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People are down voting you but if you're making fun of that sentiment, I completely agree. Whenever a girl expresses sadness over being pumped and dumped on most gender or relationship subreddits (askmen is especially notorious), this is the exact response they give. It really pisses me off because it's treating men and women identically. Women can retroactively regret sex when they realize the guy wasn't interested in much more than that. They were enjoying a sexual experience under the false i…
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/18 05:04 AM
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It's true, she's smart and I'm certain she'll eventually outgrow that phase. I guess I'd like to influence her in a way that prevents her from making any truly regrettable decisions when she's older instead of learning the hard way. Why go through that? Learn from other people's mistakes.
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/18 04:09 PM
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Yep that's a really big motivator lol
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/18 04:04 PM
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They make do more work because she's naturally more competent and conscientious, not necessarily because she's a girl. They don't coddle her brothers though, but it's pretty clear they have lower standards. But yeah, good point on the clothing and horny teen boys. I haven't outgrown my androgynous phase yet and I'm finding it difficult to get into more feminine styles at my age so I don't want the same to happen to her.
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/18 04:03 PM
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Thanks for the advice! Yes, I'm sure it will.
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/18 12:45 AM
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I'm personally irreligious. I tell her that her parents putting more responsibilities on her means they expect more of her, and that she can choose to see that as a good thing. And when she's older, she'll appreciate her greater capacity to do more. When it comes to sexism, it can be a couple of things. If all it is a lack of objectivity on her part, it's easy to remedy. She expressed a couple days that women don't need men, and I told her civilization would end tomorrow if men disappeared given…
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/18 12:42 AM
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Oh hey, I'm gonna be a CNA soon! Anyways, I find it really immature when girls take pride in being demanding and selfish. I'm not particularly selfless, but I wish I were. For some rare people (like my grandmother), it's effortless. Most of us have to work at it. It's a dirty word, but I'm glad my parents shamed me into not becoming like other women who act that way. It's really easy to turn out like that because there is 0 pressure on girls to strive for excellence nowadays. And if there is, yo…
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/18 11:06 PM
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I pray that he has a change of heart and comes back in the picture. You're still early on in the pregnancy and a lot of men need time to process their feelings on having a baby unexpectedly. Obviously prepare for the worst, but hope for the best. With regards to abortion, your feelings on the matter indicate you would be at high risk for regretting that decision, and that's often a lifelong regret that gets relived over and over. Same with adoption, even if the child is better off materially, be…
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/18 03:36 AM
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What is the ideal outcome for you? That your partner decides to raise the child alongside you?
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/18 02:44 AM
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It's really simple. Pick something you want to draw first or have at least a general idea. Then work backwards in learning about all the different components. If you have a desire to create something specific, it'll be much easier to stay motivated. I personally liked cartoons/anime growing up so for example, digital illustration and anatomy were things I found important to teach myself. I only recently got into non-digital mediums. I like watercolor so I chose to take a beginner's watercolor cl…
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/18 09:30 PM
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The main reason I caution against it is because there's a lot of men who will say they're open to a relationship which leads many women to think they can find their boyfriends/husbands on there. When in reality, the guy is usually not looking for something serious but is merely open to it if his standards are exceeded, but you're most likely not going to convince him to delete his profile and focus on you, when his eyes are being flooded with other options. Obviously as you said it depends on a …
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/18 09:10 PM
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Here ya go https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HYJFgyqs0sM
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/18 10:23 AM
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It's my one real hobby lol
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/18 03:21 AM
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She only needs attention from 1 quality guy though. It's not like alpha strategy to pull lots of women. Once you're in a relationship with the quality guy though, learn how to be amazing in bed so his attention isn't grabbed by the "hot"
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/18 03:17 AM
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This is a great post. I believe the part about the two mating strategies is inspired by the Bret Weinstein and Heather Heying episode on the Joe Rogan podcast, and everyone should check it out. edit: Real biology hack - This is also why you should try not to meet men on dating websites or apps, because almost all of them are in the mindset of the second mating strategy. You are basically fighting against nature here.
