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What about the last one who cared about you? Why wouldn’t you choose to li e and care about her? She was also loyal to you…. Even if you could not see or believe it and needed to tell yourself she wasn’t loyal and wasn’t good enough to be loved by you.
/r/ExRedPill09/09/24 10:20 PM
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Have you ever had these trust issues with other girls? Or just her….Were the other girls feelings also hurt by the suspicion or not? Do you have any issues trusting non-women as well? What if she broke things off just to break things off…. Without having any new guy in place? Would that also be tragic to you? Or would that kind of loss be acceptable even after your investment in the relationship, so long as there’s no other guy causing the leaving? Bc you know…. A woman could also leave just to …
/r/ExRedPill09/09/24 08:40 PM
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Really? You wouldn’t leave her? Can we ask you this again in 14 or 15 months, after the novelty is further gone? What is the thing about her that makes you so dedicated, anyway? Is it just the loyalty? Haven’t you ever been with anyone else before who had not eyes for another?
/r/ExRedPill09/09/24 08:27 PM
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Maybe she is just playing the “hurt feelings card” to try to blame shift it back on you… make you drop your vigil so she can get away with some deed? Seen it played that way more than once.
/r/ExRedPill09/09/24 08:23 PM
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“All these redpills”…. Omfg! I effing love it! Can you be my new Reddit bestie? -still getting over my ex who was sadly “one of the them”
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 08:16 PM
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Siighhhhh I tried all that (reasonable convos and understanding)… back when we were still together. He went through a divorce b4 me. Got screwed financially. I feel for that… but I didn’t do it to him. Any attempt at reasonable conversation would inevitably lead to him blowing his top, changing the object of the discussion, talking in circles, and eventually leaving and blocking my number for weeks. Meanwhile he would quote the dogma of those sites the way a bible beater quotes scripture, also m…
/r/ExRedPill15/01/23 04:49 AM
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Why? Because men are not exactly seeking a woman who is 4’8”, 320 lbs, with a face full of bad skin, somehow still flat chested, the voice of a bleating goat, zero potential for employability, the personality of wet cardboard, size 14 feet full of bunions, brown-grey crooked teeth, and a tail. Now maybe one or two fellas would actually LIKE to date a gal with an actual tail but they are talking about a pretensile monkey tail and this unfortunate lady had a full whisping broom of horse hair sort …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 12:22 PM
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Oh. Well then maybe she needs to put some dam clothes on.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 03:19 PM
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Nothing wrong with being educated or having a food career! Its just not good to obsess over those pursuits or to be pompous about it. Being a well rounded and kind person is way better than career obsessed any day no matter the gender.
/r/ExRedPill31/05/22 02:52 PM
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You are right. There are even dating apps for older women who want to date their own age and the older people/women are pairing up at better rates than the younguns!
/r/ExRedPill31/05/22 02:50 PM
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My mom’s advice to me as a teen: “beware of Roman hands and Russian fingers” and “if you ever come home pregnant I will KILL YOU” Her advice to me in my 20s: “well…. He sure seems like a real nice guy” (about ANY MAN within shouting distance of me… repairman, clerk at the local airport, waiter…. Anyone) In my 30s: “well just finish your graduate degree and get a good job then someone will come along and marry you” In my late 30s: “i don’t understand why you cant just FIND any man and get him to …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 02:44 PM
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Ok. Well you are entitled to your opinion but you do not know anything about me my situation etc. If you asked me a few years ago Id have had to agree that sure some of my male friends are orbiters who want to or would if given the chance sleep with me. Something happened that caused me to remove those “friendships” from my life. So no. I am not delusional. Something specifically happened that caused me to evaluate and pick those off. And yes you are correct. I AM hurting. You would be too if yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 02:19 PM
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Why dont you take her out drinking and dancing at a club and invite her friends along and some of your own so you all can have fun together instead of allowing the frat boys to be the only providers of the “let your hair down” venue she obviously wants to enjoy?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 02:15 PM
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Really? All the stuff u are saying is peeled right out of all the trp sites. So… if my male friends want to sleep w me so bad, then why haven’t they ever tried. Not talking about the ones who have tried and failed ( or tried and succeeded) Talking about the ones who in 10, 15, 20 years have never crossed the line. Really you are telling “young dudes” to stay away from the likes of me bc I am friends w a handful of people like that (and their wives if they managed to acquire one over the years)? …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 09:01 PM
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Ok. You win then, Im delusional that I have a few male friends in multi decade friendships and they happen to not want to sleep w me nor I them. Could never ever possibly happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 08:03 PM
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Lol! “Drag your sister INTO this”? Lolol! Nope. I will make no apology for illustrating my point. When my partner uses trp-tard mentality to say i may be “secretly in love w” my platonic friend? That makes me feel equally as skeeved out as you do now! It also made me beyond frustrated/bummed out bc I was so so so in love w my partner and not anyone else and he totally ruined the most amazing moments of my life w these jealous tirades and the constant reciting of “factoids” ripped from his “youtu…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 08:01 PM
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As I’ve stated numerous times in this discussion, yes. I am currently in a relationship. And before that I was married. And before that I was single by choice for a while and back then yea, I had both platonic male friends and orbiters. And suitors. And know the difference. Maybe some women don’t. But that is not my point. My point is that connections between the opposite sex which are not fueled by sexuality can and do exist. Im sorry that you have not found one yet. Btw, its not always the man…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 07:04 PM
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Well… I’m almost 50. So I am not “most women”. I am me. Id hope that by my age though? That “most women” (and men) have figured out the difference between a platonic friend and an orbiter aka prospective suitor. I am assuming that you are male? Do you have any friends who are female that you have no interest in dating or sleeping with? Do you have a sister? Do you think she would sleep with you if you offered? How did that question make you feel? The feeling you might have gotten is now my few p…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 06:35 PM
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Nope And also- I’m not offering. The few I am thinking about, it would be like kissing a brother or a first cousin. Ick! You do sound peculiarly like my boyfriend who also can’t accept that there ARE male/female connections in the world that aren’t about sex or dating. My old crowd tends to be a little more artsy/bohemian and the guys are sort of stoners so maybe that has something to do w the dynamic. I do see that in like nightclub culture or other sort of subcultures our friendships may be mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 05:33 PM
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Some was a typo from another post As i was trying to say- used to have some orbiters around in life That was b4 i was in a relationship tho The few male friends who i kept around were certainly NOT orbiters My ex husband was never phased by them, we split up over very different reasons. My current partner is extremely jealous of them. So I limit contact out of respect for boundaries. Not that they are an actual threat to he or me. Maybe some day he will realize that. In the meantime no one is of…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 05:18 PM
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Like I said. I used to have “orbiters” around too. Then I got married and defended/deleted those all. Ive since divorced but didnt rush out and hit up all the old orbiters. I started dating an acquaintance after the divorce. Trust me… none of the guys who I consider real friends would sleep w me if approached. It would actually probably offend them as most are paired off these days. It would certainly be seen as creepy. We just aren’t like that. One of them I even went on a vacation with- slept …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 05:00 PM
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I agree
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 04:45 PM
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How do you know that? You don’t know the people or the dynamic. And you really think we can’t tell the difference between platonic and an orbiter? We can. At least I can. I have had those in life too. They are not in the classification I am referring to here. I do not keep orbiters too close or even at all when I am committed to someone which I currently am. Some other women might. But I am not those women.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 04:39 PM
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“R/relationshipadvice” would better be called “post your partner’s annoying trait or recent foible here, if you’d like a resounding echo chamber which will exaggerate and twist it into abuse of some sort or witchery/bitchcraft and you want to be convinced to end it all” Honestly. Never do you hear advice on better communication or constructive ways to get along or better understand someone. Its a chorus of “dump her…. Dump him….”
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 04:34 PM
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Not allowing one one one dinners or sleepovers is not controlling. That is reasonable. Want to hear ridiculous? Calling a group outing to a sports arena a “date” w the person who didn’t even do the inviting to the event- and calling it infidelity after they broke up with you two weeks prior at that. THAT is ridiculous. So is calling pandemic era “checking in w friends in other states by phone” an emotional affair- when you’re checking in w both male AND female friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 04:31 PM
