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This!!! Supposedly I’m a HVW (don’t love the term). Two biggest things for guys: Status—this is relative, be the big man on campus, leader, etc. Do NOT be boring—women love attention and stimulation, you can be the hottest guy in terms of looks but women will get bored quickly with a boring personality. Even being an engaging asshole (do not recommend) is better than being boring. Boring is the most fatal flaw a man can have. It’s okay to be dorky, you don’t have to be cool, just can’t be boring…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 02:43 PM
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I’m going to DM you. 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 02:52 AM
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Thank you. You’re awesome! 😎 Sorry I didn’t get it, it makes a lot of sense now! 🤣 I have some toys, but I think it might make it worse for me? 🫠 Maybe like an itch and you scratch it and it just gets itchier. I sound so dramatic but it was getting so bad at one point I thought about trying to go to the doctor to see if he/she would prescribe me SSRIs that can really decrease your libido—I would tell the doctor this was my motivation, would be fully transparent. 🤣 But the more I looked into it, …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 09:19 PM
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Sorry, I don’t understand?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 08:34 PM
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What I want to know is what men do to cope with their horniness/sexual frustration? Beyond just relieving themselves? I’m 40F, very high libido, conventionally attractive (not sure if this is relevant), and was a serial monogamist from my teen years up until this point. I’m wrapping up a divorce and this is by far the longest drought I’ve ever experienced. Here are my issues: 🤣 -I’ve always had frequent sex, but only in a committed relationship context. I do not see that on the horizon though. -…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 05:22 AM
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Someone robbing you is presumably a stranger? Robbing you with a weapon is a very clear action to interpret. Abusers don’t abuse you all the time and the action isn’t clearly defined, oftentimes the action is more ambiguous than what it seems. There are good times, especially in the beginning. They gaslight you, manipulate you, ironically they turn around their bad behavior onto you. Dr. Normani said that athletes and people who have a track record of being able to get things done are very susce…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 04:56 AM
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I agree with most of what you said. You articulated yourself well with nuance and reason. The only part I disagree with is the incorrect characterization of his approach as “tough love.” Unless the definition of love 💗 has changed to mean the opposite, I see no evidence to support anything loving about his approach? If someone was sad and asked for love and support, I think almost everyone would know that would NOT include calling the person names, “you idiot, you’re immature, you’re narcissisti…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 04:42 AM
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Saul to Paul.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 06:40 PM
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Your comment is ignorant and offensive. You clearly aren’t here to learn or gain perspective. Why would you be open to learning when you already have it all figured out right? I love learning and am open to COMPELLING, well laid out, logical arguments. None of which you have provided. Just redundant ignorance and a perception of it being a “low blow” to share your life experiences and psychological knowledge (or lack thereof). The universe will humble you since you keep asking for it. BET.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 06:22 PM
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Thanks for confirming your lack of education and inability to articulate oneself. As anticipated, your receipts speak volumes. ✅ Work on yourself. Mentally, I would assume physically there’s a bit to shore up as well too. 🤡 You come across as someone with a dearth of life and travel experience. Wouldn’t surprise me if you didn’t even have a passport. Someone who is young and uneducated. 🚫📚🎓 You have so much to learn. 📖🧠 So bold of you to share an undeveloped, uneducated, ignorant “opinion”. Be p…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 02:19 PM
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Why you so mad bruh? HOW DOES IT AFFECT YOU? Did you get cheated on by someone who went back to their abusive ex? You have no idea what you’re talking about. 🤡 Where did you go to college? What did you study? Did you get a masters or PhD in psychology? What was your thesis paper on? How about this…the BARE minimum. How many psychology classes did you take? I know the answer. You know the answer. You said you’re smart. HOW ABOUT WE SEE SOME RECEIPTS? 🧾 You’ve already demonstrated your inability t…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 10:40 AM
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This is true. My ex didn’t even start yelling at me until after our first child was born. The abuse escalated over time.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 09:29 AM
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I am extremely smart and stayed in an abusive marriage for many years. I am very mature—I basically raised myself. People have always told me I’m an old soul. I stayed for a variety of reasons, mainly for my kids and wanting to keep my family together. The abuse escalated over time. I always hoped he would go back to the person I fell in love with who was so sweet to me. He told he wanted to be that person again. He would make significant efforts and backslide. He tried anger management, individ…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 09:27 AM
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This. I want the kind masculine good guy (integrity, principles). I don’t care what he looks like if he has these three qualities.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 09:13 AM
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Thank you for this comment. I CANNOT flirt. My friends think I’m bullshitting them bc I’ve always had a lot of male interest. I’m conventionally attractive and that does a TON of the heavy lifting. I’m demisexual so I don’t feel attraction initially. I need a connection before I feel attraction. Even though I explain my demisexuality to guys, hot guys take it personally—bc they just hear that I’m not attracted to them…yet. I have an extremely high drive for a woman. I’m terrified of a dead bedro…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 08:47 AM
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You’re wrong in terms of conflation and the implication you’re presenting. Here’s my copy & pasted comment from above: Hi, I am demisexual and there seems to be a lot of confusion surrounding the term: —demisexual is part of the ACE spectrum, this leads to the conflation of thinking demisexual => low libido. 🚫This is not necessarily the case. Some demis are prob asexual, others are very high drive. —demisexual EXPLAINS HOW A PERSON EXPERIENCES ATTRACTION ONLY. It indicates nothing about libido. …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 08:35 AM
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You’re right.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 08:34 AM
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Hi, I am demisexual and there seems to be a lot of confusion surrounding the term: —demisexual is part of the ACE spectrum, this leads to the conflation of thinking demisexual => low libido. 🚫This is not necessarily the case. Some demis are prob asexual, others are very high drive. —demisexual EXPLAINS HOW A PERSON EXPERIENCES ATTRACTION ONLY. It indicates nothing about libido. —demisexuals NEED an emotional connection to feel attraction. There have been very hot guys I’ve talked to and I feel N…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 08:30 AM
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Oh I wish this were true! During the time we talked he would send me lots of selfies of his hotness. Post gym selfie, paddling boarding photo, hanging out at home casually with no shirt, face selfies too of course. His selfies gave me the ick. I was happy that over time when I wouldn’t reciprocate any selfies and he would ask for them, his frequency of sending them decreased. He was wildly attracted to me. But I think he mistook it to be based on looks instead of energy. I bruised his ego by not…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/23 02:41 PM
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Respectfully I would love to downgrade my life. I’m wrapping up a divorce and my ex provided us with a comfortable lifestyle. I have talked to a lot of different guys who are high income earners ($500K+) and wealthier men ($5M+), but the guy I like the most BY FAR. The only guy I would be interested in has the least amount of status and the least amount of money. To be fair to him he is a lot younger—he’s 28 and I’m 40. If you’re thinking, he must be hot—you are correct, he is hot. 🤣 But that’s …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/23 06:19 AM
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Agree about it being an awesome trait, it is a green flag for me. That guy and I both have similar, growth mindsets. We both have started at the bottom for different things, both very determined, like we will find a way. Both more process oriented than needing an instant result. Both do things the harder way if we think it’s better. Both like a challenge. I am good with being really shitty at things in the beginning, grinding it out and improving. So many extremely smart guys I’ve dated are very…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 05:59 AM
