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I think a good indication is that you see them also being kind and thoughtful towards other people (and also animals and children) and not just those they can directly benefit from in some way. I think that's a good sign that their actions are out of genuine kindness and respect for others, it's not something they drop when it's no longer convenient to be kind. If they treat other people like shit but are nice to you, you may be on the receiving end of that nastiness one day when you're no longe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/22 12:17 PM
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I'm not sex positive, I'm a sex hater and proud.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/22 02:24 PM
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"sub" men will be the first to call you a slut or a bitch if you refuse them too 😬 idk if it's because they want to make you angry and punish them or what, but they're the rudest most disrespectful men I've ever met.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/22 02:13 PM
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I actually want to see this go down 😬 let's see what the boomers have to say about the wages, working hours and attitudes of these employers. Something tells me it's a little less generous than what they remember from their youth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/22 01:44 PM
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Men who play creative games like Minecraft (not to excess) are more respectable in my mind (and I also like creative games). Keep making your cute blocky creations by all means. Men who play FPS games give me the ick though. Seen too many men who play these all day and waste all their money on "skins" which don't even do anything in terms of ability, they're literally just different coloured weapons. Not to mention how prevalent harassment of female players in these games is. I understand why wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/22 05:55 PM
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I'm literally a radfem. I've been called a swerf and certain other words many times. I've never denied the problems with liberal feminism. I also do not consider FDS to be a radfem space, maybe radfem aligned but not full radfem, because I'm aware that a good number of users here are religious and/or want marriage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 11:52 PM
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I want to correct the line that feminism has done nothing for women. I disagree. For the most part feminism has been fantastic. Women were making significant progress. Making strides towards workplace equality, challenging rape culture. Sex positivity was originally supposed to be about focusing more on WOMEN'S pleasure during sex, even the much-decried on here liberal feminism I do not believe has been useless. Once upon a time (not so long ago) it was not controversial to point out that porn i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 08:32 PM
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I'm gonna be real, I think it's partly down to the fact that girls are TOLD more than boys to sit down, shut up, do your chores without complaining. Not that the girls aren't smart and hardworking and clever, of course they are. I won't downplay their abilities, but I also don't want people to forget how girls are socialised in a way that doesn't allow the same freedom to run wild as boys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 04:16 PM
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From my experience they don't like being called fuckboys. I think it's a fairly derogatory term, and it's male specific which I like. I prefer scrotes though. I'm not sure there's anything we could say that would sting as much as the words they use for us though, simply because they aren't oppressed by us. We don't scream these words as we beat them, these words aren't slurs we use when we buy their bodies. Isn't this why the words they use for us sting so much?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/22 11:37 PM
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Arghhhh! Actresses who have performed in sex scenes in films and TV have said they had terrible experiences and cried afterwards, that they felt dirty and uncomfortable in their own bodies, it's a very common thing they say. If simply pretending to have sex on screen, not even actually being penetrated and slapped ACTUALLY acting it, can be traumatic for the actresses then I think that should be a real eye opener about how traumatic actually taking part in filmed sex acts with real risks of phys…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/22 04:45 PM
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About bloody time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/22 08:28 PM
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One that I thought was quite well done was Photocopier (an Indonesian film). That's about sexual assault and the poor treatment of victims, but I like how it managed to not show anything graphic while still not losing the sense of just how serious a violation occurred. I think that's quite important because I HATE sexual assault portrayals in media that are fetishized.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/22 08:17 PM
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If you like crime there are some decent crime and thriller dramas. Flower of Evil is good (and if you want a bit of romance without graphic sex scenes but also without feeling like it's in high school this one is nice since they're an already married couple, and I thought it was also quite cool that in this the wife is the cop meanwhile the husband is the one who does most of the childcare and domestic tasks) though the ending is atrocious (but that is unfortunately common with kdramas). While Y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/22 08:12 PM
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Holy shit BUZZFEED??? I didn't expect an actually based and sensitive article on there
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/22 12:00 AM
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The entire concept of FWB. It's YOUR fault if you get hurt because YOU shouldn't have had normal human emotions/should be able to control what you feel according to what suits him. (Ex friend of mine got angry with me when I said I was hurt that he'd even brought up the prospect of FWB. How dare I be hurt, that makes him look like the bad guy and he's NOT a fuckboy!)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/22 02:05 PM
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True
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 06:11 PM
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It's definitely true that looks alone aren't enough for women. I also think it's true that a lot of women have at least one special rather weird looking man (I remember the time the ladies of radblr shared their male celeb crushes, it was embarrassing). But that doesn't mean women don't enjoy good looks. Obviously we do. Who doesn't. The reason why K-pop and kdramas took off is largely because of the handsome men. The reason why boy groups like the Beatles (lol) or One Direction took off to the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 05:58 PM
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This part about college tho!!!! Men are absolutely OBSESSED with the sex lives of college age girls and it actually infuriates me. Women go to college to get degrees and they spend most of their time studying or working. There's no secret porn parties going on, no different sexual partner every night, our lives do not revolve around men or sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 05:27 PM
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I kinda also want to blame porn. That will show women having sex at the drop of a hat with many different men and being perfectly ready and happy to do so which just... isn't realistic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 05:12 PM
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It's projection to try and validate why it's okay to try and use women for sex. Yes scrote, women are wasting their time and risking their actual safety meeting you alone just for a plate of food.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/22 12:32 PM
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Oh noooo I've literally never met a normal computer dude. My dad is one, complete narcissistic freak. This is probably giving away too much info, but at my university there was an incident of a comp sci student sexually harassing his PROFESSOR during a lecture, and the comp sci society apparently including a rapist in their committee. Female computer scientists are the opposite, they're cool, they're gorgeous, they're smart, they're everything. Male ones, nope nope nope. Misogynistic, porn addic…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 07:17 PM
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Omg wtf??? Freak!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 06:57 PM