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I have a lot of make platonic friends. Always have. Even if I am avoiding a lot of contact w them right now because it makes my partner uncomfortable, they are still my friends. They have their own love interests, most of them and its sure as heck not me! Cant speak for other women or men who have opposite gender pals, but for me- the ones who I keep around don’t ever cross that “line” caus theres just no line to cross! We just are not attracted and its mutual. But we have other interests/friend…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 04:27 PM
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None of them want to be my “guy”, and if they did, that was 10 or 20 years ago and long over it. And I will never date any of them. Ever. That is what platonic means. I was single for 8 years and did not “elevate” any of them then either. If I wind up single again, I will be dating new people I have not yet met. Not my platonic friends. Again. That is what just friends means. Also when I am single and I do start to like someone they are the only one I am interested in… until it either works out …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 02:27 PM
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Whats this concept of “backup guys”? It seems to be a trp origin thing. Cant speak for “women” as a whole but me, if I like a guy? He is The guy. Anyone else I might talk to is just platonic meaning friends I’ve no desire to date now… or ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 02:40 AM
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I didnt bail first. I almost did but he had this look in his eyes. He ACTUALLY CARED? Really? So i said “please stay”. He said “probably”. Then when nudged… “uh ok”. Then he began a charade of “moving all the way back in which looked more like “organizing cataloguing and removing own property to storage or easily taken to storage fast”. I got quiet. And sad. And then he left for five hours and blocked my number for texting “huh? I thought we were going for an afternoon hike today”. I’d exhaled l…
/r/ExRedPill27/04/22 04:12 AM
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Or? Just that he generalizes… “women” this. “Women want that”. “Women all…..” You cant make rules about “women”. Or men. You need to speak to a few to get the jist of each one. To make it impersonal… its that. Selling generalization as a rulebook. To vulnerable men. Who is he even. How is he qualified to coach men. Or anyone?
/r/ExRedPill27/04/22 04:03 AM
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Because feminism is a movement which has been in America since at least 1792 and has absolutely nothing to do with the “redpill”. What “redpill” paints feminism as is anti-male sentiment and the fact that some men feel the tables are turned against men these days via family law and other court systems as well as super-picky women who will not date certain men who wish they could date those women. True feminism is NOT “man-hatred”. It is not a concept that female is superior to male (as some of r…
/r/ExRedPill18/04/22 12:07 PM
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This day and age? Everyone “deserves” fun years and then “commitment years”. Its become the societal norm. Everyone stop judging everyone for whatever same Same you all do.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 01:25 AM
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It is not the same for every “women”, as we are all individuals. The “chad face” (i imagine u mean chiseled looking, prominent jaw, etc?) is sport of ick to me. I do not have a “type” just tend to find unique faces of one sort or another if they’re attached to a decent human…. A lot of ladies do get attracted or interested to some sort of talent if its not the traditional looks or success or status or whatever it is. Great personality is a sort of “talent”. A lot of girls dig musicians.
/r/ExRedPill14/04/22 12:57 AM
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Well, like I said, I am aware that guys can get screwed over financially. But… I also have a track record of not suing for support or alimony- once when I was 25 (the guy wanted out if the marriage from day one, it was annulled, he had been pining for his high school gf and promptly reunited w her after), the second time more recently, at age 42 (my more recent ex was a drug addict, quit his job, started plotting to sue ME for support) Neither time did I go after the guys for money just signed p…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 07:38 PM
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We were not talking about working mothers we were talking about sahm’s who aren’t working after being left by their husbands who go “off the grid deadbeat”. Those moms’ children, being of zero income homes, would qualify for state healthcare in every single state. And to clarify- the 350/500 or so that I previously stated is the cost out of pocket for one single adult around age 45/no children’s insurance plan, if they receive no state funding and want decent coverage. Most people with jobs stil…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 03:22 PM
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Bah! Sorry I do not mean to caw at you like a crow, but that has already been tried, more than once or twice. If the argument is still ongoing, all I get about my hirt feelings is “I DONT CARE” Otherwise, I get a restatement of his views that doesn’t specifically refute what he told me and certainly doesn’t apologize for any of it, but presents his view on the topic from a more neutral place, but not “us specifically”. For example “well, I am not AGAINST all marriage”. Now, at other times, he wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 03:13 PM
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Not daily but on more than one occasion during heated arguments or while drinking, yes
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 09:37 PM
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Because he met me, “swept me off my feet”, begged me to quit my job and move to his town, then had another “just a pal, but in my contacts list I put lil hearts after her name for no reason” gal there w him the day I drove up w my van full of stuff. Then after a month of him constantly “negging” me and criticizing me and blabbing to mutual friends about how I was a jobless mooch (recall he had begged me to move 3 hours away from my former job/ and while searching I charged much of the house groc…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 09:35 PM
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I don’t want to one up him. Just would be easier if ww earned the same so he couldnt use it against me, And id never like actively wish for it to actually happen. And not bitter. Just wish he would stop saying things like “you don’t really love me its just about money” and “ill never marry you because you earn less”
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 08:07 PM
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Good job mr trp “life coach” whichever you are. Now the guys here having a bad day will begin to gravitate to your alternate sites (magically, as if by SEO keyword searches) and some may even begin to give you monies for your “advice”. Some of those will even drift into narcissism, eventually lose whichever relationships they’ve managed to get, and one or two? My guess, might stab or strangle some of those “wretched, lying, perpetually unsingle, yet always “desperate” to be “wived”” women!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 06:25 PM
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Nope. Never done this, nor would consider it. Have had a man do this to me though.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 06:17 PM
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Ive been a “sugar mama” to more than one man (not by choice, they sorta freeloaded after i fell in love). Ive never sought out a “sugar daddy” scenario in my life. The only time ive ever dated a guy who out earned me is currently and it actually had been getting uncomfortable for me for several reasons. Sometimes I wish he would lose his job so that he would be forced to take a pay cut and we could be at a level field earnings wise.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 06:14 PM
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People outside of reddit and other venues for the internet addicted are not thinking “value” when they date. They are thinking “do I like this person”. Most people in the US like to date near their own age group.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 06:11 PM
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Probably…. In many cases it’s legitimate abuse status.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 05:52 PM
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About 350-500 a month actually. The kids’ insurance would probably still be covered by the father unless he goes straight deadbeat on them in which case…. WE cover it! Via funded state programs.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 05:52 PM
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Hmm. That is interesting. Anxiety is sort of my “relationship default” as well. It only goes away by the guy’s actions proving to me over time that he will stick by me and won’t ditch me and that he cares. Providing is not really a part of that for me. I am older and have been providing everything for myself for most of my life. Most relationships of mine have been a bit backward w me as the higher earner. My current relationship is the only I’ve ever had with someone who out earns me. He tends …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 05:44 PM
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We have had the discussions and conversations. I get why he started with the stuff. But he doesn’t see that the content has morphed over time from “plain common sense advice” into a hate zone. Just can’t see it. I can see it- because there was a length of time from when he first showed me a few videos he watches until i looked at his search history and content again (w him there). Also when re-looking independently, i saw that a lot of past arguments we had that seemed rather nitpicky, unfounded…
/r/ExRedPill11/04/22 05:23 PM
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Thanks for putting it so succinctly. The “cherrypicking” and one way bias is my whole issue with it too. There ARE equally bad women and men out there. The other thing that gets me though- is hey- we gals have been burnt too. If there IS an equal “female red pill” out there? One with scores of man-denigrating youtubes and thought leaders, etc? Why aren’t we on it? Is there even such a thing? If so then why am I trying to relate to yet another man without using that sort of stuff as a crutch to “…
/r/ExRedPill11/04/22 05:19 PM
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Dood. We get burnt by toxic not-so-hot guys too! And by not-so-toxic-not-so-hot-but-still-burned-us guys, even. Not everyone with heartbreak potential walks into our life flying more red flags than a Chinese communist parade you know!? There is such a thing as “ decent guy but it just didn’t work out” and most times, that still hurts. A lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 05:12 PM