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Thank you. Very flattering, you will just have to pay a small licensing fee, but sure—I’m just kidding. Feel free. We all need all the help/insight we can get. 😊 I’m 40 and the great listener was 28. Wild. I would say different random things and then he kept what I said in his brain somehow… for months. Idk how he did it, but it left such a lasting impression on me. 🤯🤩 It’s really interesting bc normally I’m attracted to very smart guys. This guy is not very academic, he would ask me what differ…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 05:17 AM
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Hahaha. I think it could come across as trolling bc I am SO over the top about it. But seriously that’s how crazy I am for it. I do legitimately FANTASIZE about it. I’m like FML, this guy ruined every guy for me, bc I’m always going to compare the listening to his level. Like now I know it’s possible to be listened to like that. 🫠 I am being 100% honest. Guys think we want a guy with a hot body, a high income, a great sense of humor…would trade all those traits for great listening!!! This is the…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 04:17 AM
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Those stats are correct. I can’t believe it’s not a national health crisis. Just crazy! I’m 40F and conventionally attractive. People think I look younger for my age, most people think late 20s (don’t gaslight me please). I think part of it is bc I’m petite and have a leaner/athletic build (relatively lean—18-20% body fat, I have visible ab muscles, but not a 6 pack). It is difficult to be thin at my age and post kids—some of my friends are gym rats and eat a healthy diet, but they still would b…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 03:50 AM
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Overall I think boxing 🥊 has a very masculine vibe. I think most women are attracted to masculinity. The guy can be a fat uggo and do leader like things and display other masculine traits and I’m like heyyyyy. JK! There was a guy that listened to me so well—the best I’ve ever been listened to. It spoke to my soul! I will never forget the way it FELT to be listened to. Like what I said mattered. 🥰 I actually fantasize about being listened to like that again—FRFR. Sometimes I think, is anyone goin…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 03:36 AM
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Hi, I’m doing to DM you a question.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 03:55 PM
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I’ve been in therapy/EMDR for over the past year. It changed my life in amazing ways. 🦋 EMDR has been like a fucking miracle for my trauma. I had very bad depression and severe anxiety before going. Therapy is a lot of SELF work. I am very emotionally open and was ready to heal decades ago (I didn’t realize there were modalities like EMDR available). You have to be ready to go there—grapple with traumas and issues. I am conventionally attractive but had poor self esteem and self worth issues bef…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 06:36 AM
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Thank you! It’s been a journey to get to this point. Definitely know what I want now. 😍
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 09:04 PM
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Any height. I’m petite, only 5’3”, good chance he will be taller than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 08:42 PM
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Killed it. 👏🏼
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 06:22 AM
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-high integrity -principled -masculine (direct, takes charge, analytical, competitive) -protector -provider (not necessarily money) -leader -loving/kind -good listener/engaging -emotionally supportive -passionate/high conviction -loyal -we just get each other without trying -high sex drive -challenges me/inspires me -hardworking -growth mindset -athletic/fit -responsible/high accountability -driven -introspective/self aware -empathetic -giving/generous -high energy -reliable -touchy/feely -great…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 05:45 AM
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He gives me credit for our kids “achievements”. They are smart and talented kids. 🙏🏼 He told me if it wasn’t for me and if he was in charge they would just watch Netflix and iPads all the time. Part of it is challenging bc most SAHP are moms. This is helpful for coordinating play dates, participating in Mommy & Me classes, Kindermusic, toddler gymnastics (moms do hands on participation in these classes—I don’t recall one dad). Then swim playdates with other SAHMs. Just seems easier for a SAHM to…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 08:35 PM
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OP—you mentioned being a SAHM and being hard working as mutually exclusive. How many times have you babysat a toddler and newborn for 11-12 hours straight? During these 11-12 hour babysitting sessions, did you clean, cook, and manage the household affairs? You must be more gifted with small children than me bc it was exhausting. Rewarding but exhausting. I had a lucrative career before becoming a SAHM, it was 100% harder work to SACRIFICE for my kids and stay at home raising them than my profess…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 04:28 PM
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I think there are three reasons why women would reject conventionally attractive men: 1) if he’s BORING -I’ve dated one model good looking guy and one model good looking guy liked me. Their personalities weren’t as fun. Women like to laugh, be stimulated mentally, but these guys were just kind of there. Didn’t have much presence besides their exceptional looks. I think extremely attractive women work much better for guys bc they are so visual. 🤷🏻‍♀️ 2) scared he might be a PLAYER/F*CK BOY -I hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 12:08 AM
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“and all hovering around average in terms of looks.” —This is the issue. Case closed. JK! 😆 I’ve noticed that women tend to overestimate how much guys value (are attracted to) their success, education, job, and income. Because women believe this, they may think they should be dating higher value men. I personally don’t believe in the marketplace approach to dating (I’m demisexual), but I have tried to understand it and this is how I see it. 🤷🏻‍♀️ When you are aiming above your league the results…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 04:48 AM
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How about the stepfather or mom’s new boyfriend NOT be an abuser?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 12:08 AM
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Men should pursue whoever they are interested in. But I think guys actually would want it all if possible. Not just a young, beautiful woman, but other qualities that they value too. I went on 4-5 dates with a guy in his mid 40s that I met through OLD. I’m 40F and he was all about having a trophy gf. His two ex gfs were in their 20s and early 30s, both had done modeling. He is really attractive physically, very fit/great body (he played a college sport), financially stable, successful, nice pers…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 04:39 AM
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What do you mean? I’m sorry I don’t understand?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 04:30 AM
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What do you mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 04:30 AM
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Yes, this is a major issue! I identify as a hybrid, 🤓 I grew up working class, very blue collar but then went to an elite college and professional school which seemed overrun with privileged kids. 🤣 Two of my STBXH’s college roommates went to the same boarding school as Mark Zuckerberg (arguably the best boarding school in the country and the highest degree Mark Zuckerberg obtained since he is a college drop out 😆). To say my childhood and their childhoods were different is a gross understatemen…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 11:48 PM
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Yes, this is it!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 11:08 PM
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Agree w/all of this!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 11:05 PM
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Agree completely. There is less natural interaction between SES groups now than there was in the past. Like before I feel like a legal secretary or paralegal would marry an attorney. Now it feels like two attorneys marry each other. I grew up blue collar, working class. I was the first person in my family to go to college. First person in my family to have a passport. My family lived paycheck to paycheck. I know what government cheese & PB tastes like (although my single mom was too prideful for…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 11:02 PM
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“You're not wrong, but I'm simply adapting to the modern dating market. Even wholesome women find these traits attractive, so it doesn't hurt. Falling into the 6,6,6 just opens doors for me. But yes, it is mainly for me, the dating benefits will be the cherry on top.” —you will have more dating options w/ the 6, 6, 6. These really don’t matter to me, but I am really different. 🦄 Sometimes I wish I did care about them bc that would be easier to find Vs finding a true soul level connection. “Ehh, …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 04:46 PM