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Antiporn unicorn always makes posts that just 👌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 11:46 PM
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6cm most certainly is not tiny for a bite. That would span the entire side of my arm and the OP in this sounds even smaller than me so imagine it's even worse on her. He's left a mark covering a good portion of her upper arm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 06:37 PM
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Anyway she is the victim and this sounds like the beginning of abuse. It's HARD to bite forcefully enough to break human skin, that's not something that happens by accident.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 06:29 PM
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She gets more spending money does she. Is that for her, or for her AND the children? Cheap asshole, reminds me of my father
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 06:47 AM
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Anyway, girls supporting girls
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 12:16 PM
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I found it funny lol, I'm sorry, men fighting is funny (on a small scale, not a national or international scale, they shouldn't drag other people into their stupid fights)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 05:57 PM
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They really think putting "white" in front of everything makes misogyny okay. And catcalling affects WOC too??? Likely more than white women in fact because of fetishization. Some builders (white men for the record) had the audacity to yell stuff at a couple of Asian students on my campus the other day, the poor women looked so uncomfortable. Men don't catcall to get a date or give a genuine compliment, they do it to intimidate and make women feel small. There's nothing complimentary about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 05:50 PM
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(IQ was also literally designed by racists and is not a reliable measure of anything)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 12:51 AM
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They always get so insulted if you actually call them out on only wanting sex. "Why would I spend all that time with you if that's all I wanted, how could you think of me this way". But they will, and they do. They'll fake relationships, friendships, attraction, anything. And THEY know the truth. I hate the gaslighting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 12:37 AM
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This was not just being annoyed and impulsively snapping. If I'm annoyed and snap at someone, it'll be in the form of a harsher tone of voice or being more short with my sentences. Not insulting them and going off on a hurtful rant about something from many years ago, those things don't happen by accident. What he did actually requires conscious effort. Horrible horrible man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 06:12 PM
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Good article. The problem at the end of the day is that women are still viewed as objects. In marriage they view you as private property, now they view you as public property. But the point is that we're still viewed as property, as resources to be accessed. Someone pointed out here that a common phrase among men is "why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free". The problem isn't that women need to stop giving out the milk to make men "buy" us. The problem is that we are not cows and we d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 11:20 PM
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Good Molly. And no, it clearly wasn't obvious to these girls or they wouldn't have been upset. He definitely WAS messing with them somehow. I'm guessing he decided to be wishy washy and act like they were special but never actually clearly define anything and let them assume it was more than casual so that they'd do what he wanted, but never actually establish anything so that he can brush their feelings aside when it's convenient for him. Nasty man, good for Molly. We all need a friend like Mol…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/22 04:34 PM
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£18000? Try £1000.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 04:03 AM
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Be careful when it comes to carrying weapons. Know the law where you live. Hairspray or deodorant is an okay recommendation, those are 100% legal and are pretty nasty if sprayed in the eyes. With spiking, please be aware that they are using injections now. Every week in my area (UK) I see at least one post by a girl who has been spiked at a club and it's almost always with a needle now. There are pictures out there of the needle marks. If this happens, you MUST go to a hospital and get tested, b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 11:26 PM
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So there's no real difference between ages in attractiveness based off body odour, but there is when looking at face. Implying that it is in fact KNOWING that they're underage that attracts men to underage girls, rather than say the presence of pheromones or something which actually signals fertility (which I assume was the logic behind examining body odour). Is there a link to this study?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 07:59 PM
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Could've taken care of yourself with that money. Bought a house and hired caretakers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 03:12 AM
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She's not depressed, she just likes being comfortable, and what's wrong with that. Do you shave your legs and put on makeup and dresses daily sir? Exactly. Sit down, asshole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 03:08 AM
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I know exactly what you mean. I've always felt like if I wasn't the smartest, if I don't end up in a good career, then everything men have said about women being weak and stupid and inferior would apply to me. I was exposed to a lot of nasty Mra talk when I was 16-18 and I think it really affected me. I still want to be financially independent of course, but it always felt like I have to be THE very best or I have no credibility, my ideas aren't worth listening to and nobody will take anything I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 11:35 AM
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I actually really liked Good 4 U. It's angry, gets the anger and hurt out of your system, really captures a lot of what I felt, but was also a helpful reminder that he probably wasn't crying his eyes out like I was, otherwise he never would've treated me so poorly in the first place. Let yourself indulge in some anger. And then go listen to some happy songs too, it's fine to be angry about how he treated you because you should be, but you also need to try to carry on with your life and not let h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 02:19 PM
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I still remember the tiktok by the girl who donated a kidney to her boyfriend...and he cheated on her 😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 02:13 PM
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"Important to express love physically". So hug her. Kiss her. Hold her hand. There are lots of ways to express love physically that aren't sexual.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 02:09 PM
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I have a question. Are you struggling to leave him in part because you feel like he moved there "for" you and like it would be some kind of betrayal?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 01:13 AM
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And many of the men who do do it are one or more of the following: gay or bi (at increased risk of homelessness), very young or students (broke, don't have established careers, little work experience, inflexible schedules that make it hard to balance regular jobs, struggling with financial burdens of ridiculously high rent and possibly academic fees, not much life experience with which to make decisions, no legal advice), from low income backgrounds (self explanatory), immigrants or non white (I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 07:20 PM
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The pro OF news articles though 💀 they're always like "yeah it's super empowering, I chose this, I love it, I started because I recognised what a great opportunity it was!" and then in the next sentence go "how I got started? Well I lost my job in the pandemic and couldn't afford rent so I decided to make an OF because I was desperate. Sex work is work!" Even their propaganda pieces don't actually hide the fact that financial troubles coerced them into it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 07:07 PM