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You don’t think women get “fuckstruck” too? (Great word btw) Happens all the time. More often than it does to men actually, I think. Women often fall legitimately in love and stay as that w whichever guy they were most recently with. Most often the guy doesn’t feel it in return or at least won’t for a time after we feel it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 05:07 PM
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Well. That is also a way that some people choose.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 11:07 PM
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That has existed (with less than 100% accuracy) for over a decade: Centrifuge. Genetic material with less mass separates from that with more mass. Ivf. Done. Many couples going that route are purported to choose female, statistically less chromosomal abnormalities for an older couple (older in baby making lab years means anyone over 35. And yes actually the father’s age does have an impact on that, though not as profound a risk as an older mom does) Many does not mean that most do make that sort…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 11:06 PM
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So, it is obv an immature way of thought, and very “gamified” view of relationships- but its sort of for people looking to date or meet women, right? Like its not geared toward men who are in a serious or LTR? Am I mistaken?
/r/ExRedPill08/04/22 03:07 AM
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Yeah i got that much from what little Ive seen of it… and (sigh) my man recites the “women initiate most divorce” mantra too. Idk. This is a tough decision. I love the guy I am with, but he is changing… for the worse. Part of of os latent set-in left from his divorce but much of it is being exacerbated by these media binge choices of his. I mean he is an adult and can watch what he chooses but why should I stick with someone who is choosing that stuff? Such a turn off! And it does affect how he …
/r/ExRedPill08/04/22 02:52 AM
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Well that is a different story if you have not been with anyone yet then its a fair expectation. Its also a rarity to find that these days, I wish you luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 08:16 PM
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Yeah. Studies have shown that guys 21-23 most desire women age 21-23. The same studies showed men 40-65 ALSO most desire women 21-23. When i was a woman 21-23? I pretty much had interest in guys 21-24 or 25. Older than around 27 was old and gross to me at that age.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 04:04 PM
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Just bc she was with some dude 15 or 20 years ago doesn’t mean she is “sharing him with you”. Unless they are still in her life now. I mean, are you still with all YOUR exes? Do you still think of them all, all the time? I sure hope not.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 03:56 PM
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“Immature people”
/r/ExRedPill07/04/22 03:52 PM
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Actually? Unless it involves a disease? Pretty much their entire past is the past and also? NOYB… imho.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 04:42 PM
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Yeah. Thats not “women” or “men”. That’s teenagers and immature people.
/r/ExRedPill06/04/22 04:36 PM
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Well. I am. Ot saying he doesn’t bring any positivity to my life. Most of him and the relationship is positive. Just that I notice a change after he binge reads/watches this type of content… and that I am watching and waiting, wondering how much of a problem is it. Its confusing to me because his actual persona is to be kind and a good person. He did get screwed over by his ex in their divorce and he says he watches the stuff to learn “how to not get taken advantage of again” I am only just lear…
/r/ExRedPill06/04/22 04:30 PM
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He is looking at what girls where? Just that I didn’t say I thought he is currently doing that… just that he probably plans to eventually.
/r/ExRedPill05/04/22 11:46 PM
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I reject the concept of assigning value to people. Another part of why him having found trp bothers me. I do love near-unconditionally when I do. It is just part of how I am. It obviously sets me up for extra vulnerability…. And, as you can imagine- him having been hurt before and adopting the trp mentality- its probably no good for me to be with someone who doesn’t understand unconditional love. I feel I am likely going to be hurt in the end (It will hurt me deeply to leave even now but It may …
/r/ExRedPill05/04/22 09:19 PM
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I do not view people as objects to assign a value to. That being said, if I were not deeply in love with him as a person, I wouldn’t even be here thinking this over. Being quite involved and in love with who he is outside of his penchant for this crap internet content makes it difficult to know what to do. As of now, my “suspicion” that he is planning to move on soon or eventually is just that- suspicion, or maybe my own negative thoughts. I suppose it means more waiting and watching closely. Ju…
/r/ExRedPill05/04/22 08:49 PM
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Well… this is more a very recent realization/suspicion. He was not listening to or reading much trp stuff at the beginning then he got really over into it last year. Even more recently I started to catch onto that the content isnt just “workout and job advice” like he said it was. As you’d suspect, his attitude to me has changed as he drew off that content more And no I couldn’t be your sister in law- I don’t have one.
/r/ExRedPill05/04/22 08:21 PM
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“Community property”? Gasp.
/r/ExRedPill05/04/22 06:26 PM
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Well… TRP is such an issue bc my partner claims he only watches it for “entertainment value akin to boredom internet fare”… yet he has been quoting the typical dogma (men care about looks women care about money or maybe height of 6’ plus or physique…. Women get money from men never the other way around, etc etc) Basically he is suckered in like a vacuum and doesn’t even get that he is. I can’t even broach the topic without him having an angry tantrum. Thing is? We are both over 30. I am starting…
/r/ExRedPill05/04/22 06:24 PM
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I think Darius is a complete buffoon and very whiney. Also the women he “warns” people not to date? Uh….??? Seriously? They are like caricatures of who not to date! Like one chick was like “im hot… and i have herpes” Uh…? Guys need advice to not date her?
/r/ExRedPill03/04/22 03:48 AM
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Um, im pretty “anything goes” anti-nagging and same weight as when we started so….. idk his ex said it was 1x a week for her too… thats a bit low for me. Id say 3x a week is my ideal 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/22 10:20 PM
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I don’t give a rats a$s if most men want to go their own way. I only disliked when the guy I am in love with was nearly going mgtow, then settled on some milder but still deplorable section of trp dogmatic cult worship trip- his ex wife made off with a lot of his money but I never took a cent from MY ex husband so why should I bear this punishment?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/22 08:45 PM
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If men are “hornier” than howcome once in a relationship they never want to have sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/22 08:42 PM
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Where in f-cks sake is all this “dating up” in the world? 98% of my boyfriends have earned less and been less educated than I am.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/22 08:39 PM
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Well how to these guys rate “success” in dating? Number of partners? Attractiveness of partners? Anything else? Want to know how most WOMEN are rating THEIR “success” in dating? Possibly LENGTH OF RELATIONSHIP…. Probably MARRIAGE. For most women, when a relationship ends, its not “yay, on to the next one then”….. its a depressing defeat when we really like a guy and they move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/22 08:36 PM
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Yep. Its sad, bc I know my guy is just doing what he is doing to avoid being hurt. And we HAVE a great chemistry and connection- but the more “fake aloof” he gets, the more I am losing my attraction/attachment to him. I think part of it is that trp says to “like a girl less if you want her to like you more” so he is forcing himself to cut off his emotions. Now, without the full circuit of emotional connection? My side of it is fading a bit too (reluctantly…. Sigh) One thing I can say though, is …
/r/ExRedPill01/04/22 08:26 PM
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Im pretty sure that the point of marriage IS that this sort of “trading up” is not approved upon by society. I personally think its a bad move and anyone who leaves their spouse for you or cheats on their partner/spouse with you will most likely do the exact same to you as well. Its a different story though, if two people are simply not able to get along at ALL and decide to part ways, then one or both find someone new AFTER the decision to split up has been made. Granted, one partner of the div…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/22 08:19 PM
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That is the most dipsh_t opinion I’ve ever heard. BOTH men and women have more of a drive toward curiosity when younger and BOTH mature and are thus more apt to maintain stronger relationships as well as have had much more of their curiosity fulfilled as they grow older. Plenty of my girl friends who dated (aka slept) around quite a but in their early twenties were married, raising kids, and NOT cheating or trying to in their 30s and 40s.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/22 08:07 PM
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Yeah. I get that he is trying to avoid pain and getting financially taken again… but I was 100% totally into him- liked him more than I’d ever liked anyone- and told him so. I have also been hurt and he knows all about it- even helped “rescue” me when my ex was trying to break back in my house and terrorize me. Eventually he got on this TRP sht and sort of turned the whole thing of my ex turning on me all around on ME! I do not hate my current guy, I do hate trp- and I am just… sad. Heartbroken …
/r/ExRedPill01/04/22 01:45 AM
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You can’t appeal to what “women” want 100%, because each wants something a bit different. It will work better if you just find activities you like and then meet people (some women) who are into the same activities.
/r/ExRedPill01/04/22 01:38 AM
1