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My one gf told me she has a crazy friend that says she’s done with the 6, 6, 6 and now she’s doing the 6, 7, 8! 🤦🏻‍♀️🤣🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 11:00 PM
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That’s funny, I feel like my marriage was short and a failure. 🤣 Perspective is interesting. I think the 6, 6, 6 is terrible. It’s the devil’s number for a reason. 😆 Greed, vanity, lust. 👎 I would focus less on developing yourself for your ability to attract hot, boring women and more for your personal growth/development. It sounds so cheesy, but being the best version of you will attract the most options. It’s kind of what I did. One of the reasons I think many guys are interested in me is that…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 07:52 AM
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I agree with this. For some reason it’s the hot women that can become really crappy people, like ugly on the inside (not all of course). Mean Girls, while a fictional movie, does resonate. Some hot women can be like bullies, mean spirited, make fun of people to their face & behind their backs, use people, have low integrity, and be disloyal. I guess it’s the guys fault 🤣, the mean girls are just so attractive, enough guys will still want them. This will make them popular and powerful. And they d…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 05:56 AM
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Haha, yes, you called it! 🦄 Married almost 14 years. We were friends for 6 years prior to dating. And a couple weeks prior to dating my STBXH a guy asked me out but I was shy back then and declined. He told me how he was going to move to LA and pursue acting. And of course, he became a famous actor! 🤦🏻‍♀️ I’m happy for him though, when I see his interviews 🫠, he seems like he’s the same genuine guy. I have two big irrational fears: 1) being used for sex 2) getting stuck in a dead bedroom marriag…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 05:33 AM
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I agree that looks reign supreme, especially for guys—they all want a beautiful, youthful, hot woman. I’m 40F, but look a lot younger, people mostly tell me I look late 20s. Some people tell me early 20s and I don’t know what kind of agenda they have. 🤣 I have accepted the idea that I look a lot younger than my age bc teenagers approach me or compliment my looks (cringe I know, try being on the receiving end of it 😳🤦🏻‍♀️). Most common demographic to approach me or indicate interest in me is late…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 04:54 AM
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I hope that’s true, bc I’m boring but people find me hot. OP is saying he doesn’t want boring though, that is a large part of it for him?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 03:59 AM
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It depends on the couple. Sex frequency does decrease after marriage or the newness of any relationship wears off. I think both people should be wildly attracted to one another. This will keep the relationship alive. Also it is important to make sure the two people are sexually compatible and have similar drives. I’m 40F, strangers and random people tell me I’m really hot/pretty (conventionally attractive). I also am very high drive and demisexual (need connection before I feel attraction). Here…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 12:27 AM
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Thanks so much for this reply. What a cute story! Crazy coincidence that you moved so close to him. Happy to hear this story! 💜
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 04:03 AM
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It sounds like you found your special connection! That’s awesome! Could you elaborate on what the instant mutual click feels like? Not like finishing each other’s sentences right? But is it like, no way, me too! Or is it an energy feel? I’m sorry, I’m crazy. 🤪 I firmly believe in a special connection (kind of like a soulmate), but I’m pretty nervous that I will miss the signs if I come across him. I already failed at marriage once. I would only want to do it again if it was my person.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 02:49 AM
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That’s amazing! Would you be willing to share how you met? How you know he/she is your soul mate? Anything that felt different? Thank you! Happy for you!!! 💜
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 02:42 AM
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Awesome reply!!!! Thanks so much for sharing all of this! 💜
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 07:10 AM
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OMG! Thank you for sharing! 💜 Such a beautiful story! I have been saying what your story affirms. You won’t find your soulmate/person/special connection when you are looking for him/her. I think it will just be random chance. Like your paths cross, are intrigued by each other, and find this special, unexplainable connection! Did you guys know pretty quickly that there was something different about your connection? Are you guys together? 🫶🏼 It feels like people don’t believe in true love anymore,…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 01:29 AM
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Thanks for this comment. Could you please share the experience that changed your mind about the “one”?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 10:28 PM
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Hi fellow Unicorn 🦄! I like your username too! 😍 I don’t drink alcohol but besides that, we are definitely twinning! 💜 Great question: —I’ve never dated a demi before. I am open to it, just haven’t had that experience. I didn’t realize I was demi until prob 4-5 years ago when my STBXH said to me, there’s this thing called demisexual, some famous celebrity daughter came out as it, I think you have that. When I looked into it, it made a ton of sense to me. It would be pretty challenging for me to …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 11:46 PM
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AGREE! We are trying to spread awareness here! 🤣 I am sorry to joke around about it, it’s really not funny…it ends up ruining a ton of marriages and breaks apart families. 😢 I know some people mentioned resentment as a contributing factor for DB. I could see that. My STBXH really mistreated and disrespected me, I grew to resent him, but we still had sex frequently. It made me feel more connected to him and I just love sex. 🫠 Basically depending on the person, if they feel connected and love sex,…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 02:35 AM
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This is REALLY SWEET. 💜 Please let her know what a great job she does as much as you can.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 12:28 AM
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Haha, you know what’s so funny, very recently one of my gfs was telling me about her sister and her husband and how their sex life is better now (they’ve been married a long time) and how they have sex all the time. She is very open and has fun talking about these types of things. She is like my sister always looks like she’s glowing and so happy—prob bc she’s getting laid all the time. 🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 10:53 PM
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Haha, yes. A couple waiting until marriage to have sex would expect an increase of sex frequency post marriage—I hope! 😆 For your sister is the sex better AND more frequent? Normally frequency decreases with marriage. With long term partners, I think sex quality improves if communication is strong, as you get more and more comfortable with one another, and the love grows.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 10:22 PM
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Thank you so much for posting this! I’ve never heard about lesbian bed death before! So is it just a testosterone/hormonal issue that generally accounts for drive differences?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 09:26 PM
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This is the craziest thought process to me…that after you get married the sex frequency will increase. That is wild to think this way.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 09:21 PM
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Agree, well put.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 02:07 PM
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Absolutely agree with this distinction. It is wholly dependent on whether your spouse CANNOT VS WILL NOT have sex with you. One situation there is no choice involved, the other there is choice involved. Huge difference. I am very high drive. I’ve had sex thousands of times (did not keep track, just an estimate) in LTRs/marriage. If my spouse was in an accident and wasn’t able to have sex with me for the rest of our lives, I feel confident that I could go without it. Do I love it? Yes. Is my comm…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 09:49 PM
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Thank you so much! 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 09:20 PM
