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Status is local. Money is only one form of status. The broke guy in a band has status in a specific context. The surfer guy in Thailand also has status. Status is attractive to women and part of what makes “that guy”.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 06:36 PM
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OOP guy should have stopped the OOP from getting aggressive towards the drunk guy Definitely agree, I would have tried to move both the girls back into the bar and call the police. lead to guaranteed physical It was already physically when the guy tried to go into her Uber. Opening someone’s car door like that could be considered assault. I totally agree with de-escalation, but I’m not going to let my girlfriend or wife intercede alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 01:12 PM
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Listen, I know I’m a bit guilty of protective paternalism here, but there’s no way I would let my wife intervene with a drunk guy without my involvement. Even if I disagreed with her actions, once she’s involved, I’m going to protect her no matter what. You can’t count on the other guy having benevolent sexism and refusing to hit your girl… Secondly, I would also have tried to protect the girl from the drunk creep. I wouldn’t put hands on him first, but I’d definitely stand between him and the g…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 12:58 AM
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Believe OP is a woman. Her post titles include: “I need a trad husband” and “As a woman…”
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 01:10 PM
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I assumed OP was a woman Edit: Her post titles include: “I need a trad husband” and “As a woman…”
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 01:04 PM
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Is your attraction to men due to culture and peer pressure? If not, where’s the mystery? I can’t answer for gay men, but it seems their attraction to other men is biological. I’m not attracted to women because of media. If the majority of the world was gay, I’d endure ridicule and go against the grain to be with a woman, because that’s what I’m attracted to. Actually, I have an analogy from my real life. Media sexualizes skinny women. I like big girls. I date and marry women who I’m attracted to…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 12:28 PM
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People need purpose and community. I believe these things erode more for men after divorce than women. Women are more likely to be the one who maintains connections with friends and family. For example, my wife is more thoughtful about sending gifts to our nieces and nephews, even my sister’s kids. If women are getting custody at higher levels, men without their children might lose purpose and connection. Especially in the past, (like your example 20 years ago) women were even more responsible f…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 12:39 PM
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It’s just performative. No one (ok, almost no one) is actually doing this. It’s online virtue signaling.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 12:23 PM
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The squeamish comments from the red pill guys really underscore the connection between a disgust response and conservative ideology.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 03:11 PM
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First of all, yes, this was a very high school story and one of many ways, I disappointed girls in high school, lol. However, I want to give a little bit of context. This was PC gaming in the 90s, at the time, my friends and I would sit around a single CRT monitor and take turns “driving” so watching someone play a game wasn’t that weird. But, all of this is besides the point. My core point is that telling guys they can’t attract women because their hobbies aren’t interesting enough is gaslighti…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 02:50 PM
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If a woman is attracted to you, she will watch you play video games. My high school girlfriend used to watch me play EverQuest for hours on end. In retrospect, I was kind of a dick. She tolerated it, because I was attractive, even though I didn’t know it at the time. “Be interesting” isn’t bad advice, but it’s easier said than done and only works in conjunction with “don’t be unattractive”.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 02:04 PM
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It’s not the same people. Different men have different opinions. I find my wife very attractive. I prefer women close to my age. I prefer plus sized women. I want my wife to have her own career, income and interests.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 10:42 AM
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I think the best answer to this question is etymological. Red pill lingo evolved from PUA terms. PUA is concerned with gaming women by implementing certain steps, scripts or rehearsed approaches. These guys were not naturally good with women. They were previously AFC (average frustrated chumps). So, all of these terms and definitions exist within that context. Chad - Stands in contrast to AFC, this guy is naturally good with women. Think of the HS football quarterback or the Jersey Shore cast. H…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 12:02 PM
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Please reread my comment if you think I was trying to say otherwise
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 06:20 PM
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That’s good, I WFH while she has a long commute, so I have a lot more flexibility to cook and shop than she does. Plus I like it, so I do 90% and it works for us. I’ll also accept that maybe I’m an outlier.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 06:19 PM
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No, I think OP doesn’t know what he’s talking about because his points are all over the place. No shit most men are stronger than most women. Women are better at cooking? Based on what? When asked what his core point is, he goes off on a tangent about femdom.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 05:57 PM
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I specified “certain types of gymnastics events”. I’m not going to die on the hill that women are better at gymnastics. My point was, yes, of course different hormones and genetics have different effects on your body, however, OP doesn’t know what he’s talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 05:45 PM
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I think this is anecdotal and specific to your situation. Do you have more ownership over grocery shopping and the kitchen? I do more of the cooking and shopping that my wife does and my experience is the opposite of yours.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 05:43 PM
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“Always stronger” or “on average”, which one is it?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 05:33 PM
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I’m skeptical… I can easily find my things because I put them away in a specific place and have less things. My wife is somehow able to find her things despite them being in massive chaotic piles of crap. So, if the challenge was find a specific color of lipstick, my wife’s going to win. If the challenge is, everyone get your stuff to leave the house, I’m winning hands-down.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 05:30 PM
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Why do you think women are better at cooking and cleaning? These are basic skills that everyone should know. I also disagree that men are better at all sports. Men are stronger, but women are more flexible. Women are better at certain types of gymnastics events. Men have an edge in most other sports.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 04:51 PM
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Are you in the US? It’s not affordable for most people to hire out all chores… We do pretty well and hire lawn care and cleaners every other week, but still, there are a lot of additional chores. Eating out every meal or hiring a cook isn’t reasonable.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 01:52 PM
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Agree, I don’t think that contradicts what I said above
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 11:25 PM
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The whole point of this sub is over thinking attraction… Anyway, my first point above is that physical attraction matters more than anything else, so you’re arguing against a position I don’t hold. Women can make their own choices IDGAF. My core point is that OP was wrong about women of different ages.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 10:20 PM
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This comment is specifically in response to a comment about the Tinder Swindler. You think a conman didn’t manipulate his victims?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 10:05 PM