Thanks for sharing from your experience. You didn’t say how old you are now but that you were in school when you bought into it all. There was actually a similar book (w similar mentality and game sht) for women when i was college age. It was actually called “the rules”, lol. But it was more aimed at “rules” that would magically help any woman corral a guy and get him to marry her. It advocated dating 3 guys minimally until one was talking engagement and no sex til then either (or at least no se…
/r/ExRedPill30/03/22 10:25 PM
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I wish it would be possible to do what you say- but its too far gone for that. If i do what you suggest, he will start to theatrically pack his belongings and leave me. He has done it before- to the point of actually leaving. Also his physician suggested therapy after his divorce and he wouldn’t even listen when a doctor suggested it (the therapist was female but that was only part of the “problem”). Actually any time I try to voice my feelings he goes into the theatrics and or starts shouting a…
/r/ExRedPill30/03/22 05:58 PM
2

Thanks for calling out some of the tactics by name. Im in a relationship that I am afraid i’m gonna have to end bc my man has been living TRP. I caught a glimpse of the real him for the first few months we dated as well as for the five previous years we were just friends and his marriage was ending. I know see that he was likely doing some of the trp stuff to her. Either way, he has accused me of cheating or planning to (slutshaming), tried to make me jealous of his female friends and an ex who …
/r/ExRedPill30/03/22 05:44 PM
3