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Agree with your two reasons. I’ve been downvoted a lot, but I welcome differing views that are insightful. Im open to compelling, well laid out, logical arguments—please don’t attack me personally. I feel like I’m in a unique position bc I’m high drive, demisexual (sex is really special to me and I see it as a way to connect and feel close with my partner, not just something to satisfy horniness), and I’m a woman. I think in a marriage you do owe the other person the following regarding sex: Goo…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 04:23 PM
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💜🦄
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 01:24 PM
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I was referring to your original comment. That spoke about how you think people who aren’t having sex with their partner for whatever reason are worse than invalidating your partners emotional needs and call people who don’t want to open their marriages selfish. That’s not very kind. This is an incorrect summary of my comment that you interpreted on your own--feel free to revisit it. I absolutely think there are valid reasons where one partner is unable to have sex or it is painful or unhealthy …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 03:39 AM
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Thanks for this reply, makes a lot of sense! What changed in terms of your luck with girls? That is an exciting time for you! :)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 01:50 AM
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I think my comment was authentic and real. I am a HUMAN BEING and accordingly operate as one. I have feelings and it is HUMAN NATURE to not repay meanness with kindness. This is basic human psychology. You gave me the “dislike the person without knowing anything about her energy.” That's the same energy that some women that automatically dislike beautiful women for the mere fact that they are beautiful have...that's why I mentioned it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 01:44 AM
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Thanks for the reply. I wouldn't have guessed "flair", maybe not even in a multiple choice question, haha. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 01:33 AM
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I like you! Your avatar, username, caption beneath it (is that what it’s called 🤔), and your energy. 🤩
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 12:56 AM
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Wow, I think that was an uncalled for and mean spirited comment. 🥺 I’m sure if you knew what I looked like, you would dislike me (A STRANGER) even more. 😒
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 12:32 AM
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“He would sit on his fat ass and watch me struggle to lift something that was obvious too heavy for me” I’m sorry you went through this. That’s tough! 😔. ⬆️ This has to be one of the fastest ways to turn me and I’m assuming many women off because: 1) I would be questioning the guy’s physical strength, he doesn’t need to be a power lifter or anything, but he should be stronger than me. He should utilize that strength in these scenarios. 2) Literally having you do the heavy lifting. Very symbolic.…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 12:19 AM
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Yes of course that is an oversimplification of speed! 😉Soccer is tricky to judge speed since it’s short intense bursts of running, oftentimes while dribbling. I think it’s fair to say all the soccer players we watch on tv are fast. I would guess top 10% of the general population (same age and same gender comparison, with maybe a few outliers). I agree there is a range of speeds between the players, some are much faster than others (how else would you sort out the strikers and backs 🤪). The socce…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 12:04 AM
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A lean athletic muscular build is the hottest IMO. It is the hardest to achieve I believe. Some people can be lean, but very minimal muscle. Other people can be very muscular, but not very lean (higher body fat %, maybe a bit bulky). The gold standard is BOTH lean and muscular. I was researching some conditioning exercises for my son and one coach said he had never seen someone who was lean and muscular who was slow. The implication being that lean + muscular = fast 💨. I agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 11:40 PM
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Confidence and charisma are huge! These are universally attractive. It elevates both men and women’s perceived attractiveness. Probably more for men, but helps for women too.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 11:32 PM
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I agree that women generally care more about face than body. I believe men are the same way for a LTR. For a hook up or casual then men care more about body and less about face.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 11:30 PM
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True statement!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 11:27 PM
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I actually STRONGLY prefer athleticism to a bunch of disproportionate muscle. I am different though bc I started fitness bc of wanting to be more knowledgeable and capable with the body so I could help my kids with their sports.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 11:22 PM
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Yes, we do. I’m demisexual too (need an emotional connection before I’m able to feel attraction to someone). I think women, including myself, can have trouble accepting the idea that we care about looks bc it feels shallow perhaps. Personally if other qualities are really special, like his personality, leadership qualities, intelligence, how he makes me feel, etc. He can be below average for the face and I will think he’s handsome (this might be a demi thing?). Body is trickier for me bc I love …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 11:20 PM
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Hate the setting the other person up as the bad guy. IMO the sex withholding spouse is the bad guy! There can be health issues, hormonal issues, mental health issues, past traumas, etc, but it is imperative that the extremely low libido person is willing to do the work to address the issue. Not just dismiss the other person’s normal, healthy desires bc they have the sex seeking spouse’s love and commitment.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 04:19 PM
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Agree! I’m a woman and high drive. Sex is an ESSENTIAL part of a marriage relationship. Every other aspect of a marital relationship can be OUTSOURCED besides this. I personally hate when the sex rejecting partner makes the other partner the bad guy bc she is being “hounded for sex.” To me, that is worse than a spouse disregarding/invalidating the other spouse’s emotional needs (again bc you cannot outsource this). Oftentimes when I see spouses exasperated by a dead bedroom situation, the sex se…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 04:04 PM
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I have heard this sentiment expressed by two YouTubers I really respect. It makes total sense to me as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 04:42 AM
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Another question haha 😂. What’s the difference between relationship = she’s hot + get along + want to have sex w her and the criteria for being sex zoned?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 04:14 PM
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I agree with you! Even older men can be like your last sentence! When I didn’t want to go on a second date or continue talking to some guys that were my age or older, I sometimes would mention that I want a special connection and it was difficult for them to accept—they would say, but we are starting a special connection (that’s not the exact wording they used, but the gist of it). Guys seem to take a more simplified, logical approach to what they are looking for in a relationship = I find you h…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 03:06 PM
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Thanks for the reply! Is there a worse one? Like a pick your poison situation. I’m a very curious/inquisitive person. I love learning about the guy/girl differences. 🤓 I have learned so much from Reddit 😂 Yes, this is my impression too.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 02:32 PM
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Ahhh, I see. Thanks for the clarification. 😊 I think some of them would have probably accepted just FWBs if I had to guess, not sure. I think they would have preferred a romantic relationship though. Ohhh—I have two questions: 1) is it harder to be rejected from a hook up/FWB proposition or romantic relationship proposition for guys? 2) will guys typically go for FWBs even if they want a full on relationship (if the girl only offers/accepts FWBs)?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 02:22 PM
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I would be extra repulsed by friends wanting to hook up sometimes. That is not a friend then, that is a casual hook up partner? I can’t do sexual intimacy without it being in the context of a committed, exclusive relationship. I couldn’t even multidate (and there wasn’t even kissing). Hmm—what do you mean friends as pure sexual partners? Like FWB? I’ve never had that before and know myself well enough that it wouldn’t be a good fit for me. I would have strong feelings involved and would be setti…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 02:00 PM
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Haha, yes, a lot of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 03:42 AM
