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You're generalizing and you're wrong. I speak from experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/19 08:31 AM
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False. Sort of. Once you hit your late twenties, or even 30, then many more older women will be open to dating you because the maturity is there. My last relationship was with a woman in her 40s. (I'm 30) I just went on a 1st date with another woman in her 40s last weekend. The type of women who are willing to date younger men are usually confident, successful, know what they want and have reached a point where they don't care about the opinion of others (especially of strangers). These women ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/19 05:35 AM
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Not only that, men have thicker skin on their faces which causes less distinct wrinkles.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/19 04:18 AM
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she might be borderline personality. watch for love bombing, self esteem issues, hot/cold behavior etc..
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/18 11:41 PM
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Attractive women don't have to seek 'orbiters'. Men come to them. It's like interviewing for a good job. Good jobs get hundreds of applications. Employees come to them. No need to advertising.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/18 02:05 AM
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I think that's also going to change as gender roles because less important. In the past, women had to choose partners who were more socially and financially dominant than them, because they lacked the ability to earn good money and have good careers. But now, many women are independent and don't need a man to provide for them. As a result, they look at 'the whole package' in men-- not just money and status, but traits like kindness and empathy (classically feminine traits).
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/18 01:49 AM
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Many men need to feel useful, as in they need to feel like the primary provider. The bread winner. They need to feel more dominant over their partner in all realms. It doesn't just go for financially successful, but for women who are muscular than them or who have more power/status. These men feel emasculated. These men are living in the past. I think this will change. Women are becoming more successful, both in university and in careers. Women are catching up to men and even surpassing them in …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/18 01:21 AM
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the only reason why aging is not as bad for males is because people often value them for more than their looks. And this is changing. Hence why women and MEN being more open to dating older. There used to be a stigma attached to older woman / younger man-- still is a bit, but that is fading.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/18 10:24 PM
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I think TRP attracts insecure men looking for answers. I speak as one of them. It provides men tools with how to deal with their dating insecurities. I don't agree with the 'alpha male' mentality, but the tools do seem helpful to counter co-dependence issues. Though I find that these tools cause men to act a little self-centered. Some things I don't agree about TRP: 'spinning plates' (plates = potential mates/women in your life). If one plate misbehaves then degrade her 'plate status' (aka relat…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/18 03:46 AM
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Actually the #1 rule of TRP is to work on yourself and your own personal 'mission' in life. It advocates that you are the catch, not your date. And that if anything your date should be chasing you. It advocates 'abundance' mentality which implies having more options. And advocates against 'oneitis' which is co-dependent behavior towards one woman. I don't agree a lot of the TRP advice, but I agree with some of it. And I know that all the above things I mentioned work against co-dependent behavio…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/18 03:32 AM
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If she wants to cheat, she will and you won't know. And if you do find out it will likely be too late. The ONLY option is to trust and to act appropriately if you do find out she cheated. Snooping and worrying will drive you crazy.
/r/askTRP10/11/18 03:23 PM
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and you're worse off than me. Quick look at your post history. All your posts are bitter and hostile. Someone hurt you. Wonder who?
/r/askMRP04/11/18 10:16 PM
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You just described the first 3-6 months of MRP, aka STFU aka Autist Phase aka Dread Level One. WISNIFG from sidebar prereqs gives you the tools to deal with this phase. Can't find these posts. I found some stuff on WISNIFG, but I'm not sure if it's what you're referring to. Could you link me them plz? Or any readings you think could help me right now? I found the dread game post. 12 levels of dread. But I'm not sure that dread will help me here since I'm close to losing her.
/r/askMRP04/11/18 08:00 PM
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you don't know shit what i've done. Why do you assume that people don't lift before coming to TRP? that's moronic
/r/askMRP04/11/18 04:08 PM
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You realize that people come to this sub for help? And that it's the purpose of this sub? Yet you sit behind your computer to spurt insults at posters on Friday night. Who hurt you? Maybe if you post another 500 more times here you'll get a flair upgrade. If I had came to this sub for help when I first started dating and wasted my time reading replies like this I would have never been in the position of picking up women solo on weekend nights and then having one turn into a GF. Glad I went my ow…
/r/askMRP04/11/18 04:29 AM
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The only advice I have is to go fuck ten other women, but I don't think you can pull it off. The week I decided to put myself out there I had this girl inviting me to her home, another girl coming in town wanting to see me, and approached 2 others. In one week. Without this TRP bullshit invented by charlatans and angry men to target insecure boys. I do fine on my own. I make mistakes but I would bet I am better off than the vast majority of the losers in this sub.