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Oh god we had one of these on my campus. A middle aged man who deliberately went to work early each day so he could go up to the 18, 19, 20 year old students and bother them when they were heading to their 9ams.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 06:53 PM
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Worse. Lots of men who want "Fwb" WILL flirt. They'll flirt, they'll spend lots of time with you, they might even want to do romantic activities together, you'll have the deep talks, they'll make you feel like you're really special to them and like they actually like you and there's really a connection there. But they'll also make sure to tell you upfront that they don't want commitment. And then it's YOUR fault if you get the wrong idea and get hurt, you knew he didn't want commitment. Nevermin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 12:10 PM
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I actually suspect the "spiritual" marriage bit is something she's agreed to because in this particular case it benefits her too. Think about it. She's a high earner. From her perspective it might be better for her to keep all her assets separate from him and make it much easier to escape without going through the divorce process if she wants to leave. Not saying this is the case for all women, just possibly for her. All this planning, asking for financial compensation upfront of having a baby o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 09:30 PM
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If a man hides his political views, it means he's a closet conservative (possibly worse) but knows that will be met with hostility. If he just "doesn't really care" about politics, that also means conservative or "libertarian" (conservative but likes weed and porn) that means he knows the current world serves him and doesn't care to change anything. If he's left wing but only talks about economic stuff and never mentions women, he's a closet misogynist and his leftism only goes as far as it bene…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 05:52 PM
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Depends on his taste. I met a man who was into WRITING erotic fiction once. He sent me a sample. It was the worst thing I've ever read. Men have no taste (and in his case, talent).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 02:45 PM
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John Oliver is always disappointing. Men are disappointing and it isn't their place to speak on issues that predominantly affect women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 08:45 AM
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That's the purpose of the medicine parties at university I think. Tory mating rituals
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 08:42 AM
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I think it's not a coincidence that so many of the scenes ended up on porn sites. Anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 11:11 AM
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It honestly sounds more like limerence than love. Limerence feels intense, consuming, obsessive and sometimes painful, whereas imo actual love feels comfortable and peaceful because there's no doubt or anxiety, it's not like chasing a high. Because limerence is so intense, it makes sense that it makes more of an impression than actual love though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 08:11 PM
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Is this actually real? It's come to my attention that there's a particular user who goes around the advice subreddits making fake posts about public urination etc because they get off on reading the grossed out comments. Idk about this OP's post history, but even if this one is real I want everyone to be aware that this is a thing. If a story sounds just a bit too gross to be real, it might not be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 05:31 AM
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Neanderthals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 05:17 AM
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I'd love for breasts to become desexualised. Unfortunately, the term people usually throw around instead is "destigmatised" which means that they want as many topless scenes in films as possible but still balk at the sight of a breastfeeding woman. It's become so acceptable to show breasts, but never in a non-sexual context. I want to see them become desexualised, but the problem is men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 11:26 AM
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Also anyone who has actually read the statement BangBros put out knows it's full of shit. The "sources" include the literal news interview where Mia talks about her experience in porn, and the statement literally misquotes everything she says in that interview to try to make her out to be a liar. Basically, they strawman everything she says and argue against that rather than what she ACTUALLY said.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 04:00 PM
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How DARE they try to lump this in with the oppression LGBT people face. How fucking dare they.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 03:54 PM
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Also some women in porn SHOULD be infantilised because they're barely more than children! What's the difference between a freshly turned 18 year old and a child? Nothing, except the loss of legal protections. She has no more life experience, no education beyond high school, little money, little work experience, no legal advice and she's having contracts filled with jargon she doesn't fully understand shoved in front of her. Fuck yes she should be infantilised, she's being exploited through her v…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 08:40 AM
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Good kitty
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 09:19 PM
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Don't try to make sense of anything Kanye does, he's a lunatic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 08:11 AM
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The sheer ridiculousness of the very IDEA of "leftover" women in a country with 30 million more men than women says a lot. It's a large scale negging tactic. I think these queens ARE better off without men. I saw a fabulous news article about 7 Chinese women who put their money together and got a mansion!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 11:11 AM
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I had a bunch of porn pictures pop up in my recommendations without warning- I've never searched for porn on ANY site. It turns out I'm not the only one who experienced this either. It was honestly really upsetting and made me feel like I couldn't use the site anymore. Worse, there were tons of tags for stuff like "upskirt" "upskirting" which is very strongly associated with like, spycam porn. Oh, and all the shops were owned by men. Of course. No women "owning their sexuality" here lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 10:53 AM
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I am doing this rn with someone. He's a soon to be ex-friend who I didn't have the heart to block yet, but I moved him to the "archived" section of WhatsApp so I don't have to see his chat, and LORD has it helped my mental state. He's done things like disappearing for weeks and popping back up with no explanation and ignoring my messages for days. I started doing the same thing lately and replying very late, not because I want to play games with him but because I'm busy and mentally exhausted. I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 07:09 PM
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Slut shaming will never ever go away. Men will never ever stop it because it's beneficial to them, no matter how much you say "sex work is work". They want to drive us out of other work, they want excuses for their poor treatment of us and they want to continue sexually objectifying us. This man "supports" women who does OF by preventing one from getting other work. He jerks off to her and then proceeds to shame her for what she does to deliberately prevent her from getting other work. Men will …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 02:24 AM
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Age clearly isn't an excuse. He knew it was wrong which is why he did it while she couldn't say no. I've also been sexually harassed by a younger guy. They know what they're doing is wrong. They know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 01:40 AM
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I think it's time to sell Boyfriend or maybe just put him down. Any reasonable person would sell their boyfriend in favour of their horse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 04:35 PM
