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purplepansy88/r/AntiFeminists26/12/21 11:58 AM
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This revelation is going to be unpopular on this sub but men who will wait to have sex are uncommon. There are more than enough women who won't wait that they can go to. Any guy that has enough women interested in him unless he has ultra conservative values is not going to sit around and wait. Even men who are interested in a real relationship often won't wait nowadays. They expect sex to happen before decisions are made about the seriousness of the relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/22 10:20 AM
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I'm not a big advocate of divorce under most circumstances and I think people are far too quick to divorce, but to say that it automatically makes children fatherless is very false. Divorced fathers can still parent their children. Fatherlessness is only the case when the father is not interested in the child, the father is incarcerated in prison or unwell and is physically unable to actively parent the child or there is a situation of parental alienation by the mother. A couple can be divorced …
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/22 09:52 AM
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Sometimes it helps to make light of something and make it seem funny. My husband isn't someone who can't laugh at himself and humor always seems to distract him for whatever is happening. I don't know if your husband is someone who would find this mocking. Another method is just to ignore it, full stop. Don't respond to it at all no matter how much he prods. When you talk to him, change the subject. For example, if my husband is being argumentative and calling me stupid over something petty like…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/22 09:32 AM
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As someone with a similar background and experience I can safely say that it's your history. Men who are well adjusted don't want to marry a woman without close family relationships who comes from a troubled background. I wouldn't recommend being open about the things that happened in your childhood, at least not until a relationship is well established and a man has had the chance to catch deeper feelings for you. In fact I would argue that being in foster care isn't something you necessarily n…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/22 08:20 AM
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My husband behaves in a similar way. I have no advice other than not to get triggered by him and ride the waves. I understand he's a man with faults but I have been through a lot with him and I genuinely love him as a person. You will have to learn to find emotional support somewhere else and learn to not get triggered or react to his outbursts if you want it to work. Don't expect him to change or get better. Don't suddenly expect him to be the kind of man that wants to hear about all your probl…
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/22 11:00 AM
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I'm not dating and never will again but from my experience it's generally a no. I mean I have never had a set age limit but I have always naturally gravitated towards men of a similar age. I did date a much older man when I was in my 20s and I didn't really find him very attractive compared to men in their 20s and 30s so it didn't work.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/22 09:06 AM
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I think the house would be very messy and everything would be disorganized and impractical without me around.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/22 01:26 PM
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It sounds to me like your husband is far more laid back about this sort of behavior than you are. It sounds to me like he genuinely doesn't feel bothered by it nearly as much as you do. I think the problem is that you and your husband have different ideas when it comes to parenting and you can't back one another up when it comes to discipline. Your son is 12. He's just starting to blossom into a young man. You can no longer discipline him any more like you can with your smaller kids. He's probab…
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/21 09:49 PM
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That's is always the issue that women with a tendency towards obesity have. If they attract a man when at a lower weight when they are working hard for their body then they will possibly gain weight again later and their husband might not be OK with it. If they get with a man when they are obese there is every chance the man will find obese women attractive over slimmer women and will have an unhealthy lifestyle himself even if he's slim. It will be harder to lose weight around a man that finds …
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/21 09:27 PM
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I have Aspergers syndrome and with it comes anxiety. I did suffer from depression but I began taking CDP choline twice a day and melatonin at bed time and it magically just disappeared. I was having intrusive and dark thoughts that I don't want to go into everyday and since I started taking the choline my depression and the worst of my anxiety has improved. My thinking abilities are also better than they were. My husband is going to see me when I am at my worst and vice versa. That happens in ma…
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/21 09:09 PM
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Have you ever found men attractive? Have you always been a lesbian? How would your husband feel about you opening up your marriage and seeing women? You could still be married to your husband and have sex with him maybe on a schedule every week or so and you could express your desires as a lesbian. A lot of men wouldn't actually see this as cheating because it's just other women. I don't know your husband so I don't know what his reaction would be. I have a low sex drive too, although I do find …
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/21 08:53 PM
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Try this. Next time he gets angry, don't cry, don't get upset. Just ignore him. Pretend as if nothing is happening. Just continue to go to work, go to bed without him, continue watching TV, continue eating dinner, continue looking at your phone or reading a book or playing a video game or whatever it is that you do. Place no importance on his outburst whatsoever, to the point where it's not even there. He will learn that you are not his punching bag, that you will not make space for him in your …
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/21 07:54 PM
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Your own feminine energy might not be soft and gentle. I'm definitely not soft. I tell it like it is. I don't pride myself on being soft. Act naturally and you will find your own feminine energy.
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/21 07:33 PM
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Some people are just very uninhibited and low in shame proneness. That sounds like the case.
