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If you state your preference for a paternity test before you enter an LTR/marriage, that’s different than springing it upon your pregnant wife or the mother of your newly delivered child. The request for a paternity test is synonymous with, “I don’t trust you/I think you cheated.” It would be similar to me asking to go through your phone without any evidence or indicator that your cheating, “just in case, I want to be sure.”
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 06:16 PM
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I’ve never heard it come up in the real world, it’s literally an incel/incel-lite “online exclusive” belief.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 05:55 PM
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So then why hasn’t anyone locked you down yet?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 05:03 PM
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It depends on what you aesthetically prefer - I like my shoulders, traps, and delts.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 04:55 PM
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If there’s plenty of them, why is there male sexlessness and so many women who aren’t meeting their standards?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 03:44 PM
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Men here always assume that quick sex = intense attraction. It’s clear to me that men don’t understand (or don’t care) how many young women are pressured into having sex or manipulated into having sex quickly, or given bad advice about how having sex early on will make him “stay.” Being going and naive, having poor self esteem and wanting to be loved. I can’t tell you how many slimy men with bad reputations turned into salesmen to try to get me to sleep with them. For women who don’t know those …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 03:37 PM
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You’re not interacting with, matching on OLD, and seriously dating people across the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 08:21 PM
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There IS a large enough shift in cities though, because you’re going to be compared to a lot more people. If you leave your hometown which has a population of 3,000 residents, obviously you don’t have 3,000 dating prospects (people in your preferred age, income, lifestyle etc. range) since that figure encompasses everyone from birth on. So you might be compared against ~100 people in your age, income, etc. dating range. When you move to a major city like Los Angeles which has 3.9 MILLION people,…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 07:41 PM
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A lot of men here are interested in figures. For women, not having certain figures means you’re out, but having certain favorite doesn’t automatically mean you’re “in” because there’s so much more that goes into sexual attraction than checking boxes. My husband is my perfect partner. I can list everything measurable metric and articulable feature about him - height, weight, income, hair color, eye color, skin tone, shoe size, all of it. You can find me someone who matches that criteria and I can…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 07:12 PM
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There’s no objective SMV. Being rated based on my location, finances, physical attributes etc. wouldn’t give me a “sexual market value.” It would just rank me in comparison to other people in my area, that doesn’t necessarily determine someone’s sexual desirability. For example, in my area the median income is $35,000. Obviously obviously someone making 6-figures, despite their other values will skew the the overall “value” in comparison. I’m not interested in someone just because they make figu…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 06:43 PM
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Well, then maybe online dating isn’t for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 04:01 PM
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Yes. There’s a million reasons why someone may not swipe right on OLD. Poor quality pictures, poor choice of pictures, the person doesn’t photograph well. Ever scroll through Netflix and you can’t find a movie based on the thumbnail and the description? Have you ever seen a movie trailer for a movie you weren’t initially interested in and ended up loving the movie after seeing the trailer? Same concept. I’m not offended by someone being attracted to me after seeing the real me, not a snippet of …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 03:51 PM
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Did you actually read her comment? Some of the most attractive people she swiped on did nothing for her in person. It shows that the initial view of someone doesn’t mean anything in terms of real, raw attraction. Men she met in person, who she said she may not have swiped right on in the app, were a much better match because there’s more to real attraction than the way you look on an app.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 02:53 PM
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That someone not swiping on you on OLD doesn’t mean you’re not attractive. I never used OLD, but I probably wouldn’t have “swiped right” on my husband (we met in person, but he used Tinder). It doesn’t mean that I don’t feel raw attraction to him. Men here make it seem like if a woman doesn’t like the way you look online that you’re unattractive and that any woman who dates you will be incapable of feeling raw attraction and lust from her and that just isn’t true.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 02:11 PM
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I want every man in this subreddit to read this comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 01:17 PM
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In my jurisdiction, possession with intent to deliver reads: "the manufacture, delivery, or possession with intent to manufacture or deliver, a controlled substance..." The charge and penalties for possessing with the intent to deliver or actually delivering (re: selling) is the same. Yes, we punish the completed crime more harshly than the attempt, but we still punish the attempt. Would I consider my partner sending flirty texts to be EQUAL to him getting a hotel room with her? No. Would I plac…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 04:20 PM
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The attempt to commit a crime (when there’s an overt action) is still a crime. I’d consider flirting/solicitation to be attempted cheating, which would be subject to similar penalties as competed cheating.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 03:52 PM
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Does emotional cheating not have a high possibility of leading to physical cheating once the emotional attachment in another person increases?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 03:39 PM
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Flirting and solicitation is not cheating? So if your girlfriend/fiancée/wife is sending other men messages complimenting how attractive he is, complimenting his body, and asking him for nude photographs.. that’s not cheating?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 03:38 PM
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If you read the studies I linked, there’s several which specifically point to relationship dissatisfaction being a primary factor in infidelity.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 05:18 PM
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From Psychology Today (2013, College students who recently engaged in casual sex reported lower levels of self-esteem, life satisfaction, and happiness compared to those who had not had casual sex in the past month. And students who recently engaged in hookups had higher distress scores as indicated by levels of depression and anxiety. In contrast to the notion that men are okay with casual sex but women are not, we did not find gender differences in the relationships between casual sex and eith…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 11:48 AM
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Friend = not romantically/sexually attractive to me. Boyfriend = romantically/sexually attractive to me. I’ve been friends with some very (objectively) attractive men. They’re tall, they’re handsome, they “fit the bill” to be pretty much anyone’s boyfriend, and we get along great.. but there’s no romantic/sexual attraction. It doesn’t mean they’re generally unattractive, it just means I don’t find them attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 03:59 AM
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ACAB. 😏
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 11:38 AM
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Most people who have causal sex end up dating a few of those casual partners, and relationships end for a number of reasons completely unrelated to n-count. I think the idea that a woman sleeps around throughout her 20’s racking up double-triple digit partner counts, sleeping with all of them on the first date, but making poor you wait is just based in fantasy all around. “Well I don’t know if she fucked on the first date before, but I assume she did, so since she didn’t do it with me, she doesn…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 11:23 AM
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Powerlifting
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 10:41 AM
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I was approached in the grocery store recently and someone in another thread accused me of lying.. I was in the baking aisle/spice section looking for a specific powdered chicken flavoring and there was a guy in the same section looking for a spice - he said he’s learning how to cook after a divorce and was following a new recipe. I showed him where the spice he was looking for was. We ran into each other in the ice cream/frozen section and he got really close (legitimately I could smell his bre…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 10:45 PM
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I’m over here draped in a big red flag like.. 👀🚩
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 06:59 PM
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Idk! Now I don’t look as good “for my age” 😫
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 01:17 AM
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I also posted my story in the Daily Thread. I was 27, he was 28 when we met. We’re 31 and 32 now.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 09:54 PM
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I initially thought it was a bot, but certain comments of mine will be downvoted and others in the same thread won’t.. unless I misunderstand how a downvote bot’s script works and that’s typical.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 06:29 PM
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They fill in the blanks instead of just asking us the specific question they want to make a debate point about and then say, “women lie anyways.” Ok is you arguing about something that also isn’t true not.. a lie? 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 01:31 PM
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They post the WAATGM profiles of women disclosing that they’re single moms and say, “look! She’s on a dating site! That means she’s desperate and nobody wants her.” Yet they’re also on dating sites.. except the single moms are getting dates. I never struggled to date or get commitment from good men as a single mom and I don’t know anyone else who ended up being a single parent who struggled either. None of us went on this string of being pump+dumped or dating assholes like their revenge fantasie…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 01:20 PM
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Me watching men hop on the hamster wheel to defend their actions: 🍿
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/22 05:23 PM
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I see your logic I just.. don’t think I’ve ever had sex with someone and consciously compared it to a past partner. I obvious know what I like (and don’t like) from past experiences but I don’t associate those preferences to a person. With a partner, if I don’t like something or if there’s something he could do better, we fix it and all the sex we have is uniquely about him+I, not trying to match someone else or whatever. Maybe that’s not normal?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 10:35 PM
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This question confuses me because I don’t think about or really remember the quality of sex with different past partners. I could tell you general things like “one time we had sex in the front seat of his car,” but that’s about it. I’d say the sex I’m having with the person I’m with and who I love at the time is considered the best. I’n curious how men are remembering past partners or what goes into someone being the “best” etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 10:19 PM
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But men do the approaching. So if a hot guy approached her and committed to her.. show me where the problem is?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 10:13 PM
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“Theft” is too gender neutral. /s
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 09:03 PM
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It’s decently difficult to prove cash theft.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 09:02 PM
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Is, “what do you do for work?” appropriate?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 08:56 PM
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Your wish has been granted. Except you’re an ugly, overweight woman
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 08:35 PM
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You’re the prize. ✌🏽⭐️ Your poor beta buxx simp cuck husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 08:12 PM
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According to https://realitycalc.co I’m 0.42% as 31 year old white female, not over weight or obese, any marital status, any motherhood status, earning at least $70k. According to the female delusion calculator, my husband is 0.64%.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 07:34 PM
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It probably depends on her location. Where I live, $120k is a lot of money and I can only name one person who earns that type of wage.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 09:49 PM
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This one right here guys. When someone says “men aren’t misogynistic! They don’t hate women here! You’re wrong!” Here’s my receipts.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 09:10 PM
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Nobody said that men who have sex can’t also be misogynistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 07:34 PM
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Amber musk, sandalwood, elder flower, and I buy a scent online for my candles called “amethyst.” I have no idea WHAT it’s supposed to smell like, but it’s a warm/sultry smell.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 07:28 PM
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I have no problem with anyone, male or female, expressing desire for sex, intimacy, love, and everything in between. I have a problem with men who only view women as obstacles to sex instead of people.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 07:26 PM
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I don’t believe that all men who are romantically and sexually unsuccessful are misogynists or women hating incels. I believe that there’s a significant amount of PPD men who are misogynists or women hating incels and that’s based on their own words when they discuss women. One man has gone as far as to say that women not approaching him and having sex with him is “mistreatment” and has caused him to hate women (he has never disclosed actual mistreatment). So, it’s not all men. It’s men here who…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 06:47 PM
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I exfoliate once a week, I use the Soap and Glory scrub (it’s a lot more moisturizing) on just my legs before shaving. My hair is very thin/fine and soft so I can get away with shaving once a week or less. Otherwise I just shower every day and use a moisturizing body wash (CeraVe) with a cloth (not a scrunchie or poof). I use body cream/body butter all over after every shower.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 03:51 AM
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If you think you’re ugly because a woman rejected you as part of the 80% she normally rejects instead of thinking, “maybe I’m just not her type,” nobody can fix that for you. That’s a you thing to unpack.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 01:12 AM
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When my son was around 4, he walked in on me changing and said “you have a big fat disgusting butt.” Like thanks kid. 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 10:34 PM
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Empathy is usually incorrectly defined as “feeling what someone else is feeling.” It’s actually the ability to sense other people's emotions and imagine what they might be thinking or feeling. It doesn’t mean I internalize their feelings or allow heinous instances of neglect/abuse bother me more than others. Having a true understanding of what someone’s thinking, feeling, how the neglect or abuse affected them does allow me to 1. understand the severity and impact maltreatment has on that indivi…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 10:06 PM
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I specialize in and specifically handle sex crimes and crimes against children. I literally wouldn’t be able to do my job without empathy.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 08:57 PM
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I’d never date someone, regardless of their looks (ugly, average, super hot) who made significantly more money than I did.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 02:41 AM
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Literally what are you even talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 02:15 AM
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That’s sweet of you! 💘
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/22 02:01 AM
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People were meaner to me after I started using a picture of myself as an avatar. 🥴
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 10:01 PM
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Top posts of all time on /r/tinydick are 6’5 guys with micro penises.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 07:19 PM
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Last week, someone was talking about being blocked and they used an alt to confirm they were blocked. I saw a string of [deleted] comments and was like (!) so I checked on an alt, and it’s a dude I’ve never spoken to. Anticlimactic.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 12:38 PM
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Female cops aren’t not giving you tickets because you’re giving them eye contact. I did 4 years in patrol and 9 times out of 10, I didn’t write someone a ticket because I didn’t want to go to off duty court.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 12:29 PM
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If the narcissistic/dark triad man whose mirroring authentically “good” traits also meets her physical standards? Yes, he’s going to be chosen. Also remember: someone who is intentionally mirroring those traits to manipulate someone is going to exaggerate certain desirable traits (charisma, etc.) to seal the deal and make sure they’re picked.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 09:31 PM
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But a lot of us (the general population) only see these men as psychopaths after they shed their skin. You miss the manipulation phase when he’s courting women and mirroring authentic qualities. Narcissists and people with psychopathic/sociopathic tendencies are incredibly manipulative and charismatic which is why women will refuse to listen when people tell her he’s bad news. Male friends will appear to be giving bad advice out of jealousy. Etc. It‘s hard to believe someone who calls your new b…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 12:55 PM
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That’s why I said many. I think there’s a certain “type” of men who are more likely to love women like objects. The sexually unsuccessful men who are obsessed with becoming “alpha males,” for example. They talk about women being akin to children, they study and discuss women like they’re wild animals, etc. They discuss strategies to attract women like they’re going hunting. The worst part, is that when you love women like objects (and not people), you’ll never be fulfilled even if you can find o…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 12:29 PM
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They cry, “watch what they do, not what they say,” except they aren’t actually watching what women do (and they don’t care to). There’s a “red pill truth,” which assigns a negative trait to women for for every choice she makes. Marry a short man? You’re settling, you really wanted a 6-foot tall Chad, but you’re only good enough to get pumped and dumped by Chad and had to settle. AF/BB wins again! Marry a tall man? Women’s hypergamy. I bet he’s rich too. Of course you don’t care about average men…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 12:00 PM
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I love that they claim that women are primarily attracted to Narcissists and psychopaths instead of .. “narcissists and psychopaths are manipulative chameleons who trick people into liking them /thinking they’re genuinely good people, and their abusive traits come out later.” Women aren’t specifically attracted to dark triad traits, those people make people like them by mirroring authentically good traits.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 11:46 AM
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I truly believe that many men love women like objects which is why they can overlook her not being employed, educated, or interesting as long as she’s pretty. It’s why men can become obsessed with women they’ve never met. They love them like objects; not human beings.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 11:35 AM
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I’m so glad!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 03:36 PM
