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Yeah, after posting I sort of regretted typing that, but I didn't wanna edit it out since it's dishonest to do so. I had a specific person in mind when I said that, who I do not like -- but it's less the working at wal-mart part and more the other things about him and his general lack of ambition (but big talking around my niece) that make me dislike him so much. But any way, I apologize for insinuating that anyone working at wal mart is a loser, bit of blindness on my part. A person's job doesn…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/07/26 12:52 AM
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Yes I agree. I don't actually care what other people do, men and women who want to have that sort of life or more than welcome to do so. It doesn't affect me at all. The issue is that anytime a man expresses preferences about women, and many men -- especially successful men have this preference for their wives (that's the real source of the issue. I don't know a single millionaire that really would ever consider a party girl for a wife -- if it was only losers who feel this way like they claim, …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/07/26 10:57 PM
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Trashy women and trashy men who run around the streets during their youth get a bit older, and finally start to mellow out/find they are aging out of the party scene and no longer as desirable in those circles as a younger crop of boys and girls has come up and ain't into them. Then they try to exit and "settle down" -- they find they don't have very good options and go online to whine that actions have consequences. Family-focused men and women who have the quiet peaceful lives with the nice ho…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/07/26 10:19 PM
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It is preferable to be single than to be in a relationship with a woman who secretly craves the streets and has a high likelihood of ruining your life, emotionally and financially. Anyone who cares about men should be informing men of this and giving them practical advice on how to avoid that situation. One of the best ways is not to fool with trashy women, promiscuous women, women who can't take accountability for anything and constantly blame other for their screw ups, women who hate their fat…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/07/26 09:49 PM
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If you are white it is normal to prefer your own race. Most people prefer their own race, contrary to what you might here -- 90% of white women marry white men in the U.S, and the numbers are similar for white men w/ white women (I think it's 88-89%). Most other races have similar figures, slightly lower just because of being a minority (Asian women and Latina women have an unusually elevated rate of marrying white men), but you should interpret this as just "they are around way more men in the …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/07/26 09:21 PM
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Past behavior is the best indicator of future behavior. If I found out a contractor had a history of shoddy work, I wouldn't hire him. Same principle. If you want a long term committed relationship, you need to only consider women whose own behavior DEMONSTRATES that that is also their disposition. Such a women will have a low body count and more importantly she will have more or less exclusively had a sexual/romantic history that's serially monogamous. That is how a person behaves when what the…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/07/26 08:51 PM
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Men don't like partnering with women who sleep around. This is a deep-seated biological preference rooted in reproductive security and a desire for a stable childrearing unit. It's not one of the most important issues facing men, but it is related to a major issue -- which is that men are not culturally allowed to express their legitimate preferences without having their character slandered. There is nothing wrong with a man who has a preference for young, attractive women who are friendly and f…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/07/26 07:58 PM
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Break up with her immediately. Here are 3 pieces of advice you should stick to: 1: Don't date women who blame men for their/societies problems. These women are ideologically antagonistic towards men and it won't take many slip ups on your part to become part of her imaginary group of villains. 2: Don't date women who talk about their ex-lovers like they were awful people who treated them poorly and they were just an innocent victim. It's easy to fall into this trap because men don't get taught t…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/02/24 03:12 PM
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It's mostly this, actually. Women get bitter when they get older and attention from men they like dries up. Not only bitter towards men, but also bitter towards the younger women who now command the sexual power they once enjoyed.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/10/23 05:55 PM
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I don't agree. I think calling her a grifter is unfair. I'm not the biggest fan of every take she has but I think she is in general sincere when presenting them. The E-girl window dressing shit can be cringe but I don't think anyone can really accuse her of lying or not honestly presenting her views.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates15/09/23 11:08 PM
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Shoe has been pretty good on these issues for a long time. It's sad that people call her a pickme for just like... not being a misandrist.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates15/09/23 08:13 AM
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This is easy, if your goal is to make friends just go to spaces where people do things and talk to them about shared interests, make jokes and lightly tease. Some of them will enjoy the conversations and then since you're meeting at some regular event, repeat a few times and then you're friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 07:24 PM
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More likely to choose someone who needs him/wants him, yes. A career woman who doesn't need a man and has that attitude is not an attractive partner for most men. There's plenty of working women who don't have this attitude though. That actually doesn't mean that her having a career is a problem, it's not necessarily about "literally saving" her but it is about feeling needed and her expressing that you are needed in someway. Could be financial but doesn't have to be. And women still do this shi…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 10:15 PM