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First of all, source? Second of all, what do you mean by “get the most women”. If you mean manipulate women into casual sex, then yes. Willingness to manipulate is a key component of dark triad.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 10:02 PM
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This is congruent with my point. These women were manipulated.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 01:35 PM
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Women don’t actually want to be treated badly, they want confidence, strength and excitement (and of course physical attraction). Narcissistic behavior is attractive short term, because it mimics confidence, an indicator of competence. Psychopathy seems like strength. The ups and downs of a personally disorder can be very exciting and create trauma bonding. Mimicking these traits to get hookups is absolutely manipulation. If you want a meaningful LTR, better to have genuine strength, competence …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 01:09 PM
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For your first example, be her friend first has nothing to do with age. This works if you’re hot and she already is attracted to you, but so does everything. For the second example, mature women are less susceptible to manipulation. Young women don’t actually want dark triad traits, but they’re getting manipulated by these guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 12:28 PM
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Status is localized. Want to fuck trash pandas? Live in a dumpster.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 11:34 AM
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There’s nothing you can do about it, but it’s nice to know which game you’re playing. A lot of guys show up ready for checkers while everyone else at the table is playing chess.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 12:20 PM
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Shit tests are real. Women do this in every relationship I’ve been in.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 03:01 PM
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Well, I like big girls, so this question isn’t really for me. Some men might find a large frame masculine. I think waist to hip ratio is actually more important for attraction than weight or frame size. Men like an hour glass figure at any BF%.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 01:51 PM
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Yeah, the top comments “hamster wheel, hamster wheel”
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 11:14 AM
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The advice to work out doesn’t mean you need to be huge or even that lean. The difference between no gym and 30% bf vs some gym and 20% bf is a game changer. Look around, most people look pretty out of shape these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 10:49 AM
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There are certain physical traits I find very attractive. I like a bigger girl. Beyond that, I don’t have a type and find a wide range of women attractive. Race or hair color isn’t really a factor for me. If my wife left me because she wasn’t a redhead, while I thought Christina Hendricks is hot, she would be misguided.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 04:43 PM
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Nah I want to do filthy things to my wife and she enjoys it. We went through a very dry spell. Fortunately, it turned around.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/24 12:17 PM
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Definitely
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 04:57 AM
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I think you have no idea about the strength difference between men and women. Women (anyone) should absolutely fight back during an attack, but the strength difference is overwhelming.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 04:47 AM
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It’s a pretty slim case. I’ll pay the extra taxes to support bastards instead of submit to a DNA registry. If her life is such a mess that she has a child with some unknown and can’t pay to support it, maybe she should have terminated.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 01:37 AM
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Men and women should both take responsibility for their actions. Men and women should know the identity of people they have sex with. All men should not have their rights violated just in case women get knocked up by strangers.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 01:15 AM
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Ask women to take personal responsibility for their actions? Nah, let’s infringe on all men’s privacy rights instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 12:17 AM
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Look at you making reasonable comments
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 06:39 PM
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Definitely not
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 07:09 PM
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Hard disagree, touch grass. How about manipulative people are gonna manipulate in all sorts of situations. If I go to a Halloween party with my wife, we’re probably dressing up in matching costumes and hanging out with mutual friends and family.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 03:06 PM
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Your concerns are a caricature of the opposite sex. There are plenty of responsible men and plenty of sloppy women as well as the reverse. The only reason for men or women to get married is children. If you want children, find someone you can stand for at least the next 20 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 02:24 PM
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Sure, but it doesn’t invalidate my point. I specifically said “If you’re over 20% body fat”.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 09:29 PM
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Yeah, except lots of guys are fat and out of shape. If you’re over 20% body fat, there’s something obvious you can improve to be more attractive. I’ve been in and out of shape and the difference in attention from women is night and day. There’s a reason the women in your example are going after athletes.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 06:38 PM
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Then you live in SEA or India
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 04:52 PM
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I think early indoctrination sneaks in before critical thinking skills are developed. People rarely revisit their deepest oldest beliefs and patterns. This is why Sunday school is pushed on children. Similarly, I suspect magical thinking can be a coping mechanism for childhood issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 05:13 PM
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IMHO and personal experience, it’s a sign of magical thinking, which can be worse than low IQ.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 01:08 PM
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Run! Learned this lesson the hard way with my first wife. Eventually, she started stalking her HS teacher (ten years after graduating) on Facebook, because “their paths were meant to cross again”. She setup situations where she would be alone with him and inevitably, banged him.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 01:06 PM
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50/50 or traditional gender roles. Can’t have your cake and eat it too…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 01:48 PM
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The women on the bottom look like they’ve had surgery or have been photoshopped. They have flatter bellies than the top row, with bigger hips. I prefer soft women, with curves including a soft belly.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 02:58 PM
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I’m in my early 40’s. I’m attracted to women between 18 > 55. However, I find women in their 30s, the most attractive. My wife is a few years younger than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 01:06 PM
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They do, it’s called preselection.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 09:27 PM
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Not ‘safe’ as in you are ‘safe and not threatening’. She wants you to make her feel protected. taller and bigger than her handle situations, lead competent and assertive protective but not mate guarding preselected by other women stoic, she doesn’t need to deal with your feelings Of course, all of this is on top of physical attraction, it goes without saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 09:26 PM
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B and D could get it
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 06:08 PM
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I am genuinely more attracted to plus size women. The women in your example are close to my ideal.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 12:20 PM
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Legally? No. Morally? Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 03:03 PM
