only sane action I can take is to simply go through the court system.
/r/MensRights25/06/13 03:38 PM
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It says I'm allowed 61 overnights a year. I've been given none. My attorney has been dealing with all the frivolous filings she's made. She's done everything she can to avoid going before a judge, including filing a motion to dismiss the original filing by me. At the hearing for the motion to dismiss, her attorney just quoted case-law showing there was no substantial change and that my original filing didn't cite substantial change. We amended the motion and filed a motion for contempt as well (…
/r/MensRights25/06/13 03:36 PM
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Thank you. I only wanted the best for my daughter. It was never about the money with me. I would gladly give away most of my income as long as it was spent to my daughter's benefit. I just want to be able to see my daughter and be there for her growing up. Regarding documentation and such: I've documented everything. Being that Florida is a two-party state, I can't record telephone conversations without her consent (which she obviously won't give me). My attorney isn't willing to do anything wit…
/r/MensRights25/06/13 03:12 PM
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Well, imo it's never ok to harrass anyone sexual or not. That being said, defending yourself in a context that is factual and succinct is a very different thing. People are defensive, because they're standing on a very unstable foundation. They attack, because they're angry. If they could move beyond that anger and just take a look at a point of view objectively (most people can't do this even at their deathbed), the world would be a better place.
/r/MensRights24/02/13 11:41 PM
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wow.. just read about Mr. Ibbs. It's definitely something that isn't beyond the realm of my ex-partner. Looks like I'll be a monk for the rest of my life.
/r/MensRights24/02/13 01:51 PM
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What amazes me more than anything is how anybody could possibly read my post and downvote it. I don't know what the outcome will be on my long road to see my child and I'd like it documented. For all I know, the situation could go completely for me (at which point the "other" side would then be able to claim the system is fair). Although, after doing my research, I've realized the system is probably going to leave me without my child. Sadly, if (err.. once?) the court rules in her favor, it's ef…
/r/MensRights24/02/13 01:44 PM
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The only way anyone is going to do anything about it is if "we" as a group organize. The reason why other groups (ethnic, gender, or otherwise) get attention is because they organize. We have no "clear" advocate group and direction. My goal is to spur us as a group to organize. This is not about "stomping our feet", or asking for "entitlements." It's about creating an organization to defend our rights and simply ask for "fair and equitable treatment."
/r/MensRights23/02/13 03:11 PM
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I figure telling my story will show the world. Maybe my plight will spur and affect change..
/r/MensRights23/02/13 06:41 AM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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