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Lol no. This is some reddit brained shit. Men want to feel like a hero to a woman, they want to feel like she both wants and needs him -- almost no men are running around thinking "yeah I gotta find an inferior woman to bully mwhahahahahaha" Men don't think about women who are less far along in life financially or something as "inferior." If she's fun to talk to, passionate/creative, affectionate and caring that's appealing to lots of men and in terms of their evaluation criterion, she's more ap…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 09:57 PM
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Everyone is different. Personally, I don't care or expect her to do all the chores. She's gotta be comfortable with the fact that I'm not doing tons of chores all the time either, though. If she wants a super tidy house and doesn't want to tidy it then we can hire a maid, but i'm not cleaning all the time and she should find someone else if that's a priority for her. For me it's mostly about friendship/quality time and personal chemistry. I am not interested in a maid, i'm looking for a best fri…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 11:53 PM
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Because in reality love exists and sometimes you just feel it. This usually happens when you meet organically, get really close emotionally and then end up feeling a strong desire to be near each other. And women are individuals and some of them value physical appearance less strongly than others. Whenever I've dated a girl much more attractive it's always been because we had great personal chemistry (could talk for hours easily about vulnerable things or banter/crack jokes back and forth) and c…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 05:58 PM
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It obviously won't work in every single case. Sometimes you just don't click, But most of the time when guys are complaining about liking a woman and her not reciprocating -- provided they are really friends (defined by her initiating and seeking out his company and not just extracting favors) -- all they need to do is level up their physical appearance to be seen as a romantic prospect. The girl already enjoys spending time with them. She just also needs to want to see them naked.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 05:43 PM
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No, that's what women say when they enjoy spending time with you but don't find you attractive. Glow up and you will see most of your female friends change their tune real quick even if your behavior doesn't change at all. If you are actually friends (and not just you simping/her extracting value from you) -- then she already likes spending time with you. In this situation, she'll seek you out to spend time together because she enjoys being around you -- you won't need to do all the work. The mi…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 05:29 PM
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No, you can definitely do both from the start. You can both flirt playfully and be earnestly supportive and vulnerable with a girl. Most of the women I've dated were my friends first and we ended up liking each other by spending more time together and this time included both doing fun things/teasing interactions and sitting in my room talking about ourselves in a vulnerable way and offering support. If she finds you attractive vulnerability and empathy will only gonna make you more attractive. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 05:12 PM
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Oh I agree with that, teasing is important... but you can definitely tease a girl and also be indicating your direct romantic interest. I mean playful teasing IS romantic. What else would you even do, no one can be serious all the time lol. Usually these things happen at the same time, you tease regularly and then in more serious moments tell her your feelings/vulnerable things.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 05:03 PM
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If you start planning the wedding 3 days in then sure, but even in the fairly early stages of courtship it's fine to indicate directly that you like her a lot and your intentions are romantic/serious. You shouldn't be deeply in love with a woman you barely know anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 04:57 PM
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This is a big 'modern' cope. The majority of people have a very deep need for romantic love and opposite-sex companionship and will not feel fulfilled without that need met. This is true for both men and women. All this "You gotta not even want a woman/man and be just fine with out em" shit is modernity brain rot. And most women and men like to feel like they are a major source of happiness and like they are needed by their romantic partners. It's weird if you get obsessed like this before you'r…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 04:45 PM
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When I read your post, I literally pictured the "ooooooohhhh" meme from that old fake rap battle video X_x. Savagery.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 06:04 AM
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nevermind the fact that he is too dumb to build Amazon and too fat to attract McKenzie - but he would definitely not give the money he could never make to a woman he could never marry, and this makes him an alpha. lmfao ate his ass up bahahaha Spit up my drink lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 05:55 AM
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It's all about how you make someone feel when you spend time together. Both men and women will forgive a lot if they really enjoy being around someone. Plenty of men do the same thing. They generally do not end up with the hottest option they have, it's the girl they can laugh with for hours and trust and with whom conversation just "flows" that most men would choose provided some baseline physical standard is met. Women are the same. Do they think hot guys are hot? yes. This is all because ever…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 08:35 PM
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Seriously this is the weirdest most distorted coomer brain shit i've ever seen. When I was married and not thinking about sex at all bc it was a given... I still wanted to do all the same shit I ever did. Learn music I loved on piano, pick up new instruments, study math/physics as a hobby, experience new stories, reverse engineer favorite games from childhood and mod them, make friends... And I've been lonely for a while since my divorce but uh... I'm still doing those things because they're inc…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 08:07 PM