/r/askMRP04/11/18 04:25 AM
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I mean, she’s actively disrespecting you, ignoring you, and talking of the end of your relationship. Do you really think she just hung out with the girls? You don’t think she justified it was ok to fuck those hot guy(s)...after all YOU basically ended the relationship before she left.Have some self respect and move on. Actively disrespecting me? We had a fight and she went on vacation, and never text during. That is not active disrespect. The week before we were fucking, cuddling and out at the …
/r/askMRP04/11/18 04:16 AM
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But Chad's a twat loser who pretends he's an alpha male. He's a dumb fuck who bags hoes and trolls Reddit. I'm off to game. Have fun trying to make people laugh on Reddit.
/r/askMRP04/11/18 01:36 AM
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Ok. When/if she contacts me I'll see where I stand and try to build frame. If we reconcile I'll pull back and focus on myself more. I will stop investing in the relationship until she shows that she's willing to do the same. Will follow the 2/3 rule, giving her in return a fraction of what she gives to me. Shutting down. She had her nice guy for the time we were together. Now it's time to change. She didn't like me when I was invested and interested? Ok. Time to lift, work towards my goals and p…
/r/askMRP04/11/18 01:32 AM
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Wrong. And ignored. Clearly you're not being helpful. She told me we can talk when she comes back. Her words. Not mine. Not yours.
/r/askMRP04/11/18 01:24 AM
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Ok. Understood. Did some reading on hypergamy and it's depressing stuff. What do you suggest I do from here? What do I do when she invites me over in a few days? Everyone tells me not to say sorry, but what do I do then? She's obviously going to be upset and I cant stand there like a chump pretending everything is ok. I'll try to play down the fight when we meet and act like it wasn't a big thing. Though I know she will see through me and realize that I'm upset for being ignored for a week while…
/r/askMRP04/11/18 01:00 AM
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She's not out all the time. Just that week. The two weeks before she never went out and we spent a lot of time together. I like her and it's an LTR. Doesn't mean that I have oneitis. I've been with her a good while and don't want to ditch a woman as soon as we hit a speed bump. She's invested in me as well. Met her family and she invites me over for holidays and cooks me dinners. It's mostly good, but I messed up here Are you married or in a LTR? Caring about a relationship doesn't signify oneit…
/r/askMRP03/11/18 11:58 PM
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I've read a good amount of sidebar stuff this week while she put me on radio silence. I came to TRP late. Don't think I'll be able to set a fun date. She's coming back tomorrow. She will likely send me a text inviting me over Monday or Tuesday evening. I'll be in a situation where we'll be chatting and chilling at her house. I'll try to be happy and fun, even though I'm very annoyed for being put on radio silence all week. Will try to play down what happened and not make a big deal out of it. Sh…
/r/askMRP03/11/18 11:53 PM
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dude you edited your post 5 min later at an attempt to be funny? get life?
/r/askMRP03/11/18 11:47 PM
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I like how she has the plans and you're the needy desperate guy trying to bend her will to even allow you the shot at being involved in her plans. I had my plans. I also went out with friends that night. But was hoping to see her that night afterwards. The whole situation needs flipped around. She should be wanting to get in your plans. Be the one with plans. Agreed, But I can't have fun plans every single weekend day??? It's too much. I'm not her personal entertainer. Don't apologize for being …
/r/askMRP03/11/18 11:44 PM
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Why are you using both 'she's' and 'she is' in the same sentence. Go back to school. Learn to write, dumb POS.
/r/askMRP03/11/18 11:36 PM
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What should I do when I see her then? "Hi how's it going?" Then stand there with nothing to say while she looks upset. I could have simply upset her with my text. Doesn't have to 100% be loss of interest.
