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I think it depends if that 50/50 is proportional. My wife and I split household expenses 50/50 but we make about the same amount of money. She has at least $4k left over after paying her portion of the household expenses, retirement, and her health insurance.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 03:14 PM
1

Yes. But it was usually because of the way they acted. They weren’t relationship material.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 04:56 PM
1

Like I might talk to one of my female friends and tell them that I thought a girl was pretty or maybe ask them for advice about what a girl I was seeing would like. I wouldn’t even bring up another girl to a girl that I was interested in.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 03:54 PM
2

When I was single, I had many female friends who were just platonic. There was no attraction and they were just friends. But they did get treated differently than women I was attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 05:21 AM
1

Yeah, because they are in school.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 12:13 AM
1

My wife and I have 4 kids and we both work.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 02:54 AM
11

I don’t support the draft at all, for men or women. And I understand that it’s political suicide to even bring up adding women to the draft. However, as someone who served in the military with many women, they definitely could include women in the draft. 80% of the military serves in a non-combat role. Women could fill many of these roles and then the men in these roles could be cross trained into roles that require deployment overseas.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 12:58 PM
24

That may be so, but I don’t do most of the chores because of my higher standard. We split the chores as close to 50/50 as we can. I think a lot of the time, someone is practicing weaponized incompetence so instead of fighting over it, the other person just takes on more of the load to do it right.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 12:32 PM
32

I was in the military so my idea of clean is even higher than my wife’s.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 12:25 PM
1

I love that my wife has a great career and makes great money.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 05:30 AM
16

Hell no. Just the periods alone is reason for me to say that.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 07:32 PM
1

The men that think this are the ones who can’t get a partner. For the rest of us, I don’t think we would even care if someone else can’t get a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 04:33 PM
1

2 and 7 are probably a deal breakers for me. I earn a pretty good income and would want a woman who earns close to what I do. I try to be egalitarian as possible so if that’s the kind of feminist she is, then great! But if she’s just a man hater, I would not waste my time with her. 11 is confusing when combined with 7.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 04:47 PM
5

A relative of mine has 50/50 and neither of them pay child support. But that may be to them possibly making similar pay. Not sure though.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 11:27 PM
1

Why would you pay child support if it is 50/50? To me, that seems like you are both supporting them 50% of the time so it’s a wash. I’ve never had to pay child support so forgive my ignorance.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 11:21 PM
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I think it’s more like they see women dating guys who aren’t “nice” and wonder why being “nice” is a requirement they are told at all. Read some posts on this sub and you’ll see plenty of examples of women who are with men that makes me wonder how they ever got together in the first place. Personally, I’m just a nice person so I didn’t have to pretend to be nice and it worked out well for me but I can see why someone being given this advice is confused by it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 12:12 PM
1

That’s why you should vet the person better. I’d rather the person be transparent and let you know where they stand so you know to avoid them.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 05:07 AM
0

My wife made more money than I did when we first met. But now I make more than she does.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 02:23 AM
2

My wife and I were together for 8 years before we were married and had kids. Also, men are dragged all the time for getting with/having children with women they had no business being with.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 06:10 PM
1

The only gender roles my wife and I follow is that she deals with our daughter’s hairstyles and periods and I do the barbecuing. I can fix their hair but it will look pretty bad so I let my wife do that. And besides going to the store and buying pads, I stay out of it. That’s 100% in her domain.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 01:01 PM
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No, and I never claimed I was. I’m talking about my own decisions on who I would get into a long term relationship with.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 07:24 PM
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Because I wouldn’t get into a serious relationship with any woman if I were to get divorced. I’m married. But assuming I was young and never married, I looked for someone with the same values as me. I never slept around even though I could have, especially when I was in the military. So I would hold my potential wife to the same standard.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 06:55 PM
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No, I would keep it casual.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 06:31 PM
1

I’d rather be single.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 05:23 PM
0

That’s good to know. Personally, I wouldn’t ignore any red flags because it would bother me forever.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 04:39 PM
-7

So are you saying you ignored the red flags that hinted at this behavior or other red flags? Either way, I’m sorry that happened to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 04:30 PM
2

I guess I’m that guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 07:16 PM
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That makes you unattractive to them. Why is that hard for you to accept? Just because information was withheld that made them like you doesn’t mean they still have to like you when they find out more about you. And yes, with height and race, it’s obvious. But what if it was something less obvious? What if the guy had a very small penis? That might cause a person who was initially attracted to them lose attraction right? Or what if a woman’s breasts are incredible saggy? That could be a reason. W…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 04:34 PM
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Why are you judging something that people can’t control? It’s like judging someone for having Tourette syndrome.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 01:25 PM
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But who are you to decide what someone is actually attracted to or not?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 12:09 PM
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Of course. No one here is advocating for it to be okay to insult them.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 12:06 PM
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What if someone just isn’t attracted to bisexual people?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 12:04 PM
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Right. So someone can choose whether they are attracted to someone who is bisexual or not. They either are or aren’t. Why do you treat it as a choice that someone makes?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 12:04 PM
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But it’s something that you can’t really choose. Do gay people choose to be gay or are they just gay? I’m straight and I couldn’t give myself to be attracted to men. It’s not possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 12:01 PM
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So if it’s okay for them to not like someone for those immutable traits, why isn’t it okay for someone to not like them for liking people of the same sex as they are? This doesn’t seem logically consistent.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 11:54 AM
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Would you say that it is okay for someone not to be attracted to someone because of their natural hair color or their height?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 11:50 AM
1

The crazy part is that I would have been fine with having no kids. It was VERY important to my wife so we had 4. We couldn’t be happier with our choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 03:07 AM
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It’s a job I would never want to do. I would do it if I had to but it’s hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 02:13 PM
10

Watching kids is no joke. Especially when you have 4 like we did.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 08:56 AM
10

For some people, like my SIL, it just wasn’t worth it to work. She would have spent all of her time working just to pay for child care. Not worth it at all. So she stayed home and went to school. Now she is a nurse and makes good money but my nephews are school-age already.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 08:46 AM
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She stayed home with each of them for the three months and then we hired someone to help watch them in our house while my wife had meetings and stuff to do at work. But after having 2, we put them in daycare. That was very expensive but as each started school, the pressure was lifted one by one.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 08:41 AM
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When I read their post I instantly thought it unemployment benefits. If you quit or get fired for cause, you don’t get it. If you get laid off, then you get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 08:26 AM
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My wife has a career and is a mother. She doesn’t have to choose one or the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 08:22 AM
1

I would take the second one ten times out of ten even though I could get the hot waitress. I’m building generational wealth, not looking for another dependent whose looks are going to fade.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 11:19 AM
2

I married a woman even more conservative than I am on a lot of issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 10:02 PM
4

It’s a huge burden lifted off. Still have to pay around $10k a year for taxes and insurance though. That’s never going away.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 09:35 PM
21

My wife is nothing like this. We spent maybe $1500 on our wedding and put the rest towards our house. We just made our last mortgage payment last month and now we are debt free.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 07:43 PM
1

I don’t think OP is arguing that the law treats them differently. They are wondering why they are treated differently.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 01:14 AM
1

Why do you assume “others will quietly want to”? Also, why do think because some men who have options do that, that they all will?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 09:50 PM
3

I was attracted to my wife because she wasn’t promiscuous.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/26 03:44 AM
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She doesn’t have to be equal but I don’t want a dependent.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/26 01:17 AM
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Most people don’t live up to Hollywood standards so that’s not expected. If my job was to look that good, I would. Unfortunately, we have other jobs.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/26 03:37 AM
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A pass on her body changing? Of course. It wouldn’t make sense to think that her body wouldn’t change after having a kid(s).
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/26 02:23 AM
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I wouldn’t blame you for that. But I was addressing the part about discarding them when they age. I wouldn’t trade my wife for anyone and we aren’t spring chickens anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 06:35 PM
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Usually you grow old together and build a relationship that is based on more than just looks. My wife doesn’t look like she did when we met but she’s had four of my children so I wouldn’t ever expect her to.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 06:33 PM
1

I think as long as they are consenting adults they can do what they want. Same. I don’t dislike either of them. Yes, no.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 12:02 AM
1

I’ve met a lot of straight women who said they didn’t like the way male genitalia looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 10:31 PM
1

What are the units for this? 13 years may be a little too long to keep a guy’s interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 04:47 PM
1

If a woman doesn't want to date me because of a normal watch that I am wearing, she's not the type of woman I would want to date anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 05:00 PM
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I’ve been with my wife 20 years and planning dates is still a chore.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 03:01 PM
2

That sounds reasonable to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 05:48 PM
1

So redpill guys want promiscuous women?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 12:57 PM
20

I think the problem is that OP thinks she is a “better” woman than the hygienist just because she is studying dentistry instead of dental hygiene.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 12:22 PM
1

I personally know three couples where the woman is unequally matched with their husband and they make a lot more than them.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 12:20 PM
6

I’m pretty sure there are a lot of men who would date the women who are in dental school. Why not give those guys a chance?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 12:16 PM
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If anything, women should be more picky.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 09:55 PM
1

None of these are true for me. I’d rather be single. No other woman knows me and what I like more than my wife. Someone else would be inferior. Way too young and would be annoying even if they were nice to look at.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 06:15 PM
1

I think you are missing that the competition for the same age man is also greater. So while that may be the more attractive option, there are fewer of them and more women looking for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 05:17 PM
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I’ve seen a lot of women who are with conventionally unattractive dudes. And I’ve read a lot of posts on a Reddit where women are dating absolute losers but refuse to leave them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 03:50 PM
7

Rarely. My wife and I have been together for 29 years so we know what each other likes and know what to do by reading body language.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/26 01:42 AM
1

1
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 03:14 AM
10

My wife is even more desirable now than when I met her. It’s been 20 years and 4 kids later but she is even more attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 10:40 PM
6

She has a lot of pride and was independent when I met her. In fact, I was still in college and she had already finished and was making good money at the time. I was the poor one.
/r/PussyPassDenied04/01/26 08:15 PM
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My wife makes almost as much as I do and pays for all of her own stuff (minus gifts). I would never want to be with someone that expected me to pay for everything. I have the means to pay for everything and let my wife stop working but she loves to have her own money and to split things 50/50, including chores. Guys should look for partners instead of dependents.
/r/PussyPassDenied04/01/26 08:13 PM
2

I think my wife values those things that I do but I still need to make money. If anything, she would be happy if I paid someone to do those things because it would free up more time for us to do other things together. For example, I could mow the lawn but she would rather us pay someone else to do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 08:07 PM
1

I never wanted a virgin but I didn’t want the town bike either. There is a lot between those two extremes.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 07:19 PM
1

No way. I think most would rather be single than be a provider for a man and their children.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/26 04:44 AM
1

You can still have a love life. I know a lot of women who just want FWB and nothing more.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 01:31 PM
0