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I was “bullied” in high school. After years of reflection, I realized I wasn’t being bullied. I had outcasted myself in the way I dressed/acted and people were treating me accordingly. Examples: I thought I was smarter than everyone else despite getting failing grades. I thought I was “brutally honest,” (and that it was a good thing) but I was actually just a bitch. I made fun of the popular kids who, looking back, didn’t actually do anything wrong and if I wasn’t such a shithead I probably coul…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 02:52 PM
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I think some of them legitimately think it’s a belief system. “Blue pill” is literally just normal people who don’t subscribe to Red Pill (or other pill theories). There’s going to be natural variance in regular peoples advice, experiences, and beliefs regarding dating and sex since we aren’t following a singular, identifiable belief system. “You’re so blue pilled,” is an “insult” I’ve seen used in PPD and it doesn’t actually mean anything. Being called normal isn’t insulting to .. normal people…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 01:28 PM
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Masculinity: 90 Feminity: 102 This feels accurate.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 03:17 AM
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So that makes it ok? He never specified that women were cruel to him, just that he was “invisible” to them, I don’t feel empathy for someone who believes it’s acceptable to lash out at people who didn’t do anything to you. I can sympathize with the fact that he’s frustrated, but I don’t feel empathy for that behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 07:49 PM
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Asking someone a question in a normal interaction isn’t using someone though..
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 07:26 PM
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Not everyone is deserving of empathy. Some of the men here were truly given a bad hand at life. They missed out on fundamental socialization and experiences that other people in high school had and now they’re learning things later in life and they’re frustrated. I have empathy for those men; I also have empathy for men on the spectrum or who have mental illnesses which make forming and keeping relationships difficult. However, if you create your own problems and refuse to listen to anyone who t…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 06:56 PM
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As I said, several men have bullied some of the regular female posters into leaving the subreddit. Myself and other women have had brand new accounts PM us nasty things, one user has even been sent unsolicited explicit photos. I don’t see that happening to PPD men. If you’ve experienced that, please point out specific examples. Most PPD women are in relationships and don’t hate men. As I said, some lack empathy and are generally provocative but I don’t see unjustified scorn towards men as often …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 06:24 PM
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I have empathy up until a certain point. I see how many lonely, angry men cling to the Red Pill rhetoric and become radicalized by it, slowly changing their beliefs from the Red Pill beliefs about “self improvement” into the more Black pilled “looks and height are the only thing that matters,” and become hateful towards women. A few of the men here have dog piled women, followed them around, made alternate profiles and sent mean/nasty messages. It’s hard not to get tired of it and snap back. Som…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 03:59 PM
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Frequent texting, compliments, opening the car door, paying for dates, spending a lot of time together and “doing cool shit together” for 3-4 months is definitely not “causal” behavior. Most reasonable people would believe that they were in a full fledged relationship and not something casual. Especially since most couples say “I love you,” around 3 months into the relationship. Most men here would be equally upset to be dating a girl for 3-4 months, she religiously goes down on you and swallows…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 03:06 PM
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You’re preaching to the choir. 😎
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 04:23 AM
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Spontaneity isn’t a red flag, but there’s different ways you can be spontaneous. A sudden, unplanned, spontaneous trip would pretty much never be an option for me, and I’d expect anyone to know that with the nature of my job. So I’d feel like my life/obligations (or my job) weren’t being considered or respected if I was approached with a spontaneous trip and now I’m forced to be the bad guy for turning it down. My husband is spontaneous in small, enjoyable ways. Sometimes on the way home from ..…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 02:51 PM
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Let me make sure I understand your question correctly: Are you saying that fat women are beautiful but fat men are gross and only 6-packs are attractive? I’d argue that there’s plenty of media that features both slim/fit and attractive men and women and there’s media where they feature fat men and fat women. In a lot of movies, the “fat guy” gets the hot girl. I see both fat men and fat women being represented.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 04:25 PM
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Boys with bellies are beautiful. 👑
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 10:30 PM
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Or lose their jobs.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 10:28 PM
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But, in the same vein, we acknowledge biological differences between men and women. I’ve noticed that a lot of men in PPD justify certain behavior with “my biology,” and then shut it down or make a case about how we “aren’t our lizard brains” when we discuss women’s biological drives. So from a female perspective, it feels very double-standard in that regard too. A low libido in men is usually symptomatic of other things - depression, anxiety, stress, low testosterone, other health issues etc. s…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 03:58 PM
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Powerlifting isn’t a physique-centric sport, it’s strength focused so most powerlifters don’t have a “good physique” from powerlifting alone. Boxing is very cardio-centric so you’ll likely lose body fat by boxing depending how often you do it, but you may notice that heavy cardio affects your strength gains depending on what your powerlifting goals are.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 08:29 PM
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I’m just saying, the OP made a baseless claim about women who specifically state their preferences for das bods and then don’t have sex with their partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 06:21 PM
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Some of us are hot and just like what we like. 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 05:45 PM
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I like chubby men (read: more than a dad bod) and we have sex 4-5 times a week. So, idk what this guy’s on about.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 05:45 PM
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I was just explaining how TRP managed to connect "what your drean girl wants" and what 5000 girls want. I still think it has a propensity to create a negative feedback loop: "I don't have this, so if 5,000 girls want this.. then logically, my dream girl also wants this, therefore my dream girl will never want me." You seem to be able to date shorter guys and feel attraction towards them. I trust you are being honest and believe you. But you are not the norm. Do you think this is common? Yes, I t…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 03:46 PM
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Note: "you" is a general you, not a personal you specifically. That is where AWALT comes into play. They claim that all women want these traits in your man. That's the thing though, NOT "all women are like that," any more than the inverse "ALL men are like that." So applying the findings of a carefully picked, singular study done on a small sample of women to all women is illogical and harmful. It may represent trends but certain redpill or blackpill men often present the findings as an absolute…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 01:56 AM
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This is what bothers me about TRP’s resistance to anecdotes and only using generalizations or data from studies. TRP doesn’t know what your dream girl wants, they know what 5,000 women in Texas from 1996 want. Removing nuance and individuality from women and saying, “women don’t want that, women want this,” and then calling every woman who does want that an exception or a liar is just so backwards to me. I don’t generalize men or assume that all people with x trait are the same and therefore uni…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 11:08 PM
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Normalize grey sweatpants on the first date so the short guys with hogs can really shine. ✨
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 12:34 AM
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Right, because mens hobbies like gaming, and watching anime and porn are so much more sophisticated. See, I can make bad generalizations too.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 12:27 AM
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I think most women just want a man whose a few inches taller than them and not actually 6’0’ even if they say they want a man whose >6’0.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 10:40 PM
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We divorced for other, more serious issues but I can’t pretend that his behavior didn’t grossly contribute to my resentment over the years. I stayed in the relationship for ~8 years, mostly because of “pride.” There’s a lot of shame around divorce, but after going through it and growing thicker skin, my only regret was that I didn’t leave him sooner. What divorce taught me was that you can not force someone to change and that if you’re going to marry someone, you need to be honest with yourself …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 09:27 PM
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It depends on who you marry. With my first husband, yes. I felt like I had to tell him to do (what I consider to be) basic tasks. Take a shower, brush your teeth, go online and renew your car registration, put your laundry away, no you can’t wear that to a wedding, playing games for hours every day and choosing that over spending time with me/our son… it was exhausting to constantly “follow up” (re: nag) him to be an adult and not only pull his weight, but to just do things I considered normal l…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 03:18 PM
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I’m a millennial (31 years old) and most of my millennial aged friends own their own home. The few that don’t currently own, don’t have student loans and the reason they haven’t bought homes is because of other poor financial choices - high credit card debt, high spending on non-essential items, routinely buy new cars, worked part time the majority of their adult lives and didn’t pursue a full time job. One friend (same age) just “isn’t ready” and wanted to be married first so she rents a tiny a…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 08:05 PM
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Then how are you still here.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 07:48 PM
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I was also married to a 5’9 guy before, we were married for 8 years, have a child together, and we didn’t divorce because of his height.. so I’m not the meme. But whatever makes you feel better.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 01:43 PM
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Yeah, except it has nothing to do with his height. You conveniently like to gloss over the fact that I was with ONE tall guy out of .. many many more men 5’9 or below. The same applied to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 03:36 AM
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I think we’re tied for whose more obsessed with my husband. Yours just happens to be obsession with his height yet you accuse me of being a height fetishist. So bizarre.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 01:57 AM
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This is my experience too. My husband being able to complain, openly confide in me (or vent to me) when he’s heartbroken, upset, frustrated, etc. has strengthened our relationship. Him being vulnerable makes me respect his ability to reflect and knowing why something bothers him allows me to comfort him in a more personalized way. I view emotional vulnerability as a strength as long as it isn’t abused (I hold myself to this as well).
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 12:18 AM
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I understand the theoretical argument but I want to know how guys “know” that girls gave it up sooner with previous partners. I’ve never been asked my number or specifics about past hookups and someone asking that directly would be a red flag to me. It’s on par with someone asking me my bra size.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 11:49 PM
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In my personal experience, I’ve had men I complimented casually then try to start a conversation, or walk beside me, or ask for my phone number / social media. It doesn’t happen every time, but it happened a lot more than the “thanks, I appreciate it” responses.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 09:56 PM
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To add: I also know I can objectively compliment a woman, usually something specific like you mentioned such as her nails, her necklace, etc. and it’s “safe.” Women won’t invite themselves to a conversation with me or interpret it to mean anything more than it is. On the flip side: It’s widely considered by men that women don’t approach and if a woman does, it’s because she’s interested so if I compliment a man’s shirt, watch, hairstyle, etc. it’s viewed as an approach or an invitation to a conv…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 07:17 PM
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I meant kind of in terms of how you applied that to others. Like insisting that I “convinced myself” I’m attracted to my partner and that it can’t truly just.. he the case? Like how you spent many paragraphs explaining how I really settled but just refuse to admit it because of your logic. That’s fine to apply negative logic to yourself but it’s not really fair to apply that to strangers when you don’t know the inner workings of their life?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 12:39 PM
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Right and we were asked what our reference points are for ugly, average, and good looking. Those are my reference points..
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 03:43 AM
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Just facial attractiveness to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 02:44 AM
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I think I definitely picked that up from your responses, a lot of them favor negative views and are almost in strict disbelief of the optimistic side. It’s definitely a new perspective for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 02:44 AM
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It’s almost like.. people can have different outlooks on things. 🤯
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 02:42 AM
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People who are on disability also commit crimes and have to go to court. I’m just saying, being disabled isn’t really any indicator that you “can’t” go before a judge? My neighboring police department chased a kid who was DUI and fleeing from police on a dirt bike, he ended up getting run over by a garbage truck because he ran a stop sign in the pursuit and had a partial leg amputation, was on crutches/totally messed up. He still had to go to court.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 12:09 AM
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If it makes you feel better to call PPD women fat, frumpy and unkempt, that’s fine. 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/22 01:29 AM
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From your example, I would consider Jamie Dornan to be as equally average as Joseph Gordon Levitt. I would rate them both a 5.5-6 but for different reasons, but they both look like very average men to me. I don’t think there’s any famous actors who give me “tingles.” Actually, nobody has ever given me “tingles” on looks alone. I’ve always thought Jake Gyllenhaal was objectively pretty hot, like a solid 9. I think chubby Chris Pratt (think Andy Dwyer role) is more attractive than fit/muscular Chr…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/22 12:20 AM
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Re: luck I think sometimes luck can also simply be the right place at the right time. My husband and I worked together and knew of each other, but one day things just lined up where we were both available (single), emotionally open to “whatever,” and after a conversation at just the right time, we ended up hooking up. Had any of the circumstances been different, we wouldn’t have ended up together. I had never seen him as an option prior to that moment.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/22 12:00 AM
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Squat 335lbs, bench 170 lbs, deadlift 405lbs.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 09:48 PM
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I work with a paid powerlifting coach, so I trust them over random men in the internet who think they know better.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 08:38 PM
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Is it well done? Cool. Is it a botched home tattoo job? Less cool. I think funny tattoos are funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 06:32 PM
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Women will defend her. Men won’t. See any thread here in PPD about women wearing leggings at the gym.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 06:28 PM
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I like /u/Mark_Freed, but his responses are usually exceptionally long and assumptive. It’s hard to have a conversation that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 05:51 PM
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Have you ever personally experienced suicide? Not just know someone; personally experienced it. Because I have. It’s part of my job to respond to and investigate suicide deaths. I’ve been to dozens of them in the last few years. I have to photograph their bodies, go through all their stuff, talk to their families, and help the coroner bring their body out. Women aren’t killing themselves because of Chad. Women choose less lethal means because psychologically, most women who want to die also want…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 02:44 PM
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I’ve been training this way for years without any issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 04:45 AM
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It depends on what your goals are. I lift around 10 hours a week like /u/Feisty-Saturn, almost strictly heavy lifting (a dabble in cardio) with my goal being maxing out the three main lifts, squat/bench/deadlift. It takes considerably more time than casual lifting.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 02:20 AM
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Well, I can’t make time go faster or change when I met my partner in life, now can I?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 02:15 AM
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The issue is that, men with dark triad traits like narcissism aren’t going to be immediately obvious. Narcissists are incredibly manipulative and sociopaths/psychopaths are known for their charisma and charm. So people can be easily fooled or lured in by manipulative, charismatic people who have bad intentions or are prone to/perpetuate abusive behavior because they can’t mask forever.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 01:57 AM
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Can you link me to the thread? I’ll admit, I never actively improved myself for the purpose of dating. I’ve always prioritized my goals and happiness and let dating come second. I believe relationships should add to your life and never be the thing you build your whole life around and that people who are truly happy, healthy, and stable first will always be good prospective partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 01:33 AM
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Suit yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 01:14 AM
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I’m positive that you have other accomplishments which are brag worthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 12:45 AM
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You’re welcome to speak highly of yourself too, King. Nobody’s stopping you.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 12:25 AM
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Go outside and touch grass. Nobody’s making you use an app with a 5:1 radio men:women. Your opportunity is the same, if you’re limiting it by using tools which are stacked against you, that’s on you. I don’t want to be cold approached by men, but warm approaches (acquaintances - in a group/social setting) are received much better. Just like people who tailor their resume to the job are going to be more successful than people who use a generic resume.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 12:22 AM
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Equal opportunity is not equal outcome.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 11:54 PM
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I’m assuming since he mentioned women who work out and are “toned,” he means a woman who have at least somewhat (if not very) athletic bodies. I think most people would consider this to be a fit woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 11:12 PM