Except we do. Even before reading any of the trp content, we do- just don’t have a name to call it. And if you are “negging properly”? Man, you need help…. A LOT of overthinking for the purpose of brewing up a disingenuous relationship? Whew!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 03:42 PM
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Hahaha That used to happen to my father a lot before my mom passed. Happens to old guys who hang out around private clubs and golf course type of places. The ladies can sense cash, or they are good at checking the fella’s shoes and wristwatch choices before moving in…. My mom was a looker in her day, but was actually 5 years his senior. She would always step back and watch the whole thing go down from a distance, sometimes would even alert other ladies nearby “ha here comes another one” He got p…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 03:41 PM
1

I do not plan to have kids ever caus i can not. I do have a pet, he is actually very kind to. His hatred is all about women bc his ex wife sued for alimony and won plus got half his 401k money. I know. That was not me, a different woman did that to him. None if my friends can even believe she did that. None of us would and we all have always had our own jobs.
/r/ExRedPill29/03/22 02:49 PM
1

Im in a relationship so do not typically get attracted to ANYONE i meet. Thats just how I am wired. When i do get attracted to someone its usually not just upon first sight of them but after at least an introduction and maybe a few more interactions… so its not just “looks” alone its looks plus getting to know them at least very superficially- how they interact with me and others, sound of their voice, how they act, etc. I never really thought of a percentage. I used to meet a lot more new peopl…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 04:25 PM
4

My bf does not “believe” emotional abuse is a real thing
/r/ExRedPill28/03/22 04:16 PM
0

I effin LOVE Will Smith for slapping that whiney ass self loathing little bitch-man! Every woman wants a Fresh Prince. No woman wants Chris Rock!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 04:11 PM
1

Lovely. Well. I don’t think the kinda guys listening to that would appreciate what else I bring to the table.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 03:45 AM
1

So what are the other factors besides looks and money? Like are they into the same things I like to do? Are they happy as a person? Are they kind?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 02:17 AM
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Just because something ended doesn’t mean it was bad. People graduate or change jobs. They move away. They reach a different place in their life. Or sometimes try as you did, the other person does, and no matter how much you love them? You eventually need to accept that and let go. Yeah. It sucks at the time. Eventually you stop crying that it ended and smile that it happened.
/r/ExRedPill26/03/22 12:42 AM
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What is this “wall”? Utter nonsense. Far far more satisfied with life in general at 46 than i was at 26! Also was mistook for 30 yo today by a vendor at my job. Lol!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 12:33 AM
1

Well… its better than using linkedin as a dating ap?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 09:00 PM
2

Someone who blends in, not male model hot, but not aggravating to the eye, full time employed but not uber rich, drives like a regular car or suv that is in good repair but not like a 90,000 or up vehicle (like a toyota or ford or honda). May have a religion or political leaning but not like an activist or cult member or anything. On good terms with their family, has a few friends but not a local or global celebrity or the mayor or anything. Probably between 5’8 and 5’11. A healthy weight or eve…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 08:29 PM
1

Still am. We live together. Ive only recently caught on to this whole trp thing. For months his personality was declining…. I honestly thought his youtubes were just workout and improvement minded banter type motivational speaker content… eventually I started to pay more attention. And the “suggestions” via youtube were getting more and more hate oriented. I investigated a bit and “his” guys are worse than i realized. Currently trying to figure things out. He is really not even letting me speak …
/r/ExRedPill25/03/22 04:38 PM
1

I see a thing of “guy” is irate bc he cant get girls, cant get a certain girl he wants, or he gets ditched by girl, then guy finally gets different girl that he wants, guy initially fawns over said girl and over does for her, soon after guy starts doubting situation, her motive for dating him, etc and starts convincing himself she is a cheater, liar, gold digger, has character flaws, etc, guy then starts mistreating girl, girl initially reacts (see shes “crazy psycho” right) and or leaves and pr…
/r/ExRedPill25/03/22 04:34 PM
2