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First, full investment from 2 parents is ideal. There may be adequate substitutes, but on average, no one will care like a biological parent (notice I said on average, there may be exceptions, this doesn’t disprove the point). Second, there are differences between men and women. This has become a controversial statement. It’s ideal for a child to have both masculine and feminine role models. I was raised by a single mother and my grandparents. She did her best, which required sacrifices. As I sa…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 08:44 PM
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Children need mothers (or other positive feminine role models) – this is uncontroversial. Children need fathers (or other positive masculine role models) - why is this controversial? It’s controversial because saying that boys also need fathers, undermines the narrative that women can do everything on their own. Of course, negative masculine role models make things worse. You’re straw-manning the argument. Missing fathers is one of many indicators of a problem. I believe there’s a fatherhood cri…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 05:14 PM
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Given the preponderance of data about worse outcomes for children raised by single mothers, statistics about abuse my step parents and my personal experience with divorced parents, I won’t let it happen to my children.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 09:25 PM
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I somewhat disagree with the premise. There is a minimum bar of attractiveness but also a minimum bar of financial stability and independence.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 07:59 PM
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Ok, fine. But the whole post was about how there is no reason to sustain a LTR. My REBUTTAL to your point was “children”. You responded that you can be a father without any obligations to the mother… To be the best possible father you should be in a LTR with the mother. Agree or disagree?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 07:30 PM
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Now you’re changing your position. I would 100% put my kids first above my wife. But that’s not what I’m responding to. My view is that relationships should only last long enough to where we each get what we want and then move on. Moving on is not good for children. Two parents working together for the kids best interest is ideal. That’s not divided loyalties.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 07:21 PM
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That doesn’t sound like a stable environment. I want the best for my kids. That means married parents, a large financial investment and lots of time spent as a family.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 06:47 PM
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You’re forgetting children. The reason for long term relationships is children. Men don’t NEED a wife, women don’t NEED a husband, but children need a father and a mother.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 02:41 PM
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Nah, my wife barely cooks or cleans, which doesn’t really bother me. She has a good career, our values align and I like her as a person and co-parent. She has a “side business” which costs money, but I love the effort and creativity she puts into it. Sure, women have their own struggles, but IMHO men do genuinely care about the women they’re in LTRs with as people.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 02:36 PM
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Making out on the dance floor, getting numbers, invitations home or for sex in the bathroom
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 09:48 PM
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I really wonder if we’re referring to very different places when we say bar. You mentioned “a pub”. When I talk about meeting women in bars, I’m not referring to a local watering hole where people sit and drink. I’m referring specifically to the post college scene in a major US metropolitan area, with lots of dancing and club music. Maybe as relevant, my experience is from 12+ years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 05:43 PM
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Well, I made out with these women, got numbers, was invited home with them, but I choose not to escalate for various reasons. One woman wanted to fuck in the port-o-potty at the club… which I declined. What do you doubt?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 02:31 PM
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Which bit do you doubt? That I’m not especially attractive? I’m somewhat tall, ok face, but also overweight and socially awkward.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 02:18 PM
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I’ve only had sex in long term relationships and those have always started from social groups connections. However, I was single for a short time in my late 20’s and had lots of clear opportunities to pickup women in bars; I’m not especially attractive. I didn’t not sleep with any of these women for various reasons. This isn’t to brag, but to say that it’s very believable that lots of people are hooking up this way.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 02:10 PM
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Neither is a deal killer for dating. But I suspect you’re thinking within a very narrow cultural context. Think of all the cons and ex-cons who are very attractive to women. Think of all the chubby chasers. Both have different challenges and your class and culture matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 01:50 PM
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Yeah, the intersection of top 40% puts someone in top 10%. Just a bit above average in multiple categories makes someone top 10%. Height, fitness, face, income, size, education.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 03:28 PM
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It’s not ‘safe’ to ever black out, especially around people you don’t know or trust.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 04:32 PM
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Red pill is mating strategy for men. Women shouldn’t listen to Rollo or any other red pill influencers. Red pill doesn’t have any prescriptions to fix society. When RP influencers claim that they do, it’s to get more social media engagement. Enjoy the decline, not stop the decline.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 12:26 PM
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Seriously, I’ve been hit on by men and it’s very flattering even though I’m 100% straight. I’ve never been pursued like that by a woman, even at my most attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 12:13 PM
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You should flirt and be upfront. As others have pointed out, either approach will work if she’s attracted to you, so better to be upfront; don’t waste your time or hers.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 05:08 PM
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I don’t consider myself red pill, but I was aware of PUA content by 2009, then consumed red pill content probably by 2016.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 09:19 PM
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Yeah, I’ve seen this anecdotally. All new boyfriends are tall and handsome, all exes have small dicks.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 03:18 PM
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Read the thread. u/DryOutcome3407 made a point about sour grapes. u/Ok-Map-7596 didn’t seem to understand the point. I made a clarifying comment. I’m not arguing for or against the original point.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 01:54 PM
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Yes, but that’s not the point here. It’s sour grapes. She still banged him in this scenario.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 01:41 PM
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I’m in my early 40’s and my ideal relationship range is +3/-5 years. My wife is 5 years younger. My physical attraction range is probably 25-49. Sure there are attractive women slightly below or above that range, but I want someone who looks like an adult, not a child or an old woman. The women I find most attractive are in their mid 30s. So, youth is attractive, but it’s relative.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 01:20 PM
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No. This is not a legal issue. She’s old enough to make her own decisions. That doesn’t preclude him being a bit icky. I’m sure there are a bunch of young women who would love to fuck Leo and hang out on his yacht. There are power imbalances all around us. That doesn’t mean they should be illegal, but parents should educate their children about being taken advantage of.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 01:09 PM
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The above commenter is saying women retroactively reduce their evaluation of men’s SMV. So, she thinks he’s an 8, they have a fling, he doesn’t commit, now she thinks he’s a 6. I’m not sure I agree with the assertion.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 12:58 PM
