queequeg092S Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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3	[X-Post from /r/tinder] Every Guy Needs To See This... Np :) And yeah, I totally agree with everything you've said. I think most of them probably are just those who feel uncomfortable afterwards too, which I guess means obsessing over precautions won't do much anyway. :/ I would just hope that it'd make them think more the next day, but I suppose these people have to be heartless, so it probably wouldn't. :/ Thinking of things this way makes me regret my initial post because it makes it seem like something avoidable on a guy's part, but that's not w…	/r/MensRights	18/10/15 05:27 PM
1	[X-Post from /r/tinder] Every Guy Needs To See This... Yes! The harpoon! Yay for catching the Queequeg reference :D	/r/MensRights	18/10/15 04:15 AM
0	[X-Post from /r/tinder] Every Guy Needs To See This... Haha well you make a great point. I think body language should be taken into account, but women also need to be taught to speak up and not be afraid of hurting feelings or making things weird or anything else. I do think verbal consent is a really smart choice and you can't rely on non-verbal cues, but if something tells you something is wrong(uncomfortable expression or anything), it wouldn't hurt to ask-but don't obsess over it. Overall, verbal cues are most important, I was just recommending …	/r/MensRights	18/10/15 04:06 AM
2	[X-Post from /r/tinder] Every Guy Needs To See This... Hahaha sure! Friends are fun :D confetti	/r/MensRights	18/10/15 03:17 AM
3	[X-Post from /r/tinder] Every Guy Needs To See This... No actually, I meant using force or threats. Thanks for checking btw. Idk if that sounds weird, but a lot of people just jump to conclusions and decide that it's correct before asking haha I do think a lot of people confuse coerce with coaxing, and perhaps that has a lot to do with people assuming they were raped. I think we need to figure out how to deal with actual rape and feeling violated, even by your own will. Both are ok to admit, but it's clearly wrong to go about ruining people's lives …	/r/MensRights	18/10/15 03:06 AM
2	[X-Post from /r/tinder] Every Guy Needs To See This... It's cool! :) I totally agree	/r/MensRights	18/10/15 02:58 AM
1	[X-Post from /r/tinder] Every Guy Needs To See This... Yeah I did, every time. And I don't speak badly of him, and no one but my therapist knows. I've even spoken to him about it to see where he was coming from, even though I get how dumb that is. He said that initially he wasn't aware of what he was doing, but has admitted to what he did and why, to my surprise. But I'm still not going to shit talk him because 1.I stayed 2. He's apologized and 3. I'm not a shitty person and I was fucked up and loved him regardless.	/r/MensRights	18/10/15 02:29 AM
2	[X-Post from /r/tinder] Every Guy Needs To See This... Honestly, why not just stay on the safe side? And I mean if someone is clearly drunk. Male or female. I don't care. But clearly drunk.	/r/MensRights	18/10/15 02:29 AM
1	[X-Post from /r/tinder] Every Guy Needs To See This... It may very well be both? I agree with most everything you've said though. Personally, I've been through a lot with men but I've never viewed them as inhuman. I have felt aftaid of men, but I have always known that's ridiculous and unfair. It is biological, that after an animal is hurt it learns to fear, but also, dumb and unfair. I have more male friends than female, and I just genuinely like men. But yeah, if a woman does feel that way about a guy, by all means she should not even associate wi…	/r/MensRights	18/10/15 02:26 AM
2	[X-Post from /r/tinder] Every Guy Needs To See This... You don't have to. But being aware of yourself and your partner is respectful. For both people. I was giving advice, which doesn't need to be taken. I just thought it was a decent suggestion. Also, some things seem mutual, but may not be. Women are very non verbal, and yes, that is a flaw for them that needs to change. I agree though, if someone doesn't want to, then they shouldn't. If they do, they should. And they should state if they want to continue. But on the other side, people should be a…	/r/MensRights	18/10/15 02:18 AM
0	[X-Post from /r/tinder] Every Guy Needs To See This... I am a REAL rape victim. I was forced to have sex with someone. Did you read my whole post? Yes, both are wrong. But under definition of rape, coercion meets criteria. I'm not going to try convincing anyone of that, and I've attempted to keep it peaceful here and only given my own opinion and what I've learned. But I am a real rape victim, and I believe this. I am open to changing my opinion, but as of now that is what it is.	/r/MensRights	18/10/15 02:07 AM
2	[X-Post from /r/tinder] Every Guy Needs To See This... Lol that's. ..sexist. size-ist? O.0	/r/MensRights	18/10/15 12:01 AM
-6	[X-Post from /r/tinder] Every Guy Needs To See This... That's not necessarily true that she wouldn't go back, if mental illness is involved. And some people do freeze up, but usually they'll protest with actions which gets the message across to most peopke. Tbh, it sounds like this person had previous emotional issues. I want to say, similar things happened to me(stayed with the person) I had previous emotional and mental health issues, but in my situation I told him no or to stop and then I'd freeze up. I think a lot of girls expect a guy to read t…	/r/MensRights	17/10/15 11:50 PM
3	[X-Post from /r/tinder] Every Guy Needs To See This... I don't know how I ended up here, but this is wonderful. I'm a female, I've been assaulted various times, raped/coerced/threatened various times, and I fucking hate this shit. If someone is drunk and says yes, just don't do it. That is rape along the same lines as having sex with someone mentally disabled or underage is rape. But if someone is fully aware and says yes-without being coerced, threatened, or guilted by someone else- it's a mistake, not rape. I lost my virginity due to a mistake I c…	/r/MensRights	17/10/15 11:38 PM