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I don't know any serious musician who is at all motivated by it "getting them laid." You don't practice 5+ hours a day and obsess over small details of your performance and technique to 'get laid.' The only thing that can sustain the colossal amount of effort needed to be good at a musical instrument is genuine passion for music almost to the point of obsession.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 08:00 PM
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No, they're popular with women. You are coping. These guys are very sociable and charismatic, half the women they date don't even know the shit they get up to, the other 5 girls they have, the drunken late night benders they go on, etc. I agree they're popular with women who are status/looks obsessed (and this is not a group of people I have much interest in, either) but they are absolutely popular with women and they don't have to pay for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 05:19 PM
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The same way I do now. I'm already very financially successful, I could buy a high n count if I wanted to. I want monogamy/love. That means refraining from behavior that decouples sex from love and damages your ability to bond with and invest in one person in a genuine way. No hookups, no sex outside of committed LTR's. My goal is love/marriage (take 2 lol) and i'm only interested in women who share those goals/values and live a similar conservative lifestyle.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 05:15 PM
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That's a totally reasonable choice (though of course not every successful man is like this, but I do think the odds go up in any high powered profession, same is true of business men, real estate owners, etc) -- but that doesn't change the fact that these men do very well with women on average despite typically not valuing them a great deal and many of them having "red pilled" views. It's a huge internet cope that only "ugly" men are exposed to these ideas or believe it. It's unfortunately very …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 05:10 PM
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Are you really so inexperienced in life that you think just because a man is successful with women, he likes them and isn't a misogynist? I suggest you go hang out with finance bros in NY sometime lol. These guys are redpilled, they just consider themselves the "alpha fux"
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 04:52 PM
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A lot of men who do not struggle with women are still redpilled. redpilled does not mean bad with women. I know plenty of misogynists who use and discard women and think basically all the same stuff redpillers do but they're hot and rich so it doesn't affect their dating life in any way they care about (it probably would affect their ability to like, stay married -- but they consider that beta so they don't want it.)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 04:41 PM
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Tons of good looking guys are redpilled.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 08:57 AM
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All the women who don't act/think this way aren't commenting on this article, they are already married/were married in their 20's... Selection bias much?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 01:48 AM
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No, you're wrong. Looks matter but you just gotta clear some like baseline standards like not being fat, having good hygiene, being taller than the girl etc, wearing real clothes. On apps people have superficial filters but when you meet people naturally in real life it is basically almost all about personal chemistry provided you clear a very basic physical attractiveness bar.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 10:13 PM
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Or he could just be legitimately hilarious, loved by his friends, and make the woman feel happy when she's around him. The primary thing that determines attraction is how you feel when you spend time together and a lot of that is personal chemistry. When that is there, people will forgive all kinds of shit that they think are 'standards'
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 09:54 PM
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My ex-wife married me when we were broke college students and I was not hot, poor, and basically met zero "red pill" qualifications almost entirely based off of interpersonal chemistry and a strong friendship. I was literally chosen over 1% rich suitors her parents lined up. We were together for 10 years. She left when I became a successful, money-obsessed bro and forgot to keep being her best friend. Even though it ended poorly (but in a way that was really no one's fault and both our faults) I…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 04:21 PM
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Basically every man gets that opportunity. Reddit is not real life. And the vast majority of men not only "wouldn't" go for it, many -- at least have don't. I swear sometimes I think people on this forum only know low integrity people.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 02:34 AM
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No they wouldn't. Most men do have the chance. Men experience love and sex is not the only need they have -- many men reject other women all the time because hurting someone they care and throwing away trust and comfort and love for 30 minutes of pleasure is a horrible trade.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 12:32 AM
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Only if you're doing it for the benefit of someone else and not yourself. I used to have a friend who I would manipulate out of anxiety attacks/into writing her papers and not overthinking it because she'd get so in her head and spiral. She'd literally seek me out sometimes and request I do this. Telling someone you love they're beautiful can fall into this category as well, but I'd also say this is often not even a lie, someone being beautiful and being "dressed up" are not the same thing. Most…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 05:41 AM
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They don't. Even younger women don't. Most of them find it cute as long as you are attractive NOW.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 03:02 AM
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most men do not care just don't be fat, provided you're willing to date guys who aren't big gym guys. Those guys are typically gonna want very fit women who fit into their lifestyle.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 09:00 PM
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You need to develop attractive traits. There's a lot of ways to do it, but you have to pick some and go for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 11:21 PM
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Nah, it doesn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 06:25 PM