I would be a single dad and I would not date someone with kids. I wouldn’t date someone at all. All of my time and effort would be focused on my kids and I wouldn’t have time for a woman and definitely wouldn’t have time for her kid(s).
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 01:25 PM
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I’ve seen plenty that “find a man” but they don’t stick around.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 01:19 PM
3

A single parent with teenagers sounds like an awful person to date to me. Personally, if I were ever single again I would not ever be in a serious relationship. Just not worth it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 01:14 PM
3

Or they both are single parents and will blend the families together.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 01:04 PM
5

It’s not impossible but I’d say that there are a whole lot more single moms who cannot find a decent guy willing to be the childless stepdad willing to financially invest in her kids than ones who can. I’d also say the same is true for single dads.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 01:02 PM
1

Married No pill but my wife and I are conservative
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 04:11 PM
7

I wouldn’t like it. If she was around my age and still a virgin, I would think she was saving herself for someone who is also a virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/25 12:04 AM
54

Even conservative women?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/25 01:50 AM
3

Shoot for the stars. That doesn’t mean that person is going to have any success.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 03:45 PM
5

This is the correct response to this post.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 03:42 PM
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Once again, the mother is complicit in the creation of the child too unless she was raped. Why do you gloss over that part?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 11:45 AM
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I’m responding to what the other person said you were saying. Why don’t you clear it up for us?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 11:39 AM
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Nope. If both people are willing participants, then they are both responsible for what they did. You cannot place blame on one person and absolve the other one for no reason when they are both responsible for their actions.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 11:31 AM
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Then unless one of them was raped, they are both the intoxicated driver.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 06:27 AM
4

Except in order for your scenario to be equivalent, both of the drivers would have to be driving intoxicated. Who would then be at fault?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 12:57 AM
2

My wife and I took turns paying for dinners and dates when we first started dating. I wouldn’t date someone who expected me to pay for everything all the time. Now that we are married, I would gladly pay all the bills but she likes the standard of living we have because we both work.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 07:55 PM
3

I’d say it’s on a case by case basis. There are a lot of people I know who are in the place they are in because of poor decision making. Of course not everyone but a lot of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/25 06:59 PM
5

I went from lower class to upper middle class so it’s working for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/25 06:14 PM
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I could have easily slept around but I didn’t. This was especially true when I was in the military. But I chose to be in long term relationships instead. I’ve been with my wife 20 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 11:33 PM
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I didn’t sleep around so I didn’t want a woman who slept around. Also, my wife is from a small town and it would be awful for our kids to have to have a mother with a bad reputation.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 05:00 PM
2

Most of the relationships I see, the woman is the CFO and the man is the CEO.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 02:32 PM
4

The only people who l see that love crazy women are fictional characters or people who are crazy themselves or maybe younger guys. Non-crazy, mature people don’t have the time or energy to deal with crazy women.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 12:36 PM
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Lying, cheating, bad hygiene, poor money management, irresponsibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 08:51 PM
1

Your first scenario doesn’t make sense. The men who says this doesn’t think that a woman who sleeps around is wifey material.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 01:37 AM
79

I’d guess that they like high maintenance women they just don’t want to be the one providing the maintenance.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 05:43 PM
2

My wife makes really good money and she has helped us achieve a certain standard of living. She can quit whenever she wants and we will be fine because we are almost debt free. She doesn’t want to though. She likes to make her own money and contribute. It’s 100% up to her. It doesn’t really matter to me if she wants to quit and maintain the home or keep working.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 10:40 AM
1

I thin you are confusing having sex with men with having sex with a bunch of different men, especially during the same timeframe.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 03:40 PM
0

I have friends but definitely not female friends unless they are part of couples that my wife and I know.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/25 01:59 AM
0

Men get the blame for choosing bad women all the time though. Why do you think they get a pass?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 04:49 PM
1

They usually don’t blame them for the men being bad but for choosing to be with someone bad and even having kids with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 04:45 PM
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That they are bad and no one should give them the time of day. What do you think about them?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 04:06 PM
0

Not really. I’m already married and I still don’t like when women choose bad men (or when men choose bad women). I couldn’t care less if they want me or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 04:00 PM
0

I would think they just want a moderate guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 04:42 PM
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Was this story even real? Why were you staring at AskFeminists? Maybe the posters there are postpartum or having a breakdown. Sounds made-up., stop creeping on AskFeminists.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 06:44 PM
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I think it's on a case by case basis. I know someone who did this and she is a great parent. She's better by herself than a lot of two parent households are.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 03:38 PM
1

My wife made a lot more than I did when we met. I was still in college and she was already established in her career. Her making more than me didn’t discourage me at all. It encouraged me to at least become equal with her. 20 years later, I make a little more than her but we both make a lot more than either of us did back then.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 03:10 PM
2

But they don’t so I don’t think it’s really a criteria in determining someone’s prime. We could add their family’s history of disease to that category too.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 01:48 PM
3

Do women really care about sperm quality though? I think it is incredibly rare that someone gets their partner’s sperm tested before getting into a serious relationship with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 01:42 PM
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But that wasn’t the claim in the OP. They claimed men don’t have a prime.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 01:33 PM
7

Men definitely have a prime. Late 20s to late 30s is where it would be.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 12:09 PM
1

Magic or choosing to be celibate?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 01:25 AM
1

I meant if you magically changed me into a woman. If I was born a woman, I’d be a nun.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 08:58 PM
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If I were a woman, I’d be a lesbian. If that makes me “shitty” then so be it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 08:00 PM
2

No argument from me on that one.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 06:42 PM
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But those women already look attractive without makeup. It would be like a guy who is 6 feet tall not wearing lifts and you saying that he still gets interest without the lifts.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 04:53 PM
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The outcome for the woman would definitely change. Do you think they would get as many matches if they didn’t wear makeup that significantly changed the way they looked (for the better)? I do. If it didn’t matter, they would just post makeupless and unedited photos of themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 03:41 PM
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My wife and I were together for 8 years before we were married and had kids. We had a house and both had degrees. From her perspective, there was always a chance I could have left her after she got pregnant but it was as close to zero as she could get.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 01:10 AM
-2

This would only be true if you could guarantee that the prostitute is doing it of their own free will and aren’t totally desperate.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 06:34 PM
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I’d say a large portion of people who are just in it for the money do that. It’s just not a direct transaction. They will get shelter, food, clothing, jewelry, trips, etc. in exchange for sex and time.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 06:24 PM
2

Being illegal doesn’t stop this though.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 06:21 PM
4

The truth is that it isn’t a winning issue. Pushing it nationally would end up with it being allowed nationwide at any time in the pregnancy. To someone who is anti-elective abortion, that’s a worse outcome.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/25 11:53 AM
3

No, I want them to have higher standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/25 09:15 PM
2

I would just wait for her to kiss me.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 03:30 PM
3

But they are saying the guy doesn’t really care about your work or education, not that you don’t show interest in theirs. I think it’s a case by case basis. Personally, I love that my wife is educated and has a high paying job. It helps us reach our goals faster and have a higher standard of living.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/25 12:10 AM
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I’d say the ones that hate them are the ones who aren’t getting laid. They see them sleeping with other men but not them. Also, there is a difference between not wanting to date/marry someone promiscuous and hating them.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 04:33 PM
3

We have 4.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 05:44 PM
3

I’m just glad I found someone who made her own money so I don’t have to worry about her wanting me for my money. She makes almost as much as I do and has plenty of disposable income after bills are paid.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 05:31 PM
1

I’m not sure I ever claimed it applied to every woman. But I know that having kids was very important to my wife and she is glad she had them. And I doubt she is the only woman that feels that way. My point was to show that OP couldn’t use a blanket statement by showing her an exception I know to be true.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 03:00 PM
1

What I value and what the next person values could be completely different. There are plenty of men who don’t care.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 10:59 PM
0

But OP said every other single man would want that. I don’t think that’s true. But to answer your question, I’m not sure. There are many variables. A lot more 35 year olds are already in a relationship. A lot of them are already jaded from being in bad relationships. A lot of them already have children. So while a man may attract more 35 year olds than 22 year olds, are they really the kind of person they want? That’s what we don’t know.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 01:02 PM
17

If I was single, I wouldn’t want a woman 18-28. That sounds awful and I’m way younger than 50.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 11:35 AM
0

No said it does.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 07:56 PM
2

You could be ready on the first date but it’s probably not a good idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 07:48 PM
2

Because work is hard and not everyone wants to put in the time and effort it takes. And then even when they do, they have no success and get discouraged. I think persistence is the key but many others give up.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 03:29 PM
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Those types of people would wear that like a badge of honor.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 10:17 AM
2

No. My employer treats us pretty well. We get paid well and we get profit sharing.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 12:10 AM
1

I would feel like I’m not a partner. That’s why I said it would be good if we were both billionaires.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 02:46 PM
2

Not me. I want to be the billionaire. If I was and my wife was, then that would be great. I couldn’t be poor and be with a billionaire woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 02:01 PM
7

I think the point is that there won't be any children because the woman wouldn't be attracted to a man that wants to be a SAHD. I think it's rare to find a woman that would want that.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 12:19 AM
1

I was indifferent to having kids but my wife wanted kids. If I was never married, and artificial wombs were a thing, I wouldn’t have any kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 11:47 AM
2

My wife has an expensive one but she wears her moissanite one every day. If she loses it or it gets stolen, it’s $100 to replace.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/25 02:00 AM
4

What does one have to do with the other? It’s not like someone supports men committing crimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 09:19 PM
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Not sure what you mean.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 05:55 PM
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My wife had four of my kids. That means more to me than any stretch mark or flab could ever mean.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 01:29 PM
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You don’t really have to “keep tabs” on it. In your mind and your heart you know that this person has been with you through thick and thin. For example, my wife was with me when I had nothing. I didn’t have a house. I didn’t have a degree. I didn’t have a career. But she pushed me to better myself and now I have all of those things. Then she had four of my children. There’s not a woman on this earth that would be able to pull me away from her.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 01:26 PM
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I think as both men and women age in a relationship, it matters less and less. If someone has been a good husband to you for 20 years and they now have a dad bod, are you going to love them any less?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 01:11 PM
5

I don’t think they would enjoy paying child support and then going to jail when they don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 08:30 PM
8

I didn’t marry my wife for her looks. She is very beautiful but if she magically became less attractive, I would still love her. She’s had four of my kids and still looks amazing to me. She did do a lot of the work when she was on maternity leave for three months because I had to go to work. But her mom and then my mom came to help out when they could. When they couldn’t, we hired a neighbor to come and help out a couple of days a week. This is why we made sure that we could afford them before h…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 09:18 AM
7

Because they don’t want to be in a LTR with a stripper.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 02:58 PM
6