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😂😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 09:20 PM
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So funny, “even then the older men will likely have ulterior motives.” 🤣🤣🤣 I do think if I gained a significant amount of weight that would help. This is creepy but even guys younger than guys in their 20s like my looks apparently. My son’s old teammate (I think they were 11 years old at the time) told his mom that I was the most beautiful person (I’m not!) and that he wants a wife that looks like me. Earlier this summer an 18/19 year old boy told me I was really beautiful when I was getting cus…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 06:47 AM
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Yea that doesn’t sound like a real friendship though. Sounds like one person using another person under the guise of “friendship”. One thing I think guys don’t realize…some guys are very persistent in giving things/special treatment. For example, this was years ago, but my hometown basketball 🏀 team made it to the finals. This guy really liked me but I liked him as just a friend and communicated this to him. I did enjoy talking to him when I saw him, he was really smart and funny. Anyways he bou…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 06:22 AM
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Thank you for the advice! I appreciate it! Yes to number one—this really helps, but I’m going through a divorce right now, so not sure how viable it will be for me. My STBXH didn’t like me having guy friends so I slow faded from them. 😢 As our marriage got worse and worse I stopped caring to accommodate his feelings that way. I’m 40 right now, how old are we talking? 😂I am really fortunate and look a lot younger than my age though, most people think late 20s. Most common demographic to hit on me…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 04:39 AM
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This is a great topic post! I appreciate you posting it OP! :) I would like to discuss the actual subject matter and have no intention whatsoever of attacking you personally. I'm not sure where to start. Hmm, I'm 40F and have always had many guys interested in me since I was a little girl (elementary school classmates when I was little). I am conventionally attractive, hot face + hot body--please don't downvote me for saying that, I only include this information bc of its relevancy. I am also de…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 11:25 PM
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Thank you so much for the kind words and cake 🍰 day wishes!! 😊 I think it’s beautiful that you are doing self work and have great self awareness and introspection. That’s high level shit. Every single person is getting uglier every day they live here on Earth 🌍. A person’s outside shell is so unimportant in the grand scheme of things. Right now even young teen boys find me attractive (super creepy and I wish this wasn’t the case) and guys in their late 20s are the most common demographic to hit …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 08:26 AM
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Agree with all of this! The ugly guy who has low market value is so angry, he is not treated well or ignored by the world generally. He typically wants other people to share in his misery. He rationalizes his behavior because he feels so bad about himself (when you feel so bad it’s hard to care about other people’s feelings…). He also typically wants to prove his desirability by sleeping with more women (the thinking is overly simplistic: higher body count = more desirable). A lot of older women…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 12:17 AM
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Personally I’m 40F and look in the 25-65 age range. I really value connection and am demisexual.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 03:47 AM
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Love fivethirtyeight’s content. Smart to look at each gender’s masterbation rates for comparison. So many issues with the data though—I assume this is self reporting. There’s more of a stigma for women. Porn is very visual which is more sexually stimulating for men, therefore maybe more likely for men to watch. I feel like a very very high libido person based on these stats. 😳😳😳
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 08:29 AM
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Agree!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 03:33 AM
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After I started working out it did increase my confidence mostly bc I felt more athletic and capable with my body. I wear tight, revealing work out clothes, a sports bra and shorts, but not to show off my body. It is very hot where I live and I sweat a lot. Clothes that are flush against my body perform the best for me, especially if I’m doing any kind of jumping or HIIT/plyo. I like having my midriff, shoulders, and knees exposed, I am better able to check my form that way. These are truly the …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 03:32 PM
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Great question! Would love to hear from the guys. Most of my ex bfs and STBXH had girls that they wouldn’t make a gf, but were good hooking up with (so I assume they found them attractive). They never approached me like that (hook up only, no official commitment) and honestly I wasn’t even considering that as possibility. Maybe the way you carry yourself and your expectations influences it. Also I always had a lot of guys interested in me, so plenty of options. My exes pretty much always initiat…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 08:44 PM
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Of course. Did you see my comment above? Here it is: “Insecurities are loud, confidence is quiet. Younger people look better than older people on average, for both men and women. I say that we all are getting uglier every day, haha. It just is what it is. I think on average women look physically the best in their 20s, probably early to mid 20s. I think men look physically the best mid to late 20s. It makes sense to me that men would find women in their 20s physically the most attractive. I think…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 10:45 PM
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Insecurities are loud, confidence is quiet. People's anger bc of their own lack of success with dating and relationships is too much on Reddit. I've personally felt guys celebrating the IDEA of my hitting a wall like it's some type of personal achievement for them. I do not get how that brings someone joy...if someone can explain it to me, I would appreciate it. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 09:19 PM
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Insecurities are loud, confidence is quiet. Younger people look better than older people on average, for both men and women. I say that we all are getting uglier every day, haha. It just is what it is. I think on average women look physically the best in their 20s, probably early to mid 20s. I think men look physically the best mid to late 20s. It makes sense to me that men would find women in their 20s physically the most attractive. I think it can be problematic, sometimes predatory, when olde…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 09:18 PM
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Women are afforded the privilege of being able to be shy or insecure. -Agree with this, I'm a big time beneficiary of this, thank God I'm a woman. So… do you think women can be too dismissive of the dating problems of socially awkward men, given that many women are socially awkward themselves? -These are women that lack self awareness, but yes, that is out of touch. I will link comments that addresses this issue. https://www.reddit.com/r/Vindicta/comments/14bat3m/comment/jof5zow/?utm_source=shar…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 03:51 AM
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I’m sorry, I’m older, I don’t follow/understand all the words. 😂 No more wall?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 08:05 AM
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I wouldn’t even give it that long. 😉 I’m just trying to take it day by day—who knows how long this ride lasts? It’s just my outside shell and not the best parts of me. 💜 So far for life, no matter what I do, it feels like I’m defined by my looks. It is terrifying to think of losing pretty privilege, but perhaps I will enjoy being defined by something integral to my identity that hasn’t ever received (wide) recognition before. 🦋
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 05:28 AM
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40F. I didn’t know what hitting the brick wall was? Is that how you say it? 😂 I’m old. It hasn’t happened for me yet. 🙏🏼 Teenage boys still check me out (I don’t like it) and one told me I was very beautiful a few weeks ago. https://www.reddit.com/r/Vindicta/comments/14bat3m/guide_to_knowing_if_youre_pretty_or_not/jof2qhl/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_content=1&utm_term=1&context=3 https://www.reddit.com/r/Vindicta/comments/14bat3m/guide_to_knowing_if_youre_pretty_or_n…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 03:44 AM
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40F here, entirely dependent on how you age and how you carry yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 03:39 AM