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I take it back and do not appreciate you!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 11:06 PM
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How can we tackle the reasons for your complaints? Because if I tell you exactly why I don’t want to have sex with you, it’s going to sound a lot like shaming or insulting.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 11:02 PM
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I appreciate you.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 10:56 PM
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Sure, but businesses can choose WHICH woman to hire based on qualifications. If 10 women apply, all 10 of them aren’t getting jobs. And if a woman who isn’t qualified applies, she also won’t get the job just because she’s a woman.. so since businesses can choose not to hire people based on their qualifications, women can choose not to date men based on theirs. Heterosexual woman are looking to “employ” men, but just being a man who applied isn’t the only requirement.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 10:55 PM
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All women are liars. /s 😏
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 10:42 PM
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4 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 10:40 PM
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I’m very fit and conventionally attractive with “desirable” traits (blue eyes, light brown/blonde hair). I’ve never had an issue having men interested in me, never been pumped&dumped by a man (all my casual sex was on my terms), never had a shortage of men willing to date me and had a very easy time getting commitment (married). I’ve probably been able to have a large pool of men interested in me by being attractive but I think it takes a lot more to get men to commit or marry you. I’m attractiv…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 10:13 PM
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Did you assume based on a limited presentation or did you truly know these women?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 05:14 PM
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I think it’s just more socially acceptable for women to complain in general. Disclaimer: I’m not saying I think it’s right, but most people aren’t threatened by women complaining. If a woman regularly complains there are no good men, I don’t feel threatened by that. Most men don’t either. If a man regularly complains that he isn’t getting sex, I can see why people would feel threatened because women can’t force men to commit into relationships but angry men can force women to have sex if they’ve…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 04:08 PM
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I don’t think that women who don’t fit into certain pill theories are exemptions. When you generalize and put women you don’t know into boxes “AWALT,” and “watch what they do, not what they say,” those theories really go down the drain when you apply them to individual women. I don’t think PPD women are these rare unicorn exceptions, men here have just arguably been able to probe/interrogate our thoughts in ways they don’t get to do with all other women. Each one of you write off large groups of…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 03:59 PM
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I ruffle feathers here but I do consider myself a good woman, and for that reason I’ve never had trouble dating good men (I only had one bad relationship and I know that he doesn’t represent all or even most men). I think good men at their core are men who are respectful, honest, understanding, good communicators, handle adversity/conflict well (don’t fight strangers or punch walls in anger), have a good balance between personal boundaries and compromise. Good men are loyal; to their partners, t…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 03:39 PM
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But if we’re not looking for men who make 6 figures & take care of us, it matters to us.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 01:50 AM
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I only really know about my best friends relationship dynamic and it doesn’t mirror mine. Her and her husband disagree on a lot of things, she vents and complains about him/their fights regularly. I don’t know about my other friends; I don’t really care to know because it doesn’t affect mine. I don’t think there’s anything partly correct about TRP, no. I’m willing to bet you have an idea and a book pre-planned though.. 😬
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 01:46 AM
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Women can’t possibly be interested in things that matter, just gender studies, liberal arts and feminism obviously. /s
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 01:01 AM
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He’s probably referring to most of the men here who say that a woman’s career and education don’t matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 08:42 PM
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Mines an alpha giga-Chad because he’s tall, but he married a single mom and doesn’t subscribe to any of their “muh biology” beliefs. So that’s a beta. It’s impossible to tell what these men believe anymore, they don’t even know.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 07:27 PM
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There’s a growing population of men who are literally disgusted by non-virginal women (I never said high-n). Most people have sexual experience past the age of 20. So if you’re going to seek a “traditional woman” because TRP has led you to believe those are the only women with value without being a “traditional man,” yourself, you’re just limiting your options by not being attractive to the group of people you want.. Or, if you follow the other TRP line of thinking where you try to be attractive…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 07:25 PM
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I think that TRP advice is toxic, as a whole. It teaches young men to believe that women are vapid, immature, liars and sluts and should be treated like children. It teaches that their only value is their beauty and how “used” their vagina is, so by proxy it’s teaching young men to be utterly disgusted by most women, therefore limiting their dating pool (which is counterproductive for unsuccessful men). It teaches men that women will never genuinely love them if they don’t meet certain physical …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 06:51 PM
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The Red Pill constantly changes what they consider an “alpha male.” At this point, I read “alpha” as the “everyone who isn’t me” boogeyman. You do not need to be an alpha or a beta to be attractive to women or be in loyal relationships with them. If you believe that the alpha monkey-dance is the only way because sexually unsuccessful men have convinced you that’s true, of course you’re going to start questioning your own value if you don’t meet those standards. If you’re young, look at the women…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 06:34 PM
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I never said he was ugly, I said I rate him a 10 and someone else would likely rate him a 6. If all the women in this subreddit were to rate Ethan Mildren on a 1-10 scale, I’m going to absolutely bet that they’re not rating him as highly as I am.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 06:25 PM
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I think you’re overselling it based on height alone. If he was universally attractive, he wouldn’t have EVER struggled with dating. Yet when we met he was at a point he was swearing off relationships all together. You guys are completely incapable of looking at the totality of the circumstances and focus on one thing and that’s why you all struggle - it’s “this one thing” holding you back because you believe that “one thing” makes others successful and not you know, the whole fucking picture.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 06:19 PM
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That is absolutely ridiculous and not true. Most men under 6 feet who make average income get married and reproduce. In fact; there’s several studies around here showing that 70% of men are in relationships. https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2020/08/20/a-profile-of-single-americans/ Those 5’8 men aren’t all making 180k.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 06:04 PM
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You literally have no idea what my husband experienced dating women.. wow.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 05:59 PM
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9/10 men are the ones discussing height here.. you guys straight up call women who date men under 6’0’ liars or accuse them of settling while crying you don’t want to be settled for. You’re obsessed with the fact that it’s somehow your height holding you back that you’re unwilling to look at anything else.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 05:56 PM
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I did not circumcise my son, it wasn’t even a discussion (his father isn’t circumcised).
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 05:52 PM
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I don’t know any women obsessed with height. I’ve seen a few OLD profiles circulate where women have a height standard, I legitimately do not see any female friends (and I’m in my 30’s) in the real world excluding men under 6’0 or having height preferences. Most of my friends are married to average men, 5’7-5’9, a few who are 5’11.. even when I was a hoe and going out with the girls, none of them ever flocked to tall men. They always went home with facially attractive, charismatic men. So I’m ju…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 05:44 PM
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If you’re going to make an affirmative claim, it’s your job to back it up.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 05:40 PM
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I actually didn’t say that at all. I said “but my idea of a 10/10 is probably someone else’s 6.” So someone somewhere probably finds him a 6. You’re not arguing what I said against me, you’re arguing what you think it means against me. Being tall doesn’t make your number go up. Like your height is not the only thing influencing your #. Being overweight or average in facial attractiveness (and everyone has different ideas about what makes someone facially attractive) is equally important in influ…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 05:39 PM
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And what have you compared that’s “saying what I think makes me look good based on who I’m talking to.” Angels-fan purposefully misquoted me while linking my comment. Neither of those comments contradict each other if you read my actual comment, not his twisted interpretation of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 05:34 PM
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His father is 5’9. He has no chance of being over 6’0 anyways. So I don’t see how I “couldn’t be attracted to” someone under 6’0 based on “genetics.” And I am one woman, I can acknowledge that other women are attracted to all types of men. I don’t believe that what I’m attracted to is the only thing that’s attractive.. this is just such a foreign concept to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 05:28 PM
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There’s nothing to double down on. You guys are so obsessed with tall men you believe everyone else is too. I’ve said it dozens of times here - I’ve been with ONE MAN whose tall and that’s somehow “confirmation” of your beliefs. If I historically dated tall men, I’d agree there’s a trend/preference and that saying it doesn’t matter is disingenuous. If everyone else I’ve ever slept with or dated and even MARRIED PREVIOUSLY is 5’3-5’9, how can you possibly argue anything in good faith.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 05:27 PM
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I’ve never shifted based on who I’m talking to, but you guys will always take everything something says and cherry pick it to fit your biases.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 05:22 PM
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What mask? I’ve discussed height before in plenty of threads. It certainly isn’t an “oops! I accidentally slipped my virtual signaling to the incels!”
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 05:18 PM
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So he’s attractive to everyone because of his height alone? The fact that he’s 60+ pounds overweight doesn’t detract from that because “doesn’t matter, he’s tall?” You also purposefully paraphrased my comment. I said, “My preferences typically do not align with anything men here in PPD claim to be the standard.” I’ve said it time and time again, height is not my preference. He just happens to he then ONE MAN I have ever been with who’s tall. Plenty of people have some attractive qualities. It do…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 05:17 PM
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Average height men don’t struggle to reproduce. Men with socialization issues and mental health issues who happen to be average height struggle to reproduce. I’m just really disturbed and confused by this perspective that I should be “attracted” to my son. Other women have dated, married, and reproduced with men I don’t find sexually attractive in any way.. so I’m not worried about my child being attractive to someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 05:13 PM
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I mean.. I’ve never thought, “I want to have a son who looks like his father so I find him sexually attractive.” My husband is 6’4” but almost exclusively dated women 5’0-5’4” so for as much as women have a reputation for wanting taller men, most of the taller men I know prefer short women. My brother is 6’1” and his dream girl, like the only girl he’s ever loved (he got the girl) is 4’11” so I’m not sure men are acting in the purely biological interest of continuing their own traits either?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 04:31 PM
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I’ve always been uncomfortable by men insisting to pay when I take out my wallet to split the bill and they pay, because now I feel indebted to them. If I don’t want to go out again, now I’m in a debt I can’t repay.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 03:41 PM
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Married, we both work full-time in the same profession/career field. We each have a child from a previous relationship and no biological children together (and will not be having children together). I primarily do house chores such as cleaning, cooking, dishes, laundry, grocery shopping, managing bills and finances etc. Despite having ADHD, I’m just “better” at keeping up with these things. I usually ask him to bring laundry baskets up/down or take the trash out. In the summer, he mows the lawn.…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 03:02 PM
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I agree. I don’t think most people intend for their cheating to escalate the way it usually does. Cheating, just like new relationships is gradual, so they probably justify each incremental step and believe they’re just going to get their fix then quit so they don’t have to leave their partner. Short term/long term benefits etc. They probably get caught before they get to the point of considering leaving.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 08:11 PM
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I would say women who experience a lack of appreciation and emotional support or men who experience a lack of sex for any reason are most likely to cheat. When someone’s needs aren’y being met and they’ve tried to but ultimately been unsuccessful, I think desperation is the driving force behind most cheating. Some people (loud minority) truly are just shitty people without any consideration for their partner. Posting your body doesn’t really have anything to do with cheating imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 07:49 PM
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No.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/22 10:08 PM
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What’s this trend with calling all PPD women “FDS.” Most men here are TRP or blackpill, so it’s more realistic to address the majority. There’s legitimately like 2 actual FDS defenders here.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/22 08:25 PM
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Y’all are just really prioritizing the wrong shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/22 07:03 PM
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I think they think all fertility/birth rates are declining because they’re unable to reproduce so.. solipsism.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/22 02:54 PM
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I never used Tinder, most of my hookups were people friends of friends I met briefly at bars or generally “out” in the world and went out with for the purpose of hooking up. “Hey, since we’re going to x, is your friend (insertname) still single and wanna hook up tonight?” They’d bring their friend to the group - I had company at the pool table, plenty of time to flirt, and a “sure thing.” I didn’t need to use Tinder and I probably would have just ended up uninterested if I spent my free time loo…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/22 01:33 PM
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Reposting my comment under AutoMod: Men don’t even know what an alpha is. The goal posts are constantly changing. They’ll shame women for not committing and only wanting “alphas,” and they’ll shame women for getting into relationships because she “settled with a beta,” and then they’ll say that men who take what they want are alphas unless what that man wants is marriage, then he’s a beta.. it’s honestly exhausting to follow. You know what most women don’t care about? Whether a man is an “alpha”…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 06:40 PM
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I don’t think he had a romantic connection (I’m interpreting this to mean “crush”) or sexual desire. I really think it was as simple as, “this girl looks good.” If I asked him to, I’m sure he’d unfollow pretty much anyone without being defensive or upset which is why I don’t think there’s any “connection” there.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 06:22 PM
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Probably because they look good. We both followed this girl on Instagram.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 06:13 PM
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My husband followed a lot of influencers from when he was single/causal. In my experience, most men just don’t go through the trouble of unfriending or unfollowing literally anyone until it comes up as a conflict.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 06:04 PM
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UCR reporting includes gender statistics. I think a lot more women are arrested and jailed than people actively recognize.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 05:58 PM
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No, I’m an officer.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 04:44 PM
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Yeah, I’m curvy but very muscular.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 04:43 PM
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My only issue with women’s only gyms is that a lot of them are very weight-loss centered like “Curves” and focus on cardio, Pilates/yoga/Zumba and don’t have weights (by default) so they don’t appeal to weightlifting women & we’re kinda forced into masculine or male dominated iron gyms anyways. I’m ok with women’s gyms existing, I just don’t have a functional use for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 05:38 AM
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I pretty much clear those types of calls out of my queue immediately & ask dispatch to give me the caller’s phone number so I tell them over the phone to talk to their neighbors like adults.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 01:07 AM
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I’ve never had a “thing” for tall guys so him being tall (he’s 6’04) is very much just a neutral trait. I didn’t really view his height specifically as a net positive or advantage he has over other men. I knew my husband through work; we were very loose acquaintances, so I knew how tall he was but he wasn’t really ever a romantic option for me until he expressed interest in me first. He took a shot when I was single & on the rebound and it worked out in the long run.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 12:38 AM
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That’s my thought too - Most features just aren’t universally attractive, it has everything to do with how they fit with that persons other features/overall look.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 09:57 PM
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I think you’re really insistent on making everything fit very neatly into boxes. I disagree that having a physical “type” is human nature. & Hispanic men are equally likely to have very coarse/curly hair. But I actually said most and it isn’t a requirement, because I didn’t reject men for having blonde hair or blue eyes, there are just statistically more men who have darker hair and dark eyes. I have never gone out looking for men, so my “options” have been limited to men who approached me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 07:38 PM
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Why is it easier to assume I’ve never thought about it and must lying than to accept the possibility that there isn’t necessarily a common theme among my exes? The closest thing would be that most of my exes have had dark hair and brown eyes, but it isn’t a predetermined requirement that I screen for. Since you mentioned race - my exes have been Indian, white, and Hispanic.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 07:16 PM
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Men will say something about biological imperative to pass on their genes in order to he “successful.” I also raise a child who isn’t mine; my husband has a daughter, but he’ll never have a son to pass on his name/lineage. I guess he’s still a horrible “beta” for having a happy, fulfilling life.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 06:15 PM
0