There are a whole lot more women that someone would sleep with than marry. For example, I’m sure a lot of conservative men would sleep with a stripper but they probably wouldn’t marry them and have kids with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 02:54 PM
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There are countless TikToks of women wanting men who are liberal but that have conservative traits.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 04:27 PM
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Weird because they say they want a man that has all of the traits of a conservative man that just isn’t conservative even though those go hand in hand. So they want someone who acts like a conservative but just says they are liberal. There are plenty of men who would pretend to be that just get laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 06:15 AM
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I think the kind of women who do those things aren’t really conservative. Just because they go to church or are in the military doesn’t mean they are. For me, I wouldn’t consider someone who sleeps around with a bunch of people marriage material. I think this is one of those things where people confuse LTR with just dating/sleeping with someone. There are a whole lot more people who someone would sleep with than marry. For example, someone might sleep with a porn star or stripper but they wouldn…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 06:13 AM
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If they are able to be with someone that looks like Pam Bondi, they are able to be with someone who is liberal. I think the confusion is thinking that a liberal woman is LTR material. They aren’t for a conservative. That’s just a recipe for disaster.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 06:02 AM
2

Yes. I went to church all of my life until I was 18 and I was in the military. The easiest girls there were not conservative.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 06:00 AM
2

*easier Don’t kill me it’s just my observation lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 05:36 AM
1

I’m not.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 05:34 AM
0

I would not remarry if I became single again. I would not even have a serious relationship. I’d just have fun and travel.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 03:54 PM
1

I think that women (and men) should have high standards and keep those standards. This doesn’t mean unreasonable standards though. I think a lot of people give other people chances by lowering their standards and they end up choosing bad people to have relationships with.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 04:23 PM
2

I would just be friends with her.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 02:51 PM
5

Yet people still choose the worst people to be with and then stay with them. How many AITA or AIO posts could you read where it would blow your mind that someone is with someone else who acts like that?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 04:59 PM
1

I guess it’s really how they act. My wife could have lied to me and slept with a bunch of guys before she met me but we’ve been together almost 20 years and that’s just not the kind of person she is. I’ve dated girls that didn’t see it as something special but just something that people did like watching tv. That’s just not what I was attracted to when looking for a wife and the mother of my children.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 03:03 PM
1

5 and 6 aren’t true in my household. I’m the one that’s usually in charge of planning, paying bills, grocery shopping, and meal planning. And when our kids were babies, I did most of the chores because she was busy. Now that they are all school age, we split the duties as close to 50/50 as we can.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 02:33 PM
2

It’s not. It’s would have been a lot lower than that when I was looking for someone to marry. My wife and I both didn’t have a lot of partners when we started dating. We had both been in long term relationships and didn’t sleep around.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 02:10 PM
6

Yeah. I wasn’t disagreeing with you, just clarifying my position.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 06:53 AM
13

I don’t mind if they are experienced but I wouldn’t want to be with someone who has slept with 100 people. It’s possible to be experienced and not have slept with anyone who gives you the time of day.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 06:47 AM
14

I don’t want a virgin or the town bike.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 06:43 AM
27

There is no woman in the world that could make me cheat on my wife. You could put Adriana Lima in front of me and I’d decline. My wife was there for me when I had nothing and helped me make me who I am today. She also had four of my children. No other woman could compare to that.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 01:42 AM
3

I’m not ranting about them. You brought them up and if you read what I wrote, I said single parents, both moms and dads. They are both more undesirable than someone who is just single. But you want to assume that everyone who doesn’t like single moms (or fat people) must be mentally unstable which is definitely not true. Some people just aren’t afraid to tell you how they feel and have no tact.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/25 11:28 PM
3

That’s why I said “sure” because I agreed. Do you need help understanding?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/25 09:34 PM
3

Sure, if you are comparing someone mentally unstable to someone who isn’t. But if you take someone who is mentally fit and then take the same person and make them a single parent, then the one without kids is going to have more prospects and not be bitter. They are less likely to want a single parent too.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/25 09:29 PM
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You were the one talking about a single guy complaining about single moms and saying it comes from bitterness. I’m saying that isn’t true. They have a better chance of finding someone to be in a long term relationship than a single mom would. Why would they be bitter about that? Just because they don’t want a single mom doesn’t change that fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/25 09:18 PM
2

I would hate to have a girlfriend who was a virgin. Not something I am interested in.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/25 07:48 PM
3

There’s a difference between being single and being a single mom/dad. A lot more people would date a single person than would date a single mom/dad with the same physical attractiveness.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/25 07:46 PM
1

Guilty as charged
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 07:29 PM
1

So acting like a normal person is considered blue pill? Those things you listed are just what a no pill man would do. What makes it blue pill?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 03:24 PM
2

It depends on what they are looking for. I’ve known rich men that marry rich women that aren’t beautiful because it makes the most financial sense and better for their future. I’ve known some that marry the hottest woman they can get and they don’t worry about what she brings to the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 06:55 PM
2

Hell no. I'd give her the number of a battered women's shelter.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 01:37 AM
1

So if you are a man and like getting blowjobs but don’t like giving blowjobs, you’re a hypocrite?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 07:19 PM
1

Why? Just because you are one thing, it doesn’t mean you are attracted to that same thing. Race, religion, eye color, hair color, height, weight, sex, gender, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 07:03 PM
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You’d think that but then you read about the absolute losers some of these people choose to stay with. Just look at the aitah or aio subs.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 03:34 AM
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If I were ever to get divorced, I would definitely be happy being single. The current dating culture is something that doesn’t interest me in the slightest. It’s just not worth the time and effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 01:25 PM
1

Faithfulness, honest, intelligent, considerate, family oriented, financially stable, responsible, and not promiscuous.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 12:21 AM
1

That’s true in my experience. Very few of the women I dated even asked about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 02:28 PM
2

Or look at their social media and see a lot of pics of that person. That might be something worth asking a question or two over.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 01:14 PM
3

I wouldn’t. A woman being bi doesn’t make her more attractive than someone who isn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 01:12 PM
0

What if we don’t encourage it at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 01:10 PM
2

Attractive people are attractive but that that doesn’t necessarily mean you are attracted to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 01:07 PM
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There’s no phobia. This would be like saying that someone gay who isn’t attracted to the opposite sex is straightphobic.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 01:04 PM
5

My wife would not have been interested in me if I slept around because she doesn’t sleep around.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 12:58 PM
2

If they were just dating, sure. But if you are married or in an exclusive relationship with them then you should tell them.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 05:36 AM
1

She wasn’t making very much at that time. Now she is a nurse and is making great money. Now it would be worth it for her to put them in daycare but they are school age.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 08:41 PM
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From my experience, in those situations the stay at home parent would just be working to pay for daycare. Not worth it. Like my SIL. She had 2 kids so it would have been $550 a week in daycare.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 08:31 PM
1

I didn’t say we would assume that. I said the working parent could pay the stay at home parent for their work, and that money would be used to help pay the bills. If the working parent makes $7000 take home pay a month and they pay them a portion of that for their work, it’s still a total of $7000 available for bills.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 06:23 PM
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Right. And that would be used to help pay the bills. With the way it is right now, he could pay her for the work and then she can use that money to pay the bills but it works out the same, doesn’t it?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 06:08 PM
1

She is though. Who is paying for her living expenses? She would help pay for those things AND daycare if she worked.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 04:41 PM
2

The only expectations I have is that she is fully clothed in something that doesn’t look ridiculous. Other than that, I couldn’t care less.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 10:56 PM
1

I didn't really have those standards, my wife put them on herself. But now we spend 90% of the time getting the kids ready and 10% of the time getting ourselves ready.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 10:17 PM
3

Yep. Everyone should vet their potential partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 07:09 PM
3

How does paying for a date prove anything? They could be in massive debt so that’s not really a good indicator. And if they were making $85k, they should at least be offering to split the bill or take turns paying.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 02:44 AM
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Yes. If we want equality, we should treat them equally. I’m Hispanic and I wouldn’t want to support or associate with people who thought Hispanic people should be treated better than other races/ethnicities.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 07:41 PM
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I think the issue is that a lot of people say they want men and women to be treated equally but in practice they want women to be treated better than men. I could see how that would make people not want to associate themselves with people who think like that. If someone just wanted men and women to have the same rights and privileges and to be treated equally, and followed this in practice, a lot more people would be on their side.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 04:09 PM
1

If I only relied on my dick to please my wife then I’d say you are right. Good thing I don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 03:30 AM
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That’s strange. I think if I was gay I would want my pleasure to be the same as it is now. Why would the expectation be different?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 03:21 AM
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I already know how to please a woman so it would be a cakewalk.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 03:01 AM
2

I’d be a lesbian.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 02:53 AM
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I can easily provide for my wife and our kids. But I love that she wants to be a partner and not a dependent. She makes almost as much money as I do and we enjoy a higher standard of living because of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 06:05 PM
1

The difference is that people used to be shamed for it and now they aren’t as much. So there is still hook up culture but people aren’t embarrassed to say they’ve slept with scores of people.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 09:39 PM
1

I’d question how ironclad that contract is. I read about a case where some lesbians did this and despite having a contract with the guy, they still sued him for child support. Some states have it written into the law that it has to be done by a licensed physician.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 06:05 PM
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So the debate flair means change my view and not really debate? Go ahead and delete my post then please.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 01:42 PM
1

I elaborated in my edit
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 01:26 PM
8

I'm pretty sure we do. Ask a man if the Venn diagram of women they would marry and the women they would have sex with is only filled in the overlapping section.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 02:51 AM
1

I can only speak for myself but there are a lot of women who I don’t find attractive. Probably most. And the type of guys that have all of those things and aren’t already married are going to be few and far between.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 07:52 PM
7

Don’t conflate acceptable with reasonable.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 07:51 PM
1

Just to play devil’s advocate, how many attractive women are there compared to how many men there are that fit all of these standards?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 07:50 PM
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I haven’t had any issue making the woman I have sex with have an orgasm every time after I hit about 22 years old. Sounds like a skill issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 10:58 AM
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Nah. I do a lot of things that aren’t done for sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 03:38 PM
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Because the asked if I would. There’s no guarantee that I will stay married forever.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 07:50 PM
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I’m glad I live in a state where it is very hard for a woman to get alimony.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 10:15 PM
5

I wouldn’t have a high body count. I could have slept with a lot of women, but I didn’t. I preferred to be in serious relationships with the women I slept with.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 01:19 AM
1

I still wouldn’t have married someone with a high body count.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 01:12 AM
2

If you are comparing it to the US, it’s a good thing to consider. I think a lot of people here stay married because they couldn’t survive alone. If you gave them the safety nets other countries have, they might find it easier to leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 07:51 PM
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Couldn’t it also be due to the safety nets that they have? They won’t be stuck in a marriage when they know they won’t be destitute if they divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 07:42 PM
2