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Interesting take. I’m not a 10/10 beauty and I haven’t had < 5 sexual partners. Maybe there is wiggle room with these criteria since wealthy men have pursued me in the past. 😂 I agree that women are perceived to have less value if she has a higher body count. I totally disagree about a man having more sexual partners and women perceiving his value to increase bc of this. I think this is a somewhat common belief among some (younger) guys. At least for me, a high body count in a guy is very off pu…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 08:36 PM
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I appreciate your response, I'm glad it was kind and not aggressive where I would just keep presenting more and more evidence of how special I am, haha, how insufferable is that? I mean it was already pretty insufferable, but I did say determination was one of my best qualities. I am in the U.S. I am not a white woman, I'm a racial minority. I sound so gassed on myself sometimes, it's all true, I'm a terrible liar. Sometimes I forget how unique my life experience has been. It's been a wild ride.…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 08:09 AM
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AGREE. Genuineness and loyalty are timeless.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 06:59 AM
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I’m 40F, I have close friends as young as 19 and as old as 63. My close friends are diverse in every way—education, race, religion, profession, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 06:58 AM
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PART 2 OF 2: I also put myself through professional school and graduated cum laude. I started fitness pretty late in life, around 35 yo (I'm 40). I started it bc my kids were being asked to join these different competitive and travel teams and I didn't have a sports background (didn't have an opportunity to play sports growing up). I told myself I needed to become knowledgeable about fitness and the body so I could help my kids with their sports. I would do challenging fitness classes where I co…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 06:28 AM
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PART 1 OF 2: I'm disappointed with your comment...most likely not for the reason you are assuming though. Not because you didn't buy all the things I was selling, haha. But because ALL the things you wrote, I've thought and considered before. There wasn't anything new or insightful for me to learn (I just legit love learning). ☹️ --I mean, if you want someone who apparently is in the top 1% of best men out there, why should he want you? Apparently I am a high value woman and/or total package. I …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 06:25 AM
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Really? That seems like too low of criteria for some reason? I feel like a lot of women might meet this standard? I guess how beautiful are we talking? How low of body count? 😂 How would a wealthy guy be able to tell how many sexual partners a woman’s had though?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 02:42 AM
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Exactly! I guess having more, makes you want more. That's why I think it's toxic to just be chasing money (chase passions, work hard, you will make a lot of money), you will end up being very cheap and greedy. My MIL's partner is very high net worth, I would guess $15-20M and he is so cheap, he will let having to pay for parking (I get it, it does suck) ruin the evening. I would rather be poorer and not like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 10:27 PM
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Great comment. AGREE!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 09:44 PM
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I have met some that are incredibly greedy and cheap. Extremely off-putting given the amount of wealth they have (this is for men and women I know). I have met others that give me the impression that they want arm candy. Beautiful house, beautiful car, beautiful luxury items, and of course you need a beautiful woman to have the whole image package. All those types are huge turn offs to me too.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 09:41 PM
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Your post has made me so curious...what are the qualities that wealthy men look for in a woman for a serious relationship? What does everyone think?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 09:39 PM
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Oh I can have it all. ;) We should do an update me for 2-3 years from now. Haha. And I will be an unemployed single mom very soon. I do not view it as the Scarlett letter other people view it as though. I guess to generally address your points--there is a time and place for everything. I'm definitely looking for a more nuanced approach than the way you presented it. Strong to me is being a good leader, when there is a problem the guy taking the responsibility to solve it, I will fully participat…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 07:47 PM
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Agree with this, but I think guys can be flexible with any set criteria they have in their mind? Dependent upon how much they like the person. For example, a guy I went out on some dates with normally dates younger and not moms. He actually likes trophy gfs. But he seemed pretty into me and continued to ask me out after we realized what we wanted didn’t sync up.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 04:43 PM
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Agree, it is very hard! The YouTuber Stephan Speaks discusses this idea throughout his videos. Love that guy!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 12:20 PM
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“What a woman will tell you women want: a kind, empathetic, vulnerable man who is good at communicating What women actually want: an assertive, masculine man with his shit together who can playfully tease her, take her on fun dates, and fuck her silly” —I want all of that. They aren’t mutually exclusive qualities IMO.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 05:37 AM
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There are plenty if you have the qualities they like. I think I have some of those qualities, but I’m not even sure what qualities those are. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 05:27 AM
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Interesting word choice of “settle” for men who are not super rich. Picking a partner is multi faceted for everyone. Even the shallowest man will pick the beautiful woman with a nicer personality than the beautiful one with an unkind personality. I feel like this question is like asking why doesn’t everyone get the most fuel efficient car possible. While from a purely economic sense this type of car would be best, but maybe other considerations like enjoying the ride, comfortability, safety feat…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 05:22 AM
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That’s awesome you found someone you connected deeply with. Glad to hear it. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 04:04 AM
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While I see some of what you're saying, being a demi woman (40) is not so dreamy, haha. A lot of times I think it would easier if I were allo. I have some complicated things going on though: 1) I'm demi 2) Guys find me conventionally attractive 3) I have a very high libido, so I need a guy that is going to wait a long time until I can form attraction to him, invest in me emotionally without having a physically relationship, and then after I feel the connection, I want to have sex with him all th…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 07:39 PM
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While I see some of what you're saying, being a demi woman (40) is not so dreamy, haha. A lot of times I think it would be easier if I were allo. I have some complicated things going on though: 1) I'm demi 2) Guys find me conventionally attractive 3) I have a very high libido, so I need a guy that is going to wait a long time until I can form attraction to him, invest in me emotionally without having a physical relationship, and then after I feel the connection, I want to have sex with him all t…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 07:39 PM
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I guess that gives you something to think about! 😉 I used to think we need to be the same if we are going to be equal. My views changed. I don’t want a dependency, I want a true partnership, but someone has to have the tie breaking decision making power and accept the responsibility and consequences of that power. With great power comes great responsibility. I am looking for a great man that I can trust to lead me. Someone who is worthy of being followed, not just any old joker. 😂 I will support…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 03:41 AM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/14esmrz/comment/joxn48r/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 03:10 AM
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Do you find you have difficultly with common reference points with people from similar upbringings or the people you date now? I feel like I have challenges in both ways, haha. I was talking to a friend who was raised a lot differently than me and very similarly to the way my kids have been raised (heavy on the privilege and opportunities) and his framework of asking me about something from my teenage years was totally in the wrong universe. I actually said, we grew up very differently. I got a …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 03:09 AM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/14esmrz/comment/joxn48r/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 02:58 AM