I wouldn’t consider myself “short as fuck.” The average American woman is 5’04. And the average American man is 5’09-5’10. So I feel like that’s actually a perfect example of paired averages.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 05:33 PM
2

I’m American.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 05:30 PM
4

So let me get this straight, your changing the goal posts and the only quantifier to being a Chad is procreating? So when women are riding the carousel and they “settle” in their 30’s - the “BB” who has children with them is actually the Alpha.. Your logic isn’t sound.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 05:30 PM
5

5’03.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 05:13 PM
5

Yes and no. The manosphere preaches AF/BB where women are procreating with tall, handsome “Chads” and settling down with short, rich, and otherwise below-average men in their 30’s. My ex-husband is “short” (by comparison) and is certainly not an alpha or a “Chad” in terms of looks, income, or status. I didn’t settle in any way for my current husband in terms of looks or other valuable qualities.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 05:13 PM
3

I’m 31.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 04:55 PM
11

But not because of his height. If you want to further complicate matters in terms of manosphere doctrine: I have a child with my “short” ex-husband, I will never have children with my current “tall” husband (I was sterilized after my son was born). So my ex passed on his genetics with a son, my husband did not.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 04:55 PM
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Of course, for men who’ve decided that their height is what’s holding them back, it must be my husbands height that led to his romantic success and it can’t have anything to do with the fact that we’re also more emotionally/socially compatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 04:53 PM
7

If you read my other replies: I was also married previously (ex-husband was 5’09).
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 04:48 PM
12

I was also married previously. My ex-husband was 5’09. Disclaimer: I didn’t divorce him due to his height.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 04:28 PM
7

It does just so happen. If you’re going to use the single exception to justify a bias you hold, that’s on you and there isn’t anything I can say that will change your mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 04:13 PM
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I think most men (especially men who are on the spectrum) just operate better when there’s absolutes and the fact that attraction is so fluid and uncertain is difficult. In math and science, a theory or principle is proven if you can replicate it. If you can’t replicate it, it’s unreliable. That’s why the gut reaction is to call women “liars” or say were being dishonest/giving bad advice, because what attracts us to one man can’t be replicated or universally applied to all men. They desperately …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 04:11 PM
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I’ve said it here many times, and been called a liar (by men) each time: I do not have a predetermined list of physical traits that I require or even strongly prefer for a man to “qualify.” All of my exes are physically very different. Most of them were shorter (5’04-5’10) but my husband is much taller, they’ve had all different body types, different hair colors and eye colors, some were muscular, most weren’t. If I like you, the totality of you, I can fall in love with your physical traits. I t…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 03:57 PM
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You know what’s even funnier. When I comment using an alt which has a male icon/flair, men don’t argue with me constantly despite expressing the literal same views but with genders reversed.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 01:08 AM
4

Wearing leggings is not sexualizing myself. I wear leggings at home and I wear leggings at 4am when I’m the only person in the gym. If you find full length leggings to be sexual because they’re form fitting, that’s on you, and I won’t be responsible for it. Men will sexualize literally anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 09:52 PM
11

Yet the reality is that the only people who will compliment your physique are other men.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 07:39 PM
9

for attention, to get recognition, to show off None of this is sexual. So why is women wanting the same things immediately assumed to be pandering for sexual attention?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 07:21 PM
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Yeah, that’s judging girl. You don’t get a prize for wearing a baggy t-shirt and working out harder than they do. If they want to do glute focused exercises and take pictures of their ass, literally who cares? Do you and go home. I probably work out harder than you and I also take pictures of my ass but I’m not judging you for your attire or goals. Grow up.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 07:10 PM
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“I’m not judging but…” 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 06:28 PM
4

Do you think they’re dressing like that specifically to draw your attention and to taunt you because they know you’re not their type or do you think it’s more likely that these women just also like the way their clothing makes them look/feel and it’s totally ok for people to like the way they look?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 06:02 PM
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I’m probably a good candidate to answer this question. I wear leggings, shorts, and sports bras. I can’t tell you the last time I wore a shirt over my sports bra while at the gym. Sometimes I wear leggings with butt contour - they’re trendy and I like them. I usually don’t take my daily make up off just to go to the gym; I change and go. So I usually at least have mascara on. I don’t view the way I dress as sexualizing myself any more than men who wear tight t-shirts or skimpy muscle tank tops d…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 05:38 PM
2

I’m aware, and I appreciate your advice, but I’m not encouraging him to fight anyone. I’ll support him if he ever does want to switch to a combat sport.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 06:32 PM
3

Thank you, I try my best!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 03:30 PM
3

He likes TKD. If he shows interest in another sport, I’ll happily make the switch.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 02:11 PM
5

You know what? If the way I’m raising him means he won’t end up anything like you, I’ll consider that a great success. Please just stop. 🤚🏽
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 02:07 PM
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I respectfully disagree. Being a good person and finding a purpose outside of a relationship is important to being a healthy, functioning human being. Relationships should supplement a happy life, not dominate it. I don’t want him to grossly obsess over romantic conquests, hyper focus on casual sex, or believe that having casual sex/ a girlfriend will just fix all his problems the way men do here.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 12:44 AM
6

I’ll see how he turns out in a few years before I consider it a success! But thank you and I’m sorry it was a longer, harder journey for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 12:39 AM
9

Thank you. I certainly try!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 11:28 PM
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I have a son - I won’t state his age, but he isn’t a baby. He has medical issues that make him an easy target for bullying. He’s an incredibly sweet child and very sociable; I enrolled him in daycare early for social interaction, and he attends public school now - he does extracurricular/sports (Tae Kwon Doe and hockey) so he can be confident in himself and work with others as a team. He’s been taught that being a good person and doing the right thing doesn’t always mean you’ll be praised or rew…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 09:00 PM
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It’s the black pill extravaganza where men can shamelessly hate women, and women can tell them to fuck off without being banned.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 03:52 PM
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I’ve never seen an astrology girl here. Now I’m excited for the Easter egg hunt.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 03:43 PM
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I support this and agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 03:16 PM
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It was the rolly backpack for me. I feel like I can interchange witchcraft and Satan for anime and right-wing conspiracy theories for greater accuracy.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 05:00 AM
1

Make an offer.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 12:47 AM
3

Pay me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 11:32 PM
2

I’m also a Penna resident. I feel like everything’s bigger in Texas tho soo..
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 01:30 AM
1