/r/askMRP03/11/18 11:20 PM
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but it's an LTR. we've been together for some time. clearly she's interested in me. she invites me over for holidays, cooks me dinners, we have good sex, met her family, sleep over many times a week. etc.
/r/askMRP03/11/18 10:52 PM
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No longer respects? She will act disrespectful. Flirt with others in front of you. Text on her phone while watching movies with you. Talk about ex boyfriends in good light amplifying their qualities. If she respects you she will do none of that BS
/r/askTRP03/11/18 10:31 PM
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I would send her a simple text asking her hows it going. Only 1 text and if she doesn't reply then move on until you hear back from her.
/r/askTRP03/11/18 04:05 PM
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You were offensive. Your fault. This is no test. You insulted her - > she's offended and lost interest. Plain and simple.
/r/askTRP03/11/18 03:59 PM
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Did you send her a text yet? how long has it been since she's ghosted you?
/r/askTRP03/11/18 03:58 PM
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This. Gender roles are real. Man approaches. Man initiates date. Man initiates kiss. Man initiates sex. Not all the time, but most of the time.
/r/askTRP03/11/18 03:56 PM
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She needs space. It likely has nothing to do with you.
/r/askTRP03/11/18 03:55 PM
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lol
/r/askTRP03/11/18 03:53 PM
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Approach without confidence. Eventually a girl will show interest and that will boost your confidence and create momentum. Don't let a lack of confidence be an excuse. Be willing to fail.
/r/askTRP03/11/18 03:52 PM
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I don't get it. You told me that she should have broken up with me based on the text. So clearly I hurt her and I'm in the wrong. When in the wrong you should apologize and hope the person forgives you. She's not going to bend over to please me-- not after that passive aggressive butthurt text I sent her that started all of this. You admitted that I was in the wrong and that she should have broken up with me. What should I talk to her about when I see her? We're going to have to discuss the figh…
/r/askTRP31/10/18 03:01 PM
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Crossing my fingers that it's someone more famous. Hopefully the dos equis beer guy.
/r/askTRP31/10/18 02:07 AM
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But her conveniently "breaking up" with me before the vacation for guilt free sex is just a theory. It's possible she was pissed and hurt by my text and feels the need to pull back and reconsider the relationship. Or it's possible that she just wants to dread me and punish me for my text. All theories. It's probably best to give the benefit of the doubt in relationships. I know that's bluepill, but if I left every girl I met because of a possibility that her motives were not honest then I'd be f…
/r/askTRP31/10/18 02:06 AM
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No, don't apologize. Just be better. Just be better. I like that. How about I don't apologize again, but bring flowers when she invites me to talk on her return. Sounds good? Even you think the text I sent was shit and breakup worthy, wouldn't it make sense to apologize in person even though I did it by text twice? What's the danger of saying "I'm sorry" when I see her?
/r/askTRP31/10/18 02:01 AM
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Damn I sent a text today telling her I hope she has a good day. No response. Will stop. Will stop texting. Doesn't look like she will reply to me until she's back. I'm going to hang in bars and music venues this weekend just to make myself realize that there's more fish in the sea in case she abandons ship when I talk to her.
/r/askTRP31/10/18 01:59 AM
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She intentionally did something to piss you off so that you would do something she could overreact to. But I can't be sure of that. I don't know if it was an intentional manipulative plan. Sure there's a chance it was, but also a chance that it wasn't. If I focused on the negative possibility every relationship I would get nowhere.
/r/askTRP31/10/18 01:56 AM
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Okay. I'll try to reconcile and if she accepts then I'll give her more space and focus on my own life more. And I wont invest more until she does first. Clearly I'm more emotionally invested then her and that's never a good thing. But then again someone has to be the one who's more invested and it can't always be the girl.
