queencharlie Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
21	The Hardest HVW Lesson for me: No one is going to save you. Great advice! I’m saving this as inspiration for where I’d like to move my own mindset forward.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/03/22 12:07 AM
7	This is one of the most horrific stories I have ever seen on Reddit. Thank god she is getting out. How is there not protections for young women like this. Men posting stuff like this for thrills on Reddit is def a thing but I would caution you that anyone would know it’s not normal to be in that situation. If you talk to any CSA survivor or trafficking survivor and you will realize that is a false assumption. The grooming process is how predators create this mindset in their victims.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/03/22 03:41 PM
2	What are the telltale signs that he might actually have mental illness and/or personality disorder? Yes impaired empathy is a major red flag!! I did not pay enough attention to this and it has cost me dearly: if they admit that they “can’t” or “don’t” feel much or care about others pain or circumstances RUN!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	06/02/22 03:12 PM
1	What are warning signs that the man may become physically abusive? Yes. My ex used to “tickle” me forcably. He pretended he was playing around but he was showing me that he could overpower me anytime he wanted which he later did so.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	31/01/22 06:31 AM
8	Love hearing about women leaving when they had enough! Saying no to couples counseling because she recognizes that there's nothing else she can possibly cOmMunIcaTe to him I have adhd too and I was the wife in a similar situation and I got zero slack from my ex for not keeping everything within perfect condition meanwhile he actually used the same excuse like this dude to do nothing	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/12/21 04:43 PM
232	Seriously, what a Queen This needs to become normalized. If I had had this mentality my life would have been significantly better. Now I’m stuck for life dealing with an abusive POS.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/12/21 04:28 PM
36	If he lavishes you with gifts sometimes, and penny pinches the rest of the time – that is not generosity, that is manipulation Here’s my take. My ex would be wildly generous with gifts for holidays and special occasions…. Always in front of others… (didn’t notice that until afterwards). During the peak of COVID restrictions, he literally did not even remember to get me any present for our anniversary, Christmas etc… also when he was buying me the expensive gifts, sometimes it was stuff he wanted, sometimes it was stuff I specifically said I didn’t want and other times it was items I had to directly make a list of for hi…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	13/12/21 11:52 PM
2	Misogyny can be a powerful indicator of narcissism in men. Soo agree, just like when DV advocates feel the need to remind everyone “any gender can be an abuser,” true but the overwhelming majority are men! Even the men that do get abused are most likely abused by … other MEN! I think there is something about patriarchy that drives toxic male personalities towards narcissism rather than other type b disorders.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/06/21 02:59 PM
3	"Don't be a manhater" is patriarchal propaganda. What they consider "man hating" is literally just women calling out misogyny, and having boundaries and standards Misogynists are attempting to hijack the anti-hate-speech movement... Yes, quite possibly this is one of the biggest issues of our time and vastly under-acknowledged and discussed in feminist circles. Thanks for this post.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/04/21 01:09 PM
28	Discussion: why do men think they can bring nothing to the table and still be valued? Why should we value a man who offers NOTHING? Holy shit, yes you are 100% correct. I want to shout this from the rooftops.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/04/21 01:29 AM
209	My covert narcissistic ex resurfaced yesterday with claims of change Jfc that email. The entire thing is a self absorbed, self pity fest. He’s holding your shoes hostage so h can try to emotionally manipulate you. Men like this disgust me so much. Personally if it was me, I would tell him to bin the shoes and stop contacting me.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	29/03/21 05:43 PM
5	Never let a man deny you privacy or determine what is best for your mental health. I agree 100% hopefully it didn’t come across as if I think that defending oneself against abuse is abuse. Unfortunately this is so common there is a name for it in literature and it may help OP and others understand what is actually happening to them. And alleviate any guilt associated with it (often used by these abusers to further trap abuse victims)	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/03/21 02:54 PM
3	Never let a man deny you privacy or determine what is best for your mental health. Read into reactive abuse. Your husband is abusing you to the point where you have to react in some way to assert your individuality and sense of self. Please call a domestic violence hotline and start researching emotional abuse. There are a lot of red flags in your post. Btw I have ADHD too so I know what you mean. But he is not treating you with respect or dignity. He is not treating you like a human being. That’s going to make anyone feel “crazy” have meltdown etc...	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/03/21 01:02 PM