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/21 07:31 PM
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I think that the vast majority of women have their own feminine energy assuming that they act naturally. Mine definitely isn't this. I'm not carefree, I'm the practical one that tells my husband that he needs to bring a coat and knows that it might rain later. I'm the one that makes sure that everyone is fed, warm, dry, cool, prepared. I'm the kind of woman that doesn't want to receive flowers or perfume and would rather be given some warm socks or a new vacuum cleaner. I don't own a single pair…
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/21 07:28 PM
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I'm not denying that you are attracted to him, but you are an outlier. A lot of single mothers just don't bother with men because the men around them who are willing to have serious relationships are not up to their standards. That's why he feels he's hit the jackpot. Most 27 year old women who have children from a previous marriage do not want men who are almost 20 years older than them and would rather just be alone. He genuinely has lucked out and most of his success with beautiful young wome…
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/21 09:17 PM
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Seems like maybe he's naturally a bit spontaneous and forgetful. It doesn't sound like he's done any of this because he wants to spite you or you aren't important to him. These aren't exactly things of great magnitude that he's been a little ditzy about. I personally think you are way too harsh. I'm the ditzy one in my marriage and I understand it drives my husband crazy. For example, I forget to get dish soap when I'm out shopping, sometimes I'll lose myself and stand there staring into space w…
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/21 05:48 PM
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Did you have the baby about 3 months ago? 3 months after I had each of mine I had significant shedding for about 6-8 weeks.
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/21 02:16 PM
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Looking at your friends and calling them sexy? Of course it bothers you, otherwise you wouldn't care how long his behavior lasted. Stop trying to be the cool girl. The vast majority of women would find this completely unacceptable and that's perfectly OK. It's also possibly going to ruin your friendships as you will no longer look at these women the same and it might cause feelings of jealousy and competition. Male friendships thrive on challenge and competition, female friendships are the compl…
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/21 07:03 PM
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You have had fewer partners than a lot of western women and men for that matter. The whole romance and dating game in the west is full of intense peer pressure to have casual sex. It's even how people often find their spouse. I'm not saying I approve of it, but it is what it is. Your boyfriend is going to have to get over this issue. There is nothing more off putting than an openly jealous man. I would remind him one last time that you have no current interest in your exes and that your only des…
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/21 02:44 PM
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You make peace with the fact that it isn't personal and isn't your fault. Your parents had their own issues separate from you. Your dad abandoned you for reasons that are outside your control. Move on and live your life and accept it. I see so many people trapped in a bad childhood well into their 20s and 30s and they just can't make peace with the fact and they still self blame. It either makes them hateful bitter and/or they feel and act like a victim in every single situation. I hate to say i…
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/21 02:28 PM
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Maybe it's time to take a break from this friendship. Friendships can't be based on jealousy and competition. Friendships are supposed to fulfill us and make us feel like we belong. She will know on some level that you have these negative feelings from the vibe you give off and things will always feel somewhat sour. Perhaps she is the one shoving these things in your face with ill intentions. Maybe you need to work on yourself and improve the things in your life that are making you unhappy. Perh…
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/21 02:14 PM
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You always have a right to refuse to do unusual things during sex. I personally don't think spouses are entitled to anything other than PIV. I think everything else that people do is a consequence of pornography. I made this very clear with my husband. He still asks me to do things I don't want to do like swallowing his stuff and I have let him visit a prostitute for those things. I'm his wife and I feel like he does not respect me when he asks me to do these things and the idea just disgusts me…
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/21 01:53 PM
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I would like to know how you made your hair less frizzy. I'm married so I'm not exactly looking to 'beat men off with a stick' but I deal with terrible frizz and I would like to get rid of it. I have naturally wavy hair. I keep it just past my shoulders.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/21 01:45 PM
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I would insist on coming along, I would meet her and get to know her. See what she's all about.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/21 01:37 PM
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We bring order to the chaos, at least I definitely do.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/21 01:36 PM
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It seems to me like you have already made the decision that you are 'not going to love anyone like you loved your ex'. I'm guessing I'm a little older than you. Every young adult who had a relationship fail feels this way at some point. I'm guessing that you think that love is this fuzzy feeling where you can talk to someone late into the night and you feel like they totally get and relate to everything you say, but with high highs come low lows. Love isn't fuzzy, superficial and exciting. Love …
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/21 01:35 PM
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The part where you mentioned that your husband was drunk after the party is a little concerning. I can personally put up with a lot but drunkenness or any use of any recreational drug just makes me very angry. To me it's something that young, single people do and not someone who has responsibilities. It's something I would expect for a person to completely get out of their system by the time they are married with kids. Your husband is not in college. I would personally just tell him how you feel…
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/21 01:20 PM
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My husband has exactly this problem. It's usually because he's stressed by things outside my control. I just don't engage with it. When he's in that type of mood I give him as much space as possible. He pushes me away when I try to ask him what is wrong and there is just nothing I I can do to make him feel better. He tries to micromanage everyone around him in petty ways. If I try to spend time with him or be affectionate with him he will start an argument over something ridiculous, like how I'm…
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/21 11:27 AM
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I think a woman's current behavior is more important than how many men she has had relations with. If a woman is constantly wearing revealing clothing, acting flirty around men in general, always talking about sex, has an onlyfans account, just seems to lack sexual boundaries ect. A woman may have had many sexual partners not because she's a hypersexual person, but because she just ended up dating a lot of men and it didn't work out for many reasons, or she went out seeking affection and it was …
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/21 03:27 PM
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In my experience men who call themselves feminists have sinister motivations.