I remember there was a trend on TikTok where women used a filter to make a male version of themselves and the audio said if they don’t find the male version of themselves attractive then they need to lower their standards. Of course, people aren’t attracted to themselves but it was just funny to see their reactions about how they looked as a man. A lot of them thought “he” was ugly.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 05:36 PM
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Male early 40s married, wife also early 40s. Been together for almost 20 years. My perspective is that dating these days seems not worth it at all. I’d rather be single than try to navigate through this. I would be a single dad and my focus would be on my kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 05:19 PM
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When my wife and I were dating, she chased me as much as I chased her. We both just loved spending time together so we were always making plans. We would even alternate paying for dates. Oh, and I didn’t kneel to propose. We had already just talked about getting married after I graduated from college and that’s what we did.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 04:09 PM
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I’d say it’s more like two parts that go into one machine. Both parts can be very valuable but if one part doesn’t work with that machine, it isn’t very valuable in that scenario. It’s pretty much worthless. In a compatible machine that same part can be invaluable.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 02:17 AM
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No, I’m speculating on what the odds would be that there is a woman with kids who is over 30 that meets all of those criteria. Do they exist? Of course. But how common are they and are they going to attract someone who has options? Just the fact that they have kids is enough to push a lot of people away.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 01:25 AM
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You are assuming: They were hot after they had kids even before they hit 30. They didn’t let themselves go after they hit 30. That they would drop that weight after putting it on. That they are single. That they don’t have baggage that someone with options would want to deal with.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 12:51 AM
0

True. But that’s the one I thought is the biggest hurdle.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 12:35 AM
3

The issue is how many women over 30 with kids are single and hot enough to attract them?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 12:19 AM
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I don't see how you can draw that conclusion. It took a lot of time and effort to get to the point where we are now. Think about taking ~20 years to reach a point in the relationship and then having to start over with someone new. It would not be worth it. Even if it took 10 years. That would be too long. This isn't even considering the fact that finding a woman that could even hold a candle to my wife that also doesn't have a ton of baggage or flaws would be nearly impossible, especially these …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 03:58 PM
5

No, I love my wife and would not want to be with anyone else. I've been with her almost 20 years and we are happier than ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 03:52 PM
5

I'm at the point where if I were able to become single again, I would just stay single. It would not be worth getting into another relationship. I have no debt and enough money to just have fun with friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 03:46 PM
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She doesn’t have any obligation to wait around for him to have time even if he was truly busy with work. Why is this even a question?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 04:02 PM
1

Maybe they just want someone who they can trust to be faithful and not necessarily the hottest woman they can find. I’ve known a lot of very beautiful women that I wouldn’t date in a million years.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 01:26 PM
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I think the thought process by these guys would be that they would be able to compete against even the top 20% of men if they weren’t automatically eliminated for things like being too short or not making $100k.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 12:54 PM
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They don’t have to be pathetic. These days, I see fewer and fewer of the type of women that I would want to marry and have kids with. The type that are, have a lot of options so there are going to be a lot of men that aren’t able to marry them. So their options are to settle or to seek a woman elsewhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 12:21 PM
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That’s what I’m saying. You cannot attract the kind of woman you want here. So you go somewhere else.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 03:44 AM
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My relationship is pretty much the opposite of everything you described. I’d rather have sex with my wife than masturbate. We’ve been together almost 20 years so we know exactly what we like. My wife and I have a lot of things that we both like to do but also have a lot of things we don’t both like. It’s perfect because I can watch sports and she can watch a chick flick. We provide each other emotional comfort when we need it but we aren’t needy. That would get annoying no matter which person is…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 07:03 PM
1

I don’t know how you reached that conclusion. I’d say from the guy’s point of view, the women overseas are superior to the women in the US because they have different values.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 12:29 PM
4

True. It would be interesting to see the numbers.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 02:50 AM
3

I think it’s more like they don’t want who they can attract and who they want here is unattainable. Of course, it’s possible that they are just attracted to the look of those women too. But most if the guys I see like this are passport bros out of necessity, it seems like.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 02:17 AM
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Why would I need to? It seems like most of the people seeking a woman like that are doing so because they cannot attract the type of woman they want here in the states. But I can and I did.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 02:08 AM
7

I don’t think I would have.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 01:56 AM
2

Yeah I’m just saying that I don’t like to even give the appearance of something inappropriate. Like my neighbor’s daughter needed some help with calculus and she wanted me to go over when her parents weren’t going to be there. I ended up meeting her at the coffee shop because I thought that was more appropriate.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 03:44 PM
2

I have platonic female friends but they are all friends of my wife and I and not just my friends. The rest of the woman I talk to are strictly at work and never outside of work.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 03:36 PM
5

It could also mean that anyone can be the victimizer no matter what the sex of the victim is.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 01:43 PM
2

I think everything I want can be summed into mainly love and respect. Intelligence is up there too.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 11:14 AM
2

This is why I make my kids gather their laundry and then sort them into the color coordinated hampers. My wife will wash and dry the clothes while the rest of us are gone and then we fold and hang/put the clean clothes away when we get home. It makes it easier splitting it up that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 09:08 AM
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Having to deal with the ex and having to deal with always being second to the kids. Also, possibly not having any or much authority over them because “you’re not my dad/ their dad”. Getting attached to the kids and then having no rights if the relationship ends. I have kids and I wouldn’t expect a woman to want to date me if I was a single dad.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 06:19 PM
1

I’m married so I wouldn’t do it anyway but if I were single, I wouldn’t do it because it isn’t worth the risk of being accused of harassment.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 05:56 PM
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No, we have kids. We just waited until we were financially stable before we had them. But in the area we live in, that’s common. Where my wife and I both grew up, people were marrying and having kids as soon as they graduated from high school.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 09:41 PM
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It’s been a long journey. We’ve stuck to our budget and it worked out. Missing out on an expensive vacation for not going out to eat very often was well worth the stress relief that we are going to have when we are debt free.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 09:14 PM
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I’m responding to your point that you don’t know until you marry them and spend a few years with them. You don’t have to marry them right away. I could have easily walked away after a few years because we weren’t married, didn’t have kids, didn’t share any assets or bank accounts. So it’s not like you’re stuck if you decide that they aren’t the best for you. And the best for you is totally for you to decide. Who cares what the “perceived best” to anyone else is? It’s like on the movie Shallow Ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 04:06 PM
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We’ve been together almost 20 years and have a gang of kids. I kinda doubt she will.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 05:54 AM
0

Most of my friends are still married to the same people they married.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 10:41 PM
1

I was with my wife for 8 years before we were married.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 06:46 PM
1

The best for you isn’t just about attractiveness. I could have married one of a bunch of women that you and I would think was attractive. But I would have been miserable.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 05:58 PM
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I swear that people just want to go through life being unhappy. I might not be with my wife forever because she has her own agency but I’m not going to live my life thinking that she has a plan to divorce me one day. I’m just going to enjoy our life together.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 04:01 PM
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I disagree. The person who is the best for me is probably not the best for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 12:16 PM
2

I would think that it would be harder with an audience.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 11:47 PM
0

Love on the Spectrum disagrees.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 09:56 PM
4

It’s not really a competition. She wanted me to be more successful than I was because she reaps the benefits too. And the same is true for me. My wife’s salary has doubled and I was happy for her. That just means we can pay our house off faster. Only 7 more payments to go.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 05:48 PM
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Then they aren’t the best person.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 05:46 PM
13

Why do you associate best with criteria that are shallow?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 05:21 PM
7

Reach for the stars! My wife was definitely not my equal when we met. I was well behind her in education and salary. While I have surpassed her in those two things, she’s still got me on looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 04:12 PM
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Maybe some but the ones I have dated didn’t just sleep with every attractive guy they saw. At the same time, I didn’t sleep around with every hot woman I could find either.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 03:42 PM
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Everyone should try to get the best person they can get.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 02:18 PM
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I used to have a boss that was gay. And he would say that if he wanted to get a girlfriend that he could but he thought women were unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 02:11 AM
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Context is important though. They wouldn’t just say that a random woman is gross and unattractive. But if I asked them about being in a relationship with one, they would say that, in my experience at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 01:18 AM
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That’s because they are gay. Why would anyone expect a gay guy to find a woman attractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 12:43 AM
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I’m 0%
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 11:40 PM
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Just look at any statistical app to see how many people are actually up to your standards. I think mine were pretty low for a potential girlfriend but the percentages are tiny. https://keeper.ai/calc
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 07:38 PM
0

Some men like being henpecked I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 05:51 PM
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Why not? That means she is probably shy which to me is more attractive than someone who is a loudmouth. Yes, I know that there are a lot of people who are neither but chances are that she’s shy.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 05:37 PM
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I’m a man but I’d rather be single than date down. I don’t think anyone should date down for someone they want to be serious with.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 09:30 AM
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Except they aren’t saying they are disgusted by them. They are saying they are disgusted by the person they are with doing that. I would be disgusted if I saw my wife with another woman (or another man).
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 09:31 AM
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Why? You are the one that made the comment. That’s why I’m asking you.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 09:09 AM
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No. They’re disgusted by their man doing that. If a gay guy would be disgusted that his boyfriend slept with women, is he straightphobic?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 09:06 AM
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I’d feel the same way if my wife wanted to sleep with women. That’s not attractive to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 09:01 AM
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That doesn’t address your comment. It’s not homophobic to not want to be with someone who does something unattractive to you. That’s not what homophobic means. In my situation, I could be accepting of and be friends with lesbians and gay men. That doesn’t mean that I would ever be in a relationship with them as that is unattractive to me as a straight man. Is it just because they use the word “gross”?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 08:59 AM
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Why would that be homophobia? For example, I’m not attracted to lesbians at all. Does that make me homophobic or just a straight man?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 08:48 AM
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I don’t know about the cheating part but having sex with more people means more exposure to possible STDs. That’s just a numbers game no matter how “safe” or “careful” you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 08:44 AM
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Is she an adult or not? We can’t say that someone 18+ has all the rights and responsibilities of an adult and then say that they weren’t able to consent because their brains aren’t fully developed.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 06:18 PM
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I wanted a partner and not a dependent so that is the type of woman I married. I’m now at a point in my career where I can afford for her to stop working all together but she likes to make her own money. While it would be nice to have her quit working, we both enjoy the standard of living we can have when we both work.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 02:41 PM
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I love that my wife is successful. I wanted a partner, not a dependent.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 03:31 AM
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“Whatever size you are is huge and I can barely handle it” will probably satisfy the people asking this question over and over.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 11:48 AM
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I wouldn’t date a single mom because the other parent would always be in the picture and the child would always come before our relationship. But I’m no hypocrite. If I were single, I would be a single dad and I wouldn’t expect anyone to want to date me either. My kids would always be before the relationship and that isn’t fair to them. So I just wouldn’t date.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 04:02 PM
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When I see a really beautiful woman with an average looking guy, I often wonder if it’s because of their ability to provide or their charisma. I don’t take it personally because I definitely outkicked my coverage with my wife as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 12:30 PM
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She doesn’t even have to be traditional. My wife is conservative but she doesn’t want to be a trad wife. She had a career when we met and she doesn’t want to stop working now that our kids are all in school.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 03:24 PM
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I follow the Billy Graham rule. If I was alone with a woman and she wanted to accuse me of something, what defense would I have? It would just be my word against hers. It doesn’t even have to be anything extreme. It could be something like “He made me feel uncomfortable” or “He was flirting with me”. For me, it’s best not to even put myself in those positions.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 04:55 AM
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That I’m not a woman. If I were magically transformed into a woman, I would be a lesbian.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 10:40 PM
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I wouldn’t want to be friends with someone I had feelings for and I think that OP doesn’t either.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 09:05 PM
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My wife and I went out after a few phone calls. We didn’t really talk about all of the things we thought were fun to do. We just made plans to do things. Her company is what made it fun for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 07:30 PM
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I guess my wife and I are both boring then. Works for us :)
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 05:22 PM
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I guess I just got lucky because my wife loves to go on these types of “boring” dates. Even when we were just dating, she liked those kinds of things.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 05:22 PM
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Wouldn’t you also invite them out for coffee the same way? They could always make an alternative suggestion if they don’t want coffee. It just seems like this is more difficult than it has to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 04:55 PM
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First dates usually happen before you know what each other finds “fun” don’t they?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 04:33 PM
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If you are in great shape then know that there are women out there who are your age who are also in great shape. I knew quite a few of them that were in their late 40s who were single.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 01:40 AM
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The few gay friends I had talked about it more than anyone I know.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 10:10 PM
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I think my definition would be what most people think of when they think of what caring a respect is: not talking down to you, compromising, understanding, appreciation, and valuing your thoughts, feelings, and boundaries. What do you think?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 05:41 PM
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That seems pretty simple. I don’t even have to put forth much effort to do these things for my wife. It’s easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 04:08 PM
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I’m pretty simple. My wife just has to love and respect me. That encompasses being faithful, honest, caring, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 03:20 PM
2