Female; we each have a bathroom closet shelf. They’re both about equally full. I mostly have hair products and face creams, he has shaving, hair, & other grooming products. I have an additional mirrored vanity for makeup in our room though.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/21 03:45 PM
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I think that, women who are criminals or otherwise low value like criminals. The women who are with criminals aren’t the modelesque, puritanical women these men even want. They’re usually sluts, single moms, drug addicts, homeless, missing teeth, etc. I work in law enforcement in a low income area and yes, women are always fighting over criminal men, but they’re not the type of woman you want to date, marry, or procreate with. The criminals have things to offer them in exchange for sex; drugs an…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/21 05:39 AM
2

I also think $1,000 is expensive. My husband and I don’t wear rings (by choice), so FDS would burn me at the stake too. 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 01:27 PM
9

“Rules for me but not for thee,” is what I see most often. TRP men lament about how “modern women” have ruined dating and demand a traditional woman; marries young, virgin, is not a careerist, wants to stay at home and raise children, etc. but in the same breath, are upset when they’re expected to court women, pay for dates, wait for sex, are seen as a walking wallet by “gold diggers.” You can’t be a modern man and expect a traditional woman, and even more so the fact that a traditional woman is…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 04:06 AM
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The threads that really pissed me off were the demand for $10,000 engagement rings and anyone who either forewent a ring or had a cheap ring ($50-1,000) was bullied for being a “pick-me.” It’s so toxic and sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 04:01 AM
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I had it in January. My only symptoms were a low-grade fever for a few days (101 degrees F) and compete loss of taste/smell. It had it’s pros and cons; pro was that I couldn’t smell my husbands stinky farts and cons were that I cook my families meals so they had to eat salty asparagus for almost a month. I’m glad you’re feeling better and that it wasn’t too terrible for you! I only got vaccinated because my employer mandated it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 01:56 AM
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I’m gonna take some RP advice and toss it out there, “he should have vetted better.”
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 01:46 AM
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I think most of the women here don’t subscribe to FDS ideas/beliefs. I don’t read the FDS subreddit at all but I’m subscribed in case a TRP man references/quotes the sub, I can go see what he’s talking about in case it gets locked or privatized. In fairness, I’m also subscribed to MGTOW for the same reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/21 05:29 PM
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I’m not chained to a desk, so I guess this doesn’t apply to me. But existing costs money = survival, so I’m not sure paid employment is equivalent of slave labor.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/21 05:08 PM
4

I’m not being duped by anyone. I like working, I like cleaning my house.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 06:05 AM
10

I’m sorry, did you just call women with careers slaves?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 05:26 AM
2

It isn’t a fetish, it’s a preference. I haven’t experienced any issues with small dicks or less sexual endurance. Maybe that’s true for men who are obese/morbidly obese, but I have no experience with that as it isn’t my preference.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 05:10 AM
2

I don’t hate myself at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 11:50 PM
10

I’m a chubby chaser so, I’ve always had a larger dating pool.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 01:14 PM
1

You heard it here folks - single moms are approved.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/21 06:13 PM
15

This sounds like a fake story. 🤷🏽‍♀️ “I offered her to fulfill my desires of seeing her naked in my bed. She was intrigued…” “She loved the sex.” Get better at creative writing.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/21 02:29 PM
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That’s like saying you’re being harassed when you’re in an argument with someone you don’t like. It isn’t harassment if you’re a voluntary participant.. same concept - it isn’t manipulation if you’re agreeing to the terms.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/21 07:23 PM
2

Early 30’s.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/21 11:57 PM
18

My best friend had severe Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). Her manic and depressive episodes were extreme, she destroyed her marriage by cheating and demanding he participate in a polygamous lifestyle, she spent her wealthy husband’s money like water, she committed petty crimes for thrills (she would order $500-1000 in products from eBay and Amazon and then say she never got the items for a refund - she was even banned by eBay for this). She flirted with suicide and doctor shopped for Xana…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/21 04:25 PM
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I like soft men. I’ve dated very masculine “macho” men who were aggressive, I’ve dated very politically Conservative men, I’ve dated very fit men. I prefer intelligent men who are emotionally sensitive, men who aren’t afraid to be soft and loving, men who aren’t afraid to discuss their thoughts and feelings with me. I love that my husband wants lots of affection and cuddles to be comforted and loved. I love that he doesn’t get agitated or aggressive with other people and try to fight people. I l…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/21 03:21 PM
1

I’ve never measured a man’s value by how chivalrous he is, or how to measure such a thing. Be a good person, do things out of the goodness of your heart, make choices that prioritize your safety and when you’re in a relationship, make sure both you and your partner are comfortable. From your example - my husband doesn’t care who drives, but I get car sick in the passenger seat. So I usually drive and he browses his phone. I don’t think he’s less of a man for this, it benefits me and allows him t…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/21 02:28 PM
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Even very hot men have to have something else for most women to have NSA sex with them. I’m not saying hot men aren’t more successful at getting sex than average men, but most of the women and myself included who had casual sex did so with very normal guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 04:35 PM
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I appreciate that. I try to separate peoples views from who they are too. Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 04:25 PM
2

Are you taking steps towards gainful employment to pay your bills?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 03:19 PM
2

Absolutely. He was an electrician making $80k a year, he was laid off and unemployed for 4-5 months, and then took another job making $60k, so I supported him through a period of unemployment and supported him taking a job that made significantly less because it made him happier. I would not support him being unemployed entirely because he’s capable of work (even if it was low income work) but I would not expect him to support me being unemployed either so I find this viewpoint reasonable. As lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 02:54 PM
2

It certainly doesn’t have to. My husband and I both make good money and we got married for $60.00 (the cost of the marriage license).
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 02:20 PM
2

Afford in what way?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 02:01 PM
1

I feel like all pill theory affiliations are counterproductive to healthy, happy relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 03:42 AM
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Looks matter, but not in the way that TRP and the manosphere think they do. You don’t have to be a 6 foot tall “Chad” with a chiseled jaw and a six-pack to attract women. Looks are subjective and you do have to be attractive to the woman you’re trying to attract. No amount of personality will make up for a lack of initial physical attraction. Also, being unattractive to an individual woman or a “type” of woman you’re interested in doesn’t make you wholly unattractive. Sometimes the people were a…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 03:34 AM
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Women are constantly compared to others - there’s always someone with a tighter vagina, a “neater” or more pleasant looking vagina, etc. I’m just not worried about it. I’ve never had sex with someone and thought, “wow I wish his penis was big like Jonathans!” and reminisce about past lovers. SOME women might. Most don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 12:29 AM
1

I’m sorry you can’t get what you want, but that isn’t my fault. Shaming me for achieving what you can’t (but ultimately want to) is just silly.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 10:00 PM
2

I didn’t say any of that… If you want to use RP theory and strategy to sleep around and have a high n-count, you can’t shame women who also wanted to sleep around. There’s no gaslighting - if RP men want to preach about consistency, this falls into that category.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 09:49 PM
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The rules and goal posts for what or who “Chad” is are constantly changing with RP men, so no I’m not being dim. A good percentage of RP men are thinking of “top 20%” of men with 666 status. Lately, it just means anyone who isn’t you, which is just ridiculous. I’m not homophonic, but I don’t obsessively (or even casually) think about what the genitals of every woman my husband may have slept with look like, and I’d argue I’m far from alone in that. Men here aren’t causally ACKNOWLEDGING previous…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 09:46 PM
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And arguably most women wanted the sex that led to their counts.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 08:25 PM
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Yet they shame women with high n-counts for the same reason. Cake eaters.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 07:13 PM
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“Chad” doesn’t mean anything anymore. Men consider anyone a woman had sex with in her 20’s to be “Chad.” If you lived in different cities, if you went to different colleges, if you worked in different professions.. it’s not likely you would have run into her in her 20’s for her to reject you specifically. So she isn’t necessarily “settling” for you over the “Chad” she couldn’t lock down. It sounds like their perception of self image is what’s leading them to believe like they were “settled” for …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 06:52 PM
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I disagree with a lot of TRP because myself and most of the women I know don’t fit anywhere into their “AWALT” theories. I consider myself to be both attractive and valuable as a person/woman and most RP comments here cause immediate disgust or frustration, I can’t see myself being in a relationship with someone like that.. so for people who subscribe to it to find a valuable mate, I just think they’re doing more harm to their prospects than help.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 05:36 PM
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The top 10-20 is different for every woman. My husband is 10/10 to me, but I’m sure other women wouldn’t categorize him the same. So he’s my top 10% but someone else’s bottom 50%.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 12:13 PM
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Considering I do so in my profession and have been specifically trained in interview/interrogation, to read body language, and detect indicators of deception, I probably don’t fall into that category.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 12:20 AM
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I made incredible sacrifice to achieve it. I don’t think I overestimate anything. But if I’m willing to put the work in to achieve a certain status or position, I want a partner who is equally driven. I don’t want to carry someone else’s weight, I want an equal.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/21 10:07 PM
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I’m pretty good at reading people (it’s what I do for a living) so I’m sure I’d be able to pick up on it if we were in person. I don’t have interest in getting naked with someone who I don’t have chemistry with regardless of how attractive I find him, so if he’s not putting any effort into being attractive in more than looks (like conversation etc.), I’d rather sleep with someone much less attractive than him who I get along with.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/21 09:13 PM
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I’ve never sought out the “hottest” guy I could find for casual sex, and I don’t know anyone else whose done this either.. men usually approach women, so if a guy approached me and he was decently attractive and we had immediate chemistry (similar senses of humor), I’d sleep with him. If he was super hot and we had immediate chemistry, I’d sleep with him. If the super hot guy thought he was above me (I interpret this as showing signs of arrogance and negging), then we wouldn’t have the chemistry…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/21 09:05 PM
3

I grew up incredibly poor (my mother was a single mom, government assistance, free lunch at school, clothes from Goodwill kind of poor) and worked my way into upper middle class. I think men unwilling to better themselves in terms of education, employment, etc. are below average and it isn’t necessarily a class issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/21 08:55 PM
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Yeah. It was normal to go weeks without sex. I required a lot of work up to get interested (mentally and physically) and a lot of it was duty sex. I just wasn’t turned on by him without effort. And that was a young marriage (remember, I was 18) with a low n-count. My marriage now, after some years experimenting with casual sex, is very different - I find my husband insatiably sexy all the time, the sight of his naked body is enough to get me wet, there’s a lot of non-sexual physical intimacy (ki…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 04:30 PM
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I’m 30, I definitely have the most sex now, as a married woman. I was in 1-2 short term, casual relationships in my teens and lost my virginity at 16. I was then in a LTR from the age of 18-25 and I would say sex was.. once every 1-2.5 weeks, the longest I went without sex (including handjobs, oral sex etc.) in that relationship was 5-6 months. After we split up, I had casual sex/ONS semi-regularly for 1.5-2 years but now that I’m married (we’ve been together for just under 4 years), and we have…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 04:05 PM
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You projecting your insecurity onto your partner doesn’t make her more likely to “yearn” for past dick/sex. When sex with my exes comes up in conversation, it’s like discussing a restaurant you ate at once. I remember going there but I probably couldn’t tell you what I ate.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 09:05 PM
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People say this but nobody would ever guess my number based on my behavior or appearance/dress the way the PPD men describe.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 08:55 PM
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I’ve only ever had ONE person I had sex with more than once outside of an exclusive relationship and I married him. I never returned to a ONS/casual guy and it certainly isn’t because I didn’t have the opportunity. I’ve never had the “ghost of good sex” haunt me. This must be a male thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 08:51 PM
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I’m 30. I’ve had several meaningful LTR’s with decent men, I’m currently married. I’ve also had a lot of casual sex. I’ve never been asked my number.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/21 08:41 PM
4

My last relationship was 8 years. Our relationship didn’t end because I was bored with his penis. Also, everyone’s different. 🤷🏽‍♀️ You being so sure that I’ll get bored is just silly. If you’ve been in a relationship for 20 years, you most likely have no idea how it is to be a slut and then get into a relationship. I do.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 10:47 PM
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It’s been 4 years. I’m definitely not going to get bored.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 10:35 PM
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I rode the carousel. I got dizzy. I’m much happier and more satisfied with my LTR marriage sex. I have no reason to go back to fucking random men who can’t please me when I have a guaranteed orgasm 4-5 days a week with a man I find irresistibly sexy. Now what?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 10:15 PM
5

My best friend is a non-slut forever girlfriend. There now we both have anecdotes. I on the other hand, was a huge hoe and have never struggled to have men want to wife me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 10:12 PM
2