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How is this even...news? Half of high street fashion is ripoffs of luxury brand designs. Last time I checked fake luxury goods were already rampant in Korea (they already had a rep).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 02:58 PM
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No offence but does he care about his children at all. Why would you get a large, untrained dog you don't have time to train when you still have tiny children??? I have nothing against Huskies, gorgeous dogs, but I personally wouldn't want a new dog if I had tiny children, especially not a big one. He wants 3 children, but he won't have any children if that large, untrained, unsocialised dog decides to go for his kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 10:52 AM
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Drugging people who consented isn't okay either. Idk how this became like, a thing. I miss the days when talk about consent was VERY clear that you need to be free to withdraw your consent at any time during sex (which you obviously can't do if you're unconscious). Literally, only a few years ago this was the accepted stance. How did we go so wrong in just a few years?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 12:02 AM
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"High value" should mean respecting your boundaries. I'm not sure what these men hear at HVM, but I'm betting the image in their head is of the stereotypical "Chad" (tall, good looking, sexually attractive, blah blah blah) which does NOT = HV. What they think is HV is not what people here mean by it. Regardless of what other options he has, if he's HV he will respect you enough to wait til you're comfortable and not just see you as a source of sex. Ignore what the men say, they're projecting the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 09:46 AM
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I've always thought about adopting or fostering instead if I ever want to be a mother. Though I did hear about some ethical issues regarding adoption which is concerning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 04:56 PM
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No lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 02:18 AM
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My dad's reason for divorce. He asked me if I thought my mum would take him back a few months later lol (in my head I was like FUCK NO). Wasn't til years later I told her and she was also like FUCK NO. He treated her horribly pre divorce, she was delighted to see him gone by that time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 11:33 PM
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This is the most beautiful post I've seen on this sub yet, thank you so much
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 11:30 PM
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Seriously, it's their own faults 😬 the kind of men who complain about this are usually the ones who consistently don't show any empathy for other people and then wonder why everyone (male and female) gets sick of their bs and de-prioritizes them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 02:35 PM
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Me thinks good for him for not buying Congo blood diamonds
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 10:12 AM
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Motherhood is the most important job they say...until it's time to be financially compensated for it of course. No it's NOT fair to ask her to set herself back later in life by damaging her ability to create savings for herself all while ignoring all the unpaid labour she's done for both their sakes. This is why women are on average poorer. Not because we work less or not as hard, but because women's labour is not seen as real work and given actual respect. Childcare is work. Cleaning is work. C…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 08:21 AM
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Damn she's giving us a whole lit review (and it's good!)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 03:04 AM
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MGK 🤮 Megan nooooooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 12:45 PM
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The measures both male and female fitness models go to to get those pictures with totally flat, defined stomachs usually involve reducing calories significantly in the days before a photoshoot, eating carbohydrate-rich things on the day to "pump" the muscles, avoiding drinking water until after the photos are taken to prevent bloating and sometimes even dehydrating to get the best muscle definition. And then of course the muscles will be probably tensed when the picture is taken. Even the models…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 01:10 PM
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She did ✌️ he's gone kk
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 12:51 PM
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My mum was the older one by 10 years. They had me when she was 40 and he was 30. My dad treated her like shit, which is why I'm a bit sceptical of all you ladies who say you'll only date younger men because they're nicer and better looking. He expected her to wait on him hand and foot (literally, she brought him his breakfast in bed), never helped out with housework or childcare, always complained that my mother wasn't earning enough at her job (she ended up taking a lower paying job than when t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 09:23 PM
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"gives me less hope for finding someone genuine" Happens once and he's lost faith, meanwhile for women it happens all the bloody time and we're just expected to get over it and not be bitter and "not all men". Kk
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 09:13 PM
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My grandmother died over 10 years ago. My grandfather never moved on and asked to be buried next to her when he dies :')
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 10:11 AM
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Ditch him. This situation mirrors a former "friend" of mine who I ended up emotionally wrecked over for months because I was devastated when he stopped acting like a decent friend and thought that I had ruined it somehow by not understanding him well enough. Ignore the depression blah blah, if he has it he can't help it, but it isn't your job to accommodate it at your own emotional expense (and despite what people say, some people can and do use real or alleged mental health issues as excuses fo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 06:57 PM
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They can, they just hate us so they don't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 02:08 PM
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"Snooping" is a good thing, idc if some people think it's creepy. If you plan to spend any significant amount of time with this person, go e-stalk! Immediately, not 6 months in. Find out what kind of content they post about (do they post racist or misogynistic stuff?), their age, family (especially important, you don't want someone who is lying about being single).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 02:21 AM
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Never liked beards, feel so validated now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 06:18 AM
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Poor little girl :'( all those injuries because of this fuckwit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 05:59 AM
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Unfortunately I'm not sure it is always easy to tell they're avoidant at first. As far as red flags go, I'd say having strings of short term relationships, no close friends or a constantly switching friend group, lacking a close relationship even with family members, spending a lot of time online, preferring to talk online Vs in person are all possible early signs. Also jobs, if they show lack of commitment to their work or studies, that probably bleeds into their personal life too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 10:53 PM
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Aw what a sweetheart!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 10:02 PM
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Finish a piece of sewing I started back in July 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 07:44 PM
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For the record it took over two weeks for a piece of blackmail porn that I reported on a now deleted Reddit sub to be removed. Everyone there knew it was blackmail porn, it was a famous case, the comments even said so (nope, not just a roleplay). I have screenshots. The user who posted it is still active and free to keep posting this kind of content, he was not banned. Reddit doesn't give a shit about women and yes it's an absolute cesspit of non consensual porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 07:37 PM
6