I just follow the Billy Graham rule.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 05:44 AM
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I married my wife because she was with me when I had nothing and gave me the moral support I needed to finish my degree. If she was looking for someone to take advantage of, she would have picked someone else. We split all of the bills 50/50 so if she wanted to leave me, she would just get back half of the things she paid half for. It would be virtually impossible for her to get alimony in our state and if she ended up with custody of the kids, I wouldn’t care about paying the child support to t…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 04:50 AM
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My wife has aged but so have I. And she’s aged more gracefully than I have despite having our children. That makes her way more attractive to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 11:28 PM
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I’d say not equal but fair. My wife and I took turns paying when we were dating. That’s more equal than “whoever invites pays”. Now that we are married, we just put it on the credit card and split the balance at the end of the month.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 02:17 PM
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I say they should have sex with whoever they want who is of age and consensually. Simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 03:15 AM
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I don’t think it’s too far at all if they require it for men. There are plenty of non-combat roles in the military that can be filled by women. My ex was basically a hotel manager on base. And I don’t see doing your fair share of chores as a gender equality thing, it’s just the right thing to do. When I had a male roommate, we split the chores. Now that I am married to a woman, we split the chores. But yes, I do think it would help in dating. If people are like me, they want a partner and not a …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 03:19 PM
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If they were just looking for someone to use, sure. There’s a lot in between a feminist and a pick me.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 02:25 AM
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Did someone guarantee it would make men like them?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 02:06 AM
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When the subreddit used to come up a lot of the posts would be complaining about “pick mes” which just seemed to be women that didn’t subscribe to everything they were selling. It was even women who were acting desperate or thirsty, which I could understand being called that. It was just women being nice to men and doing things for them that anyone who was interested in someone else would do.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 01:00 AM
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Then flaw in your logic is thinking that a woman needs to know if a man could provide before they have sex with them. Maybe they just want to get laid? And what ways would you know if someone could provide? I know people with nice cars, clothes, jewelry, etc. and they couldn’t provide for anyone. They are in massive debt just to give the appearance of being rich. One unexpected bill and it call comes crumbling down. How well are these people being vetted before they go on a date with them? I’d s…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 04:51 PM
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Maybe you should read what I said. I said SOME rich people are notoriously frugal so an expensive dinner is not proof of someone’s ability to provide. Conversely, just because someone splurges and takes someone out to an expensive dinner, doesn’t mean they are able to provide either. It’s not a very good metric to use.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 02:41 PM
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That doesn’t mean they don’t exist. Why do you assume they all behave the same way? I don’t. I think Elon Musk was living in a tiny home and wouldn’t replace his mattress that had a hole in it. Does that sound like something one of the wealthiest people on Earth would do?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 02:01 PM
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You can still pay without having to take them somewhere expensive. If I were single and dating, I would never take a woman out to an expensive restaurant on the first date. If she didn’t want to go out with me because of that, then she isn’t the one.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 01:44 PM
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They are both in their 60s so she doesn’t look like she did back then but she still looks good. It doesn’t hurt that she has a heart of gold and is a doctor. But maybe focusing on the hottest girl you can find isn’t the best tactic to take. That sounds like a bad criteria to use. I also wouldn’t classify her as a “low value woman”. I’d say a millionaire doctor is pretty high value.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 11:35 PM
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He also didn’t have to flex his money for her either. I don’t think he even had any when they met. Neither of them did. He’s the definition of an average Joe. But that didn’t stop him from creating and running a successful company and helping his wife become a doctor. I don’t know about you but when I was dating I wanted a partner, not a dependent. So someone who wanted me because I could afford to buy them expensive things didn’t catch my interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 10:13 PM
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Do you think every rich person stays in the best hotels and fly first class? I promise you that isn't true. The owner of my company is very wealthy and he flies SWA and drives an 2010 SUV. Also, if they do splurge on things, it's after they've already maxed out their retirements and other investments. They'll have rental properties and own land. Things that appreciate in value. They want to build generational wealth and you don't do that by wasting money. If you see someone with designer labels …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 09:56 PM
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Because those things you listed are investments. They’ll pay off in the long term. A $500 t-shirt won’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 09:10 PM
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Transparency is great. I would like that she is honest. No, because there is no way of knowing if that is true or if she just wants a free meal at a nice restaurant. Also, some wealthy people are notoriously frugal so an expensive dinner doesn't prove a person's ability to provide. Probably not. I paid for the first date when I met my wife. She paid for the next one and we alternated until we were dating long enough to live together and have a joint credit card. Then we just split the bill at th…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 08:50 PM
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Not sure if that’s true for everyone. I had to “chase” my wife because she is very shy. If I didn’t make the effort to get her number and ask her out, she wouldn’t have made the first move. She is even like this with non-romantic relationships. She isn’t the type of person to chat up someone she doesn’t know. She will wait for them to talk to her first.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 04:59 PM
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She doing it to herself for money. I don’t think she is the victim of herself.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 04:31 AM
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It would hold more weight if she didn’t decide to continue with her plan to have sex with 1000 men in 24 hours.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 07:24 PM
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Maybe they just want to get laid by someone out of their league. Who wouldn’t?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 05:09 PM
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Because I want a partner not a dependent.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 01:32 PM
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No.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 05:01 AM
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I know people who are in their late 50s who still haven’t matured. There isn’t a magic number.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 05:17 PM
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They’ll just double down like they are currently doing to minorities who don’t fall in line.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 04:37 PM
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Date? No. Marry? Yes. If I was single of course.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 05:48 PM
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The political opponents passed a law that allowed her to go after Trump even though the statute of limitations had expired. Add to this that she couldn’t remember when it happened and the dress she provided as evidence had no DNA on it (other than her own presumably).
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 07:21 PM
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Luckily, my wife doesn’t want to rely on anyone else to provide for her. We’ve always split the household bills 50/50 even when she made a lot more than I did when I was just a poor college student. I make enough now for her to quit working all together and we would still be comfortable but she likes the money she makes and the standard of living we have with both or our paychecks.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 05:39 PM
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Neither but I would choose the virgin if I had to.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 02:46 AM
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I’m just glad that I didn’t have to rely on online dating to meet women and now that I am married I don’t even have to worry about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 12:14 PM
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I don’t think I could be friends with someone I’m attracted to. If there is no attraction there, I could be friends with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 03:20 AM
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Modern woman. I wouldn’t want to rely on anyone. I teach my kids the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 09:31 PM
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I mean, a lot of people do think that’s fine. Their gfs and wives are on OFs.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 12:46 AM
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I don’t think it’s any more complicated than some people want their significant other to not be as attractive to others when they are together. Some people don’t care because they have the confidence and self esteem to not worry about it. Some people don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 08:23 PM
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It’s also from the media that gives them the platform and doesn’t push back on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 05:44 PM
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Pretty much. I didn’t claim it was universal. Most people are same enough to recognize a crap movie is crap.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 05:39 PM
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It’s not limited to just that movie though. You can look at most movies that flopped with a female lead and that’s the first excuse in the book.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 05:39 PM
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What about all the backlash from people saying the all-female Ghostbusters was a flop. The first thing people accuse you of is being sexist or misogynist. It can’t be that the movie just wasn’t good.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 04:52 PM
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For sex? Standards are probably pretty low. For marriage? Probably minimum standards but not low.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 01:12 PM
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Why not just say “backup plan” then? That is more clear.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 02:20 AM
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I’ve never been with a prostitute but I’ll take your word for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 10:22 PM
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My wife always saw me in my work clothes and she didn’t care. I still wear comfortable clothes all the time. She’s usually more dressed down than I am.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 08:20 PM
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What about: don’t have the time or the desire to put in the effort it takes for a relationship and just want to get laid?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 07:18 PM
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Physically, she could be attractive but I wouldn’t want to be with a virgin. I’m too old for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 07:13 PM
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I would help either sex. Depends if I am the only one in the elevator or not. I’d call the non-emergency line for police to help them. I would help either sex. I would help either sex. I would help either sex. I would offer to call someone to give them a ride. If it was an emergency I would call 911.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 05:03 PM
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Being virtuous
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 01:54 PM
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They are killing them when they abort them too. That’s not the better choice. I don’t support total abortion bans but I don’t think they should be done for any reason. Even Bill Clinton said they should be safe, legal, and RARE.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 05:36 AM
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I disagree. If the choices are killing it before it is born, leaving it out in the cold, or taking it to a fire station, I choose taking it to a fire station.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 05:31 AM
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What does that have to do with the better choice being utilizing this law?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 05:26 AM
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What’s better is using the Baby Moses laws that exist in every state to leave the baby at a hospital or fire station, without facing any legal repercussions.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 04:10 AM
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How about a woman who is feminine but not submissive?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 05:57 PM
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My wife knew that I was making a crap wage when we met. Now we both make six figures and I never have to worry about her wanting me for my money.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 03:35 AM
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I’m married but if I were ever single again, I’m still too old to be chasing after women.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 06:58 AM
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If it makes you feel better, my wife and I were in our late 20s when we met. Now we are in our 40s and she is still attractive to me. Even after having our children.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 06:54 AM
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Still the consequence of their actions. The only time it isn’t is when they are raped. I don’t think any sane person would put the blame on them for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 06:45 PM
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No. Both statements are meant to say “there are consequences for your actions”. Except some people think that it only should apply to men and not women.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 06:40 PM
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Sure, Jan.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 06:38 PM
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There really isn’t. Consequences for your actions is the theme.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 06:31 PM
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Partially. Here’s a scenario. Someone is unhealthy and they get pregnant. Inflation is out of control and they don’t have any disposable income. Maybe they skip prenatal appointments because they don’t have insurance or don’t have the money for the copay. Now something that could have been dealt with has gone undiagnosed and led to a more at risk pregnancy.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 03:59 PM
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I think a lot of that is the overall health of the population. As a country, we are not healthy and our healthcare isn’t as easily accessible for everyone, men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 03:49 PM
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And the argument against paper abortions is always something similar to “he should have thought about that before he had sex”.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 03:39 PM
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Why would we hate them? We might think they are not attractive or marriage material but no hate. I think more men hate the women who won’t reciprocate their advances regardless of how promiscuous they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 08:37 PM
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16
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 09:18 PM
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That’s a good example too. The people that had kids in high school greatly hindered themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 08:09 PM
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For me, it would be easy. I would bust out my yearbook and show him all of the “cool” kids (boys and girls) when I was in school. Then I will show him how they are now. Most of them aren’t very successful and do not seem to live happy lives. Some of them were “cool” but didn’t act like the guys you described. They seem to be doing well. It’s not a guarantee but it will at least let him know that the “cool” kids aren’t always going to live on easy street.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 08:06 PM
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I think they mean “allowed with the same amount of (or lack of) pushback that a woman would get for asking for a divorce when her husband asks for a paternity test.”
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 07:05 PM
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Just the ones that I know because either I am friends with their husband or they are friends with my wife. I don’t know if I would consider my female coworkers friends because outside of work, I don’t have any contact with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 03:15 AM
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I don’t see the appeal and don’t have any desire to do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 05:01 PM
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Sure, but until that happens the story is just going to be from the mother’s point of view.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 05:38 PM
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Do uncles have to be allowed access to the nephew? If the parents don’t want another relative around, they don’t have any rights.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 05:36 PM
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The issue is that if you cut ties with the mother you might not have any rights to the child as you are not their biological parent and didn’t officially adopt them. Depends on if you are automatically recognized as the father just because your name is on the birth certificate.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 05:10 PM
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My wife and I have split all the joint bills 50/50 since our first date. But I found a partner and not someone who wanted to be a dependent.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 09:21 AM
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I’ve seen some videos of the magic women do with makeup so I’m torn on this. Some look better with a ton of makeup but it just hides what they really look like. If I were to judge how beautiful someone is, it would definitely be with little to no makeup.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 04:55 PM
1