I believe people until they give me a reason not to. I haven’t done any harm to myself using this method.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 07:33 PM
1

Then don’t believe me. It doesn’t change the truth. I’ve never been asked, and I’ve never asked anyone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 06:36 PM
7

I think you’re harming yourself more by assuming that everyone’s a liar.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 03:44 PM
4

Bigger boobs doesn’t mean “better” boobs, being tighter, younger, more energy etc. doesn’t equal “better” so I’m not concerned about this being a quantifier that “out performs” me. He was younger, more fit, and had more energy when he was with those women too. I’m not jealous about his experiences with them and those experiences have no translation into his love for me. He asked ME to marry him, he didn’t ask the girl with bigger boobs to marry him. That’s enough for me. I value my experiences w…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 03:35 PM
10

I’ve literally never even had anyone ask my number.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 02:48 AM
2

Yup, my husband and I probably wouldn’t have worked out if we waited and didn’t have that immediate passion!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 08:58 PM
6

I fuck on the first date. I’m not gonna get attached to someone after a few dates and weeks of talking just to learn he’s a weirdo in bed or that I hate his penis.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 08:02 PM
2

I also have this preference and it makes me laugh because this subreddit automatically assumes I’m unattractive for preferring dad bods/chubby men.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 04:10 PM
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I’m not attracted to muscular men. I hear it peddled here constantly that women require 6-pack abs and lean, fit men but it’s just not for me. I myself am very fit (I lift competitively) so I’m around fit men in the gym daily and I just don’t find it sexually appealing. I need a guy with fluff.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 01:58 PM
0