Happy and healthy relationships are possible. Ive been in them before.
/r/ExRedPill25/03/22 04:28 PM
4

Sorry i forgot about mr high value male. Its already too late lala. They got my bf. Turned him into a goon.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 01:53 AM
1

What is WAP? And what is HVM?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 12:04 AM
2

Yea Dating him. The whole “women are horrible thing” slapped him in the face after we got together and I fell in love and he had been apart from her 6 months. Was too too soon. That or I got the last 4 or 5 good months of life that were left in him???
/r/ExRedPill24/03/22 11:38 PM
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What about “bitter divorced guy”?
/r/ExRedPill24/03/22 11:36 PM
1

Yes. All the time. Not every time. But many times. Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 11:35 PM
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Ok dear (Yeah. We’re done.)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 11:32 PM
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So if you do not trust marriage thru the govt? Get a prenup. Everyone should anyhow. Men and women need one. All the sob stories on here that they dont hold water? They do if both parties have an attorney revue it. The ones that “weaken” over time contain whats called a “sunset” clause- something like “no alimony or payout on divorce unless this criteria or that time frame was met”… if you feel like divorcing people w no kids do jot need a payout? Just don’t include such a clause in the agreemen…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 09:40 PM
4

People tell men to “just ditch her” all the time too. Yes, all humans are in some way flawed. No one wants to accept that these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 09:32 PM
2

Sorry to hear about your friend. Did something happen to make him turn this way? Like wife was cheating and he found out? Otherwise just… why… either way….. sad
/r/ExRedPill24/03/22 09:28 PM
1

Great job reciting trp mantras you’ve been fed to explain away all the cases where women DONT chase guys for money. The guys in cars would be proud by you…. Also you are repeating nearly word for word the same dogma I hear my bf recite on the days where he’s had trp in his headphones at work all day. Yeah, the archetype you speak of (girl works ft, dates good looking yet apathy ridden guy with job at game stop or even no job) does exist. Good job pointing out that one extreme. Now, how about all…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 09:17 PM
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This just in: “Women (that extraordinary monolith hive mind)- Are in fact, !disgusted! by men who think of them as a graded piece of meat!” How can they tell even? It comes out in the things you will do and say, even if you aren’t directly saying it to them. Yes, really.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 04:39 PM
1

“That want to be housed”? Please explain what do you mean by that?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 03:08 AM
1

Im not speculating though. Speaking from personal experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 12:44 AM
1

Just because it gets to a place where it needs to end doesn’t mean that the woman wanted it to end. Sometimes the other person in the marriage becomes a legal and physical risk to you and to others in your care and you are devastated the marriage you wanted to work did not work and you are devastated you have to file the paperwork- but you have to.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 12:40 AM
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Mmm. Not the same effort/frequency I don’t think anyone expects that. But if you were cuddly in the beginning and all the sudden need a 1 foot permaspace around yourself? Not gonna go over well….
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 12:36 AM
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Ive had my ups and downs, dated some nice people, dated a couple of morons. Had some serious LTR’s that one or both people eventually outgrew or grew away from for one reason or another. Had times where I was meeting new and interesting people often, and had some dry spells in between (once by choice for several years to focus on grad school). Currently in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 12:31 AM
1

The statistics are skewed. Just bc someone was the person to actually file the paperwork doesn’t mean she/he was the one who decided the relationship was over for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 09:51 PM
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Its true, the initial newness ends. But to just sum It up as “honeymoon period ends, tuff luck”? That attitude will lose you relationships. And if the “relationship nurturing” stuff is just a “monkey dance”? If you do not genuinely enjoy doing stuff for and or with someone? Probably do not date that person at all then. People in healthy strong and enduring relationships know that you need to keep it going. Sure the intensity will back off at times but it also needs to come back at times. Or…. It…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 09:48 PM
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Wait. Im confused. I thought the deal was that women are inherently hypergamous? I thought trp was trying to say that they only get with men to bring themselves UP a notch or three? Now they’re saying woman + man brings her DOWN? Wouldja make up yer friggin MINDS?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 09:41 PM
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No not really, i realized id originally typed “food” and not “good”. I dont think trp ways will inherently ruin food.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 09:35 PM
2

Then why is it that all FEMALE’S feelings (if expressed) are “whining” or “bitching”?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 09:29 PM
2

“If I feel a certain way, Like I feel that you are cheating, I will leave. Because if I feel that way, its true”
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 09:27 PM
1

Who said salary is a disqualifier for all women? Theres actually a trend (in the actual world, not here on reddit in this sub-genre crazy “gamify dating” world) of professional, educated women opting to date or even marry guys who work in skilled trades and often earn less. Also a lot of women spend their own money, not their guy’s.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 09:21 PM
1

Please define “statistical equal”? What IS that even?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 08:49 PM
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Heloooooooooo!!!!! Women are not going around thinking “this man is high or mid or low value”. The only people who are thinking that are those who’ve bought into trp type thinking. Women (and most men) are just thinking “do I like this person, do we click, do I have a good time with them?” I get it. You all are process thinkers you are frustrated having no luck or having gotten burned before and want to find a set of “rules” to abide that will prevent that loss again. It does not really work tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 05:37 PM
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Helloooo!!! The definition of “hypergamy” is NOT “the tendency to trade “up” in partners” as the RP idiot proclaimers will try to tell guys. Also it can, in its true definition (which is to attain a higher social caste or rank through marriage) it can apply to both men and women. Women typically do not leave guys simply bc they found someone better. Usually, they leave because the guy starts taking them for granted, starts acting boorish and treating them worse, or otherwise doesn’t actively nur…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 05:33 PM
1