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/18 03:09 AM
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If she already slept with him, she can try to salvage it. But if she hasn't slept with him, she should not start sleeping with him to go from plate to committed relationship! Nor should she be sleeping with anyone else obviously.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/18 10:05 PM
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This is exactly my experience as well. When a man loves a woman, he will simply not risk it when she says she wants commitment! These plate-to-wifey stories have something in common...there was no request for commitment on the women's side. So if a woman is coming on here and saying she had the talk and he blew her off, it's not a good sign.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/18 09:58 PM
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I'd be interested in hearing an update if/when she gets the guy to commit. It would help a lot of women.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/18 01:21 PM
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I'm sorry to hear that. To answer your question, I don't think anyone is under obligation to pursue relationships. Being involved with RP and Mgtow might be therapeutic, but as with anything, the beliefs we carry about the world are reflected back to us. We can actually choose a different reality for ourselves by virtue of what we choose to focus on. If all women are like that, so it is. After a traumtizing experience with the opposite sex or several, its normal and healthy to go through that ra…
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/18 11:29 PM
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I think the issue might be is that many red-pillers who were former extreme blue-pillers because they had been lied to for so long about what women want (exclusively beta traits like being nice, servitude, etc.) Natural alphas saw past the lies. But the former hardcore blue pillers had a harsh awakening. They might hate women for preferring any alpha traits in a guy, no matter how reasonable she might be objectively. It could explain the hostility towards RPW. If a guy didn't buy into the lies e…
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/18 02:30 PM
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"I find divorces repulsive. I will never get divorced, never." That's Catherine Zeta-Jones, who's been married to her husband for almost 20 years. They separated for a while but got back together. I have no idea if she's red-pill or not but I really admire that kind of dedication to marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/18 04:53 AM
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You could take extracurricular classes. I go to a weekly art class and I've already met a few interesting people :)
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/18 12:57 AM
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Why not try connecting with people outside the context of dating? Before seeking a relationship, as you say.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/18 02:40 AM
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I don't follow a traditional religion but I'm into New Age philosophies. "New Age" is a bit of a pejorative though and conjures up a lot negatives ideas of being woo-woo and all that. Yin-yang, divine masculine and feminine, etc. can sound like "woo" but for me, it makes perfect sense. I'm really comfortable dealing with and understanding the world and people through intangible concepts. A lot of the alternative spirituality community is female-dominated and it can be an echo-chamber at times, b…
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/18 04:24 AM
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"my boyfriend is great, works hard at a good job, supportive, a provider, a leader, considerate to me, we have similar life goals but I'm just kind of losing interest...he has a bit of a belly and he's losing his hair...and there's this super hot guy at work who's clearly into me" I've never been in that situation but that's pretty much my nightmare. And the guilt would eat me up alive.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/18 01:21 AM
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I understand you, and I appreciate these write ups. I guess I'm not entirely of the mindset of "calculating risks" because even if I could successfully swing branches it would bother me a lot to do that because I form strong emotional attachments to people and it's traumatic to break them off. That's the problem I had with my last relationship. I deeply loved my ex (and still do) but there was no sexual component whatsoever to that love and I don't want to repeat that again. I mean, ideally I wo…
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/18 01:14 AM
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That explanation definitely clicked with me! The talk of hypergamy always confused me because I was always thinking like "well duh the more attractive men get more attraction from women, and sometimes women trade up for better? how does this have a special name?" In that situation (the party), I'd usually find myself zeroing in on one guy and indeed my attraction fades away for anyone else (maybe not a typical alpha though.) But it's not just strategy and securing the "best possible mate" for my…
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/18 09:01 AM
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Thank you. Firstly, how in the hell did you secure that username? Ok...so as far as what you said, it's implying I was dating "below" my SMV and therefore being dissatisfied isn't exactly hypergamy it's just normal, no? Is it all instances of "trading up" or trying to trade up to a guy with a higher SMV than you are? Sorry if this confusing...I'm trying to ask if hypergamous instinct goes away or diminishes the more sexual attraction there is. For example. An F8 dating an M7 wouldn't as easily w…
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/18 04:10 AM
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No! I want to have his babies. It's not wanting what I can't have. For example I'm not into "typical" alphas. It's that sometimes not pursuing women communicates information about a guy that isn't necessarily beta in nature. See the edit I put in my last comment.