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In other news, people learn based on their life experience…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 05:33 PM
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I was bullied a lot growing up, so when I started getting attention from girls, I didn’t trust it. If you want to be single, that’s fine, but it sounds like that’s not the case. You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take. If women are hitting on you, give them a chance. Most women don’t initiate, so there are probably even more who are interested in you. Rejection isn’t easy, but most people aren’t trying to be jerks. You might get hurt, but it might be great.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 10:25 AM
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I’m saying that frequently, women say communication is missing. Many guys interpret this to mean “whine more about my feelings”. It’s counterproductive. Women want men to “man up” but they can’t say that or don’t even know that’s what they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 06:55 PM
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I didn’t say treat people like crap… Some men act like children and then expect their wife to be attracted to them. That’s a problem, but “communication” is not the answer. If you want your wife to be attracted, you need to act like a man, do your chores, carry MORE than your half in the relationship and remain physically attractive. Communication plays no role.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 06:48 PM
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It doesn’t, this is gaslighting
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 06:40 PM
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Oh, Sally, it's not what's gotten into me, it's what's gotten into Oprah! My seed, son! Ha ha h aha! I'm rich, b*tch! Ha ha ha!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 03:23 AM
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I do well, so if my wife made significantly more, I’d be stoked. Currently, I do a lot of the child care, since I work from home, but I wouldn’t want to be a SAHD. I prefer that we jointly make as much as possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 03:21 AM
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Haha, as a post wall man, I approve this message.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 01:49 PM
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Nah, I love big girls
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 12:01 AM
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You’re defining personality too narrowly. Take the success of PUA 20 years ago as an example. Personally can drive local status. Status is context specific.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 02:53 PM
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Anecdotally, I’ve had 2 LTR end with an attempted branch swing. A lot of red pill concepts seem to track with my personal experience, but I’m open to the possibility that it’s confirmation bias.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 02:39 PM
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What’s your age group, if you don’t mind? I see opinions on this sub that women like more muscles as they age. Does it track?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 02:32 PM
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Because I’m bored and like to theorize or debate about human behavior. “Arguing with an engineer is like wrestling with a pig in the mud. After a few minutes you realize the pig likes it.”
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 02:41 PM
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Sounds like sour grapes. Humans are hard wired to want connection through sex and relationships. Challenges are different than “no incentive”.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 03:05 AM
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You want to overthrow a democracy, to put in place a dictatorship, in order to… …checks notes… …protect democracy… Jesus Christ
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 05:26 PM
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I totally disagree. You’re advocating to violently overthrow the US government. What would you put in its place? If you think our two party system is a authoritarian, wait till you see what fills the vacuum of power. The answer is incremental change through election reform and ranked choice voting.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 03:07 PM
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I’m not disagreeing that some people had choice, but I suspect there still was enough lack of choice to provide evolutionary pressure. It’s not black or white.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 01:13 PM
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marriage is a good idea for men It’s not. This is gaslighting. Marriage is good for women and children. Why am I married then? I wanted children and I love my wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 10:42 PM
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See above. The logic is something like this. Historically, women who were more plastic and responsive survived better due to their lack of agency over their situation. Therefore modern women are more plastic and responsive. This plasticity is general, not specific to men, due to whatever combination of genes were selected for. Basically, women who had the ability to close their eyes and think of England survived better.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 09:30 PM
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Evolution isn’t precise. Your example includes men, women and chimpanzees. It might be a side effect of a generally more plastic and responsive arousal response.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 09:22 PM
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That’s basically my take, but not just to prevent injury. It was historically advantageous for women to bond with their r*pists.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 09:16 PM
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Here’s my spicy take. Take it with a grain of salt, it’s probably nonsense. For much of human history, r*pe was really common. Women were traded like commodities and had little say in who they had sex with. It was evolutionarily advantageous if a woman had a reactive and plastic sexual response. Consider these examples. She’s married off to a stranger by her father Her husband is killed in a raid and she’s taken by the guy who killed her husband The biggest caveman claims her as his own without …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 09:12 PM
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I don’t want to come off as disrespectful, but I think you are missing some context about your own community. I dated an Asian American girl many years ago. She was very into me physically. I’m definitely not Chad, but I’m a 6’ white guy. Her parents didn’t like my career path at the time, but that didn’t stop her from dating me. Why do you think these issues don’t apply to Asian Americans? Just because a girl’s parents would pick a short guy with a good job, that’s not who she is fucking in col…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 02:29 PM
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I’m married with a child, together for over a decade.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 02:16 PM
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I was with you until the end, what are you advocating?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 02:00 PM
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No, it’s plastics
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 01:53 PM
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I am authentic with everyone I meet, that doesn’t mean I tell them about the skeletons in my closet on day one. I tell everything to my wife, but we’ve built trust over many years.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 01:55 AM
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I’m not disagreeing, but I want to call out that you are using the term ‘value’ very differently than I did above. You are referring to ‘Sexual Market Value’, in contrast to ‘Expected Value’ which refers to the average payoff of an investment or strategy. In this case the strategy is level of transparency on the first date and the payoff is relationship success.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 01:48 AM
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Some of us get laid now Edit: it does no good to romanticize the past
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 03:38 PM
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It goes beyond that. Spilling all of your dirty laundry is off putting for 2 reasons on top of the dirty laundry. People will believe there is something even worse you are hiding. If your best foot forward includes talking about your debt, what could you be hiding? It shows a lack of social awareness. You come off as mentally ill if you list your worst attributes on a first date.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 02:46 PM
