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ADVICEpurpledolphin67/r/RedPillWomen20/09/16 12:59 AM
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I believe that is the standard I applied. I would not look for commitment and enter into a dating relationship with someone unless the goal was to lead towards marriage. And, my vetting method worked perfectly.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/16 03:31 AM
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guys don't commit to lower SMV women i never said this. Yes. yes. You did say this. "[G]uys don't commit to lower SMV women." This implies that the decision is based solely on the woman's SMV. by definition, 100% of men who committed would have had to do so to lower SMV women just get your success rate up to 20%. Commitment does not necessarily equate to marriage. The benefits of marriage, for both men and women, are much different today than they were in 1900. Also, only 20% of millennials bein…
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/16 12:49 AM
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You are operating on the assumption that if a man decides he wants to enter into a LTR with a woman, that his decision is going to be based solely on SMV. That is not a successful means to pick a partner for a LTR. If the man is truly interested in maximizing the value of the LTR (which is the goal of TRP as it relates to LTRs) he will make his decision to offer commitment based on additional factors outside of SMV, which is what provides TRP with the concept of RMV. Men absolutely do commit to …
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/16 07:16 PM
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It depends on the couple. I met my fiancé IRL, and not online. I verbally expressed to him on multiple occasions that I did not have sex without monogamy. We had multiple conversations about our dating and life goals prior to having sex. I was not afraid to be blunt about what I was looking for, and I personally prefer knowing where I stand with people. During these conversations I told him that I knew it wasn't realistic to become "official" or start using the titles of boyfriend and girlfriend…
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/16 07:08 PM
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You posed two question to the group: (1) What are the RPW thoughts on living together before marriage?; and (2) What worked for you and why? Those are the two questions I will address. You did not ask us to evaluate your personal situation or provide you with advice, so I'm not going to do that. Your mind is made up, I have no desire to convince you otherwise, so I'm not going to waste the characters addressing your specific circumstances. Question 1: I don't think there is a clear RPW view on c…
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/16 06:41 PM
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The first thing all women need to realize when it comes to enjoying sex with their SO is that orgasming shouldn't be your goal, sexual pleasure should be. And, you can experience sexual pleasure and have a rewarding experience with your SO without orgasming. Your SO probably does not understand that sex can be a pleasurable and rewarding experience for a woman even if she doesn't orgasm. In the past, it is likely that he had selfish partners who required orgasms even if it was a long, drawn out …
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/16 08:39 PM
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If you're truly attracted to your partner and you respect him, then there should be very few times where you actually don't want to have sex. 2. I am well aware that I get to make the decision of when I have sex. I've made the decision to have sex whenever my SO initiates it. Relationships require trust. I trust my SO enough to know that when I do say no that he will respect that answer. I have no fears regarding my relationship. When I say no he knows that I have a good reason, so it has no eff…
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/16 06:01 PM
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I was giving general advice in response to your comment. There were no accusations that you don't fulfill your partners needs. But, it is worth noting that a "very good sex drive" might not be the same for you as your SO. The level of sex drive a woman should have is the one her SO wants her to have.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/16 03:23 PM
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Low libido, whether caused by medication, menopause, or anything else, is just another nonacceptable excuse. It's a nice crutch for women to fall back on. "I have to take birth control, because you want me too. So don't complain when I don't want to have sex. It's a side effect." There are plenty of other women just waiting to fulfill your partner's needs, so you choose what excuse "is good enough." Also, having more sex will likely naturally raise your sex drive.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/16 02:58 PM
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I would love to write a book. I discovered Married Red Pill through a post in this forum, and have read a little bit on there. I know it is for men, which means that I shouldn't be reading as a woman, but it has absolutely renewed my convictions regarding "always say yes." It saddens me that wives are refusing to connect physically with their husbands, and that husbands have to apply significant dread just to get a basic relationship need fulfilled. Edit: minor typos due to autocorrect
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/16 02:54 PM
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This is exactly why I have a strict "always say yes" policy. Every time my SO initiates sex, he gets an enthusiastic response on my part. I make sure we are having sex as often as he wants to. There are very, very few reasons that he might get a no, and under those circumstances he understands what is going on and doesn't even initiate. These are times when I'm very sick, we will be late for something very important (miss a flight, important meeting, etc.), and wrong time/place (supper will burn…
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/16 03:20 AM
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I agree with the comment that people tend to marry people who have similar levels of education. My SO and I both have post-grad degrees. I knew there was no way I was going to find a partner that could provide me with the lifestyle to which I was accustomed that did not attend college. I also knew I was going to go to graduate school, so I was really only interested in guys who had also attended graduate school. I currently do not know anyone who is my age that is in a relationship where one par…
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/16 06:12 PM
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"Sometimes people are not completely honest when reporting their sexual behavior, and if someone believes that certain sexual behavior is not in keeping with social expectations for their sex or gender, that person might be even more likely not to report it. Research into self-report of sexual activity has indicated that males tend to over-report whereas females tend to under-report. However, if research participants believe that their honesty is being monitored by a lie detector, there tend to …
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/16 06:30 AM
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Successful relationships do not operate on love alone. Believing that "all you need is love" is short sighted.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/16 01:50 AM
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First, I think it is a myth that women have lower sex drives than men. Every relationship I've been in (other than my current relationship, where it is equal) I have always been the partner with the higher sex drive. Sex drive is an important factor to consider when evaluating potential partners for an LTR. If you don't have equal sex drives, then one partner is always going to be dissatisfied. Second, I believe that many women withhold sex and use it as a tool for manipulation. They condition t…