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/18 03:13 AM
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Eh. It seriously depends on a number of factors, including context. Although it isn't exactly the same situation, I overtly hit on the guy I'm seeing now, not the other way around. After I did that, he escalated it really quickly. But right before that he was hesitant because he "didn't want to seem pervy". He's in his mid 30s so that could be why. But the fact that we were so professional with each other at the beginning was a bit of a turn on. edit: also really really smart men or those who te…
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/18 03:06 AM
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I think I'm interested in a different, more subtle alpha. The guy who comes up to me doesn't interest me usually. It's the guy across the room minding his own business, thinking about more important things than picking up women who really intrigues me. Usually that gets him women anyways. Hah.
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/18 02:18 AM
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Well doesn't hypergamy have a lot to do with attraction? I'm not sure. I'm a bit paranoid about losing attraction to a suitable guy. To answer your question, since I was 17. We barely had a sexual relationship and that only started after I was 19 or so.
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/18 02:10 AM
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Maybe "pursue" is the wrong word. Usually I admire a guy from afar then decide to talk to him normally about anything. I don't flirt. But of course if/when he escalates, I'm very receptive to it (obviously, I'm the one who sought him out). I had to be a tad aggressive with my ex because he was never going to. Although yeah, I can now see why.
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/18 02:04 AM
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Is he really a player though? That means no woman can ever get him to commit. But I believe every man (within reason) has a price. If you want "that" kind of guy (not him specifically, just anyone who's that highly sexual appealing to you) work on yourself in all facets - looks, personality, femininity - so he'd consider you commitment-worthy.
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/18 12:32 AM
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Here you go! Sorry I'm on mobile so it's a mobile link. I really recommend hearing the entire conversation https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=lrh9GXeq51Y
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/18 03:17 PM
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Take what I say with a grain of salt.. usually finding someone new is one of the best ways to emotionally get over someone, but let's say you do date seriously (unlikely) - would he be OK with his GF being formerly fwb with one of his "bros"? This situation can't end well. You could easily end up alpha widowed again. Find an alpha male away from this social circle entirely. If you do decide to contact him anyways, don't even hint at being interested or imply sex is on the table at the beginning,…
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/18 02:39 PM
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If you ever want an advanced degree, the time to do so is now. Going back to school when you have young children isn't always an option or even preferable (when it is an option) There's an amazing Stefan Molyneux video that goes into the subject of mothers leaving young children alone. Basically, your child subconsciously understands that as abandonment and you'll have a much harder time establishing respect and authority as a parent when they're older. I can share the video if you'd like.
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/18 02:27 PM
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Haha, I keep mentioning details about my family to him (especially my dad.) I hope he gets the message.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/18 08:56 PM
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I'm not so sure...I feel like these leftist virtue-signaling males (and most men who this applies to) are actually lying to themselves about what they like and saying they like sluts instead of doing so in a state of self-awareness. Because the latter really does not make sense. I'd say that self-awareness would eradicate the majority of BP thinking, or at least modify it.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/18 08:52 PM
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Interesting response, I found it a bit esoteric though...so you mean to say because all the conditions in place that harmonize gender relations are gone, only self-actualized people end up applying RP knowledge? And you try to be in this category? (Although my question was originally meant as "do you ever publicly praise promiscuity to increase your chances with women, even though you feel differently?")
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/18 09:05 PM
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Yes he's definitely shown interest in me. I did so first (I complimented his voice) then he escalated it sexually in a joking-manner like "oh I guess we have to have sex now!" which I stupidly thought was him being serious. We flirted sexually for a while after that until I realized it maybe wasn't the best idea. But we didn't have sex and I've been trying to steer our interactions away from the subject since then. I can tell it slightly irritates him but I haven't given the impression that I'm …
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/18 07:03 PM
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That sounds pretty ideal! I hope I get lucky like this :) For me he doesn't need to be a feminist or super attractive or anything. It's just a matter of being secure that I can exceed his expectations as his feminine counterpart.