Eh?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 02:04 AM
59

Complaining about having no close friends: it's because they push people away, and they'll begin doing the same to you too once you get too close. At some point they stop having proper conversations that allow you to get to know them better and prefer to send lots of pictures, videos and memes for you to react to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 02:59 PM
4

I'd prefer gold, isn't that a much better asset?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 02:51 AM
14

This described my father, my former male friends and it hurts. It honestly hurts. Especially the bit about emotional support. So many men have no empathy for anyone else, including other men, and they brush off all problems as "that's just how things are" and then wonder why they're so miserable and don't have a best friend. But they'll expect sympathy from everyone else about THEIR problems. They drain everyone around them, give nothing back and then complain about having no friends or no best …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 08:36 PM
16

Disney princesses were the LEAST of my problems growing up. How about they start worrying more about say, how most people of my generation were exposed to violent porn at an early age? Pretty sure that affected me worse than Disney ever did. But they're calling Billie eilish a "swerf" and sex negative for speaking about her experiences at this very moment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 02:07 AM
10

Shiny new toy syndrome. Can't even count the number of times I've experienced that. It's basically lovebombing. I don't think they actually have malicious intent but it makes you feel the same way because they go from wanting to spend lots of time with you, you being their favourite person to just... nothing once they're bored of you, or maybe they'll occasionally play with you once in a while when they're bored or their new toy isn't available. I'm an anxious person so I usually fall for it as …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 01:50 AM
4

Omg seriously??? That's so messed up. She can change it herself when she's older though? My sis wants to change her last name to our mother's, I should hope that's allowed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 01:43 AM
2

Good for her. Save yourself queen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 01:40 AM
2

"traditional" lol. I'm sorry tradwives, those "traditional men" are not traditional, they just want someone to abuse
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 01:25 AM
42

PLEASE take your rpebot and never go within 10 feet of a real woman ever again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 11:04 PM
16

The sad thing is he's right. So many of us have put up with so much shit from other people. We've been taught since we were little to put male attention and romance on a pedestal, put others before ourselves in the name of love, to be "selfless". Even now we're supposedly so liberated, so many women and girls still put up with the SHITTIEST behaviour from men and boys. We really need to fight back harder
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 04:04 PM
16

Where's the lie though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 06:23 AM
24

What kind of parent doesn't put their children first?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 11:51 PM
47

Wasn't it Lundy Bancroft who said that therapy/marriage counselling is the last place you should send abusive men because it won't change them, it will just teach them the language to justify themselves, manipulate and abuse even better
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 11:17 PM
1

Omg yes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 07:52 AM
66

This this this. Things like FWB or polygamy get talked about as "you have to be very emotionally mature to handle this" "you have to be so secure for this to work" which of course then gives the implication that if you're NOT okay with these things you're immature/insecure. It is a subtle form of manipulation. You don't want to be immature and insecure do you? Adults can handle these things!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 07:43 AM
136

Yes. Everybody I know my age has been asked to do something painful/degrading that the guy saw in porn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 07:40 AM
4

Not a cryptocurrency bro and is responsible with investments and finances :/ Met a dude my age (I'm only 21) who lost $10k to cryptocurrency investing, and no he wasn't from a rich family so it wasn't just pocket change to him either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/21 08:18 PM
10

"Soft" boys are always narcissistic and that "softness" never extends to empathising with other people from my experience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/21 08:00 PM
38

Nope. Absolutely not. I don't expect someone who's read lots of feminist theory, but I do expect someone with some damn empathy, which is honestly all it takes to not dismiss women's experiences
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/21 11:47 AM
10

I was probably 8. I was one of the first generations growing up with s computer in the house and I don't think my parents understood the dangers of the internet til it was too late. Definitely by 9 I had seen violent hardcore porn. I think the first time I came across it was by accident.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 12:19 PM
8

Well done her for speaking her mind, I think she's very brave. I hate every person telling her to shut up. Porn is now in every household, I doubt there's a single one of us who hasn't been exposed to it and who hasn't been affected by it in some way anymore. It is EVERYONE'S fucking business at this point and nobody, especially this generation of young girls and women who are the most affected, should shut up about how it's affected them. I find it especially interesting how if you criticise po…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 12:18 PM
9

"Sex work" is NOT the oldest profession. Oldest form of women's oppression maybe. The oldest profession is midwifery. Fuck this stupid myth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 12:11 PM
2

FWB is one of those things where if women (genuinely) want it I don't judge because women are a net gain to men and let's be honest how many men deserve girlfriend benefits, but I fully judge men because THEY usually mean they want to emotionally abuse someone and not be held accountable because they never promised anything (is friendship not a kind of social commitment? That's why the friends part is a lie lol). Anyway LOVING the FWB hate today. Is it Anti Fuckboy Friday or something on here?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 04:37 AM
3

Not sure what's happened today, but loving all the Fwb hate I'm seeing on here today. Came at just the right time since I cried thinking about my ex friend who wanted to be Fwb today. Remembering when he still acted like a good friend :') Glad I made the right choice
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 04:22 AM
110

It's a step I guess, but I hate how it's NEVER about acknowledging how exploitative that industry can be to the people in it. It's always it hurts meeeee, it broke myyyy peepee, it makes meeee less productive, me me me. Some of these men even have this weird take where they view the prostituted women as evil for "tempting" the pooooor men and "preying on their loneliness" (one of the criticisms of OF I saw from men), call them all sorts of degrading names and just generally show how much they ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 09:04 PM
286

Literally advocating for liberal feminism sksksk "independent, strong and relatively hairless" "Shaving is MY choice" Fucking psy op
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 06:11 PM
5