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The younger girl in the emergency is the child of the man who had the heart attack and it would have been traumatizing for her to witness everything happening to her dad. My friend is an adult woman who told me the story. That story will always be so attractive to me. I am not a child mentally. I basically came from nothing, I had a mean alcoholic ex-felon stepdad and dysfunctional home life. We were around a lot of addiction and poor decision making. Nobody was investing in our futures. I had t…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 02:42 AM
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I most definitely want my guy to treat me like I'm special and I want to treat him like he's special too. I am pretty new to the ideas of masculine energy and feminine energy but I am very smart and from what I do know about it, the man being the protector and provider tracks with the way I've learned it. There was this very attractive guy that I was talking to, he was younger than me and had this exceptional body, very muscular and lean (prob like 3-5% body fat). He constantly was trying to imp…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 01:19 AM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/14esmrz/comment/joxn48r/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 05:47 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/140vx75/comment/jmy5h6m/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 05:46 PM
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Unless a man plays the roles of provider and payer of dates, he is not valued. This is masculinity IMO and pretty much all the women I know want and are attracted to a masculine man. Some guys may want to opt out of this and have the woman be the masculine energy in the relationship but they are setting themselves up for the relationship to fail IMO. That woman in her masculine energy is going to lose respect for her feminine energy man. Hopefully a masculine energy man doesn't show interest in …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 05:45 PM
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Edited this post: The sweeping generalization of this post is incredible. 🫠 I stopped working a very lucrative career bc I only saw my son an hour a day on the weekdays. My mom who would have been the very involved, committed grandparent died a few months after he was born. She was in her mid 50s. We had a live in nanny. One time my son escaped the baby gate as a toddler to go look for her. While it hurt me as a mom, it made sense. When my second child was born I knew what choice I had to make. …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 03:46 PM
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Thank you for this! That's nice about the high value woman, I assumed it was a good thing based on context and something like what you said. I feel like the way it was used was something like you have a lot of interest/options and being a total package. One guy told me I didn't know how to use my hotness, LMAO. Overwhelming majority of the terms on this sidebar I've never heard before.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 01:11 AM
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Ohhhh! You’re helping me learn—thank you! :) I didn’t realize there are separate categories. I agree with you for a guy his personality/game and looks (+ styling) affect his SMV the most. Yes, income would be more important for RMV. Personality too. Are there any other ones? 😂. Guys kept telling me I was a high value woman, is that related to these concepts? I wish I was kidding asking.🫠 I tried to look it up, but there were all kinds of different traits. Like what’s the common way people use it…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 12:43 AM
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Ahhh, I see. Is this mostly looks for women and looks & career/income for men?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 12:20 AM
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What's low smv?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 11:18 PM
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I feel like you changed your stance on this or it became more nuanced perhaps. I hope my comments played a role in that. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 06:17 AM
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Agree!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 07:51 PM
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As a woman who has carried 2 children, I absolutely disagree. Maybe your body is the same or better 🤯🤯🤯 after your pregnancies but mine is ABSOLUTELY not the same—is this the case for you? Please share your secrets on how your body has stayed the same or improved? Is this common for all the women in your family?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 01:59 PM
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Interesting to think this way. I’m 40F and originally come from a lower SES background (very blue collar, mom cleaned houses, first person in my family to go to college, I know what govt cheese & PB tastes like), went to an elite college, and professional school though. I feel like I’m some sort of hybrid when it comes to SES. 🤔I’m going through a divorce right now, but my husband is from a very successful, prestigious, highly educated family. My in laws spent millions on my husband and his sibl…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 07:23 AM
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That makes sense to me. Plus the pregnancies & births, it is so demanding on a woman’s body.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 06:18 AM
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Same body fat %, that’s impressive! It’s so hard to just gain muscle and no additional fat in over 15+ years. Their bodies and faces just look better for guys and girls. I think your body starts declining and you automatically lose muscle at age 30 right? Maybe some women have an older, more mature looking face preference for guys—it wouldn’t surprise me if they associate all those other favorable older guy qualities I mentioned before with that look.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 05:51 AM
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Yea I think I benefit from the population distribution curve that way. 😂 In talking to my therapist about it, my looks have been pretty constant, but they are almost more beneficial in a sense now bc I have a more youthful look and am fit. Both harder to come by at 40 than at 25.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 05:33 AM
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Age is not why your looks are improving. FITNESS is why your looks are improving. If you did the same fitness efforts in your 20s, better body back then than the one you have now. It is what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 05:30 AM
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And I promise you I am not offended at all with you thinking mid to late 20s women are the most attractive. I agree with this. Most people guess my age as late 20s. So maybe I’m biased that way. Perhaps. I’m 40F but have gotten hit on by so many mid to late 20s, very attractive, super fit guys, that were collegiate athletes. This is by far the most common demographic to hit on me. I also am secure in knowing that people find me conventionally attractive. I guess I would ask myself if maybe your …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 05:26 AM
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I think we are saying the same thing. There is definitely decline for men in 25-50 age range, but it doesn’t seem as severe as it is for women. I think it’s very coincidental that the age range you like fit into the best looking ages for female and you fall into the UPPER age range of your best looking age for males.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 05:19 AM
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I think guys look best from a purely aesthetic perspective mid to late 20s. Early 20s still looks too kiddish to me. I think men age better in an aesthetic sense in their 30s and 40s. Their looks don’t decline as rapidly. Maybe the different hormones. Not carrying the babies and birthing them too. But overall you take the average guy’s 25, 35, and 45 year olds fit body, the 25 is superior, then 35, then 45. Women too.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 05:05 AM
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I’m sorry, but there is WAY MORE grace and tolerance for less than ideal physical looks for men than there is for women. The emphasis and importance placed on women’s physical looks far exceeds that placed on men.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 04:59 AM
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I will send you a message. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/23 01:56 AM
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AWW THANK YOU! That’s such a huge compliment. ☺️ I enjoyed talking with you too. I appreciate your willingness to listen. I know that can be challenging for a high conviction person (I am one myself). I can tell you’re a formidable debater and I appreciate that. Even though we are on the same team, haha. 😂 I’ve been blessed with this crazy mix of life experiences, insane really—sometimes I wonder, what is it all for God, why? What do you want me to do with it? Make comments on Reddit I guess…🫠 P…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/23 01:19 AM
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Fair enough, I did not see that perspective. Great ownership, that's awesome. :) There are complicated factors going into gender identity and I will avoid going into those here. Yeah Stephen Speaks is pretty good. Uhhh, STRONG DISAGREE--he is amazing! So impressed by him. Vetting potential partners is very important. No one is perfect though. People are flawed and will disappoint you, it's our nature. I could go on to respond to your long comment; but you get the idea, and I get yours. Greater u…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/23 12:56 AM