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It’s good to be authentic. That’s very different than being 100% transparent upfront. For example, you shouldn’t blurt out your porn preferences, problems with exes, unpleasant medical history or legal and financial problems on a first date. People will dump you immediately. How? It’s not in your best interest to tell me about your credit card debt on the first date and you won’t, because I would leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 02:31 PM
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we should all be authentic Hard agree most people would be better off if everyone was fully transparent upfront Yes you specifically should be fully transparent upfront Definitely not, that’s bad dating advice See the difference? Unfortunately, this means it’s impossible for everyone to be fully transparent upfront.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 02:10 PM
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Sexual strategy is amoral. I think a lot of people misuse this. I interpret this to mean that RP does not answer “ought” questions only “is” questions. What you do with that information should follow your own code of ethics. This is probably a very unpopular take in the manosphere.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 02:05 PM
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It’s a prisoner’s dilemma or coordination problem. It’s in my personal interest to hide my flaws, but if we all confessed our flaws, we would all be generally better off. Basically, if I hide my flaws and you are transparent the expected value is big for me and small for you. If we both are transparent the expected value is medium for both of us.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 01:47 PM
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I agree that things have shifted, but not with any of OP’s specific points. I’m not trying to be rude, but OP’s post and responses are lazy. His points are not correct and he provides no evidence to back his claims.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 07:06 PM
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The title is exemplary of OPs myopic world view. His points also reflect this. Some people have always had unrealistic standards. Some people have always been fake. The cost of dating now is not higher than in the past. OP needs to get off the internet and meet real people.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 05:58 PM
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The specific claim was “worst time in human history”. It’s not like OP said things are harder in the US than in the 1980s.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 05:01 PM
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Let me rephrase that for you. I wish my parents were still allowed to buy me a wife so I didn’t have to talk to women, even if it was my cousin. We would starve together, but at least she would be thin. Many of our children would die before the age of 2.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 03:27 PM
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Then your statement is actually: “Dating is worse for middle class white men than it was in the 1950s”
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 02:21 PM
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It’s not even more competitive if we are considering all of human history. Dudes with the most livestock married a bunch of women. If Moab the goat lord has 5 wives, you and your buddies have none.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 02:19 PM
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This is the best and safest time to be alive throughout all of human history, at least if you live in the first world. Everything people on here debate are first world problems which stem from greater freedom and more choices. Would ‘dating’ be better if your parents arranged a marriage when you were a child with a stranger as a trade for goats?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 02:12 PM
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40+, married, together 10+ No, I would never leave for something out of her control. However, this scenario is really contrived. Assume someone is in a serious accident and can no longer walk. There are medical bills. She will probably go through depression. She may lose her job. People get addicted to pain pills. What if she is at fault and gets sued? How can you disentangle these aspects? I like to think I would stay through all of this, but imagine heaping crushing debt, depression and addict…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 12:38 PM
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I guess what I’m addressing here is sort of a black pill attitude. I’m not referring to you, but comments I see on this forum and all over the manosphere. If what you’re doing is working, that’s great. For example, OP says there are no women under 30 out and about. Some men pine away that women go only for Chad, and that girls are out there partying not giving them a chance. The same guys aren’t willing to get out of their comfort zone, get on a dance floor and have some drinks. Clubs aren’t rea…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 02:17 PM
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Nothing is guaranteed, but you can’t win if you don’t even enter the contest. It’s fine if that’s not your scene, but then don’t complain that you can’t find girls and aren’t invited to the party. If you’re going on about AF/BB but not willing to get out on a dance floor, I don’t know what to tell you.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 01:30 PM
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I quit that, since I once almost had a fight with a easily-to-anger bf after 2 mins So, you got AMOG’d once and decided to quit trying with girls?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 12:44 PM
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What?! I’m old, and don’t go to clubs anymore, but IME, clubs are the easiest way to pickup women. it’s loud Yeah, just dance up to girls, keep your mouth shut bouncers aren’t letting you enter Maybe if you live in NYC, LA or Miami
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 11:57 AM
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Bad Religion “Christmas Songs” album on repeat all season
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 11:43 PM
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If she did porn, I’d question if we have the same values. The longer segments were paid porn stars. If she flashed her tits on GGW, I’d be amused.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 08:36 PM
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You can’t generalize people’s preferences by their body type. Just maximize your own attractiveness. Going to the gym and dropping body fat will help most men be more attractive, but you don’t need to be “ripped”. Stop worrying about which “type” of woman will be attracted to you, it’s not possible to predict this.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 02:19 PM
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I’ve been off the market for over a decade, so keep in mind that my experience might be stale. I’ve found that bigger girls don’t really have different standards for men, but they can be more forward if you are attractive to them. I believe they get approached less, so they are more receptive when they are approached, if you are attractive. IMHE, they are a bit more receptive to bigger guys. Don’t think sloppy fat guys, but tall power lifter types, since they want to feel small. Don’t think that…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 12:49 PM
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Either way, try expressing any RP talking points in your daily life and see what happens. “Don’t listen to what women say, watch what they do.” This will get you in trouble in liberal circles.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 05:04 PM
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Well, I don’t think it is, but people tend to make that accusation for claims like this. For example, it implies that women are unaware of their own motivations and lacking agency in some way.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 04:50 PM
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Women seem complicated when you listen to what they say and try to reconcile it. Watch what women do and realize that what they say is a rationalization. For anyone who would call me misogynistic, this is also true of a lot of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 03:42 PM
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Good Guy Greg? Did you just invent a new archetype?! Or is it Gynocentric Greg 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 12:59 PM
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Fathers provide a specific type of socialization. They wrestle, joke and provide a type of stability in the home. On average, women are higher in the personality trait of neuroticism and provide more a more nurturing influence. Both types of socialization are necessary for well adjusted children. As I said, everyone is an individual, so some women are capable of providing this. My original comment was targeted more at broken homes than same sex couples. Bringing this back to the original context…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 02:36 PM
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Income, obviously. With that bump, I could work for a year, retire and live WELL. That’s life changing.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 04:33 AM
