qualitylamps Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	Someone go save baby, Stockholm syndrome is setting in...	NAH, SIS	qualitylamps	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/01/21 09:53 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
6	Let’s talk about choosing not to block The only reason I don’t block is because I want to know exactly how crazy a person is getting. As someone who was assaulted by someone I had blocked on social media/phone, I would have known to expect my attack if I had received the texts or seen the Facebook posts saying “I’m going to kll this b.” I never respond to texts from people who aren’t important to me and I don’t post on social media anymore, but I will never block anyone again. Just my personal experience. Eta: had a TPO on this perso…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/01/22 05:23 AM
2	Would you date someone divorced/ have kids? When I was a divorced mother approaching 30, I actively searched for men who already had kids. If I was never married/no kids, I wouldn’t ever consider it.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	05/12/21 12:43 AM
9	Guy got fired because he refused to get vaccinated. You were so uncomfortable you had to lie to him on FaceTime. Do not going anywhere with this dude.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/11/21 11:55 PM
175	Do not let men of color triangulate you against women of color I’m Indian, my fiancé is black. His male family members- who have black partners- say shit like this to us sometimes and it is so disgusting. The internalized racism is horrible, how can you think so low of women who look like your own mom!?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/11/21 12:44 AM
117	Another reason why we should never date men who don’t clean and proactively manage their health: this woman’s husband has poorly managed IBS and she’s getting shamed for being disgusted (“IN SICKNESS OR IN HEALTH!”) because he makes her clean up his literal shit. Omg I would be so embarrassed to have someone clean the toilet up after me every day 😦 *while being perfectly able to do it myself	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/11/21 05:16 PM
32	🤣🤣🤣 I used to have men question me on basketball history because I would wear Jordan’s. I knew some of the legend behind the hype, but would usually just feign ignorance and say “They’re just cute and I liked these one’s since they have a girly look to them” and they would get so pissed 😅	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	06/11/21 08:42 PM
4	What kind of tattoos are LVM red flags to you? I don’t count moms and kid tattoos as red flags. My fiancé and I love tattoos and both have our moms names and all of our kids names tattooed, he had most of those done prior to us meeting. And we have full custody of the kids from his previous relationship and he’s a very attentive dad to all of our children. Some of these other one’s, like an ex’s name… that one’s a red flag no argument lol	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	29/10/21 07:06 PM
25	What kind of tattoos are LVM red flags to you? Lucky you. I get reminded every time I have to drop my kids off to spend a weekend with their dad…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	29/10/21 06:00 AM
23	What kind of tattoos are LVM red flags to you? Ok fair enough	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/10/21 11:31 PM
110	What kind of tattoos are LVM red flags to you? Omg 😂 couldn’t even get it covered before the wedding!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/10/21 11:09 PM
118	What kind of tattoos are LVM red flags to you? Had to reach back to think about my exes 😂 ex girlfriends names, playboy bunny, misspelled HIS MOTHER’S name, drug/marijuana related, and letters in a language he couldn’t read….	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/10/21 11:04 PM
26	What kind of tattoos are LVM red flags to you? Not even his mama’s name?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/10/21 11:01 PM
87	What kind of tattoos are LVM red flags to you? 5!!!!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/10/21 11:00 PM
44	Things you can say to piss off men (he has an entire series). She said “we Stan a short king” so it sounds like it’s supposed to be a compliment 😭😭😭	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/10/21 10:19 PM
37	I wouldn't touch that guy with a ten foot stick after he pulled this kind of shit. He agrees to pay first date if she pays for the next, she ends up being footed with a bill 4x what he paid. Noooo there was a third date?!?!!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/10/21 09:35 PM
8	Was reading a vent that got deleted bc OP said FDS and incels are not in anyway comparable and got hella attacked, but the worst part is the women who coddle men 🤦🏽‍♀️ truly our weakest links If fds hated men, why would it be a dating and relationship sub?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	21/10/21 07:48 PM
29	How do you feel when people say “ a man needs to feel needed”? … damn well you cleared that up for me.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/10/21 01:40 AM
57	How do you feel when people say “ a man needs to feel needed”? Lol 😂 my ex moved us into my apartment and singlehandedly carried our furniture into the place by himself. The only time I missed him is when it took 4 of my girl friends to help me carry a couch when I was moving out!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/10/21 09:49 PM
60	How do you feel when people say “ a man needs to feel needed”? I don’t get it either. You’d rather me be with you because I would be homeless, not because I genuinely just love having you around?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/10/21 09:46 PM
9	Let's discuss! When did you first get assigned to sit next to a disruptive boy in class, supposedly to be a good influence on him? Honestly taken aback a bit and also hella thankful for all the support I’m receiving here. People I have told about irl had all but convinced me I was in the wrong. “Teachers have a hard enough time especially coming back from being online for a year+ and kids were going to have a hard time adjusting to being in class again” was what I was hearing. But I don’t get why my daughter has to feel uncomfortable and have added responsibilities- basically be punished- because she knows how to act in cla…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/10/21 12:18 AM
