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purple_popsicles/r/RedPillWomen20/04/26 02:57 PM
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Congratulations on your marriage!!
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/26 10:59 PM
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She has another son who is autistic and will never live independently. She is worse to him. Ok I will not say it’s making me loose respect for him. I am trying to communicate to him that it’s effecting our relationship and not just oooo I hate my mother in law. It’s a genuine issue that makes me feel unstable in our relationship and the future. He talks about wanting to have kids, and I can’t imagine bringing children into this dynamic. She lives down the street and excepts to be a very involved…
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/26 08:31 PM
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I will not end the relationship over this. He is a wonderful leader outside of this. This is his blind spot. We have only been married two months, and I think he is still handling her like he is single. He is used to just shrugging her off, I don’t think he realizes how this is effecting our marriage, and if he did he would be acting differently. I practice STFU and my husband had said before that he can not lead when I don’t give him information to make decisions off of, so it’s hard to find th…
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/26 08:01 PM
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Thank you for your support and kind words. I think he will come out a better man as well. Allegedly she became like this in his 20s for the last 10 years, but I am not sure how much I trust any of this narrative.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/26 05:24 PM
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Thank you this is good advice. Would it be fair to also set my own boundaries with her even if he won’t? For example she likes to ask me to get in the middle, and I can tell her it’s between the two of them?
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/26 04:36 PM
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I’m sorry you had to endure this. What’s the best way to support him?
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/26 04:22 PM
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My husband has said he will leave but I really don’t want to put him through that. And I know it’s a choice he must make and live with. I don’t want to push him to.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/26 04:08 PM
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My husband has said he will leave but I really don’t want to put him through that. And I know it’s a choice he must make and live with. I don’t want to push him to.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/26 04:06 PM
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White American. Not in the same house but in the same town
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/26 04:04 PM
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Do not be in a relationship where you don’t respect the man you are with. Can you respect him if he’s conservative?
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/26 10:00 PM
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Thank you for the post! I am getting married and moving in for the first time in a month and I have many of the same concerns, mainly a very busy husband and my own people pleasing nature. Last week I found myself preparing to spend two hours cooking an elaborate meal and I realized he didn’t expect it or want it so why am I putting these expectations on myself that are just going to stress me out?
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/26 05:34 PM
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This man will not make a good husband. You need to cut your looses and move on while you are young. You should not be dealing with this at your age
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/25 10:46 PM
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You are not being picky enough! Both these men are poor options. They have both disqualified themselves from being your husband. Do not waste any more time on men who won’t be your husband. Once you stop giving these men your energy, you will have energy to find the right man for you!
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/25 04:40 PM
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When someone shows you who they are believe them. He showed you who he is.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/25 02:32 PM
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You need to stop rationalizing lying. All of this is still a lie and half truths. If you want to move forward with trust you need to stop trying to control his reaction to your actions. Let him react to the truth as he may.
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/25 02:41 PM
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Thanks for organizing!
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/25 08:12 PM
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End the friendship with the coworker. You are playing with fire. You won’t regret not being friends with your coworker but you will regret cheating.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/25 09:27 PM
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In my experience men who are serious about getting married will let you know that’s their intention. In my dating experience, a man would bring it up on the first or second date. I was often asked where I see myself in 5 years and I would say wife and mother. If he doesn’t ask you he’s probably not serious about getting married. You can always ask as well, but in my experience if I had to ask first then he most likely was looking for a girlfriend not a wife.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/25 03:12 AM
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I would suggest taking this time to develop hobbies and best prepare yourself for children. Read parenting books, learn healthy child friendly recipes, definitely learn how to drive(I don’t see how you will have children in a rural area without a car), dedicate your self to your health and wellness. Look into work outs that prepare your body for pregnancy and child birth. Getting yourself out of a mental funk is a skill you will need to have when you are a mother. Cultivate that.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/25 11:12 PM
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You might have viewed him as such, but the law doesn’t. You were not his next of kin.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/25 02:19 AM
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I think the biggest thing here is the family bonds. once you are married your husband is your immediate family. Your long term live in partner is not your family unit
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/25 03:47 PM
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Delete the texts from your ex. No need to have access to something that is going to put you in a bad head space
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/25 07:37 PM
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You said it yourself, you are not a priority. He’s shown you how he values the relationship, act accordingly
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/25 03:21 PM
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The only way I would consider moving is if you are engaged. Which you most likely will have to visit a couple times for that. He should also visit you. I think if he’s asking you to move across the world then he should at least come and visit you in America for the first time. That’s an act of good faith.
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/25 11:23 AM
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I think the distance from NZ is important to take into account. This isn’t just moving states. If you see your family once a year, and they live the next 20 years, you will see them 20 more times.
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/25 11:21 AM
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If you move, your whole life changes, and his life will stay largely the same. Are you ok with that? And if you break up and have to move back to the USA, your life will be completely changed, while again his will stay largely the same.
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/25 11:20 AM
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You are between a rock and a hard place. I think you should play out the worse case scenario of either choice. What happens if you move and he’s not the one? What happens if you stay and always wonder? Which option can you live with?
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/25 11:02 PM
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I agree most people won’t keep up a friendship that is only a year old. by
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/24 02:13 PM
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Relying on Dms isn’t a good method. I would recommend getting on the apps.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/24 07:40 PM
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Amen
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/24 01:55 AM
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Potentially a great man, doesn’t equate to a great man. Wonderful advice
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/24 01:24 AM
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No rewind button is great advice
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/24 12:58 AM
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All anyone can do is accept reality and use it to our advantage
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/24 08:59 PM
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it’s ok to feel stupid. We all make mistakes. The best thing you can do now is move on.
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/24 08:57 PM
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is english your second language?
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/24 01:49 AM
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I really appreciate you sharing this
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/24 01:30 AM
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Great advice
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/24 08:51 PM
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You are between a rock and a hard place. He is going to have to chose someone to disappoint.You, His mom, or himself. Right now it seems like he is choosing you to disappoint . Things can not go on indefinitely in limbo. In fact once you are married he will be making this choice regularly. Which in-laws will you spend holidays with? Will the kids be raised in a way his mother sees fit? He can not be a husband and serve his new nuclear family and life in fear of upsetting his mom.
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/24 08:47 PM
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I think disappointing your parents is worth having an elopement that you are both happy with. It seems that you can either put your relationship under stress with a larger affair that may not even happen considering his feelings, or you can elope and thus honoring your needs as a couple
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/24 06:02 PM
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The book helps explain that you can find a man who you will respect and love it just might look a little different than you expected
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/24 08:59 PM
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Your value in the dating market has changed since you were in it finding your ex. All we can do is understand the world/ dating market as is and accept it. Accepting it is an advantage. The book explains the benefits you have now. Just my advice
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/24 08:08 PM
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I recommend reading Mary Him, The Case for setting for Mr Good enough. It’s written by a women in her 40s who explains all the advantages a women dating in her 30s has. The title is tongue and cheek. The book is exactly what you need
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/24 07:46 PM
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You are right, The hard parts of marriage are not trialed in a year of playing house
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/24 11:27 PM
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I think the anxiety you are having won’t go away once you move in together until you get engaged. Home should be a safe place, not one where you are anxious. I was in the same place as you and I decided to move in. I believe my anxiety and discomfort poisoned the relationship. It will be very difficult to be the best, feminine, soft version of yourself if you are anxious and have a little voice in the back of your head saying “I am I being taken advantage of, I am taking on so much more risk tha…
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/24 11:19 PM
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