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Can’t relate. I also think about sex all the time, but I’m happy just fucking my wife who I’ve been with for 10+ years.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 10:25 AM
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Two stable parents are better than one. One stable parent is better than none. Some lesbian couples are better parents than traditional couples. Everyone is an individual, however, boys need positive father figures.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 10:14 AM
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I don’t know, encourage them to be the father they never had. Besides that, improve access to birth control and family planning education. Maybe we can reverse the trend. Late interventions never make up for early childhood deficits. This has been proven over and over by ineffective education programs.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 08:26 PM
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Yeah, it’s called fatherhood. Take it from someone raised by a single mother, men are missing positive role models. I’m not a tradcon, but missing fathers has been bad for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 08:18 PM
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Whatever, I totally have $100 million… but my banker goes to another school… You wouldn’t know her
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 04:49 PM
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There might be another partial explanation. People in the west are getting fatter. First, due to hormones and metabolism, women tend to get fatter faster. There are just more fat women than fat men, especially in their 20s, when people start to gain weight. Imagine a couple who eats together and each gains 30 lb. He goes from 180 to 210 and looks a bit chubby. She goes from 160 to 190 and looks really big. Second, and more interesting, male sexual preferences are malleable and heavily influenced…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 01:03 PM
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There might be another partial explanation. People in the west are getting fatter. First, due to hormones and metabolism, women tend to get fatter faster. There are just more fat women than fat men, especially in their 20s, when people start to gain weight. Imagine a couple who eats together and each gains 30 lb. He goes from 180 to 210 and looks a bit chubby. She goes from 160 to 190 and looks really big. Second, and more interesting, male sexual preferences are malleable and heavily influenced…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 12:48 PM
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you’ve created a god in your image who conveniently hates exactly the same things you hate. Par for the course with Christians.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 01:59 PM
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Jesus Christ, when did TRP go from “enjoy the decline” to “church on Sunday”. Religion is peak blue pill. Might is Right, The Prince and 48 Laws of Power are considered RP reading. These are all in stark opposition to Christian doctrine.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 01:54 PM
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Nah, they’re gross
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 01:43 AM
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I’ve seen shit testing in every relationship. For the women who say I’m just terrible, ok, fine, it’s probably me… but once I started ‘passing’ them, my marriage improved and we fought less.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 12:24 AM
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It’s not wrong, but it may be a bad choice for both of them. I make decent money in a tech field. Part of my criteria for a wife was intelligence, education and earning power. Wealthy men who search out uneducated poor women are looking for someone without options. They are either desperate or looking for someone to abuse. Frankly, even if my wife choose to stay home, I’d want someone with a college degree.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 11:32 AM
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you don’t believe women’s time, energy and effort should be fairly compensated and protected If the partnership is equal, why do we need a contract? Are you assuming my wife does all the housework or something allowing me to earn more? You’re projecting quite a bit. Skipping marriage is like having one foot in the relationship and one foot out. Why not be fully committed if your partner is fully committed? I sort of agree with this, I am married. My core point is that taking on the risks of marr…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 11:22 AM
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What?! How is that your takeaway from my comment? I can love and value someone without signing a bad contract with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 02:47 AM
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Right, but what are the benefits of marriage for a breadwinner without children. The contract doesn’t benefit me. If I divorce, I stand to loose income and retirement money. Your comment seems to be from the perspective of a wife supporting her husband’s career for years, then expecting a payout if he leaves.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 01:20 AM
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For a man, the costs outweigh the benefits. I have significantly more expenses, so my resources are stretched thin. I have to compromise on my goals. Women are likely to leave if I lose a job or get sick. These are sacrifices I’m willing to make for my kid, but the math doesn’t work in my favor otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 12:04 AM
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Marriage is correlated with better outcomes for children. Correlation or causation? Who knows, but I’ll do everything possible for my kid’s future. You didn’t answer my question. What reasons exist to marry without children?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 11:43 PM
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I am married, with a child. If you trust someone, why do you need a legal contract? Why get married without children?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 10:31 PM
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Marriage provides a stable environment for children. If I’m not planning to have children with a woman, why would I sign away my financial agency? You can be a DINK without marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 10:07 PM
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You don’t need to marry to have kids… …but you should never marry if you’re not going to have kids. IMHO, it’s the only compelling reason to marry.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 09:59 PM
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Children are the only reason to marry
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 09:43 PM
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Love as sold by Disney does not exist. There is infatuation, which fades, familial love which can be fostered and friendship which takes work to build. If you’re lucky, you can find someone with shared interests, values and sexual chemistry who you’re attracted to. Looking for ‘more’ is naive and counterproductive.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 09:33 PM
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These are red-pill points. You can’t negotiate attraction. Don’t be BB.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 09:15 PM
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Agree with all of your points. I don’t consider myself red-pill, but that’s mostly because of the bs spouted by the community. I find nothing to disagree with in the general principles posted above.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 09:08 PM
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Both of your posts attack straw-men, not any actual RP ideology. I’m not really red-pilled, but your posts don’t address any actual red-pill stances. Nobody is suggesting to literally ask women what they bring to the table. The red-pill point is that you should be asking yourself what a woman brings to the table. This is useful for recovering simps. Your second post literally says that you shouldn’t show unfiltered vulnerability or show how your emotions effect you. Be the oak. This is a red-pil…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 08:55 PM
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Yes, your husband took advantage of you by… Having money?! It’s his fault you cheated… (hamster working overtime)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 01:07 PM
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It’s important to note that this type of love takes work. If you’ve fallen out of love, one or both of you stopped working at it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 01:01 PM
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Women are much less visual than men, but looks matter. The RP emphasis on improving looks comes from several places. Basement dwellers have been told “looks don’t matter”, “be myself”, “women aren’t visual”. These guys need to shower, lose 30lbs and buy shirts that fit. Women want hawt guys for NSA sex and other qualities for relationships. Some guys realize they are BB and feel used. “Just Lift” is the most straightforward advice which will improve most peoples’ looks and weak behavior