6	Let's discuss! When did you first get assigned to sit next to a disruptive boy in class, supposedly to be a good influence on him? I don’t know if it was because I was always smart and just had a short attention span/trouble focusing OR the more obvious reason lol	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/10/21 12:17 AM
6	Let's discuss! When did you first get assigned to sit next to a disruptive boy in class, supposedly to be a good influence on him? Pull her from class for his therapy sessions?! How inappropriate is that!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/10/21 12:14 AM
4	Let's discuss! When did you first get assigned to sit next to a disruptive boy in class, supposedly to be a good influence on him? I appreciate you saying that.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/10/21 12:12 AM
2	Let's discuss! When did you first get assigned to sit next to a disruptive boy in class, supposedly to be a good influence on him? Hit the nail right on the head with that socialization bit.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/10/21 12:11 AM
125	Let's discuss! When did you first get assigned to sit next to a disruptive boy in class, supposedly to be a good influence on him? Her teacher was surprisingly cool, I felt a little bad for how harsh I was but I’m definitely over protective of my kids and I felt some type of way with her being used to control this classmate. But the teacher listened to what I had to say and apologized and moved her seat back the next day.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	17/10/21 09:23 AM
27	We need to STOP platforming this “feminine” mentality — it grooms women into compliant relationships with abusive, dangerous LVM. You do NOT praise the bare minimum, you simply walk away if he cannot “do better”. Based 😂	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	17/10/21 04:28 AM
246	Let's discuss! When did you first get assigned to sit next to a disruptive boy in class, supposedly to be a good influence on him? I was so irritated when my daughter came home from her 3rd day of 3rd grade telling me she had been moved from the seat she had next to her friend to being paced next to the disruptive boy. She was told to tap his desk when he’s flicking his pencil or not paying attention to the teacher. She is so soft spoken and shy, she just agreed with the move immediately and i know she probably got sooo anxious every time the kid needed redirection. I had to rewrite my message to the teacher 4 times, and my…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	17/10/21 04:23 AM
29	Men created the nuclear family and that's what destroyed society. Very eye opening.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/10/21 01:44 AM
18	Straight facts And he’s fine? Ooof!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/10/21 01:31 AM
33	FDS is and will always remain a dating sub first and foremost. Any suggestions to rename the sub or redirect its focus will be removed and offending users banned I’m soon to be married but will always follow this sub as it helps reframe my mentality back to being women focused when so much of our culture centers men. I still talk to female friends/family about their dating experiences so it’s still all very relevant! Some of them don’t hear “you don’t have to give every man a chance just to be nice” from anyone BUT me.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/10/21 04:49 PM
9	When dating, do you have certain professions that you avoid? Cops, realtors, fitness whatever.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/10/21 03:07 PM
5	This HAS to be a troll 🤦🏼‍♀️ Which one of you wrote this ??	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/10/21 02:40 AM
47	"I know it's not actually 'cheating' per say" uum excuse me what 😀 What a horrible partner. Who goes through their SO’s phone? /s 🤣	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/09/21 06:47 PM
19	She’s still with him and is defending him in the comments 🤨🤨 This is… really depressing.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/09/21 04:45 AM
23	Some scrotes actually think like this--can you even imagine the privilege to complain about this??? I’m sick reading this. And kinda weird that he pays no attention to people when he’s walking but knows that they are faking phone calls and looking back at him?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/09/21 09:23 PM
30	Leveling up this week Me three! Best of luck to all of us!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	06/09/21 11:12 PM
11	No. No thank you. Please don't. Don't give stalkers more tools I’m trying my best to figure out why anyone would be ok with this unless they are a creepy stalker rapist? No one should have your name or address unless you give it to them. Is that too much to ask?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/08/21 01:40 AM
1	This is really sad and honestly terrifying Depends on how much care the provider puts into stitching things back after delivery…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/08/21 11:17 PM
236	Okay so ik I already made a post about something similar but I came across ANOTHER post of Facebook (this must be where all the LVM and pickmes are) that proves my point of men wanting to use women and normalize it. I’m showing proof because scrotes were in my messages acting stupid. I can’t think of a self respecting man who wouldn’t be embarrassed of this video. She forgot the “I wiped his butt and made his wido bottle 👶🏽” slide.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/08/21 09:42 PM
39	It's not him being turned off, it's me LOL talk like a 6th grader so you know even the bottom of the barrel can keep up	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/08/21 04:24 AM
101	Skip the date rape and just move in. These scrotes actually believe porn can be reality while they capitalize on sky high rent prices and openly take advantage of naive young women. He's even gleefully admitting to not having thought the situation through. Wow. Oh god that poor dog.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	25/08/21 02:35 AM
38	Excellent reality check for older men who think they’re about to trade up It tastes like nothing it’s just weird eating something that is that color! I think I t’s actually dangerous for people on meds to eat- the charcoal prevents certain minerals and medications from being absorbed.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/08/21 10:53 PM