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I cry in front women in all of the above situations. They will sometime playfully tease me about it when its a song/film, and when i'm actually sad about something the response is always comforting affection. I've never gotten a negative reaction.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 06:11 PM
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Yep, this is another huge benefit. I have never had most of this degenerate behavior people complain about from women happen to me because I meet women in chamber music groups/film festivals or other nerdier avenues and they tend to be similarly idealistic/romantic and less money/status obsessed.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 05:14 PM
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I cry in every vaguely sweet/beautiful film (romance films, ghibli films, pixar films) and when listening to a lot of music. I also cry when something really bad happens in life. I am definitely a sensitive dude that talks about feelings and such a lot and my main hobbies are piano/violin and I rarely see the inside of a gym. I do just fine. If you're a sensitive guy, learn a musical instrument lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 03:12 PM
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This is not some artificial thing layered over "true instincts" People are social animals and have deep emotional and romantic needs which are just as hardwired -- on top of whatever these animal "instincts" are and for many people, those higher order needs are stronger/more prominent so they behave differently.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 04:57 PM
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Nope, guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 06:25 PM
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Actual friends become lovers all the time. All my relationships were like this. Actual friends means the girl actually likes being around you as well and seeks out your company for its own sake -- but didn't feel immediate attraction to you (and generally you also don't feel strong immediate attraction). In such a situation it's quite common that as you get closer and know each other better and have fun together, feelings might develop. Doesn't always happen of course but it's pretty common. Whe…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 06:17 PM
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Yes I would (and have, once) if asked. That's only ever happened once.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 10:07 PM
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100% agree this is the best policy for everyone. The point of this debate is that different people care about different things. I am not interested in dating a woman whose sexual history is different from mine (exclusively LTRs, no hook-ups, romance/family minded) because we're not going to be compatible. There's nothing wrong with people wanting different things than i do, but the most high integrity thing to do is just tell people the truth and find people whose values/wants in life match your…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 08:14 PM
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Because what you have done tells people who you are more accurately than anything else. Past actions are the best indicator of future actions. People act in accordance with their drives/values.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 08:07 PM
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nailed it. Or manipulators hoping to misrepresent themselves to extract value from others.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 08:04 PM
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Your sexual history is not on the same level as any of these things. The rest of these things are tragedies you have suffered, not the result of choices you have made. They're not comparable at all. Sexual history indicates ones values and attitudes towards love and sex and should absolutely be discussed early on in any potential relationship. People who will not disclose this information are just hoping to lie/manipulate the other person by withholding information they KNOW might not be well re…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 08:00 PM
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Only Facts in this post. Your past is any prospective partners business and if you have any character/respect for others you will tell them the truth and let them choose.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 07:49 PM
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I'm a man -- and I agree, at least this has been my life experience. All this "this is what I need in a man/woman" shit goes right out the window when you find someone you really connect with who just love being around then you will just modify your list to fit this person. In the end personal chemistry wins over everything provide you both pass each others baseline physical attractiveness standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 04:21 PM
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Ok bro, whatever makes you feel better lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 07:52 PM
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I've learned it, I just think it's mostly nonsense. The only thing red-pillers actually get right that was at one time sort of novel to some people is that women also care about looks more than they feel comfortable saying. Even then tho, just go outside man. I see cute women with less attractive dudes all the time. I see cute women with broke dudes all the time. Things are not as simple as red pillers think because they ignore the enormous role played by emotional bonding and personal chemistry…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 05:15 PM
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Ok, every woman I've ever been with was a close friend first. We opened our hearts to each other over a period of time and at some point were just like "I love being around you and I kinda want to kiss you now." We had common interests/passions (usually music and technology) and neither one of us was "juggling options" or manipulating the other. Meet better people is all I gotta say. And red pill (and evo psych more broadly) is unscientific cope for terminally online people. When people meet in …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 04:34 PM
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Women aren't the same though. They actually are individuals and they don't all have standardized flaws, behavior or upsides/downsides. It's not about wishing women were different, it's about having a clear idea of what matters to you and finding women with the same values.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 02:49 PM
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I'm not politically conservative, just conservative wrt behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 02:33 PM