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 12:53 PM
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Looks are a bar to entry. That doesn’t mean all women like the same thing, but most women have a minimum standard even for BB.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 12:40 PM
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Yeah, and THAT is disappointing.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 03:37 AM
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Yeah, I’m a Xennial (41) and I’ve never looked up to anyone. I think late Millennials and Zoomers are more idealistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 03:15 AM
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It’s a culture war. “Alpha feminists” as you deem them, are reacting against traditional roles, which shame women for promiscuous behavior. “RP men” as you deem them are either A) trad cons, which the feminists see as supporting the structures they are trying to tear down B) enjoying the decline, which is even worse, because of hypocrisy
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 10:24 PM
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Sure, the actuaries have value to the work ladies and the HS sports stars have value to the HS girls. That supports my point. Social status depends on context. Do the actuaries have value because they played sports 15 years ago? No. They have a good salary, probably dress well and are in shape. I agree playing sports is good for boys. They make male friends, learn socialization and adopt physical culture. But I’m asking OP about his specific insistence that sports build social status which follo…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 10:12 PM
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What does that have to do with playing rugby at 13?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 08:05 PM
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Are we still doing jocks vs nerds!? I thought that trope was dead. I want my kid to play football and go to MIT.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 07:49 PM
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You sound a bit young, I don’t think anyone would debate that the HS football team has social status in HS. Social status is very context dependent. The guy winning all the board games at a board game con has high social status in that context. The guy who leads a conversation at a work happy hour has high social status in that bar that night.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 07:39 PM
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Just a counter warning, women who didn’t have a ho phase, also get board and try a branch swing. My ex-wife was my (on and off) HS sweetheart. Soon after we were married (late 20s), she got gastric bypass, lost weight and reevaluated her SMV. She took a leap and landed crotch first on her recently divorced HS teacher. He used her for sex and she’s still single 10+ years later. I’m happily remarried.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 06:49 PM
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Jesus Christ, you can’t make this shit up… this has to be a TRP troll I feel women have done a great job of separating sex and emotions. Guys in here are always calling this out as a problem, destroyed ability to pair bond. I don’t want this quality in a wife. most of the guys who would have been perfect boyfriends or husbands were either not that attractive or still figuring out their careers. You can’t wait at the finish line and just glom onto the guy who has been working on his career, why w…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 06:37 PM
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I’ve never rejected anyone for a body count per se, but for slutty behavior. A long time ago when I was single, I met a girl in a club. We were dancing, made out and exchanged numbers. She wanted to fuck that night… unprotected… I was grossed out and ghosted her. I know it’s weird for rejecting someone because she wanted to have sex with me… but I couldn’t stop imagining how many others went in raw recently.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 10:18 PM
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I know this was already removed but I’m replying anyway. Just do something! Getting into a relationship should be the last concern for someone like this. Get a job, get out of the house. Get a bed. Find a passion and work towards something. Start small. Stop weed, jerking off, video games and whatever else he is using to numb himself against his feelings of failure. Read instead. Clean up, literally clean his room and himself. I guarantee he has bad hygiene if he’s sleeping on the floor, not lea…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 06:41 PM
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I think it’s a component, but people also have a natural aversion to perceived deception. There’s a spectrum of “having a mask” ranging from Ted Bundy, to me stopping myself from rambling about Star Wars fan theories. People are disgusted by any hint of duplicity.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 02:28 PM
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I used to lurk a lot on TRP and marriedredpill. I think a lot of the advice seems gross to women and “naturals” because they are well adjusted socially. Analyzing social interaction or social behavior is foreign and the idea of faking normal behavior seems creepy to them. That’s why “be yourself” works for attractive well adjusted men and not spergs like me. Instead, I need to hear “stop your facial ticks”, “start conversations”, “make eye contact”. I wouldn’t consider myself red-pill, but I nee…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 01:34 PM
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My interest is piqued, what do you mean by coaching? Are you suggesting red pill coaching specifically? How does that differ from therapy? I’ve always discounted anyone who advertises himself as a life coach.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 12:17 PM
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Damn, You’re on the money. I think a lot of overweight people have given up in some way.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 11:11 AM
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Your standards are right if you are satisfied with the results. It’s a market and standards are subjective.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 12:36 AM
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No one in the real world thinks like this. 25 is young. I’m in my 40s and my wife is a few years younger than me. I’ve always been interested in women my age and a few years younger.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 08:49 PM
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Well, I’m somewhat autistic myself, so I’ll respond with the assumption that you’re being genuine. No one wants to be called fat. Different people have different preferences, but mostly “fat” is considered unattractive. I’m willing to be candid on a anonymous forum about sexual strategy, but in person I wouldn’t even say “I like fat women”. Instead, I’d use some euphemism. Mostly, body positivity supporters are fat women who are insecure about being fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/22 01:04 PM
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I can’t tell if you’re trolling or just completely socially inept
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/22 12:17 PM
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Haha, I have a lovely wife, she fits my preferences. I would never say that she or her ass was fat😂
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/22 12:05 PM
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I didn’t say they’re wrong, but “attractive” is subjective. It’s a feature of women’s psychology, that average men are less attractive than average women. In the end, it’s a feature of biology, which can’t be “wrong”.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/22 11:30 AM
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You’re not wrong, but your perspective is warped. Attractive to who? It’s women’s perspective which rates average men as below average.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/22 11:17 AM
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I think the modern body positivity movement is an over reaction to past social pressure. The pendulum tends to swing back and forth over time. I know many women who were treated really harshly as little girls for being overweight. This generally made them fatter as adults. For context, I’m (41m) kind of fat, and I like fat women.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/22 11:10 AM
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(41m) I got lots of attention from women (and gay men) 21-25.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 01:59 PM
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Yeah, sure. Most of what I’ve taken from red pill applies to men and women and can be summarized as: have basic social skills don’t be a doormat
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 01:39 PM
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I don’t think she did anything consciously, but she was subconsciously disgusted by the guy and didn’t want his kids. I’m not red pill, but I agree with some red pill lessons. When a woman says “I don’t want x” she means “I don’t want x with you”