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/21 03:09 PM
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I don't think many women are looking for a man that rich. That's already a very small minority of men to begin with so you are not talking about most people. I think an engineer has a good job, yet they don't make six figures. I'm not American though, don't know what it's like over there. I'm from Britain and live in eastern Europe.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 12:22 PM
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I think different things work for different homes. Maybe the lady in this marriage is much better at that task or perhaps the husband finds it too stressful. I like my husband to be involved in everything, but that's just me.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/21 12:21 PM
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Because I definitely own summer dresses, but they are a bit more modest than the one you showed. I don't own these exact dresses but I own similar. https://i.imgur.com/zbJE9Zo.jpg https://i.imgur.com/cJInPin.png
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/21 12:16 PM
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That's not true. There are men with good jobs in their 20s or 30s. My husband is one of them, only 2 and a half years older than me and I'm not even physically attractive. If you go for really awkward men you don't even have to be attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 12:03 PM
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Not all gaps disgust people. Most young people find older people unattractive. It is what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/21 12:49 PM
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I think most people only think that's weird and feel grossed out when one partner is visibly much older than the other. It's a visceral reaction people have. That doesn't mean it's anyone else's business, of course. People usually get the same reaction to fat and ugly people and all sorts of people but it doesn't give them the right to be cruel or nosy. I also think there is some truth that much older men in particular, who deliberately go for women any generation below themselves often have pro…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/21 02:06 PM
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Many socially defined feminine traits and traits that men find attractive in women are signs that a woman doesn't have to work and are indicators of social status.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 10:34 PM
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Significant age gap relationships make up a very small minorty. Older men are hardly being snatched up by younger women in large numbers. Just under 1% of newborns have a father who is 50 years old and up. I think it bothers people because most young people find older people unattractive. The idea of a young, especially attractive man or woman with an old less attractive partner disgusts most people.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 10:29 PM
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I like east Asian men at a much higher frequency than men of other ethnicities. I don't mind body type as long as he's not super morbidly obese or a gym bunny. I like men who I can get along with. I have high functioning autism and tend to like men who also have high functioning autism.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 10:25 PM
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If men had it their way, the world would be a big hook up fest. Men are the ones who generally enjoy and benefit from hookup culture. Women have every reason not to enjoy it. Most women would rather have a monogamous relationship than a series of boring hookups with different men. Women who hook up usually do it to keep men around with the hope that one of them will get into a relationship. Many relationships do start from hook ups.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 10:21 PM
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A good portion of men are constantly trying to have casual relationships with women left right and center. They are always pursuing women in this manner non stop. If they hated it so much they wouldn't be taking part in the same behavior. I also don't believe the 'locks and keys' idiom that people always use. There are plenty of women with low standards that will hook up with almost any man who pays them enough attention. Women are far more willing to hook up than they used to be. I would argue …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 10:16 PM
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What exactly is a sundress, though? I hear people use this term and I don't know what it actually means. Is it just a lightweight dress intended to be worn in summer?
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/21 03:06 PM
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Use sulfate free shampoo and use it on your roots only. Use a mask on the rest of your hair. I have chronically dry frizzy hair and I love the Schwarzkopf oil nutritive mask.
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/21 11:43 AM
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Those are energy vampires. I would banish them from my life or learn to tune them out and not give in to them if that's not possible. Learn to humor them and say something silly and playful in response. They'll realize that they can't feed off of you. I had a long time female friend that became nasty and jealous of me and her behavior became very competitive. I had to end the friendship because every time we spoke I felt a negative energy. I found out that she was attracted to my husband and her…
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/21 11:13 AM
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You are doing exactly what male incels do. Going for someone that everyone else wants to date who doesn't notice you and getting depressed about it. Firstly are you as unattractive as you say you are? Do a real assessement of your attractiveness and aim for men who have dated women that are the same attractiveness as you. Have a list of reasonable things that are definite deal breakers You have to find a man sexually and romantically attractive. Without this there is no relationship. He can't be…
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/21 10:54 AM
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It sounds to me like you are in a competitive mindset. That's not healthy. Comparison is the thief of joy.
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/21 10:40 AM
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