Because you’re all struggling and none of you have knowledge and experience. It’s how cesspools and echo chambers are born.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 04:15 AM
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Attraction is subjective. I probably only find 20% of men attractive, but they aren’t the “top 20%” that all women would find attractive. Most of the men I find very attractive are, by all definitions very, very average. Example: https://twitter.com/ToTouchAnEmu/status/1424145988349014022?s=20 I’m absolutely smitten by that guy in the link but he’s definitely very average in the face and body. He’s probably not what most people here would call “top 20%”
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 04:11 AM
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I think men find these men to be attractive so they assume women must also find them attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/21 11:10 AM
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I meant more in terms of - I consider myself to be a kind and selfless person, but I’m able to recognize peoples boundaries and when offering help would be inappropriate. I also think excessive compliments (“love bombing”) or offering to purchase gifts (even when you say no) etc. are red flags which is what I consider to be overly kind. It doesn’t matter how attractive a man is, that behavior is seen as creepy.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 06:41 PM
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I think attractive guys who are overly kind are still creepy.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 05:53 PM
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This man has likely never gotten into a fight in his life.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 06:32 PM
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Look up SF-86, that’s the document used for a TS clearance. The majority of the questions are regarding relationships with foreign nationals / foreign governments.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 05:19 PM
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I have a TS military clearance which is renewed every 5 years. They’ve never checked my social media history.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 05:07 PM
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My point remains - avoid pissing people off in bars. Stop defending women and getting into fights like a primate.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 04:39 PM
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This. I’m a female police officer and the number of men who call me dear/honey/babe while calling my partner Sir is disgusting. The number of men who make icky comments about being handcuffed. Threatening to rape me when they get out of jail.. I had to add charges against a guy for literally grabbing my crotch on purpose and saying “grab her by the pussy.”
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 04:33 PM
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Then avoid pissing people off in bars the same way people tell women to “stop asking for it” by wearing dresses.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 04:22 PM
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Yeah. I’m confused by men considering Instagram to be a DATING APP. All social media CAN be used to get dates, but the majority of women don’t make an Instagram to hook up/find love? I don’t know anyone who met their husband/wife through IG..
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/21 03:42 PM
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Past relationship - sure, I’ve asked him some questions about why his past relationships ended before we became “serous.” His sexual history doesn’t carry any significance for me personally, and he feels the same way about me. I agree with you though, if you don’t find someone who truly likes you for who you are, the relationship won’t work out long term.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 01:39 AM
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I’ve never told anyone I’ve ever dated my n-count and I’ve never asked. I don’t think I would benefit in any way from knowing the number of women my husband has slept with and I certainly don’t WANT him to regret his sexual past. I don’t regret mine and it has no bearing on my character development or ability to be happy, fulfilled, and loyal. We learned from our pasts and our former mistakes so we can be better partners today.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 11:57 PM
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I respond to about 4 domestic violence calls a week.. (I’ve been doing this for ~5 years) and this is my experience with relationship dynamics resulting in domestic violence: The majority of domestic violence is mutual arguments which result in one party snapping and turning a verbal altercation into a physical one. Alcohol and drugs are almost always a factor. It’s very seldom a “very controlling woman” pushing a man to his breaking point and usually a combination of fault where both parties ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 03:43 AM
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Having threesomes doesn’t mean he was having threesomes with attractive, high quality women. You can have threesomes too if you lower your standards to have sex with the type of women he’s very likely pulling. These are gonna be single moms who don’t have custody of their kids, drug addicts, women with warrants who couch surf because they’re homeless.. for the right incentives (heroin/fentanyl stamp bags), you can get threesomes too. Men hear “attracts women” and assume that they’re corrupting a…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 10:51 PM
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I wouldn’t be compatible with either of these people. Person A: Pro: Likes fantasy football, goes to sports games, chubby dad-bod, works as an EMT/firefighter, hilarious sense of humor. Leans politically left. Cons: Sports a goatee, balding, wears sports jerseys and SnapBack hats, lively/vivacious, goes to church. Person B: Pro: Nice head of hair, likes to rock climb and hike, doesn’t like drinking or partying. Cons: Likes art, film, photography, is interested in art history and hates golf and s…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 02:49 PM
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6’4 / 270. Has a decent amount of muscle but also a belly.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 11:10 PM
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It was your comment on a thread about dual income households..
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 10:33 PM
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You literally just commented that you believe a woman working a full time job is also solely responsible for housework so I think your standards in a partner are way higher / more unreasonable than mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 10:17 PM
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Whose making what up?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 09:15 PM
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Hefty no thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 08:22 PM
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Can’t touch the bottom of a tuna can but you can scrape the sides?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 07:52 PM
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As an American woman, I disagree. I’ve never seen women have insane standards outside of what this subreddit claims.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 07:38 PM
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Men complain that women only want Alpha Chads and “settle” for BetaBux providers out of desperation and then lose their shit with insults when women are actually attracted to average men. They don’t know what they want. 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 05:37 PM
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I’ve never agreed with online looks rating scales so I think you’re putting way too much importance on online opinions.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 05:27 PM
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I’d be curious to see who’s rating tou 5.5/10 and why. Your post history is riddled with this crap for months.. I’m wondering if it has jotting to do with the way you look.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 05:21 PM
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I don’t understand this subreddits obsession with everyone being matched up. She’s allowed to have her own standards. You’re allowed to just swipe and leave her alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 03:08 PM
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I’m married and don’t want anyone in my inbox.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 01:42 PM
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I took an incels virginity about 10 years ago. He wasn’t like, pill type incel he was just a dude nobody wanted to date or sleep with in our friend group. I think it’s cause he was half Indian. The sex was terrible but the snuggles were good and he liked my dog. We arent friends anymore but from what mutual friends have told me he’s engaged and very happy, and I love that for him.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 04:32 AM
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I’m not confident it won’t get reposted anywhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 01:45 AM
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I’m not posting pictures of myself here so you can GTFO.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 01:11 AM
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Disagree. I’m a conventionally attractive / fit chick into chubby men. It’s my type. 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 01:01 AM
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It is. However that has nothing to do with someone saying that looks don’t matter at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 06:48 PM
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Also, I feel like most women who say that “looks don’t matter” are already considering that the man their attracted to has met a certain threshold of physical attraction and that they don’t need a 10/10 all time hottest man, but that someone whose average or above is fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 06:04 PM
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According to who? Because I’ve never said that.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 06:00 PM
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The “friend zone” doesn’t exist. I’m compatible with all of my male friends. We became friends for the purpose of being platonic friends. If one of my male friends develops unreciprocated romantic feelings, that doesn’t mean he’s in the “friend zone” any more than that means he put me in the “relationship zone.” At this time, we’re no longer compatible because we have different goals for the relationship (platonic v. romantic). I’ve had male friends in the past tell me that they were attracted t…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 05:38 PM
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I don’t think that not communicating it directly to the woman makes it less slut shaming. There’s an entire (popular) subreddit directed at shaming women with sexual histories.. r/whereareallthegoodmen Women don’t usually communicate it directly to other women either, it’s also said among friends. But men have actual disgust and hate towards sluts and the priority in n-count in this subreddit proves it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 04:00 PM
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Then our experiences have been very different. As I stated, I’ve experienced unbridled men. Patronizing me because you refuse to believe I can experience these conversations due to my gender doesn’t make it less true. I know plenty of people who’ve been in relationships with their friends exes. I have never heard of anyone’s relationship ending on the basis that someone told them specifically “I had her when she was younger/fitter/better/etc.” Since you’re red pilled, I’m going to chalk this up …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 04:36 AM
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I’ve spent 13 years in the Army as a MP initially and later reclassed to Combat Engineer and 5 years as a civilian police officer and the only female in my department. Don’t patronize me about scratching the surface. I’ve never heard any such “fatalities” about bragging about a woman’s youth. More red pill online ridiculousness. My previous partners aren’t dead but my husband isn’t in proximity to any of them talking about our relations, which was your original point.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 04:21 AM
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Men’s locker room talk isn’t what I’m talking about. I work in male dominated fields (not STEM office settings - I work with very vulgar, proudly non-politically correct men), I promise you I’ve heard men’s unadulterated, raw feelings and opinions about fucking women. I’m taking about the fact that the only men who talk about women’s “best” being her youth and that women who get into relationships outside of their “youth” aren’t giving their spouse their “best” is exclusive to red-pill communiti…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 03:33 AM
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Not “for men,” or even “many man,” just red-pill men. Thankfully he’s a normal guy. I’ve literally never heard a normal guy talk about this in my 30 years of life and I’ve exclusively worked in male dominated fields.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 01:21 AM
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My husband and I have been together for 3.5 years. We’ve consistently had sex 4-5 times a week for the entirety of our relationship, so I would say that I’m definitely the most passionate and eager with him. He was also the only man I’ve ever done more with, like anal, use of various toys etc. I had passionate/eager sex in a previous lustful relationship but I’d say my husband absolutely gets “my best” (using the same verbiage of your post).
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 09:17 PM
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Well, I’ve been in the Army for 13 years and my marriage doesn’t feel anything like it.. He’s my best friend with sex, but we’re committed to each other (monogamous) which is what makes it a relationship. We started out as exclusive FWB (no side pieces) because we both had recent/bad breakups so we agreed we weren’t looking for anything serious and fell in love. I didn’t put him (or anyone else I’ve dated) through a job interview style interview. I prefer commitment because I don’t want to emoti…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 11:42 AM
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There are, but there’s an abundance of overweight men so we usually end up in LTR or dating and not really struggling to find a partner. Source: am fit / attractive woman who likes chubby/overweight men.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/21 05:12 PM
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I’m sure some people are inherently more likely to have problems with the law (or just have difficulty avoiding poor behavior in general). Some people grew up with crime and unethical/immoral behavior being normalized. Others grew up in the same environment and had the willpower to do the “hard right” to avoid making the same mistakes. And some people have been good and ethical their entire life and fucked up (sometimes in big ways) out of circumstance, desperation, or ignorance. I don’t believe…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 06:18 PM
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What do you mean exact backgrounds?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 05:46 PM
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Thanks for patronizing me, but I work with the public and don’t believe all of even most of the people I arrest were born and destined to be fuck ups. Somewhere along the line they made a mistake. Sometimes out of ignorance.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 05:14 PM
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Fuck ups are born not made. This is probably the most inaccurate thing I’ve ever read on this subreddit..
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 05:04 PM
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I would have to dig through the subreddit to find it, but a few months ago there was a 30-year-old man who self identified as a kissless/hugless virgin and said that 18-year-old girls had “similar experience,” to him. He felt as though their (supposed) lack of relationship experience was more closely matched with his. He seemed to ignore the fact that there are SO MANY other life experiences in the 12 year age gap. In his head, because he lacked romantic and sexual experience, he get as though h…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 02:20 PM
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Also - there’s no reason to put more people in danger who aren’t equipped to handle the situation. Many of us realize this and wouldn’t want our FWB/boyfriend etc. to also get hurt instead of doing the logical thing and calling the police. He could easily get beaten to death himself.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 09:45 PM
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Most people, no matter how tough they think they are, can't actually fight. There's no reason for anyone to take on a "gang of thugs" alone and put their life in danger. In your scenario, the man and woman are already outnumbered - why have more victims? Sometimes the best answer truly is just to be a good witness and call the police. His reaction in this situation or knowledge of him doing this in the past would not affect me wanting to continue my relationship (casual, FWB, etc.) and I do not …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 08:41 PM
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Your loser friend slept with loser chicks… This is one of the points I wish more men in this subreddit understood. Most of the men getting tons of NSA sex aren’t sleeping with attractive, quality women. They’re sleeping with losers - some of these women are drug addicts, have 3 kids by 3 different men, are jobless, always in trouble with the police. They’re not sleeping with their dream women; they’re sleeping with women who prostitute themselves for smokes and rides to Dollar General. I work in…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/21 04:14 PM
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Most women aren’t looking for casual sex, they’re looking for relationships so even if you’re sexually attractive, if you lack other desirable traits (for a relationship), women usually aren’t so overcome by lust that they’ll still have causal sex with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/21 03:43 PM
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these women don’t follow through with their end of the bargain, When you pay for a dinner date, what is their “end of the bargain?” If you’re suggesting you expect sex when you pay in full, it sounds like you’re viewing sex as transactional, not her.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/21 09:34 PM
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Most men have the money for a hooker. In my area, prostitutes charge ~$60 to go all the way. The shame/reputation, solicitation charge, and criminal record is what most men actually can’t afford.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/21 06:50 PM
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Thank you for explaining that. Why don’t more men shoot their shots on Instagram then if it’s so successful at getting dates with attractive women?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/21 06:56 PM
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No, are you considering that online dating?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/21 06:31 PM
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I’ve had a lot of male friends over the years simply ask me, “do you have any cute, single, friends?” I don’t want to be caught in the middle by paying matchmaker. Alex asks me if I have any single friends. Now I have to reach out to Miranda and say hey, my friend Alex asked me to hook him up with one of my friends, are you interested? I probably already know Miranda’s type and Alex isn’t it.. so I can either ask Miranda, and have her tell me no, or tell Alex no ans be annoyed he asked. Then let…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/21 04:52 PM
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Is this sarcasm? I’ve never used OLD.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/21 04:48 PM
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Looking at the chart, it looks like men also have a height range preference and prefer shorter women. In that study, the shortest acceptable height is 5’7 and the tallest is 6’2. For men, the shortest acceptable height is 5’0 and it looks like the tallest is 5’7 also.. my husband is tall, but he’s specifically attracted to very short women (5’0-5’3). I’m sure most of the men here would make assumptions about me having a height preference (I don’t) and not even consider that he seeks out small wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/21 01:42 AM
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Where did you get that statistic from or is that just how it feels?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/21 12:43 AM
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He’s allowed to hold out for her the same way the boring woman is allowed to hold out for Chad. I don’t see why he wouldn’t “deserve” his Cheerleader dream girl, but being deserving of and being entitled to are two different concepts to me. They both deserve their ideal partner. Neither of them are entitled to that, meaning it’s wrong for both of them to be cruel to anyone who doesn’t meet their standard. They can reject them, that’s their right, but not berate. (This is just my opinion).
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 11:11 PM
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But why? I’m entirely confused why you believe people can only be matched with someone they’re equally as attractive as and if someone whose less attractive is with someone who you perceive to be significantly more attractive than them, why they somehow don’t “deserve” that. If Chad agrees to a relationship with a woman you find to be less attractive than him, he obviously finds her attractive too? Why doesn’t she deserve someone who finds her attractive just because their scale numbers don’t ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 10:59 PM
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Because I don’t believe in the concept of being deserving or undeserving based solely on physical traits. You apparently do and I’m interested in your reasoning.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 10:54 PM
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I feel your use of the word “deserving” to be problematic. You haven’t answered why you think she doesn’t deserve him?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 10:51 PM
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Why wouldn’t she “deserve” Chad? I don’t understand why you feel like people (or maybe just women) are only “deserving” of their equal? What if she’s Chad’s type and he prefers 5’3 / 150 pound secretaries? I don’t really see what’s wrong with her to be honest. If you’re implying that she’s fat, I’m 5’3 and around 145 and I don’t think a single person would classify me as fat in any way.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 10:44 PM
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I would argue that most women’s standards are “a few inches taller than them.” If a woman is 5’0-5’3, that includes most short men? I’m the only woman in my friend group whose partner is taller than 6’0.. I’ve been friends with women my entire life (I’m 30) and have never heard any of my friends demand a 6’0 or taller man.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 06:18 PM
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Some women want those men.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 04:43 PM
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Michael is short, facially unattractive, and mildly autistic. I wouldn’t be attracted to him because he’s facially unattractive. I think you stacked the deck against Michael to try and “ah-ha gotcha,” to argue that women prefer tall, naturally successful men. It would have been more “fair” to make Michael tall and Brad short with their characteristics laid out the way that they are. Speaking only for myself, I don’t find having to work for your social and sexually success to be any more or less …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 11:05 PM
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I find certain “flaws” to be attractive in partners I’m already interested in; for example my husband is on the heavier side and has some stretch marks on his sides, I absolutely love them and find them sexy but I don’t think I would find them universally or objectively attractive on a random man I’m not emotionally involved with. I don’t find them repulsive or unattractive, just neutral on random men.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 05:34 PM
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Yeah, I get that! I feel the most comfortable in a similar income bracket so I know that neither of us will be burdened by taking care of the other financially and if the relationship were to sour, there’s no significant power imbalance. It also reduces the risk of alimony payments etc. since we’re similarly wealthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 06:46 PM
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I’d say $55k-75k is reasonable and in the same salary range. Probably not more than $75k at my current salary because I would feel uncomfortable not having the same ability to save money. I was in a financially abusive marriage in the past where his money was his money and my money was our money so I was unable to save, unable to buy things for myself because my money was used exclusively for bills while he spent his freely, or have any kind of safety net. I have some trauma from that, so I woul…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 06:15 PM
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You can go fuck meth heads too - nobody’s stopping you.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 02:16 PM
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If you don’t enjoy her company, don’t ask her for sex then. You’re just wasting your time (because you’ll most likely be rejected) and hers because now she thinks “men only want sex” and doesn’t feel valued as a person. I’m going to frame plausible deniability in another way - they want to plausibly deny that all you’re in it for is sex and want to believe you’re a decent person whose actually interested in them. What a bitch, amiright?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 05:00 AM
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If you’ve been around drug addicted women, they usually have dirty, unevenly dyed hair, rotten teeth or no teeth, there thin but covered in scabs and bruises. Most of them have Hep C from sharing needles. Poor hygiene. Most of them have had multiple pregnancies. I’m sure many of them were beautiful before they turned to drugs. But not so much now.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 04:53 AM