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 01:34 PM
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This guy got a vasectomy for his fiancé, then she realized she wanted kids. https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/y1rnea/my_fianc%C3%A9e_left_me_shortly_after_i_got_my/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf I know a guy in real life who this happened to. Let’s hear your hot takes. Here’s mine: Seems like women want to take certain guys out of the gene pool.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 01:25 PM
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Desperate young people are easy to scam FTFY
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 01:44 AM
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I’m making no exceptions Paying for sex didn’t make them low value It sure did lower Hugh Grant’s value. He’s equivalent to a hot female celebrity with a bunch of partners. Men would still chase Scarlet Johansson regardless of any N-count. is the prostitute low value Prostitutes are a classic example of low value What here is inconsistent or hard to understand?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 07:04 PM
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Robert Kraft is a billionaire in his 80s… he’s aged out of the sexual marketplace and can only buy his way back in. Women who fuck geriatric billionaires aren’t worried about who he bought last time. Hugh Grant lost a lot of appeal to women when he was caught with a prostitute. One day he was a sex symbol, the next all I heard about him was small penis jokes.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 04:41 PM
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I’m not referring generally to penis size insecurity. Specifically in this context, a female partner with lots of other male partners, penis size insecurity is a proxy for paternity insecurity. The above commenter argued that a man might be uncomfortable with a promiscuous partner, because he would worry that she is unsatisfied. He termed this “penis size insecurity”. What does this really mean? If she’s unsatisfied, she might cheat. Why does cheating matter if she’s on birth control? Because yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 01:21 AM
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Take my argument with a grain of salt, I have no technical qualifications, but neither do most of the people on here who make arguments about psychology and evolutionary biology. It’s a primal fear of getting cucked. We didn’t evolve with birth control and paternity tests.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 12:38 AM
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I don’t think you’re wrong at all, your comment is on point, but I disagree specifically about the correlation. Promiscuity is available to an average woman in the same way as prostitution is available to the average man for temporary sexual validation. Both behaviors devalue them to some future partners. Bisexuality is totally different and not really a choice. A better correlation to bisexuality, would be some other innate characteristic. Regarding the penis insecurity angle, it’s insightful. …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 11:15 PM
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Nah, I was a nerdy kid and literally starting dumbing down my vocabulary to fit in. I had terrible social awareness and conversation skills. The big vocabulary made it even worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 05:34 PM
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This guy 🙄 “Driving supercars” sounds like a somewhat fun Saturday every 5 years. Pretty boring after that. I’d rather raise my kid and do interesting work, then spend time at “The Club” after 40. Having a family is not giving up.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 05:23 PM
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A man who pays for sex This is the closest correlation, due to the similar “ick response” from the opposite sex
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 04:54 PM
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Depends on your lifestyle. I’m old with kids, so I always prioritize family holidays. Do you have specific family traditions? If I was 24 and single, probably NYE.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 10:31 PM
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I don’t know if I’m autistic, I was diagnosed ADD as a child a long time ago, but suspect I may be on the spectrum. This was before Asperger’s was a thing. But in any case, I was super socially awkward growing up and into my 30s. Now, I’m in my 40’s, DNGAF and embrace being nerdy. Lose weight and get into great shape. You will get attention even if you’re awkward. I got a lot leaner between 17-20 and started getting attention. Generally, I’d fuck it up when I opened my mouth, but still had girlf…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 02:01 PM
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Of course women aren’t all the same, everything is a bell curve. But excluding extreme outliers, it’s there under the surface. I’m in a liberal area and I went to art school, so I’ve interacted with a bunch of people with alternative ideas. When the SHTF, the mask slips. Women expect a man to step up and take care of it without showing too much emotion. Anything else is disgusting to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 11:44 PM
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My wife is great, she’s not stuck on traditional gender roles, but AWALT. It’s inescapable.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 11:20 PM
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Once had my wife tell me to man the fuck up during a minor emergency. I was handling shit, but was letting it show too much how upset I actually was. I could see her disgust. Wasn’t the first time I learned this lesson, but it was a good reminder.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 10:43 PM
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Damn, I need to up my hotdog game
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 10:34 PM
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Mayo and Sriracha
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 10:34 PM
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Nah, I see red. Jiu-Jitsu doesn’t work on me, I just stand up. /s
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 10:18 PM
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For me it’s not about “better”. I got married because I wanted kids. I have no interest in starting another family if this one fails. I would just focus on my kid and look for something casual.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 08:41 PM
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I would do it again, it’s better for kids. But if my current marriage ended, I’d focus on my kid and not get into any serious relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 08:36 PM
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Horseshoe theory in practice. When the ultra conservative Mormons agree with the purple haired lesbians, you know it’s going to be a spicy time.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 06:18 PM
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Question for married people. Who here would ever get married again? I’ve been married twice, divorced once. I love my wife and would not leave or cheat. But if my marriage ended, I’d be done with “love”.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 05:48 PM
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Not really, I’ve only had PIV in committed relationships. I have turned down casual sex. I don’t care about body count per say, but I want someone who’s values align with mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 05:04 PM
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When my wife poops with the door open, I lurk around and make inappropriate jokes. You need to level up your relationship game.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 01:23 PM
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Ok, but what is your point? By “working on himself” do you mean lost a bunch of weight? Also, please note that your example of being emotionally vulnerable is validating your feelings. He only opened up with a personal experience in a way that supported you.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 01:21 PM
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There’s a great chance this is correlation and not causation. These are diseases of affluence. Heart disease and cancer are caused by western diets with too many calories, too much sugar and not enough fiber. But children in the west rarely go malnourished, which means they reach their full height potential.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 01:07 PM
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Agricultural societies are short, due to poor nutrition. Many societies of hunter gatherers 10k+ years ago, were as tall as us. http://www.zo.utexas.edu/courses/thoc/agriculture.html Average height for hunter gatherer man 5’9” Average height for agricultural man 5’3” Average height for man in US 5’9”
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 01:01 PM
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