If you are unsure- no not wrong If you know? Wrong How about continuing to pretend you are committed to a woman in a serious LTR when its going ok but you know that you eventually aspire to move on and date others? Is that wrong?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 06:13 PM
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The way that trp and its offshoots use the terms (as you say, a measuring stick of sorts) is just so…. Ughh! Like for women its all about “hotness rating” and “no one cares about her education, job, etc” and for men, its “all about money…. Except for the guys who are super muscular, super tall, super aggressive, super whatever attribute the guy reading/listening is not feeling in himself that day…. Yet real world experience proves this wrong, I’ve had numerous male buddies who talked up the attr…
/r/ExRedPill13/03/22 08:00 PM
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Ok. I get that chickens have a pecking order. Corporations have a hierarchy too. And yes, Disney princesses only want to marry princes… except for the one who went with the Beast. But Disney stories are fiction, not the lives of most of the women I know, or my life. Many of us can get all of the stuff for our selves. The only things the mate provides that we can not provide ourselves? The companionship of a mate. Someone to share experiences with. Someone to celebrate anniversaries with. That is…
/r/ExRedPill09/03/22 11:15 PM
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Both my husbands earned less than I did. Both chose to end the marriages. Both later begged for me back, but after the divorce is too late, imho…. Idk. Im starting to feel like maybe I should have given the second one more time to get himself together again. Current man (a high earner and good looking) said he will never get married again. At least my loser ex married me. I want to grow old with one person. I earn my own money. Hypergamy means raising ones social caste or class btw. So I assume …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 05:23 PM
2

Yes! I can’t figure out why decent guys look up to someone like that.
/r/ExRedPill04/03/22 04:55 PM
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Im a woman here too. This Cooper dick made approximately 8 months of my life a living hell while the man I love started binging on his content. He said it was so as to not get taken advantage of again in the way he was by his ex wife. I have a eal career. I have never dated anyone who out earned me prior to him in my entire life. At first I was like “ok, its about still focusing on your career and not losing yourself and minding your health, ok”… gradually the rich cooper content got more bitter…
/r/ExRedPill04/03/22 04:54 PM
1

Do you know what the true meaning of hypergamy IS? Its not just as simple as “choosing someone desirable”. It does not apply to animals either, because animals do not have social class/caste systems. It specifically means to raise one’s social rank or caste via a marriage or relationship. To say “all women are hypergamous? That implies that all men are therefore of a higher social rank.
/r/ExRedPill04/03/22 03:43 PM
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Omg your sentiments are so like mine- you could be reading my mind! Especially the “why not just stop there”..
/r/ExRedPill03/03/22 09:30 PM
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No women find him attractive he looks like a baby’s bald ass attached to an elderly gorillas pubes. The sad thing is his “brothas” who follow him are a joke to him. He isnt being serious. He is trying to look like a literal “dick”. I got the joke the first time my bf tuned into a video of his and the guy was detailing how “his look” came to be…. Just listen to it from a cynic’s viewpoint. Dick being a dick- telling his followers over and over again how even tho he is remarried and successful? “B…
/r/ExRedPill03/03/22 08:10 PM
1

What is the black pill? And you are correct- most people still haven’t heard of this sh-t
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 07:47 PM
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Men are a lot more visually inclined in attraction than women. There are studies about this. Possibly women are attracted to fewer men at ONE TIME than men bc there are non-visual as well as visual factors involved in attraction for women. Perhaps its that women may eventually become attracted to a guy over time- but she is fixated on one or two others and hasn’t noticed him yet? I mean, the guys I found attractive years ago certainly are not the same ones I do today.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 07:46 PM
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Good points BetaNatalis! Can I piggyback on this to say that the “AlphaMegaMan” that TRP “bros” tell you women want is NOT what the majority of good, relationship-craving women actually WANT! Sure, things like being jobless, poor hygiene, uber lazy, etc are turn offs, but you do not need to be 6 foot tall or rich or muscle bound or super “dominant” attitude etc to appeal to normal women. Also when you DO get a woman? You can’t go assuming that every guy she knows is your “competition”. Acting li…
/r/ExRedPill03/03/22 06:31 PM
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You shouldn’t be down on yourself for being a man. Maybe try to step away from the dichotomy for a while. Each time you start feeling that way, remember “I am first a human being”.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 03:31 PM
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He says its because his ex screwed him over financially and he doesn’t want to repeat that… that I am on board with- people should be careful for themselves. The thing I did not understand was why start or restart binging on TRP content 6 or 8 months into a relationship thats going well, when youve already moved in w someone? He doesn’t get into the PUA type stuff as far as chasing many women- but the stuff he watches and subscribes too uses some of same concepts more as mind fuckery within a re…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 03:19 PM
1

Why not be both?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 09:45 PM
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Im in a LTR and still lust over the guy. And since we have been together have not had eyes for anyone else. I think about him all the time. Dont get me wrong I do have a career and a life, and some nughts I would prefer to just sleep too- but I adore my bf. Problem is- he started binging on TRP content for a while last year and became paranoid I wanted to have sex with basically every male acquaintance or friend ever (which was insulting and frustrating to me as I did not feel such a way in the …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 09:44 PM
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Wow thanks this is so well put together and well said. To be fair, I think that there are a lot of confused people out there and they’re not only men. I also think that there are a lot of good people and good relationships out there too, and that even if not all work forever, it doesn’t mean one person “won” and another lost or that one was bad and one good. Sometimes they even start compatible bit do not grow together and instead grow apart. As for confusion… relationships can be rewarding and …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 09:34 PM
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No. Same height as me or even an inch shorter is fine- rejection is due to other factors than appearance.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 02:05 AM
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Him before RP: sweet, generous, smart, witty, had been hurt but willing and able to love me Him after binging on RP (RP lite-fare versions of it even): keeps changing what he says he wants, unpredictable rages over trifles, silent treatments, obsessive jealousy over every single male buddy in my phone (even emailing the pregnant girlfriend of one to “make sure his relationship status was real”), frequent spouting of pseudoscience doctrine about hypergamous women, even prenups being a trap, etc….…
/r/ExRedPill01/03/22 10:51 PM
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Im asking bc I liked your comment, the concept of people wanting love vs money and personality disorder- I can dig it, that love of money is almost like a personality disorder… what about someone who chooses to believe that no woman really wants love, they just want his money (esp if she already has het own, his is not really that much more, etc)?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 11:38 PM
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I am dating a guy who discovered the “red pill” while we were dating, it seems. Or possibly before (he divorced about a year prior to us dating) but at any rate when he started binging on it, it was about 6 or 8 months in to “us”…. And it was glaringly obvious. His personality and behavior changed drastically. He went from being like the most beautiful dream to like a nightmare over night. Thankfully he eased off of it for a while and started to become more like himself again- but still watches …
/r/ExRedPill28/02/22 08:46 PM
1