18	Do you believe that men are only as faithful as their options? The ones with less options just try to cheat and fail, I don’t know if that’s necessarily better…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/08/21 02:47 AM
60	WOC, what modified/additional rules do you have to avoid men with race/culture fetishes? Haaaaate “exotic” and “foreign.” Sounds more like you’re describing a car and how am I foreign when I was born here??	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/08/21 10:56 AM
179	“I know it’s weird but” Every man that has mentioned squirting to me has just been obsessed with proving that he has some magical ability. I have no idea what this magic is related to because it has NOTHING to do with pleasing me. It’s something that they attain that they can compare with other men. Maybe us women will understand one day!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/08/21 08:48 AM
770	I don’t even know where to start. I feel like that is heavily implied. I hope every response to her was “divorce + file a police report for harassment”	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/08/21 06:14 PM
68	Along the same lines as the post about not being afraid to lie - saw this infographic on FB the other day, very helpful for the "too-friendly" of us Smart!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/08/21 02:38 AM
85	I can't believe he really said that to her yet if it wasn't because of she is on her period, he might wanted more than a innocent holding hands. Gross = throwing trash into a trash can Totally normal = digging through the trash can and unwrapping toilet paper around something another person threw away	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/08/21 06:43 PM
70	Today's crack-me-up - turns out even basic preferences like earning average pay and not being obese is statistically too much to ask (in the US). Stay strong, american queens! Just because he’s married, obese and jobless doesn’t meN you shouldn’t give him a chance!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	11/08/21 05:38 AM
9	Who else has heard “wear pretty underwear in case you get hit by a bus/car”? So, even when severely injured/dying, women must ensure they’re sexually arousing and visually pleasing the patriarchy. This is not cute There ya go.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/08/21 03:12 PM
289	Found online. It seems sensible enough. Where was this before I got married?! Divorced btw.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/08/21 02:56 PM
22	Who else has heard “wear pretty underwear in case you get hit by a bus/car”? So, even when severely injured/dying, women must ensure they’re sexually arousing and visually pleasing the patriarchy. This is not cute I should have worded my comment differently since we only saw women once they went into labor. These nurses just talked shit about any woman with more than a stubble who was giving birth. Thankfully never infront of them… Who told you that? It’s definitely good advice, but not something I would expect from an ob or ob nurse unfortunately.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/08/21 02:19 PM
43	Who else has heard “wear pretty underwear in case you get hit by a bus/car”? So, even when severely injured/dying, women must ensure they’re sexually arousing and visually pleasing the patriarchy. This is not cute Also be sure to get a Brazilian wax when you are around 38 weeks pregnant (increased blood flow to the area means increased sensitivity) so your male obgyn doesn’t have to hunt through the jungle to find the baby! - female L&D nurses I used to work with	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/08/21 01:57 PM
11	Who else has heard “wear pretty underwear in case you get hit by a bus/car”? So, even when severely injured/dying, women must ensure they’re sexually arousing and visually pleasing the patriarchy. This is not cute 🤢🤢🤢🤢	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/08/21 01:55 PM
61	Getting hit on by gross old men is so bewildering to me. Do they really think I'd ever f*ck them? Hahaha 🤣 wish you had said “grandpa” 😝	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	01/08/21 08:46 AM
6	This is what happens when you marry a Scrote and do the 50/50 thing Since they are doing the 50/50 thing, he should also be responsible for half of the gestation. So when’s he taking over the pregnancy ??	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/07/21 08:00 PM
10	I’m not advocating robbery, but… I am just the same! I was like ugh another one of these 🙄 scrolled down to the comments then had to scroll back up to figure out tf was goin on!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/07/21 08:00 AM
15	It isn’t that bad… That’s the funniest thing people would say when I used to be a nurse during deliveries. Ok a contraction feels like that, do you know how many co reactions it usually takes to push a baby out?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/07/21 01:22 AM
13	Adjust your crown and project your voice forever 👸 They want you to be strong when it comes to dealing with everyone else. I used to be sure men knew, I talk back, I have a smart mouth, if you have a problem with that let me know NOW. Luckily I found one that loved being challenged and was not afraid of a woman flexing to him!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/06/21 01:30 AM
2	Wise Words Well that last line is going into my new book 🥰	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	29/04/21 05:10 AM
6	Together with the loser Next time you call me out, say my name! Just playin, but this was so me. I waited so long for my ex husband to turn himself into the man I needed because I was scared and embarrassed of becoming a divorced, single mother who was quickly approaching 30years old. Thank god I found some self respect eventually!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/01/21 12:17 AM
2	I saw this today and wanted to share. It’s NEVER too late to level up ❤️ Such a beautiful story. I really needed this. Thanks op for sharing 😘	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	01/10/20 03:10 AM
9	Men know men are trash and that’s why they’re so overprotective of their hypothetical daughters. He actually addressed this. He said something like “she doesn’t do any sports, she doesn’t ride horses...”	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/09/20 02:19 AM
25	HVM in media done right, David is a HVM and all the rest, in my opinion, LVM Do you trust me?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	05/09/20 01:29 AM