I would leave it up to chance but my wife would say a boy. She thinks we have it easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 01:45 AM
5

How about just good fathers instead? That would greatly reduce the need for stepfathers.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 01:02 AM
1

I can only speak to my own experience. I have dated a lot of girls that seemed perfect at first and even for a year or two. But then when the unexpected happens, they show their true colors.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 04:09 PM
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I must have a radar for them because every woman I met before my wife was able to pretend for a long time before it came out. If I was less responsible, I could have had kids with any of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 04:05 PM
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I disagree. You assume that people don’t hide their true colors. A lot of times this bad behavior comes out when they the other person thinks they have them locked up. A child is one of those milestones.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 01:52 PM
1

But there are other reasons to be a single mom. What if their husband died or their husband was abusive? A relative of mine divorced her husband because he would spend all of his money on drugs instead of paying the bills. I wouldn’t fault any of the women in these situations for being single moms.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 01:36 PM
1

Maybe immature women. My wife has had a lot of friends who have divorced (and so have I) and we often wonder why they couldn’t work it out. I don’t think she’s one to jump on the train because others are doing it too. That’s just childish.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 10:20 PM
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I think people get criticized for having high standards when they cannot find someone who they actually want to be with that meets their standards. It is also true that people get criticized for having low standards and sleeping with whoever they can get. These two things are not contradictory because for a lot of people, there are people who you would sleep with that you would not marry and there are people who you would marry that you would never have a chance with.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 05:51 PM
1

My wife and I split all of our household bills 50/50 but we make around the same amount of money. We also split the household chores as close to 50/50 as possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 10:12 PM
1

I make enough for my wife to become a SAHM but she is used to this standard of living and would hate to cut our monthly income almost in half.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 07:19 PM
30

Vera’s 6-year-old daughter knew about the relationship, even called the 13-year-old “dad,” Nichols said. The fuck?
/r/PussyPassDenied07/07/24 09:05 PM
4

If you ask my wife, she will tell you that she saw the potential in me when we met. I was making a very mediocre wage and she was already well into her career. After I finished college and I started making a lot more money and even surpassed her. I think she’d say that she made a great investment and I would never think about leaving her for anyone else because she was with me when I had nothing. She was the one who pushed me and motivated me. She allowed me to spend hours and hours studying so …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 06:58 PM
0

I wouldn’t want to change someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 05:25 AM
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The same as it is with a son. Teach them to make wise decisions, to be self sufficient, that they shouldn’t have to rely on anyone else but it’s okay for them to, and to be loyal, honest, and faithful. That no matter what they do they can always be honest with you, no matter where they are, they can always count on you for help, and that they always have a place to come home to.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 04:08 AM
16

My wife and I both love to watch movies and tv. When it’s something we both would like, we watch it together. When it isn’t, we watch it on our own.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 11:51 AM
2

If I or my wife didn’t work, we could get the housework done during an 8 hour day, especially working those 8 hours 5 days a week.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 06:41 PM
1

No because I don’t care much about a body that is going to change. I care more about intelligence, reliability, and loyalty.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 05:50 PM
3

This was before online dating was as big as it is now.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 01:18 AM
15

That’s why I’m glad I met my wife the old fashioned way…..in person.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 01:27 PM
2

Loyalty, honesty, integrity, mostly independent, intelligence, and a good sense of humor.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 08:38 PM
2

She wanted the free haircuts and styling.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 02:46 PM
11

I always thought it was “If you can’t attract someone now, work on yourself and then you’ll become more attractive” but I could be wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 03:40 PM
1

The times I remember were a lesbian wanting to experiment, my friend’s girlfriend, my friend’s sister, and a girl who was drunk.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 05:24 AM
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If there weren’t no-fault divorce, is there at-fault divorce? I would love to have the actual reason for divorce be public information.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 01:56 PM
9

I don’t support the draft but if we are going to have one, women should be included. 80% of the military serves in a non-combat role so there are plenty of places where people can serve that doesn’t involve combat.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 09:50 AM
2

My wife made more money than I did when we met and until I finished college and gained some experience at my job. Now she makes double what she did back then and I make a little more than she does. But we still split all household expenses 50/50. It’s great.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 09:47 AM
5

They’re including assets acquired while married which are considered community property in some states.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 09:15 AM
19

Sign a prenuptial agreement that has a cheating clause and what the penalties are.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 09:12 AM
3

Expect the worst, hope for the best. When I was young and looking for someone, the right person never came around. When I was just minding my own business and not looking, my wife came into my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 04:28 PM
1

She didn’t have sex with him once. She was having sex with him all the time. That’s why they ended up getting caught. Unless she and the people at the retirement home were lying.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 04:06 PM
1

Obviously, there are other factors like if he was there or if she was there or if neither of them were sick. But if they had the opportunity, I’m sure that she could have got laid whenever.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 04:02 PM
3

I comprehend that but I’d say the vast majority of single parent households are from unwed parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 03:25 PM
2

Look up the rates of single parent homes and get back to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 03:20 PM
3

People are popping out kids all over the place when not married. That isn’t surprising. Now show me how that is a good thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 03:03 PM
8

It’s also illegal in France to get a paternity test so I’m not sure I would look to them for anything marriage and kid related.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 02:57 PM
3

It really does take a lot of stress out of my life because we are a team. But then having kids adds a different kind of stress. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 03:49 AM
4

My wife’s grandma was 80 and she got the maintenance man fired because they were caught doing it in the retirement home.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 11:31 PM
3

To some men. To others, they would sleep with you in a heartbeat. If Mama June can get laid, you can too!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 08:49 PM
8

God forbid someone just wants to use me for sex!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 08:43 PM
7

I’m married and I still do those things. The motivation is the same too, except it’s not for random women, but for my wife. When I doubled my salary, it made my wife’s life a lot less stressful because we could invest and make extra payments on the house. We will be debt free in 18 months.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 07:54 PM
1

Of course. They should both be responsible for their actions. But unless it was forced upon her, both people know that the guy isn’t using a condom and consent. So why does one person get to absolve themselves of the burden but not the other when they both share responsibility for their actions?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 07:00 PM
1

True. But is that true about anything? You may not consider someone stealing from Walmart a crime but someone else might, right? And I wasn’t making an argument either way. I’m just saying that saying a paper abortion hurts the child while an actual abortion doesn’t hurt the child is conflicting to me (but I understand that it doesn’t to you). My position on this would be that the father has just as long to decide on a paper abortion as the mother has to decide on an abortion. If it is 6 weeks, …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 05:44 PM
1

Abortion also harms the child.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 04:45 PM
1

Are men the only ones allowed to buy condoms? No. No one has to give consent to have sex without a condom. You still haven’t emplaned why the burden is only on the man. Also, diaphragms exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 03:47 PM
1

Right. Which is why they are bringing up the possibility of paper abortions.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 03:39 PM
1

“I would say it applies more to us” Why? It’s not like the woman doesn’t know if you put a condom on or not. And if you stealth them, you are doing it without their consent.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 03:31 PM
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Doesn’t the woman have to give consent to have sex without a condom?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 03:27 PM
1

Are men the only ones that need to “opt out of parenthood before conception”? Why isn’t this the burden of both participants?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 02:57 PM
1

Everyone should be picky. The level of pickiness is going to affect your dating prospects but you shouldn’t settle. There’s a happy medium.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 02:24 PM
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That’s based off of money and celebrity. A 5/10 intramural soccer player isn’t going to have the same success.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 08:40 AM
1

To me, the brain of a 18-24 year old is an instant turnoff no matter how good looking they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 05:47 AM
2

I support single moms.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 04:40 AM
2

Doesn’t a man bring himself too? I’m sure there are standards that he must meet right?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 10:22 PM
2

They don’t shame them to their face. They’ll sleep with women that they wouldn’t marry.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 10:55 PM
2

I think if I were ever to be single again, I could find an awesome woman in her 30s or 40s. Reading some of the stories of the things women put up with from their boyfriends or husbands seems like I would have a good chance.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 05:40 PM
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I wouldn’t even marry a girl in her early 20s when I was in my early 20s.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 05:32 PM
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Attraction is a thing. A lot of men would have sex with someone they are attracted to right away even though they aren’t wife material.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 06:32 PM
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Then they get too old for bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 03:34 PM
7