Divorce success rate might be at about 50%, but how many non-married couples split up? Which percentage stay together for 10, 20, 30 years? The probability of staying together if you aren’t married to someone is much much lower than if you are.
/r/ExRedPill28/02/22 08:32 PM
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Ugh! My bf is always talking about this proverbial guy who “could be a men’s health model” who “all the girls” want. Could this be “Chad”?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 11:03 PM
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Women are generally more likely to want a relationship, not just “attention from the opposite sex”. Its possible that many of the “wrong” type of advances are written off as “not worth noting” and forgotten. Its also possible that the women are shy or do not socialize much. Im not “hot” these days by any means but I was in my early 20s. The thing is- I simply believed that I was not. I had a few boyfriends but was absolutely not the girl getting all the attention when out with friends. In hindsi…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 07:32 PM
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Oh, Im sure there are…. Those are the conversations that some people are just completely missing though. Also I do not think its the reddit posts alone that are driving the fanaticism. Its more the video “influencers”, and youtube algorithms that push a wake of “caught her cheating a$$ cheating and did this….” And “she wanted this so I….” On the guys who are watching certain content. Its just depressing as all getout… when his ex didn’t even cheat (but ended things bc she wanted to see other peo…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 06:02 PM
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Well, the whole doctrine/dogma professed by the cult leaders is “GO AWAY and RETURN as a better version of yourself”. Now, if you were not in the process of breaking up and the other person goes silent for a few weeks, just to “return, better”…. Losing a few pounds doesn’t make the man. Especially if you were happy before. As for narcissism… funny. Their ex was a “narcissist”. (I know her, tendencies for sure but not a true narcissist). Imagine you are a lady and ask your man which layer of blan…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 01:47 PM
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Its also not “improvement” if a guy is taking it so far his girl is crying over what he is becoming. Esp of he started tuning into it bc the last girl dumped him over the same “dont give a ….” Attitude and he was trying to learn how to get and hold on to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 09:55 PM
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One guy i know might be about to get his walking papers for “i dont care”. He will be happy- will have a lot more time to tune in to his cult leaders on youtube.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 09:53 PM
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Women don’t want the “alphas”. Sure there are some gold diggers or otherwise coat tail riders- in BOTH genders. Yes! YES! Both! (And probably in the “other” categories for gender too bit i personally dont know any). Alpha, to me, means driven, aggressive, sure… that might also mean successful… but thats not what most women seek. Yeah. They really DO want a “nice” guy. Not as in “pushover”. As in kind. As in gentle with their words and actions. Someone who says “i promise to have your back, alway…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 09:49 PM
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Many work benefits packages offer optional legal services coverage for dollars per month that will handle the original agreement. And im pretty sure that after that it doesn’t cost much to show up in court with the signed agreement if you’re sued for divorce…. Thats assuming that would happen. I feel like these days, such an agreement does a lot of yhe work of weeding out the “opportunists”… makes it more likely to avoid divorce in the long run even of its “not romantic”. Which is maybe not what…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 12:28 AM
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Or….. how about not getting married without a signed prenup agreement? Oh but then there could be mo debate about how unfair various laws are?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 09:15 PM
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Oh of course you did not say something so crass as “put out or get out”... just generalizing the situation and trying to show the extremes.
/r/seduction08/04/21 04:18 AM
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Well... good point on the “no entitlement” clause. No one is ever entitled to any relational situation with another. Perhaps though, one person wants to build the “freindship” part of the relationship not to drag out some dog and pony lineup of ex mates, but means they want to cool things down, work on the foundational part of the relationship a little while before heating things back up so to speak. Or if they are not yet involved maybe the person likes to be a little acquainted first before al…
/r/seduction08/04/21 01:46 AM
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You can be a cute friend and still be attractive. The “freind zone” is fake. There is this thing called the “never” zone. As in they’ll just never catch on to you. Then there is the friends first zone. Each situation between each two people is different. Some general things that work: Don’t be pushy or expect mutual attraction, don’t expect them to like you instantly, don’t act rude if they aren’t into you, don’t play games, once they do like you don’t drop them like a hot potato- thats game pla…
/r/seduction07/04/21 04:55 PM
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No I mean go do your things you have to do. But to disappear? Annoying. Not mysterious.
/r/seduction07/04/21 04:46 PM
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“People who get a kick out of rejecting others” What do you think makes those tick? Can they be helped? Could it be along the “hurt people hurt people” thing?
/r/seduction03/04/21 02:19 PM
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Good topic. My confidence level has never been healthy. Wish It were not so.
/r/seduction03/04/21 02:17 PM
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Yep. And listening to others and compromising or looking for shared goals is not being “a pushover”. Actually, has anyone ever known someone who simply demands the opposite of what others want to avoid being seen as people pleasing? Sheesh!
/r/seduction03/04/21 02:01 PM
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Yes. The “dominance by intimidation or fear or conflict” is known as “unauthentic authority”. Its a sign of insecurity to those who know. A truly self assured personality tends to influence without conflict. Combativeness gets tiring.
/r/seduction03/04/21 01:58 PM
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“Start doing some serious relationship cpr”?? You can’t wait til it’s failing to do that! Next time, know you have to work at it to make it work. If you put in the work and still get ditched? That’s how it is sometimes but there’s more than one person, find one who likes you.
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