Wait a while, see what he's like as a partner, and ideally let him say it first. Men can be very different as friends and as potential sexual/romantic interests.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 06:02 PM
3

If I ever marry I will be keeping my name. My mum kept hers. My only regret is that my last name still comes from my father and I'm too used to it to bother changing it (plus it's what's on all my legal documents). I would consider a double-barrelled surname maybe, but definitely not giving it up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 01:59 AM
6

Committed, lots of affection (cuddles and kisses), respectful, patient, helps with house chores, good at communicating emotions, sees me as a bloody person with feelings. Must want to grow old with me and get a house with a garden in which we will grow rows upon rows of catnip for our many cats.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 01:25 AM
6

This has happened multiple times to women at my university within the last few weeks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 06:01 PM
2

Yes please. I think I'm probably one of the younger members and I'd appreciate this a lot
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 05:32 AM
1

"Dark world" Have they seen the rest of Reddit?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 05:05 AM
13

Exactly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 08:17 PM
10

Because it's an excuse to shut down your feelings when you feel hurt and not provide you with support while also demanding these things from you. He didn't promise anything after all, so you have no right to be hurt about something he does or says in his eyes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 06:20 PM
123

"Stop fetishising young women and pretending that our lives are just like a porn film, and focusing on our sex lives so much as if the main reason we go to university isn't to study for a career we love" challenge. Like really, how is the obsession with women's sex lives on screen not just the old sexism of portraying women in media only as romantic interests with their entire plotlines centred around romance, but updated and pornified?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 05:54 PM
4

I remember seeing an article in a student tabloid talking about casual sex which literally said "let's admit it, everyone has had a one night stand at some point". Erm no, no they haven't. I know exactly one person who has. Most people who are sexually active are in relationships. I honestly couldn't believe it was so out of touch. Like who wrote this? Isn't this supposed to be written by other students? WHO have you been interacting with? And this is the largest student paper in the country 🤦‍♀…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 12:58 PM
6

Fffff. I hate these kind of men. The thing I hate most is that they think they're a good guy because they were "honest" about their intentions from the start. But that honesty wasn't given to spare HER feelings, it was done to make him feel like less of an asshole for doing something inherently hurtful and the actions don't reflect the oh-so-honest words either. But of course it's all her fault that she got hurt because he told her early on what he wanted. Nevermind that he led her on with actio…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 12:45 PM
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I think there's honestly often a hopelessness behind the mindset of it being empowering. Men, no men, will ever love or respect us but they still want us for certain purposes, so even if love and respect is out of reach why not make a little money off it right? Other girls accept the same treatment for nothing, but at least you're getting paid right? So you've won, right? I think it's honestly the greatest indication that many women are dissatisfied with the state of relationships with men and t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 10:38 PM
2

Godddd I watched red pill/manosphere videos when I was about 17 and it fucked with my head so much. Glad I did watch it though because it made me realise how much these dudes legitimately hated us and ended up with me finding rsdical feminism <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 09:01 AM
86

Right sorry, I live with all men currently. They're all PhD or master's students so they're busy busy people and guess what, they're all clean and tidy (AND do their own cooking). If full time PhD students can find the time to cook themselves nice meals and clean up properly afterwards I am not taking excuses from any other men ever again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 08:40 AM
5

Now that is sweet, so sweet
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 06:54 AM
19

Isn't Korea one of the only countries on earth where women make up a larger number of homicide victims than men? I think even an oh so ignorant foreigner can understand statistics.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 06:44 AM
3

Unless...he is the boyfriend from the nest story 😳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 10:05 PM
11

Why do I keep hearing these stories from basically every woman I meet :')
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 09:47 PM
29

Gonna be real, I don't like Ashnikko. Slumber Party was the first song I heard and it just feels very porn-inspired, as if lesbians needed MORE association with porn and performing for men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 10:51 PM
1

This is what I realised. What I actually want is to be truly loved and wanted, but I've been made to feel like this desire is childish and too much to ask for even though it's a natural desire for most people. I honestly feel like I was gaslit rn and I don't even know by whom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 12:16 AM
7

Hum I do actually think many women "catch" (god, feelings aren't a disease) GENUINE feelings more than men simply because we're actually decent people and see them as human beings and empathise with them (whether they deserve it or not). It's not a bad thing. We don't "catch feelings", we have normal human emotions. I dislike the term "catch feelings", emotions aren't something to be pathologized, they're a normal part of bonding with other human beings. The reason why men don't do it as much as…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 06:33 PM
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FWB is just a straight up lie. The friends part is anyway. I think of a friend as someone I actually have a strong emotional connection with, and from my understanding that's something that separates an FWB from a lover/romantic relationship. You wouldn't treat someone you genuinely care about with like a convenient fuck while knowing there's a good chance someone will eventually get hurt. I dislike the bit at the end though, gives me libfem energy, and tbh it's something that annoys me a bit ab…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 12:50 PM
2

The clubs near me have actually started searching everyone at the entrance now because of this. Glad to see it's being taken seriously but yeah, really horrifying
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 05:11 PM
4

Also just the idea that men take an emotional risk but women don't? Like, do women not take an equal emotional risk in relationships? By Ms PickMe's logic women SHOULD be the ones taking the emotional risk since she says they emotionally invest first and therefore risk getting their hearts broken, right? The only way with her logic that men could be taking more of an emotional risk is if men have an extra layer of emotions that women somehow don't experience- and THAT is one misogynistic lie tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 12:18 AM
9

Oh. I was taking it as a compliment and a sign that I'm doing the right thing 😇
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 12:05 AM
5