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You can have sex with meth heads too if you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 04:47 AM
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I’m a police officer and none of the men I arrest are the 666 Chad stereotype everyone in this sub cries about. Most of them are low income, jobless, have poor hygiene, and are drug addicted. The girls they’re having sex with aren’t the type of wholesome beautiful traditional women this sub has put on pedestals. They’re having sex with other drug addicts and they’re using drugs as leverage. But if you’re jealous, yeah they’re probably having more sex than you.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 04:17 AM
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ITT: Men who don’t understand that most* women want to feel like you enjoy their company and aren’t just playing a game to get sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/21 08:53 PM
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I want things to progress so that it’s mutual and we both want sex, not to be asked outright like you’re borrowing money.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/21 08:24 PM
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My husband and I go to the gym 5-6 days a week - he does the same workouts I do (I’m a power lifter), he’s still very much a chubby/overweight guy. So I don’t think this is illogical or unreasonable. Edited to add: going to the gym can very much be causal activity to maintain instead of rigorous fitness intended to lose weight.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/21 02:41 PM
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I commented about my definition of what a dad bod is. I don’t know why you randomly decided to incorrectly infer what my opinion is.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/21 02:34 PM
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https://images.app.goo.gl/sj2u1LH4C9uNSHte6
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/21 02:23 PM
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Female - 30 Pittsburgh, PA USA Bachelors degree - criminal psychology (in progress, 1 semester left). Married
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/21 12:44 PM
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I’m 30, so my standards would be: 28-35 years old (I don’t like large age gaps), I make around $65k a year so in the same salary range or more (I would consider $55k+ to be reasonable) is taller than me (I’m 5’3 so this includes the majority of men I prefer hazel, green, or brown eyes and darker hair Dad bods preferred if they have active hobbies (gym, hiking, etc.) No criminal record/history I married a man who met all my preferences. So I guess they’re reasonable.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/21 12:24 PM
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This is pretty much it. For example, when I first met my husband (we met through a mutual co-worker), I thought he was handsome and he checks off a lot of peoples boxes physically (tall, broad shoulders, nice arms, etc.) but sleeping with him wasn’t anywhere on my radar until we hung out (it was a group setting) and I got to see his personality. And he approached me - if he hadn’t initiated things, I probably never would have thought about him being an option. 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 04:21 AM
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I actually specified that I had causal sex before I got married. Again, having a high sex drive doesn’t mean having sex with everything that moves or being controlled by those urges - it simply means desiring sex often. Causal sex, FWB, and masturbation are all outlets for a high sex drive that don’t involve being immediately turned on by the way a man looks. If you read comments from most women here, most women are not turned on or sexually aroused by a mans appearance alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 12:09 AM
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Having a high sex drive doesn’t mean being attracted to or desiring to having sex with anything that moves.. it just means desiring sex often.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/21 10:45 PM
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Theres probably someone for everyone. I’ve seen some really tragic looking couples.. but the “someone” for you to have sex with or be in an LTR with probably isn’t the same type of women you’re attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/21 07:48 PM
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I’m a 30 year old woman and I have never walked by a stranger in a bar, coffee shop, park, on the street etc. and thought “he’s so hot I would fuck him right now.” I’m attracted to men, I have a high sex drive, and I’ve had one night stands in the past (I’m married now). There’s gotta be more than just seeing him for me. I objectively think certain men are handsome even if they’re not my type, but not in a “he’s so attractive I need to go talk to him to see if I have a chance.”
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/21 07:46 PM
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There’s a place for everything, this is a debate subreddit not a women shaming subreddit. He’s welcome to post in /r/whereareallthegoodmen where it’s welcome.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/21 09:24 PM
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This isn’t the place. It’s attacking 1 woman for what? This isn’t representative of all or even most women.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/21 09:05 PM
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There’s an entire subreddit for men shaming single moms and women’s dating profiles. I think he belongs over there. /r/whereareallthegoodmen lost a looney.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/21 02:36 PM
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Is that not that natural progression of things? If I date a man with a dog and tell him, “I don’t ever want to take care of your dog,” he’s probably not going to be interested in keeping me around because he’s going to want to bring his dog around or eventually ask me to take care of the dog if we move in together and I’m home with the dog. He didn’t trick me into being a pet owner with some malicious intent by saying he just wants a girlfriend and not someone to take care of his dog but as you …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/21 02:34 PM
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Single mother’s who get back into the dating scene aren’t looking for a man to step up and be a father figure immediately but as your relationship with her becomes more serious, you’ll also have a relationship with her child and assume a lot of the responsibilities that an organic parent does - picking up and dropping off at school, sick days, birthdays. These are all things babysitters or nannies also do, so it isn’t automatically “playing dad” but certain aspects of childcare are universal. I …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/21 02:30 PM
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I spend a decent amount of time on Instagram and don’t have unrealistic body type standards for men I’m sexually and romantically interested in. 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 07:31 PM
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I spent approximately 90-120 minutes 5 days a week in the gym, so that’s roughy 7.5-10 hours on fitness. I tan once a week for 10-15 minutes. For work, I have to wear my hair in a bun; 5-10 minutes a day, 5 days a week. So roughly 1 hour. Make-up takes me approximately 10-15 minutes a day, so roughly 1-1.5 hours a week. I get a pedicure once every 4 weeks, this usually lasts 1 hour. So weekly, I spend about 15 hours a week on my appearance?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 09:54 PM
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I think there’s a subset of men in PPD who view single moms as having some type of undesirable or problematic personality trait/behavior problem that “caused” their circumstance aka assuming they’re damaged and drove the man away or couldn’t keep him. Lots of men are ignoring the fact that there’s a lot of absent fathers or women who left abusive, crappy dudes.. or they just blame her for not vetting properly. Edited to correct spelling. Edit also: Men can lie about who they are, men can change …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 04:06 AM
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It actually DOES explain why. Male and female is sex related - there can be male dogs, female dogs, etc. Men and women are specific to humans. When you refer to men (male humans) as the humanizing MEN ans women as “females” you remove the human aspect by using a clinical term. It’s not “females” specifically - it’s when you refer to men with a human specific verbiage and women to a clinical, inhuman term.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/21 08:17 PM
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It’s offensive when a commenter uses “men” to describe human males and then refers to women as “females.” Theyve either consciously or unconsciously removed the human element from the sex for women but not done the same for men. So they’ve removed human value from women by using purposefully scientific terms.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/21 05:17 PM
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What does being in the top 1% of height have anything to do with anything? It isn’t self explanatory in any way. His height wasn’t a factor at all. I even said in my initial comment that the height difference was intimidating when we first started dating.. I hope that some day you resolve your obsession with why being taller = better to you so that you can learn to love yourself and see why it isn’t your height that’s holding you back. 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 12:11 AM
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Literally no. How does you saying his comparative height percentage mean it was a factor in how attractive I found him?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/21 11:41 PM
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The only one being insulting is you. His height wasn’t a factor in his attractiveness. You telling me that it is because you have some weird need to believe it, again, doesn’t make it any less true. If I had a history of dating tall men and I tried to pretend it wasn’t a factor, then sure, call me a liar. But I don’t and insulting me with a “see! Girls only like tall guys!” because I chose to be with ONE tall person ever is just bizarre.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/21 10:40 PM
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I also said his height wasn’t a desirable trait I sought him out for. You not believing me doesn’t make it less true. If it’s any consolation, my first husband was 5’09 and we didn’t divorce because of his height. 💁🏽‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/21 09:25 PM
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I’m about 5’2, I’ve usually dated men who were 5’5-5’9 since I’m so short. My husband is 6’4 but his height wasn’t necessarily desirable trait or factor in why I started seeing him. I was actually a little intimidated by the height difference at first. I’m sure people make all kinds of assumptions about MY preferences when they see me being so short with someone so tall, but all of of his exes are around my height so I think he just likes small women.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/21 07:08 PM
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~ Geneva Convention has entered the chat. ~
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 02:50 PM
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I don’t know it and it is baseless.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 09:04 PM
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I don’t know how I feel about you turning my experience of actual financial abuse into a baseless “poor men” generalization comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 08:25 PM
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No, his money was his money, meaning he could spend it on anything he wanted (which didn’t include household bills) and my money was our money, meaning I was solely responsible for supporting the household. He wouldn’t let me put my name on anything, so I couldn’t build credit. We were in the same job field and earned the same amount of money.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 03:29 PM
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Could you explain what you mean by centrist? I’m unfamiliar with that term.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 04:23 PM
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-12, no pill. 30 y/o & female if that matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 03:16 PM
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It probably depends on the field. I also think the women who succeed aren’t as obvious or discussed as the ones who struggle so they may not be well accounted for.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 01:31 AM
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No, I didn’t misunderstand you. I was active duty military when my son was born. My promotions were entirely based on time in service, time in grade, and required schools for promotion points. I met all of my requirements to promote with or ahead of peers. I’ve since changed careers and am successful in my field - my child is older now (8) but I perform on the same level as those in my field without children.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 01:08 AM
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I think a lot of people make assumptions about single moms without ever asking them about their specific circumstances. I think you’d find the stereotype of them being lazy moochers to be less common but still heavily perpetuated. I’m not suggesting run out and date all the single moms, but I think some people deserve a conversation before a decision is made. 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 12:59 AM
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I’m positive. I did not receive or ask for alimony, I did ask for a small amount of child support ($500). I never applied for or received government support (no food stamps etc.) and I was able to pay for child care. I took leave offered by my job and was on light duty for 180 days (required by my employer) but returned to work and met all of my professional requirements and “milestones.” The set back was very minor for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 12:46 AM
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I was a single mother - I wasn’t “pumped and dumped by Chad” like some of the more extreme RedPill comments suggest about single mothers. I was married to my ‘high school sweetheart’ for 8 years before I petitioned for divorce. He changed over the years and became abusive (not physically, but emotionally and financially). I got to the point I would rather be single than be in an unhappy marriage. I remarried a single dad. My career never suffered, neither of us want more children, and both of us…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 11:48 PM
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I didn’t see the thread to participate - female and ISTJ-T.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 03:33 PM
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In before someone whose never touched grass comments “anecdotal.”
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 01:39 AM
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Both procedures are very well documented in the medical community so yeah, I do know that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 10:53 PM
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Triggered much? You sound like my children who bicker back and forth about how everything has to be fair and equal. A vasectomy isn’t as invasive or painful as laparoscopic surgery and you can die mad about it. 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 10:42 PM
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You’ll be waiting forever since obviously I can’t have both surgeries since I only have female reproductive organs. It’s well documented that laparoscopic abdominal surgery (which is three incisions for a tubal ligation or a bilateral salpingectomy) is more invasive, has more risks, and has longer recovery times than a vasectomy. Some men can’t accept that for some reason and I’m disturbed by the fact that you use “a tiny little incision” to downplay a tubal ligation procedure. https://www.advan…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 10:40 PM
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It absolutely does. Localized pain in a single incision in the scrotum versus having several incisions in your abdomen, gas pain from having the abdomen inflated that travels into the thoracic cavity, vaginal bleeding, and the risk of Post Tubal Ligation Syndrome which causes issues like low sex drive, issues with periods, etc
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 02:27 PM
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A small incisions in a localized area is absolutely less painful than having your entire abdomen inflated and cut in several places. I’d compare my recovery from the tubal to my appendectomy recovery. Most people wouldn’t consider a vasectomy to be worse than an appendectomy recovery.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 02:22 PM
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So, as someone who has this done (I actually had a bilateral salpingectomy to completely remove both tubes) - it was a same day procedure but I was sedated. They have to inflate the abdomens with air to get an adequate view and room to work to tie or remove the tubes. I had 3 incisions I had to be careful with, gas pains from my abdomen being inflated, and was sore for about 3 days. Felt like The same amount of pain you get from on a seatbelt in a car accident. I did take 3 days off of work and …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 04:27 AM
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We don’t wear a rings and I’m not arguing that anyone needs to get married. I’m just saying I didn’t get married for any benefits that are exclusive to marriage. I even stated, whether you get a POA or a marriage license they serve the same purpose. I got married because I wanted to. Everyone argues there needs to be some incentive. I just don’t agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 05:22 PM
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You sure don’t. But for me, it was easier to make sure that if I’m injured or have an unexpected death (due to my profession), he doesn’t have to jump through hoops to make medical decisions for me and for him receive my life insurance benefit. Marriage license.. power of attorney. They’re both legal contracts.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 01:53 PM
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Name an advantage women have? Cause aside from companionship, my husband and I make roughly the same salaries (same career field) so I don’t benefit from being provided for. I maintain my own vehicle, I do my own home repairs when he isn’t home (when he is, we do them together), and if anything I do a majority of the caretaking like cooking, cleaning etc. Where’s my incentive other than love and companionship?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 12:51 PM
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Don’t relationships involve sex..? So if you were my friend, and you want more than friendship, regardless of how many steps there are, the end goal is that you want to have sex with her unless you’re interested in a completely celibate relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 06:40 PM
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I like chubby guys who so I don’t feel like I’m “allowed” to comment on this thread without being downvoted to hell because all the men will tell me I’m wrong or virtue signaling (I’m married, I don’t need anyone here to “pick me” based on my preferences) since it isn’t the prevailing opinion on this websites or they’ll argue that “if I could choose” the same personality between a fit body or a fat body I’d choose fit and blah blah blah.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 08:05 PM
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What personality traits are associated with being muscular?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/21 08:32 PM
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I work in two primarily male dominated fields. If I didn’t have mostly friends of the opposite sex, I wouldn’t really have any friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/21 03:35 AM
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You got married to a guy after 2 years. That was your major mistake. You rushed into getting married with someone you barely knew, and then during those 8 years of marriage you found out that he wasn't the guy you thought he was. It was immature of me - I was very young and inexperienced and I hope people wouldn't hold a mistake I made as an 18-21 year old against me now that I'm in my 30's after I've lived and learned more, because someone's past marriage or single parent baggage isn't an autom…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/19 12:30 AM
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Do you hold single father's to the same standard? If yes, then I won't carry on any further, but if not, I want to know why. Does a man's overall "package" value decrease because he's a single parent and had overall poor vetting and selection with his partner, had unprotected sex, and then had a child with that poorly selected partner who he.. couldn't keep around? Or didn't want to stay with? I'm not asking anyone to do anything they don't want to do. I'm not preaching "where are all the good m…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/19 11:59 PM
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Maybe talking about a first and a second identity would make it more clear. If your first identity is being mom and protecting and careing for your child, then all is fine.. That definitely clears things up because based on your original post it appears as though I (and a few others) understood it to mean that mother's who have any type of hobby or social life outside of their children aren't properly prioritizing their responsibilities and their lives should solely revolve around their children…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/19 11:37 PM
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Your entire post is talking about mothers and why they do xyz, and since I’m a mother whose offering my perspective, you are talking about me. My child is healthy and emotionally stable and he is the way he is because I’m a healthy adult with healthy boundaries and interests. Go on any one of the parenting subreddit’s (I’ll give BreakingMom as an example) and read about how depressed, burned out, and stressed many of the stay at home parents who devote their entire being to their children are, a…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/19 11:03 PM
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I disagree entirely based on my experience as a parent, both married and single. Being a parent doesn’t mean you can’t have independent hobbies and interests and still have an identity. My child’s health, wellness, and safety are my absolute number one priority, but I’m still allowed to be a person. When I was married, my husband was never told he was a bad father for having a boys night, going golfing, going hunting etc. those were his adult hobbies, and there was nothing wrong with him having …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/19 10:34 PM
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I would argue that it’s less about women abandoning their children to go find a new partner and more about women wanting to maintain an identity and social life that doesn’t involve their children. My son is my priority but I also have adult hobbies that don’t revolve around him or his care (like dad going golfing every Thursday). The internet is quick to call single moms used up, accuse them of only wanting to date now that they’ve fucked Chad and want to settle down with some poor cuck whose g…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/19 10:05 PM
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You can’t win. If she doesn’t disclose her children, it’s a red flag and she’s hiding them for a reason. If she says they’re her whole world, it’s an annoying tag line. If she doesn’t say they’re her whole world, what’s wrong with her? Why doesn’t she prioritize her kids? Bad mom, red flag. Some people will never be happy with anything.
/r/PussyPassDenied25/08/19 03:55 PM
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Thank you. Everyone assumes single moms are entirely made up of women who’ve made bad choices. I was married and my son was born in a “traditional home,” (married parents) but he was abusive - he prevented me from getting or holding a job, his money was his money and my money was “our money.” It took me years to set myself up to make a clean break and now I’m a single parent - I have a good, stable job with a pension, no government handouts and I’m not begging men to come be his dad.. I just hap…
/r/PussyPassDenied25/08/19 03:51 PM
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Honestly, regardless of race/age/sex/what have you, being honest is the best way to get you a warning over a citation. I don’t often run speed, but when I do it has to be 10+ over for me to move, so a: I pulled you over for doing 60 in a 45, may I have your license, registration, and insurance card please?” and the motorist says, “I know, I’m sorry, I was speeding because I had a long day and just really want to go home so my wife stops bitching,” shows integrity and ownership and I’m more likel…
/r/PussyPassDenied18/07/19 10:51 PM
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I’m a female LEO and it’s actually comical how many women start the water works before you get up to the car and how quickly they cut that shit out when they realize I’m a female and that the fake tears probably aren’t gonna work on me. Smh.
/r/PussyPassDenied18/07/19 09:48 PM
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Nope, I’ll never ask him. It’s not my business and has nothing to do with our relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/19 04:40 PM
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I don’t ask questions I don’t want the answers to: how many girlfriends or previous hookups my boyfriend has had is absolutely something I don’t want to know. Don’t ask; don’t tell.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/19 04:29 PM
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Looks like some of these folks want this sub to turn into a MGTOW clone since they’re downvoting you for trying to water down their vitriol.
/r/MGTOW229/05/19 12:12 AM
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So since you want to enter a dick measuring contest on who has things harder in the spirit of denying women “passes,” what do I get for going through 9 months of pregnancy and then being the default care provider for the result of that pregnancy, AND working a full time job? (And no, I don’t sit behind a desk if you wanted to take your sexism all the way to a 10).
/r/PussyPassDenied06/02/19 04:24 PM
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