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I get the opposite response... though I am just "low body count" as I was married for a long time and am conservative. Ok let me tell you the big secret here. If she finds you attractive and fun/comfortable to be with, none of this shit will matter, she will justify it to herself and be with you anyway. If she doesn't find you attractive and fun/comfortable, she might convince herself this was the reason she didn't like you, but it's actually just that she didn't find you attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 07:29 PM
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literal manosphere brainworms if you believe this. Being respectful is attractive, being deferent is not.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 05:49 PM
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Actually the only difference is physical attractiveness. If you are a complete golden retriever but your face is attractive & you're in ok shape she'll find you attractive if she feels comfortable around you.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 09:05 PM
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Most women don't even go to clubs. Again this stuff is all based on a subset of women who actively engage in this kind of stuff. Some women don't mind, some women do. The women at clubs are going there for this purpose, so this is mostly sample bias.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 05:23 PM
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No, but I wasn't disagreeing with you just adding to your point
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 04:52 AM
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The majority of women have sex only when they feel comfortable, safe and attracted to a man. That's normally in the context of a relationship. Imagining that women just wanna bang every hot guy they see is men projecting what THEY would want to do onto women.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 04:34 AM
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Most women are in monogamous relationships and if single looking for a monogamous relationship, and the vast majority of her sexual partners are from previous monogamous relationship. Most men are the same way. Serial monogamy REMAINS the dating norm. Dating apps have just confused terminally online people, but in reality these apps are not reflective of how most people are living their lives. It's a small number of women and a larger, but still not huge number of men hooking up all the time... …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 04:33 AM
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No, it's not a fantasy. This is gonna shock you, but there's different women in the world who have different dispositions and behave differently. You are literally ONLY meeting women who are interested in hookups if you're meeting them through your "chad friends"... because they're hooking up with him. Meet women in places built around common interests and you'll meet more women who have strong passions in life (art, music, etc) who don't spend most of their time on dating and typically just mee…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 08:44 PM
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Yes, this is the reason who normal guys can do just fine in school but once you no longer have a built in way to meet women IRL organically and be evaluated holistically primarily based on how the woman feels spending time with you, then everything becomes a shit show. You pretty much have to cultivate a bunch of hobbies in addition to work to get anything like this to happen after school. That's the biggest problem for most men.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 08:30 PM
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Women find the same things Romantic as everyone else does. Actual personal bonds built around shared interests, vulnerability, and closeness combined with fun shared experiences with a man who is "good looking enough" (And this standard is not the tinder standard... it's like, be taller than her, groom yourself, wear real clothes and don't be fat and be friendly) That's it. That's all you gotta do, bros. The hard part is actually meeting women IRL as a busy adult.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 08:17 PM
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I think these kinds of threads are insane. Friends -> Lovers is extremely common for both men and women. If a woman genuinely likes spending time with you as a friend, but never falls for you, the reason is just that you are not attractive to her physically 9/10 times. If you go get hotter, she will likely become interested in you romantically. There's no "separate box." Women don't just decide to never find men they enjoy spending time with attractive because they've "known you too long" or w/e…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 01:37 AM
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I think this is true. I'm a conservative guy who is only interested in LTRs and doesn't hookup, and I care about body count for compatibility reasons. But I've never heard any of my "hook up" bros at work give a shit. They just care that the girl is hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 01:25 AM
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Nonsense. A man's value has nothing to do with how many women he sleeps with. It has to do with his social network (how many other successful, ambitious men does he know?) his resources (does he have/earn good money) his social intelligence (do people respect him and like him? is he funny) and his looks. A guy who has like, even just 3 of these things who has a low body count will still have women chasing him everywhere he goes. And there are plenty of guys like that in high powered careers from…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 01:20 AM
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I personally wouldn't be interested in such a person if I were attracted to men. I view getting into hookups almost precisely the way I view drug addiction, once you've acquired the taste the damage has been done and the chance of relapse is simply too high. I look for people who demonstrate consistent impulse control and a commitment to not engaging in instant gratification. Not that I think such people are bad people or anything. I've got plenty of friends who do this kind of stuff and I don't…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 12:55 AM
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I don't think something not lasting forever makes it less beautiful. Those were still very deep friendships/emotional connections. There's a lot of luck and other factors that influence whether a relationship makes it long term even when real love is present. I mostly mean hookup culture/sex without trust and love. I do not mean serial monogamy. Most people are not lucky enough to find lasting love immediately even if both people want that and they are both trying and I don't think it makes sens…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 12:35 AM