I love that my wife makes a lot of money. For a long time, she made a lot more than me. Now I make more than she does but she still makes six figures. I wouldn’t want it any other way.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 03:44 PM
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I was a poor AF college student when my wife and I met. We would take turns paying for meals and then later when we moved in together we split all household expenses 50/50. We are still together 20 years later.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 08:44 PM
1

You assume people are using birth control correctly. The stats on the effectiveness are based on correct usage of birth control.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 06:30 PM
1

Plan B and abortions shouldn’t be used as birth control. And you assume that the people are going to be in favor of having an abortion.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 05:56 PM
1

Did I say that? I think that they should be choosier about who they have sex with (and the same goes for men too, for that matter) because they risk having a baby with someone every time they have sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 05:53 PM
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Not choosy enough, imho.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 05:50 PM
2

Maybe women would be choosier about who they have sex with then. The risk of the guy just leaving her and not having to pay child support would be given more consideration.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 05:47 PM
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No.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 09:13 PM
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It depends. Are both people working? Are both people working the same amount of hours?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 01:06 AM
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No idea. She just spent time working and raising her kids. Then they grew up and she takes trips all over the US visiting with our other relatives.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 12:23 PM
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I have a relative like this but her mother is the exact opposite. She has been single for probably 35 years now.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 12:21 PM
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My wife made a lot more than I did when we met. It wasn’t until I graduated from college that we made around the same. Now I make more than she does so I guess she made a wise investment.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 04:10 PM
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I’m encouraging all of my children to get their education and their career first before even thinking about marriage or kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 09:44 PM
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I’m not sure there are that many people who can.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 08:01 PM
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I think the truly fair option would be to allow the father to opt out as long as the mother has to decide to have an abortion. For example, if they have 12 weeks to decide on having an abortion, the father should have that amount of time to decide to have a paper abortion. But the reason that people will say that it still should be unfair is because then that puts the financial responsibility on the rest of us if the mother cannot support the child on her own. Now the taxpayers are paying for th…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 07:52 PM
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I prefer a conservative leaning woman. She doesn’t have to be a trad wife (my wife isn’t) but she should have traditional values.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 01:34 PM
3

My wife and I split all community bills 50/50 and still do almost 20 years later.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 11:00 PM
7

And if you were going to get a gold digger why wouldn’t you want the younger one?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 08:09 PM
1

I would say that most of them were created to make money.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 10:22 PM
8

It’s okay to divorce for any reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 10:16 PM
2

Sounds like we agree. I would date a 25 year old but I would never be in a long term relationship with one. That doesn’t conflict with the fact that dating leads to LTR.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 05:44 PM
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There are many more people I would date than be in a long term relationship though.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 05:37 PM
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Are we talking about dating or a long term relationship? Those can be two different groups of people you are looking for.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 05:21 PM
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I think it is way easier for women. If you are a 5 as a woman, you could easily get a 7. If you are a 5 as a man, it’s going to be really hard to get a 7. I would have never been able to get with my wife if I didn’t raise myself up to where I am. It would have been impossible.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 01:12 AM
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I don’t think that is the point of this post. They are saying that it is easier for a woman to find someone. Not that women should be with someone out of pity. If they complain about not finding someone, maybe their standards are too high?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 04:00 PM
1

I saw that post too. Gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 03:58 PM
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You are probably going to have to date down. If you are a 5, you probably need to after below 5s. Going after 8s is not going to go well if you don’t want to be in a serious relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 09:51 PM
2

Even if I was, I would still want her to do something so she can occupy her time. My wife plans on managing our investments when she quits working full time.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 04:06 AM
2

I guess I found the unicorn. My wife made a lot more than I did when we met. I was still in college and she already had her degree and a career.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 03:30 AM
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Why did the first trial end in a hung jury and what new evidence came up at the second trial that wasn’t at the first trial? What evidence did they have besides testimony? That’s why I said there needs to be more than just the words of others to convict someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 05:36 PM
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When I say the courts should use the standard of “beyond a reasonable doubt” because they often don’t and you say “he was found guilty by the courts” it doesn’t strengthen your argument. I think we can agree that there are plenty of court cases where the person was found guilty and later exonerated, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 05:26 PM
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The GFE.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 04:13 PM
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The standard for guilt (for all cases, not just this one) should be a lot higher than people saying that you did something. What does "beyond a reasonable doubt" mean to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 04:12 PM
9

I am. Who wants a dependent as a partner? Not me.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 04:10 PM
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I think the wall for men is the financial security they can provide, for long term relationships. So it’s not time-based but it exists.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/24 04:35 PM
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I just remember that video of the woman who was complaining that she liked liberal men but a lot of the things she was looking for were conservative values.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/24 01:45 PM
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Why be jealous unless they are taking a girl you are interested in? If my neighbor was getting with all kinds of girls, I would probably be in awe but not jealous.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/24 01:26 AM
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I’m saying who knows if she is lying or telling the truth? Either way it doesn’t matter to me because it’s not like I will be able to do anything about it. I don’t worry about such things.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 07:49 PM
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I’ve never done it. But I don’t do social media very much so I never see girls I know or that my wife knows.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 06:20 PM
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She says she would be single but who knows? She’s a very beautiful woman so she could attract a lot of attention. But having 3 young kids is going to probably put a damper on both of our dating lives if we wanted to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 01:32 PM
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If I were to ever be single again, I would never get in another serious relationship. For one, my kids are still very young so all of my attention will be on raising them and not getting into another serious relationship. Once they are old enough not to need so much attention, I will be way too old to worry about dating. It just wouldn’t be worth the time or effort for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/24 08:29 PM
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They really couldn’t though. We have been together almost 20 years. Starting over at year 1 with someone else isn’t something I would want to do. Plus, they aren’t going to help me get through college or have my children. That’s automatically going to put them behind my wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/24 02:25 PM
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Choose the right person and it is. I just told my wife today that any negative thing she thinks about herself is far outweighed by the fact that she made me into the man I am today and that she had my children. No woman I would ever meet could compare.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/24 04:21 AM
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I guess I found a unicorn then. 🦄 She has traditional values but still likes to earn her own money and split the bills.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 08:50 PM
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I think if they settle for it, they will be resentful.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 01:33 PM
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Not really. You could not really care but that doesn’t mean that other people aren’t. That doesn’t mean that people aren’t going to hold it against them.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 11:31 PM
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But the point still stands. Just because you are against someone you care about doing something doesn’t mean that you are against doing that thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 11:25 PM
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I like watching MMA but I would never want a family member or even myself to be an MMA fighter.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 11:20 PM
1

But you said 20% of the surveyed people say that they think it is ok. That is independent of the video right?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 07:34 PM
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Even 20% is crazy high to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 07:29 PM
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If it is domestic violence, that’s a lot easier to crack down on than medical complications. Why not work to curtail that?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 07:17 PM
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So if we were to crack down on that, would people say that we are targeting a certain race of people disproportionately?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 07:11 PM
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We would need to know why this is. It’s not as obvious as the suicide statistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 07:07 PM
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I saw a video where they were asking Japanese women if it is okay for their husband to cheat/visit prostitutes and the responses were mostly, “I don’t care as long as he doesn’t have feelings for her”.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 07:06 PM
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I honestly think that a woman would value a man they think has options to cheat because they are attractive, desirable, charismatic, etc. but never would because they are faithful. Am I wrong?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 06:24 PM
2

They just don’t simp as hard. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 05:26 PM
2

I can only speak for myself but I will never be that desperate.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 10:34 PM
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I wouldn't cheat, I would just get a divorce. Why would I want to be sneaking around when I could just end it and do what I want? I tell me wife the same thing. I tell her that she doesn't have to cheat. She can just divorce me if she doesn't want to be faithful to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 10:27 PM
1

omw.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 06:13 PM
1

Challenge accepted.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 05:01 PM
2

Tell me more about these skins.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 04:51 PM
3

Good enough to make lots of money? Then sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 04:13 PM
2

Then no. I wanted a partner not a dependent.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 03:51 PM
3

It depends. Is she broke because she is in school or is she broke because she doesn’t work or doesn’t have the skills to have a decent paying job?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 03:48 PM
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Hold out for a better offer.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 04:38 AM
1

I saw an episode of Sliders kind of like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 09:43 PM
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When I met my wife I was a poor college student and she had her degree. She was well into her career and made pretty good money. But she didn’t care about me being broke as long as I could split the bills with her 50/50. We did that back then and still do that to this day.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/24 05:15 AM
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I would wonder why. If she is ashamed of it, why did she do it? If she isn’t ashamed of it, why did she stop? There’s no right or wrong answer but I would wonder about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/24 05:42 AM
1

I like to think I’m a pragmatist.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 09:00 PM
1

In practice? I don’t think so. I’d say that most people cannot afford to be the breadwinner even if they want a trad wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 06:08 PM
1

I’m ahead of where I thought I would be and it’s due to me choosing a wife that has a great career and has the same goals as I do.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 10:42 AM
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I’m conservative but I want equality. We split the household bills and chores 50/50 because we both work and make almost the same amount of money.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 10:23 AM
2

The obvious answer is to get a DNA test.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 09:56 AM
2

I think that's why divorce is pretty common.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 10:02 PM
2

It depends on your definition of gold digger. But I do think there are a lot of people who just marry for money.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 09:54 PM
2

Surley they know if a woman earns less she can take him for a ride or are they that desperate to get laid. A woman earning less isn't necessarily a gold digger. And in my state, it is almost impossible to get alimony unless the person is disabled or taking care of a disabled kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 09:45 PM
3

That would be changing your own standards, not trying to change someone else’s.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 02:30 AM
2

I would say the time it would be appropriate to say something about it is if they were complaining to you about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 10:24 PM
7

Like I said, who cares? If I said I am only going to date a billionaire heiress and wouldn't settle for anything less, I'm hurting myself by having such high standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 10:18 PM
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Who cares if their standards are high? No one should try to change your standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 08:52 PM
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I hope not.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 08:51 PM
3

Would you really want the women that do this? I prefer mine to want to avoid these types of guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 12:18 AM
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I want to say being a woman but then I think if I would ever want to be a woman and that’s a big “Hell no!”.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 05:32 PM
2

Could it be maybe exactly because eventually the girls figure out that the first few dates / weeks of the relationship were all just an act and that the guy is actually completely different? Could it also be that he just likes dating a bunch of women and doesn't want to settle down with one long term? Also, if he finds one person that he stays with for a long time, is that good for business? Maybe people will chalk it up to luck and not that his advice leads to success while trying to get dates?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 03:29 PM
2

Most important to least: 8, 9, 3, 7, 5, 1, 4, 2, 6 Man
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 04:30 AM
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I would never want to be friends with someone I am attracted to. Even more so if I am in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 11:34 PM
3

Username checks out
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 08:58 PM
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I’ve been with my wife for 20 years and I still don’t get bored.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 10:56 PM
2