Ffs enough excuses. They treat us like shit because they WANT to and they don't care about us. They have plenty of emotions and no problems expressing them, caring about us just isn't one of them. They're not emotionally repressed, they're selfish and a lot of them hate women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 11:11 PM
5

I think there are just way more wonderful women than wonderful men so women don't miss their shitty exes but men do miss the wonderful woman who they realise they underappreciated but anyway
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 09:39 AM
2

Don't get me wrong, I'd love to have sex. But the kind of sex on offer is NOT THE KIND I WANT TO HAVE. I want it to be good, loving and with someone who I know cherishes, desires and respects me, understands that it's not just light entertainment for me and that it actually means a lot to me to share that experience with them, and who cares about my pleasure. Anything else would honestly make me feel disrespected, used, objectified, unwanted and generally like crap, likely wouldn't even orgasm w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 09:23 AM
2

Yep.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 09:14 PM
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Because we were told it would make us happy and feel good and empowered, and it didn't do any of those things, and in addition to that we still had to put up with being judged and degraded and devalued by men and we're angry that we were fucking lied to and that men exploited us and it was called "empowerment" AND we're not even allowed to call it exploitation anymore without backlash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 08:15 PM
1

Was it just my school that insisted on girl-boy pairings for everyone in almost every class?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 08:09 PM
38

I hate this argument because it almost implies that we HAVE to be sexually available to men in some way, that there's no escape, so just accept it. We don't HAVE to cater to them in any way, be it through marriage, relationships, hookups, prostitution, anything. Access to our bodies is not inevitable, or should not be anyway. Poor women deserve to be able to safeguard their bodies just as much as financially better off women, which is why I will always be critical of the sex industry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 01:21 PM
9

Also 21. Just coming to the realisation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 01:08 PM
6

The Onion actually has some super spicy takes though 👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 08:14 PM
3

Yay thank you! I appreciate :D
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 09:12 AM
26

First time hearing it? You're lucky haha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 02:01 AM
81

Yes, yes the very last slide is especially important, very insightful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 01:56 AM
81

The sex pozzi choice narrative is essentially the same one that is spun to victim blame the actresses. "How dare you doubt their capability to make choices, women are perfectly capable of making these choices, they're in there because they LIKE it, you're being whorephobic blah blah blah", all while ignoring the coercive factors leading people to enter porn in the first place (AND the fact that most women who enter the industry are extremely young, probably don't have much job experience or qual…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 12:32 AM
9

Last time I put effort into a man, did he return it? No, I got treated like I was worthless. Everything else I put effort into repaid me. My real friends loved me back. My pets love me back. The effort I put into my education rewards me back. All the effort I put into trying to show how much he meant to me? I got repaid with objectification and pain. Worst investment of time, emotions (thankfully not money) I've ever made.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 12:03 AM
24

I don't like the term demisexual much because to me it screams that we've normalised detaching sex from emotions so much that many people (especially women, because I think sex without emotions is a very male-centric view of sexuality) now feel like they're the odd ones out for needing that emotional connection which actually is a normal part of sex, but I think the term applies to me. I don't think I've ever felt attracted to someone I didn't feel emotionally close to. Even if my partner was go…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 09:54 PM
35

Ngl I'd be sad if this sub wasn't about dating anymore, because there honestly is no other space I know of that's simultaneously supportive of women who want to continue trying to date men while also encouraging us to prioritise ourselves over men. This sub is the middle ground. Radfem spaces will probably say "why are you still trying to date men at all", and basically every other space on the internet will probably tell me that there's nothing wrong with the way things are and that I'm just to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 07:21 PM
5

No to: computer science (almost nobody who spends that much time in front of a screen is normal), police, anyone working in politics, estate agents (creeps, all of them) Preferred: basically all other areas of science, tradespeople, nurses, vets
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 07:03 PM
14

For any lurking scrotes, I feel the need to state this case is not the same as when a wife receives assets from a divorce settlement. When my mother separated from my father, she got the house and an ISA he had paid money into. Why? Because she not only was earning more than he was when they got married and had contributed significantly financially, but her labour as a mother was recognised. She did all the childcare and also worked, so her contribution was recognised legally as at least equal t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 06:50 PM
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I read this one and it's really sweet! I also strongly recommend The Makeup Remover which is fairly new and SOLIDLY feminist (not the fun kind) in the way it tackles beauty standards and relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 07:33 PM
175

Porn is not empowering and is actually used by men deliberately as a means of degrading women who they feel threatened by Exhibit 4728489
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 12:20 PM
30

Same thing happened to me once. And he got so offended when I told him it was bad and was like "the other women liked it". Assuming these alleged other women are even real, they were just being polite my dude 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 11:53 AM
36

:') seeing men be lovely to the women in their lives is honestly important because it reminds me not to just be satisfied with anything. I was on the train once and I heard a man talking to his friend about his gf. Saying how she lit up his life and how strong and wonderful she was and I was like "there are men who talk about their girlfriends like this and I cried over THAT dude?" Really put things into perspective for me haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 03:25 PM
355

"I have two daughters around the same age" And that didn't bother her??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 09:06 AM
73

If you let a man know you like him, he'll try and get something out of you even if he doesn't like or respect you in the slightest. Learned this the hard way very recently. This is why it frustrates me when people complain about women not approaching more. Worst that will happen if you're a man approaching a woman is that she says no, which I know hurts, but I'm afraid I don't think it's as bad as what could happen in the reverse scenario. Worst that could happen if you're a woman approaching a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 07:44 PM
2

Thank you I needed to hear this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 10:18 AM
3

I changed the name of the guy who asked for FWB to "fucking arsehole" in my contacts to make him easier to get over. When I'm actually ready I'll block and delete. It's only fair since as far as I know he doesn't even have me saved as my real name either 🙃 (I really developed a crush on this arsehole?)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 10:11 AM
23