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Nothing Disney about it, happens all the time in the real world -- and has happened to me personally a couple of times. I don't see a lot of people out here having casual sex all the time feeling super satisfied with their lives. I'm sure some do -- and good for them if they do, but I mostly see people in the throes of their sex addiction deeply wanting someone to choose them while engaging in self destructive hookup behavior like all addicts do. Delaying gratification and holding out for someth…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 12:14 AM
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It's not that uncommon. It's a terminally online fantasy that most women are out here hooking up all the time. I meet women all the time, STILL in my early 30's who only had sex in LTR's and barely even use dating apps, I just don't meet them on tinder... because they're not there. I meet them at conferences, interest groups, playing chamber music, etc. Not all of the people who exist are reflected in tinder statistics.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 12:08 AM
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I am glad to be excluded (and I exclude myself) from casual sex. It is an addiction and it does all of those terrible things to both men and women. It's fantasy to imagine that your actions have no consequences. Sleeping around will devalue sex and turn it from an affirmation of a spiritual and emotional connection into a drug. People's past matters, what they do matters. I'd say similar things about watching a lot of porn too. It is a good idea to avoid overstimulation and desensitization.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 12:05 AM
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Legit almost every community outside of western urban areas that most of reddit thinks is the entire world.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 09:21 PM
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This is not the true standard everywhere. In plenty of communities men who sleep around a lot are viewed as impulsive, low quality men and are not viewed as marriage material/respected by the community.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 08:15 PM
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I agree with you, and I'm a man. I have a low body count because I believe that keeping sex special and intimately tied to love, trust and romance is important in having a fulfilling long term relationship. Being promiscuous will turn it into an addiction that one must scratch, it will make each sexual experience less special and meaningful, and it will cause it to become less an affirmation of emotional and spiritual connection and more an animalistic hunger not unlike drug addiction. I say pre…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 08:10 PM
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Agree 100%. I am a man and I am also not into casual sex. I don't ask this question to shame women, I ask because it's an important compatibility issue. I've only had sex with a couple of women in long term committed relationship, I do not hookup and I want women who share my views.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 12:35 AM
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absolutely true. The problem IS NOT virginity, the problem is "does her past sexual history show that she wants commitment, that she doesn't hookup, that she has sex in the context of relationships she believe to be serious, or not? I'm 33 and if I'm dating a woman and she has 5 ex-boyfriends idgaf. If she hooked up with 50 people, that tells me she has a sex addiction and the her sexual appetite is stronger than her romantic one. That is not acceptable for a wife, because it won't suddenly stop…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 12:30 AM
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This is also true as a man. I am a man who personally is only interested in women with low body counts, and mine is also low for the same reason. I only have sex when it is accompanied by love, trust, and intimacy. I want to be with women who feels the same way. If a man or a woman spends a ton of time hooking up, then I know that their sexual appetite dominates their romantic one and we are incompatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 12:20 AM
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Yes, this is one reason I really hate the conversation. As a man who does not do hookups, I am looking for women who also do not hookups. it is a question of values, compatibility, and what you want in life. I have only had sex with women in the context of LTR's, so it's a pretty small number of women. I expect any woman i date to be similar and also pretty much have had a handful of ex's who were all actual relationships. It is not 'slut shaming" to want a woman who has the same attitudes towar…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 12:09 AM
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You shouldn't. This double standard is unjustified. Contrary to what some RP men claim, men are damaged psychologically by repeated pair-bond breaking just as women are. I would not date a woman who fooled around outside of committed LTR's, and the same rule should be applied to men. If he's had a couple of serious gfs or an ex-wife, that's one thing, but if we're talking like 10+ women, he's worn out his ability to pair bond and likely has values incompatible with creating a functional long ter…
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/21 04:14 AM
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I'm a man, and I have actual female friends I'm not interested in romantically. Orbiter's are overly eager to cater to your emotional needs and will have pretty much no boundaries in this regard to try to appear like the "rock" you can always rely on. They will try to touch you a lot and seek out moments of emotional vulnerability to try and score points. They will almost never say no to any request you make and will not say anything negative about you, express annoyance, etc. If you have a bf, …
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/21 12:51 AM
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Honestly I wouldn't worry about this, it sounds like you have a good relationship. There is a lot of truth to certain aspects of TRP, but some of it is not accurate. (Like the idea that men don't have a "wall" equivalent --- we totally do, it's failing to succeed and make use of our potential while we have the most energy, intellect, etc and ending up broke, with no skills, prospects, or interesting experiences to share in our mid 30's) Men are always attracted to youth, but we're not literally …
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/21 11:55 PM
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