It’s not much but I donate all of my kids clothes that they’ve outgrown and all of their old toys to a battered women’s shelter.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 05:49 PM
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There is a whole bunch of TikToks where the women say they get the ick from dumb things like a man knowing how to cook or drinking a Frappuccino.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 04:55 PM
2

I’m not the one who said that but to answer your question, people virtue signal all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 07:47 PM
9

The same people who get mad if you say you prefer the old Little Mermaid to the new one.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 06:53 PM
4

Yes. But I also know that she is free to do what she wants. I’m also free not to pursue the relationship further with her.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 06:32 PM
2

I think most people think that taking care of the home is better than grinding at work. If you work, the housework still needs to be done.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 02:43 AM
2

I’m saying the opposite.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 06:34 AM
2

Not worth the risk when you could choose someone younger and minimize those risks. And no, not everyone gets those tests. Especially since they were so expensive and not guaranteed to be covered by insurance.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 06:20 AM
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You are one person. I wouldn’t want to risk it. My wife had a geriatric pregnancy and we had to go to her OB and a specialist so they could make sure our youngest child was healthy. Tons of tests to make sure that there were no abnormalities or preeclampsia. After that, we decided bo more kids because it wasn’t worth the risk.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 06:09 AM
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The risk of birth defects goes up as their age goes up. Over 35 is considered a geriatric pregnancy.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 06:01 AM
3

If you want kids, a woman in her 40s is not it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 03:24 AM
1

I’d say if you cannot tell the person you are dating about it, then you probably find I morally wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 03:57 AM
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I tell my daughters that they should be independent and not have to rely on anyone to take care of them. When choosing someone they should choose a partner and not a dependent. They should have their education, career, and house before even considering having children. Judge people by their actions and not by what they say. That my home is always their home and they never have to be scared or too proud to come back.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 02:54 AM
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We built a life and a family together. Outside of her cheating or treating our children bad, there isn’t much else that would lead me to leave her.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/24 04:37 PM
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OP is asking why having a preference for a partner who isn’t promiscuous is different that having a preference for anything else? And if you do have that preference then why do people say that it shouldn’t matter and that you should shrug it off and forget?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 07:04 PM
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None of that refutes the point that people are allowed to have their preferences and disqualify potential partners for being promiscuous.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 06:38 PM
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I’m in my early 40s and if I were ever to be single again, I would not date. F that.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 11:40 PM
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I have found that minimizing their stress goes a long way. If my wife had to worry about the house being a mess or the kids needing to be tended to (fed, bathed, etc.), that’s all that is going to be on her mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 11:16 PM
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I think some people have always found it immoral. Even in the days when they thought it was moral to sacrifice people to the gods, I think some people probably thought it was immoral. Likewise, I think people have always found it moral. It just depends on who you ask, not the time period.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 08:36 PM
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What I’m saying is just because people have done something for a long time doesn’t make it right. So that’s not a very good argument on why they should continue to kill healthy, unborn children. Personally, I find that morally wrong. Some people don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 08:02 PM
0

That’s literally what OP is asking about. “Should men have a choice over child support”
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 08:00 PM
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My comment has nothing to do with who decides to have an abortion. The argument I am making is that the man should have the same window to decide to have what is called a “paper abortion”, meaning they are absolving themselves of financial responsibility. It has nothing to do with who gets to decide to have an abortion or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 06:50 PM
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Argumentum ad antiquitatem. I’m sure you and I can think of a lot of things that people have been doing for all of human history that we shouldn’t do anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 06:07 PM
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People shouldn’t kill their healthy, unborn children either but here we are.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 05:17 PM
10

Couldn’t agree more with this comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 04:57 PM
1

Only extremists would think that. One of the most beautiful women I have ever seen in real life was a virgin until she was married. And I’ve seen some plain Jane looking girls that were very experienced, if you know what I mean. Looks have nothing to do with how promiscuous someone is.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 04:56 PM
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Maybe read the title of this post.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 04:31 PM
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I know. We are discussing how it SHOULD work.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 02:04 PM
1

The man should have just as long as the woman has to decide whether to have an abortion.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 06:24 AM
2

I think it’s fine as long as you are honest about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 08:54 PM
5

No, it doesn’t feel the same. This would be like saying that all BJs or handies are equal. It’s just not true.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 07:00 PM
1

I could support my wife staying home but then we would be cutting our household income by 45%. We could buy and do a lot of things with that 45%.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 02:22 AM
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🤝
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 09:36 PM
1

I think people see it as a negative when only some things are 50/50. Like if my wife and I split bills 50/50 but she did 80% of the chores, she would have a problem with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 09:20 PM
2

Interesting. My wife and I split all household chores and bills 50/50 as much as possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 08:11 PM
1

Lol. I hope you told him to touch grass.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 08:08 PM
1

I’m American and my wife and I would alternate paying for the dates. Now that we are married, we just split all the household bills 50/50.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 08:02 PM
1

What if someone worked and split these responsibilities with their spouse? My wife would prefer that over having me do all of those things and cutting our expendable income by 55%.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 03:01 AM
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I’m not an advocate but you can usually gain skills the more you do something. You can find out what you like and what partners like and dislike.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 11:43 PM
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If my wife and I ever divorced, I would never get into another relationship. For one, no one could ever replace her. And two, now that I am successful, I wouldn’t ever trust that the person liked me for me and not for what I could give them.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 08:00 PM
4

Might I recommend Smith & Wesson?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 07:04 PM
1

I don’t let it get to me. However, to get back on the original topic, one girl I dated was forced to break up with me because I joined the military. Not because her parents were against me or the military in general, but because her dad was active duty and her mom didn’t want her to have the military spouse life.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 07:01 PM
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People don’t realize that 80% of the military serves in a non-combat role. My ex’s job was to work at billeting on base. She was basically a hotel manager.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 06:53 PM
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That’s why I said “education” and not college. I do agree that a lot of people think college is the only way. But I know guys that hang drywall that make more than I do as an electrical engineer.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 06:43 PM
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As a veteran, I can assure you that I did receive an education while in the military and also learned skills that I could use in the civilian world. Do you think college is the only way to get an education? I don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 06:36 PM
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It would be if we normalized it, but we don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 06:35 PM
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It’s male nature to fight over females and whoever wins gets to breed with all of the females in their group. But we have evolved from that.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 06:07 PM
1

That’s a very good point.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 04:17 PM
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I always thought it was because men have their education completed, career started, a home, and transportation after 30.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 06:44 PM
2

Are the women getting sued in the OP merely for cheating or for committing fraud?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 07:50 PM
1

Interesting. My wife said that she was attracted to me because she could see how smart I was. Even though I was a broke college student, she knew that I was going to be successful. She likes to joke about how she molded me from a lump of clay because she was the one who already had her life together and I was just starting out.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 06:14 PM
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I never put myself in a position to be alone with a woman other than my wife so I don’t really worry about this. My neighbor’s daughter needed help with her calculus and despite my neighbor and her daughter saying that I should go over to their house for tutoring, I met her at a busy coffee shop.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 10:16 PM
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They’d make fun of a guy for liking the same stuff. It’s not because you are a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 12:52 PM
1

Challenge accepted.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 11:32 AM
1

If I’m putting myself in your shoes, it would take a lot fewer than 150 people to find one who was good at it enough for me to want to make them a regular thing instead of moving on to the next one who might suck.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 11:29 AM
1

That’s wild. A different dude about every two days?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 11:16 AM
1

My wife wanted me to get one. She said she didn’t have anything to hide.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 10:16 AM
5

This is exactly what the courts in France ruled.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 10:14 AM
2

Not me. I wanted a partner, not a dependent. That’s why I married a woman with a career. However, she still has some traditional values. It’s a perfect balance.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 09:27 AM
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I would not date a single mom. Too much drama and I’d either be a widower or have an ex-wife which would just add to the drama. No thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 12:43 AM
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One of the arguments for mandatory paternity testing is that it eliminates this problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 02:34 PM
3

Flair checks out.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 03:33 AM
6

Every part of her must have felt like Titties
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 03:16 AM
2

I was with my wife for 8 years before we were married. Still married almost 20 years together.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 12:08 AM
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I wouldn’t approach a coworker about non/work related things, period. If I was single and she approached me, then I would engage.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 06:50 PM
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I have kids so I strive to be an example of who they should be or who their husband should be. I tell them that I would approve of their bf/gf if they are better than my wife and I. If they can’t find someone that lives up to that standard, their standards are too low.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 09:07 AM
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I’m happy that my wife has a well paying job and we split our duties and bills 50/50. It’s great.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 08:53 AM
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They are doing the guy a favor by eliminating themselves from consideration.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/23 01:25 PM
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Why would anyone who is 30 want a 20 year old? Maybe a 25 year old that is out of college and has a real job, but not some 20 year old that they would have very little in common with.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 05:33 PM
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There isn’t a woman who I’m not related to that I wouldn’t go 50/50 with.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 07:41 AM
1

Been with my wife almost 20 years and we still split the bill.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 03:15 PM
9

I’m sure they could probably arrest you on public indecency or something like that but they let the guy go. If the car wasn’t on, they probably would have let her go too.
/r/PussyPassDenied12/05/23 11:30 AM
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It’s definitely hers and mine in my house. She is free to do whatever she wants with her money and I can do whatever I want with mine. Luckily, she is pretty responsible with her money.
/r/PussyPassDenied22/03/23 12:15 PM
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My wife and I keep separate accounts and just split the bills 50/50. I wanted a partner, not a dependent.
/r/PussyPassDenied22/03/23 10:57 AM
2

Or at least win the gold medal.
/r/PussyPassDenied25/10/22 11:56 PM
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So she’s getting out soon?
/r/PussyPassDenied22/08/22 02:00 AM
4

Who is being denied their job? And why shouldn’t everyone claim all of their income on their taxes?
/r/PussyPassDenied04/06/22 07:04 PM
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Emotional Damage
/r/PussyPassDenied14/04/22 01:40 AM
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Hot-Crazy Matrix
/r/PussyPassDenied07/03/21 04:50 PM
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Cheaper to keep her.
/r/PussyPassDenied17/02/21 09:29 PM
2

I don’t know how you single people do it. I’d probably only have friends to hang out with and never seriously date anyone if I were single again.
/r/PussyPassDenied28/01/21 05:08 PM
3

They did you a favor. Could you imagine being with this person?
/r/PussyPassDenied28/01/21 03:39 PM
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Today, however, Judge Judy Sheindlin acts as an arbitrator. The cases she arbitrates are real cases from real courtrooms, but the plaintiffs and defendants in her cases have both agreed to a Binding Arbitration Agreement with Judge Judy instead of pursuing their cases in front of an active judge.
/r/PussyPassDenied13/01/21 07:08 AM
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Because they are fabulousssssssss!
/r/PussyPassDenied11/01/21 02:26 AM
1

He still hit it again. That was my point.
/r/PussyPassDenied08/01/21 02:01 AM
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[LeTourneau Intensifies]
/r/PussyPassDenied08/01/21 01:47 AM
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