/r/askTRP31/10/18 01:54 AM
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I know her well. We've only been together for 4 months, but we really got to know each other. We spend 2-3 nights a week sleeping over since the start. I'm not looking to change her. I just think that because of previous relationships she doesn't allow herself to be too emotionally vulnerable / committed with me. Should get better with time.. I on the other hand am the opposite. I have the anxious attachment style, always wanting to be with her and too committed. While she's the avoidant style. …
/r/askTRP31/10/18 01:49 AM
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Okay I like this approach. Yes I was initially at fault. And I'll try my best to resist telling her that she conveniently broke up with me before the trip. How do I take responsibility? I apologized twice by text and even called myself an idiot in the text. Do I apologize to her face to face when she returns? I don't know how I can hold friend when I'll be telling her I was in the wrong and apologizing.
/r/askTRP30/10/18 03:12 PM
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Lol I know. But to be fair, all of that is speculation. I'm not sure if she concocted this plan to cheat without guilt. I can't be sure. What if she's not? There's definitely a fair chance that she's not and that she just wants to hurt me back by dreading me. I can't view her as an opponent in a game or this will never work. It's a relationship right. We work together and give each other the benefit of the doubt - red pill or blue pill, that's how relationships should be.
/r/askTRP30/10/18 05:23 AM
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it's so obvious who's more invested in this relationship. I've been exactly In your position as well man. it's this feeling of how much you enjoy spending time with her and so you dont understand why she would rather not see you after drinks on the town when you wish you could see her almost every day. You're right. This is me. I realize that I'm more invested then she is and care more about us. But I think this is temporary. Over time she will allow herself to become emotionally invested and th…
/r/askTRP30/10/18 05:20 AM
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Yes that's my fear. And I'll never know if she did cheat during the vacation. When she returns I'll make her realize that we were not broken up during this time. I'll ask her if we were and if that was the case then I'll walk. If she cheated I want her to at least feel the guilt.
/r/askTRP30/10/18 05:11 AM
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lol. I dont understand her "having me wrapped around my finger". What benefits could she possible get from wrapping me around her finger aka manipulating me? She threatened to dump me.
/r/askTRP30/10/18 05:09 AM
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Stop counting on women to make you feel secure. That's beta as fuck. Wise words. You're right. I'll fix that. From what you described, it doesn't sound like she broke up with you, but she should have. Why do you say she should have broken up with me based on a single snappy text I sent her? How does 1 butthurt text message justify her breaking up with me after 4 months? I'm having a hard time seeing all the wrong in my text. I understand that it was insecure and bitter, even passive aggressive, …
/r/askTRP30/10/18 04:08 AM
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Hmm. I'll wait and see where it goes when she returns. I'm not in a rush to get laid. You may be right in that she might be manipulating me. Intentionally blowing up the argument and punishing me. I know I wouldn't do this to her if she sent me a snappy text one night. I wouldn't sabotage 4 months of a good relationship like that. Will wait to talk to her. If she wants to breakup then so be it. I'll try to reconcile but will be ready to walk if she tries to punish me more for that 1 snappy text …
/r/askTRP30/10/18 03:59 AM
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But I don't know if we're actually broken up. The text I sent that triggered this was something like "Ok, so you don't want to see me tonight then? See you next week or whatever. Wanted to spend more time with my GF before she leaves. Guess the feeling isn't mutual." That's when she sent her text "Based on the whatever I will say take care of you....". I told her why she's threatening a breakup, and she replied that my "whatever" was the threat. Later that night she text me "Going to bed. Tough …
/r/askTRP30/10/18 03:36 AM
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But I thought it was mostly couples at good resorts, especially this time of year. Can't imagine there being many groups of single guys staying at resorts. What do I do? Should I give her the benefit of doubt? Do I inquire about her vacation when she arrives and ask if she got hit on etc..? That would make me seem insecure no doubt. Fuck.
/r/askTRP30/10/18 03:22 AM
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Lucky that you have a girl that wont go out for drinks with friends knowing it bothers you. My girl made it clear early on that she goes out with friends for drinks and has guy friends, and if that's a problem for me then it won't work. It was early in the relationship and I accepted that. And it was before I learned about redpill. Kinda screwed myself over. If I told her not to go out Friday night then she would simply break up 100%. Very independent woman.