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/18 01:17 AM
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Oh I'm not waiting for marriage! I definitely believe in establishing sexual compatibility before making that sort of commitment. But yeah I see what you're saying. As far as the guy, he uses terms like "slut shaming" for example. Which isn't a problem per se because neither do I believe in shaming people for their choices. But I can sense it's comes from an insincere place, a dislike of women not being "cool" and DTF. Naturally slut-shaming gets in the way of women jumping on their dicks. Kinda…
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/18 01:08 AM
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I can confirm some guys are like this, especially the younger ones. It's not strictly cuckoldry though. It's the same reason why some guys like softcore girl-on-girl porn and other guys like to watch one woman with 2+ men. Evolutionarily speaking it's him wanting to compete with other men. Although the more he likes and values the girl, I would think the less willing he is to compete because that carries the risk of losing and if he's really in love he's just not gonna take that chance. And also…
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/18 09:18 PM
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I have to be honest, there's a guy I'm particularly interested right now who's as I described in the OP. I don't know 100% what's the underlying reason behind it but I really hope he likes me and comes to appreciate my low N-count. I mean, I've kept it low so I don't involuntarily compare the One with previous lovers and end up cold, bitter, and jaded that no guy other than those in the unattainable top 1% satisfy me - _- It definitely bothers me that someone could devalue how hard it is to be r…
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/18 09:01 PM
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Then I have to ask, how many do you know who do this? (including yourself if you're comfortable answering)
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/18 08:46 PM
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"Long-term material" and "sexual attractive" are one in the same for me. If I cannot respect a man as a person, I can't desire him as a lover. I want a LTR that leads to marriage and kids. I want to date without putting out until feelings develop. And so far I'm accomplishing that, so thankfully it's not an issue for me. I was just curious about the specific observations I made interacting with different men.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/18 04:19 PM
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The problem is, men who have RP values and also aren't coming from a traditionalist/religious background are all too common. There's plenty of great men out there who would be perfectly content with a virginal homemaker wife but that's not what I'm looking for. Maybe this is strange to say but I'd prefer to be more conservative than my partner. And so I've found that it's libertine men that are drawn to me, and I to them. Even though they find it confusing that I wait to have sex. I'm also aware…
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/18 04:03 PM
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High 20s and 30s actually. If anything I've heard more praise for promiscuous women from older men than younger ala "I don't have time to waste, let's get down to business immediately" or I've heard verbatim "give me a well-seasoned slut than a virgin any day of the week" I don't think they're BSing themselves either. They just seem really impatient with sex overall and are deathly afraid of women who are LL/prudish. But that's just paranoia on their part because a lot of commitment-oriented wom…
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/18 03:51 PM
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Of course. Sex is important for me as well and I have a relatively high libido. But I have to know I'm not a plate to put out. Plus sex is very intimate in my eyes and I genuinely could not enjoy it unless there were tender feelings between my partner and me. To be fair to the guy, I would never demand exclusivity before us starting to sleep together.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/18 03:41 PM
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Hmmm if anything men with Madonna-whore complexes readily commit to a so-called Madonna, they just don't want to sexualize them. Especially when they have their children.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/18 03:30 PM
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Well they don't have to be RP-aware but desire is involuntary, no*? Also it doesn't take a red-piller to know that the open sexual marketplace becomes useless once you've entered an exclusive relationship. Yeah he may not wait around for the more discerning girl but if he's ever wanting something serious it shouldn't matter in the end. And lack of promiscuity doesn't mean low-libido either, of course. *Although I've heard that men have 2 sexual strategies, investment and "quantity over quality" …
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/18 03:26 PM
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Maybe I don't talk to enough men privately but that kind of insincerity or duplicity doesn't seem normal. Why on earth would someone praise slutiness (not just claim to tolerate it) but say they hate it later? I mean, that's men shooting themselves in the foot.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/18 02:54 PM
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I've had a couple sexual experiences with my ex - who was my only boyfriend so far - and we tried to have PIV sex once but couldn't all the way for medical reasons on his part (painful overgrown foreskin.)
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/18 05:34 AM
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That's all well and true but it's not quite what I'm addressing. Most guys can participate in hook-up culture but they know they shouldn't try to get a GF out of it. They admire the traits that keep a girl out of hook-up culture. But the type of guys I've recently interacted with don't hold that same regard for those traits. So I guess what I'm wondering, what does that really mean? They subconsciously believe all women are low-value (not worth the wait) and that belief is expressed through a co…
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/18 04:41 AM
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