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/16 06:35 PM
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I realize now that I wasn't nearly hyperbolic enough. BMI is really only useful for studies and statistics. It is not a good measure for attractiveness or health. First, a woman's goal should be to be as healthy as possible. This means getting under control and managing any chronic health issues. Being healthy is attractive. Do Whole 30, start taking the right supplements, see your doctor and make sure you're only taking medicine that you need and that it's the right dosage. That type of thing. …
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/16 01:25 PM
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I agree that BMI is a good starting point for people who are trying to lose weight. Once you get to a healthy BMI, then you can work on toning and adding muscle, and BMI won't be the most accurate measure of success. What does everyone think a good BMI to aim for would be? Basically 18 - 25 is considered normal, but I know many people believe that a woman's BMI should be 20 or below.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/16 08:25 PM
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I typically have two bags. A pencil bag that I've had since high school, which I keep all of my office supplies in. And, another small zippered bag that has all of my lady stuff in it, so if It falls out of my bag it isn't readily apparent what I'm packing haha.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/16 06:42 PM
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I was in your exact situation at 22. I had a LTR with a guy, and I was way over invested. He was my entire world, and I couldn't comprehend a life without him. I needed his attention and validation 24/7, my mood was dependent on his mood, and I spent all day worrying about what I had done to deserve such a one sided relationship where I was always trying harder than him. I meant very little to him, even though we had been together for so long. He frequently stood me up for no reason, and never t…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/16 04:39 AM
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I use a TNF backpack for work. It has lasted me through the last 6 years, with only minimal care needed. I made sure to get one that had a separate space for a laptop, because I always have it with me. I do have nicer bags and briefcases that I will sometimes use, but for the day to day stuff a backpack is really the most efficient option. I rotate my notebooks and folders depending on the day, but I always have the following things in there with me: writing utensils (pens, pencils, highlighters…
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/16 10:43 PM
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Going out in large groups is a part of the grad school atmosphere. I went out at least once a week with friends from school before I met my partner. I still go out a lot with the friends I made during grad school, either with my partner or without. It really comes down to self control. I have a policy that if I have more than one drink (and am not out to dinner), then I don't drive. So, I would offer to be the designated driver every week. I'd order one drink at the beginning of the night, nurse…
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/16 04:22 AM
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I will try, this is a hard concept for me to put into words (because its anecdotal and just a feeling, I've never asked my partner about it), so if any of the more experienced contributors want to chime in this would be a fantastic opportunity haha. So, within the first 6 months of dating my partner and I had to spend a significant chunk of time apart due to traveling that was planned before we met. It was a mixture of work travel and personal travel to see family. In total, we went about a mont…
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/16 02:14 AM
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I took that approach until we moved in together. After that all rules about communication basically went out the window, but I still really only text or call my partner if I need something right away (like to know if he needs anything while I'm at the store, or did he purposely not take his lunch because he has plans to go out with people from work, etc.). That way I know that I'm never taking his focus away from work, his family, his friends, etc. If I don't need something right away, then I wa…
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/16 12:52 AM
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My partner and I were both still in graduate school working on professional degrees when we met, so that was double the stress and pressure at the beginning of our relationship. So, thankfully only one of you is in medical school! I know from my friends who decided to go to medical school that it is an extremely competitive, cutthroat, and overwhelming environment. I thought the students I went to grad school with were psycho, but some of the stories I've heard from medical school make the compe…
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/16 11:32 PM
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It is an interesting dynamic when one partner is settling as far as SMV is concerned. There are a couple options: (1) The status quo remains the same throughout the relationship and one partner is always more attractive than the other, but the more attractive partner doesn't mind; (2) The status quo remains the same, but the more attractive partner decides they want someone who is equally or more attractive then them and leaves the relationship; (3) The more less attractive partner becomes more …
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/16 04:12 PM
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I've started to realize the balance between HB, SMV, and RMV. And, after stepping back and evaluating it makes sense that my RMV is pretty high and picking up some of the slack from my SMV. For a man who has reached a point in his life where he would like stability and a family, then having a strong RMV is likely more important than the fact that I need to drop a couple of lbs. to be at the weight I was in High School after being more sedentary in college for 6 years. It's starting to make sense…
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/16 03:35 PM
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My partner is aware that I make more, but we don't talk about it. Luckily money isn't an issue in our relationship. Also luckily, we haven't had our first fight yet. But, that isn't something I would ever use to cut him down or throw in his face. I think it's a little bit of a fluke that I make more anyways. We work in the exact same field and finished our degrees about the same time (he delayed his education, while I went straight through). But, out of the gate I had a better offer because I di…
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/16 03:23 PM
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You make a really good point, but unfortunately my professional degree would put me in a position where I would be out earning (and therefore disqualifying myself) from a large number of potential partners. I also make more than my current partner. Because I am in a male dominated field, I did not pursue a degree that tends to pay less. I realize now that may have been a mistake on my part. I 100% agree with you that degrees are not an indicator of intelligence. I learned that my first day of co…
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/16 11:24 PM
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Thank you for all of your response! I tried responding to each individual one, and could not get it to work so I'm trying this instead. After reading your comments, and doing more research, I have a few follow-up questions. How are you supposed to tell if your partner is an Alpha or a Beta? Apparently, I am not reading the right material on these threads. I do not know how I missed the fact that my partner is a Beta! The descriptions of Betas don't really fit any of my partner's personality trai…
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/16 09:54 PM
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