/r/askTRP29/10/18 04:29 AM
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I see. That makes a lot of sense. I need the mentality that: I'm the catch and she's lucky to have me. If she cheats then I will drop her and simply and easily find a new girl. I don't have that abundance mentality yet. It's something I have to work on. I guess it comes with confidence, which can only be gained my achieving your own personal goals in life. I'm actually more emotionally invested in her than she is with me -- another bad thing. I value our relationship like gold. That's the proble…
/r/askTRP29/10/18 04:24 AM
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I am insecure. Definitely. But what if it's both? I cant look at her behavior objectively since I'm insecure.. She's on a caribbean vacation with her girlfriends right now-- free booze, pools, bikinis and parties. How could I not feel insecure right now. She could cheat on me and I will never find out. When she returns that's all I'll be thinking of and I will never know. I will never know if she cheats on that vacation. Or if she cheats on a night out with friends. I don't know how to handle th…
/r/askTRP29/10/18 04:09 AM
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Does she make sure she has alone time to go out and shit without you? I mean that's normal, right? Can't be together all the time. Need our own lives and our own friends. She goes out with friends some friday nights and I don't ask about it because I don't want to seem needy. I've just been feeling distance from her lately, and less talk about our future, and less wanting for sex. These are red flags, but non confirm cheating.
/r/askTRP29/10/18 04:07 AM
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or what you think she wants? Stop that Yes you're right. I often try to focus on what she wants. My logic is that if I focus on making her feel good than she'll want it more often. But that line of thinking hasn't got me far. I've actually been focusing on taking what I WANT lately. The last time we had sex I grabbed her by the hair and finished in her mouth, took a break then did it again in her mouth. Then she had to ride my semi-hard dick to get off. Felt kinda bad about it, but I did take wh…
/r/askMRP06/10/18 07:47 PM
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true.
/r/askMRP06/10/18 07:43 PM
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Eye. Opening. Post. Something you need to learn about female sexuality is that one of their biggest turnons is that they are so sexy and they can raise your appetite to uncontrollable levels. I know you're right. I've seen examples of this so many times. This is the guide to make a distinction between awakening the beast (so to speak) vs. dominating her against her overt resistance. You also need to have a sense of how timid you are being in your advancements. You know what the fastest way to ru…
/r/askMRP06/10/18 07:31 PM
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You poor needy, little omega boy. Waiting on her/being butt hurt to dole out the pussy is, at best, the most unattractive supplicating sorry assed excuse for a beta, I have read lately I never waited. I kept escalating and was denied harder. Read the thread. Why do you resort to insults? this sub is meant to help people who struggle with these problems. You open my thread, read it, then give "just lift bro" advice that has already been suggested, then insult me a bunch. This is how you spend you…
/r/askMRP06/10/18 07:22 PM
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I hope you're right.
/r/askMRP06/10/18 07:20 PM
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So what if I posted in seduction? What info do you want?
/r/askMRP06/10/18 07:19 PM
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Since when is physical attractiveness measured by how well you can perform in 3 specific exercises? This is not a dick measuring contest. I'm simply saying that I am physically attractive. I'm 6'3 175 low body fat, I lift 3-4 days a week plus do hot yoga regularly. I'm fit. I'm not bulky.. I'm tall. I'm white. Have a full head of hair and dress pretty well. I'm not as heavy as I would like to be, would like to gain 5-10 more pounds. We met because of mutual physical attraction. She smiled at me …
/r/askMRP06/10/18 07:14 PM
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What do you suggest I do then when she does this? The last time it happened I tried to continue to escalate by spooning closer to her, rubbing her body slowly and kissing her neck. I think RandomlyChosenTitle is right, in that she's bored with my approach. I think she wants me to act more dominant, I just don't know how else to initiate while in bed. Hell, she even wants me to read Fifty Shades of Grey where the main male character is dominant in bed. I'm getting the clue.. I just need to figure…
/r/askMRP06/10/18 07:03 PM
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I do lift. Wrong assumption. People who lift can still make you cringe. I'm fit and physically attractive.