This is so powerful!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 11:09 AM
1

I cried over an unemployed, college dropout, video game addict.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 12:28 PM
1

I always wondered this about the way they score women from 1-10 too. It's always struck me as weird. Either I like a guy or I don't, he's hot to me or not hot (though my mind can change from one to the other). I'm aware that I personally am a very black/white thinker in part because I am mentally ill, but tbh I've never really seen many other women do this ranking thing that men do either. Imo it is to do with dehumanising us and treating us like objects for consumption, as well as ofc a neg to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 10:42 AM
1

My dad tried to do this to my mum after their nasty ass divorce lmao (she wasn't having shit)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 05:43 PM
16

Someone I thought was a friend but who I was beginning to develop feelings for recently suggested we be FWB and either men don't understand how devastating it actually is to be told you're good enough for sex but not worth more, or they don't care. It especially hurt coming from someone I thought valued me. Sex is an intimate thing that comes with a lot of feelings, and expecting someone to not feel hurt about being treated like a sex object just isn't the same level as your everyday scammer loo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 03:07 PM
10

Bless you, I need this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 02:54 PM
1

Wouldn't expect any reasonable responses 😬 though this sub is allegedly for a "balanced" debate, we all know it's got a heavy red pill bias. You're absolutely right though.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/21 09:36 AM
16

They really think they should have no obligation towards their children in any way, don't they. My dad is like this. And he wonders why my sister has cut off contact entirely and why I don't enjoy seeing him. He clearly gives very few shits about us and yet expects us to still fawn over him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 09:58 PM
11

A three year old girl and her dad. I'm actually going to cry
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 08:12 PM
11

It's already legal here to my knowledge. Brothels aren't, but prostitution is. Hence the nasty websites that exist to "review" prostitutes like they're pieces of meat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 07:54 PM
10

This is horrific. Mass shootings just aren't a thing here. I wondered how long it would be before we experienced our first incel murderer but my god. His goal was probably to make people feel less safe, and congrats, he's succeeded. I feel less safe after reading this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 01:10 PM
26

Here's the thing: it's not just that one post is it? Those posts by those men are part of a wider pattern. Stfu with the "not all men". Women KNOW that, we've been forced to hear it every time we notice a disturbing pattern in male behaviour, and men always get more pissed at us for noticing the pattern than at the bad behaviour in question we've noticed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 04:29 AM
18

O_o From what I've seen the women here are trying to do the opposite of picking men up lmao. It's more like...weeding
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 01:21 AM
49

This ^ is a perfect example of why "sex work" is not "just like any other job" and certainly not empowering. Even if it's fake, THIS is what they fantasise about. If this is just fantasy, it's a fantasy about using sex to degrade and punish a women he felt inferior too in the past. The men buying sex enjoy hurting women! And they KNOW that buying women for sex is degrading.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 03:02 AM
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Lurked the MGTOW sub in my late teens when I still considered myself an antifeminist, can confirm that seeing how much they and the rest of the "manosphere" hate women is what drove me back to feminism. It was terrifying for 18 year old me. I couldn't believe men like that actually still existed. ESPECIALLY the way they talk about rape victims (trying to make out that all women lie about rape, that most rape victims are liars, that the court system is biased in favour of women who claim rape eve…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 07:58 AM
20

There's no hate anywhere here, this is an appreciation post 😂 what goes through their little minds
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 01:55 AM
15

🤏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 03:16 PM
91

Hopefully sex positivity can be about vibrators and masturbation and female orgasms again. Like it was meant to be. I don't think sex positivity is overrated, I think what we now call sex positivity is toxic and not positive at all for women. It should mean prioritising women's comfort, safety and orgasms, which evidently has not happened since most straight women still don't get to orgasm from sex if the statistics tell the truth lol. Bring back the vibrator discussions!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 02:50 AM
12

There is nothing kingly about this 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 11:42 AM
59

On a sidenote, the countries that wore traditional dress to the ceremony looked so badass!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 12:11 PM
57

They don't like Chinese or Korean women any more because these women are "too demanding" apparently (aka, have standards). No, they want to go for women from poorer countries who have more limited options and are want to escape poverty, or Japanese women (because they watched too much Japanese porn and anime and have gross fetishy ideas about them). Hell, even Asian men do this. Korean guys will go searching for Japanese girls because they think they'll be less feminist and demanding than Korean…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 12:58 AM
34

There's a video on YouTube of an Australian man berating his Chinese wife because she won't fuck him or wait on him hand and foot and he's so so nasty to her and then has the nerve to call HER cold and cruel for "neglecting" him so (gaslighting). She doesn't respond, just sits in bed and ignores him. Probably the safest response, if that's what he's like on camera I wonder how much worse he is off camera. It made me so angry to watch that entitled scrote and I hope she left him. I don't feel sor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 12:51 AM
6

What queens. This is what I love to see.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 03:15 PM
32

This has pissed me off a lot post covid because I see men complaining about women moving away from them and feeling personally offended by it and...she's probably trying to be CONSIDERATE, unlike you you ass! It's a bloody pandemic, she's doing what she's supposed to! It's probably not even about you, and tbh other men should be doing the same if they're too close to you (but I bet many of them aren't considerate enough). But yeah, it's totally because she's looking down on you. Not because she'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 06:37 PM
21

Oh boo boo "cEnSoRsHiP" people (men) have one less outlet for jerking off to the abuse and degradation of women -_-
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 08:47 AM
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Does anyone have any careers that are GREEN flags? Ones that come to mind might be caring roles like veterinarian (but that don't put them in proximity of vulnerable people).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 11:25 AM
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