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Also, sorry to write a novel, haha. I really doubt you are an abuser. Such a flattering compliment I know! The reason being is that you are very transparent about what you are looking for and your expectations in a partner. The abusers I know are the "nicest guys", not saying you aren't nice. But abuse is typically well hidden. It starts off more suggestive with the controlling behaviors and escalates over time. Your behavior just seems like you know what you want and are high conviction about i…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/23 12:14 AM
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Here’s my other comment on a different thread: https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/140vx75/girl_is_not_paying_for_anything/jmy5h6m/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_content=1&utm_term=1&context=3
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/23 12:09 AM
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Oh yea for sure I got downvoted, it definitely strikes a nerve and I really get it. I've had this incredible set of diverse life experiences, so I can see their perspective really well. I've actually thought like that before. :) So I have experienced trauma firsthand and had a good amount of experiences with a lot of men who chose not to lead, they were weak, cowardly, immature, etc. I definitely don't believe I went to my masculine energy bc I was desiring a masculine man, a lot of these things…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/23 12:06 AM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/143uo8i/im_a_very_ambitious_careerdriven_guy_is_it/jnev0q1/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_content=1&utm_term=1&context=3
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 11:09 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/143uo8i/im_a_very_ambitious_careerdriven_guy_is_it/jnd44nv/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_content=1&utm_term=1&context=3
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 11:07 PM
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Yea people are going to find what you are saying offensive and controversial. I agree that traditional values get shit on. It’s so counter culture, but the culture isn’t that great if we are all honest about it…Part of my subscription to traditional values is my religion/faith. I think if I didn’t have that, I wouldn’t feel as secure in wanting a traditional relationship. I think deep down I would still want that though. I realized I’m happiest in my feminine energy. Like I can feel it in my sou…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 11:01 PM
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A lot of the things you’ve said I agree with you in principle. I think some people might dislike your delivery of it. There are controlling and abusive guys and girls that share these sentiments but I trust in my ability to decipher between healthy and unhealthy now. A lot depends on the actual dynamic involved and how they are executed. I prefer if the guy is the leader, but not in a dictator way. He doesn’t exploit his power for his own personal benefit, he makes the best decision for the team…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 10:50 PM
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Yes, this. Sex is the only thing you can’t delegate/outsource in a romantic relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 01:24 PM
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That’s crazy to me. For me as a woman, I want it all, haha. The emotional connection being the most important. That drives the physical connection for me (I’m demisexual) and the best sex for me is the kind where you love each other, feel safe being vulnerable with one another, trust each other, focus on each other’s pleasure, are really into it/enthusiastic, really desire each other, and really are able to communicate with one another.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 01:23 PM
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Those ladies are having some fun & pleasure! I think a lot of it is the guy having masculine qualities! Those are great in the bedroom AND even BETTER IRL. Some ladies don’t mind a guy who aimlessly goes through life without confidence, passion, and purpose, but that is a major turn off to me. I personally wouldn’t be into the sex if his life is a complete mess due to his decisions and actions, no matter how hot he is, what physical capabilities, skills, and confidence he has in the bedroom.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 01:15 PM
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I see, that’s what I thought you were potentially getting at, but didn’t want to assume. Totally understand wanting to be believed—I have a pretty silly example of this. I used to be painfully shy. I would go out of my away to avoid strangers. But, I was typically pretty popular and social, like in community settings, like college, professional school, gym, youth sports for my kids, etc. That popularity was built by individual connections, people approaching me and their friendliness. I refused …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 08:51 AM
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Hmm, not sure if I follow. Some of the people I told had no idea, other people had an inclination. They all were able to respond like this. I think having very strong and genuine relationships helps. I think being an honest and principled person also helps. Honestly if someone tried to question me on it, like are you sure you didn’t get confused in how you experienced this…it would have impacted the relationship for me. Not necessarily dropping them, but definitely give that relationship less pr…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 08:27 AM
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I think you’re right that there is an underlying sexual aspect to this. I definitely like when my partner is more assertive, takes charge for sex, passionate, and really goes for it. It makes me feel really desired and more feminine. People like different things though. Personally I’m attracted to more masculine guys and those qualities translated into the sex I like best.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 07:55 AM
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I see how you could come to this conclusion, but I think it's conflating a lot of things. Overall, if you want a real connection and relationship, don't play games. If you play games and she is only responsive to those, then she has issues she needs to work on before being emotionally ready for something serious. If you turn someone off by being real and authentic, then that will save you time by ruling them out quickly and finding someone who is right for you and what you're looking for. Good l…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 06:09 AM
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I think part of it is that some of these toxic men also happen to have masculine energy. I think a lot of the women (barring unhealed trauma, needing to work through past dysfunction) are attracted to the masculine energy part.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 05:35 AM
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I agree that words like “abuse” and “narcissist” are used very loosely by the public at large. It’s unfortunate, but these are actual terms with definitions. Many women (and men) have experienced real abuse. I just feel so GRATEFUL that every one of my close friends and family members I confided in about the abuse I experienced never even gave the slightest iota of doubt or negating me in any way (like he’s such a nice guy, I’m so surprised—none of that shit). Just unequivocal support and TRUST …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 05:31 AM
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Oh wow. Thanks for such an honest reply! Attraction is a complicated thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 02:38 AM
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Haha, of course! It was a logical response, appreciated it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 02:12 AM
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That makes a lot of sense. Thanks for the reply! :) I’m just curious, I really love learning. I’m just fascinated by a lot of things!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 02:10 AM
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Is the lack of orgasm because you’re not attracted to them or is it a physical/mechanical issue?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 01:52 AM
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Interesting about somewhat demisexual. What makes you think you somewhat are? I need the emotional connection and the looks. And I don’t feel shallow about wanting the looks now. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 05:33 AM
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Agree with this!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 04:06 AM
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I used to think that wanting physical attraction in a relationship when everything else is good/exceptional was shallow. But a YouTuber I love said that it’s necessary in a relationship and I subscribe to that now. Physical attraction is a must. I’m demisexual so I think I’m used to not having physical attraction but starting to like someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 03:42 AM
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