/r/askMRP06/10/18 04:59 PM
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Do you think physical attraction is enough? I don't have much status and have a very average job (working on improving that), so in the meantime I'm stuck with what I've got. I'm physically attractive and fit, but I guess I lack the other stuff.
/r/askMRP06/10/18 04:58 PM
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She wants you to be more assertive in taking what you want. I sensed that. I also sensed that she wanted me to go for it even after a "No" - maybe that gets her off, but again, this is speculation. You're asking why she'd get you aroused, give a slight push back, and then lay there completely available to you? Really? I kept pushing for sex even after she gave me that shit excuse. I kept getting close to her and rubbing her body and kissing her neck, but she continued to block my touch to her br…
/r/askMRP06/10/18 04:51 PM
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If you’re waiting until night to initiate, you’re doing at all wrong. Always be initiating. What do you mean by always be initiating? When she's cooking, initiate. When she's doing chores, initiate. When she's resting on the couch, initiate. I don't understand that logic. What exactly do you mean? How do I initiate during these situations and how should I react when I'm denied? but at one point when you develope into a real man Constructive advice please? Instead of telling me I need to become a…
/r/askMRP06/10/18 04:46 PM
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True. I am physically attractive, but lack status and a good job - working on these things. Apparently being physically attractive and fit isn't enough. But still, my initiating strategies need work. I haven't been doing this LTR thing for a long time so I'm inexperienced in this area.
/r/askMRP06/10/18 04:43 PM
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She's treating you as her fallback. You're absolutely right. I will not initiate. Hell, I may even deny her some time this week. DNGAF mode and keep busy.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/18 03:58 PM
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Thanks for the helpful insights. I do lift and pursue my mission. And I sometimes go out when she denies me. Should I still be initiating coming over and inviting her over even if this imbalance of power?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/18 03:27 PM
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Okay, I have some questions: 1) Should you make it a point to cuddle without going for sex during/after the cuddle?** I feel that my LTR senses that I want sex every time we cuddle, so the nights/mornings when she does not want sex she avoids cuddling. 2) For example: On a Sunday morning I wake up and spoon her, I cuddle her, and I want sex. It is clear I want sex because I'm beginning to get hard against her and she knows it. To her it might seem that the only reason I want to cuddle is for sex…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/18 03:09 PM
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Holy shit. If you want to see her, tell her you want to. I want to give you an example: Last night she returned from her business trip and was planning girls night out that night. It was looking like I wasn't going to see her all day/night. I told her that I'd like to fool around with her when she finishes work (before she leaves for girls night out). Her response: "I have a lot of errands to run after work. Then I have to get ready for my night out." Denied. I decided to have my own night out. …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/18 02:57 PM
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What exactly does that mean though? Everything that isn't sex is on her to initiate? My LTR and I don't live together. Does that mean that I should not initiate asking her to come over to my place or me going to hers. Not initiate texts at night to ask about each others day or good morning texts. Not plan dates. Not keep a bit of contact throughout the day by text. Not cuddle her when we watch a movie, or spoon her when we sleep. Not go for a kiss when I want to. All this stuff is "the relations…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/18 02:37 PM
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she comes home from a business trip and i seek her attention and grope her - sex happens but not as intense. Hey, my LTR also goes on business (conference) trips. During these trips she has her own hotel room and goes out for dinner and drinks with out of town colleagues. The insecure part of me screams: "That's the perfect time to cheat. People cheat on business trips all the time". During these trips I try to keep contact through text, especially at night when she's out and I'm realizing now t…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/18 02:26 PM
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Just signed up. Not a whole lot of users near me
/r/seduction26/06/18 06:01 AM
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Is it really true that women go to hotel bars for hookups? I've never tried it, but I heard people mention it here. Wouldn't women find it odd if I hang at hotel bars without having a room there? Think I'd rather spend the night alone then go to a networking event where people plaster fake smiles on and talk about their jobs.
/r/seduction26/06/18 03:52 AM
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So basically: make friends. I've only begun to approach women, and I have to say that it's somehow easier to meet women than it is to make male friends. How the hell do people make good friends at 30 years old (or even 25+) - that's what I want to know.
/r/seduction26/06/18 01:47 AM
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